The Story Behind the Stuff: Emotional Decluttering with T.K. Coleman

[@kimberlywalker280]

Dawn, his demeanor is SO COMPASSIONATE....I WANTED to cry. An amazing interview....you let him talk...which I really appreciate....wonderful material....wisdom well presented. ❤

[@beverlybrake]

I’m making a quilt for my oldest granddaughter for Christmas and I decided to use my grandmothers (her great great grandmothers) handkerchief in it. And her mothers (my daughters) old majorette uniform in it. Among some other special pieces. Those things just sit in tubs in my cellar top. Now they will be incorporated into something very special and used every day.

[@elizabethp17]

How beautiful ❤

[@northstar4851]

Fantastic! Could you make a video on the simplest way to cut and sew similar items?

[@Erinba]

TK embodies the best traits of being a human - a truly great person

[@traceye3488]

I love T.K. always refreshing his take on emotions and things to ask yourself. Enlightening, thank you Dawn!!

[@katiegilbert1131]

Dawn, I have been watching you for years, T.K. may be the best person that you have ever had on your show. Clutter is an emotional issue for many of us and we need to accept that and then we can move on. THANKS again.

[@shanrenem8077]

What a blessing the two of you are! Thanking the Lord for positive role models in this crazy, upside down world.

[@strudwick66]

This was very emotional for me. I am a person who is always striving to be better, do better, improve myself. Sometimes when I hear the message "you're good the way you are" it almost makes me cry. I think I sometimes am stuck in the narrative "good people are always trying to improve themselves", and I think many people who grew up Christian may have this mindset as well. It really hit home about the restrictions we take on unnecessarily because of our internal narrative. The whole concept presented here is very freeing. It's a hard mindset to break. I've heard this type of message before but then fall back into the old mindset of "trying" instead of "being". It's hard, because it seems noble and good to want to do better, but not when it's because you can't accept your imperfections.

[@Shiryone]

T.K. is so full of wisdom and compassion.

[@elizabeth75000]

Love T.K. His voice and manner of speaking is ALWAYS soothing, relaxing, and insightful.

[@PassionKnitCozy]

I love what TK says about not judging our feelings. I think a lot of us judge our selves vs having compassion. (Self critic). Great episode Dawn!!❤

[@cherylwilsenach3082]

"The truth may hurt, but it also helps"!!!! Profound!!!

[@kristyleavitt8007]

Dawn and TK in the same video?? Two of my favorite minimalists!! ❤

[@marilyns6043]

I decided to give away my wedding dress after my grown daughter told me she didn’t want to wear it for her wedding. I found a thrift shop that would sell it for a good cause. And I thought I was okay with it but when the clerk asked what was in the box and I told him - I burst into tears and had to leave. But I had a good cry and know it was the right thing to do. Now I don’t miss it - and I’m grateful to not have it around to move with me from place to place.

[@yvettefluehr493]

What a great guest!

[@NicolaLouise]

TK is so wise! Great podcast, Dawn! 🎉

[@sk8oasis788]

Wow TK 34:44 on was definitely divinely inspired. It matched what I was praying on in that exact moment ❤🙏

[@heidibonjour]

I LOVE TK COLEMAN! Thank you for having him on!!!!!!!

[@RandyBailey-k2e]

AKA Kenneth Bailey. TK has been A Joy these Years ! Thank You Dawn for having Him ! 😊

[@lauranewman564]

I may have shared before, Dawn, about my blanket. But it pertains here because I waited until I was ready to let it go, so when I did, I wasn't sad at all. A number of years ago I went to an annual festival and bought a plaid flannel quilt. I loved it, but loaned it to my brother-in-law, who was suffering from a rare cancer. He loved it as well! He was cold all of the time and it was his favorite. After he passed away, my sister wanted to keep it, but I wasn't ready since I loved it myself and she had been quite rude to me regarding some family issues. Last winter, it had been over 10 years, so I decided to give it to my nephew, who had been very sick for nearly a year. Both my sister and her son were thrilled with the blanket! It was still in great shape because I take care of things. I waited until I was ready. I think that's ok; to use the onion method when you aren't ready. Put stuff away in a time will tell, or leave it in your trunk or something. I've never been sorry about anything I've decluttered! ❤

[@elizabethp17]

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[@garycreed9534]

This was so helpful on so many levels…thank you both! ~Angela

[@MamaDisney123]

What an amazing and inspirational person. Thank you so much for introducing him!

[@cyoung6425]

Awesome guest!🤗 He always has such great advice!

[@Roxanne0717]

This was SOoooo good! I’m saving it because I know I want/need to hear it multiple times. Thank you Dawn and TK.

[@dawnalowe2687]

Thank you, Dawn, for tirelessly helping those of us that struggle in this area. Looking forward to hearing this discussion.

[@sarahdingeldein6129]

TK mentioned how people don't go around telling someone they can't grieve after two weeks...My ex-husband did! I'd had a miscarriage, my second one within a few months, with no kids yet. I was crying one day, about two weeks later, and he said I should have been over it within a week, especially given that I'd already been through the process before... I eventually declutterer him, but not for another 4-5 years. Great podcast though! I hadn't thought about a lot of this before!

[@ourdoubledragons]

Great job at decluttering him. Def seems like he didn't bring you joy

[@sarahdingeldein6129]

@ourdoubledragons definitely not! Abusive, and he cheated a bunch! Six long years. But I've been happily married for 19 years to a wonderful man.

[@Iquey]

​@@sarahdingeldein6129it may had been sad at the time , but maybe your body knew it couldn't trust him as the father of your child. That's why men take miscarriages personally because there might be some kind of incompatibility going on, but men are too quick to blame the woman for it.

[@sarahdingeldein6129]

@@Iquey no, that wasn't it. I had two miscarriages, a premature baby, then another miscarriage with him. Finally found out I had a uterine abnormality.

[@babytexan3038]

​@@sarahdingeldein6129 I'm so sorry for your losses and being told not to grieve. I'm nearly seven years out from two miscarriages, and I still grieve them.

[@eyecyou84]

I could listen to T.K. talk ALL DAY! He is so wise and compassionate...the way I wish all men, all people were. Very good interview. As always, I learned a lot.

[@terrikuykendall7580]

Wow! I’ve not listened to TK without his sidekicks (😅) and I found out he’s amazing. I love listening to his wisdom.

[@lost-south-lake-crafters]

Great interview!

[@pancakey636]

Omg you got TK! 2 of my fav in one show!❤

[@evatoon984]

Incredible and helpful conversation ❤

[@e-r2961]

Love it! Great insights, so true about the cycle of emotions. There's no need to explain everything.

[@dorisochoa116]

I’m probably gonna watch this like five times lol so much wisdom. When he said we are already whole, it made me tear up 😢❤

[@sandrainontario6710]

I've been struggling with items from my previous marriage. After listening to this I think I can get rid of the wedding photographs. The dress and other things might have to wait.

[@MsJ0an]

❤Hugs. My husband left 18 years ago but it's only been in the last 2 months that I've been emotionally ready to declutter my wedding dress. Maybe one day I will burn the photos. To remove these objects is to go through the process of the death of a precious dream I've had since I was a little girl. It's not about him or the things.

[@sandrainontario6710]

@MsJ0an it's only been 3 years for me. I started taking the photos out of the photo album today and it was too hard I finally threw the whole thing in the trash. Still so many memories around here

[@MsJ0an]

@sandrainontario6710 I didn't have any pictures up but the photo albums are packed away. My kids are all adults now. They will be home for Christmas so I might ask, a few days later, if they want them. My ex-father-in-law created a beautiful wood photo album so its really difficult for me to throw it out. Be proud of yourself. Hugs

[@kimdavies9364]

Brilliant podcast, thank you both very much!

[@JessicaPerlove]

This was outstanding!

[@serenitysummers8514]

This is amazing 💜

[@january1227]

So good! My son works for FEE as well.

[@julieallen5212]

I love this guest

[@kimbers1238]

Great guest!!

[@tamiurquizo746]

I felt that way after having trouble with pinworms for 5 months. I had to let go of sugar for a bit to really kill the worms off. 😅😢

[@kraykray4118]

I absolutely love how TK explained feelings by describing it like the weather. I think we can free up some of our heaviness but thinking of it this way❤

[@gabbygab3661]

😊💜🌸 great episode

[@Smallworld2024]

İ can listen T.K 7/24 😂 he is amazing❤

[@mollyv.9629]

Finally!!!!❤

[@lynny397]

Love u T.K ❤️

[@joshstansbury9586]

Over the years I have let go of many items that at one time I thought were valuable. I often hold on to things until I recognize that the personal value has decreased over time. Now when I declutter I wonder if valuable space is filled with items that will be less valuable as time goes by? Or is there a better way to keep the items I still value? A cabinet, a better shelf space, or another way.

[@jonelledavenport8701]

😊

[@jeanmarie2928]

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