The Reality Of What It Takes To Become A Better Man

The Reality Of What It Takes To Become A Better Man - Jimmy Rex

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Jimmy Rex is a men's work coach, author and a podcaster.
What does it mean to be a better man today? Is it driving a Bugatti? Praying to God? Making a lot of money? Building a family? Turning into a monk? The options are endless, so are there any underlying principles which can help guide your way?
Expect to learn what it means to be a healthy authentic man, the problems most men struggle with, how more men can learn to face their fears, what it means to be a warrior and give full devotion, the role of friendships in the modern world, why no one talks about love anymore and much more...
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00:00 Overcomplicating Masculinity
07:10 Feeling Safe as Men & Women
12:00 Most Common Struggles of Men
20:35 Is Shame Harmful?
25:07 Feeling Comfortable in Your Own Skin
35:08 Why So Many People Are Cynical
38:16 Biggest Lessons From Coaching
46:22 Balancing High Standards & Gratitude
58:39 The Role of Fear in a Man’s Life
1:04:38 How Important is Community?
1:08:15 How to Be More Decisive
1:19:50 The Decline of Alcohol Issues
1:27:14 Advice for Becoming More Present
1:31:38 The Stories You Tell Yourself
1:37:26 Having Devotion in Your Life
1:41:37 Where to Find Jimmy
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@ChrisWillx Ай бұрын

Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Overcomplicating Masculinity 07:10 Feeling Safe as Men & Women 12:00 Most Common Struggles of Men 20:35 Is Shame Harmful? 25:07 Feeling Comfortable in Your Own Skin 35:08 Why So Many People Are Cynical 38:16 Biggest Lessons From Coaching 46:22 Balancing High Standards & Gratitude 58:39 The Role of Fear in a Man’s Life 1:04:38 How Important is Community? 1:08:15 How to Be More Decisive 1:19:50 The Decline of Alcohol Issues 1:27:14 Advice for Becoming More Present 1:31:38 The Stories You Tell Yourself 1:37:26 Having Devotion in Your Life 1:41:37 Where to Find Jimmy

@scotchbarrel4429 Ай бұрын

Chris stop being woke 😂 its not twitter, its X. So its not tweets okay, its Xcrements 😂

@utkarshagrawal3630 Ай бұрын

Hi Chris I am a frequent listener of yours and I really appreciate the quality of content and information you are providing and best of luck for the 2.5M subs ASAP. I just wanted give out a personal request that as now you've more 700 videos its a little tough browse through the different types of content you have if possible can you create different playlists of podcasts of same genre, example-" business, workouts, relationships etc"it would be really helpful. All the best for future endeavours

@BorisBidjanSaberi11 Ай бұрын

Great idea man

@JoeNeutrino Ай бұрын

Yes please

@twonrichpo1126 Ай бұрын

Excellent idea!!

@dominicbadal5680 Ай бұрын

Ye this please, great idea

@MrBubbyG_Official Ай бұрын

Please. Pin this man

@jeroenvermeersch4875 Ай бұрын

"Even the abscence of things can still be them controlling you." OMG This one hit so hard.

@esper_lvl4900 Ай бұрын

Hi, Chris, I'm a random guy from Russia. I just wanted to thank you telling me in this video, how to evaluate difficult decisions and be more decisive in general. Just made a crucial decision about my career because of that. Keep crushing it! C:

@Therevolution7 Ай бұрын

Hows life in russia? I know nothing about it

@bulat3226 Ай бұрын

@@Therevolution7it's fine

@damianwiniarz9341 Ай бұрын

The entire country is controlled by Putin ✌️

@luckywyatt 29 күн бұрын

Really appreciated this episode! As a 41yr old recently divorced man from Utah (pulled the Mormon Church cart most my life+ I did a 2 year mission to Mexico) I really envisioned the “brag about yourself to a small trusted group and feel the self esteem boost ,,, part. It was good just to envision. This guy looks exactly like my ex bro in-law. Sad too much divorce. Too much guilt and shame weighing us decent guys down. Wish the church and ex wives would help us “get the lead out” vs set out to have us donn wearing sack cloth, destroyed enthusiasm & destitute. I’ve learned in studying psychology, spirituality, shedding the victimhood life to stand up for myself and my own life’s wellbeing.

@ellislewis899 28 күн бұрын

Keep your head up brother, a new door has opened

@greysongriffiths1439 Ай бұрын

I'm so down for bringing people on regardless of religion. As a member of the same faith, mist people don't realize how misunderstood and falsely stigmatized mormons are. Whenever I talk to people they are always shocked when I tell them my religious backround👊

@greatwhiteswag Ай бұрын

Every Mormon I can remember meeting has been rather kind and pleasant.

@02zekenn46 17 күн бұрын

Man i don't know who this guy is until i watch this, but what he says really inspire me.

@tomcoop9750 Ай бұрын

Great podcast! Respectfully, the speaker has a misunderstanding of Christianity. Christianity is about liberating people from shame through forgiveness. We are all imperfect and “broken”. When we can put aside our pride and acknowledge our faults, we can move on and grow.

@geoffstemen3652 Ай бұрын

His deconstruction of Mormonism has ironically, yet appropriately, led him closer to Christ.

@jonathanstensberg Ай бұрын

Basically every guru has the same shtick: religion tells you X, and that’s horrible, but what you really need is ABC…that religion also tells you. The problem was never the religion, which ever religion they’re talking about; the problem was always their own relationship with X.

@Jose-sl9cn Ай бұрын

Thank you, truly I needed to hear that.

@seansundita3605 Ай бұрын

Impressed by the pencil twirling

@fergiexaivier Ай бұрын

I started drinking neutonic and now I can twirl 3 at once - game changer.

@seankovarik4444 18 күн бұрын

Loving this self development kick Chris seems to be on atm. Ties in with where I’m at in my own life right now

@emmajagen6362 Ай бұрын

Love from Uganda.. Love the podcast and just love hearing Uganda being mentioned

@TylerBeachMedia 7 күн бұрын

What a performance and emission of compassion through articulation to successfully converse with a parrot that very quickly into our talk I’d come to realize, very much belongs “coaching” the Utahan divorcé and may not hold up in the court of high caliber conversations my reputation has been constructed upon. I shall bear the weight and maintain my commitment to providing value, despite my inherently unfortunate predicament in this fine recording.

@dimitris1451 Ай бұрын

The most helpful masculinity video i have seen my whole life !!!! Nice work!!!

@ggez5890 Ай бұрын

This dudes relationship with religion due to Mormonism really needs to be taken into consideration. Leave it to an American made brand of Christianity

@gsav1320 Ай бұрын

Ya Mormonism is horrible bro described what was GOOD about religion and then said that it wasn’t what religion is. Mormonism bastardizes Christianity. We are flawed and that IS okay. Idk what part of the Bible John smith was reading when bro said that isn’t the case

@Libertarian_Neighbor Ай бұрын

“Be afraid.” Be insecure.” “Why you’re not happy.” Chris, you’re getting views by playing into people’s insecurities. You’re making people think they have these problems even when they don’t. You’re literally hurting people by bombarding them with negative thoughts and statements (to get more views?). I liked your podcast. You have an incredible presence and many great guests. Now take a moment and think about what you’re trying to accomplish. You’d help a lot more people if you kept the video titles positive, even when you address insecurities and problems within the interview. I’m not afraid, but when I read, “Stop being afraid” it implies that I am. Same with the other thumbnails you’ve been posting. How about “Be Your Bravest Self” or “Conquer Any Obstacle?” You can help a lot more people by building them up rather than tearing them down for a few more clicks. Integrity…

@Being_Bohemian Ай бұрын

A brilliantly insightful comment, and you're highlighting a wider issue that is pervasive across social media. I'm in complete agreement; you can't inspire by using fear.

@Being_Bohemian Ай бұрын

What I should have added is that you can, however, sell through fear! And that's the conflict of interest Chris, and others who profit from producing online content, faces. There seems to be a point where integrity comes face to face with profit, and a fight ensues.

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

Ahh, tone policing...such a novelty.

@user-pz6hs6wi6f Ай бұрын

@@Being_Bohemian It is a fight that Chris sadly seems to have lost.

@adamvasilko1438 25 күн бұрын

Fantastic podcast, I was especially captured by how emotive and outwardly joyous Jimmy is when he talks.

@itako09able 27 күн бұрын

Hello Chris, I want to thank you for those interesting conversations that intelligently, while also in a positive manner try to make sense of this world and how to be a man in it (while also exploring other subjects). I hope you hear it enough that you're in many ways a benchmark of what healthy masculinity can look like and I'm proud to call you a person I learn from. Keep on the great work, it's much appreciated. PS. I appreciate you branding your tribe as "extremely intelligent, reasonable people", boosts ego easily.

@southwesttransport4753 Ай бұрын

This is crazy. The whole point of his dance lesson was don’t care about what other people think. Then, some of the Next statements out of his mouth are, I don’t want to spend any time with people who will judge me. I don’t want to have to exercise that aspect of masculinity. I just want people to accept me for who I am.

@bbb129 Ай бұрын

Yah and the list reading feeding ego was nonsense IMO

@TTFN55 Ай бұрын

Kinda made me proud of my manly man.

@nottomclancy2439 26 күн бұрын

@@bbb129 That was one part where I was like: "Yeah...that doesn't work." Maybe it does. I wouldn't know.

@bbb129 26 күн бұрын

@@nottomclancy2439 yeah everything has a good and bad to it, for me no thanks, for others it’s probably extremely useful. East to say this or that doesn’t work, different strokes.

@conscious_commando 19 күн бұрын

One of my favourite conversations so far. Great energy, great topics

@TriangleTheorypod 26 күн бұрын

Amazing episode, really refreshing to listen this.

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

Persistence through adversity is notable; reckless and indefatigable stupidity during mountaineering expeditions is not.

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

While I agree that mentorship can be powerful for generating life changes and perspective shifts, numerous factors are requisite of mentors by their mentees...competence, and humility are a solid start.

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

"Step #1: Take a moral stand...with 'just knowing/observing' and self-awareness." If we are speaking epistemologically, "intuition" is only part of what is necessary for developing morality grounded by integrity. The next drivel of speech is a handful of weak assertions based on simplistic observations and some "ought" claims about moral goods. How does one make moral judgments or issue ought/should statements with an incomplete moral framework based solely on intuition? How do we determine what is "good" or "bad"? And who gets to decide the categorical assignment of such moral outcomes?

@DjJabancho 22 күн бұрын

Amazing conversation that makes me go down on the introspection path. Thank you Chris for bringing in valuable guests.

@dimitrisarvanitogiannis1156 Ай бұрын

Jimmy mentions that people don't regret doing an action, when a few minutes before he told the story of a man regretting gaslighting his wife and leading her to abortion.

@CluelessEngineer Ай бұрын

Mmmm interesting

@MrBubbyG_Official Ай бұрын

Yeah, that is silly. People don't regret actions? What? So if I hit someone in a fit of rage, I would not regret it when I'm in the back of a police car? I have not listened to the episode yet, so we will see what I think after.

@sportsman192 Ай бұрын

To help clarify what he means: Whether you view mistakes or "bad decisions" or even immoral decisions as regrettable or transformative is a choice, your choice. He later caveats with, "unless you're a horrible person" meaning someone who never chose to learn from and transform into a better person going forward. People on their death bed will either choose to regret something they never could come to terms with, or choose to appreciate the life they have led through the transformative pain of facing their demons. He means in long term retrospect, not in immediate terms. You have to learn the lesson to let go of regret. But it is possible and unless you're going to live your entire life turning your head from the ugly truth and (like he points out later) point the finger at everyone but yourself (aka live life as a "horrible person"), you'll have to do something about it eventually. The entropy of life pushes you towards freeing yourself from regret.

@parkloqi Ай бұрын

He may have been speaking imprecisely on a study about late life regrets. It’s not that nobody ever regrets doing something, its just a surprising finding that not doing things is a much bigger category of regret. In a sense, abortion guy’s torment was less about regretting what he did than about not doing the work to set things right with himself and his woman for all those years.

@dimitrisarvanitogiannis1156 Ай бұрын

@@parkloqi Every action has a (counter) non-action. For example going out with friends means not spending time with family. Choosing to focus on career means not have enough time for other things. Choosing to work in an office means giving up your dream about becoming a musician etc. Approaching women and trying to get into a relationship means not leaving time and space to be alone and single. Almost every circumstance has an action and a non-action. So when you regret something usually you regret both sides; your actions and the non-actions.

@jayburris6252 Ай бұрын

I’m also former Mormon. This guys teaching needs to be taken with a grain of salt BECAUSE of his brokenness over his being raised a Mormon. I knew within a few minutes that he was talking about being Mormon. I think it severely impacts his relevance.

@T4ffynxnja Ай бұрын

Where can I learn about Mormonism. Ik it's bad, but just wanna learn HOW bad.

@bigz5262 Ай бұрын

How does being Mormon affect what he says about being strong? I just started listening so I’m curious

@SeanyeMidWest Ай бұрын

@@T4ffynxnja Hmm. I am interested to know how you KNOW it is bad. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Most of my drive to a better man comes from my desire to follow Christ. I believe He set the perfect example of what a man can be, and then everyday I try and wake up and do the best I can to follow HIs example. For me, most of the peace and joy I feel comes from my relationship with Christ and from my church community in which I am an active participant. It is work that makes me anxious and sometimes dread getting up. If weren't for my faith in Christ and the purpose my beliefs give me, I would be an absolute mess.

@T4ffynxnja Ай бұрын

@@SeanyeMidWest Nice, but "faith" in any religion is not a yardstick of if it's good or not. Truth is. And however oblivious you are to it, there are literal pagans, and cultists who can make similar claims to you - just to prove how none of the points posed really amount to anything. If I were to explain however, it's that why would anyone even decide to take Mormonism seriously when it's authenticity in general raises many eyebrows. As for it being "bad", this is from more of a policy standpoint. I judge good and bad from the Islamic perspective, as I'm Muslim. Which means my standardisation comes from the Qur'an and the teachings of the prophet. Whatsoever contradicts it by definition cannot be superior to God's word. It may have been disingenuous to label it as "bad" per-se, either way, this is even better. As a Mormon yourself - could you lend me some resources that you think would make me change my mind? I'd like to get the biased view seeing as my position in-and-of-itself is biased. Thanks.

@homesteadstateofmind Ай бұрын

Also exMo and could tell he was Mormon in the first 2 minutes lol Came to the comments to check for sure

@DreamConquerors84 12 күн бұрын

thank you for sharing :)

@jnb3451 Ай бұрын

He just explained how members of the Mormon church are supposed to think about God, always loving an encouraging us to become better. Sad he chose to leave but im sure he 'll figure things out, with his desire to find truth

@abdulazizalmaneea177 8 күн бұрын

Chris is a great conversationalist! 👏🏼

@zack---black 18 күн бұрын

This was really good.

@salmotones Ай бұрын

All in on this. I dig your podcast Chris.

@javiertorres9114 Ай бұрын

Amen

@Anonymous.User.0419 Ай бұрын

42:00 There are many stories that worked the other way around at Mt. Everest (and other high peak) climbs.

@kochkathryn88 Ай бұрын

This episode is amazing. Definitely not just for men, as a woman I'm learning a lot. So much resonates with me. I can always count on @Chris for the most interesting, thoughtful conversations ❤

@PlvntBasedLinda Ай бұрын

Thank you Chris

@JozefAdamek Ай бұрын

I realized that doing what i like is for me most important thing and it helped me a lot. I really love to spread the word about nature and awareness how important it is, that really brings joy to my life. And also taking care and raising my moths is what gets me going in life. I hope everybody finds their purpose in life and put maximum effort to it. I wish u all great day.🦋🦋🦋

@jonathanloiselle2274 Ай бұрын

I hope one day watching/listening a conversation between Chris and Brene Brown about shane and vulnerability

@RangerSkip Ай бұрын

Awesome episode. I got a lot of value, new ideas especially about creating a safe space, everyone deserves to feel unconditional love, I could go on, I definitely will add this to my workflow. Thank you both.

@southwesttransport4753 Ай бұрын

Get a dog.

@stevecooper7883 Ай бұрын

Ah the exmormon social climber. Lovely.

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

Like so many other "life coaches"...or a male hybrid of Julie Hanks' psychological understanding and what John Dehlin could be with moderate testosterone replacement therapy. Maybe, he can get an interview with the Mormon Stories podcast next.

@marks7321 Ай бұрын

I have a couple guesses, but I’m dying to know at what point Chris realized it was a mistake to bring this guy on. Such a strong start, too. Shame.

@Julo6679 Ай бұрын

I was getting ready to comment the same. Looking at the video, I think it was right after the first question.

@neelabhchoudhary2063 Ай бұрын

What’s wrong with him

@fusella Ай бұрын

Same here. What’s wrong with him? I also have a weird feeling about the guest but I can’t quite put it into words.

@AbdullahSediqi23 20 күн бұрын

I agree I wish I knew this would be poor quality to avoid clicking on it giving this one a dislike

@-Scorched-Earth- 28 күн бұрын

Guys, are morales and ethics just complex feelings?

@astreakaito5625 Ай бұрын

The world is going mad and is slowly burning itself, so that's going to be rather difficult.

@lisav6583 Ай бұрын

Constantly adding value. Thank you ❤️

@geoffstemen3652 Ай бұрын

I wonder if he’s conscious of the way he has repurposed religious tools under a secular brand. I celebrate his quest to bring comedy to the tragedies of modern men. I celebrate too his departure from Mormonism, though his pendulum swing into the cesspit of extramarital sex is really unfortunate. All the truths he has discovered are found in Christ. Peace Chris

@polynikes2000 Ай бұрын

While ironically demonizing the religious upbringing that allowed or provided for the necessary conditions to create his present level of affluence?

@geoffstemen3652 Ай бұрын

@@polynikes2000 That’s the American Dream

@jonathanstensberg Ай бұрын

Literally all of these gurus say. “Religion tells you XYZ and it’s horrible. What you really need is…” and it’s just ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVW that religion also tells you. Like bro, maybe you were the one who had a problem integrating XYZ, not the religion.

@arkiki2717 Ай бұрын

Thanks Chris. FYI you just got quoted in the FT by Janan Ganesh! Might be worth inviting him...

@kaleb4256 21 күн бұрын

Dang, wish I had friends

@xc3ptiona1 Ай бұрын

@1:02:30 I love a good yarn, but you go on so many tangents, it is hard to remember the yarn you were trying to say at the beginning. It is ok to leave room for error so that you can later clarify, but don't bury your point by stacking layers of tangents.

@sindreandersen9114 Ай бұрын

41:08 no pressure.

@JulieSwenson_MortgageBroker Ай бұрын

This is not just for men…I highly enjoyed this. At 53 I can say absofreakinglutely to women in their masculine because of an event(s) in the past. I have a very difficult time being in my feminine. Men fall for the independent early and then want you to suddenly change. It’s a very difficult process and one that needs communication, safety, and time. I also appreciated the steps. I have done a lot of work on me these past years…it all starts with the story I tell myself and then questioning is this the truth? That is a process too but it’s so worth it!

@bbb129 Ай бұрын

That list sounds silly Billy

@CalinAlexander Ай бұрын

Definitely feel like Jimmy is disconnected from the reality of most people. Great ideas wrong footing.

@AJ-ne4te Ай бұрын

yeh you just kinda know man...and this guy is a life coach? people pay for this? are you serious? wow!

@mikemo4252 Ай бұрын

The point is that "distinguishing right from wrong" isn't really the problem- even if it's the first question we ask ...and it is a good framing question- but we already know the answer. That's not the part of the process actually holding us up/back....right/wrong is an intuitive, subconscious mechanism of our conscience (inner voice? Instinct? Gut-check?)....value hierarchies of western civilization have a mostly consistent foundation, and that's what we're talking about. Recognizing those foundations may be tricky for some, but asking the question prompts then answer.... this guy isn't needed to tell us or anyone else....what to DO with those answers is where his guidance seems to come into play.

@zensvlognotapro Ай бұрын

When a man is vulnerable to me I feel I'm trustworthy.😊 More of this type of conversation/discussion/ mental sharings . Good 👍 Just wanna add a better man has a reverence to Our Supremely Being ( God).

@User-hq6rr Ай бұрын

1:09:10 I regret many of my decisions, and ironically, many of them was things that I initially considered to be good for me. For instance, I regret working in high school, cause this work was a career dead end, took time and energy I could spend to actually improve skills I apply in my current job, which also gives my much more money. So even I was really glad to have that job initially, now I realise it harmed me in the long run. Life is weird.

@TheLysander1991 Ай бұрын

I wanna see Asmongold in this podcast, that would be huge.

@zacharyconner9319 28 күн бұрын

Dude YES

@sarahahmad9891 Ай бұрын

Beautiful 💙

@JEEDUHCHRI Ай бұрын

There’s a great video essay on YT called something along the lines of “What it means to be a man”. It’s an analysis of the Big Lebowski. Great insights.

@Straightarrow7777 Ай бұрын

Lets go🎉

@ogslick299 14 күн бұрын

I LIKE THIS

@andrewdejuan4914 3 күн бұрын

So close yet so far 😢

@ducalux 28 күн бұрын

I would say it is feminine to think it is not okay to dance if you are a man

@bradrtorgersen_videos Ай бұрын

This black-walled "pod" is a no-go in my opinion. Doubtless it's portable and economic, but it's jarring and "hard." Whereas some of your other sets are softer and warmer. Listeners, obviously, won't care. But from a visual standpoint, the black-walled "pod" is the set I hope gradually goes away. Otherwise, your interviews and content continue to be regular weekly viewing/listening. Very good guests. Very good conversations.

@bretthorrocks9290 Ай бұрын

Jimmy is as legit as they come. Very grateful for this man.

@Steezyfella Ай бұрын

This is an incredible podcast. This guest has not added value.

@Dbly915 Ай бұрын

Jordan Peterson really did make crying a very popular and trendy thing to do...

@arnulforelampagos1669 Ай бұрын

Yo here at 4 views!

@Thaulopi Ай бұрын

He is killing it, He is killing life..but he is sad---> this podcast

@MrBubbyG_Official Ай бұрын

Good to know. I may sit it out now lol. Anything of value in there?

@MagicMooMoo274 Ай бұрын

One of your best podcasts so far with one of your most exceptional guests. Well done

@user-tm1ec2on6w Ай бұрын

Are those real lightsabers in the background?

@Stratton218 16 күн бұрын

annotations

@Stratton218 16 күн бұрын