The social anxiety playbook: Defeat your demons | Big Think

[@bigthink]

What's your favorite approach to overcome social anxiety?

[@likael5606]

Mindfullness's the best way that've already tried in all my life, but it's hard to keep focusing on that when you're speaking with someone that you really love.

[@SadamBober]

Nice, a video about social anxiety >you've all had that moment where you're dancing at a bar . . .

[@ForAnAngel]

Doesn't really sound like something a person with social anxiety would want to do in the first place, does it?

[@diegowushu]

It's because that dumbass was talking about shyness, not patological anxiety (S.A.D.)

[@lucky-mud]

@@diegowushu I've got the SAD

[@lkt7812]

For me, the key was to recognize my fear of change, explained in "The Anti-anxiety Formula by Duncan Holder" and since I've rehearsed my responses the fear has evaporated.

[@PODSupplements]

I'm gonna check it out

[@umarkabli739]

Where can search this formula .I am curious

[@EngPMgt]

I’ll search this book 📖 thanks for sharing this information 👍🏽

[@J4ckCr0w]

You must not care what others think, only when you are yourself can you be happy.

[@1fty]

I don't understand the negative comments. I found this video to be helpful and super practical. Thanks!

[@stillkickin3919]

Soanx has such strange triggers it can even start creeping in while just sitting alone watching a help video about it.

[@TheDhammaHub]

For anyone with severe social anxiety I can only recommend meditation as an antidote. Mindfulness meditation is so effective in combatting it, its really hard to believe sometimes. It equips you with the necessary tools to overcome anxiety whenever it arises, wherever you are.

[@amanofnoreputation2164]

The advise I get for this is, "Be more confidant" -- Which is so useless it's on the level of "If you're homeless, buy a house." It's like saying, "Just don't be socially anxious."

[@rakibulmahmud3253]

I am with the majority... This reduced my anxiety 😄👍

[@briancarnell]

"So, you've all had that moment where you're at a bar, you're maybe dancing a little bit, moving around." No, actually. Not sure when social anxiety meets/crosses over with general introversion. A therapist I saw many years ago recommended Elaine Aron's "The Highly Sensitive Person," which I found useful for my particular "social anxiety." None of the things in the video ring true. I don't worry about people judging, etc., rather I find interacting with people at, say, a bar, to be literally physically exhausting (whereas extroverts I know report the same interactions as being energizing/exhilarating). Aron's book wasn't life changing or anything, but it was a helpful perspective.

[@aaronlevario8653]

Fuck society and do what you want to do! We’re all being judged every single day in one form or another! Rise up, be proud of who you are and do what you want because they’ll judge you anyway! People shouldn’t have any power over any of us, Ever! Stop comparing and be the best you!

[@muskduh]

thanks for the video

[@Slimm2240]

Not once did I hear them talk about factors like environment or upbringings

[@2degucitas]

These young, male, life coaches are clueless about these things. They see life as simple fixes.

[@99niaalice]

That’s called trauma

[@TheaDragonSpirit]

It's not about getting acceptance, it's about not doing something which will upset them, and lead to conflict.

[@rohanghosh1499]

If you have Social Anxiety, you should expose yourself more to the Public.

[@necessaryevil455]

My social anxiety has nothing to do with anything they covered.

[@jayyykayyy]

isnt social anxiety fear based on other peoples perception of u?

[@zhsjsnsb6633]

They're talking about how to deal during the social interaction not the before and after

[@cantseeshadow]

You’re asking for more Anxiety when you classify them as Demons. Thats a double edged sword type of mentality. Its simple really. We fear things we don’t understand or aren’t used to. Solution? Identify your insecurities and forgive yourself for them, and accept them with open arms. Then, slowly do those things that make you uncomfortable.

[@Ryan-tk]

Idk if I agree with social anxiety being defined as the fear of negative judgement. I feel like sometimes people don't want to be judged period, even if it is positive. I don't know how many times I've shied away from social interaction even knowing my contribution would be welcome and appreciated.

[@wolfferoni]

That's interesting. Do you not want people to pay any kind of attention to you at all? If so, why is that? Some people don't like interacting with others and just hate people and all social interaction in general but they're not socially anxious. If you have social anxiety, you're anxious about something. What are you anxious about? What goes through your mind when you need to do things that make you anxious? Sometimes it can go so deep that you don't want any attention, even positive attention, because you don't like yourself or don't really believe you're worthy of attention and worry that although people say positive things, they aren't telling the truth or they'll find something they don't like about you eventually etc. It's still a fear of negative judgement from others though.

[@abishaicampbell2187]

Maybe because being judged positively forces you to live up to a positive expectation and thus you fear the failure of living up to that expectation.

[@OpenSourceCitizen]

Me too. IDK why. But consider that the reason the west has so many problems is because its culture, religions & gov is B.S. If people are enjoying your company or contribution, your probably perpetuating that. Imagine the extreme to get the implications, Nazi germany. Theres lots of old photos of nazis workers having a good time and laughing w/each other. If you said what people really need to feel, or how you feel, it wouldn't go well. But some people learn to say anything in a way that is well recieved. They are usually forced to become comedians.

[@darkninja___]

Two actual criteria (the Definition) of social anxiety disorder from the DSM-5: -Persistent, intense fear or anxiety about specific social situations because you believe you may be judged, embarrassed or humiliated. -Avoidance of anxiety-producing social situations or enduring them with intense fear or anxiety. I agree that I don’t think the anxiety always has that obvious of a source such as negative judgement. I have anxiety with anyone I talk to. I guess according to their explanation it’s because I am insecure around everyone I ever talk to? Idk, I don’t feel like that is true.

[@2degucitas]

You got it. Appraisal of others, good or bad, is fraught with emotional reaction. They examine you, make comments, you examine yourself and see a spotlight making you feel interrogated. The inner "what are they REALLY saying" goes nuts.

[@EyesOfByes]

Now is not the time to defeat social anxiety. It's time to embrase it. We are at the moment those who are saving the lives of millions by just doing what we've always done. Staying away from social gatherings with unknown people. Survival of the fittest. You're welcome, extroverts.

[@ForAnAngel]

Honestly, ever since I've had to stop interacting with people, I've been happier than I've ever been.

[@chrisjonesowns]

The only thing about this that actually helped me, was know that there are so many other people who suffer from these same problems. Humans are just not set up for modern day society.

[@TheaDragonSpirit]

The best way to deal with social anxiety is to believe everything will turn out good. Even if you screw up, and to not focus on the situation. To simply just flow and not over think everything. To do something to distract from that which makes you worry.

[@jasongr3219]

To overcome social anxiety, just understand that everyone else has flaws and inadequacies too, so don't care what they say or think unless it's directly effecting you. And if it does directly effect you, use their flaws against them because they're probably way worse than yours. Otherwise, show general respect and carry on.

[@Esrom_music]

No thanks. I'm perfectly comfortable with my social anxiety. I'm not trying to fit in or even be a part of society. Do your thing.

[@NupeAtl]

Ignore this. The answer you seek is within you. It's a mental tick. Everyone is different and your solution is unique. Test your own technique for removing it within a second when you recognize it. Remember, it's a mental tick. That means it has to be addressed internally. You can accomplish this within a day.

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Here are eight simple and effective ways to battle anxiety without medication: Shout it out. Talking to a trusted friend is one way to cope with anxiety. Get moving. Break up with caffeine. Give yourself a bedtime. Feel OK saying no. Don't skip meals. Give yourself an exit strategy. Live in the moment.

[@bladeswillxbleed]

This only works if you make just 1 more decision: namely, is what I want to do damaging to anyone? Humans fall prey to all kinds of damaging behaviors. Those kinds of actions will not be responded to desirability by yourself & peers further increasing stress & anxiety.

[@Abell_lledA]

One doesn’t experience self-transcendence, the illusion of self only dissipates. Non-Duality✌️

[@danieljbaily]

7:00 overthink it

[@daniileliseev9362]

I don't get the very basics of the views of these guys. So, one of the experts tells us that when we are not under stressful conditions, we behave like who we are without any shame. In contrast, if we feel threatened by an unknown judgement, we correct our behavior to fit in the frame. But what makes fear or anxiety "unnatural" or "unauthentic"? And how is happy, unrestricted self-expression is a more natural thing than anxiety? It is clear that things are actually contrary to those assumptions: if a person experiences a strike of social anxiety in public, it is a natural occurrence, because, literally, it came to that person naturally, without them planning that happening. On the contrary, if the person manages to deal with this anxiety, somehow tricking their brain into thinking that everything is okay, it is truly unnatural, because that person has consciously changed what came from the person's uncontrolled territory. Moreover, I think the way a person reacts to stressful conditions, be it with or without anxiety, is actually a part of their authenticity, given to them by Nature, and it should be properly respected. Dismissing your fears and anxieties because you want to seem to yourself more brave than you actually are is a wrong thing, and it may even be dangerous. We are brave at self-expression, but this is based only on assumption that other people respect the order of our society. But this is not always the case even in developed countries! Of course I don't want to say that we should live in constant fear, only that we should treat what happens in our mind more carefully and analytically. Perhaps, if your lizard brain warns you, it might have figured out something that your consciousness haven't!

[@XionosOrigin]

What do I want to do right now? Laugh at the absurdity of social norms in motion during the conversations I have while mocking them... likely with a cartoon voice.

[@umarkabli739]

ACP wow

[@darkninja___]

I am doing it because I want to. I want to, because I think people will like it. Checkmate atheist.

[@kar015]

do strength training...

[@darkninja___]

Hell, do it even if you don’t have social anxiety

[@dasanji90]

All I got are angels hehe

[@Audiojunkk]

Big Think love these compilation videos you are doing. Just a heads up you may want to curate your advertising more carefully as one for something called “Gaia” was at the top of this vid. Talking about how he’s descended from a race of Giants from the city of Atlantis....😳 doesn’t exactly fill a potential viewer with confidence about your channel 😂

[@briancarnell]

This is a channel that has run videos on why people should read fewer books. An ad for a guy who is descended from a race of giants from Atlantis seems completely on target.

[@1979ce]

Big think is failing. Fear is overcome by face it. So what is this video about?

[@invox9490]

If you move around using Public Transportation, you NEED social anxiety. Otherwise, you're just rude.

[@TheDeltaChannel]

Literally 99% wont see this but if you do, Stay motivated , stay safe and Follow your dreams😀 My Dream is to have a lot of people see my videos . I've been struggling to get there💙

[@EyesOfByes]

The Delta Channel Nice video editing, nice graphics, shameless self promotion☺️ Well played 👍🏻

[@Imagination_xxx]

Anyone likes Science and Technology?

[@jishan763]

Yeah 😊

[@Imagination_xxx]

@@jishan763 Then you will love the videos I made

[@Talkinglife]

How to Overcome Your Social Anxiety Try a self-help manual. Self-help manuals are designed to supplement therapy, but they're also good tools for working on your own, Weeks said. ... Work with a therapist. ... Practice deep breathing every day. ... Create an exposure hierarchy. ... Create objective goals. ... Keep a rational outlook.