The Stress Of Narcissistic Abuse Is Destroying You

[@faithfulone06]

Absolutely 💯. Stress causes so many health issues. The devil only brings chaos and destruction.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Please, search on Google Proverb 4; 16 😮

[@nancychandler768]

Narcissistic abuse is so misunderstood. Thank you for making us all feel a little bit better about what we’re going through! ♥️

[@teresitaekim2565]

Danish, you're on point all the time.

[@sinjinmonsoon9055]

My mom was my 1st narc. I started getting auto immune diseases at 10. Thyroid disease and now i have lupus and a bleeding disorder. Chronic headaches. My sisters are horrible narcs and perfectly healthy.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

Some say that narcissism is inheritable. Your sisters may have inherited it but also had it taught to them by your mother's crappy behavior. I hope you have other family who can see how you've been harmed and be there for you.

[@stephp7778]

They don't feel anything instead they feel healthy when your upset...they live to 100.

[@cindys.9688]

My narcissistic sister is the same. So frustrating.

[@christelleny]

The longer you stay, the sicker you get. You may feel you can "take it" but your body knows better. For many of us, leaving the relationship is a matter of life or death.

[@lisak79]

Exactly 💯

[@susanl698]

So right!! GERD, anxiety, fog, OCD, a mess. It's over now, separated, on my way to healing slowly. Can't even begin to tell you the damage to my kids, heartbreaking.

[@mrsecrist713]

You speak truth! SO much damage to my children and I. My first born is already in Heaven. The Nars is fine. Just totally FINE.

[@loganpraetorian]

God will hold them accountable. He says the physical abuse they are doing that no one else sees. But the worst thing is they destroy your belief system.

[@effiemaccheyne9101]

The irony with mine is that he's an evangelical Christian. I asked him to explain to me why lying is o.k. for him. He replied that the problem is much bigger than that he did the immediate raging darvo. Went to church, and he never looked back as usual. I wasn't expecting anything positive. I'm just telling it like it is. He can live with lies. I'll live with the truth. If I could leave, I would, but I have disabilities and no help. I hang onto that someday in the end he won't be able to try and control me and hurt me any longer and that he can do nothing about. He'll be powerless over me.

[@sparklesp9304]

Based on what? If we choose to stay in relationship with them, that's our fault?

[@LightBrownSugar]

So true. I have had several chronic sicknesses over the years. I didnt know until about a year ago why I have been so sick so many times. Now I see it is narcissistic abuse.

[@shahp84]

Hormonal imbalance, fragile nails, acne, hair fall 😢😮😢

[@hettykoster9447]

Me too 😞

[@lisak79]

Exactly. And also tooth loss

[@akanksha7028]

Uff me too

[@jakehays8926]

I broke my neck and there was so much tension in my muscles from the chaos. They want to be the victim so bad. A couple years later I am probably more healthy than I was before my car accident.

[@sherryanderson66]

Good morning from Mississippi!! Wow! I had no idea. This really explains a lot of my issues from years past to present time.

[@dorothy9898]

I stayed 40 years and was diagnosed with Parkinsons disease. My health was so bad I actually couldn't walk or talk without stuttering. Within one year of leaving I was on my feet and singing like a bird. People PLEASE listen to your heart. You are beautiful inside and out ❤

[@caritabirch9831]

I got a malignant brain tumour from the stress!

[@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap]

I had Tumor kidney 7 years ago

[@shubhaksbhat]

Its very relieving to watch your videos because it feels like someone is there to understand the pain and unspoken trauma that a victim goes through. I myself have had fibromyalgia, gross hormone issues, hair, nail and skin issues and bowel disorders, sleep disorders and what not. The narcissist is gone for 2 years but the healing has only recently started, very slow but steady, still leaving irreversible damages and some deep scars that are impossible to remove.... But happy to be alive though....

[@H.Michele]

I’m a physical and mental disaster area and I hate it. When he first moved out in July 2018, it was a HUGE relief. But then as the storm cleared away I began to be able to see and take inventory of the damage, for me and my children. It’s been downhill the past 3 years.

[@dorothy9898]

You are going through heartbreaking 💔 I know you're broken. Please don't let him take you down. It takes time; lots of it. Concentrate on your children and God will bless you 🙏 Peace

[@judyvanderwesthuizen5664]

I realy loved a Narc Man..loved him since I was 16..after we got married, he immediately changed.. name calling..belittling..pushed me... complain..hit me in my face or on my head..went to pubs almost everynight.. car accidents..substance abuse..the list go on and on..I tried..cried prayed hoped for 25 yrs..6months ago I packed and left..I had no energy no strength to hold on a day longer!! Its 6 months and it is hard..I have anxiety, frequent headaches, stomach aches, hand and leg cramps. But I am free and have people in my life who cares for me and I have my faith and my Saviour and my Life! And freedom!

[@akanksha7028]

I can relate to u 😢 I have the same physical pain in my body & bad anxiety. And on top of that it's my mother who's a Narcissist. Both me and my father are enduring her endless torture 😢 I wish it'd end soon I would love to see her gone soon. I'm too tired of her Can't even leave the house My hyperviligance never goes down My body holds traumatic memories of her abuse. Her yelling, shouting continuously at us and just creating drama and chaos inside our home. She's rage driven violent. Anything to everything will set her off. Just belittle her in anyways And she'll get back at you. She's the master of manipulation, Sheep in a wolf's clothing! I couldn't have hated a person more than my own mother. I hate her so much . Her lying manipulation game is so strong. She only loves herself And nobody else. My father and I suffer at her hands.😠😭

[@judyvanderwesthuizen5664]

@@akanksha7028 😥😢very sad

[@OptimisticSaturnPlanet-yz8mc]

Absolutely correct 💯.I currently have 7 or 8 of those particular "issues", right now. ...No personal things. Ten years worth. No car, $. I have my life but my physical body seems to have fallen apart! I've never felt like this. I wasn't sure what I had done but I'm used to working 15 hrs straight. Nothing a good night sleep didn't heal. But since I left, I'm experiencing those exact symptoms. The fragile nails came early on about 6 years in. But as soon as I left....7 months ago, it seems like my body is sore, every day! My joints hurt and my body aches everywhere, as I get up or down. I'm a dancer now, & my body's not feeling well. I need advice. Or an overhaul 🤔☺️. On top of everything else?. If this is the price I gotta pay to be free from that purgatory??? So-Be-It! Thank you Danish for your thorough consistency 🙏🏾Blessed 🐝

[@renel7303]

First, I'm sorry you had a narc in your life. We all deserve better. The aches and pains. Some just come along with aging due to wear and tear. If you are a professional dancer or active hobbyist you are putting your body through a lot of stress on a regular basis. As we age recovery time from heavy usage of our muscles and joints takes longer. So good quality sleep is really important. We develop arthritis. Osteoarthritis is extremely common and comes from accumulated usage or overusage. What you can do is optimize your diet. I ache a lot pretty much everywhere. I have osteoarthritis, inflammatory arthritis and for extra fun, fibromyalgia. I was able to quit taking pain medication over a year ago by eliminating gluten. Now I just take one occasionally when I overdo it in the garden or get a migraine. Most chronic pain is caused by inflammation. You need to remove or reduce as much inflammation as you can. Gluten, dairy and sugar are highly inflammatory. Replace them with less inflammatory foods. Takes a month or three to really feel the difference. Stress is inflammatory. Reduce stress if you can. Practice gratitude and happiness. Happy people have more serotonin and dopamine production and generally feel better. Being actively happy distracts the mind from some chronic pain. Good luck! 😊

[@mercedesvallar3384]

I have migraines

[@user-qr2bt1km6d]

hormonal inbalanced, insomnia, depression, fibromyalgie, stomach issues etc.Narc.are very toxic

[@giannamicha3122]

Yet there is no legal procedure or whatsoever so that survivors can use against them.

[@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap]

Crymes against humanity

[@sandrajones-p465]

So true! I was diagnosed with major depression, rheumatoid arthritis, indigestion, problems, and carpal tunnel. All of which end it when I finally left and divorced him. Incredible! How true the statement of narcissistic abuse can damage your health, even if you’re not physically hit. So glad I finally left. Leaving that abusive relationship saved my life!!!

[@mattinimariaa]

I almost had stroke and now I'm still fighting stress and good lord with the amount of hair shredding everyday I can make a wig out of them. He's now using different tactics to reverse hoover me but I no longer fall for it! The new supply can have him! I wont go back! 😢

[@aingealblue3035]

❤ I have skin (exema, hives...) issues, hair issues and anemia from my ex narchole - praying it gets better for you ❤

[@sandrathomas2893]

Breast cancer, thyroid issues and adrenal fatigue are at the top!

[@GreedosGoldmine]

Know this all too well firsthand, thanks for your work really being a key expert making some noise about this type of thing and helping people like myself as we rebuild and learn each day!

[@sohinisen3042]

You are right.💯 They bring discord and confusion in your lives. They leave invisible wounds besides the physical pain. Thank you very much for sharing this video. 🙏🏻

[@effiemaccheyne9101]

The universe is trying to tell me something here. 62 years of a narc mom and trying to care for her now at 92 with alzheimers.🤦‍♀️ 40 with a narc husband.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I've had numerous health issues , few major, and now im off to see a rhumatologist today because it looks like sarcoidosis and lupus. I've been so ill for 7 months now. I'd swear they both have joined forces and have a plot to kill me.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@margaretmcrae5642]

You have more years behind you than Infront of you I'm 63, I just quit the abuse today and my last year's are for me, please do the same, you deserve it, don't be a martar think of yourself, hug sent, be strong

[@stephp7778]

I felt that way with my ex and his mother...they had a plan

[@camokitty]

And when he was going off on me also caused me to have an asthma attack. So many physical aliments I had that I no longer have now that I've left him. You are so right 100% how the abuser affects you

[@andreahoverson236]

I have essential tremors and have had them since I was a teenager. I went out of a narcissistic home straight into a narcissistic marriage that I endured for 44 years. During those 44 years my tremors got so bad that I had to have DBS surgery. It helped but the longer I was in the marriage the more the tremors progressed, kind of baffling my neurologist, who knew nothing of the abuse. I have been out of the marriage for 8 months now and the tremors have calmed some but now I'm wondering if they ever would have gotten this bad without all years of abuse.

[@conniecampbell3201]

I have stage 3 non alcoholic cirrhosis, chronic peptic ulcers. STRESS from a Narcissist is so real!!!

[@tlove6932]

Totally agree 💯 I'm dying & no one cares.©️

[@stephp7778]

I understand...I've got cancer and they treat me worse

[@valeriedorsey7527]

Someone cares for both of you. God cares, and even though I don't know you, I care. I will keep you in my prayers that God will heal you everywhere you hurt , physically, psychologically and spiritually. Spirit, soul, and body, in Jesus' Name. I have felt the same way, but by the grace of God, I'm healing and getting better, and you can and will too. Never give up.or lose hope.🙏🏽💪🏽❤️

[@stephp7778]

@@valeriedorsey7527 thankyou Valerie....they honestly just want to finish you off.....I've had 2 surgeries and 6 months chemo stage 3 breast cancer and they were aggressing me and raging at me the whole time when I was in agony with no energy. I was cooking for them almost every day and pushed myself to work by taking steroids to mask the pain... they tell everyone that asks about me that it's nothing...she's fine...meanwhile there's a line hanging out of my arm and I was bald with no bottom teeth. BTW...everytime I yelled back at my mum to back off and let me be....my father would threaten to call the police. My whole family is crazy.

[@franciscocardenas5758]

Interesting and well put!

[@bonnieromick9397]

Ulcers chronic fatigue dissociative issues flashbacks social anxiety. phobia depression isolation, headaches insomnia. Just to name a few

[@user-mf1kv4lk2m]

Omg me too....

[@valeriedorsey7527]

I experienced the same issues as well. But thank God that I'm slowly getting better.

[@muqaddassazainab4042]

Danish you are absolutely right 💯👍🏻 kindly guide us how can we solve these health issues?

[@jeanpaulmartin2600]

True

[@Bike4Life231]

Headaches, anxiety, physical exhaustion, brain fog, and severe hormonal imbalances to the point where it sent me into premenopause at 35. For my kids, my daughter started self harming and even tried to commit suicide, and the abuse has sent both of my kids to the hospital for mental and physical issues due to all of the stress and anxiety. These people are just pure evil. No remorse. Others' needs aren't even on the radar. It's truly a horrible sickness.

[@monicasworld5032]

This is so very true!😢

[@mrsecrist713]

You are 100% spot on. EVERY time!!!!

[@Lioru92]

I am finally becoming able to eat food again, everything was making me SO SICK. I felt like I was dying.

[@valeriedorsey7527]

That's what happened to me, but I'm slowly getting better. So glad that you're getting better too.💪🏽

[@Anonymousshav]

I cannot handle his abuse. I can’t cone out of it. I am suicidal . I have never been this weak. My body jitters when he blocks me and leaves me. I really dont want to live. It’s too painful to face this

[@OptimisticSaturnPlanet-yz8mc]

DO NOT GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION!!! You gotta try and be stronger. Not for him. For You!! Look at all of us here..., your NOT alone🙏🏽🌹 Healing energy your way✨

[@vickibazter3446]

Don't give up. Prayer helps because you are loved by the creator, and you are valuable and worth it. Never give up because darkness is always followed by light. Always! Meditation and exercise. Get out in the fresh air. Nature. Walk. Do grounding work.

[@marlavice3267]

YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH! Believe me, it gets so much better after you get away from them..

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

Please, do whatever it takes to stay away from this toxic person. Don't give your life to the devil. There are thousands in our situation who have managed to discard & go no contact. If I can do it after 40+ years of marriage , you can too 🙏

[@SusanRenee]

I have been there and i’m not going to sugarcoat it, for me it felt like being trapped in an iron maiden at the bottom of a well that’s also on fire. I am so sorry for what you’re experiencing, it is “normal” to feel this way considering what you have certainly been through. Their behaviors are specifically designed to hook our brains, bodies, central nervous system and everything to become severely addicted to them and it is going to mentally and physically feel like having withdrawals from hard drugs; no joke. BUT please know that, with time, you will truly grow through those feelings and bit by but it will fall away as you gain new perspectives and begin to learn to see things from a more objective space. It is like a rehab, boot camp, spiritual intensive recovery all in one, but I can assure you that you will unlock so many levels of wisdom and self respect as you heal. Even though it feels impossible right now, I promise each day in no contact and away from that person will cause them to become smaller in your rear view mirror, so to speak.

[@Potato-fv9ns]

They also literally poison you.

[@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp]

Thank God so far the ex narcissist be in my life he was verbally abusive but you know what Beverly abusive it goes to physical abuse so I'm glad he didn't bother me I'm glad that I moved on I have a speedway in for 2 years haven't talked to him at least almost a year thank you Danish I appreciate you and God bless you

[@truebluecubbiegirl7926]

Preach 🙌 this needs to be recognized as a form of abuse and made illegal

[@alienfrommarss]

❤

[@jrt5416]

Thank you...thank you

[@hanenosman]

You are absolutely right! I would also add that they leave you with allergies, thyroid disorders, anemia and braon haemorrhage. 😢

[@elisabethschwarz-aigner8898]

You‘re so Right

[@starrynight7359]

Autoimmune diseases ×5. Almost 10 years of post divorce abuse, which has been even worse than the 25 years together. Fall out on the kids has been devasting.

[@annanderson1470]

You say it best, Danish 😊

[@user-nh4cw8iy2i]

O suffered from severe hair loss. I never linked the two. No contact is my happy.❤

[@vickydittfield9822]

You are my Hero!You Have Validated so much for ME! Bless you kind gentleman &Dr.

[@cindys.9688]

Very true.

[@ranjiniram7805]

So true. I’m experiencing these 😢

[@SJ-yg1bh]

very true- gut issues, hypothyroidism, autoimmune- I have all

[@arwanagi2274]

true 100%

[@andreadreher6688]

This is so true

[@FeatherWolfGraphicDesign]

It certainly did.

[@ekdaufin1485]

Yup! And if they are your parents…they got a head start! 😢

[@rashedamili]

I am diagnosed with chronic fibromialgya, IBS, gut issues because of my narcissist partner. But I can not leave for my kids. He even manipulates kids, my parents, by relatives against me.

[@DeepaVombathkere]

Started with fibromyalgia and then landed with Rheumatoid Arthritis

[@dianadiehl]

Truth! And if you have pre-existing problems, like heart arrhythmias or asthma, they are going to get a lot worse.

[@user-ns3dq2cm4y]

How did you manage to become such a kind and understanding man? That statement that so many people hide behind is hurt people hurt people. It’s so misleading because and doesn’t have to be passed down. Hurt people can become teachers, therapists and anything that can lift others out of abuse. Hurt people who hurt people have just continued the abuse.

[@jodiebishop6557]

Have most of those

[@tanyalmno9614]

Yes. I have a few of those. Thanks to my ex. Grrrrr

[@dianadiehl]

This doesn't happen to only humans. Pets can develop severe issues in a house with a narcissistic owner. I had a patient , a dog, with severe, chronic diarrhea in the house. The owner would come in yelling when we couldn't figure out the problem after exhaustive testing. When she came in with other family members we could see everyone was afraid of her. We told her we'd have to keep the dog for a few days for observation. The dog was fine in the clinic and had no problems away from her. I wanted to offer rehoming the dog. And maybe the husband and kids, too.

[@notbextley6997]

My parents had to keep getting rid of dogs because my dad literally couldn't handle any triggers from barking. He would roll up newspapers and magazines to hit the dogs and make me want to 🤮. My mom took better care of her dogs after he died. They were so overdramatic. I wasn't treated any better. 😭

[@dianadiehl]

@@notbextley6997 I'm so sorry you had to endure this. And sorry for the dogs, too.

[@evilbarbie2160]

Diabetes as well.

[@iRockwthMJ]

Cancer, infertility, chronic gastro/gut issues, etc.

[@stephp7778]

Me

[@laviarun1010]

Absolutely 💯😢

[@jhalak831]

Yes

[@tunisia104]

So true 😮

[@Lyrielonwind]

I found Proverb 4: 16..."they can't sleep if they don't cause harm"...don't let them cause you harm or they won't be able to sleep and you will be the one having nightmares. Don't believe me, just check it out and read it yourself 😮

[@NinaExford]

❤❤❤💯

[@missta1820]

I feel so much better in myself both in body and mind. Wish I had discarded him much sooner. I'm fine now.

[@jimmydean4444]

100%

[@sickofcrap8992]

Heart problems from the chronic high cortisol. 24/7/365 stress CAN kill!

[@lindafarwell3408]

It's so bad

[@nzingaase2394]

Caan we sue them fore this ?

[@sharnelgezwint3990]

I am always constipated...My health change dramatically after being in this marriage...

[@madhumathiv8598]

32years of migraine head aches

[@Koolaide760]

Danish,I got a whole weird vasculitis disease. Cortisol is no joke and neither are narcs ... get out while we can. 💯❣️

[@amuneera]

😢

[@laurasmith4783]

Amen

[@tanzychatman6272]

I felt all that hate did me sick Jesus in name ask you Jesus me my health back in name of Jesus

[@AnticaPaniko]

🎉opadanje kose,upala misica,ekcema,nesanica,bolest stitnjace,tjeskoba.......😢😢😢🎉

[@JackieLemond]

I've been on disability since 2012.. that was 4yrs before we got away, my daughter is 24 she's on disability as well.. Do you ever get past it.. it's left my family scattered we know who the abuser is. But every one seem to have there own wounds and blames every one

[@suzyc7454]

I have Congestive Heart Failure....I know it's because of him. Now my life is shortened

[@oneextra8659]

Worst thing is to hear that you have been askibg for it or you ate stupid,thst is why narc is doing what he is doing.

[@darknessfierce4209]

The immune system is lowered, so you’re really susceptible

[@gracehayles7869]

💯% Truth and Facts ❤️🙏.

[@tanzychatman6272]

We love them for what we want them to be to us fix my heart Jesus my body in the name of Jesus we really love fake self there was no one there very Jesus to much lord have mercy on me Jesus

[@stefaniadiamondcut]

And financial bcuz you can't work when you're sick

[@amber40494]

Breast cancer in my case

[@GoodVibes-mv6qq]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@shahidasiddiqui7940]

What else. Tired

[@dougplahn8507]

Does the narcissist suffer from those disorders as well?

[@WomanofGod-jc4cj]

NO THEY DO NOT

[@Fromthebeginningtotheending]

Do you do online therapy?

[@tanzychatman6272]

He make me so sick iam I ask god help me Jesus with my health issue and they or so sick there self I see all that my Jesus I need love you lord I was in love with myself never love you hate you all the time no how to love them self very

[@rosalindalay4499]

Yes