the solution is a controversial Bible verse...

[@BiblicalBookworm]

Clarification regarding what I tried to say at 0:45: there are many men who claim that we live in a matriarchy/woman's world. How can this be a woman's world if women have so many inherent biological disadvantages? The truth is that we live in a world where both men and women have their own struggles and we could all use some mutual empathy. ❤

[@vonmusel6158]

it's called "she economy", it is the woman's world and increasingly so. Women are stuck seeing men as "top predators" and thus feel little or no compassion for them

[@Matthew-zu6tm]

The easiest answer to that would be the following conditions. 1. We in the west live in a representative democracy. Meaning that elections by majority rule. 2. There are more women alive and of voting age than there are of men. 3. Women make up the majority of primary custody, as well as teachers, administration and more than ever higher positions due to affirmative action. So. What we have here is a recipe for young men in particular. Who were raised by single mothers, who never had male teachers, who never saw anyone who they could relate to in any meaningful way until they graduate high school. Absolutely zero good role models in public media all the while being told they don't have problems. They ARE THE PROBLEM.

[@davesnowdon3869]

@@Matthew-zu6tm Your comment is very informative, thanks.

[@mikedavid3087]

We don't live in a matriarchy, but we do live in a feminist dominated society. All of the West is, but particularly the U.S. and certain parts of Western Europe. A feminist dominated society means a society in which the culture and judicial system are biased towards women in certain very pronounced and demonstrable ways. Further clarification and addressing points in your video that were either misleading or incorrect factually can be seen in my comment separately.

[@TheShifter1001]

@@BiblicalBookworm the 20th century opened the floodgates for sin between the Enlightenment and the Industrial Revolution, men started to normalize offenses to God. Prior to this time, fear of God was always at the forefront of a lot of men’s minds. Due to this “open endorsement” of sin(divorce and re-marriage, substance abuse, laziness etc.) men in turn become very nice as that that’s exactly what sin does… It makes us nice. When men are nice they allow themselves to be ruled by anyone as the inordinate satisfaction of pleasure does not only dull our sense of objectivity but if we were to stand up against certain injustices we would essentially be hypocrites. This leads to the current intersexual dynamics between men and women as when the men become weak women no longer have a *STRONG* reverence for God and his authority but rather just seeing him as the creator and that’s it. This trickles down into how women see men too as well as objectively speaking women should have a slight reverence for their father’s, husbands men in their community etc. (Men love their wives. Women respect their husbands) But that can’t happen if women do not see the resilience and reverence for God in men first.

[@mrkiky]

Fun fact: men still do all the protecting and providing, it's just done indirectly through the state as a proxy. This is why women stopped appreciating men.

[@sebastianshine4262]

this.

[@Kontingency_Operations]

This is the natural result of an egalitarian voting system. Women make up the majority of voters, thus they vote for the state to take on the role of 'protector and provider' while fundamentally failing to understand the macroeconomics at play. Then civilization ends.

[@handyman1016]

Which is why the 19th Amendment and its Repeal is so important.

[@CYBER_FunkER]

I as a man don't feel safe walking around at night either. Guess what I do, I don't walk around at night.

[@KillerofGods]

That makes too much sense, you should try do it anyway and cry about it on the Internet.

[@richardbranson8117]

Leftist cities are also the most dangerous to walk at night so it doesn't explain why women are voting for them.

[@aclark903]

Japan is fairly safe at night. The Muslim population is also a lot lower % wise than many western countries. Just saying…😅

[@ibrahimhassaan6188]

​@@aclark903hmmm i dont know man, i can walk around at night in my muslim country and there are very less western christians here...just saying 🤷‍♂️

[@Lemmiwinks_The_Gerbil_King]

0:45 many western men understand the problems of women. but somehow its those women, who label us "right wing extremists" if we proof to them, that majority of those dangerous men at night, are those, who came into the country, because the women voted for open borders. the statistics are obvious and open for anyone to read. im sorry for women and i wish we had a world, where they would not be in danger if they walk alone at night. but to some degree, this is their own fault for pushing those open border idiologys like crazy. and all others who support that. and im myself are also cautious when walking around. u can never know if people wanna jump u. im always prepared

[@nooneyouneedtoknow8360]

You have to be careful with those statistics. The problem with the most dangerous place for a woman is at home statistic is it is very similair to the most dangerous place to drive is within 5 miles of your home. Both of these statistics occur because that is where you spend most of your time (or driving).

[@mvmlego1212]

This is exactly the comment that I was looking for. Thank you.

[@threeriversforge1997]

And, interestingly, the place where we see the highest rates of domestic violence, by a very large margin, is in lesbian relationship -- no men involved at all. What this implies is that there's far more going on than her simple chart would have you believe.

[@Texonite]

I also would imagine the stats for kids to be harmed by grownups to be similar. Your most probable abuser is your mother.

[@the1juan2]

Whamen can’t parse statistics

[@the1juan2]

There’s also a difference between live-in boyfriend and husband. It would be interesting to see DV rates between those two, and an interesting subset would be DV rates between married couples on their FIRST marriage

[@ericmatos1025]

@8:15 The quote “husband” is incorrect. The statistics referenced describe “intimate partners” The Wilsons (Rachel Wilson and Andrew Wilson) have contested this statistic claiming that when you take into account husband vs non-husband partner, the safest a woman can be is with her husband, and the most dangerous is with a non-husband partner. I think this distinction merits investigating.

[@loganblackwood2922]

Yeah, women shacking up with Chad and Tyrone and receiving abuse, it's kinda fitting.

[@pharuhs]

that's a crazy thing to say. not because i doubt but because it's very eye opening and also makes me wanna scream this off of roof tops because the most common argument I've seen people use for "I don't believe in marriage, I'll just live with my boy/girlfriend" is usually because it's a whole lot less messy to just separate and a lot easier to leave should problems just like this happen. Crazy to think that it's actually backwards thinking that encourages the problem. Augh!

[@hitandruncommentor]

Yeah, I've heard it before they brought it up. It makes logical sense to me. Then again I don't trust most studies feminists quote since there is the tiny issue of 87% of studies not passing scientific rigor in psychology and socialolgy.

[@dhc]

Taking that a step further, how does socio-economics play into that statistic of non-husband partner? In other words do people lower on the socio-economic scale tend to cohabitate and is it more likely to involve unhealthy addictions and whatnot. If you were to split the cohabitating couples up into socio-economic groups, would you find that DV declines as income goes up, or even would you find the opposite? Then do the same for married couples and see what the trend is.

[@edwardcullen1739]

​@@pharuhs Start with "Feminism is a lie" and then question everything and you'll find it is almost always true... and the rest are twisted misrepresentations to further their lies.

[@AsterionH]

I think there is a much larger issue of women manipulating men than men "intimidating" women. I would argue that men are abused significantly more than women, but it largely goes unreported because of male ego. I've never laid a hand on a woman, or raised my voice at one, but I can't even begin to count how many times my ex-wife, slapped me, grabbed me, yelled at me, berated me, degraded me, simply because I didn't meet her expectations. One time she flipped the entire bed mattress with me on it, simply because I wanted a short nap after a 12 hour, labor intensive shift. I told the leaders at my church, but they basically told me to pray for her... If the roles were reversed, the entire church would have rallied behind her and encouraged her to leave me. There is such a double standard in the west. We live in a gynocentric society. And as long as we keep blaming some imaginary "patriarchy," it will remain that way.

[@boguslav9502]

It's not male ego, it's society being matriarchal.

[@nicklindner2506]

I’m sorry to hear that my friend. I know how much I need a nap sometimes - some women don’t understand how tiring physical work can be.

[@eleazargomez9095]

In the context of the world, I think it's equal. I don't think the women in the middle east have much power over men, but in the states they do and quite a bit. Just depends on where you live I guess.

[@whatever1068]

Of course it's not gynocentric. It can never be gynocentric cause men can be used more for work bc they don't have things like periods or pregnancy or postpartum. They can just be drones, so if women want to be workers, they have to become like men. To your point of abuse not being reported, guess what? A lot of male on female abuse is not reported or taken seriously either. I think that we are appalled more at males attacking females bc the consequences are more severe, obviously men can deal more damage to women (if we're talking abuse without weapons).

[@kristinam4178]

There are many problems with your situation, both for your specific relationship and with what it illustrates about society, and I'm sorry you were put there. But I really can't help but wonder: What kind of church encourages a wife to leave her husband without attempting reconciliation and support on both sides?

[@socialnetworking4782]

Saying walking around at night is dangerous while also voting for people that are soft on crime is ignoring their contribution to their own demise.

[@jasonblack-joseph1305]

Damn straight

[@dweblinveltz5035]

What crime are you referring to? *Who* is soft on crime, and what does that mean? Because I know that when anyone claims any of our politicians are "soft on crime," it usually means they aren't harsher than necessary--not that they are letting criminals get away with crimes.

[@Elucidus4]

@@dweblinveltz5035 They are probably referring to the DAs that are letting criminals run free instead of holding them in jail until their court date (what they are calling bail reform).

[@dweblinveltz5035]

@@Elucidus4 If that's what they're referring to, it's really silly. Bail reform is legitimately a good a necessary thing. And I think you'd be really hard pressed to prove that "bail reform" is the reason women are feeling unsafe walking alone at night, especially because this is not at all a new phenomenon, nor would reversing bail reform (wherever it's even in place) would change. I think more likely what's going on here is you have an anti-liberal bias that you're using this video to vent.

[@The77Voice]

​@@dweblinveltz5035currently its that many major cities arent enforcing the laws they have and DA's arent pursuing charges. Some even decriminalized petty theft.

[@Vladimyrful]

I'm a minute and 1:15 into the video but I feel like I have to interject as I disagree with the premise: I believe men (in general) have far more understanding and sympathy towards women's problems than vice versa. Men understand that women don't feel safe walking alone at night and why that is (along with other issues). So the misunderstanding of the other gender is heavily skewed to one side.

[@timmymcgrat4116]

I've been saying for a while there is an empathy gape between the sexes, but it's heavily skewed in one direction. Men understand and have empathy for a lot of women's problems, but most women don't know the first thing about the struggles of men and further more, they dont care.

[@loganblackwood2922]

It's well documented men have more empathy towards women than vice versa. The myth of female compassion is just that, a myth.

[@VindensSaga]

and still it is mostly men who justify why women feel unsafe.

[@urishima]

Yes. Funnily enough, that may be a an expression of that phenomenon on her part. Man hear and understand and try to fix the problem, but the woman tells them that "it's not about the nail!".

[@Vladimyrful]

@@urishima Good observation!

[@onemanturret1641]

In regards to men not being open about our weaknesses, to be vulnerable, is to invite others to attack. I have experienced this reality from both women and men.

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

Don't open up emotionally to women. They will lose respect for you and get the "ick". Once a man cries in front of a woman he's romantically involved with, it's over (most of the time as the majority of women are like this) and she can never see him as her masculine superman anymore. Confide in male friends or pray to God, but do NOT bring your emotional turmoil or masculine problems to a woman. They are, generally, not capable of understanding your problems as they have never lived in this world as a man. At best you can get compassion, but never empathy, just as I cannot have empathy for an elephant as I have no idea what an elephant feels like going through the world, but I can have compassion for its struggles.

[@C.scott8]

Never show weakness or vulnerability around your wife/girlfriend. They may say they want you to, but they will lose attraction and never look at you the same. It's a test for her to see if she is with a strong man or a weak man, whether she is conscious of it or not.

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

@@C.scott8 Amen.

[@hyberkonawa272]

@@C.scott8 I disagree with your point. Showing weakness doesn't means being weak or defeated, it means that you show your GF or wife that you are a human being and your not perfect. Like I would say: "My weakness is losing you or something bad happens to you but I can still manage that to do what I can to protect you".

[@bobcoco6047]

@@hyberkonawa272 That's sort of a strawman argu, since when we talk about weaknesses, we target intrinseque & personal ones, whereas what you mentioned is external or circumstantial, which doesn't question directly the strength of the prsn. Actually it shows/suggests strength by addressing this circumstance, so that's almost the opposite of showing you need support. The point remains

[@holzkiewuf]

Men can fall into the trap of thinking that men leave the home to work and women raise the kids, but really it's only in the last couple hundred years of the human experience that either parent ever left the home. Men were farmers and did an incredible amount of work raising their kids. As soon as the child (especially the boys) were old enough to be remotely helpful, they were with their dads learning their work....first at play and more serious/necessary/hard work over time. My point is that it is a recent idea that dads "go to work" and leave the child rearing strickly to the wife. Obviously dads weren't taking their newborns into the fields, but you better believe they had their 5 year olds on the back of their horse, had their 4 year olds gathering eggs or berries, and showing their 10 year olds how to tie knots and mend fenses. Dads out there: show your children how to work in the home, take them to your job if you work outside the home and are able...let them see you working hard. Thank you for this video. So important.

[@threeriversforge1997]

Men always had to leave the home. Farming is a rather new invention, and not all men were farmers. You had to have men of every vocation if you wanted towns and cities, and that meant leaving the home. Even in the earliest days, the caveman had to venture far and wide to bring in game, and would be gone for long periods of the day.

[@TheSmark666]

Stephanie Koontz has a great book about that called "The Way We Never Were". There's also a couple of talks and interviews on KZbin. The nostalgia trap can be dangerous especially when there are people who are willing to become violent because they wish to return to time and place which didn't really exist the way in which they believe it did.

[@nicolasreinaldet732]

​@@threeriversforge1997New = 10000 years old and the only way we ever lived outside of clan structure. Also, not everybody BUT ALMOST EVERYBODY were farmers, and many of thosse that weren't had some workshop in witch they could bring their kids with.

[@shadowm2k7]

My gran was telling us last week that by the ages of 9 & 10, her & her little sister were sawing wooden logs for the fireplace in the farm house Like--- what!??!? 😂🤣!!!

[@hel803]

​@@TheSmark666 Dangerous for who?

[@edheldude]

People work according to incentives. If there's an incentive for women to 304 around, to divorce, to have children out of wedlock because they think they can replace men with government subsidies etc. etc. then they will act that way. There's also very negative moral messaging in the media where women don't encourage good behavior but enable each others' bad behavior.

[@eventhori3on]

THIS! It's the need for large government and a safety net for most women (This used to be the husband and nuclear family unit) as opposed to a want by most men for small government and making their own way and shouldering the hardship of protection an support for the family. With a large government subsidy scheme (as in most western liberal countries) this is no longer required hence women will vote for it.

[@goodlookinouthomie1757]

It can't last. A few generations of women get to live like spoiled toddlers on the back of what men have spent millennia building, but ultimately it all falls over and men are once again needed to build stuff.

[@Goku467-w3i]

True

[@edheldude]

@ It goes back to them wanting resources and protection without reciprocity. The institutionalization of natural human interaction removes all the associated dynamics like gratitude. If you just get money in your bank account, you'll never have any relationship to the people whose work enabled that.

[@Mrsgmuller73]

It's not only women. Do you really think OF models having hundreds of subscribers in one hour doesn't send a massage? Do you really believe the trivialization of p0rn by men doesn't send a message to women that that's how they're supposed to look like and behave? Men don't want to face the fact that they've contributed significantly to how society is nowadays

[@rogerz3624]

I have a very good friend who is a hardcore feminist. She spent years working for an NGO in Afghanistan teaching girls. I had this sense that it was not only a waste of time, that it was also highly counter productive. If she wanted to make things better for women in that country... she should be teaching boys and making their lives better. Now, all those girls with an education and a dream are locked away with no options. Why? Because the people who should have been protecting boys from sexual abuse, from poverty, from ignorance.... instead spent all their time and money on girls. The fastest way to improve the lives of women is to focus on helping men. The fastest way to destroy a nation and culture... remove opportunities from men and take away their chances to achieve.

[@Livingbygrace3332]

So you are saying if we focus in helping men then that's when women will not suffer ( because you mean when men don't have anything good going on for them they will project their frustrations on women)?

[@mistahsusan2650]

@@Livingbygrace3332 in that part of the world some men work until they're in their 40s to be able to afford to marry a woman and have a family. you can look at places like mongolia or south korea, where emphasis was placed on getting women highly educated, and into the workforce. now both countries have female demographics that avoid having relationships/marriages/families with men. economically and socially liberating/elevating women leads to them avoiding longterm and meaningful relationships and commitments. whereas doing so for men leads to them marrying and starting families. there's a whole host of secondary and tertiary effects resulting from the latter that tend not to be associated or brought up along side.

[@Kiwonfu]

She probably wouldn't even be allowed to teach men since they seperate genders, also their is nothing wrong teaching women

[@BaiMengLing]

@@Livingbygrace3332 YES As a woman who has left violent relationships, what I wish was that men received proper education so they would stop being abusive: it would help us women and our children, who need fathers. Helping women is promoting single mothers and fatherless children, helping men (the harsh way a drill sergent would put some wisdom in their shallow minds) would build families.

[@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737]

​@@Livingbygrace3332no it's because when you actively discriminate against men to uplift women, it doesn't change a woman's standards, she still wants to date up, she thinks that because she has a nice high paying career that she is worthy of a man who has the same if not more, so all the men below her start to become invisible. A woman's hypergamy doesn't go away just because she has a good career, it is now amplified. So the best thing to do is to forget about the women. Who cares about their career? No one. They need to first and foremost be an interesting mate with hobbies, and they also need to have life skills that a man wants (cooking, cleaning, caring for children). Then we'll toss a bone to them if there is a bone left. But ideally, a woman should be left starving career wise so she sees that the men above them (literally everyone) are great mates because they are, she just has to get over the fact that she won't be able to be the wife of a billionaire or a smooth talking man, or a man that has the body of a Greek statue, and that's okay. A woman should be happy with whatever is chosen for her by her father. That actually raises another point. Choice. Women should have none of it, their marriages need to be arranged and they just need to learn to get along even if they may not necessarily like the man.

[@denisdimitrov5051]

Could you explain why women write love letters to serial killers?... Then you talk about men being dangerous.

[@viperstriker4728]

Just a guess, but dirty books distorting the idea of romance the same way dirty pictures mess men up.

[@thebadassofthewest6022]

You should have seen all women going after the Luigi guy. Lmao

[@1reviravoltanotempo611]

It's the same thing with political ideologies, man, if someone is on your side your mind will find a diabolical and creative way to justify your support for those people (if you allow it). EGO.

[@MiniLinlin]

Cuz they're insane women lol. Maybe they just never grew out of the infatuation for the "bad boy".

[@epicsouththeoduskiangamer]

Demonstration of strength and power over others. There's something deep and primal in being able to kill a load of people.

[@johnbrooks5211]

Monks don’t deal with a nagging woman, that’s why they live longer.

[@TheEncouragementKid]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 DANG!

[@KA-vv6uv]

🤓🤓

[@kevind.k7512]

I heard the study she sites at 8:20 was shown to be overwhelmingly about UNMARRIED women living with a male partner, casual situationships even.

[@prisonerofthehighway1059]

It is. Statistically the safest place for a woman is married to the biological father of her children. It’s like domestic violence statistics. Women are more likely to initiate violence in a domestic relationship by orders of magnitude but that doesn’t fit the narrative of “men are bad”.

[@WackyEncapsulatedFruitCup]

Thank you both for your elaboration on the subject, I wasn't believing it at first.

[@evanroberts3555]

That is correct. Notice the UN report is using intimate partner.

[@bricaaron3978]

@@evanroberts3555 *"intimate partner."* In other words --- this is not a joke, and it's disastrous that it's not a joke --- any man that a woman has phorn-uh-kated with once or more.

[@frankethomas1248]

_“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach”_ (Isaiah 4:1). Three things apparently very important to women: 1) Status ( _“called by thy name”_ ), 2) Protection, especially of her honor ( _“take away our reproach”_ ), and 3) Connection ( _“take hold of”_ ).

[@theresemalmberg955]

And those words were most likely written by a man or men. Why is it acceptable to define others by your own beliefs, prejudices and stereotypes? To say to a member of X group, "this is who you are, this is what you want, this is how you think" instead of finding out who those people actually are, actually want, actually think? Does this verse really represent what women find important, or is it the WRITER'S opinion on what he thinks is important to women? I don't know about anyone else here but I'm tired of others (namely men) defining who I am and what is important to me without ever bothering to find out who I really am and what is important to me. It's like they are behind a window, looking out, or worse yet, a wall, without ever opening the door to go outside; and yet, they feel confident that they know all about what is beyond that door. I do not need to take another's name, I have my own honor, and I can make my own connections. I do not need to take hold of a man with six other women. This sounds more like a male fantasy than real life.

[@georgeelder8415]

This is a verse very applicable to these times!

[@andyd568]

​@@theresemalmberg955 because men build society, technology, infrastructure so we listen to learned men. While women build the social fabric within families, hence we as individuals listened to our mothers.

[@zarroth]

@@theresemalmberg955 its prophecy that will happen around the end times. Whether you want it or not is irrelevant. It IS going to happen. Good news for you is it won't be in any of our lifetimes. Despite all the false teachers claiming we're in end times, which they've been doing long before any of us were born, we simply aren't there yet.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

@@theresemalmberg955 the irony! oh the irony!

[@Hieroglyphics87]

Its interesting how woman say they dont feel safe walking alone at night yet most woman go to bars, and clubs at night and walk out completely wasted, and intoxicated.... seems the opposite to me.

[@thatokker9542]

Women could probably lower their domestic violence rates by chasing after sober nerds in libraries, but I guess drunkards obsessed with sportsball are more attractive. I remember seeing these "let a stranger drive you home" adverts as a young teen and thinking, well how about you just dont drink and you can drive yourself home.

[@dweblinveltz5035]

You don't talk to women, do you?

[@jussim.konttinen4981]

​@@dweblinveltz5035Healthy women can run. Old people are afraid, but this also applies to wealthy narcissist since no one wants to defend them. Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. You shall not commit adultery.

[@Franimus]

Not most women...

[@mr.mayhem4054]

"Feel" being the operative word. Their feelings are often divorced from the reality they exist in, as they are prone to dramatics, emotionalism, and neuroticism, to mention nothing of emotional manipulation.

[@GamersWithFaith]

Saying that the most dangerous person in the world to a woman is her husband is ridiculous. This is the kind of crap destroying marriage.

[@mountainseeker2844]

Does this feminist say that?!?!?!!

[@GamersWithFaith]

@mountainseeker2844 it is said in the video

[@SuperSurreal]

I think that’s just like the unfortunate statistics of things currently, not like that’s the case in most situations but there’s a reason the cops’ first suspect when a spouse is murdered is the other spouse 😕 But I definitely wouldn’t say the takeaway from that is don’t get married or anything, just one of those weird statistical things where it’s simultaneously true but also makes it seem like a widespread thing when it’s only really an issue in a minority of cases, you know?

[@teddyb580]

Completely agree with @SuperSurreal but I also want to add that the explanation in the video makes sense without it being the thing destroying marriages. She's not saying that all husbands are dangerous, but rather that of all the people in a woman's orbit, if the husband is bad, he's the most dangerous to her. If her sister is bad, the wife can easily put distance between her and her sister. If her husband is bad, where is she supposed to turn? They share a house, and they might even share kids. It's a dangerous position to be in if your husband doesn't have your best interests at heart.

[@SuperSurreal]

@@teddyb580 Very well put!

[@user-hr2cf9kb9t]

As a dad myself, I now realize how much my own father struggled to raise us. Thank you dad!

[@kirkchurchil8216]

I was just talking to my brother in law about this tonight becoming the patriarch of the family is intense.

[@unchivalry]

Notice how video girl likes all comments bashing men....but ignores this

[@TheRealMonnie]

My dad was a jerk, and never liked me or my siblings. For example, he had a choice of which shift to work, and chose the shift where he left for work about 2 minutes before we got home from school. Didn't get home until we were in bed. Just one small example... He chose to work all day sat and sun, too. He made over $100K back in the 90s, and yelled at and degraded my mom for buying us things like coats and shoes. Not all dads are great.

[@kirkchurchil8216]

@@unchivalry completely not true, but keep being bitter.

[@kirkchurchil8216]

@@TheRealMonnie my dad wasn’t great too, you have to break the cycle and be what he couldn’t, you’d be shocked how much healing it will bring you.

[@TheSmark666]

"The state of feeling unneeded is literally fatal." Ironic that in Emmanuel's case he was so needed and necessary that it would end up costing him his life.

[@kishka9886]

Im not a spiritual man, and I have been lost lately. Your content is good for me. I'm going to keep watching to see where it takes me.

[@BiblicalBookworm]

I will be praying for you! 🌹

[@Suger5zero]

Showing emotions or crying in front of a woman, is like bleeding in front of a shark. They will always make you regret it.

[@TheEncouragementKid]

not in my life so far 🤷‍♀

[@TheYgds]

@@TheEncouragementKid It depends on the sort of women you've been around. The women in my family, with perhaps one exception, are okay and comfortable with the men in my family showing their vulnerabilities. Women I've dated on the other hand, however, gradually lose respect for me if I shed a tear or tell that woman about an insecurity I have. In short order that woman will weaponize that vulnerability to demoralize me during an argument or to undercut my convictions, sometimes in public. I'm still looking for a woman who can refrain from such low tactics. I have grown to appreciate the maturity of my sisters, cousins and mother who maintain respect for their male counterparts and don't hang their husbands out to dry.

[@TheEncouragementKid]

@TheYgds yeah that's awesome regarding your family, it's kinda similar for me but my fiancé is pretty good at not doing that, occasionally out of frustration she will but she doesn't really mean it, it's more of an emotional knee-jerk response like once a year maybe haha but you know sometimes our emotions get the better of us. I hope you find a lady with the emotional maturity like your mother or sisters

[@TheYgds]

@TheEncouragementKid I'm glad you have a healthy relationship with your wife. Such normalcy is needed in today's society. What I hate seeing is this war between the sexes that is often playing out. I see such a stark difference in people who have embraced what people call traditionalism, and those blown about by the trends of the current era. The red pill types that see all women as money digging harpies, and the feminist pundits that see all men as selfish shallow megalomaniacal fiends. The skewed views and disharmony has to stop. It seems to out of control to the point where otherwise good people will embody the stereotypes without realizing what they're falling into, simply due to cynicism. Still, I have faith that men and women of good will can seal this divide.

[@Suger5zero]

Think some of you might have misunderstood me. It isn't something that they do consciously and in lip service, They will always pay you the kindest words in the most respect. I'm also not talking about platonic friendships or mentor ships. But with regards to romantic relationships, a woman is biologically incapable of seeing you cry and remaining as attracted to you as she was. And even if she acts sympathetic to you in a moment (which is rare) Her actions will show a lack of respect and eventually, perhaps in a moment of weakness, she will use it to hurt you.

[@GiveBackAll]

Most of these statistics are great, but I have to point out that the stat at 8:13 has been really twisted. If you were to calculate the probability of being killed by a man divided by the time spent with him (for example), husbands would not be the most dangerous. Or, if you were to include the stats on how often husbands save their wives' lives, it would again be different. It is not good science to just take the total number of homicides and see what portion were husbands. That's like saying the most likely vehicle to kill you is your own car (duh, it's the one you are around the most).

[@TheSpecialJ11]

It's incredible how basic statistical reasoning eludes people.

[@bricaaron3978]

The "study" is apparently not even about husbands, but any man that a woman has allowed in her pants at least once. I understand that the term used in the "study" is "intimate partner", not husband. Don't trust me, verify for yourself --- I am just passing on what I have read.

[@tedbed1389]

Plus the statistics are heavily skewed on cultural lines as seen per continent.

[@planteruines5619]

moreover the stat is about every type romantic partnership , definitly not husbands in majority too

[@truthfromearth]

End the Fed, end socialism, and women will stop being married to the state, and men will step up and fulfill their responsibilities.

[@snake57]

No fault divorce, alimony and child support. A man is a fool to get married.

[@davida.taylor8444]

I wish this would get discussed more bc my gut tells me that all of culture and welfare and laws are heavily influenced to favor women and displace men and then culture comes back and wonders where all the good men are. They never got trained or developed bc all the resources were diverted away from doing so. That's my gut feeling, anyways. They are still good men out there, but our efforts to continually develop them seem to have disappeared.

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

I think it's too late. This rocket looks nose down and 100ft above the ground. Just gonna have to let this one destroy itself and pick up the pieces, sans the socialism and Fed, and other BS.

[@truthfromearth]

@@davida.taylor8444 It is never futile to become a better person. Always believe that.

[@mamsf3]

There's a reason why all the counter-culture "values" derive from the same political spectrum. It's to create a divide. Search Gloria Steinem and how she admits feminism was taken over by the CIA. Communists behind the anti-family modern "lifestyles". Of course, the devil plays both sides, so you either support the communists or the zionists. Both will destroy America.

[@regimatic]

On your graphic 8:12, the most dangerous place is "other..." Your graphic actually shows that home is the safest place.

[@DoubleOhSilver]

Only in the Americas and Europe, go figure

[@GB-ko8cv]

it remains the most dangerous place, consider that the rest on the graphic represent all possible scenarios and places.

[@rutgerkerpel306]

@@DoubleOhSilver I guess that's why the moms from African descent are living alone by such a large percentage. A real tragedy. Also, those bisshops who want to have polygamy be approved by the Vatican/papal office are making things worse for all out there. It's pure idiocy.

[@JustChillin-el9wt]

That graph also indicates "intimate partner" not husband specifically. Lesbian IPDV occurs at almost double the rate of heterosexual IPDV, and 3 times the rate of gay IPDV. So tired of these misrepresented statistics blamed solely on men. Especially since 60% of all IPDV is initiated by women, and 80% of unreciprocated (one sided) IPDV is by women.

[@bricaaron3978]

@@rutgerkerpel306 *"Also, those bisshops who want to have polygamy be approved by the Vatican/papal office..."* Which bishops are those?

[@quentins8165]

From personal experience, revealing my emotions to other men (specifically my friends) has been fairly positive. There is an understanding in that friendship and advice is freely exchanged. Whenever I have revealed my emotions to women. The outcomes have always been negative. That can be family, friends, or coworkers. Typical responses included: "You shouldn't feel that way!" "Thats not what I actually think about you" "Thats weird you feel like that." Any other guys watching this. Never, I repeat never ever, explain your feelings to women.

[@Itstheoaks]

Oh wow...as a man from the UK i actually didnt know that the most common cause of death for men under 50 is suicide...thats actually crazy and also really sad...whats even more sad is that for some reason it doesnt surprise me..

[@scottgray636]

The leftists in the US are causing all kinds of problems, that is another source. Openly encouraging drug use is not a good thing for men or women. I wonder how many suicides have occured due to substance abuse.

[@opaguiar]

Well, you didn't mention the most important verse, and it's easy to find, it's right in the 1st page: "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." Genesis 3:16

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

Of course she didn't

[@serendipitouscomet]

(as long as the wife personally agrees with every choice that he makes) - If it said this, they would be more likely to acknowledge that verse.

[@ianbuick8946]

There is a hierarchical order. A man must lead, at least according to God's design. How else decision making will be in a democracy of two with each one vote against another?

[@nathanielalderson9111]

Can't lead if the follower refuses to follow

[@ianbuick8946]

@ Indeed. That's why "wives, submit to your own husbands, *as to the Lord*" (there are some special exceptions). Don't get to eager yet, husbands (leaders) are hold even to a higher standard.

[@LifeLikeSage]

The balance of that graph is disingenuous. It makes it look like the men are more extreme than the women, when in fact the opposite is true. Be very careful when reading statistics gentlemen, always suspect someone is trying to sway your perception towards their own motives.

[@sleeper9638]

So true, the graph shows that women are overwhelmingly left leaning whereas men are simply more balanced. Some men lean left, some men lean right but the vast majority of women are highly left leaning, to paint that as men having a bias to any political side is inaccurate

[@schrodingersmechanic7622]

There are lies, damn lies, and then there are statistics.

[@viperstriker4728]

The graph is from south Korea. It is true there as they have been very liberal and the men are returning to a very conservative state very quickly. If you look at the US you will see the opposite trend like your intuition predicts.

[@viperstriker4728]

@@sleeper9638 Keep in mind where the graph is from. Your right about most of the world, but south Korea is men going extreme (and from the little I know I support it).

[@beneficent2557]

​@@schrodingersmechanic7622Mark Twain

[@aabp2317]

In 10:43 she says that Jesus sweated blood because he he was anxious for himself but that is incorrect He was looking at the evil of mankind with great compassion an overwhelming evil that he would have to shoulder for us.

[@DoubleOhSilver]

Exactly. It doesn't make much sense that he would be so anxious for himself, he willed for The Father's will to be done. But he knew all the sins he was taking on, how some would reject the sacrifice, and that the most sinful thing was about to happen - the murder of God. They say he entered his passion, which is another word for devotion. He picked up the cross out of love.

[@shaelien1]

"if this cup may not pass away from me" hmmmmmmm............

[@unchivalry]

"Biblical Bookworm" is straight up blasphemous to suggest this.

[@planteruines5619]

@@unchivalry nah because this is to show Christ's humanity , however telling being anxious about yourself it to be the sole reason of this blood sweat would be a pretty bad lecture , i think this is better illustrated with an anxiety about if the story will succeed (Christ's humanity here) but also a prefiguration to the cross . overall this passage is rich in many good lectures , but somehow people manage to find bad ones

[@unchivalry]

@ Christ was human only as much as having human form. He was and still is God. He was not anxious for Himself. It seems as if english isnt your first language. Im having trouble picking up the rest of your argument.

[@JohnCoons-d1u]

I was unaware of the male loneliness epidemic until I got divorced 4 years ago.. the only single middle-aged women are single because they want to be - they HATE men - I know this because I've had many flat out tell me as much After spending every single weekend every birthday and holiday completely alone for 4 years.. I'm going to be a statistic too!! I love modern times..

[@ianbuick8946]

It's hard. Do you want talk?

[@gordo6908]

ecclesiastes 4 3

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

@JohnCoons-d1u : " *...middle-aged women are single because they want to be - they HATE men - ...I've had many flat out tell me as much* " Not just middle-aged, most women today hate men. They are not shy about saying so, in fact they are proud of it.

[@LyteRetro]

Dw brother, I'm 22 and have accepted the next 80 years of loneliness. We're together in our loneliness

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

​@@LyteRetroYou're never alone, Jesus is always with you.

[@Matthew-zu6tm]

To address the longevity paradox. It is zero wonder that when we have , Childrens Hospitals, Women's Hospitals and Geriatric Homes. The very men who risk injury and death in the construction of those hospitals are not alive to get care in the Geriatric Home.

[@TheSpecialJ11]

Another classic statistical reasoning error. Average life expectancy includes people dying young. It's not "How long you'll live if you live until "old age"." This being said, women live a little longer than men under equal conditions, because estrogen has some antioxidant effects that helps prevent aging damage.

[@jasonblack-joseph1305]

@@TheSpecialJ11 Or maybe working very dangerous jobs and perhaps even preferring time at these jobs as to dealing with the "boss at home"

[@dweblinveltz5035]

Should point out that, while I might agree this gives men the perception that they aren't as valued, this is also largely the creation of men. But also, what special care do men really need? Is a normal hospital not capable of serving an injury a man might incur? What injury or illness do men get so frequently that requires such special care necessitating an entire hospital be devoted to them? Honestly wondering... children get a host of illnesses and conditions that are present in adults but affects them in harsher ways, and treating a child requires a special environment and attention. Women give birth, which men cannot do (duh). Old people are their own beast, too. What exactly can a normal hospital not provide men, or would you say there are too many men for any given hospital to handle?

[@Matthew-zu6tm]

@dweblinveltz5035 I met my wife who was taking care of her mother who had breast cancer and I was taking care of my Father with prostate cancer. Guess who got care and the other didn't. Answer. My Dad died of alcohol poisoning after self medicating precisely because there was absolutely no treatments or research being done for his condition. While my wife's mother lived another 5 years. I later have been to a cancer research hospital when all those pink ribbons were flying to support my wife. However, when I saw a local Sheriff's Corvette car. I asked them the following. So. Do you have a blue one for prostate cancer? Blank stare. Yeah. You know . The majority of your work force, who has a one in three chance of a lethal cancer that you don't even acknowledge exists.

[@Matthew-zu6tm]

@@dweblinveltz5035 to further answer your question as to what services that guys need. Guys are forced and funneled into places and professionals that are dirty, & dangerous. I have over 192 hrs of college level learning over multiple subjects. But since they are not all in a very specific track they are all effectively deemed worth-less. I am a prior military Police officer. Who is also a certified EMT-B who is read and skilled at the Paramedic level. Who also is a weapons instructor. Now working as an electrician at construction sites. In locations more than 4 minutes away from medical services. So. If an injury from a saw meant to cut steel goes through a limb. I know what to do before they even find a spot for cell service to call the ambulance.

[@huginn1879]

None of this can be solves as long as we say men and women are equal. Only when we start to accept again, that men and women are different we can work on solutions.

[@viperstriker4728]

Man and women are equal in value before God and the law. But we are not equal in power, and the attempts to make the genders equal in power is, I think, what your getting at. As to have the same power as a man, many women fell they need to "wear the pants" and be the providers. They also confuse masculine with strength and feminine with weakness because they view the world through power.

[@tuinov6286]

Ideas are not the problem. Women always behaved the same way. But its illegal to stop them in modern times. They just show us what they always were.

[@fabricehategekimana5350]

The right thing to say is: men and women are equal in front of the law (like the whole mankind), but are not the same biologically speaking

[@Sapwolf]

What women today walk alone at night? I'm a man and I don't walk alone at night. In the very rare case at night, I'm armed my Constitutional Carry state like just about any adult who needs to be safe, etc. Silliness.

[@urishima]

Funny, when you consider that men are far more likely to become the victim of a violent in any circumstances than women. Observe the difference in thinking: The sex at lower risk demands that heaven and earth be moved because the way they perceive the danger is out of proportion compared with reality, while the sex at higher risk takes steps to reduce the risk (don't visit stabby alley at night and stay strapped or get clapped).

[@dweblinveltz5035]

There are these places called "cities" and some people do things that require them to travel by foot after sundown.

[@SDGLFDNC]

3:24 tell women to quit divorcing.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

yeah!

[@wingatebarraclough3553]

Amen

[@CodyseusRex]

Yeah at 70% of initiated divorces, that parts on them😂

[@ianbuick8946]

Tell men to quit lower the standards and simping. Everyone want a Proverbs 31 wife yet they aren't noble men. When you're not oriented yourself toward the Truth, how can you spot the falsehood? Like someone like cursing around would stuck out in a company of gentlemen. To "tell" someone to change is delusional, you can only change yourself. 70% women initiate divorce but 60% - 67% of *second* marriage end in divorce because you attract the same type of person you are plus previous marriage emotional baggage and unhealthy relationship habits. I'm saying this because that was me at 10 years of marriage and not trying to make anyone feel bad. What a mess i was. When men finally come back to the first love or know the ultimate love, they will not chase vanity.

[@SDGLFDNC]

@@ianbuick8946 Audacious claim that they aren’t noble men. As much as married people irritate me, I know many more noble and worthy men married to absolute harpies than I do bad men total. I’ve seen man after man get beaten down and told he’s the problem for wanting to be wanted. I’ve seen men shamed and heard them mocked among the women for being honest with their wives about the serious struggles of their lives. I’ve sat with men who were weeping because they wanted intimacy, real intimacy, with their wife but that wasn’t on the menus. I’ve sat with men and wept with them because they couldn’t be with their kids. I’ve seen them get up every day and go to jobs they despise because they love their families more than they love themselves. The everyday sacrifice of a married man in the church goes entirely unnoticed and unappreciated. I’ve spent my entire adult life working in high risk environments that. Are fun and cool. The married guys are jealous. However, MY heroes are those guys; the guys that get up and grind out of love for what is behind them. Yeah, the men are the problem.

[@Dianadicarta]

Part of the problem is teaching boys that providing and protecting is just about providing money and protecting against bad people, when even though it is a part of it, mostly it’s about providing stability, love, goodness… protecting from moral evil, from his own selfish tendencies… meaning, men are needed with daily life stuff, with emotional stuff, with domestic stuff, with romantic stuff. (Same case with women, we are made to nurture, and that means more than just having kids and keeping them alive, it also means nurturing minds, nurturing relationships, nurturing values…). To be a Christlike man or woman(and obviously a Christlike husband/father and wife/mother) you have to give and do more than the bare minimum.

[@thepope9023]

Question is, what do you offer in return to men for such high standards. What is the return? The biggest factor why men walk away is the "juice is not worth the squeeze." Women are currently more liberated, free, bailed out, propped up, invested into, protected and provided for. Hell the whole church structure and marriage was made for women to benefit them. So the question remains, what about men? What do men get out of this?

[@jackdeniston6150]

The problem is entirely the responsibility of women. You need to become far better than you are.

[@serendipitouscomet]

The problem is teaching girls that happiness is external as opposed to internal. Girls are taught to as women expect husbands to fill a void that only God can, and expect everything of him.

[@saturdayschild8535]

@@serendipitouscometSuch untrue generalizations. No wonder we are where we are.

[@serendipitouscomet]

@@saturdayschild8535 I could make the same claim about your statements. Something being a generalization doesn't necessarily make it untrue. We always speak in generalizations, because as adults we all know that outliers exist. Outliers just don't make the rule. Women think that their husbands are supposed to be Superman and cure all of the problems in their lives, or make the struggle of life more palatable when that's something only God can do. When they realize that married life is just as hard if not harder than their life before, they think it's the husband's fault.

[@sol-hunter2332]

9:45 that happened to me. I had a lady who was the first I actually opened up to, and she used it against me. Now its very hard to open up to anyone.

[@TheShifter1001]

I have nothing against women, but unfortunately, due to a lot of bad media(to keep it general) there seems to be a manipulation within the standards of marriage. What I notice is that both men and women have an aversion to accountability within their parental structure. That’s the purpose of courting. When you date without parental supervision, there’s no standard for how either party should act but rather just imaginary expectations for one another. These measures can be traced back all the way to Voltaire and enlightenment movement. The real question is though are both men and women required to maintain the four cardinal virtues. That’s the million dollar question to be honest.

[@BiblicalBookworm]

can you give me specific examples for manipulated standards?

[@TheShifter1001]

@ Starting with Men - a lack of discernment on when and when not to raise their voice or to get aggressive on minute matters without properly leading by example - Additionally, men put their pleasures first and do not ensure their children are engaging in something constructive on a consistent basis. - Ensuring that they are listening to wives and not just ignoring genuine concerns that could have ramifications down the line; this means listening and making a decision regardless if it’s one his wife agrees with or disagrees. Women - Respecting a man’s time and recognizing it’s not primarily about how she feels. Though that it is important! - Women if not trained by themselves or a parental figure will often, rationalize iniquities and consistently point out others faults without showing any accountability or humility. It’s this very issue that leads to divorce as when it often comes time to admit her wrongs(as we are all in imperfect) it leads to her becoming excessively defensive. - Gossiping about her spouse and telling other women his wrongs more often leading her to compare what her friends spouse’s are doing right and it becomes an upsetting venture from there. These problems in general stem from the rapid spread of the free love movement which accelerated in the late 50s and 60s down to today’s generation and thus there’s no objective foundation for marriage, but rather inappropriate standards Maybe I’m a little off on my analysis, but ultimately men and women cannot cohabitate if there is no objective standard for one another. That objective standard comes from God first and his 10 Commandments and putting our faith in Christ and his church.✝️📿

[@BiblicalBookworm]

thank you for the explanation!

[@TheShifter1001]

@@BiblicalBookworm 👊

[@ralphwoodruff]

@@BiblicalBookwormI would put forth the large swaths of literature and television that pit girls or women in the place of the hero’s journey. Boys/Men need to make something of themselves. The American culture has attacked femininity by showing women that they should be men - free from worry of having to give birth, free to pursue a career over family, and free to act the way men act when not pursuing virtue. How many women have you witnessed threatening violence in real life, in tik-toks, in movies (Marvel is a big one)? I think these ideas do affect the general zeitgeist and perception of how men and women ought to behave. I really see it all as a break down of the family and it will take men and women working together to intentionally raise Christian children.

[@twopintsofmilk]

My brain is currently fried due to an bad illness (temporary). I watched comment and liked but understood Iittle. I'll be back again. God bless ❤

[@twopintsofmilk]

I picked it up on the second viewing :) The brain is weird.

[@wrongthinker843]

"You can ignore reality, but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality" - a woman actually deserving of respect

[@benneptun4054]

Brilliant 🙂

[@falsesatsuma]

I'm from the UK. The women have a choice, increasingly conservative native men, or Islam. I reckon they'll come around eventually.

[@karlheven8328]

Well, or they'll just stay single and the nation dies out more and more which I think is what will actually happen. But this is inevitable if the liberal mindset of self fulfillment and individual happyness continues to prevail. There is no easy political fix to the kind of grand scale societal decline and decadence that led to this. In other words things would have to become worse before they become better

[@savioblanc]

They won't come around. Your "increasingly conservative native men" will have to go to war against those Muslims, which are backed by your own govt. Either they're eventually converting to Islam themselves as a means to stop the attacks - Andrew Tate seems to have had this idea, which us why he declared he was running to become PM of the UK and said he was against Zionists and Islamists, as a Muslim - or they're going to be murdered or they're doing what they're currently doing - fleeing to East Asia and the Middle East to raise families there

[@wingnut71]

Their choice is to be a 304 and then settle for a provider when time is running out. Have kids, then divorce the provider to go back to being a 304 but with a nice house and child support.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

@@karlheven8328 That's what he said "I reckon they'll come around eventually"..

[@lucaslevinsky8802]

That would be the case in the US, but in the UK there are still MANY degenerate young men

[@josh_ari]

I'm a guy who has been on one knee most of his life. Until I got charged falsely of domestic violence by my fiance. Now I live my life l standing on my feet, and if women want me, I'm right here. You women get mad when we chase you, and you get mad when we don't chase you anymore. The old ways are gone. No matter how beautiful you are, no man in his right mind should chase you. That's pathetic. If you want to meet up for a Bible study, hit me up and I'll holler back, but don't expect us to make the first move after we've all been accused of being brutes and/or perverts. Thank you for the video.

[@tuinov6286]

You got charged because you are not attractive. Thats how it goes with women.

[@ringthatbell9597]

9:25 the guy you heard that from needs better friends. I have a friend from high school and when I need to talk to someone about my internal emotional state I generally go to him, I don’t need to worry about how he’s going to respond because I know he there for me. I think it’s important for every guy to friends that they can talk to, after all: if not to be there in your darkest hour, what is a friend for?

[@Kivlor]

Personally, I think she made it up. That's probably something a battered woman told her, and she added it to try and say "both ways are common" What I would have believed is a man told her "It isn't safe to open up to anyone" but no one who has opened up to a woman before says "yeah, that's safe"

[@dpunch5192]

Yeah I've never had anything I've told in vulnerability to a man used against me or looked on with contempt or ridicule. It's only ever been women.

[@BarbaraA.MertzRN-CCRN]

As a woman, I can say that I don't go places that don't feel safe at night. When querying men, I find that often they do not feel safe in those very same places also. Lastly, when asking men about why THEY believe women do not feel safe, they all retort that perhaps women should pay more attention to what kind of clothing they wear and the 'vibes' they give off. I believe these are valid contributions to the conversation.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

A voice of reason in a sea of madness! Also, the way someone feels does not necessarily reflect the reality of a situation (ie. a woman might not "feel" safe walking somewhere, even though, statistically, walking there at night is safer than driving a car on the freeway for an hour - she feels unsafe due to being misinformed, or having absolutely ridiculous safety requirements, like "nothing bad should happen anywhere at any time to any one, and anything less is too much!"

[@Kivlor]

Everyone tells you "Don't go down dark alleys at night" and "Stay out of that side of town". No one is blaming your clothes if you went to a dangerous place and faced the inevitable consequence. The clothing comes in when you do stupid things like dress provocatively, and get upset or scared at the attention you provoke. Even then, we don't say "well, the culprit shouldn't be punished"--they should. We use the example to drive home that *provoking sexual attention is dangerous* ... It's a dark alley for you, or the bad side of town, and if you want to be safe, you should avoid it. But like moths to the flame...

[@BarbaraA.MertzRN-CCRN]

@@michaelhoudecki3657 Correct. When a person goes scuba diving with improper gear - and gets hurt - do you blame the ocean - or the fish? If you knowingly swim in shark infested waters and get hurt do you blame the sharks? I would blame the stupidity of the swimmer in BOTH situations.

[@threeriversforge1997]

I like to point out that you don't have any right to "feel safe", especially at night. The world's never been safe. Even if it's just a hole you step in and twist your ankle, the night has never been safe for anyone. Go all the way back to the caveman days, and the night was always the least safe time to be out and about. For everyone. This silly notion that women should "feel safe" at night is wholly illogical and contrary to reality - especially when women vote for and support things that make the society less safe.

[@callumstewart9314]

There is a difference between “feeling“ something and “Being” something. Some people cannot tell the difference.

[@sthiel126]

"If the world loses the moral rectitude of its women, the world will NEVER recover." -Russel M. Nelson Keep Going Biblical Bookworm!

[@HondoTrailside]

Let's hope not, because that is a long way in the rearview mirror.

[@ianmacmurray7294]

I think you really nailed it with the point that some people will unfortunately exploit their strengths over the opposite gender and cause terrible damage, all because they’re not living by Jesus’ example of strength.

[@briannicholls2628]

This was a fantastic video addressing a hard topic

[@dylanvellut]

8:04 this graph is indeed cruel. If we suppose 95% of death happens in hospital beds, it could be considered that the whole environnement outside the hospital is safer. But that's not how that works. If the most dangerous person is the one closer to you, it means anyone outside of it behave enough to build a high trust community. A world where most of the Killing would be oustide of the home woulf be terrible

[@ManuelBTC21]

I'm often astonished at how much my dad has learned since I was a child.

[@VikingMale]

A wise man never stops learning …

[@jameswalter3136]

😅

[@Sara-x6t3s]

I say that about my mother, but not my father... as it turned out my mother actually understood men. My father on the other hand was just as easily manipulated and led along like a dog on a leash... like nearly all men are today.

[@optimeg]

In general, men understand the problems women have and usually do solve them using all sorts of resources (money, technology, advice, support). Women on the other hand don't seem to do the same for men or themselves. Everything could be "taken care of" and they still find a reason to complain. That emotional component is what makes women different than men, and difficult. The reason male monks live longer than the general male population, is they do not become obligated to women.

[@tumelo3972]

I’m sure your intentions are good and I fully support your cause but you quote these scriptures loosely to fit your narrative. It is particularly alarming. There are spiritual aspects to these matters that you seem to not take into consideration.

[@SamucaH.G.]

Which aspects are not taken speciffically enough? I haven't seen those and now I am curious. If you could only point them out a little bit, I would be very thankfull. God bless you!

[@ivanrosemusic]

Great topic. Thanks mom and dad!

[@7x779]

For a briefer deeper and far more profound understanding of this topic, look up a video by the title called women know your limits. About halfway through, the scientific explanation is given and it appears to agree with the biblical narrative as well

[@con_doorman]

​@@7x779 the Harry Enfield sketch?

[@midnightwatchman1]

Is it that women as become more and more extreme in the social positions and men have more or less remain the same.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

It is. And women expect the same thing from men as always, but refuse to provide their end

[@viperstriker4728]

Men have actually shifted left as well, but far slower. At least in the US. Feminism is the reason for that, not to be confused with women's rights.

[@hla0roo]

I find it hard to believe that you take Pearcy and Reeves seriously. Reeves' entire framework centers around the need for masculinity to be transformed or updated for the modern world. This is hardly a middle-ground approach as it depends on the assumption that progress is an inarguable moral good and that nothing women have achieved over the past two centuries might need to be rolled back -- not to mention that he uncritically accepts the "wage gap" myth despite having read the evidence to the contrary. Pearcy -- although her work on healthy Evangelical relationships and the Industrial Revolution is insightful -- is an admitted DV victim who does not appear to have really worked through her pain, as she explains in her own introduction. Pearcy's arguments around DV in particular are a load of nonsense influenced by biased and incomplete statistics. She practically acknowledges this when she argues that DV by women against men is a non-issue by pointing out that there is a 1 in 5,000,000 chance of a woman being murdered by her male partner. Her overreliance on the Gottmann institute is also telling for her understanding of marriage trends. As reputable as they are, they haven't made their studies available for public study and they do not account for the obvious lack of study into the rate of DV and SA by women against men. The only explicit point she makes to chastise women for mistreating men is to point out that calling for all men to be killed is extreme. Her argument is not that our war on masculinity is damaging; her argument is that men are pretty awful but we've gone too far demonizing men because men aren't THAT awful. You might notice that her conclusion is exclusively advice on how men should change their behavior and contains nothing directed at women. You'll notice that her entire critique of men's rights (which I agree should be critiqued in places) is entirely without nuance, fundamentally misunderstands what she is addressing, and is very negative. The biggest problem I have here is that we already know what women's problems are. They are shouted from the rooftops and written into laws for women's wellbeing. I am so sick of hearing, "What men don't understand is _______," for the twentieth time, as if I didn't hear it the first nineteen times -- even matters that I agree are cause for concern. The bigger problem is that, even when men speak up about their own needs, they are only received in two ways: men are ignored, or men are accused of being wimps complaining about nothing and told to remove themselves from the gene pool. Yes, men and women both have problems we need to solve, but it is plainly obvious that women are far more out of joint at this point than men, especially given that men's greatest failures at this point are in response to women's behavior. There are far fewer men who will lay a hand on a woman than women who will publicly humiliate and insult a man, let alone the women who lay hands on a man and get away with it scot free.

[@AbslomDaak]

TLDR; Male suicide epidemic, women most affected.

[@RemaTho]

Empathy is an important topic. Too bad some people didn't treat others well. May god bless you with knowledge and time, your videos are very important. Glad I found your channel a while ago.

[@JrBurger]

Your videos are so important in this day and age. Please continue to keep up the great work.

[@sakadula]

Compassionate, tender balanced, and biblically aware. Given the political divide you mentioned in the opening, one could almost imagine that God had been speaking to the man when he said, "I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed"! With both your words and your demeanor, you show the way toward being FOR each other, the fulfillment of the divine intent.

[@lovenottheworld5723]

The problem with the world is that when someone is put in charge they start to make the rules. That's God's Domain. Our destinies are written in Heaven. We all have different roles in the lives of others to help with everyone ultimately fulfilling what was written about them before they were born. The one in charge starts to make definitions, put people in boxes, impose limits and then say it's god's will. This is satanic behaviour.

[@woffordwolf2071]

I agree with your point but I am always surprised by the naivety of Christians who think the bible is God's direct unaltered word.😅

[@viperstriker4728]

The centurion who got his servant healed by Jesus said "I too am a man under authority" and just responded by marveling at his faith. I think their is a big lesson in that that adds to your point. Leadership, at it's core, is service. And to be great we do have to look to higher authorities to serve. There is of course non better then God.

[@stevenkramer6217]

I want to call clickbait, since the thumbnail graph is for South Korea, and is FAR more dramatic than the others. The others have a less dramatic gap, though there still is one, so I wonder if perhaps there is a cultural factor at play in Korea that is causing that severe of a disparity

[@williamwhite6502]

I'm in complete agreement, and your comment is something I wanted to bring up, but had to search far and long into the comment section to see anyone mention it. Thank you for doing so @stevenkramer6217 ! :)

[@viperstriker4728]

South Korea is where the 4B movement comes from. Women literally swearing off relationships with men. They elected an anti-feminist in response. Feminism is causing the divide, the graphs just show how far along it is in each country.

[@averdadeeumaso4003]

Yeah agreed

[@gac9603]

If I remember correctly the US graph is equally dramatic but the other way around, men staying mostly constant and women veering off left.

[@liarwithagun]

They had a literal and explicit pro-feminist prime minister. Turns out people did like it.

[@tru2thastyle]

This video is really important, I had to share this on my Instagram story. This is very timely!

[@francisjudge]

what a compelling way to present such a serious issue, thank you

[@uncreatedlogos]

3:45 what's more crazy is that the mother's religiosity is negatively correlated with the child's religiosity...

[@williamwhite6502]

I noticed that too. For the man to be the one that goes more often increased the likeliness the most of the children still attending regularly.

[@viperstriker4728]

Wow, I didn't notice that. That is crazy. I got to double check that somehow as that actually is really important.

[@JayVal90]

“Religiosity” deserves scare quotes here.

[@mr.mensch1557]

Interesting insights! Thank you!

[@suntech5868]

I would suggest this abuse of complementary differences can extend to parenting. 8:30 A father should never use intimidation twords his daughter thus loosing her trust. 9:30 A mother should never gossip about her son thus loosing his trust. Children whom loose trust of thier parent are more likely to engage in harmful behavior that leads to self injury or jail.

[@BiblicalBookworm]

💯

[@paulstandaert5709]

What do these abusive husbands / boyfriends do to attract women? It has personally happened to me a few times now. A woman passed me up and ended up with someone who physically abuses her, and then she sticks with him. I may never understand.

[@williamwhite6502]

My understanding is they act with confidence and with pride, and women(in my seen experience at least, never been a woman/girl) want someone who is "sure of themselves". This leads to where they feel they can pass the responsibility of choice to said person, so that way when things go wrong they have someone to blame for it.

[@liarwithagun]

​@@williamwhite6502There is also the fact that women like men to be dangerous. It is not moral, or anything, but at a base biological level they are attracted to men who are dangerous. Think of those women who like criminals or guys like Ted Bundy. Now, we have done all we have as a society to make men as undangerous as possible (ironically, because women voted and pushed for that), and that might be the moral/right thing to do, but it doesn't change the reality that it makes women as dry as a desert.

[@delawariand9860]

This was a great video but it didn't explain why men and women are diverging so dramatically in political views. You explained how men and women were created to complement each other and how they have advantages and disadvantages like life expectancy. You explain how it is important to understand each other but for what purpose? A house divided cannot stand, divergent views means someone is wrong. In general liberal values like abortion, gay marriage, transgenderism, free love, and feminism all fly in the face of biblical teaching. LA is burning and a lot of people are wondering if it is like what God did to Sodom and Gomorrah Why didn't you address right and wrong? Why are so many women going in the wrong direction biblically? We should say they are wrong

[@goodlookinouthomie1757]

You can't say there is right and wrong. It might hurt someone's fee-fees.

[@Mrsgmuller73]

My personal view is that everyone is wrong and society is mostly twisted either way. I mean, men were supposed to protect and love women, but instead, throughout history, men have treated women as property or lesser citizens, men have also used their physical virtues not to protect women, but to r4pe, murder and oppress women. In postmodern capitalist civilization women finally saw an opportunity to change that scenario, but, just like men, they twisted their virtues

[@Livingbygrace3332]

Hhhhhh trying to blame women for all bad things that is happening again ( so all the wars that have taken place through out history it's due to women going the wrong way biblically) actually this thing makes me question the bible if it wasn't written by men who like every culture looked down on women or always blamed women if things aren't going well in the households

[@Mrsgmuller73]

@Livingbygrace3332 Adam blamed Eve and had the audacity to blame God. What did you expect?

[@goodlookinouthomie1757]

@ Well God has broad shoulders. At least his son has.

[@Lion.Heart.7512xxwrt]

Good things need love, time, care. Evil destroys with a strike. There is a war going on and if we can´t see through that, we´re lost. Thank you for your kind contribution.

[@ChristIsYHWH]

Thank Jesus Christ I've been a Catholic for mere days, and a severe conviction from God the Holy Spirit has opened my eyes so much to how heinous my past mistakes were (not that it didn't happen before, but after experiencing the fullness of the faith, it followed that it heightened after that) so (after genuinely repenting) I resolved to become the best man God can make me so my future wife can feel safe in every aspect, Deus vult.

[@matthew953]

Why Catholicism is false: -Inserting idolatry like Christmas and Easter into the faith (Deuteronomy 12:30) -Changing the sabbath to sunday which God never commands(Mark 7:6-9) -Eat bacon, shrimp(Isaiah 66:16-17) -Worshipping statues, cross necklaces(Exodus 20:4, Revelation 9:20)

[@tippiergnome8471]

@@matthew953hush pagan

[@Tyler-jq4ko]

@matthew953 St. Paul states that we don't have to follow the old law. What did Jesus mean that the gates of Hell will not prevail over the Church? Are you saying God is too weak to govern an organization dedicated to worshipping Him? Why was Peter the Rock?

[@matthew953]

@Tyler-jq4ko The gates of hell prevailing against the church doesn't mean the true one is the majority. There has always been a remnant of true believers. Exodus 31:16-17 says that the Sabbath is the everlasting sign between God and his people. The church rejected it and taught their sun god day instead because they are Pharisees who think they are above the rules of God.

[@ninamartin1084]

Welcome Home

[@joaogabrielimperial7777]

00:16 if we turn into absolute monarchy this problems disappear

[@flatout5815]

With Jesus in our hearts we are never alone.

[@Anna-zc6ch]

Elisabeth, thank you for this important video and the great work you're doing for us! God bless everyone who tries to solve the problems you mentioned. God wants us to keep together and have healthy families. 🌹❤

[@mantisshadow8990]

Great video, I would love to see more videos from you! Please keep it up 👍🏾

[@CamoLoTiProd]

Always amazing to listen to. I can personally testify that loneliness has led me to sin, though I have never truly wanted to kill myself. I know I’m far away from being a Godly man, both from age and wisdom, but I hope to find my wife and make friends who I can be vulnerable with. I hope that y’all are encouraged by the fact that we’re not alone in our struggles, and that we can come together in fellowship as Christians and rejoice in our weakness. Also, thanks to all of our wonderful parents

[@bruce7548]

Stating that the emancipation of women has challenged gender roles seems an unlikely explanation. During the same time period as women's liberation, men's jobs in many nations were either replaced by machines or by those jobs being done in other nations. Becoming economically surplus has imposed difficulty on many men.

[@WittyWaffle5433]

In the real work multi things are usual true simultaneously.

[@viperstriker4728]

Machines have never replaced skilled workers. If the economy is good the machines allow for things to scale up and the number of jobs stays. Recessions driving automation because it is cheaper then the labor is what replaces jobs. The fed causes those intentionally by the way. And it did so right in the middle of women entering the workforce. That destroyed the wages.

[@tripvanfraiz]

"everyone has a lifetime of experience with their own problems" 👌 1:00

[@gkdaniels1]

Repealing the 19th amendment fixes this problem.

[@joefromravenna]

Once i was grown, my dad opened up about his mental struggles in the time just before he got married at age 46. He was planning on going as long as he could and then unalive himself once disabled. To that end he probably lived 15 years longer than he otherwise would have, because he didn’t even connect himself to a community of faith. The community of faith is the key to creating a counterbalance to domestic situations. In the absence of marriage or in a bad marriage, the individual should have a fall back position where they can find support and help.

[@Ucfilms]

Protestant here wanting to say thank you, needed to hear this. But also really appreciate the sources you put in the description, I follow a lot of Christian channels that don't do this often enough.

[@danjohnson991]

Biblical bookworm, glad I found your channel. I think the Holy Spirit speaks to your heart and you look for ways to communicate what you know. Unfortunately, not everyone has the eyes of their hearts fully open when the communication takes place. You capture the reason why love is not as effective as it should be and the reason is always largely selfishness.

[@tragikk03]

It's not me feeling unneeded that almost killed me - it was emotionally and psychologically abusive women (ex fiance, and 2 others), in combination with the lack of sympathy for grown men in society today and incompetent, profit-driven psychologist/psychiatrists. Pardon my french, but no one gives a fuck about us, to be frank. I feel that society has pushed us away and now blames us for it. I disliked this video because I think you speak too confidently and portray a false sense of understanding and authority on this issue. I see no priest class justified in the new testament either, but that is a minor disagreement relative to the previously mentioned. I respect your willingness to engage with this topic, however. You were very lucky to have a good father, kudos to him. Good men and fathers are rare today.

[@rollupyoursleeves8773]

A nicely done video. Good job, Bookworm. Yes, we need to try to understand each other's struggles.

[@TheBrowning1911]

Some comments seem harsh and unnecessary. Disagreement is one thing, but people are acting like she's deserves to be talked down to. She's just sharing her thoughts, my dudes. Besides, if she belongs to Christ, why would you treat her as less than a sister in our Father's house? Speak with grace brothers.

[@BoaConstrictor126]

Because she’s outright lying and misrepresenting Christ

[@LucasPatutas]

​@@BoaConstrictor126How? This is a legit question

[@joshuachase8789]

Beautiful words. This is such an important message for society that is becoming more and more divided fueled by most of the content on social media m.

[@theresemalmberg955]

"Equal but different" strikes me as being akin to "separate but equal"--in reality there was more "separate" than "equal" and I feel the same for "equal" but "different", that what it will work out in real life will be more "different" than "equal".

[@kristinam4178]

I feel the same way, reading that. But there is a difference. If 2 groups are kept separate, they cannot interact. That doesn't mean there will be inequalities, but it makes equality difficult. However - being equal in this context does not mean being the same. Someone who likes Starbursts can get a Starburst as a prize, and someone who likes Snickers can get a little Snickers bar as a reward, and they will be approximately equal. Giving a Starburst to someone who hates Starbursts is a waste. Or you could have a prize where one person gets $50,000 and one person gets a $50,000 car. They are different but approximately equal. So you can and often will have situations where things are different but equal. "Separate but equal" created an artificial division based on a genetic characteristic that has no bearing on intelligence or physical ability. Men and women are different, mentally and physically. Not inferior or superior, but different. They cannot be the same, and to treat them as such in some situations creates more inequality. The problem is applying the "equal" part on a societal level without focusing on the "different" part to the point it becomes a goal.

[@viperstriker4728]

Separate but equal was used to describe different bathrooms for different races. Do you think that each gender needs it's own bathroom? Gender and race are not the same and should not be conflated. We are literally different. If you can't accept then don't complain about being uncomfortable with a man in the stall next to you.

[@РоманПаляниця-к5э]

Very interesting and useful video! I found it by accident, but I already want to write a comment to support your channel. Thanks for the video! Greetings from Ukraine, which is bleeding, but does not go away!

[@dreadassembly4087]

I've basically become a monk after my divorce, but I'm not wanting a long life.

[@bigj3508]

This is the way brother. The jackals killed the lions. Let them enjoy the chaotic society they created.

[@elisharobertson5628]

1st, I absolutely love your video! But don't be misled about why Jesus wept, he was distraught that someone (like Martha) could say all the right things, ie she said she believed he was the life and the resurrection, but when he told her he was going to raise Lazarus she did not believe. This is similar to our faith in him now, do we really trust him for our healing? Our salvation?

[@witchreturns2263]

0:14 Not only men and women, but all people nowadays, they don't understand each other. Everyone think that their idea is better, or there's always someone to disagree with you

[@Elucidus4]

Using intimidation to "raise" your kids (or sons)...that was what I thought you were supposed to do, I come from an abusive household it was all I knew... luckily I came to my senses very early on, it only reared its ugly head again when my son became a stubborn teenager and we were fighting about his misbehavior and he called me on it...biggest wake up call of my life. And that kid has some balls...

[@zanderC5953]

Absolutely brilliant choice of topic. A highly important and under-researched topic! Thanks for the biblical, social, and political combination. I hope we all become socially healthy, wiser, and more compassionate towards the opposite sex in our societies❤

[@lkae4]

I didn't hear about empathy until maybe 15 years ago. The divide between men and women has grown since then. What's that mean about empathy? 🤔

[@LTDLimiTeD1995]

If a chick claims to be an "empath" run, because she just confessed to being an emotional vampire.

[@mjh277]

Empathy isn’t a thing men want. So I’m not surprised

[@seriouscat2231]

Empathy means the ability to make room for other person's emotional state and being responsive without being reactive. Now I must watch the video.

[@lkae4]

@@seriouscat2231 Do you have a source for that definition? That sounds like emotional intelligence and sympathy, not empathy.

[@mikeharper3982]

Empathy is a sin, sympathy is not. Watch Joe Rigney discuss this.

[@SteveMichael]

Wow a lot here to take in. The differences between men and women with politics is interesting but not surprising. On one side of the political spectrum you have a party that works on emotion and that draws in women. They know this and thus push emotional issues. On the other side you have a party that pushes ideas based on logic and might seem cruel on the surface and that appeals to men. Now the graph you show is interesting between men and women here and how it is growing. I would be interested to see the same graph with these filters. Women who grew up in a two parent home with the father present in her life. Women who are Jewish/Christian and state that they are. Also the same filter with men. My guess and this is just a guess is that you would see that gap narrow a lot. However, single parent homes and fatherless homes are becoming more normal. Granted people in general are having less children so that is another variable. Not sure what the controversial bible verse is you mention. As I see it the most fulfilling life is being married and having children. The next is being single and the next is a life devoted to God. Now each of these can be perverted and ugly. Also even if a man and a woman have a great foundation in Christ, live their faith and have a child or children, this does not mean they will not have suffering in life. Far from it, but again to clarify, this will be the most fulfilling life. Lastly, and this is back to the graph of men and women being far apart politically. I would love to see this same data but an overlay of what it looks like AFTER people get married and have a child. My guess is that you will see the men become a bit closer to the center and the women go WAY more toward the center. This lends credence to your point of men and women complementing each other. Okay one more point... (bonus). Men out there, take this from an old man. Do NOT EVER dump your problems on your girlfriend or wife. They are not your support and looks for you for strength. Yes you can cry at say your parents funeral, or some other horrible event, but if you use your spouse as a therapist, she will leave you. She wants to see you as the leader of the house, the protector and not the other way around. If you need to dump your problems on someone, do that to your male friends. Again NEVER and I mean never dump your problems to your girlfriend and or wife. It is super tempting as they are closes to you, but you have a role in this relationship. This is similar if you are a leader at a company, you need to act a certain way. So many young men today don't hear this and thus make the mistake of using their girlfriend/wife as a therapist. Then they are shocked when she leaves him or God forbid, cheats on him.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Great insight on such a touchy topic.❤

[@mrright1068]

Well done and very on point! God Bless you!

[@DanielMitchell-333]

I would like to disagree. I do not need a woman, nor do I want one.

[@jaleesahevans101]

Maybe not directly, but indirectly you do. Or else you wouldn't be here😂.

[@Aswsome]

@@jaleesahevans101men have created society for you thank you would be nice

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

The bible advises men stay single unless their desire for a woman is overpowering - it's easier to get into heaven not having to cater to another's whims at the same time

[@R._L.]

​@@jaleesahevans101 Guess someone doesn't know about how the _"almighty"_ algorithms work. 🤷‍♂️

[@Livingbygrace3332]

A woman here, You right 👍 stay away from women

[@thormusique]

This was beautiful, thank you! I love this perspective on individual 'incompleteness', since it applies to relations between friends as much as those between a man and a woman. Very well presented and much food for thought and prayer, cheers!

[@sebastijank98]

Beautiful video. God bless you. I agree with pretty much everything. I however do think there are a few things to add. Saying that divorce rate is very high is true, but it's worth noting that the rate of it between faithful couples who attend Mass together and pray together is exponentially lower. Secondly, and this is not to elevate men at all, but I think men are very aware of how they can hurt women and what women feel threatened by, but few women are aware of how commonly women use men's vulnerability to hurt them and the effects it has on men. Lastly, you beautifully pointed out how men's strengths can be used instead of abused, but perhaps missed how women's strengths can be used in their own way.

[@realNewTimesRoman]

I had to make sure that I was subscribed to you. I’m glad to see that there are still analytical people in the world.

[@blueleader8987]

You said nothing to answer the question why women are mostly left and men going to the right. And you ignored the relevant verses in Genesis. So typical.

[@michaelhoudecki3657]

lol yep

[@dopemandan1810]

If you want a short answer to that, men usually lean on the right because they are naturally more manual workers and tend to prefer routine rather than women. It also explains why men feel less satisfied after seeing a therapist as men usually have a tendency of trying to find the solution and fix it themselves

[@grateful4grace]

As a man, a newly divorced man, I was thrilled when I heard a new author, a woman, Shaunti Feldhan describe her discovery that men think differently than women. She was being interviewed for (at that time new) book "For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men". I understood our divorce better. My wife was raised in a fatherless home by her mom, and had no male siblings. Everyone thought alike. Her experience taught her all that she needed to know. There were times where I thought that she was downright mean to me. What I learned was that she was ignorant of the way that I thought, and how her words and actions would affect me. She gained a lot of her sense of self and safety from what the 2nd wave of feminism taught her. I was relieved when she left me. I waited for her return for 6 years, praying and hoping that God would restore our family, and would humble us so that we could understand each other. That we would both understand that safety and identity, can best be understood through salvation, with Holy Spirit as our step by step, average day tutor/leader into truth about God, and about each other.