The Roots of Anger | Thich Nhat Hanh (short teaching video)

In this short teaching video from the Plum Village app plumvillage.app/ Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh talks about the roots of our anger as well as common questions about anger, such as "can anger be beneficial sometimes?"
Excerpt from: Practicing in the Present Moment | Question and Answer Session, 2004-01-31 ( • Practicing in the Pres... )
~~~
Find more similar short teachings on the FREE Plum Village app plumvillage.app/
Enjoy! 🙏
Help us caption and translate this video: web.plumvillage.app/subs?yt=Q...

[@jenniferspring8741]

My anger comes from grief. When I remember that, it takes away the righteous indignation that makes me want to tell people off. But sooner or later, I’m always sorry, because I know we’re all connected and so there’s common roots to the anger, and we all have to rise up together. It’s a very difficult walk, being a human, and so thank God for Thay for his extremely wise ways of bringing the Buddha’a teachings to this time.

[@annettepeizer8236]

Embracing anger the way a parent tenderly embraces a crying baby to calm it down, such a beautiful image to ponder and practice.

[@readingsbycara]

*"Understanding and compassion are the only antidotes to anger."* ♥️ #soulcare at its best.

[@maureenmcgaffey5748]

Yes

[@bebobalula]

Yes, and that is how, we also should practice, when we have other strong and potentially destructive feelings like despair, fear, anxiety, loneliness etc. Breathing in, breathing out, being aware of our feeling 🙏

[@sallyrile7601]

@@bebobalula actually 'feeling' the feelings, inside ourselves..experiencing them.

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Dont know how to do it !!!

[@SharonVeeLee]

I love how when he speaks, you can tell how he is being very mindful about what he is saying. He doesn't recite teachings - he is speaking from the heart.

[@HelenLPorter]

“Only understanding and compassion can put down the flame of anger.” 🙏🧡🧡🙏

[@ira-usa713]

I love this talk and want to just add one comment: be careful who you ask to help you when you experience anger. That is: Thay speaks from the point of view of his Sangha, and there's a presumption that the person who did something to make you angry can be trusted. So he says to tell them you're angry and also to ask for help. But a lot of people cannot respond to this appropriately. ... When I first learned to embrace my own anger one of the first things I learned was that expressing anger is a way of giving power and responsibility to the other person (who caused the anger to arise). So, not expressing that anger is a way of taking back control and establishing a boundary. So like Thay says, we have to really develop that practice of embracing anger and giving ourselves loving compassion, like mothering an infant... Thay goes on to advocate inter-being, which is the ideal. In most lives, however, we have to be very careful about asking for help. Sometimes it is the right thing to do, but sometimes we have to look elsewhere. We have to find refuge, like in the Buddha, the Dharma, and a true Sangha.

[@mysterym7008]

Anger is rooted in sadness, I’ve always known that.

[@sonnyrue6100]

@erock755 still a personal emotion nonetheless, why disregard your self in situations that are hurting you? Emotions are indicators of what you like or dont like... right?

[@alisonwhite4566]

Anger lives in the liver. If you are sad clean the liver. Support your liver.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Anger is rooted by neglect, when essential needs will not get fulfilled. I have anger outbursts always for the same things. Some I have banned.

[@sonnyrue6100]

@@alisonwhite4566 what are some good ways to do that?

[@budte]

@@sonnyrue6100 it is nonsense

[@danutashayler34]

Thich Nhat Hanh is my only mentor and a hero for the world and its human beings. Since discovering this very wise man in 2016. I have learned so much. Yet this powerful 16 minute video still stops me in my tracks and I become totally present to this gentle and intelligent man. Being a better human being is a daily remembering.

[@slimshany4602]

I fully agree, lovely comment. :)

[@skywalktriceiam]

:) 💚

[@lasmariabanjarnahor7721]

Yess... I just know this beautiful and gentel man for the last 2 week

[@skywalktriceiam]

@@lasmariabanjarnahor7721 🙌

[@starstar8644]

I've only just discovered gentle and compassionate and generous man about half hour ago after I completed my meditation for gratitude. I know I'll be listening to him everyday, like I listen to other generous enlightened souls who are about humanity and the highest level of love. Your comment was beautiful shared 🙏💕

[@alllove7363]

Darling, I suffer, I am angry, and I want you to know it. I don’t know why you have done such a thing to me. I want you to know I suffer. Darling I am doing my best. I am practicing mindfulness to take care of my anger and I’ll be looking deeply into my anger to see the root. Please help me.

[@readingsbycara]

*Isn't that simply amazing. And so full of grace. And gentleness.* ♥️ True #soulcare

[@reddogswy]

Thank you for writing this out

[@peacebe2u480]

U need professional help 4 your deluded statements.

[@jiggersotoole7823]

Thank you for writing that out .. 🐣

[@baphithi]

Blessings to you for writing this out. I had just fetched a pen and was going to rewind so I can write down these beautiful words. 🙏🏻

[@writeronthestormkyushu565]

Endless people talking all the time always trying to sell you something . With this beautiful man, we see mindfulness, loving compassion and truth before he even begins to speak. I am grateful for such a human being in this time of isolation, fear, anger and selfishness.

[@thegoodwitchofthesouth5390]

He’s probably the most adorable person I’ve ever seen.

[@LuisaFernandaAZ]

I was going to comment this, his face, his smile and his hat... He looks like a baby.

[@readingsbycara]

Yes! *Such a gentle spirit.* His voice and calmness alone can soothe an angry soul. ♥️ #soulcare at its best.

[@MistyMawn]

@@Rebel377 That's wild. Amazing.

[@sylvanechoes]

I watched this whole video thinking he was a woman until I read this comment 😅

[@CarAngel]

Wow! in less than 16 minutes I've found the root of my long lasting anger, it has to do with my inability to survive,I have stop blaming others right now! This man is amazing.

[@lorenacharlotte8383]

There are situations, environments where the seed of anger is continuously watered. Extremely difficult to transform anger when anger is feed in regular basis. It of course doesn’t mean that one has to give up but it requires an enormous strength and practice to stay present right there dealings with the impact of discrimination, cruelty, abuse...

[@colorfullyme]

VERY true. I had a lot of anger from childhood trauma. I threw temper tantrums as a child, and unlike this teaching, was punished not helped. I started healing when I left my family home. Removing myself from the triggers played a huge role in being able to be mindful and objective. I have not faced much oppression or discrimination from society and can only imagine how difficult healing would be when you are confronted by the injustices daily. I pray for a more loving world.

[@SB-yz7lk]

Very true...difficult to remove the triggers if it involves bullying at school, home or work place...there are plenty of unskillful people or other choice words and phrases to describe the actions or speech of other people...mindless...

[@realtempleofsilence]

Yes, he himself has experienced lots of that early on in his lifetime when the Vietnam War was fought and he was a peace-activist. This is a man who's fellow monks have set themselves on fire to get the message of peace and compassion across. He genuinely knows what he's talking about. And as with any of the five hindrances, the opposite energy is what needs to be cultivated in the moment that it has manifested. The most difficult thing to do, but truly effective when you are able to take a moment for yourself, and take yourself out of the situation, just to actively cultivate the opposite energy. Wish you the very best.

[@cutechiangels]

Valuable words. 🙏 But only doable if the other party is able to truely listen and understand your pain. Which is often not the case at all. Only between mindful people. Most often people will use your anger or suffering against you. Also, it should be said that certain times anger is not generated because of what someone did or said. In some people it just comes up in a whoosh. It arouses out if nowhere. They'll try and blame others, but that anger is their's. So, there are various types of people and anger. Keep that in mind! 🙏

[@Jen281]

This is so true.

[@NaryHappysuffering]

Buddha teaching is the only way for humanity. Thank you for spreading his compassion ❤ rest in peace sir!!

[@timothybrace5340]

“Pride always goes with anger”

[@geraldinereilly5931]

Timothy Brace can you be sure of that. Maybe because of human ego but there are many facets to this. Childhood pain from abuse can create a seed of anger. Unfortunately some of us were so terrified in our environment that we suppressed it and it creates mental problems and physical issues. Can take decades to actually deal with something that's buried very deep. Being numb can be worse caused a depressed mood. Healthy anger not destructive I think is the message. Past anger can even be debilitating.

[@falconbritt5461]

@@geraldinereilly5931 Exactly. Past anger that could not be expressed creates knots in us, and blockages, and leftover rips in our energetic boundary fields. I finally found energy healers who could clear mine and now am (very gratefully!) a very different person. It was embarrassing to be so emotional and angry, but it arose as of itself because I had endured tremendous continual abuse as a child - so my auric fields had rips, and there were great tar balls of anger and grief that had to be removed, as well as blockages in chakras, marks/imprints left by tremendous verbal cruelty, and sexual chaos/power-over energy left by a molester. These energies may be subtle, but they are very real, and removing them can have very real effects. With all that cleared out, it's very much easier for me now to clear current anger, which is based in fear (which is misperception of one's ultimate vulnerability). Before that I was the Queen of Rage.

[@geraldinereilly5931]

@@falconbritt5461yes great explanation. Child abuse and cruelty leaves such an imprint in the nervous system. The anger from traumatic childhood is different it's based on fear not pride as the other comment suggested. I am only becoming more aware of energy and blockages. I did a basic workshop. I need healing in these areas. Because of financial difficulties I listen to sound healing music. 🎶. The Tibetan sound healing. You mentioned grief. I have been grieving last 8 months since lockdowns. All children would have emotional wounds just growing . When you grow up in a cruel abusive environment the level of psychological pain is massive and impacts health. At 18 or 19 I had a physical-emotional breakdown.

[@falconbritt5461]

@@geraldinereilly5931 Grief can be overwhelming, I can so relate to that! And yes, finances block so many from getting well via the normal routes, in America anyway. I started over the years collecting practices that helped, and cheap things I could get that would help, finally posting them (so I could stop repeatedly writing them out for friends). They can help anyone who is sensitive or empathic or abused. If you're interested, they are at "A Wild Reality" on FB. Look in the Notes section. Yes, the tones can help. I made a list here of Healing Sounds that are primarily solfeggio tones but also some chakra tones. I've also discovered the free soul-body fusion technique on Jonette Crowley's site (centerforcreativeconsciousness.com). Trauma drives the soul from the body increasingly over time, and getting it back can heal and empower us. I think that's why we are termed "ghosts." To people raised with love, so much of us, our joy and power and embodiment, seems to be missing until our soul is back in our body. Doing this video each morning costs nothing and requires no concentration, takes about 25 minutes. Gradually (it needs to be gradual) over weeks, the soul heals and balances and re-embodies in us (we are more like avatars, and the real us comes in more and we find ourselves feeling glad to be alive again, as well as having more ability to get traction in our lives and be happy and peaceful). Your soul will adjust different things each time it comes in a bit more, so it will feel different over time, but do it for weeks on end and you will realize how you are changing, how life feels different. SBF isn't the same as shamanic soul retrieval, which brings back the wounded fragments one by one and tries to heal and integrate them. SBF allows your much higher dimensional aspects of Soul to get down here and embody to straighten out the situation, I find it FAR more powerful and effective. It will work slowly, however, so if you feel nothing sometimes don't worry, the soul is likely working on the etheric body or some aspect that isn't physical but needs to be shifted. Thank you for continuing on with your healing journey, it is not easy but your happiness is important and you are valued. We don't hear that often enough, so I want to say it. I have never met you, but you matter, and I honor your heroism.

[@kamikookiemonster3053]

@@falconbritt5461 ❤️

[@drm54321]

Thich Nhat Hahn is a beautiful treasure to this world. Thank you !

[@jiggersotoole7823]

Seconded 🐣

[@amusanoluwatosin1641]

O yes! A very spiritual man. May he rest in peace

[@jvb5590]

Thich Nhat Hanh looks adorable with his winter cap on 😊

[@OceanInOneDrop]

How blessed we are to have access to such a wonderful teacher and such important life lessons. This is life-changing information. Thank you to Thay, Buddha, and the Universal Love that motivates this teaching.

[@heartofhawaii8232]

I am immensely grateful to hear, see, feel, experience, embrace every teaching from Beloved Thich Nhat Hanh..May he rest in Peace for Eternity..in this world and the next. may ALL beings Awaken , in the Divine Time for each person. Namaste and Aloha from Hawaii.

[@marciadesouza3314]

Thank-you! Nhat, for talking about anger 😠 😡 it is really very unpleasant to be involved in people who have anger in themselves, they make other peoples life hell.

[@kali7906]

I could listen to him talk forever. His voice is very soothing.

[@KellW2012]

So profound. Wow. This resonated with me in a way no anger management has.

[@colorfullyme]

Anger management usually teaches coping mechanisms, ways to suppress the anger... very counterproductive. It is a gift you found this video. I wish you healing and love.

[@readingsbycara]

*"Understanding and compassion are the only antidotes to anger."* ♥️

[@readingsbycara]

What a profoundly awesome teaching! ♥️

[@readingsbycara]

True #soulcare 💜

[@itskylebisch]

“I am suffering with anger I am trying my best Please help me” 🙏❤️

[@dianaboughner7977]

Much love and gratitude for your deeply compassionate teachings 💖 May we all walk in peace and love as our civilization evolves 💞

[@tamaraposton4270]

What a beautiful way to express, embrace and share the depth of anger. In a world filled with such animosity, Thich Nhat Hanh and his teachings could change our world's events if everyone heard this.🙏

[@onnion63]

Thanks Thay. Morrisey (The Smiths singer) wrote this line " It's so east to laugh, it's so easy to hate . It takes guts to be gentle and kind" I always think of Thay and Morrissey when I am about to water my seed of anger . WAY harder to be gentle and kind - true bravery . You can find the Dharma in many places if you look

[@readingsbycara]

Well then... *May I be blessed with more guts and bravery ... so as not to do the easy thing.* #staywell everyone. 💜

[@AweSoMeRwhisperer]

Advice Morrisey could have given himself before calling Chinese "subhuman"

[@jiggersotoole7823]

@@AweSoMeRwhisperer interesting point. He was wrong to say it. But. Why did he say it? What was he referring to?

[@jiggersotoole7823]

@Jenny Auld (She/Her) oh. I thought it was to do with the culture of eating dogs and the importation of poached pangolins which are approaching extinction. Silly me.

[@karankewat1.10]

Listening him speak is such a calming experience 😃

[@ngonigriffith1491]

I like what was said about not suppressing your anger because it goes in line with what the Bible says to be angry, but sin not. I can be angry, but I don't want to act on my anger. Acting out of anger brings suffering.

[@noname-by3qz]

I've heard this man quoted many times over the years. It's so nice to hear his voice.

[@jasi1650]

I love Thich Nhat Hanh. 🙏🏽💕

[@NguyenPhuong-hv1kx]

He had his motivation to seek for true happiness at the age of 7. And I have been seeking for what is happiness for 4 years. I finally found him. The person had found happiness before me.

[@pisiata3651]

Your voice makes me melt, is like i feel the compasion, the love, the kindness in your voice as i never felt on any human being. sometimes i cry, cuz i so resonate with what you are saying. And i send you all my love, pure love, complete love from one human to an angel. I love you, thanks universe for you, for all that you are, thank you! I love you! Thank you because you help me so much with your books and yr chanel. May we meet in other life, hope there i never dissapoint anyone and that i ll be smarter, wiser, kinder, less angry. And hope as long as i live in this one to be a better person day by day. Cuz till not i didn t try my best.

[@tulikaverma3809]

Understanding and compassion is the only antidote to anger

[@happy_high_sensitive_person]

Another fine pearl of life advice here on KZbin! Watching this as a couple that is stuck like so many, not knowing how to resolve arguments and conflict…. saves or even transforms the relationship! Thank You Thich Nhat Hanh, may you find eternal peace. ❤️

[@diamondfb]

With all due respects to Sir Thich Nhat Hanh whom I admire so much, I am sure many of you agree that there are situations and people where you're already so afraid that you can't write down or say anything to the person who is hurting you. You also know that no matter what you say or write will have no impact on them. I would love to hear from someone who has overcome such a situation. I think that's why I am asking here for support from others. Thanks in advance and thank you for this video.

[@DavidKarlsson-ti6sb]

Brilliant. I wish I had this advice when I was a kid. We grew up with turning the other cheek. And it doesn't work. Do not suppress your anger. Acknowledge and work through it.

[@gouthamk5683]

You came to this world, Practiced Buddha's Teaching, Transmitted Buddha's Teaching and Relieved Suffering of the People. You are an Fully Enlightenment Master! An Arahant! May mother earth, Devas, All the Beings Rejoice in the Teachings you have Transmitted that would live for centuries. Helping all Beings.🙏🙏🙏

[@ojll99]

Thank you so much ! This can change a person's life. It definitely has changed mine and I am so thankful for it.

[@matt_cummins28]

I suffer a great deal from anger. This video will help me a great deal and I want to thank you. Suddenly my anger is something I can use as a tool for my own healing. That's an extraordinary revelation. Thank you. Namaste.

[@plumvillageapp]

Hello dear friend, we are glad that you find the teaching in the video helpful for transformation and healing 🙏😌. A lotus for you, The Plum Village App team plumvillage.app

[@atis9061]

A very soothing man that I can trust, just because he radiates peace. I have begun feeling and allowing the deeper implications to surface. The anger IS energy but underneath is sadness & grief. So I cry A LOT & don’t hold it back.

[@maresnite]

I realize my anger of losing my only child, an adult, 2 years ago. I am still learning how to accept it & get past being angry. I know I must go on in life. It just feels hollow without my son. 💔❤✌

[@plumvillageapp]

Thank you for sharing this with us, dear Marilee. May you and your son be well 🙏. A lotus for you, The Plum Village App team

[@jennykastelic3253]

thank you, teacher.

[@springtime8388]

This made me cry... I've felt so angry for a long time because of something's that was said to me... idk my anger is at its highest it was ever been. This couldn't have come at a better time..

[@heidiferlmann6442]

Thay is so wise! This the most concient way to lose your anger! It works realy! Breathing in y breathing out....🥰🙏❤

[@scotthuey1981]

I love you teacher, thank you so so much 💚🙏

[@davidfitzgerald4683]

Ego and the surrendering of it is the only answer 🙏

[@b.c.4902]

That is wise. It is difficult if the other person does not listen, mocks or even abuses. Then I think it is ok to fight back I would like to hear wisdom on being bullied, abused or taken advantage off. Anger is a good indicator that someone is crossing the boundaries. Not all people live in a Plum Village, although I would like it to be so

[@bugelbee]

I've had so much pain and anger inside me ...... thank you for this video for too long I have wondered why I felt pain everyday in my heart. Some of what he said really helped me understand how to handle anger and pain .... So much to learn so much to learn

[@sallyrile7601]

Also, read Tina gilbertson's book, constructive wallowing, re healing painful feelings. Excellent.

[@j.d.thompson3505]

His teachings make me cry. That is transformation.

[@abhishekthackur9382]

I feel so grateful so very grateful to ur teachings Tai❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏

[@Alex-fb8rz]

What a life changing teaching. In 16 minutes I learned an invaluable lesson. 🙏🏻

[@poonamsvideoblogs]

My Thay. His voice grows my heart. So happy to see beloved teacher.

[@scotthuey1981]

Thee most important and beautiful video I have ever watched. Thank you teacher 💚🙏

[@arudachyk]

His voice is so soothing. If we all had loving voice like his, the world would be a much more peaceful place.

[@arudachyk]

@@Thresholdmoment i don't think what he is saying is nonsense at all. His voice speaks to his inner tranquility and obviously he's achieved that through listening to his own teachings

[@caroleborsu]

Thank you Thich Nhat Hanh! Your gentle smile and calm voice always get through to me. You always walked the walk of wisdom. May peace find you wherever you are 🙏

[@vimalaeru5640]

One of the roots of my depression/anxiety and constant restlessness is my anger towards those who I felt manipulated me - after so many years of trying to heal, these lectures have transformed my approach and attitude. Thank you

[@plumvillageapp]

Dear friend, thank you so much for your sharing. It's nourishing to hear how transformative these lectures are for some people. You can find more teachings, guided meditations and other material on the free Plum Village App. A lotus for you 🙏 plumvillage.app team

[@eu16tu18]

Thank you for uploading this precious words...🙏🏻

[@neatneat9088]

Great teaching. The cemetery and jails are filled with individuals who acted or reacted with anger.

[@tikagurung9338]

🙏🙏🙏Wandana Bhante jiu Hajur Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

[@nannan2790]

Thankyou so much.

[@muhlenstedt]

Very practical and profound at the sametime ...and very important since anger affect all of us.Thank you very much!

[@kathiewalli8746]

Well this is really something This video has changed my life 🙏 Thank you from the bottom of my heart 😌

[@BeanTownBruce]

Thank you Thay...🙏 I am embracing the way!❤️....and doing my best.

[@_suse_]

Thank you, Thich. I need to hear this. Hope you're enjoying your expanded sphere :)

[@cyberpunkworld]

My personal anger.... I am not strong enough and I fall tired after a while. I cannot fight anymore. Then.... I blame it on something, when I should in fact go to sleep and wake up the next day.

[@luciareyes6281]

So thankfull for your teachings❤

[@Plw1980]

His voice is a whole vibe 🧘‍♀️ ☮️ 💕

[@plumvillageapp]

🙏

[@makaylahollywood3677]

I am so angry that all the people whom i try to love but, instead they hurt me. The sadness is a lifetime. I have transforming to do. It's time to have compassion for myself.

[@charityw1020]

Ambled down the internet and found this, wow ⭐️❤️🌞

[@atashakgem]

For years my brother was bullied by nasty cruel ones, I am forever angry at them I never been violent yet I can’t have compassion for them, frankly have compassion for me and my brother that how much as little children suffered from this cruelty , so when I am angry I have enormous compassion for me and my brother and I remind me how much I have to take care of me loving caring and protect me against this cruel two legged creatures

[@440SPN]

Very amazing and outstanding man is Thich Nhat Hahn. I am very gr a teful to have been born in a time to access his teachings. Words do not p r operly xpress🙏🙏🙏🌹💞💞💞💥💥💥💙

[@galespressos]

Ah, from 2004, so pertinent now, 2020. Thank you. 🙏

[@leniestahljohansson7230]

Thank you for the words of wisedom. I will always remember them in my heart.

[@jenniechen24]

The Buddha of today!

[@ChefVegan]

The continuation of the Buddha 😊

[@fingerprint5511]

The Buddha is not form...that's the Jesus fantasy you are projecting. If so, why did Thay experience a Stroke so he can no longer walk or speak?

[@hayleydryden8358]

I cannot stop my anger at cruelty to people and animals..

[@michelleraney3577]

You need to get help now, please!!!

[@hayleydryden8358]

@@michelleraney3577 its the cruel people that need help.. No right minded human could not feel angry over animal and human cruelty..

[@kathleendone8708]

Thank youThich Nhat Hanh. My Nan used to say to us "your temper is your best friend, don't lose it", understanding and sharing your awareness of it with the person who brought it mostly my children, and yes, ask "I need your help". I do all what you say and many times find that it has been my own past ignorant words or actions that angered or hurt them in the first instance.

[@yulyo4045]

Finally I found another way how to manage my anger....Thank You...Namaste🙏🙏🙏

[@MontePrima8539]

I love Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh! He speaks here about exactly what I am dealing with in my mind! In a such interesting and mild manner! Thank you!

[@THEDUDE912]

I feel that this is Thich's personal struggle and he has used his practice to help others.

[@galaxylucia1898]

Thank you for these short learning clips, but I am even MORE appreciative of the links to the full video that includes the chants. 🙏🏾🥰 Even tho where I am in the States we are slowly transitioning to in-person practice, It’s great to sit an experience a full-length Dharma talk by Thay. His wisdom and entire being has become a refuge for me.

[@erosamuk]

"...recognize, embrace, and transform your anger..."

[@veronicacoughlan7110]

Thank you.

[@patriciadejong3350]

This video came at a perfect time and I will use this knowledge immediately! Thankyou namaste

[@Lisa-nx5ci]

Thank you 🙏🏽 I suffer each day of an anger that takes over my entire being. I will do these suggestions Because nothing I’ve been told to do has helped me this far. It’s so hard to be mindful and to breath on purpose because of the anger swimming inside of me. I AM COMPASSIONATE. I’VE BEEN TOLD OVER AND OVER. I will follow your words and teachings. This is so wonderful. “Transformation here I come”!

[@J.A.Hansen]

Thats True🙏When ever I feel angry about something,someone,or about myself,I try to reflect way down inside,why and where does it come from.That helped me a lot,but I m still working on it cause I m a firehead.Fortunely I m a musician and I can tranform a lot of energy into a higher viberation and can go back to the state of mindfulness.So I m steady working on myself.Whenever I did something that I did out of anger,I try to calm down and go to the person that I was angry about and apologize for my bad temper🙏

[@CharlesTaylor109]

Thank you for this Dharma sharing.

[@mariaeugeniacorredordiaz8119]

Gracias Thay!❤

[@user-tq6ld4yo1f]

ســــلامـ الـرب عـلــيــ ه ه ى 🌼👳‍♂️

[@Alchemy005]

Anger is a destructive element, so be careful. 🙏❤️🌹

[@zentient8840]

I was/am angry. I have been angry my whole life because of broken trust and manipulation. I've tried to show understanding and compassion, but that is weakness to them. So I suffer....😢

[@MrReedTea]

You need to be able to discern between people that will hurt you and those that won't. You can love people from afar. A sadhu once told a snake to love everyone the snake came back beaten the sadhu said I didn't say not to hiss.

[@Axterrix]

If it is weakness to them, it is their option. Not yours. Being compassive helps to put distance with that kind of persons.

[@falconbritt5461]

If family members have narcissistic traits (look up narcissism, Lisa A. Romano has videos on this), sometimes you must offer yourself the compassion by spending less time with them or even moving far away and cutting ties. If their cruelty is so harsh, you do not owe it to them to ruin your life because they choose to continue to be cruel. Self love is as important as loving other people; Jesus said love others as you love yourself. Equally. You deserve love and peace and kindness, so please give it to yourself by exiting if they continually insist on destroying your peace. People who have never lived with this level of abuse may not understand your choice to protect your well-being, but it is only because they have never tried to endure it. I say, as other people who have experienced know, you matter. Your happiness matters. Please protect your happiness by choosing to be around kind people instead as much as possible. Staying in relationship with abusive and untrustworthy people, I have learned, is a sign of poor mental health; it is called codependency, and it enables the abuser to keep behaving so horribly. That is not good for their spiritual growth or emotional growth as people, for you to allow this to continue. And being codependent is not good for your spiritual or emotional growth either. Learning and understanding about these things has taught me a lot, so I wanted to share. Maybe you already know them. There are good books on these things, if not. Please be compassionate to yourself. Those who only enjoy kicking you in the head emotionally are not healthy to be around. Be kind to yourself and pray for them from a distance if they are not willing to grow. Perhaps later in life they will change, but for now, please take care of yourself. You matter. Your happiness matters.

[@pamelawinson3192]

Yes I see that as well. My ex partner let others take the sorry piss so much I watched it happening and festering. Then I git so frustrated and angry. ....

[@falconbritt5461]

@@pamelawinson3192 It seems like a matter of balance, to walk the middle path. I do not find it healthy to try to let people drink our emotional blood, so to speak, continually. It teaches them bad habits, and it devalues our value as part of the creation. This destroys people over time in most cases, staying with abusers. When another human is exploiting all your kindness and forgiveness, and we do not set boundaries, too many these days can be like vampires, like parasites to drain all your psychic energy. You are likely to lose even your appreciation for the basic goodness of life over time. Perhaps a saint full of great light can do this for years, but it is soul-killing for most people, so I think we must be honest with ourselves about what we can and cannot handle at any stage of our spiritual journey. Just my opinion. Loving kindness to others should be done whenever possible, but if you do not show yourself loving kindness, do you not also deserve it and need it? Balance. The middle path.

[@ChefVegan]

Thank you Thich and Plum Village.

[@OP-mz3hr]

Thank you for the amazing teachings. It is very beautiful to learn: “when you see the suffering of that person, you want to help him and not to punish him.” That’s real love and compassion coming out to replace the anger. Transform the emotion of anger to compassion because you see the other people as suffering and feel compassionate

[@johnnyesmond9176]

no more words man.. this is absolutely beautiful

[@cynthusinfinite]

Before anger was/is hurt. Beautiful soul. Just being in your energy field is soothing. Thank you.

[@audriiiiroberts3030]

Thank you beloved. I come to this often when I feel overwhelmed. My seed of anger has been growing with the pressures of my daily life. Thank you for bringing me peace, and guiding me as a practitioner. 🙏🏼

[@tinabrittandresen6507]

Deep insight on letting go of anger. Peace and love to all beings of this Universe. 🙏❤️

[@dan-andreivasilescu228]

No adequate words can ever describe the outstanding work that Thay has done

[@erikaleben]

Wou These is a Real help thanks

[@yciupak]

It's so wonderful to see master Thich Nhat Hanh! May you be healthy and live a long, long, and long life to continue to manifest your wisdom, compassion, and light on earth! 🙏🙏🙏

[@sharonlujan9497]

thank you for this teaxhing.