The Simp-ification of Modern Men

Talking points: domestication, culture, biology
To be clear straight out the gates, I don't think there's some vast conspiracy to weaken all men. But there are certain aspects of our culture, our food, and more that have a synergistic effect. One that's messing with men on multiple levels. Listen in.
(00:00:00) - Intro and the ways men are becoming domesticated
(00:02:23) - Masculinity and what it means to be a good man is now almost entirely defined by women
(00:04:22) - A narrative that men are essentially defective women, or unwanted, or automatically at fault
(00:10:03) - The simplification is also biological, through microplastics, additives, and more
(00:12:55) - Stress and distraction levels are through the roof
(00:16:08) - So…what do we do?
(00:19:00) - Life isn’t supposed to be easy all the time
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[@BldgsFallStraightDwn]

The movie, "Barbie" shows about dismantling "Patriarchy" too. There is A LOT of propaganda in movies, TV, and advertisements. They make us out to somehow be controlling and crappy; yet at the same time we're supposedly dumb, bumbling, ignorant, and stupid. They can't have it both, quite honestly. AND... much of it is seriously overexaggerated, etc.

[@noyanerermis4439]

I was taken aback when I saw the views and sub count because of the quality of this video. Measured, concise, insightful. Well done. Subbed.

[@UmightBwrong]

I agree. I noticed the same thing. This guy deserves more popularity.Solid content and actually some good practical suggestions. He will need to use some more click-baitey methods to drive viewers to his channel. Perhaps be a bit more controversial and comment current events. Sadly you have to sell out a bit to get popular.

[@Rymorin4]

He will be more popular next year. This is quality content in a growing genre.

[@strisselstudios3932]

Ive spent most of my life as a disenfranchised young man. Very sedentary, very passive. Not an active participant in my own life. I had alot of trauma inflicted on me by my mother, but also myself. I only recently started taking actual care of mysef. Both mentally and physically. Starting to eat right. Stopped watching porn. Sleeping more. Sounds dumb, but I started meditation and guided breathing exercises and it actually helps with my daily stress at work. It makes me sad thinking of how much of my life has been wasted as a lifeless depressed zombie. But now I have goals that Im capable of setting for myself that give me a feeling of purpose, and my wife and 1 year old son continually give me a reason to live. Tldr; quit watching porn, log off the internet, better yourself, and your quality of life will be so much better. Us men (and everyone) are all in this together.

[@thisisfyne]

I used to be extremely passive as well. I did not really have any agency in the the first 16-17 years of my life, which were mostly controlled by my mother (who despite having great qualities is also very flawed in crucial ways). I didn't use to talk much or stand up for myself; I had to learn to. Now I'm well into my 30s and it's still hard for me to put my foot down to respect my boundaries and values. I'm dealing with anxiety, which in turn causes physical sickness, so now I'm trying to deal with my emotions in a proper, healthy way to hopefully get better. Just more learning to do. But I'm hopeful. As you said we're all in this together, and I even have to chance to have a loving, gentle girl to accompany me through all this. To anyone reading this: let's log off and quit our destructive habits. Let's try to be well adjusted men, attuned to our internal struggles and capable of opening up - but men still. We can do it. Now if you'll excuse me, I have some push ups to do.

[@_.zain._.]

that's marriage changing u. most of guys r single at 25-30.

[@colemeeker908]

Your videos are saving my life Connor. I can't thank you Enough!

[@IsaacBlencowe]

Love your work so much man. Had a huge impact on my life and share your content with other men. It's so powerful and needed right now 💪One thing I will say I notice you often say "Not trying to be conspiratorial" when discussing the masculinity agenda. And I agree there are many many exaggerated conspiracies. And I know you also don't want to be labeled a conspiracy theorist as this may prevent some men who really need your work and message from being open to it and receiving it. So I get that totally and respect that. However I do believe there is no denying that there is some form of agenda against men and masculinity as the powers that be know that having weak and domesticated men means that society can be more easily controlled and manipulated. As an element of the mature masculine is to stand up against injustice, through king and warrior archetypes. That's why we are seeing masculinity being attacked on all fronts biologically, emotionally, spiritually and archetypaly. They do not want strong men its a threat to their power structure and control. I do also agree there are natural elements to this i.e women being oppressed for a long time. This is playing a part too. But I do believe there is no denying there is an agenda against men and masculinity that is completely by design and not by accident. I don't believe in wasting time getting too caught up in conspiracies. That will not help the world and add further to fear and confusion that is so rampant right now in society. I do however believe it is important that every man (and women for that matter) informs themselves on what is really going on in the world. And doesn't shy away from it or try to deny it. There are power structures keeping humanity controlled and manipulated. That's an undeniable fact. There are also natural cause and effect social aspects at play too. And why work like yours is so important 👌 Keep it up man.

[@gturcott1]

The war on being a strong confident man continues

[@Smartih]

So true, I’ve watched and read some surveys sharing your informations

[@user-lb1fl7sh8m]

Lets be Honest with ourselves, why to give our time and effort and energy to someone who don't want to be with us or play games or just want attention?? That means you don't value your time and your self. There is 100000000 people out there don't get obsessed with one that don't like you back. Come on, there are people out there that they would do anything to be with you. Keep Focusing on your self and never share too much with someone you just know so little. Take Everything Step By Step and collect in the beginning don't connect !

[@warriorspath4757]

I like your video, and think you are on the right track. Would enjoy seeing more like this. I work in schools. I recently moved to an Elementary School, with an all female staff, and the boys are not doing well. Being assertive is treated as violence. There is no more "boys will be boys". Boys need to play quietly, and never disagree. Never raise your voice (even outside), and do not get dirt or muddy. The quote "boys are defective girls", rings true to my experience. It all seems to be about being compliant and obedient. It looks like a busy year of helping boys, be boys. Thank you for your videos, the world needs them right now. Enjoy WP

[@peterhel1077]

That school environment sounds just awful

[@BradHackett]

Thank you for the video. I made the decision 11/1 in an effort to simplify my life and avoid temptation to completely delete social media. It has gotten to the point that any platform I'm tired of being tempted of thirst traps of adult-stars on every platform, not matter how hard you try being thrown in your face, along with endless advertisements to buy crap I don't need. At the end of the day, not value-add to the path of being a better Man that I strive to be.

[@samuelzparkerz]

I’m glad you brought up the economy, no one ever does in this category of “man talks”. Great stuff 👏

[@UnusualandCruel]

Connor, this is absolutely true. If your life is easy, you aren't trying hard enough.

[@jamalshabazz9090]

This message is so timely. Men, we need to take our stance as men and step proudly into our masculinity!

[@killajedi907]

Appreciate you Connor!

[@Retiredmagician1]

Great video and well said

[@Iamajn316]

Great episode

[@bils0n]

Pretty much nailed it 👍 what a world to live in

[@fabians.2864]

Great work again...totally agree on that we have to live on our edge to feel connected to our masculinity

[@colterthompson6846]

My ex tried telling me being a simp was a good thing!

[@dekzzx]

Simping is extremely destructive behavior, all the worst disasters I've experienced in my life when i was younger and witnessed in the lives of my friends were almost always the result of a series of simping behaviors that lead to a huge mess and disaster.

[@QuebuyaStudio]

Thank you I appreciate this topic

[@shaunthompson6849]

This is a fantastic video. Thank you for your work!

[@normanmerritt1395]

I think you are on to something here bro. I feel the pain.

[@mattemenheiser6911]

Id love to hear more about how stress impacts our t levels. I think i heard alison Armstrong talk about it but could never find the interview again.

[@thisisfyne]

I think it's a difficult subject, because it's true that historically men have not been the best at dealing with emotions in a healthy way (I can attest to that) leading to concepts like "toxic masculinity" which in some real way *could* help men understand that there are better, less destructive ways to deal with the hardships of life. Unfortunately the concept has been twisted beyond recognition by hardcore feminist (the anti-men ones) and generally progressive movements to basically imply that *all* typically manly traits are toxic, as a way to elevate womanhood to a higher (or even superior) status, and indeed retaliate against some (real or perceived) historical norm. And there's no balance in this. We don't talk about "toxic feminity" ever, it's quite a one sided conversation nowadays; men are put under scrutiny but women get a free pass at a lot of things that would *never* be ok if the roles were reversed. It creates a skewed, unjust perception of what should be true equality imo. Finally, I think the latest trend of claiming that "gender is a social construct" is also a complete delusion that attempts even further to deconstruct what is innate to men, yes, but even to both genders. The confusion in massive nowadays, almost to a point where it's impossible to discuss manhood and womanhood rationally, because the truths of nature and biology have been eroded too much. All this to say, I think men suffer in silence a LOT and the current western tendency to want to abolish traditional manhood is a clear detriment not only to men's mental health, but also to a harmonious functioning society free of labels, lies, or gross generalizations.

[@quietstorm46]

There is no balance because for so long women were and still seen as tools to help men. The big pushback from women has always having to plead that we are actually human beings. If there was a time in history where a law said it is ok for women to beat their husbands I guarantee that men will still be talking about it. Men are selling their daughters and using physical dominance to bring fear to those who speak out against it. So instead of being upset at the mistreatment of women you get upset with the women(feminist) who were affected by the harm. I feel like the term “simp” is used by men who still are attached to dehumanizing women and want to discourage other men from letting go of the toxic ideals. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a simp for the ones you love. What’s attractive to women is when a man has the courage to adopt purpose to becoming enlightened caring man. Aka Simps

[@_.zain._.]

​@@quietstorm46 hey lady, respectfully, simping is not a healthy thing, because it literally means giving everything to a woman with whom u have zero chance with. loving someone is different. simping is destructive.

[@stuartmc18]

I’m pleased to say that within my relationship, my contribution to domestic chores is the grand total of fuck all. Let me reiterate that. It’s fuck all. 🤣

[@jafoot7559]

The best thing that has come out of feminism is men’s support systems have grown greatly. I wish I had this advice back in the 90’s but also I wish I had a support system that I could go to with these issues. Men typically don’t mentor each other because we’re in constant competition with one another So by default we listened to women

[@maazzzaa]

"A woman simply is, but a man must become." - Camille Paglia

[@mrsherwood2599]

The second wave feminists came up with some gems. Third wave not. So. Much.

[@jinnantonix4570]

I need some advice. I have a female colleague who I have discovered is behaving very badly toward others, in particular she is emasculating her husband, and forming emotional relationships with men that she keeps secret from her husband. She is not being a good woman. I have tried to tell her that I don't have the same values, but she has now de-friended me. She is being narcissistic, focusing on maintaining admirers, and she rejects those like me who would call her out. I have apologised (being an bit of simp), but she doesn't want anything to do with me, and I think she has lost respect for me, which is not good for our work relationship. I am keen to change the structure of the relationship where I am more assertive. What behaviours should I convey?

[@Maxx________]

Let her business be her business. Focus on yourself and be ok with that

[@giada0ghw]

If she is just a colleague and not a friend and you don't even know her husband, just don't bring up personal matters in a work environment. I would also say that she might have felt strongly grudged by you, and maybe (I am going to suppose you are right.. which I don't know because I don't know either of you) she is just ashamed and very uneasy around you. Probably she just don't want to feel judged in a work environment about a personal matter.. I read your comment si from 4 months ago I am wondering how are things now?

[@jinnantonix4570]

@@giada0ghw Thanks for your insights. She was a colleague first, been working very closely together for 10 years (she is sales, and I am her technical presales support). In the last 4 years we became very close friends, texting daily, and talking openly about our private lives. She was telling everyone that we were best friends, and I agreed. She revealed to me that she wanted to separate from her husband (he can’t get a good job, and she is the bread-winner, so she has lost respect for him), but she needs him around to look after their 3 young kids. She has emasculated him by banishing him to the spare room. She also told me that she dreams of a Prince Charming who will sweep her away. I had been supportive, as I know the marriage break-up is hard on her. However recently she said she wanted to have an affair with a handsome, charming guy we both know, but who is untrustworthy, and I know only wants to sleep with her. I believed as a good friend I should advise her to not have a secret affair, and be honest with her husband. Also, I warned her off the new guy, he would never be a supportive lover. But she did not want this advice, and ended our friendship. I said I was sorry for hurting her feelings, but that I stand by my advice as a good friend, and I still wanted to be friends, but she said definitely no. For the last 4 months we have kept maximum possible distance from each other. Unfortunately she has sidelined me with customers, shown me some disrespect, and management has noticed, so trouble is brewing. I would make up with her tomorrow if she let me, but I stand by my advice, so it’s not going to happen.

[@jinnantonix4570]

@@giada0ghw Thanks for your insights. She was a colleague first, been working very closely together. In the last 4 years we became very close friends, texting daily, and talking openly about our private lives. She was telling everyone that we were best friends, and I agreed. She revealed to me that she wanted to separate from her husband (he can’t get a good job, and she is the bread-winner, so she has lost respect for him), but she needs him around to look after their 3 young kids. She has emasculated him by banishing him to the spare room. I had been supportive, as I know the marriage break-up is hard on her. However recently she said she wanted to have an affair with a handsome, charming guy we both know, but who is untrustworthy, and I know only wants to sleep with her. I believed as a good friend I should advise her to not have a secret affair, and be honest with her husband. Also, I warned her off the new guy, as he would never be a supportive lover. But she did not want this advice, and ended our friendship, so obviously she wasn’t the person I thought she was. For the last 4 months we have kept maximum possible distance from each other. Unfortunately she has sidelined me with customers, shown me some disrespect, so things are not going well. I do not see an easy resolution.

[@jinnantonix4570]

@@giada0ghw We were colleagues who became very close friends- she told everyone that we were best friends, and I agreed. She said she wanted to separate from her husband (he can’t get a good job, she is the bread-winner, so she has lost respect for him), but she needs him to care for their 3 young kids. She has emasculated him by banishing him to the spare room. I had been supportive, as I know the marriage break-up is hard on her. However recently she told me privately she wanted to have an affair with a handsome, charming guy we both know, but who I know only wants sex. As a good friend I advised her to not have this secret affair. But she did not want this advice, and ended our friendship, so obviously she wasn’t the person I thought she was. For the last 4 months we have kept maximum possible distance from each other. Unfortunately she has sidelined me with customers, shown me some disrespect, so things are not going well. I do not see an easy resolution.

[@tomasr64]

Simping? I see it on social media all the time. Guys send all the emojis and reactions to "beauty" and its a joke. Dudes, the women are just seeking attention and likes!

[@JewTube001]

[@sashangovender5327]

@17:00 You can argue that slavery was a challenging environment, but I know a lot of descendants of slaves who are not stronger because of it. They still exist with a slave survival mentality sucking up to their masters. Therefore, it's not always the case that an adverse or challenging environment makes strong men. What people learn in a challenging environment is how to survive. And how to survive varies, and sometimes having an innocuous safe pleasant accommodating unthreatening slave mind that bows to the master and says 'yes sir' is more advantageous for survival than being a tough resilient fighting man who stands by his values and says 'no' a lot, because those types of men are killed faster by their masters.

[@ssing7113]

Heard a podcast from Chris love island guy 😂 Lady was talking about men’s roles were to show kid how to interact in life such as taking him to the market when mom was at home with newborn new kid We’re missing this from a young age with single moms. Dad didn’t get to play the role he needed showing and teaching his kid behavior. Social dynamics. Life experience. Meet and greet. Point out things And yea there is some crap men. No excusing that. Yet makes me wonder if they didn’t have their father as well in their life if they are the one who dipped out and not woman. Also can be said in a circle of blame game. Women didn’t vet the man wisely before “juicing the lemon” 😂

[@user-lb1fl7sh8m]

If you dont know who you are , your self worth nobody can give that !

[@MrBurns.]

A simp is a guy who follows, orbits, and gives things to women they have zero chance with, with the hopes of eventually getting something from them.

[@LorenzoMasterConnector]

The craziest thing ever is that even if you do land a woman and have your act together sperm counts are low and some people can’t seem to procreate. This is an issue we all need to talk more about

[@Ibeturhot42069]

Why would you sacrifice yourself for a woman? Divorce court isn't something any man should tolerate my guy

[@Rymorin4]

Good shit eh miroki

[@BarneSneigel]

i appreciate your videos. but where it the quotation for your arguments?

[@HeavyMetalisLaw]

4:37 It was Rollo Tomassi, not Chris Williamson who brought that phrase to the public.

[@shinobirising8196]

I thought this whole video offered excellent advice right up to the point where it was suggested that men throw themselves into approaching womwn and learning to face rejection and adversity. That is a very, very dangerous proposal in this modern era, especially with an incresibgly vocal segment of women who are now saying that they don't want men to even LOOK at them, let alone approach and speak. You would only need to see what has happened in fitness centers, where men are hyper alert to the risk of being accused of any number of things, and so they avoid and ignore women. The burden of changing this dynamic CANNOT be placed at the feet of men, as men did not create it. A man approaching any woman puts himself in very real legal and physical jeopardy. Also, the idea that self-improvement will yield better results with women is only partly true, particularly in the west. Self-improvement may increase man's chances of finding willing sex partners, and it may make him a fiscally attractive target, but as to whether any of those options would benefit the man? The chances are very, very slim. Any self-imprpvemebt a man would do would need to be strictly for his own benefit, without concern for who may or may not be pressed. I also noticed a part at the end where it was stated that "life was not meant to be easy". I don't personally know of many men who expect or even have the luxury of thinking that life should be easy. I also think it is extremely important that every man learn to discern what hills to die on, and when to choose to fight another day on another hill. A man who chooses to disengage from dysfunction, malice or toxicity, is NOT by any means a quitter or lacking in gravitas. It is pointless to try and shame men for not walking into situations that they know offer them virtually no good.

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Puhleeze, talking to a woman or asking her questions isn’t a crime, I do it all the time. If they don’t like, whatevs, move on

[@shinobirising8196]

@@CallsItLikeISeizeIts You're right. It isn't a crime. But a woman saying she felt harassed by you approaching, that CAN be litigated and treated as a crime, and that's just a fact. There are plenty of examples of men who simply approached a woman, and were treated like a criminal for it. Not to mention that the message saturating modern media is that women do not want to be approached by men because "it's creepy".

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

@@shinobirising8196 not where I live🫠

[@Chae88]

It’s actually from pimp culture.. it’s a conjunction word made from soft pimp.

[@Frogman1212]

No it isn't. I was saying simp to mean simpleton when I was a kid.

[@Myview246]

I thought it derived from Gimp from Pulp Fiction

[@inuhundchien6041]

I disagree with your title. The content doesn't say modern men become simps, the content actually talk about how modern men become feminine. These are two different things. In my opinion, some men are simps regardless of time and culture, while some men will never be one. For example, I read about the ancient courtesans in China and some men will spend thousands just for a smile. Is that not a simp? For example, Dante simped so hard for a married woman he wrote her as angel into his Divine Comedy. Also too many literature on simping men from Lancelot in King Arthur, Pip in Great Expectations, Gatsby in Great Gatsby. Simping is deemed romantic and cultured.

That’s absolutely a great point. And I think all those media, including literature, push the idea of simping. Not just for men, but for women as well.

[@greeneking77]

0:17 pretty sure it comes from the word "sympathetic" and "sympathy"

[@Thebigdogg616]

Talks sense 🤌

[@gorge464]

I started this thinking, "oh man we're about to go incel." then by the end I was like, "Nah he makes good points. I was wrong."

[@xDiananas]

I always wonder if actual simps listen to these kind of videos… Are there any testimonies of « ex-simps »? Would love to hear all the process from being a simp and then getting out of « it ».

[@steph6109]

This is a great commentary on men's ills. It'd really improve your presentation to explain the reason for women's responses to men, so your viewers could know how to bypass the triggers that cause women to be feminist a and recoil at the patriarchy (philosophy, not individual men) I also wonder if sperm counts are partly secondary to men not having access to women to flirt with and unconsciously mark as 'theirs' may and therefore produce higher levels of sperm as part of sexual competition. Women have a similar thing where libido ( life energy) drops when they're not around 'sexually viable' or accessible men. Either way I'm glad to have found you, to pass onto my male cousins.

[@user-lm2vs1sl3v]

I have given my wife everything she wanted, including moving to a different country, away from my family and friends. Nothing is enough for her.

[@causticmain5002]

The fact that all this shit is so consistently and completely inextricably linked to a certain group of people that helplessly try to stop the noticing will never not be funny to me.

[@R0NThaDon]

Just be yourself. Don’t try to be like a woman and don’t try to be a man. Just do you. But don’t ever cry in front of your girlfriend. She’ll be as dry as a desert.

[@user-lb1fl7sh8m]

it was not to meant to be easy

[@justinjex1]

May I suggest to men that do not have an outlet for exercise and stress reduction, to try Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. It has been very helpful for me. Highly addictive in a good way.

[@joshalar7899]

There is no straight woman that “doesn’t want a man” she just doesn’t want to admit she won’t settle for anything less than a 6’ 10, Olympic athlete astronaut billionaire.

[@psikeyhackr6914]

Hasn't the automobile industry been domesticating men with Muscle Cars for decades? The real power is Money not the crapmobiles but thinking that far ahead is not Macho.

[@Scottieguru]

Capitalism likes to itemize and label everything. Don't give a fuck about labels. Live your life alone. Be alone. Enjoy your life and fuck Capitalism. Adventure. Wander. Create and meditate, write and sing, travel and discover.

[@kd9419]

Taking away mens spaces

[@GregtheGrey6969]

SIMP-SONs

[@behelertrespass7002]

Why make a video about simps and not talk about them? Lol

[@DT175Enduro]

Who cares what the world thinks. I get my cues from the Word of God. All this evaluating culture is a waste of energy, except to be conscious of the fact it is happening.

[@Jer20.9]

This world and the devil wants to take down everything God has established, like male headship, marriage, fatherhood, I would say it's on track for the end times.

[@underrideproductions]

The simpsons

[@behelertrespass7002]

Another flop, can you give any more of generic advice? Not only was the 3/4 just a blackpill video but you just gave the same advice every video. Will it kill you to acutally acknowledge that the other 50% of the pop has a hand in this?

[@habddz]

Sperm count being halved issue is hugely overblown. you could easily just blow it in 2x to 4x to make up for it. People today lives 2x to 3x longer than people 100-1000 years ago. so sperm count has zero impact to health and life expectancy. Blaming society is also hugely overblown. SImp-ification of men is not a society problem, its the individual problem.

[@justwatching8357]

Social media, onlyfans, pornography, are targeted attacks not simply individual problems.

[@iAmCodeMonkey]

@@justwatching8357 Except no one forces these upon you. You can simply ignore them and move on with your life.

[@justwatching8357]

@@iAmCodeMonkeythat’s irrelevant, he’s saying there are societal pressures and he’s right. Nobody forces you to do anything but they can try their hardest to manipulate you into doing something

[@Nik-up5pd]

This is honestly such an unintelligent take tbh. A) Obviously everyone is responsible for their own life- big part of being a man generally B) If a particular issue/issues are effecting the majority of men in the world; then by default society plays a role in that. Such an unrealistic perspective of the world. If “simp-ification of men is an individual problem”, yet it applies to most men- by default it’s a societal issue lmao… meaning that there’s issues with society to a degree & also it’s an issue that is relevant to society as a whole.

[@ssing7113]

We’re actually dying younger now

[@BitchChill]

I got so desperate on bumble that I decided to swipe right on every girl and still got no matches. That falls under simpirey I believe

[@iAmCodeMonkey]

Stop using those shitty dating apps, first of all. They aren't worth it, and only serve to waste your time for 99% of men on them. Second, swiping right on every hot chick you see is pretty much the definition of simping, try not to look so desperate. Seriously, be more selective with your choices when finding a mate. Have some standards for yourself. You will be happier in the long run, if she isn't crazy that is. Most women usually are nice enough, be very wary of the ones who don't treat you with basic respect for things beyond your control. Third, if you meet a woman and the only way she is dating men is from an app and hasn't actually had a relationship in years, be careful. Trust me.

[@BitchChill]

@@iAmCodeMonkey Get off dating apps then do what? It's how most young people meet now. Having higher standards would be good in theory, but in reality I don't have any choices, so I can't afford to be picky

[@inuhundchien6041]

Maybe stop simping on cartoon girls in the first place. OR find girls who simp on cartoon boys thus you both understand each other's degeneracy.