The Schemas of Schema Mode Therapy

[@Linusrox123]

Just found your channel. Oh please never stop using your hands to talk! It feels very easy to follow along, remain engaged throughout and not zoning out. I'm very hopeful, and excited that I have a lot of content ahead of me! THANK YOU!

[@aemcapello]

I can't begin to describe how important your video's and explanations have been and continue to be for my understanding of myself and the world and people around me. I can't find the words to express my gratitude or to describe the many ways these sessions have had a positive impact on my personal growth. Thank you ever so much for helping me heal. 💛💐 🙏

[@amymiyamotoshow]

I am in the US and have been working with a therapist for two years with Schema therapy. I just wanted to let you know that your instructional videos especially the overviews and modes videos with the VISUALS/DIAGRAMS have been infinitely helpful and clarifying!!!!!!

[@thePSYCHcollective]

Thanks for that. Feel free to share them around.

[@realitywinner7582]

Thanks for these..great help. God Bless !

[@matthewireland4483]

Great summary. Thank you Jess.

[@sobhan1611]

Thank you for sharing these with us💚🌹

[@michaellamont9972]

You did an absolutely brilliant job summarising schema’s. It’s unfortunate though that you can’t find the accompanying questionnaire that asks 90 questions to help identify you’re schemas on line because it’s copyrighted.When you read the book , do the questionnaire and identify you’re issues it becomes an invaluable resource to change and grow. Thanks again.

[@pablogomez8236]

I don't like been told what I can't... This time somehow makes me happy to think I can't change my temperament... Makes me feel safe that I can't change from being myself. At least not that quick 😃

[@amirsamatarodi6121]

Loved it

[@noammimon]

Yikes! I can relate to almost all of these

[@juyoki]

Can maladaptive schemas be unlearned (so that they are no longer the default thought pattern than the person instinctually falls into)? Or is it more like an addiction (once an addict always an addict) where a person who has a maladaptive schema will have to spend the rest of their life putting in conscious effort to correct against the maladaptive thought pattern that will always feel natural to them?

[@thePSYCHcollective]

I don’t think it’s a case of unlearning it, I think it’s more like you override them. It will take a lot of conscious effort to use your healthy adult response at first, but with practise it will become the new normal. But don’t be surprised if the old schemas pop up occasionally, especially during times of stress. When that happens, go back to basics with your healthy adult mode.

[@ogiyonkelesebane9756]

Wow thank you for that clarity.no wonder i have problems in relationships it the core beliefs.do i need therapy or i can do it my self to change the maladaptive schemas?

[@thePSYCHcollective]

You are likely to need help in changing your schemas because you may not be aware of when they’re activated or what to do about them in the beginning. Once you’ve figured them out, then you may be able to continue on your own.

[@habibjavi3060]

Hi thanks for the great videos👌 ! Was wondering what the therapy suggests relating to the care givers who somehow caused these maladaptive habits/ patterns?

[@thePSYCHcollective]

Are you asking from the point of view of the care giver or child?

[@habibjavi3060]

the PSYCH collective thanks for the reply! Am actually asking from the point of view of the adult ( the grown child) who is now going through the therapy process. The adult would realise how unfairly she/he was being treated by their care givers during their childhood. So, Should they forgive their care giver as part of the therapy process and/or should the adult discuss this unfair treatment with them at some stage during the process or it’s okay even to end the relationship with their parents if you can’t forgive them?

[@thePSYCHcollective]

It depends on the carer. Some carers lack insight, refuse to change or won’t work towards making amends. In these cases, it may be more suitable to set boundaries or terminate the relationship if they are still harmful. Other carers may recognise the error of their ways, be working on their own stuff and be willing to make amends, at which point some mediation could be helpful. Really it is a question of “was the carer negligent, neglectful or malevolent?” We’ll cover more on this in our third PTSD talk coming out soon

[@5qcW_WLlgt6-lke9-_kiQg]

Brief and to the point. Why did you leave out the domains that put all schemas into perspective?

[@thePSYCHcollective]

Which domains are you talking about?

[@peterh.1593]

What, I can't hear what you are saying, my volume control just made the mumble louder.

[@stephanthomasjung6947]

Sadly this is not in german