The Science of Love: Four Pillars of Romantic Compatibility | The Cutting Edge| CS Joseph

[@Brickwilliams]

That avatar thing creeping me tf out

[@ChelleMEis]

😂😂 the facials 😂😂

[@POVofanENFP]

Lol 😂😂

[@imaginarypath7867]

Same bro 😭

[@stephanshun]

3 things that matter: 1. Cognitive Synchronicity - Compatibility 2. Interaction Styles + Temperaments 3. Cognitive Focus - SF (haf ppy) + UF (wise) 4. Nurture - Octagram + KWML/QMML Nature + Nurture makes up about 60% of person. Still includes what experiences, values, knowledge, desires person has. You want to be equally yoked. Suss your temperaments to see what you prefer.

[@POVofanENFP]

Thanks alot for leaving these helpful notes. What goes around comes around 💪🏾💪🏾

[@polishmeow8298]

Summary at 19:34 for Pillars of Romantic Compatibility

[@ChelleMEis]

What a great back and forth conversation between the four of them. ?? Does no one else get a turn to talk?

[@DARKELLAKEL]

Its Matt! I knew this would great!

[@shyGigi]

Really great stuff discussed here. romantic pillars established from universal values: personal values and motivators: 21 years married in Dec: ENTP/ENFJ: my pillars: one with whom demonstrates potential for: enduring purpose enduring romance trustworthy loyalty

[@RaffertyMBTI]

How do you know the bias towards sexual compatibility isn’t just your Se demon talking? My Fi demon tells me emotional compatibility is more important.

[@SkillOPill]

As a fellow intp, sexual compatibility does matter. It's up to the person to decide if they can put up with in a relationship, but issues do seem to arise usually with those functions clashing.

[@RaffertyMBTI]

@@SkillOPill i had two Fe user parents. It might be nurture having an influence.

[@chriskozak7356]

I think it's pretty close to equal. However, I agree with chase on the sexual compatibility front. It's better to have opposite perception. Relationship wise? I agree that as an INFJ I need an Fi user. 2 Fe users is boring.

[@RaffertyMBTI]

@@chriskozak7356my demon would go chernobyl with a fellow Fe user interrogated me for emotional feedback. 2 Se users in the bedroom is cringe.

[@dr.munkiifukugz9713]

Watching this and not knowing anyone but chases type i can see dude at bottom left is direct and control, compared to chase top right is informative and movement ...... Just basing this on both their surroundings...... ❤😂

[@chriskozak7356]

Bottom left guy is an INFJ, I forget his name

[@law9051]

It may be Jay Ackley. He's mentioned he's INFJ. He's done lectures on Chase's channel before

[@AbrahamDash]

Oh... This explains a LOT of things

[@Brickwilliams]

I think the superego relationship can be really good when they both have very aspired inferiors, because then the inferiors act like heros and the fear is hardly there

[@JJ__88008]

Golden content ✨️

[@cynthiajuma9006]

Is this like a two year ago lecture? I remember you said that golden pairs should have the same cognitive focus

[@RaffertyMBTI]

Yeah I know an INTP guy who likes an ENFJ woman a lot.

[@chriskozak7356]

Pretty sure the pedagogue relationship is the easiest to get into (even easier than golden, due to aligning judgement]

[@hamidousy5460]

​@@chriskozak7356 Actually it's slightly harder but easier to maintain.

[@chriskozak7356]

@@hamidousy5460 and you have to deal with the critic/trickster relationship in the pedagogue which can get kind of volatile

[@nemesis27]

​@@chriskozak7356false

[@nemesis27]

​@@chriskozak7356no emotional compatibility

[@ash_meadows]

Thank you❤

[@kleddo3126]

Why ENTP gets married to ISFP because both are wearing masks :) and also are we more likely to get to this pair because we are traumatized also by the world? or in general with the world.

[@idiotslife8508]

Chase you have said in the past that golden pairs should have the same octagram but now you say that they have to be uf and sf.

[@albertgrau4076]

Imo having different focus could help the young and inmature propel their development. However, for mature people they are more likely to be more developed, therefore, the focus is irrelevant as both SF and UF, should both have grown beyond that stage of limitations. But, what do you think?

[@nemesis27]

This lecture is old

[@idiotslife8508]

@albertgrau4076 Well I guess they would become uf and uf or Sf and sf, which means that either the uf person would become sf or the sf person would become uf because of the other one. So it could lead to more maturity or more joy.

[@chriskozak7356]

@idiotslife8508 I don't believe for UD people it matters as much. One of the few benefits of being UD. However, SD people benefit more from having UD people in their life

[@idiotslife8508]

@chriskozak7356 Yeah true.

[@kadsenvieh]

OMG this gets more and more complicated. Sucks.

[@leoblogu5193]

You wanna swing at the boss better not miss

[@Lamp488]

Who swings at their boss? Was that you? Yikes 😬

[@dennisg.9887]

Its the wrong video to ask this question but I do it anyways. I am an ESFP and studying mathematics (masters degree) at university. Its hard for me and logical thinking is not the best in me as well as intuition. How can I, as an ESFP, improve my logical thinking for mathematics and maybe my inferior Ni as the intuitve part for it?

[@InterestsInEverything]

I would recommend: Gather experience-LOADS of different types of math problems. It should be easy enough for you to gather and experience (Se) all of that, but then over time, your Te child will eventually piece together the correlating patterns after it has experienced enough data. Your approach to mathematics shouldn't be from the standpoint of logic (step-by-step proof), something a strong Ti user would do. Instead, you should approach it from loads of examples that eventually demonstrate the underlying structure. It will take time, but you will be seeing the same thing: the logical structure will become apparent. Rather than following the deductive logic from A->B->C, you'll use your Te to see the whole structure at once. Just FYI, if you ever go on to be a teacher, be careful please, because ESFP teachers tend to dump EVERYTHING AT ONCE on the students and expect them to soak it all up and see the correlations. Not everybody works that way :)

[@dennisg.9887]

@@InterestsInEverything Thank you very much for your answere. And yep, I want to become a teacher :)

[@POVofanENFP]

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