The Red Flags You Keep Ignoring! (Don’t Let Men Treat You Like This!!) - Sadia Khan & Matthew Hussey

[@lewishowes]

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[@ranahna3096]

Wwwww what an introduction, excited to watch the full episode . 🙏🙏🙏

[@SpringA-g8k]

YES

[@shraddhamishra9058]

Part 2 of this ❤

[@ModernDalai]

Both great people ! Great to have them over - respect ❤

[@elsyjoachin1569]

Yes!! Great talk 👏🏽

[@thematthewhussey]

Thanks for having me on as always brother! ❤

[@meenurajput3077]

Matthew, you're amazing and your insights to unravel the meaning behind actions and thought process is so helpful.

[@lewishowes]

Powerful conversation!

[@lee_annhammant]

Thank you, Matthew, for being honest and your authentic self. You shone the brightest in this interview with nothing to prove by only being you. Thank you again 🙏💞

[@monasalama479]

❤️❤️

[@waterbearmedicine]

Really great take aways from this, safety in relationships is really important and so is authenticity being yourself helps people accept who you really are, can't think of better advice. Thanks Matthew great interview 👍

[@selma6746]

“What misses you was never for you, and what is for you will never miss you.”

[@Love2Love927]

😍😍😍

[@LisaRios-nc4id]

Bob Marley 👍🏼

[@angelsandintuition]

Love this!

[@mikea.4477]

Absolute bull! 💩😂 Everything that sounds catchy is not always true lol

[@angelalalhmangaihsangi7821]

Absolutely right

[@monasalama479]

What I love about listening to Matthew is that every time I listen thinking that I am gonna get a relationship advice but I end up learning more about myself and life ! So it’s much more !

[@lewishowes]

Glad you loved it! Thanks for watching!

[@monasalama479]

@@lewishowes ❤️❤️🙏

[@xxyy1318]

​@@lewishowesHEY CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! YAYYY!

[@therealjag]

The more you learn about yourself the more you learn about other ppl too and actually helps you to connect with ppl 💯

[@thefoundersjourneypodcast9017]

Playing games to protect your ego only leads to self-destruction. Real value lies in true connection and emotional availability

[@veganaise2383]

And vulnerability

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

And the 'players' will say "I'm looking for an emotional connection". They literally tell us what we want to hear and we will assume this time they are genuine but they also have this sparkling charm...

[@celceleste6756]

I love the openness, calmness and knowledge Matthew brings to this conversation.. There is compassion in his energy that is so relatable which makes you trust his words.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

[@obiblooze5902]

totally agree 🙂

[@Ematuresco]

@@lewishowes Suggestion get Esther Perel with Sadia/Mat together :) Tripplets

[@Inventiff]

I agree with you, it makes his words feel more valuable due to how he addresses it in his calm tone

[@iccotom]

I agree. he looks very committed to the subject , he isn't in it for his own ego. bless the guy

[@sadiapsychology]

Super honored to be part of this ! Thank you Lewis ❤

[@serenaroseauthentics1391]

Thank you so much for sharing your valuable wisdom and knowledge, Sadia.

[@anahi-fireoftheforest]

I haven't seen the episode yet but I already know this episode is going to be great! ❤

[@Mariedumont]

You rock it as always!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you! Let me know your thoughts once you do.

[@boutiquelove5391]

Love you Sadia! You are exceptionally smart and stunning! Every point is insightful and you hit the mark. You are even smarter and you can tell you hold back as some ideas maybe too much for the average joe! You are helping million and educating those that are drowning in the modern godless world!

[@lb1798]

Matthew Hussey is one of the few people that truly make sense to me. In a world where narcissism is " the health crisis of our time per Dr. RAMINI", he just makes the most sense to me.

[@saga2828]

Can you explain?

[@prathyusha5393]

Absolutely the 2 people I follow to keep myself knowledgeable, develop a well-rounded perspective.. and survive and dodge bullets!

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yes. I really believe dating apps are loaded with full narcissists ( I know we all have some narcissistic tendencies to survive but these are the ones with calculating, bad intentions) or even psychopaths. Not even all physically dangerous but emotional abusers for sure.

[@LetSTalkAboutIT_WithMe]

THIS EPISODE WAS SOOOOOOO GOOOOOOD. The part I loved the most was when Sadia was asked why do people self sabotage when there are green flags. She said " Their barrier to intimacy has become their self esteem based on a core belief they have believed that love should be difficult and a struggle and not smooth. And because they don't have love and compassion for themselves, they start to question and think their is something wrong with the other person. Instead of realizing the love is infused with peace, which they just aren't use to. Hearing this truly healed apart of my heart that has been broken for a few years because I was in a relationship with a guy like this and couldn't understand why he just wouldn't accept my love and why he kept questioning everything, So THANK YOU! writing with tears in my eyes :)

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@frankG335]

This is a huge problem- traumatized men who can't even accept a genuine woman who has love for them and give kindness and support to them.

[@soichirohonda267]

​@@frankG335Also for women...

[@alluress2020]

Yes this!! I have often thought this is the real reason why some men don't appreciate women who don't play hard to get or are 'easy' as they put it or why men seem to be more toxic towards women who actually love them & better partners to toxic women, it's not because they are hunters & love the chase, it's because they don't think they are worthy of love unless they suffer for it, such a sad way to exist.

[@Haris-h9n]

You are such a sweet soul..I am wishing you the best!!

[@andreacovarrubias8871]

Thank you Matthew for advocating for women’s true life experiences and for being so genuine ❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

[@yafah.988]

Sadia sounds bias against women! No wonder, women do not work with her.

[@savanniek]

I dated a short guy once. I am 5’3” and he was 5’4”… he ended up being super manipulative due to compensating for his shortness. He had to be the loudest in the room and needed the attention to the point of peacocking through his life instead of being authentic

[@lucymartinez3246]

I can relate.

[@dontcaretochooseone]

Its really tough for short men. They need more therapy than the rest of us

[@AgisVision]

Same

[@polokoolaotse7671]

I've had the same experience and you're spot on about that

[@ytzpro]

I was on a date w a short king 5'6 and he always wanted validation. Similar to my 6'4 ex. Insecurities are in every size and shape.

[@tnyqueen]

I wish high schools could have mandatory classes with Sadia & Matthew. There would be so many more healthy relationships out there. Love this interview!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for tuning in! :)

[@coachnursececille]

Totally agree with you

[@yaa251]

shows you that the system isnt designed to help anyone.

[@hippyamigo3]

They only talk about sex education in high school and not how people should treat each other in relationships. Things have to change in the school system to show what healthy relationships are about not only about protected sex but how people should treat one another in relationships.

[@NhuNguyen-m1s]

That’s a great idea

[@LB22448]

I like the fact Lewis did this interview with 2 people and he is so well prepared, loved this interview!

[@lewishowes]

Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

[@lylyanazarela4807]

Finally Sadia and Mathew Hussey in the same room ❤️❤️

[@parveendosanjh7195]

IN IT JUST BABS

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

I think women and men like personality more then looks at the end of the day. The whole best friend thing makes a big difference

[@SydneyBristow0788]

Both are important. You need to have attraction to their looks and personality, but ultimately without similar values and goals - the relationship will fall apart.

[@frankG335]

Makes a difference how?

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

@@frankG335 it helps with these toxic people and gender roles. I don’t know what some of these people are trying to do out here

[@daleshirley1533]

That is a nice sentiment and would be a great aspiration. Unfortunately if you look at dating app data, women swipe left on men the most and only after a few seconds spent on the profile so looks are very important to them. Men swipe right the most so they seem to be more tolerant of looks or appearance. It's fascinating to look at. I think both genders want someone attractive but there are definitely differing degrees of what constitutes "attractive" between men and women. I agree with your intent, looks only take you so far.

[@Sadiyeah]

Mathew comes from a place of deep and mature empath and resolving and giving a true view from all angles!!! Love that!😊

[@ceciliabosire]

Amazing episode. Matthew’s videos were my go to whilst I was dating. Helped me a lot. I took this statement from him ‘Be ruthless but also full of love”

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@gabrielalomelicasanova6595]

Great episode! I love Sadia’s honesty and vulnerability. I really don’t get all the criticism towards her. You don’t have to agree with her (or anyone for that matter) but she is still wonderful and insightful. Both of them are really helpful… and that’s the whole point… it’s not a competition or a judging contest.

[@MamoJoydevine]

💯

[@lewishowes]

Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

[@SaulEmersonAuthor]

I think a lot of people are prejudiced by her looks. You can't look like that _and_ still be wise & authentic.

[@leannelollypop1869]

I agree. She gets a lot of criticism when she is genuinely trying to ask questions to understand that individual’s perspective. I would have thought Matthew is capable of choosing different words for “the vast majority/minority aren’t like that”. He basically said Sadia was wrong. That is Sadias experience based upon the people she works with. Both can be right. He put his experience superior to hers. He could have said “in the demographic that I mostly interact with, it has been a different story”.

[@jeanpaulnkurunziza3287]

True

[@kedakai]

Matthew seems to have a deeper insight on human relational behaviour. He takes into account real world situations. Sadia seems to stay on the surface. She identifies some behaviours but attributes negative or/and superficial intentions and believes it's a majority when it's not.

[@ceciliapineda5333]

It seems very clear that her client base are primarily highly successful men, looking for a specific type. Vs Matthew seems to know more of the common people in the US and Europe.

[@marthacvd]

She's an actual medical doc so that's pretty clinical assessment. He's more counselor like. Encouraging mentor like. I ❤ them both.

[@kedakai]

@@marthacvd She is an example of how a academic knowledge can mean very little when it's not applied properly. Her analyses just don't seem to apply to the real world. She is using a very narrow sample of a particular group to apply her theories to everyone. As Matthew accurately pointed out that just isn't the case for most people.

[@ordinaryvalley]

@@marthacvdactually modern medical doctors are trained to recognize illness and their symptoms not health and prosperity. so yeah they complete each others perspectives well

[@sheercold26]

​@@kedakaiyou have no idea what you are talking about

[@mariahhelm5488]

As a woman who's been single for 8 years and who's been through a lot and worked on my growth and healing through years of therapy, I would highly disagree with the "98%" of men are emotionally available. Out of all the men I've dated in the last 8 years the majority are very emotionally UNavailable. And I think alot of things are to blame, starting with being integrated in a culture of toxic masculinity, childhood trauma and being jaded after getting hurt and not having the tools to process and regulate their own heartbreak. I've maybe dated a very, very small handful of emotionally available men. Unfortunately, we were incompatible. It's rough out here.

[@Kyra-qn3nh]

Hardcore agree. Only one of the men I've dated was emotionally available. In 8 years of dating on and off, ONE.

[@Clara-mq8sv]

Agree too. Lots of emotionally unavailable men out there 😞

[@ShyMplsMale]

It wasn't incompatibility, women are just subconsciously turned off by emotionally available men because it's feminine energy and women crave masculinity which is indifference and not caring. It takes a healthy balance of both to get to a woman's heart but most men are usually on one side of the spectrum or the other.

[@Burrburrcloud]

​@@notlengthy Take it from women...most men are not emotionally available.

[@keh-dalia809]

BIG FACTS!

[@shiishiro9574]

💯Agree with Mathew.Majority of men are playing games,hence the majority of women are are opting to be single and loving themselves other than being out there playing games.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@wasimakaderi6838]

Yes that’s been my experience with not just myself but everyone of my girlfriends who are dating.

[@frankG335]

Yes.

[@jerrytshipamba1762]

No the problem is 15% of the men are good-looking and they usually get 80% of the women and as a result they cannot all settle with the 80% you can only choose a certain person to settle with and that leaves a lot of women that are heartbroken and because their heartbroken they think that the remaining 85% of guys are players but 85% of guys don't even get a chance to be a player they wish a woman can throw themselves at their lap. It's sad to say but when I was in college only a certain amount of guys used to sleep with most of the girls on campus. That was the athletes that were popular and the attractive guys that were in fraternities.

[@drsamsmusicchannel]

nope, the majority of both sexes are playing games....that was the point.

[@primajope]

"Matthew and Sadia nailed it! Recognizing and acting on red flags save un called for heartaches. Understanding our worth and avoiding toxic patterns are under rated for sure. key to healthier relationships.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for tuning in! :)

[@Dixie8642]

Thank goodness Matthew is speaking reality into the misguided assumptions voiced here.

[@darcellcrockett4541]

Exactly how I felt! So thankful he was there to shut a lot of those harmful and incorrect assumptions down.

[@tiktokfamous3446]

What misguided assumptions

[@Rose.szch88]

What are you on about ? Sadia is on point with everything shes so graceful and beautiful with her delivery . I guess only the insecure can see what ur seeing .

[@nadiahossain3651]

Interested to know what you think is misguided on Sadia’s points? I thought she was spot on.

[@TR-ii3xu]

Your name implies that you are a woman. In which case, I understand your point of view especially as a woman myself. On the other hand, Sadie mostly works with extremely high income men with different issues. Both matter.

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

Hey, it sounds like you're looking for some signs! If someone loves you, they might show it by being there for you, listening, and supporting you through good times and bad. Remember, actions often speak louder than words!

[@joannapinkiewicz6756]

Lovely how Sadia was open about her own experiences and patterns.

[@melitesla8656]

I love how matthew always points out that we shouldnt generealize some experiences or statements on a certain sex/gender. Sadia seems to push women down a little whereas matthew offers a more fair view on both genders

[@davkaaltan]

Certainly we can see from their perspectives that Matthew deals with general public who are not just clear about their relationships whereas Sadia speaks from the perspective of minority mostly patients who are deeply wounded and need professional help, which doesn’t relate to most of us! Therefore, she shouldn’t generalise and should provide clear disclaimer on her words/videos!

[@1121lcruz]

Sadia’s perspective comes from rich men working on themselves individually towards a relationship. Mathew’s perspective comes from serving general women towards better dating, most in previous abusive or narcissistic relationships. Only one person here works up close and has studied the human psyche.

[@tetedur377]

"Women understand other women, and they can't stand one another."

[@sarabrenton6364]

​@@tetedur377 sounds like a pickme

[@karamlevi]

No definitions to any words would truly please you

[@julietshelley]

Very, very insightful. I cried when Lewis spoke about sharing who he was in truth when he first met Martha. And when Matthew said ‘I’m ok’. I have my faults and my virtues and I’m ok’.

[@korneliachmielewska1394]

I really like Sadia and tried listening to Matthew in the past but I feel he talks so much I loose the point and also talkes about the problem but there's no solution at the end. Sadia for me hits the nail on the head each time. I'm 'old school' maybe that's why. She's faster at noticing the actual problem, at least for me I get her point, and it feels more relatable to how I feel the dating is at the moment. I feel she's trying to help us girls and make us not feel guilty for once. ❤

[@SaulEmersonAuthor]

Absolutely! You've conveyed this brilliantly. Most on here seem to be enamoured with the chap - but two minutes into not-answering a question, he's talking about pizza! Sadia is super-incisive - like the Jordan Peterson of this arena - & people assume it's 'cookie-cutter' because she's so quick off the mark - & precise!

[@kellyallen2040]

Couldn't disagree more! Matthew is far more in tune with both sexes behaviours he makes total sense and realises everyone is different Sadia paints everyone the same and I'm very shocked tbh that she is seen as a "professional"

[@myriamhernandez8015]

I 100% agree with you​@@kellyallen2040

[@zinedinezidane4771]

I'm shocked that we have to tear one down over the other rather than our down our biases and listen to both with an open mind and heart.

[@karuzelastudio7858]

​@@zinedinezidane4771 Sadia presents such a toxic version of reality, it's understandable how normal people are put off by that

[@Marrry994]

Matthew understands the issues so deeply and goes straight to the roots of it, I really appreciate it. Thank you.

[@elenalouis311]

I love that we get to hear from both Matthew and Sadia, a man and a woman, sharing their experiences on both men and women. It is not a competition between the sexes. Over the years, I have learned to extend my compassion to men the same way I do for my girls. And eventhough men are harder to understand for me, because I am not one, I try to see them as human first, that usually helps.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

[@hadiashah8467]

Matthew Hussey is so incredible with the way he sees things with so much compassion especially when it comes to women, he really understands where we are coming from without giving any advice that would lead to toxic behaviour from men or women. Sorry Sadia and Lewis but Matthew has absolutely won this conversion

[@frankG335]

It's not a contest.

[@karinodendaal5277]

Gosh this is so unnecessarily painful. Never allow a person to steal your joy, your peace. If they play hard to get for whatever reason true or not, don't pay this person any attention.

[@PinPinKula]

Lol.. thats every bar conversation ever.. most weman act like you have to earn their attention.

[@vaneshreelucas4642]

She is 100% on point. We have our guards up even before we get in because we know about the likes on social media and dating platforms and and and...

[@yuzhouweekfun]

Sadia really explains ideas so clearly and the depth of her analysis and logic is impressive. I almost have to always keep skipping forward to her parts only..

[@karamlevi]

Yes. She’s interested in helping, not dumping cliche after modern cliche.

[@shannaball]

Sadia makes an amazing, spot-on point here in the last minute about how someone defaults to their vices when they’re not being their true self to the ppl around them!! Thank you to both of these relationship coaches and Lewis for putting this discussion group together!! ✨💗🙏

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@NothingButAComment]

I’ve watched matthew for years and love how over the years, he has become so much more grounded and wise.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@karamlevi]

His can’t argue with open ended cliches are working on you 🤓

[@Inventiff]

I had dated someone who was emotionally unavailable, to no fault of his own due to his upbringing. As a child he had to grow up fast, taking care of both his chronically ill parents therefore he didn’t get his needs met as a child. Although he grew up to be a sweet individual, it’s a classic case of someone only meets you as deep as they’ve met themselves.

[@zinedinezidane4771]

Love this. They can only meet you as deep as they have met themselves. Although if I may add. I do think if you are deeper more emotional one and they are open and capable you can teach them to go deeper.

[@user-mana2]

I love how Matthew is so real ❤ and authentic , every one can act shallow and shows they’re perfect, it needs courage to be real and honest

[@wendydelucca6918]

It was too short, need more of their expert wisdom, thank you Lewis, as always!! Great content.

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

[@nryanhollister8758]

I don’t have interest in men who are shorter because of the way it makes ME feel. There isn’t anything wrong with him, but if I tower over or look down it makes me feel big and dominant. I’m 5’8” and I want to be smaller that’s all there is to it. Basically it makes me feel less attractive to be taller. Just a feeling.

[@nyuuuchan]

hey there - I'm a 5'11 woman and honestly it attracts the right height men, because shorties are scared off. Tall is beautiful, and you get the best view at concerts, plus clothes look better on us! We don't need to be loud and obnoxious to be noticed. Hope you get to a point where you enjoy and embrace what the Universe gave you)

[@alexr6114]

I am six feet two inches tall and my height generally intimidates men. However I worked with a fellow geologist who was only a little over five feet tall and he was not the least bit intimidated. He and another colleague, who was female and only four feet 10 inches tall, were some of the most secure and centered individuals that I have ever met. Oddly enough, I found that I did not like dating men that were a lot taller than I was. I prefer a man who is roughly the same height or as close to the same as we can make it with one of us wearing slightly higher heels than the other. There is something very comfortable about being able to just look eye-to-eye with a significant other.

[@karamlevi]

Naw you’re just insecure, time to man up lady (I’m joking).

[@alexr6114]

@@karamlevi Yes, and the reality is if someone is really compatible with a member of the opposite sex, any difference in height is likely to become far less important. It is much harder to find someone who shares the same values and who is psychologically compatible and who shares the same interests than it is to find someone who is the right height, even if you are very tall or very short.

[@lisalynch229]

Nah, nothing’s wrong with you. It’s just ALL men should be at “least” 6’1 . Just kidding, but wouldn’t it be nice?! Btw, I’m also 5’8 I miss wearing hi-heels. I don’t wear them Bc I don’t want to tower over most men of average height. It just makes “me” feel strange

[@taniagil3122]

This was a greater podcast, Was confused in the middle with the different energy. But all parties to this talk spoke so from the heart. Found it helpful. Thank you!

[@iliapanev1687]

I listen to both of them and I think they're truly experts in that field. Also having two experts exchange ideas and expertise is super valuable. One note: Matthew seems to have a broader view of the topic and takes into account variables.

[@dianaraducu9142]

What an amazing combo! I loved this conversation! Very insightful. The last part, especially, was mind blowing for me. Not being vulnerable leads you to living a double life and neither side of it feels aligned to who you really are. That feels exhausting and extremely damaging. It gave me a boost to be more comfortable to opening up and being vulnerable. Thank you, Sadia, Matthew and Lewis, for making this happen. We need a second episode with you three :)

[@lewishowes]

Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

[@jesscox1775]

Ive followed Matthew Hussey on and off for around 10 years since his 'Get the Guy' days. Listening to him now it feels as though hes really grown in himself . Hes so considered in his responses and you can feel the wisdom of his experience.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@soapyfankatie]

Love the 2 for 1! I do relate to what Sadia is saying about sabotaging Green Flags. Unfortunately, this is relatable to how I've behaved and actively working on improving this

[@LauraMonk9]

What I feel they are both missing is that we don’t fall for people (or choose people) consciously. We fall for them and choose them subconsciously.

[@corinna1674]

This is so true. When you find a person, that is nice and available, it doesn't mean you can be with them just because of these factors. Chemistry is important as well.

[@kellysegerson1915]

Maybe without healing, yes.

[@zinedinezidane4771]

Yes partly true. But if you have been working on yourself you find that you begin consciously choosing and not leaving it up to your subconscious

[@nikolavojnovic6552]

That's a trick - don't go for people you fall for.

[@imdee9024]

LOVE Howie's vulnerable but HONEST response at 7:55 - not afraid to just answer truthfully

[@a.masroor]

I was here because of Matthew Hussey. However, mad respect for both of you. Thank you so much for bringing them together @lewis

[@lewishowes]

Our pleasure!

[@jelenavinca4111]

​@@lewishowesYes, they both are great. And your obvious preference is disrespectful. At least like her thank you comment.

[@lisalambert81865]

I’ve been told recently that once you been doing your healing, now you need to heal in a relationship. Like a test run. So if your up front men will take advantage of it or they don’t want to take the chance.

[@jesswatt5824]

I definitely believe you can do all sorts of healing but don't know how far you've gotten until you stress test it in a relationship. Then you get to reinforce and fine tune the work you did, looking at it from a new angle. It's like book learning vs. field experience lol

[@MindfulSimpleSolutions]

I can listen to the three of you together for hours!!! Absolutely love to hear both perspectives and wisdom and Luis with his wise questions and input!

[@bozku8815]

Danke!

[@NaynaHall]

I love how open this conversation was. The three of them are speaking a similar language in a different level, making this video accesible to understand for a wide range of people

[@anointedoneac8748]

Elevated conversation! What registered the most is "full self-acceptance" with embodying that you're actions and energy will speak for you ❤💫

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@22Amazonas]

I think Sadia only talks about 1% of women. I love how Matthew speaks for the rest. Thank you Matthew you are the best 🙏❤️

[@feather243]

Saadis is teaching the 98% who are either single or in unhappy relationships, how to do what the 1% do. Mathew is validating and empathizing with the 98%, but is that really helping them or making their life better?

[@miathompson2305]

As lovely and as intelligent as Sadia is, it takes true understanding of different perspectives to know that there’s many ways to come at this. For example, for the average Joe she is right, taking responsibility for your choices leads to a better life. For those that are on such a low vibration, really struggling in life, vulnerable and confused.. making healthy choices is so much harder. It takes compassion from others and for yourself to get to that place first. 🫶🏻💜

[@emmaboyett8667]

What she speaks about is missing the context of human experience for me. I dont relate to what shes saying, so it feels robotic in a way.

[@kkkkk47]

it is because she is talking about her experience with men and women and she has access to the 1% of the lot that do things wrong

[@mtngirl6308]

Loved Matthew’s explanation of Emotionally unavailability. So many people are there because of the dating culture today. So many people are jumping in and out of bed with each other, jumping from one person to the next and it takes a toll on their emotional well being. So much so, that they close off and become callous to connection. THAT is what people need to do before having sex is allowing time to see if there is even a true connection outside of sex.

[@augustasimone9323]

I wish these experts would address the subjest of " Compatibility". From all the research the couples that have success and longeivity also have much in common: Common values and common goals.

[@dear.aprisa]

MH posted exactly a video on this yesterday

[@Hrt3333]

Who is MH?

[@KrystaUndertaker]

​@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey

[@LouRegina]

​@@Hrt3333Matthew Hussey?

[@pegbuckner5074]

Matthew Hussey just posted one yesterday!

[@alaaaboud5445]

It feels like Sadia explains the theoretical side of these situations, Mathew brings a practical perspective-I’ve watched all his dating advice videos, and they still come to mind whenever I’m about to stumble-and Lewis adds a layer of honesty and transparency that ties it all together. Is there part 2 ?

[@noirettebeauty]

I LOVE this!! Men coach vs women coach side-by-side

[@nafhar]

Wow three brilliant minds in the same room… super excited to watch this one

[@BasiaS-cr5oj]

Sadia attract different people from different background. She is really good for some people. I love your nice, kind and loving voice. You have alot of good qualities. ♥️

[@joydavis1670]

Matthew, thank you for pointing out at the end that you're circle has actually opened rather than decreased when working on yourself and being more authentic. I've never been able to put it into words, but I appreciate that you have brought it to the surface. I totally agree. Thank you for sharing.

[@HaumeaBlue]

Loved so much the grounded posture of Matthew 🙏 and the wisdom he shared from a place of Compassion. He gives me the feeling of seeing us/the world with a clear vision 💎 Thank you soul much 🙏 it feels good to receive it and to witness his evolution through the years ✨️🙏✨️

[@Sunshine78200]

This was a great discussion. Lewis did a fantastic job. I think Matthew was just brilliant in his responses, well spoken and explained it beautifully. He isn’t only one sided. He hits the nail on the head every single time and speaks so much truth when it comes to woman and men in dating. So insightful. I love his work. He is so relatable. Saadia also made some really great honest points as well and I found it interesting that her perspective was predominantly from men as her clientele is mostly male. I find when Matthew speaks he does it in a way that you are listening so intently. I have never listened to him without walking way feeling blown away and so grateful for his advice and deep understanding and knowledge of love and life! Matthew Thank you so much for all of the work you do. You help people more than you know. Great job! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@jadedowdy91]

Sadia is absolutely breathtaking. Beautiful on the inside and the outside I absolutely love her.

[@boutiquelove5391]

Love Sadia- exceptional beauty and exceptional brains and quick to the diagnosis

[@frankG335]

That may not make her a coach who really understands most women.

[@kateouyang6195]

@@frankG335she understands me 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@karuzelastudio7858]

​@@kateouyang6195 judging by her opinions on women, that's not something to be pleased with

[@VanessaRaphael]

She is on here to get validation for her looks. Very shallow and superficial

[@Goodhabits000]

i was literally wiating for MY two favorite people to show up together !!!! OMGG I am so excited !!!!

[@lewishowes]

Big thanks for watching! I appreciate your support! 💯🙏🙌

[@amber4027]

I appreciate Matthew so much, he does his research and is well informed and insightful. He is one of my favourite public figures bc I feel like he is actually trying to build people up and support their individual growth. Thank you for this Matthew.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@alaaaboud5445]

Such a successful and engaging interview! Absolutely loved how interactive it was, with all my favorite people in one room.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. Stay tuned for more content like this!

[@daliafarsi75]

Sadia describes the modern day dating culture so accurately 💯

[@happilydivorced3235]

From the red pill perspective.

[@alphaprimer]

@@happilydivorced3235 From a realistic perspective, not sugar coated to sound fluffy and idealistic. Alot of people like to be spoonfed sugar tho.

[@Overworked_Millennial]

I absolutely love how Matthew’s compassionate self comes through in all his interventions. Maybe it’s because I follow his content, but I feel that it invites for self reflection and owning what can I do different to be happy and eventually find a partner; and my first impression of Sadia’s interventions is that she’s been speaking more to “what are all the other people doing wrong and how they are not ready for a relationship with me”. I can also see how I can be misunderstanding this since I’m not her target.

[@aishahackett3388]

It's about your patterning in relationships and how you seek out what is comforting or chaotic. We are creatures of habit and tend to choose others based on our patterning

[@jedilady4485]

This is such a great idea having both male and female experts together, then we can really squeeze information and really go deep into discussion of two opinions.

[@shraddhamishra9058]

Part 2 of this would be wonderful

[@rebeccaboudreau7589]

Surprised how much I loved this conversation! I get what Matthew was saying about people saying they had done so much work they can’t find anyone to date, however, sometimes it’s true not from an ego place. The more I was comfortable being myself and having honest communication and healthy boundaries, the finer the screen becomes for meeting someone who fits. Before that I spent way too much time with men who I knew early on weren’t a good fit for a long term relationship. Btw the men who sometimes glad with the honest communication, but mostly offended when I would end things by saying it just isn’t a fit. So many are insecure about themselves.😓

[@taniagil3122]

Matthew you are incredible. Thank you for you honesty ! It resonates. The journey of living

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@karamlevi]

Cliches always feel good when they are fresh

[@milaycastillo5723]

I-m always team Hussey, but I love the insights that Ms Kahn is explaining here! Thanks for these videos. It's a delight to watch!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@monday2756]

Wow!!.It's such a BIG TREAT 🎉 to have Sadia and Matthew on here. To me it's EPIC👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 THANK YOU !!!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@msenekra6702]

Matthew has changed many things in his advice - approach to dating- it was do this to get them to do…. It focused on external source… Great conversation… Starts with each of us from within…

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for tuning in! :)

[@faezahsulaiman57]

I think i just realized that it is very important that we learn to leverage EQ skills in society. we need A LOT of EQ coach pronto.

[@phyllissandy3017]

Wonderfully edifying! Thanks for the honesty, vulnerability and insight, I've learnt so much about me

[@MamoJoydevine]

Definitely need a part two of this conversation.

[@lewishowes]

It’s coming soon :)

[@suvendroseal1724]

Sadia Khan & Matthew Hussey is the best combo interview! These two need to be brought together AGAIN.

[@Bestlifesofar]

As a woman, when I hear what they are NOT saying but reading cues, Sadia comes across as a woman who has her own relationship issues but giving out advice ironically . Matthew appears to be genuine where he had lived the issues and landed a stable relationship /marriage by his posture and choice of words. Sadia speaks cookie cutter lines but Matthew speaks from grounded wisdom.

[@zar187]

Most definitely Sadia has relationship issues, and no real expertise other then “experiences” but doesn’t look like she any better off then the people she is taking about on all these podcasts. Honestly it seems like she is trying to use this podcasts to reel in her next relationship.

[@ChosenMe]

Yes, I’ve been semi-following Sadie for about 6 mos. Matthew 3 yrs. I do find Matthew’s advice & expertise comes from experience & I believe he has researched many avenues for his information to use to pull from when handing out advice. I'm not trying to criticize Sadie, however in many of her Podcast Ive watched or listened to, I am very intuitive & she isn’t very good at hiding her “personal” emotions. It has felt as if she more hands out her advice from what she's personally going through at that time or experienced herself through her relationships. Rather than being non bias & really digging her heels in & taking more time to find out from other females by talking with them & trying to better understand whats going on from many different economic backgrounds of females & truly what they're feeling, wanting, experiencing out there. Its very obvious to me that she works with predominately all men, from most of the information she offers. I do enjoy listening to a lot of her content. However as far as looking for advice from her as a female, I wouldn't choose her. Thank you for reading this.

[@rukicowgal1]

incoming women jealous of beautiful girls pretedning to disagree with sadia

[@rukicowgal1]

@@ChosenMe so basially you agree with her but because shes attractive you need to find flaws...got it

[@BlastBeeeats]

I neither agree nor disagree with this statement however , I had just thought about this concept last night. Thank you so much for reminding me that sometimes people speak from things that they have heard and others speak from things that they have been through 🖤

[@alexitamm72]

1. When people play games they enter a relationship to satisfy their ego rather than to find a real connection. 2. Effective communication is a good way to filter the wrong people. 3. Don't try to impress someone instead try to access a healthy relationship with someone. 4. When you work on yourself your pool does not shrink, it is quiet the opposite, it should make you more compassionate towards others faults. 5. To help others you don't have to have it all worked out. Gold..Thank you❤

[@milcaquingatuna2877]

😊 ... thanks Lewis...............Sadia and Matthew in the same room is so whaoooooo

[@Lifejoyxx]

These two experts talking about different experiences of different generations. All point are valid, it’s just Matthew speaks for my generation and Sadia is spot on about generation of my daughter. Very interesting to see those differences, and how everything: trends, social media and life technology shaping society as a whole, its values, standards and philosophies.

[@Suerte619]

I love both of these people, thank you for making an episode with them!!!

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

[@parveendosanjh7195]

I'm absolutely delighted to have discovered this video epic combo of exsperts!!! Thanks for all the epic work guys ! Much love Nuff respect !!! Family we got this shine bright your shiny light

[@ЮлияНаприенко-п6ч]

Oh, gosh, what a beautiful trio! I can just watch you all guys without sound😊 but the information is so valuable too! So thank you so much! Such a joy to the eyes and ears❤

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@Rumena101]

I am that shallow woman because height has always been very important to me, I’m not the tallest woman but I’m 5’7 please don’t hate me 😩♥️ absolutely loved this podcast x

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@Diamondbeach]

Not true. I’m an independent women who is successful and I value and look for connection. I don’t do hookups. Emotional connection needs to there be first for else next. Too many men on the app put low effort.

[@zeynand4039]

People are on the app because of low effort. Best to meet through others.

[@naimam3976]

​@@zeynand4039or meet people out in the real world by travelling, going 2 different places,trying new activities because most guys on dating apps are low effort men and IF they were high quilty they would leave their house and approach women in real life.

[@Merky-Merk01]

Agreed

[@daleshirley1533]

If you are on the app that indicates low effort. That's the purpose of apps make things easy.

[@Tattsb68]

It is weird to understand but men don’t appreciate women that come easy to them. If you are putting yourself on a shelf for them to easily come to you (app) they will subconsciously think there is something wrong with you, as if you truly valued yourself you would be making yourself that available. I learnt from that lesson

[@May-xr1jl]

Mathew's analogy of your relationship with opportunity is the wisdom we all need to understand self-respect.

[@divinefeminine3]

If you attract emotional unavailable people, there is an aspect of you that is also emotionally unavailable. It seems like when Sadia speaks for the female perspective, she is projecting her own experiences onto us. As she states, her clientele are predominantly male. Matthew has more experience working with women. Matthew has clearly done the inner work. Compassion for others is an indication of this.

[@karamlevi]

Your biased. Mathew is a great huckster. You’re as biased as Matt.

[@theLupeXperience]

This is such a terrible opinion. They are both speaking from their perspective. Each valid. And you hv not information or right to attribute "done inner work" to anyone. Matthew could just be a smooth talking grifter whilst she is more earnest. Or she could be horrendous and he's an angel. No one knows. Please do better

[@KimBessinger]

Yes!! Just don't bother trying to get to know somebody by text messages. Did that from us a month and could not figure out what made him tick

[@c.b.c.club986]

Matthew is spot on as usual. Women look for men in a very similar way men do

[@JadeReal]

I get a sense that Sadia’s sample of dating experiences from the people she deals with is quite skewed in one direction while Matthew deals with a more realistic group of women who make up the majority of women.

[@dolcemartinez6124]

ABSOLUTELY!

[@prathyusha5393]

Sadia's take is always biased towards that minority yes. And she doesn't put disclaimers when making statements.. It's very unhealthy!... For everyone ..

[@latashar2252]

Sadia is a psychologist and speaks most time from the perspective that she’s experienced in THAT role. She’s not speaking about personal experiences in most examples.

[@alexr6114]

Or she could be in love with her hypotheses and willing to ignore all data that does not support her pet hypotheses. Unfortunately, many scientists do fall in love with a particular hypothesis and this destroys their impartiality and ability to do good science.

[@happilydivorced3235]

@@alexr6114Exactly. She also uses a lot of red pill rhetoric. As a psychologist myself, there’s a lot of research that’s done in relationships. That makes it easy to know that your few clients do not account for general population. What does data say?

[@pakman54321]

Saadia sometimes is willing to say the reality of the situation which is not always liked or well received but its a generic truth at times.

[@srllmm7190]

Exactly why she's being so hated truth hurts

[@joydavis1670]

I am really enjoying this video. I feel like I am sitting around the living room with friends and they truely care about my best interest & are giving me solid advice . Thank you all.

[@orchidgirl05]

Great insight from Sadia & Mathew . We need a longer interview 3 hours perhaps 😅 this felt like a snippet. ❤

[@lewishowes]

We have two more episodes of them coming also ;)

[@angelalisomona7088]

I have never seen Sadia smile so much in an interview. Matthew, you are a great man.

[@loppan4534]

Matthew was great in this conversation