The Simple Reason Why The Narcissist Will Always Discard You

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

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[@nss6048]

Thank you. You nailed the reason for the discard. It does happen. They cannot sustain healthy relationships.

[@MegaRockstar48]

They discard when you start to question their motives and stop conforming to the box they have tried to put you in. They seek easily supply, not a normal loving relationship

[@Sam-oh3je]

The "discard" is a huge BLESSING and should be treated as such! It is God removing evil from your life and protecting you🙏🙏🙏

[@lookingforwisdom-t6p]

Wish I had taken it as one, had dozens of chances but got deeper and deeper enmeshed legally, emplomentallly financially, paternally. And of course as a father when they finally have you where they want you they pull the cord and your kids home money and work are down the pan almost overnight as the law is so rigged for mothers

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

They love to discard when you're at your lowest point and not easily recover. Then when you're healing here they come all smiley, like nothing ever happened. 🙂

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Sickeningly true analogy

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

@@MJ-qb5ph It's especially sickening at the moment you realize what's happening. Though by then it's usually too late. 🙂

[@paulothx138]

Yeah, this hurts like there is no tomorrow, bro.

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

@@paulothx138 You're right about that. When you start healing and narcs start slowly chipping away, it causes more damage. It's hard to see, as they pose as your friend, yet their your worst enemy. 🙂

[@agitpop80]

So true!

[@serataylor772]

Mine is a covert narcissist. He kept saying "I love you, I love you" after the cold, cruel discard. He said "I love you" while threatening to destroy me financially and evict me and our pets from our house. He's insane and abusive and continues to say "I love you". It would be so confusing if I didn't know exactly who he is: a lying, manipulating, gaslighting narcissist.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

I did the Discard--i got to the stage where i couldn't handle anymore

[@nabeninja5718]

You are ABSOLUTELY right about how you have to respond to them in a certain way. I recall a time that she would get EXTREMELY angry at me if I called her by her name. She said, "I hate the way you say my name". We were on honeymoon, a time to celebrate and yet she found ways to argue at me for everything. The discard is your "get out of jail free" card. Use it, heal yourself, and move on. I just motioned for divorce not 3 days ago. I read somewhere, the worse thing about being married to a narc is divorcing one. Thank you for all your wonderful content!

[@robertataylor5794]

Hang in there, we are with you in spirit. You are not alone.

[@Shaddddi]

Thanks again Melanie. This is pretty much exactly what happened to me. But I took the time, healed and I'm doing great now. I just want to say my health has improved in a transformational way since then and to anybody out there wondering if you're dying/crazy or both. Test the theory and completely excise the N from your life for good and prioritise your healing. Then you can sit back and watch your life transform before your very eyes. Remember everybody- you do deserve to be happy and healthy and to be with other happy and healthy people

[@kimberlybrowndiaz9293]

discarded today out the blue..... was together a year.. never saw this coming

[@beemonroe4330]

Omg, they will drive you nuts. Just run away… 🤮

[@wendyhandley9463]

You have such a wonderful, caring, trustworthy, way of explaining things and how you can overcome the pain and hopelessness you feel when in an abusive relationship.

[@chrisboyd4706]

Honestly my experience with my ex years ago back in 2018 has made me remain single ever since November 2018 when she left me, I remember trying so hard to be desirable to her like how she first treated me when we first met.. but no matter how much I tried to be the very best version of a man for her, she would undercut me first she said I was very handsome but then stopped affection and stopped sleeping with me telling me she's not physically attracted to me, she said she wanted to have children with me but then took it back saying she was nervous her children would not had red hair like her if she had children with me... that really hurt my feelings when she said that because she really sold me a dream that someone finally wanted to start a family with me and then boom took it back. Then got me to get involved with her family very fast and i have to admit i felt very welcomed but as soon as she started to change and act differently with me i found myself trying to hold things together because i wanted to remain apart of the family in some way idk that may seem wierd but i almost felt addicted to being apart of them because she started me off very early getting to know them all. And when she left me she said I had my insecurities.. but I feel that's unfair because of her putting so many fears into me about not being good enough I don't see how anybody could feel happy and confident being treated that way.

[@sadiemoreno3642]

I have dealt with hearing that he’s not attracted to me sexually and made me feel like I’m not good enough. I feel as though I’m an attractive woman and no real reason for him to reject me. I plan on staying single too. The discard has been too much and I know o can’t give a real relationship to anyone else.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

There cruelty has no limit. Unfortunately I think they are always on the lookout for new supply. They just get bored very quickly, they are literally like a child with a new toy, at first its everything to them then they want a new one, doesn't matter what you look like. Its just how their brains work. Its really cruel and hard for normal loving people to understand.

[@ta_nimal2023]

Imagine how she would treat your future children. Dont do it.

[@loulou9978]

I felt I was an intense battle with the narcissist for my very soul!! I escaped after 35 years and I’m finally free. No contact!!!! Spirit lead the way

[@Grrrrrrr123]

I’m in the process thirty years here too. 🙏

[@Truthmender]

The best way to leave is to tell them you have met with family/ friends and the police and it's best you leave..do not tell them where you are going and then stay no contact...they won't bother you ,..they are too busy with their selfies and future suppliers to worry about finding you..it's too much work for them

[@gojiberry7201]

My best friend of 11 years literally dropped me one day and I never heard from him again. I figure it's because he found someone better, a romantic partner, who I know was suffering. I thought it was my fault for YEARS.

[@beemonroe4330]

They’re insane…

[@ronch550]

God will also discard them when the time comes. And when God discards, He REALLY discards!!

[@xhen12]

Melanie you really are an angel , watching your videos is the only thing that helps. You really understand how narcissism works and the horrible way they make you feel. But it’s also really great that you have a positive outlook and and high vibration.

[@rabbiberelscharf8585]

Hi Melanie! I just show the narcissists in my life the door and tell them they can leave whenever they want because I don't need them! Wonderful video! Be well and all the best!!

[@SonyCamry]

my ex was planninh a future with me then out of no where i reaalised they were cheating when i confronted them they just deleted me as if i meant nothing to them i feel like i got thrown away

[@laurabeaux1622]

We were buying a home together, three kids, 13 years..

[@lesleyella]

After this discard, I feel he won't come back. I keep having dreams every night sometimes nice ones. so annoying!

[@aimane3375]

Melanie did the fight with narcissist feel like a real spiritual battle where you just can’t rest?

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Aimane, it absolutely is a spiritual battle with the narcissist. May I suggest my video on breaking the energetic ties to the narcissist? I go a lot deeper into it here in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJyqpYCGgq-kgrc

[@aimane3375]

@@MelanieToniaEvans i appreciate it Melanie, right in the time of need! I think its almost over for me!’ I got my mom beat!

[@IllDawgable]

I got discarded during the 3rd week of dating. She had already found a new supply and my mistake was questioning the suspicious things she posted on whatsapp status. She didn't want to tell me because she wanted to use me financially but I guess I don't deserve to voice out any discomfort I may feel. She quickly devalued and discarded in 2 days. Currently on 19 days of no contact.

[@cy551]

You nailed it! I listened and studied related information, you so far the best one who really understood the both side minds! Thank you so much for helping me finally complete the last piece of this puzzle. It’s an expensive lesion for me but it will help me grow stronger.

[@angelnative9267]

Must read! Dangerous personalities by Joe Naverow.

[@VaswatiDeb]

Wow each words you say are true with my ex . Happened to me. Break up make up cycle. I had Panick attack many times because I can’t deal with the mental pressure

[@paulothx138]

What an amazing video, thank you.

[@David..j777]

spot on narrative

[@Lulu-nn8mg]

Great explanation

[@stormieblonde]

Holy crap you are so good

[@deb2319]

Awesome Video!

[@FMD-gm7cj]

Is there any average timeframe from discard to Hoover attempts?

[@jaclynlee6386]

12:50 ❤️

[@Shirley-t9b]

My maligant narcissist because i wouldnt speek to him. I knew he was cheeting and he was with multiple the whole marrage flying monkeys neighbour upstairs he was going with he bought in my home she was talking to him he never spoke to her. When she went i told him i. Going he begged me not to go hos family member was coming he got worried he wanted me to go out with him i thought he was going to kill me . I waited till he went out next day and left he stalked 100mile from him i got police when seen car . He wouldnt sighn divorce papers i sent papers to his sister him and his mother cause he wouldnt sighn .he the monster beet me so bad when i told supply i could not walk for 13 days no food i near died i had young child. The upstairs monkey he had was trying to get me jailed. Cant say no more it gets worse .

[@hemicuda123ify]

You should preface every one of your videos by telling these women to look for a good man.... and not worry about how much money he has or how many toys he has or how big his retirement account is or how easy it might be to get to his money.... Or my favorite one.... Your house isn't big enough the lake it's on isn't nice enough and your boat isn't big enough..... Told to me by a local news anchor lady I was dating... Women are every bit as capable of being a narcissist don't forget that.

[@loulou9978]

Honesty and kindness is worth more than any amount of money

[@autumn5852]

Just out of curiosity, has anybody on here spotted the covert narcissist that is Johnny Depp?

[@Buttercup-vw2zo]

Yep

[@autumn5852]

@@Buttercup-vw2zo 👍🏽

[@autumn5852]

@@Buttercup-vw2zo he’s managed to fool millions of people into thinking he’s this meek and mild, shy, quiet, introverted, very private victim type person when nothing about his life is consistent with that image but nobody can see that, they just buy into the image he’s given them

[@zoeleaf]

I think you can tell who’s experienced narcissistic abuse by who isn’t supporting him. He’s fooled the world and proved that anyone can be fooled by them.

[@lookingforwisdom-t6p]

Struck me they were about 50/50 a match made in hell, quite glad he stood up to her but they both seemed very narcissitic

[@hemicuda123ify]

It may not be as prevalent but women do exactly the same thing to men don't pretend like men are the only ones that participate in this.

[@gailc3241]

I am sure they must Chris. My daughter does it to me, so I have no doubt she does it to the men in her life.

[@marierose6792]

Narcissism is known to statistically being now 50/50 with a growing female population.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

I think Chris stereotypes still see many assigning the outward overt traits like Donald trump to the make narc and while female narcs can be far more covert and cruel men may not know how to even deal with such abuse never mind reporting that such a meek vulnerable Christian martyr victim blah blah almost drove him (in my case me) to suicide - everyone thought I was nuts - me included - I hear you