The Strange Situation - Mary Ainsworth

[@Vacuumlover]

Please tell me I'm not the only one here from psych class 😂

[@jiojet2633]

ur not :D

[@WillJay8130]

At FDTC lol?

[@richardwang5530]

you're not alone~

[@johnjohnjohn1647]

Same, Ivy Tech in Indiana.

[@TheRubberMatch]

trying to study for a fucking test tomorrow lmaoo

[@JaneDoe-ym7de]

Just because a child is crying does not make the experiment unethical.

[@almagore1]

+Leeds Mitch No it doesn't, but then that is not what I said either.

[@patrickkaspari4997]

the fuck is your problem dawg?!

[@ingejustavanderhelm5208]

Yes it does.

[@jamieleeparotat9996]

True. It only shows the relationship between mother and child.

[@gabrielegenota1480]

@@ingejustavanderhelm5208 So... when a child cries in my home... I'm unethical. Yes?

[@MauvaDeXVRO]

My dad and mother always said I was a calm child,rarely cried...now I know why...being raised by narcissistics made me develop disorganized attachment,back way there I was scared but also in need of my caregivers(still am),the unresolvable fear...now I'm fucked up with dissociation.I hope I can recover someday and feel secure on my own.

[@lwlviclwl]

+Victor Ouriques you will be fine!!! Be positive!!! Since you hv figure out what's your problems, so this could allow you to hv some cognitive changing, This is a very important step!!!!!!!!! Good luck and sorry for my bad English :D Ps: hv watched some of your videos! love it!( ^ω^)( ^ω^)( ^ω^)

[@haileyt857]

+Victor Ouriques Same buddy.

[@Livelovelifeeleni]

+Victor Ouriques sorry to hear youre still a good person and bnest of luck to you in life

[@almagore1]

+Victor Ouriques I hope you are being either facetious or sarcastic. That is the way it sounds to me and from what you write it also seems you are pretty normal.

[@MauvaDeXVRO]

No I'm not normal.I've been living with depersonalization disorder for 5 years,since 15,now I'm 20.It never went away,and the presence of my parents and their disagreements with my personality and choices in life increased my DP/DR to a HELL LEVEL.I Would never joke about this.I'm not "normal" and don't know if I'll ever be.I need to feel secure on my own,something I never did since I was born.

[@nandacw]

Baby "How dare you left me alone with this being".

[@almagore1]

+fernanda bueno From a baby, "Mom you and Dad are the only beings I have been with for 1 year. Before that I was nice and safe and secure in my mother's womb. There was the same temperature all the time and I was never hungry. All of my needs were cared for instantly. Then after 9 months I felt this terrible pressure that felt like it was going to squeeze me in 1/2 and kill me! But I didn't die. Instead I was squeezed down this incredibly tight tunnel while I heard my mother screaming like she was going to die and I was pushed out to this very cold place where some vicious person slapped my on my butt very hard! I couldn't stand the pain and screamed so loud that all of the nice fluid in my lung fell out ( what terrible thing will that do?). Then some nice person but not my mommy put me in a blanket and kept me warmer. For the past year my mo5ther and father were the only one4s to take care of me. I know that they love me and will always take care of me which comforts me because I can't take care of any of my needs and if someone else doesn't do it, I will die. Now look, I am going somewhere where with only my mother. I hopes nothing hurts her so she can't take care of me. O now ook, she has left the room and I am all alone with this person who might hit me and not feed me. Without my mom, I will surely die. " I know I went on a lot but just because you, probably an adult don't mind being left alone for a minute, that can hardly be true of a defenseless baby. Sometimes it's difficult to realize that a month or 2 month old infant may not have the same mental and emotional capabilities as we do.

[@Savannah-qb4bb]

lol

[@jordannewton7281]

Do you think the baby still would’ve cried even if the stranger wasn’t there? I do

[@Juuqe]

who's here doing online schooling bc of covid

[@jamesgodden7760]

yep, just 8 months later

[@Juuqe]

@@jamesgodden7760 I hope you and your family is safe :)

[@jamesgodden7760]

@@Juuqe cheers man, all good luckily none of my family members have underlying health issues, hope ur safe dude

[@person1232]

Yep!

[@domp5014]

Bruh indeed

[@fairlywildchild1455]

Lisa is fine. This is what it's like when you leave a child with a new caregiver, at preschool or daycare, or even with a relative they haven't seen in a while. Yes, they will cry, but that's just part of life. This will not leave a child traumatized. Children need to trust that their parents will come back for them. When I start with a new family (I work as a nanny), the infant will often dissolve into tears the first time the parents leave. They are confused, they do not know what is happening. Once I soothe them, they go back to normal, and happily greet their parents with a hug and a smile when they return. Nothing life-changingly horrible about that.

[@sampeacaml9307]

Still, if I become a mother, I won't use daycare, as much as I can.

[@eingew]

Actually that depends on the age of the child. If the mother is going back to work in the first year already the child is significantly more likely to get a psychological disorder. Ofc, most children still get over it, but that doesn't mean at all that it is recommendable to leave the child alone before it is old enough. If it is old enough it is ofc even important for the child to get regular contact with other children in his age without his mother protecting him from probably negative experience.

[@Benstephan123]

what you suggest is normalizing cruelty is normal. this is the excect reason there is so many mental illness in children by the time they reach school age they are medicated. children do not need strangers taking care of them for healthy development they need their parents.

[@yanasto]

Nothing about the study indicates that there is anything wrong with the child. In fact, the narrator states that Lisa shows signs of "secure attachment," which is normal and desireable. Not sure where you got the idea that there was something wrong.

[@Crystal_saga]

MA AD so what about when the mom has to work and no one is there to take care of the baby?

[@kenzij]

Ok, this needs to be the standard for all children starting daycare. I worked at a daycare for two years and we had so many parents who would say "I'm just going to leave while [my child]'s not looking, that way they won't miss me as much." I mean hello! That's not how it works and now you've left us, people your kid hardly knows, to attempt to comfort your child. I mean the least you can do is show them that you trust us and then leave and come back, then leave for real. They're still going to cry but at least they're slightly more. Notice how Lisa let the stranger actually touch her the second time

[@AmericanWoman1]

Mothers should be raising their children and not a darn stranger where it won't be loved all day. Don't have kids to not even raise them!

[@LunaVal]

Your comment shows you have no real grasp on actual reality for most humans WhatIsThis

[@AmericanWoman1]

Luna Val, you obviously feel it's good to have a baby and then leave it to strangers to raise it! Being a parent is the greatest 'job' in the entire world but don't have a baby if you aren't going to raise it! People are f---ed up putting a job ahead of their child! Ask any first grade teacher if they can tell which kids were in daycare and which were raised by the mother and they always say yes!

[@LunaVal]

Do you also think the current world supports most one-income households, especially if there's more than one child? WhatIsThis

[@gotem6891]

@@AmericanWoman1 hmm well if you can't financially support yourself or your child, you won't be raising it anyway 🤷

[@emilymacaluso4073]

when the stranger first comes in Lisa is all like "Excuse me bitch, who are you??"

[@laela6289]

Was thinking the same thing xD

[@laela6289]

That stare xDDDD

[@Tiffanetic]

LOL !!!!

[@reneekristofors9082]

Kæla Brown n

[@TheEpicSquirrels]

i love that the baby just stares at the stranger, makes me laugh eveytime xD

[@moeezS]

Yeah, like wtf is this thing?!

[@Bratzismylife]

My son is 1 and he stares at strangers for a long time 😆

[@888believe]

100% like who the f&* are you?

[@ineffablemars]

🙄 this is not unethical. Calm down. The child is not being hurt at all. Leaving your child in a room with a stranger is not hurtful, you will have to do it at some point.

[@chickadee39]

Yup. Like first day at play school.. etc.

[@mandypandy111ify]

Also, I'm pretty sure the mom can see the baby on the monitors. So she's readily available if something goes wrong.

[@theo2oo4]

yeah i agree, because it’s only a stranger to the child but it’s not actually a real stranger because they obviously organised it all out he’s only another participant...so there’s obviously trust with him. although i think IF it were unethical, it wouldn’t be whether everyone had to do it at some point it’s more to do with the fact that the baby may have a distressful experience... but honestly i think it was all fine

[@blueberrymuffinj1481]

There goes my evaluation 🥲

[@aplus1080]

"Leaving your child in a room with a stranger is not hurtful, you will have to do it at some point." haha Yes the pain the child feels isn't real and it's ok because it's inevitable pain. ETHICS! *jazz hands*

[@sawsix1823]

I notice that when the mom leaves the baby immediately tries to follow. Immediately.

[@tiny.terrorist.negotiator]

Hey mine still do that at 18, 16 and 6 years old "where are going? Can I go? Can we stop by starbucks?"

[@milmil5350]

The baby is adorable. My heart shattered whenever she cried when the mother left the room. Each reunion made me feel happy. I hope the mother and child are doing well. 💖

[@secretsquirrel7374]

Really?

[@prometheustv6558]

The child is probably like 50 now

[@aotyyouknow3185]

@@prometheustv6558 but wasnt this released 13 yrs ago?

[@prometheustv6558]

@@aotyyouknow3185 no it was decades

[@cartergomez5390]

I thought it was funny because it was just an experiment but hopefully the baby doesn't remember all the "torture" lol

[@bbd57bjk]

greetings to all preschool teachers

[@theo2oo4]

i’m a student and i don’t think it’s within the teachers’ capabilities to look at the comment section ahahhaha

[@domp5014]

Lol sure bruh

[@nemuitanuki]

I've been caught

[@throast7247]

It's interesting that the baby despite not yet being able to walk still makes an immediate effort to follow her mother mother out of the room

[@FeelTheLack]

When I was 6 months old my mother got leukemia and fought it in the hospital for 3 years, she survived but came back a completely different person with a severe speech impediment and brain damage. I remember first 'meeting' her at 3 and thinking 'wow this nice lady really likes me' lol but I never really thought of this nice lady as my mother. I'm nearly 40 and at this point I know that I'll never be able to marry I'm incapable of that amount of intimacy. Just thought I'd share because it's an interesting psychological case. I'm a happy person, just don't have that ability to attach.

[@Arkylie]

So... you didn't have anyone else to attach to? Not a dad, aunt or uncle, even a sibling? I mean, the part about not recognizing your mom is quite interesting, but it seems weird that you find yourself unable to attach to anyone now. There was literally nobody else to attach yourself to as a baby?

[@FeelTheLack]

My dad worked about 10 hours a day trying to support us and pay medical bills and was at the hospital a lot to be with my mother. I had some regular caretakers, family members and volunteers from church, and my teenage sister whom I'm told I called mommy sometimes and had to be corrected because it would be sad for my mother. People had their own lives and gave what time they could but I was passed around a lot.

[@Arkylie]

This might sound odd, but have do you like webcomics? Because I could recommend Gunnerkrigg Court -- it's got a fantasy setting, but the main character seems to have a backstory that would possibly resonate with you. I can see how a kid who got passed around, without having a single solid person to connect with, would have problems developing that sort of connection ability. What sort of friendships have you developed by now, if any? (P.S. I'm a writer and quite interested in the details of outliers -- people whose experience strongly differs from the norm -- but if I get too personal or you just don't want to discuss it further, be straight about that and I'll try to respect your wishes. I have trouble taking hints, so don't worry about hurting my feelings through lack of tact -- just be clear where the boundaries are.)

[@sandrahazm8418]

Regardless of the circumstances we live in, we do not know when we will leave, and we must be satisfied with those we love, especially the mother with the children, who must enjoy this time and at this age with them, and when they grow up, they learn more quickly. Let me shed tears when I read your comment. May God help you. There is nothing greater than mother in this world

[@yehhshhs]

I have never been soothed like that in my entire life.

[@franciscaferret4303]

Sending hugs

[@ingrid5944]

This made my heart ache!!! I wish I could give you a big hug! You deserve love as everyone else in this world, you're worthy of love, never forget this! ❤️

[@alyrock257]

I may have gotten a tear in my eye when Lisa started crawling to the door and crying immediately when her mother left lol. However I do think I had separation anxiety as a child because I freaked out anytime my parents left me, even when they had to pay for gas at the gas station and left me in the car

[@ivysauberan4798]

Like most people in these comments, I came here when learning about this in psych. Separation anxiety in infants is normal and to be expected, most young children exhibit it.

[@q.m17]

SAME

[@intersectionalworldpeace7486]

Babies often also can't understand, that when they don't see an object, it is still there. So when the parents go out of sight, the baby could think that the parents have vanished. And being sad about loved ones leaving should also feel sad. This is healthy.

[@kkmadi1]

I love how the baby is looking at the other woman like, “who the fuck are you?”

[@elramyeon]

Was looking for this comment 😂

[@gentlechaos5911]

"Do NOT touch me you pleb."

[@martinwest2538]

It's good to notice this test shows already habitual patterns in these small children, they are not spontaneous "for the first time" happenings. The small children already have their former experiences in life situations like this, according to different ways of attachment, and react accordingly. In my opinion this is a great example of the significance of happenings from the very beginning of our lives, how we are received and treated straight after our birth, already since the first day.

[@shazzie4917]

I think some of you don't understand the meaning of this experiment. If you listen closely to the child's bereaved emotions, you can actually hear the tears of fear transitioning into tears of anger. Although the security attachment is positive between mother and child, the long term affects of continuous disruption to the attachment could lead the child into feeling a sense of abandonment. Bowlbys attachment theorys revolve around attachment and the cause of non-attachment, which could develop into all forms of crisis in the future.

[@DeadlyEpicBuzzMan]

Using this to study for my Developmental Psychology exam,thanks!And although it may be awful to see the baby crying, it is an important way of examining attachment and relationships, how else are we to know? Saying it is unethical is like saying its wrong to have a child crying when you're putting it to bed, babies cry, we're just finding out what upsets them

[@aplus1080]

Hopefully in 13 years you've developed better logic.

[@missingdev0948]

@@aplus1080 minor, temporary stress is not long-term damaging enough for a baby to be "unethical". Unfortunately, the arithmetic is simple- minor stress for some children to better treat and care for hundreds of thousands

[@aplus1080]

@@missingdev0948 your logic is specious and this is how I know you're not educated. You don't have to have "long term" effects for something to be unethical. Also your last piece justifies nazi experiments. So congrats.

[@galacticquasaur2956]

@@aplus1080 This didn't age well...

[@aplus1080]

@@galacticquasaur2956 I love soyboys who try to quip. Go do jumping jacks.

[@traysimmy107]

*Stranger tries to comfort baby* Baby "Respectfully lady, get out my f*cking face"

[@yehhshhs]

dude, when i was young and my mother left the room, all i felt was tension going away for abit. once she would enter the room again, major anxiety and fear would come up. This sums up my childhood/teenlife. Now I manage to ignore her, but sometimes she still gives me this unsettling feeling like she's some devil.

[@mirandakim9521]

Holy shit man that’s scary. Whatd she do though?

[@FirstReviewer]

This is good work. I know that it is hard to watch a baby crying, but the benefits from these types of experiments go far beyond a couple seconds of a baby crying. I wonder is the baby could have been conditioned to feel more secure with the stranger if the Mother had left the room, starting at a quick exit and re-entering and then increasing the absent time gradually? I think we are have been put in the baby's situation growing up and not as an experiment: very stressful indeed, and not very easily forgotten. Great Work, FR

[@ddu020]

And that is what we are forced to do in today's society, go back to work, just leave the baby's feeling abandoned, at one year old in a kindergarten with strangers. 😢😢😢

[@幻彩小羽毛]

it is weird I kinda like how the kid cries the instance the mom's out the room and even tries to follow her, that is soooo cute❤️ and it shows(I think) how much the kid loves and dependent on her mom and yes I am also brought here from psy class😂

[@mauia88]

Being dependent isn't a good thing. Exactly what did your psychology class teach you about this? I'm curious.

[@Icantfeeeeeelit]

It's heartwrenching to watch, but that might be because I've experienced trauma from not being fully nurtured with needs being met. It's painful to hear the baby scream without being comforted..

[@irrsinnslicht1]

Ha! And my mother in law is trying to tell me my 7 month old baby is "difficult" because she cry when I leave the room 🙄 She said her son (my husband) almost never cried, could play allone for hours.. Now I know why he can be so clingy 😅

[@marlyl1957]

I remember when my mom would drop me off in first grade and I would always cry. It was embarrassing

[@mastercolling]

That "strange" adult didn't look that strange to me. A funny hat or some fluro pants might have done it.

[@mastercolling]

But seriously this shit is so amazing.

[@kuukuyankson2033]

Sorry,why is this amazing?Been used to seeing this all my life and I am a man!

[@ApartmentViews]

wilsonic "Strange" as in stranger.

[@philipjboudreau7369]

missing the point

[@Benstephan123]

how old are you? you talk like a juvenile who has no clue about life

[@thomasrichards1234]

Thanks for uploading, it's much easier to understand watching a video rather than reading about it in a textbook, hopefully it'll be of some help to me in my Psychology AS exam tomorrow!

[@kebab3194]

I have an exam tomorrow. Visual learning!

[@secretsquirrel7374]

This is fascinating! How have I never heard or seen this before? My children are too old but it would have been interesting to see how they would have reacted.

[@akahment]

Idk why they are talking about ethical issue about this one. This situation always happen in real life, not only in the lab.

[@mestery.j378]

We are expressive of how loneliness sucks since our birth

[@crunchybroll4731]

When I was little in kindergarten for the first two weeks I would cry every time my mom or dad would drop me off. When I was in 1st grade my dad would drop me off in the library and I would cry there as well and the librarian made a little stick man with fuzzy wire things. Then I felt better and we became friends lol

[@sevenmillionhobbies7840]

So every time a mother needs to use the restroom, the child gets traumatized?

[@sherri1699]

In an unfamiliar setting, yes. At home, no.

[@Vyocae]

Trauma is something different. What is happening here is an adaptive stress response--it is appropriate to the situation. I figure you're likely half-kidding, so I won't put effort into elaborating. Lemme know if that's not the case and I shall explain what trauma actually is. :)

[@Aisha-kv3xg]

Dude, pretty much.

[@klashkat]

I'm actually interested to know how one would scientifically describe the process of trauma, would you mind elaborating?

[@Benstephan123]

in a home setting there are other family members familiar to the child. you sound sarcastic

[@perris-marievaharville7974]

Just learnt about this experiment in my psychology class.

[@kennybautista8218]

I can only imagine Lisa running into this video and being "wtf mom"

[@jellajadina]

I'm only stuDYING

[@viv610]

I see absolutely nothing unethical in this experiment. It is a situation equivalent to a mother having to get up to answer the phone or go to the kitchen. If only they would publish what animals have to go through.

[@SoraQuasar]

dear lord... by reading some of the comments... i really sorry for you people. as if you never left your baby in the room so it will go to sleep and then he start crying. so you go back and calm it down. whats the big deal? this experiment has no ethical problems at all, its acually based on every day life of a normal baby. and if you evoide this, well... your baby wont really grow up so normally.

[@dianedavidson5283]

I'm glad I was never called upon to put my child through such a test. So cruel. I know they are trying to study the child, it's still mean.

[@caramaier4313]

Das erinnert mich daran, das es so wichtig ist, das man als fremde Person eine gute Bindung zum Kind aufbaut und es nicht einfach „sofort“ geht.

[@travisyoutubeseriesofrando1363]

3:12 What attachment style does she exhibit? "Secure" Save ya the trip, lol

[@mauia88]

Incorrect. She said the baby displayed "outward signs of... secure attachment". The video cut then but it's clear the baby does not follow the "secure" attachment style. If it did, the baby would not cry when the mother leaves or would at least be comforted by the stranger.

[@ernievesalurio1245]

@@mauia88 no. When she said outward signs, she probably meant "obvious signs". Secure babies cry when their caregivers leave them but are comforted when they are reunited. So in conclusion, this baby exhibits secure attachment.

[@anjolalayeni5503]

bless your heart

[@MoeThaCrazyBartender]

I was watching it it in the developmental psychology course at the university together with my professor!

[@amberyam]

@stevedoetsch This is to see how different children react to the same situation. A 'normal' healthy baby would cry when the mother leaves, but children who have been neglected will not! What they have shown you is an example of a healthy baby. This study effectively shows how different relationships with the parents can affect how the baby reacts in various ways to the same distressing situation.

[@gameofskate]

Im doing a A2 psychology exam end of January. This is extremely helpful when trying to remember the stages or 'Timed Episodes' that the study contains. Thank you ever so much for uploading! ^^;;

[@mj3off]

howd it go

[@kalilawhite]

@@mj3off bro this comment was 12 YEARS ago lol

[@elramyeon]

@@kalilawhite Fr that’s wild

[@HyrdaRancher]

Did Catelyn Stark narrate this =P

[@dpsylab1850]

Psychologists can be so smart when devising ways to conduct experiments!

[@TheMilwaukeeProtocol]

Super cute how she cries and goes for the blue toy at the same time. Good kid. Probably my age by now.

[@gamesahsv862]

I'm 19 and i'm crying when i hear the baby cry, i was with my grandma when i was just a baby becauce my mom work far from home as a teacher and my dad is a carpenter so i stay at grandma house for like the first 6 years of my life, most of which was just kinda numb, i love grandma but i feel unloved and disconnect from my parent, i love my mom becauce i really need her for company but i know she is busy so i don't ask much, they never say they love me and i'm really depressed, i never know how to talk and interact with people at my age when i was at school, being bullied for not talking much, have no friend that i can talk to, just being alone and i fear it will be forever so please show the baby some love, they really need it

[@dianedavidson5283]

I hope you can find the love you need, inside yourself. I'm sorry for the pain you are feeling. See if a counselor can help. It's not unusual to feel the things you feel, and you don't need to feel them forever. Best.

[@clarabellcutting8745]

I would not let them experiment on my child

[@ifeanyiezegbo4407]

Bro the way the baby stayed lookin at the caregiver. "Who da heck are you?"

[@fsujci]

the secure attachment refers to the reunion between mother and child. The video showed both this secure attachment and separation anxiety, which is the result of the mother's absence and the stranger's presence, resoundingly denoted by WAAAAAAAA

[@sandersonrocha8438]

Ao assistir o vídeo podemos observar que os recém-nascidos se apegam aos adultos que se mostram sensíveis e dispostos a estabelecerem relações sociais com os recém-nascidos. Então, notoriamente observa-se que a medida que os recém-nascidos se desenvolvem também ocorre o aumento da disposição para buscar proximidade e contato com uma figura específica para estabelecimento de senso de segurança, uma característica adaptativa com a função biológica de sobrevivência de espécies que precisam do cuidado do outro (RIBAS, 2004).

[@SirToaster9330]

The baby just being casually trying to play around while staring at the Stranger has me rolling

[@caramelodemaiz]

@termineger i dont leave my child to cry and that doesnt makes me an inmature adult brat. my son is a very secure and independent child and i strongly believe is partly because i am there for him when he cries. he is not "too dependant" either. you can read about attachment parenting and find out more about this.

[@MarceLo-mn7ww]

caramelodemaiz I'm the same way with my daughter and she's extremely confident and loves to do things on her own while I'm always her side.

[@rkms5606]

I do wonder how this experiment works for children who were born and began life in the NICU/away from mother. Is it the same or does it impede development or expand the child's ability/willingness to be comforted by a "trusted stranger"? It's fascinating

[@maudlines]

oh i love this idea!! i hope people could look into this more

[@jjyt28]

Who's here just out of curiosity?

[@neeliaapfel5336]

Heard from Erik Erikson at some point it is necessary to leave your child alone and let them feel disappointment.

[@rosariacaporrimo2849]

Not sure you got that right... Doesn't sound like Erikson to me and I've taught him for years.

[@andrefernandesreisbv]

How is lisa now?

[@mikaela2237]

I tried this with my 2 year old. He didn’t cry for me when I left. He just went to the door and tried to open it. Then he started playing with the furniture in the room. What does this mean?

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@ledzepsarah]

@fiestank : It is secure attachment; The child uses the parent is a secure base and she can be seen crying when mother absent. Once the mother returns, child actively seeks contact and her crying is reduced immediately.

[@Nana-xp5kn]

﷽ إِنَّا فَتَحْنَا لَكَ فَتْحًا مُّبِينًا ۞ لِّيَغْفِرَ لَكَ اللَّهُ مَا تَقَدَّمَ مِن ذَنبِكَ وَمَا تَأَخَّرَ وَيُتِمَّ نِعْمَتَهُ عَلَيْكَ وَيَهْدِيَكَ صِرَاطًا مُّسْتَقِيمًا ۞ وَيَنصُرَكَ اللَّهُ نَصْرًا عَزِيزًا ۞

[@TheAureliac]

What's the point of showing us this situation but omitting the narrative that would explain it?

[@EvaMarieXoXo3]

this study was conducted to identify the different attachment types - Type B secure attached, Type A insecure avoidant, Type C insecure ambivalant and Type D insecure disorganised

[@Ollie-1995]

This video has really helped my psychology course work

[@TomO-nx1bd]

This exact thing happens when I leave my cat at the boarding place during vacation.

[@ChrisCapulet]

Thanks for uploading the video, I'm doing AS Psychology and found it hard to visualise/remember the Strange Situation episodes, but the video really helps :) Ty :]

[@IoveIie]

hello I'm from the future

[@PokeShadow77]

YOU'RE TEARING ME APART LISA

[@sandristas009]

i wonder what career i should study for this, i really find it very interesting

[@mteuk3080]

Honestly my cats act the same way as the baby does when I bring them to my parents house and leave the room they are in, lol.

[@dhoffmann3624]

If the child is too attached to the care taker and too clingy, it is not secure attachment. Normally the child would play on her own and explore the room freely, would cry after the care taker leaves, but would accept comfort and calm down after a while. I am afraid a care taker who is excessively responsive and doesn't give any room for the child to learn how to deal with frustration on its own and to understand that he/ she can't always have what he/she wants will also lead to an unhealthy attachment type.

[@Benstephan123]

H D I hope there are no children under your care you will damage them for good.

[@dhoffmann3624]

hahaha There are. And they are doing really well, thank you. They are actually very great and loving children! Very smart and happy! I I believe children have to be independent and learn things on their own, as well. That's all. Children who get everything they want have this entitlement feeling when they grow up, and they think they deserve everything and a bit more. I raise conscious children, who are aware that we can't get everything we want in life, because there are other people, who also have their own needs.

[@Benstephan123]

H D a child brain develop until 3 years of age the first 3 years is out most important in a human life. that said a. baby and a toddler up to 3 years old need the security kindness and unconditional love of their parents this is not the time to "teach" them to be independent. they should be nurtured 24/7. if they treated that way they naturally will be independent because. they fear nothing and they will feel secured. if they do not treated right they will detach from the self in order to keep the attachment to the care giver because their survivel depend on the attachment to the care giver. they do and say what they think expected of them. the shot hit the wall later in life inform of addictions and bad behavior when this happened no one see it coming however the root of the problem is in those first 3 years mainly when they detached from the self and they do not know who they really are and the addictions what ever it is are just copping mechanism to self medicating for what they did not get early in life. a child at that young age who what you call independent is a desperate child who learn he can not trust adults. to meet his needs. what you so proud of your children actually can turn against them as adults.

[@dhoffmann3624]

Thank you for your message. But I think secure kindness and unconditional love does not mean responding always positively to whatever the child wants and does. Exactly because you love a child, you teach her how to solve problems on her own, how to discover new things on her own, how to deal with social rules, how to deal with emotions, etc. I have two children, have worked as a kindergarten teacher and have a master's degree in child studies. Children ask for limits, as well. They respond well to routine, to rules... They ask for them. A child who gets whatever she wants whenever she wants might have problems later on. Children need to become more independent in order to develop their self-esteem and their sense of identity. It is good to avoid doing something for toddlers that they can do for themselves and to encourage them to do things that they may find intimidating or difficult. Every new obstacle children tackle on their own will build their confidence and help them be more independent and smart. Trying new things on their own helps develop their ability to problem solve and to persist in succeeding. Those are qualities they will need throughout their lives.

[@Benstephan123]

H D just because you have master degree and you work with children doesn't mean you are doing the right thing or you understand how child brain develop. Alice Miller PhD who practice psycotherapy for few decates find out the first 30 years of her practiced was wrong she wrote many books for therapists. The education system is yet to catch up with new and old research and scientific evidence of child development, many ground breaking reaserch don years ago are ignored, Many are stuck in the old school of thought and relied on what they learned in school which is out dated.

[@petitpanierdosier3206]

Attachment is the root of all suffering

[@TSKewl]

Attachment is lifelong. There’s more suffering without it.

[@petitpanierdosier3206]

@@TSKewl this is not what the quote says

[@mairam1072]

Lisa having a secure attachment is the best part

[@Butterfly1798]

Baby is just spoiled not saying it’s bad. But all babies do this and then they get comfortable. Mom needs to allow baby to trust she will come back

[@PooleSilly]

I am grateful to say that I am a born again Christian and have been since I was 19.......the reason I believe we have stranger danger and sometimes ppl really are being abducted in this society is because of the fall of sin and Satan is the ultimate stranger and Angel of light you don't want to mess with! In 1 Peter 5:8 it says the devil walks around like a roaring lion seeking who he may devour! folks if you don’t know Christ as your savior then it burdens my soul to think that you are headed for a terrible place called Hell where the Bible says the fire is never quenched and the worm dies not! Folks you are not promised tomorrow! If you want to know how to be saved from this horrible reality then please by all means don’t hesitate to comment right back so I can lead you to the savior! 2 Corinthians 6:2 clearly states “now is the time of God’s favor, now is the day of salvation!” And Hebrews 3:15 clearly states, “Today if you hear his voice don’t harden your hearts! it is not me but the Holy Spirit that I pray reveals to you the truth of his precious gospel......John 3:16 says for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes on him will not perish but have everlasting life! V 17 says then V 18 says whoever believes on the son is not condemned but whoever does not believe on the son is condemned already because he has not believed on the son whom God has sent! Also Acts 16:30-31 what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house I am not threatening anyone but just warning them what will happen if they reject this precious gift of eternal life! Christ died a horrible criminals death! He was beaten brutally mocked spit upon and endured countless hours of torture pain for all of our sins! Ppl go to hell because they reject that pardon for their sins! And Jesus is saying to them in Matthew 25:41 depart from me you cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels! Hell was only prepared for Satan and his angels! It is not God who threatens anyone it is the craziness of rejecting the free pardon of salvation! It’s like if you’re in court you’ve committed a crime say you murdered someone! Now if you say to that Judge hey I know I’ve done a terrible thing of murdering that person but I hear you’re a good judge and so I know you’ll be fair to me...... the judge is going to reply well yes you’re right about one thing I am a good judge and because I’m a good judge I’m going to see to it that you’re punished and that justice is served! Well then all of a sudden someone you don’t even know comes forward and says you know what I know he’s committed the crime he’s committed and he deserves to go to jail but I really don’t want to see him go to prison so I’ll just go to prison for him so he can go free! So if you accepted that offer you’d be free to leave the courtroom but if you didn’t well you’d be crazy and go to prison yourself! Well that’s exactly how it was 2,000 years ago! He is God in human flesh and he came to this earth lived a perfect sinless life and even though he knew that we had sinned and because of our sins deserved to die miserably but he said no I don’t want to see them suffer so I will go and take their punishment for them! Even though he did absolutely nothing wrong still he chose to take the punishment for our sins so we can be set free from the power bondages and consequences of our disobedience to God! Romans 5:8 says For God commends his love toward us that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us! 1 John 2:2 says he was made to be the propitiation for our sins! And not just for our sins but the sins of the whole world! 2 Corinthians 5:21 He who knew no sin became Sin for us that we would be made his righteousness! The truth is if you had to get to Heaven by your own effort then you cannot do it! Because Romans 3:10 says there is not one that does good! No Not One! Romans 3:23 says For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God! Romans 6:23 says For the wages of sin is death! But the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our lord! But the good news is Romans 10:9 If we confess with our mouth and believes in our hearts that Christ died for our sins then was raised from the dead we will be saved! V 10 For it’s with the heart we believe and it’s with the mouth confession is made unto salvation! God gave us 10 commandments to follow and we’ve broken every one of them! And because God is a good God he cannot allow our disobedience to him to go unpunished! Well then like I just mentioned above his son Jesus stepped forward and said no I don’t want to see them punished so I will take their punishment for them! And also like I said he died a terrible substitute criminal’s death for us on a cross so now all we have to do is accept that payment for our sins and we can escape the terrible wrath of God that is to fall on them who do not accept this atonement that was sacrificed for our sins! Praise the lord Romans 10:13 says Whoever calls on the name of the lord shall be saved! And 1 Peter 1:4 you’re an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you! Christ clearly said in John 14:6 I am the way the truth and the life and no one comes to the father but through me! Acts 4:12 clearly states that there is no other name given unto Heaven or earth by which we must be saved as there is salvation in no other! Jesus clearly states that there is clearly only one way to Salvation and it’s him that’s it! There is no other way! God Bless everyone who reads!

[@robertjohnpearce]

the research is clear, temperament is "inborn"; attachment type is learnt/modelled from the parent

[@87valeria87]

Don't be fool. The baby won't have any repercussion after this experience. Babies cry also when their parents don't change theri nappy or when they leave them at school. Are these traumatic experiences???

[@sampeacaml9307]

Somehow, for some.

[@Benstephan123]

La Vale yes it is traumatic no doubt.

[@biscuittownd65]

Lisa is now 15 years old

[@KayGee_yt]

Me with no baby or psychology class: wow so interesting I must watch more 🤔

[@melaniabornati]

it is an insecure anxious ambivalent attachment, in the first year of life the mother did not always respond adequately to her child's needs, not always showing herself to be present when she had to look after him

[@GeorgeStanleyStan]

@Sly1984montreal Fair enough, but the experiment actually found out that there is three main types of babies. Secure, unsecure- ressitant and unsecure avoident, secure being the most common. The "Type" of baby can be debated to weather it is nature or nurture (both in my opinion) which decides the type.

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@naaaaaan5002]

She crawls cutely.

[@LilLucyLamb]

@elleriicee Learning Theory isn't Bowlby's Theory. Learning Theory is Classical Conditioning (Pavlov's dogs) and Operant conditioning (Dollard and Miller) Learning Theory suggests that attachment is learnt through these types of conditioning. Bowlby's Theory is that attachment is not learnt, but inborn, it is an innate drive that infants have to survive, one example of this is Lorenz's geese.

[@urnansworstnightmare5554]

psych class slappin rn

[@MinuteOrMinute]

yes. especially since the parent is only one room away. if the kids get too distressed to the point where the researchers (who have spent hundreds of hours observing kids, they know when too far is too far) know the kid's in hysterics and isn't just bawling for the sake of bawling, then it's obvious to them to let the parent back in.

[@333fulish]

infants discriminate between their mother/caregiver from strangers because at a very young age, they get attached to them and form a bond (:

[@Jdonovan2]

It doesn’t make sense to call this secure attachment. The other attachment styles demonstrate security

[@annabailey3404]

It demonstrates secure attachment to the primary caregiver. The baby used the mother as a safe base in order to explore, she interacted with her mother while playing and didn’t ignore her. She sought and accepted comfort upon reunion and this demonstrates a good attachment between child and carer. With Insecure avoidant attachment, the child doesn’t care about using the mother as a safe base, they’ll play with or without the mother and tend to ignore her. They don’t care if mother leaves and doesn’t care or seek comfort upon reunion. There is very little attachment and dependancy between mother and child. Insecure resistance, the child will never leave the mothers side to explore and will cling onto them. They are extremely distressed when with a stranger and when mother leaves and returns, they’ll seek comfort but then reject it. It’s not the most healthy attachment. In conclusion, yes it does make sense to call this scenario in the video a secure attachment.

[@Jdonovan2]

@@annabailey3404 The "secure attachment" kid demonstrates insecurity when the mother leaves. The kid was feeling unsafe, insecure. You gave me the definition of these terms which I already knew. My point is that the term doesn't make sense because the insecure attachment style demonstrates security while the secure attachment style demonstrates insecurity I understand these terms define the relationship between mother and child but it also mischaracterizes insecure avoidants because they demonstrate a higher level of security

[@michellea9857]

Mothers are so important to children, no to social engineering!

[@dingoswamphead]

@DeeDeeSmart Yes, from rug rat to lab rat. This sort of stress happens regularly in any infant's life. The Strange Situation helps understand what is going on. It is how the stress is resolved that matters.

[@Benstephan123]

dingoswamphead what matter is to avoid stress at any coast in the first 3 years of the child life while the brain is still develop.

[@t_k_blitz4837]

@@Benstephan123 It is completely impossible to avoid stress for a child, and would be extremely unhealthy even if it were.

[@pandorlla]

@stevedoetsch he video ends before it even covers what this research is about. different children actually respond differently to this situation. these different attachment styles can predict different personality types far into adult life. This video actually contains no information on the purpose or conclusion of the study. if you really cared to know I would look for a more complete video or look up an article on infant attachment styles.

[@kevinbi32]

it is not unethical because the risk of the experiment does not exceed that of the normal daily living experiences.

[@multisockmonkey]

@splendidwren The 'stranger' is not unfamiliar with the situation; this person would typically be a well-trained researcher or research assistant who is comfortable with the situation. The point is that this person is unknown (i.e., a stranger) to the child.

[@Kyboixx]

@G4M3RGIR1 actually the experiment was carried out by Ainsworth to see what attachment type the child was, i won't go into detail, but actually some children were easily comforted by a stranger, some didn't care whether the motherleft the room or not, this research allowed us to see through Vanijzendorn and Krunenbergs meta analysis how children attached to caregivers through different cultures....

[@ChristeenTilenius]

University of Southern California social work graduate student here!

[@zelie9616]

Maybe I'm too sensitive. I'm crying. 😂😂😂

[@mariamkinen8036]

(This could have been me.) it happened when I was in HCH. My f made it even worse by not allowing mum to say goodbye. The doctors knew that a child cannot be separated for long periods of time. Mum was my secure attachment.

[@abdulladil55]

Please tell me i am not the only one here from tok class

[@martindennis2]

@stevedoetsch Scientists don't "learn" anything from observing just the Strange Situation. The S.S. is merely a tool to measure the quality of attachment a child has with his or her caregiver. Scientific discovery comes when the different qualities of attachment are tied to other outcomes (such as adjustment to school).