The struggle NO friends ,Lonely and feeling low

[@VStrom2019]

Exactly 2 years ago the love of my life passed away, no warning, nothing. I am now 70 but know for sure, without my bike I would not have reached this age for absolute certain. We all feel lonely at times but biking just seems to make me feel so much better. Stop in the town centre and at least one person will stop to comment on the bike. You will have friends you don’t know about yet, remember that 👍

[@bikegeist]

Happy to hear you're getting through it somehow.

[@thepeakybiker]

I’m sorry for you loss mate

[@turningwheels2584]

I know what you mean (sort of) i only have 1 biker friend and due to life commitments he rarely makes it out. I always do bike trips on my own but you are never on your own, i ALWAYS end up talking to people whever i go. On the bike is the same whether you are on your own or there is 10 of you. I just love biking!!

[@thepeakybiker]

@ it’s brilliant ay it mukka I do love biking wish I could just go away on my bike and travel

[@silverdale3207]

Such a true comment I can relate to, my partner passed away nearly 5 years ago of cancer she was only 47. I knew I needed to do something to cope with the grief so bought an ADV bike after years of riding dirtbikes. It's been a lifesaver for my mental state, just gets me out of my head and thinking about something else. I value the brief conversations with random people that happen on a bike, then back on the bike wrapped in nature. I now find I need to ride. All the best.

[@geecee4746]

I have adjusted to being alone, and i wouldn't have it any other way now. Peace of mind, do whatever you want to do, no arguing. So keep your chin up👍👍

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mukka

[@Herco28]

Hang in there mate. This too will pass, like everything else in life.

[@davehoskins3089]

Appreciate you talking so openly and hang in there fella, things always get better. Relationship breakdowns can feel like the entire world has been destroyed but ride it out, it WILL get better 🙏

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro its just raw at the min

[@patriciahutson]

Ehoa, yup been there, yes we also grew apart. Now 28 yrs later still living on my own, bike in my shed, doing things i love . Brave indeed you are in exposing your MAMAE , never been to a pub either. Im an Introvert so hhjj on living alone and riding whenever or wherever. Friends come and go ehea neh. Stay strong to your beliefs, life is just that, life. Kia Kaha Tane Toa, stay upright and somewhat on course. Oh yeah ,im a Kiwi ex SNCO 20yrs service. UBIQUE

[@thepeakybiker]

Ich dien Bro 👊🏻 Thanks mate appreciate this

[@Paul-kp1tu]

Many years ago I travelled around the world, alone and somewhat lost. I was blown away with the generosity and friendship that people showed me, unprompted and without reservation. For them it was perhaps a cultural norm , for me an Australian bloke with few friends and a shy disposition I found it astounding. So I decided that whenever I met a possibly lonely person I would make a deliberate effort to engage and invite them to stay, or share a meal or help them with their bike etc etc. many have responded, some are wary but for me it’s a way to help and build new friends and experiences. Motorcycle have featured strongly and those interactions have helped me considerably. But it is still hard for me to do it, I force myself. It’s worth the effort.

[@thepeakybiker]

What a story mate one To tell the grandkids Thanks for the words of advice and I’ll take them on board Thanks for opening up on the comment also I appreciate it Hope Your well and safe too

[@anthonypick6819]

i have been there starting again is hard and to be honest my bike is the only thing that got me through it telling people how you feel is the first step the next step is up to you i tried not to concentrate on what was wrong but on what was right. just remember it takes two to stay in touch dont sit there thinking that you are alone reach out to the people you know even if its just for a chat but the most important tyhing i learnt was no matter how low you feel there are always the up days

[@thepeakybiker]

great word there and advice thank you i appreciate it mate

[@jackwilliams939]

Been watching for a little bit and you've helped me start riding and getting through my tests. Talking about this stuff is incredibly hard - to hear you speak it so candidly is a great inspiration! Keep on keeping on and thank you! Big man hugs mate

[@thepeakybiker]

Arrr Amman thanks mukka appreciate this I do speak openly but also keep a lot Well done on passing your test also mate

[@centralscrutinizer3871]

I've been there after nearly 30 years of marriage. Same situation, no blame, just grew apart. You will get through to the other side. The broken bus does get fixed and back on the road for new adventures. The bike was a great support for me. Respect for being so open.

[@thepeakybiker]

I'm truly grateful for your kind words and support. It's encouraging to hear that you've navigated similar challenges

[@chrisbailey600]

I can also second that comment. After 40 odd years together, my wife and I also grew apart and agreed to separate. Again, no blame, no silly affaires or anything like that, just different takes on life etc. For both of us it has worked well. No animosity. We are still very much in contact and help each other if needed. Our 3 lovely children who have eventually come to terms with the situation, have been so supportive. As for friends, like you, I don’t have many and those I do have are mainly ex work colleagues who are scattered over the country so I don’t see them very often. Riding my bikes is for me my ‘therapy’ where I can loose myself and my troubles whilst concentrating on my riding. I think as bikers, we are all part of a big like minded family…. I suppose I am lucky as I am quite happy with my own company, but I can totally appreciate your loneliness…. Stay as strong as you can, talk if possible to people, and keep riding and I hope and pray that you will come out of this a stronger person… Very best wishes for your future, Chris

[@thepeakybiker]

@chrisbailey600 thanks for opening up on your comment it’s really hard times when at this stage

[@Solipsismic]

This just came up on my feed. You’re incredibly brave to share your thoughts. That’s a good first step. Hopefully you’ll find someone soon.

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks it’s not a girlfriend I want just friends local to me 🤣🤣🤣

[@Mr---mr4ll]

Feel you pal. I’ve been working 2 jobs / 7 days a week for the last 6 yrs… I literally have zero friends and zero social life… One thing that has kept me together is exercising, running etc… I’m so glad I’ve found a new interest in biking… done my cbt last month. Passed my theory last week and start my DAC in 10 days… it’s kept my mind and emotions in a really positive place. Good luck and wish you the best. New subscriber

[@BibTheBoulderTheOriginalOne]

I know so many guys who are affected by loneliness. In my experience when relationships break down it's usually the guy who pays the price, financially, emotionally, and all too often the female keeps the 'joint' friends. Obviously not all the time, but as I say, it is most commonly guys who end up lonely.

[@Mr---mr4ll]

@@BibTheBoulderTheOriginalOne thankfully I’ve been quite lucky… don’t feel lonely (at least for now) the master skill is to be alone without being lonely ….

[@thepeakybiker]

yea mate the bikes an old friend but a new one at the same time now

[@moonrakercbr1649]

Mate, it does get better with time. Get yourself a councillor to chat things through, best thing I ever did.

[@motoscientist]

I've messaged on fb. But just thanks sharing. Hopefully it gets better and stay positive when you can. You got this

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mate appreciate the comment and the thought It will get better just hard at the min

[@adrianstrand1120]

You are going through the hurt and you will heal, as my dad used to say time is a great healer, you’ll get through it and come out the other side, good luck and best wishes from up North, Cumbria.

[@BibTheBoulderTheOriginalOne]

Time can also be the greatest destroyer when your kids disown you...

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@alby291261]

Sending massive Alby hugs for you buddy, stay strong my friend. Its never easy finding solace in what sometimes seem very difficult times, trust me, somehow through the dark times there is always light and even though things change us and the lives we once knew, we can learn to adapt to a different life that can have its own rewards and help us find a different kind of happiness so its ok to just be ok sometimes, you are a great guy and I know you'll get through this and I for one look forward to the day we meet again and chew the fat over a couple beers. Luv ya Pal.

[@thepeakybiker]

Alby thanks mate I’ll take the kinds words on board mate and gain some inspiration from you mukka Hope your well and thanks for the comment

[@AyrshireVlogster]

Your not on the broken bus your just in for a service, I know it feels overwhelming, but this is a chance to rebuild. It might not seem like it now, but there’s a path forward. You have so much to offer the world, and the right people will see and value that. If you ever want to talk or vent, I’m here.

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers bro

[@Herco28]

And drinking is not the solution, it makes it worse.

[@Fella_Brucie]

Thanks for sharing both your ride and your thoughts. I trust that having some space to do both helped clear your head. I know that riding and sharing both work for me. Stay safe bud.

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks for the message mukka yea didn’t know the video would hit a nerve with people

[@mum-0217]

I think after lock down a lot of people have ended up in this position. I appreciate a break up with a partner can be very difficult but as people often say, as one door closes another door opens or slams in your face! Try and stay positive and look after yourself, I am sure over time things will improve and the ride outs on the bike can be great therapy.

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks for the kind words think lock down has a lot to answer for

[@afc85]

All my mates moved away, one of the reasons i passed my bike licence a month or so ago is so i can go to meets and try meet new people. Its hard, but on the other hand things can always be worse.

[@thepeakybiker]

Agree with that mukka could always be worse Cheers for the comment

[@Robert-xs2mv]

I don’t have any friends either, only “ associates “. I help others where and when I can, and occasionally receive help in return. Mostly I manage on my own. Meditating is of great value.

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mate you find it hard on your own still

[@Robert-xs2mv]

@@thepeakybiker after a decade, not really. I learned to accept my situation, what I can do and that what I can’t. Yes at times I still struggle, badly, but I remind myself I got through issues before and will so again. Take a few deep breaths, part of the meditation practice, then take the next step in whatever form that takes, reading, going for a walk, chores etc etc, watch KZbin, and riding of course. And most importantly, listening to music, that is truly enriching the soul.

[@thepeakybiker]

@Robert-xs2mv good advice I’ll take this on board

[@Richard-pe4cx]

i think at this time of year loneliness is even harder with the perception that families / relationships are perceived as normal all i can say is hang in there dont turn to alchol as it wont be your friend saying that book a christmass meal at your local if you have one try to be positive

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mate It will Appreciate the comment

[@stephenrichards4962]

If you think you have friends you’re a fool. I have no friends I have I know but not friends. Friend are people that don’t hurt your are there for you anytime. Not just when they need you. Life is shit. I found that out this year I’m 52 and my life has changed in the space of 3 month. The only friend you have is your bike. You look after it and it will look after you.

[@wildbad_gaz]

Hang in there pal, reach out to those you can and never feel like a burden. Everyone is busy with their own lives but will also help if you need it. Alcohol is not a good answer so definitely stick with putting fuel in the bike. Look for things you are passionate about about and maybe some volunteer roles that can help pass time and build new friendships of people like minded. You will hopefully become more comfortable in your own company. Keep busy where you can ❤

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers bro 👊🏻 It’s all still very new and raw I’ll get there thanks for the comment and thing I can look to do with spare time

[@Flummoxed-B4]

Hi Brian, it was good to meet you today at the NEC, and i wish i had seen this video prior to seeing you today. I think you have more friends than you realise here on youtube, please never feel that you are alone, I know it's hard to see at the moment, but it's early days for this part of your life and it will get better.

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks was really nice to meet up and have a good chat to you guys and thanks for the comment

[@MichaelWhitaker-e6j]

I did the same life changes you have done, a year ago , you addapt, you cope day to day , thank god I have my bike , which helps me get away from the issues I've to deal with

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mate its still very raw

[@mrwhiskym8818]

Hi Brian - Big “G” here - just wanted you to know I’m thinking about you as you deal with a body blow that life has thrown you - your a resilient and strong man - and I have no doubt that with this KZbin community and motorbikes you will get yourself to the other side . It’s amazing what can come along out the blue - but you have to go out and look for it - it won’t come and knock on your front door - as Bruce would say “keep on getting out there , when ever you can “ keep on , keeping on ! - Gordon… 🥃

[@thepeakybiker]

BIG G cheers bro i feel a little lost at the min but i will get there

[@aladinfox4098]

Great relaxing ride, nice piano at the end. 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers bro

[@bikegeist]

Good on you for sharing, mate. I'm sure a lot can relate to some extent. Hope you get through it. Looks like you've got a lot of support in this virtual space at least. 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mate just opening up thanks for the comment

[@haggiswhisperer]

Always here for you mate.

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mukka I know your a great friend to have

[@SoupDragon63]

When passing a motorcycle now I will wonder whether the rider is talking away behind the helmet about how lonely they are or other life things.

[@PeteZZR]

Thanks for being so open. I’ve had nearly 4 years of feeling the same way. Luckily I’ve got the dog for company and he has given me focus. Stay strong bro.

[@thepeakybiker]

i miss my dog alot too thanks for the comment mukka

[@PeteZZR]

@ No worries, I’m often around the Peaks, hopefully will bump into you guys sometime soon when I’m out on the bike.

[@thepeakybiker]

@@PeteZZR yes mukka when i am that way usually with jay @crazylegsonabike

[@Rockout52]

Everyone is different on the way they deal with things so nobody can really help you with the way you feel right now, but when I found myself in the very same situation you are in, instead of feeling down and focusing on all the negative side of things, I decided to see it as an opportunity to make my life better than it was, this is only a very short insight to my situation but I rebuilt my life from the ground up doing it just for me, I now have lived alone for more than 20 years no close family or any friends, but I do have lots of interests to include motorbikes, I would love to have someone to chat to on a regular basis about anything and everything but it doesn't stop me from looking forward to every day, I can go for several months without any human contact or conversation, it really does take a lot of self discipline to stay positive and just enjoy doing whatever you feel like. People think there is this big motorcycle family waiting with open arms, it really doesn't exist, people have their own little groups which they mistake for a wider community, I've lived and ride my bike in my neighbourhood for more than 20 years and have never met any other bikers or made any friends, I have reached out to few online but they just aren't interested, which doesn't give you any faith in the mythical biker community.

[@thepeakybiker]

i hope this changes for you as you can read on these comments there are good people out there

[@pongkoj2]

I totally get your feeling, I also love riding with people and meeting new people.💓

[@thepeakybiker]

tarrr mate

[@pongkoj2]

@@thepeakybiker Have a nice day mate! keep going.

[@pongkoj2]

@@thepeakybiker Mate , I have massaged you, check please.

[@notanotherbiker]

Have a bro hug from me. Very open raw chat. Thx for sharing. It's definitely harder nowadays when you get to a certain age (and therefore less motivated to be arsed making new chums) coupled with the doshless times we are all living in and the depressing government we have injecting pessimism into our lives... It's bloody tough and I reckon most folk are feeling something similar but don't admit it. Keep your head high. I have a dog who helps me keep somewhat cheerful on the blue days.

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks mate i appreciate this

[@hachewie]

Fuel is definitely a better purchase than grog. Back in the 90”s, I dug myself into a deep hole. It was a few phone calls from a few proper friends that kept me from checking out. A series of fandom events and chance meetings with strangers made me wake up to myself. I still get the lack dog a lot. It’s crap. It’s difficult and it can be lonely. Ride on mate. Ride on.

[@anthonygeorge5771]

Mega respect to you for putting this vid out Brian. I bet there's plenty of fellas in our community in the same boat or have at some point in there lives, I certainly have. Keep your chin up mate, it takes time to adjust, and things do get better. Thinking of you mukka.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro i just feek and say it how it is in my life mate and hope others can take a little bit from it that there are others in the same position

[@stevenjohnson365]

Massive respect mate I feel your pain. Don't know how you managed it, tells me your in control of this grieving process. Stay strong and safe mate 👍❤

[@thepeakybiker]

johno tarrr mukka

[@johnnycahill]

Chin up pal ,, plenty of support here from Dublin ☘️ ,, loving the videos , Johnny

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro i will deffo be coming over soon

[@chiefchips5976]

Mate with you, I know the feeling 🤙🏻

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers mukka thanks for the chats over the last few months

[@markfromleeds]

Beautiful vlog pal. I’ve got your back bri ❤️

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheer mukka I know you have your a true gent

[@VacantInside]

Went through the same thing just over a decade ago. Look after yourself. Get out. Call friends and family.

[@thepeakybiker]

Looks like we've both been on the "life's rollercoaster"! cheers for the comment bro

[@ashleybatt6667]

FairPlay for opening up like that mate, stay safe brother keep going il have my licence done early next year, me and are dad would be up for ride outs.. keep the videos coming

[@thepeakybiker]

no probs get it passed mukka good luck

[@tiger_800]

been their mate still gets me even after 20 years then my dad passed away 2015 on medication still but like you said when with a family you lose contact with mates so when the time comes it feels like no one is their thats where i am now been so hard the last month with poor mood and depressed feelings meds working overtime no enjoyment any where not even on my bike got no where to go feel so lost so at the moment i am rock bottom to be honest getting support but slow it is if you need a new mate give me a message nottingham way try keep yourself good anytime i am here

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers bro I’ll keep ya to that notts here I come hahah

[@philbell3342]

I feel for you Brian. We all have our cross to bear. I've been struggling to work something out in my mind. 😢over the past few years. I have good days and bad days. Wouldn't it be good if we could all get together and chat these things through with each other. We are not alone. Be strong mate, the world as you view it from your rides are still great and worth seeing. The bike helps this happen. It's the glue that bonds us riders together. All the best wishes.

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks mukka

[@andyscooter5753]

I get where your coming from. Been on the broken bus 14 years, still find it hard to trust people. Lost a huge circle of friends who just stopped talking to me. But have a roof over my head and a bike in the shed. So plodding on doing what an when I want to do without any worries.

[@thepeakybiker]

hope your ok mukka

[@exeterrider]

Things will get better me easier in time once you get settled again. Your doing really well but it's hard. Much respect to you. I hope this video gets to many others that need to see this, you have a great community. One day at a time. We're all thinking about you nearly ALL the time. There are so many good times and people to meet ahead but you just don't know it yet. Where the fook would we be without our bikes to clear out heads 😮

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mukka thanks for the text aslo

[@themartiandefender2128]

Definitely becomes harder as we got older, I moved for family to somewhere new and where I live I’ve no friends and it is lonely, bikes definitely help and I’m trying to do more bike related stuff. Stay strong mate !

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@philliplum3845]

Thoughts and sincere good wishes to you.. Life can be incredibly cruel and difficult. And well done in expressing your feelings and thoughts.. Us guys tend to hide them but that is not good..

[@thepeakybiker]

yea didnt think this video would do this and steer up this emotion

[@nicholasjarrold8649]

Morning peaky sorry to hear about your situation it’s bldy terrible my situation is a bit different I lost my wife April 21 to cancer in that same year I lost my mum and dad first wife 3months later mum passed then 3 months later dad passed 21 is a year I try and block out it was the shitest year ever and I was so lonely I’ve got 4 kids living close to me and my oldest bit further away I see 3 of them regularly but it’s different not having the wife here with me we had nearly 40 yrs of marriage it was and still fk hard but you must of had a hard life being ex army with things you’ve been through and seen in your time I just hope you can be strong and pull yourself through this but it is hard wish you all the best take care and get them bldy tyres changed ride safe mate💪💪🙏

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro tyres are shot ill push on mukka cheers again bro

[@bobtaylor5263]

hi peaky im sorry to hear about what your going through, im sure things will get better. chin up and stay strong mukka

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mukka

[@bikeroffthebeatentrack]

Mate your situation is almost identical to my own current situation. I’m also ex army. Although I’ve been out for years, I’ve moved around a lot, both homes and jobs, so I haven’t really got many friends. Currently going through a divorce , which although all amicable and straightforward, is still heartbreaking, especially as in a few months I’ll have to say goodbye to our little dog. But I’m used to being alone and self reliant, so I know I’ll be fine, once time moves on. Although everything can seem bleak and difficult, I find it best to view life in chapters, ie. When one chapter ends, another begins. Sometimes a new chapter means fresh opportunities, and opens the door to things you wouldn’t have considered previously. For me, I find doing what you are doing (getting out and about and making KZbin videos) actually helps, as it gives me a reason to get out, and as strange as it seems, I find it quite therapeutic talking to a camera. Dig deep mate, shame we’re not closer or we could head out for a ride. Ride safe. Mark 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

arrr man so your a veteran too cheers bro thanks for sharing also mukka

[@jjnewman65]

Hi Brian I had to leave the family home like you. The verbal abuse and lack of love from the woman I fell in love with was too much for me to take. It wasn’t good for my two boys to see hear and see this. It’s been very difficult. My motorcycles have help. We move on and I have my two lads that still love me.

[@thepeakybiker]

Mate I feel for you honestly It’s just lonely mukka But hopefully it’ll get better

[@skts2610]

Been there got that video my friend, not easy by any stretch of the imagination. You’ll get there fella, takes time, but you’ll come out the other side… Take good care of yourself🙏🏽

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mukka

[@RidingThroughGrief]

It’s hard to speak about mate, I applaud you for sharing this, as difficult as it is. It’s a hard journey, which you’ll push through. I’m a bit far away, but hopefully get to catch up properly soon, I’ll have a spare room from mid December :)

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro and thanks for the message today means alot

[@Zedhead_]

It cannot for one minute be easy for you pal, talking so openly about it is a very good start. Take care pal and stay safe. 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks 👍

[@Nigel-h1x]

Just subscribed judging by your other comments there are other bikers who you can link up with so don't despair the biker community is amazing

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks for the sub i am just a normal bloke going through normal shite but happy to share thanks again bro

[@AJIdiotabroad]

Hey buddy, i totally get your feeling, i love riding with people and meeting new people, however i have moved to Normandy France 10 years ago and it really does isolate you. i left my old mates behind with the promise of visits, only one has been to see me and anyone else just tries to use me for a holiday. (nipped that in the bud) i often feel alone but look forward to getting on the bike to go find new places it sure helps take away any worries or upset. So if your ever lone riding in europe / Normandy come give me a shout

[@thepeakybiker]

yea man just feeling a little lost at the min cheers for the comment mukka

[@outwithjack7973]

I don't know you but I feel your pain. I was this way years ago. Hope you get through it. I know its easy to say but be happy with your self .

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mate it will get better

[@TommySlingshot]

Over Wrexham way if you ever fancy a brew n chat the door is always open and the kettle is on me mucca, ride safe stay safe

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@Saddlebags73]

Hello mate 👋🏼 It takes time to adjust to both a different life style, and different tyres 😬 But adjust, you will and things will get easier. Not that it helps but, it’s perfectly normal to feel the way you do. Keep smiling and one day it’ll be genuine 🤝✌🏼

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@jonpowell3414]

Chin up pal. I hope things improve for you soon. Keep aiming for those better times and they will come. JP.

[@thepeakybiker]

tarrr mate i am trying lol

[@Banditmanuk]

Carol & I enjoyed meeting you at Motorcycle Live. It was good to chat. You realise I now have to buy an Action 5! Look after yourself and take care.

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks, you too!

[@cartzwheels]

I no the feeling dude regarding friends. Military mates are for life but we live all over the country. My circle is small, and thats down to me. I’m not a massive fan of socialising, but I’m only an hour away and my door is always open if you ever need to get away for a while. Beer in the fridge, tea and coffee and an ear to listen.

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers bro appreciate that

[@stonecold2653]

Very thoughful content.ill come say hi if i ever bump into you mate.im a GSA owner too.....maybe join a ride out sometime. All the best from the black country.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mate value the comment

[@colsparky651]

I'm really sorry, buddy. I've been dealing with the same problem for a long time now. Time eventually heals all. I hope things get better for you.

[@kevinallen4052]

Been there and have got the tee shirt a horrible time but you will come through it and now we have social media and we can help each other, God bless.

[@thepeakybiker]

Thanks for the comment it’s really hard not the first or last but still hard times Cheers bro

[@baz5806]

Know exactly how you feel, when I'm out riding (alone) i see other groups of guys on bikes and think "that used to be me, where are they now"? I think the older you get the harder it is to make genuine friends..

[@thepeakybiker]

I totally understand where you're coming from. As we get older, it can be tough to connect with new people.

[@andrewmason2879]

Things happen for a reason mate. Just think of it being a new chapter in your life. Been married 3 times and finally found the love of my life. I totally know where you are coming from. I know it will get better mate you have a lot of caring friends around you friends that will be there if you need them. Me and Jeanette only met you the once at the wild bad weekender but enough to know that you’re a lovely genuine bloke. I know things will get better for you I really do. Stay positive and keep safe mate. And if your ever around Chesterfield the kettle is always on 👍👍

[@thepeakybiker]

arrrr a brew in chesterfield is a plan mukka hahahahaha cheers for the comment

[@stuartmetcalfe547]

Hello Brian from Oswestry. There's a bunch of motorcyclists that base themselves out of the Bradford Arms in Knockin (I've only just been invited to join). I think they may be on FB (I don't use it). They are apparently usually there Sunday mornings when the weather is decent. Try that. There's always folks to sit and chat to at the Lakeside Cafe in Bala. And there's often bikes parked on the high street of Bala by the Fish and Chip Shop and the Italian Cafe. And there's folks at the Ponderosa (closing for Winter). So say hello. When theres motorcycles involved and a cup of tea there's always someone to chat to. Motorcycles are a great way to meet folks. Keep trying. Oh and leaving the family home....and "growing apart"...I wonder if there's a chance to take a fresh look at your relationship and see whether or not there's yet a new chapter to write together. If you grew apart, maybe you can work on being together. If you'd both like to. Wishing you the very best of luck... Stuart

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro i will look into that

[@VStrom2019]

If you are ever in the north east of Scotland, let me know. I will bike with you showing the local things to see.

[@thepeakybiker]

Sound mukka I’ll deffo be coming up again soon

[@GB-Patriot]

Thinking of ya Brian, it'll all be OK in the end, just take each day as it comes mukka.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers mukka

[@tojj29]

Life can be shit at times mate. All we can do is plod on and fingers crossed it'll sort itself out. Take your own advice mate, smile, and keep ya chin up. 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

Tarr mukkkaa

[@delliott3852]

I'm there as well, totally screwed over cos i av 2 terminal illnesses, what makes it worse its been goin on with a member of local bike club & they av the face 2 go club together, so yeah pal ur not on ur own.

[@thepeakybiker]

So sorry about this

[@davidramsay3622]

Those roads looks greasy as feck your doing well to keep it rubber side up on bald tyres, kettles aye on if you’re up this way. I set you a challenge, go to the pub and just drinking soft, start at one end of the bar and get a story out of every person sitting at the bar

[@thepeakybiker]

Hahaha they roads were shocking I am going sober for January

[@robfearonphotographyhillwa9583]

take care mate everything will be okay, you do need friends mate! not everyone is an arse, stay strong , I live on the Wirral we could meet half way share stories, just st ay safe please, thanks for the video

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheers may a brew yea sounds like a plan

[@robfearonphotographyhillwa9583]

@@thepeakybiker Deffo mate anytime, I work nights so any day really im usually up around 9am

[@thepeakybiker]

@ cool drop me an email mukka it’s on my channel

[@richardbarton2709]

Divorced 25 years ago costly to mind and wallet but it does get better. I Joined a bike club which helps.

[@thepeakybiker]

tarrr mukka i may have a look into it

[@ladyjrider666]

Sorry to hear you're struggling and life / relationship / break up. I got divorced from my girls dad 8 years ago. My bike was my salvation, I spent days riding while he came to have our daughters in my / family home. I didn't want them to be out in the cold. So I did that. You've got a great platform to talk and maybe make some meet ups? Sunday brunch. Not sure what avenue you like but bike clubs are out there (and part of my and my husbands *new marriage * life). But rider groups like rospa or owner groups are alternatives. Your bike can be the basis of friends. Your mental space will need time and acknowledgement is a good place to start. Keep on riding. Take care

[@Baza765]

Keep pushing bro,you WILL make it in the end,stay off the piss,and more on the bike, those you thought where your mates and have taken sides "Uck Em"they were'nt you true mates to start with,,,,,,, Ride Safe Mr B 🤘

[@Motourev]

Mate you got my lifestyle, mines by choice, keeping everyone at arm’s distance and be happy with your own company. If you look deep enough there are probably a handful of people who genuinely don’t want something from you, and most wont be on KZbin.

[@thepeakybiker]

Agree with that mukka always some one wanting something

[@Motourev]

@ youtube makes you vulnerable to fake friends

[@andrewgilbert9553]

Fella stop feeling sorry for yourself Better of out of it if it wasn’t working. Life goes on and it gets better

[@thepeakybiker]

Not feeling sorry for myself just explaining mate

[@althescottishbiker]

Mate, you’re not alone. I feel like I have a hop on / off ticket to the broken bus. I bet most guys don’t have a big friendship circle and don’t see the friends they do have often. I’m not military but I am blue light and we tend to be more closed to making new friends. I enjoy my own company but also enjoy the odd night out with my friends (2) from school days. It can be hard sometimes. If you’re back up in Scotland I will happily meet for a pint. Ride safe.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro i will be coming up again soon hopefully

[@alanalan3290]

I'm only over in Stoke on Trent and often come Shrewsbury way, life can be crap and if you you ever want a rideout with some company just let me know. I'm early retired so anytime to suit within reason and looking at doing some touring next year both within the UK and Europe 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

arrr man not a million miles away let go for a brew

[@RevBombUK]

It will get easier mate been there 3 times, if you ever need a chat my phones always on especially in the week Stay safe mate big hugs

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheer bro All over the place the last months

[@sailaway4559]

Stay save, my family pasted away suddenly. Your not on your own with bike community, it saved me.

[@thepeakybiker]

i am sorry for your loss

[@michaelswinden130]

And I thought it was only me. After 25 years of marriage now on my own and no friends around me . We have just got to keep going.

[@thepeakybiker]

i believe this video has captivated attention to this every day life struggles that aren't commented on here on this platform

[@michaelswinden130]

I think it was a brave thing to do in opening up like that. Some things just need saying and why not on this platform good on you 👍

[@thepeakybiker]

@ cheers mate I know people go through it but I’m an open book

[@davepowell6740]

best being on yer own than being let down by so called friends

[@thepeakybiker]

yea i know mate its not nice being the escape goat

[@iandawson7373]

Is there not any social bike meets near bye pubs Facebook etc to you give it a go mate

[@thepeakybiker]

Not been here long I will have alook now though mukka thanks for the comment 👍🏻

[@MikeHunt-n5m]

Stick with it mate. God (or whatever) bless.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@Biggles83]

I think break ups especially approaching Xmas and Winter make the situation worse in your head! I live on my own, bike travel on my own and genuinely prefer it. Dabble in the odd dating app from time to time, meet up then realise how much I enjoy my drama free life as it is haha! If you are ever up for a ride mate, I will pop up no problem

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@Lovableblobby1]

👊keep ya chin up buddy ❤️

[@thepeakybiker]

tarrrr

[@MotoTourIreland]

At some point we've all felt like that. More than we would admit. Pop over to Ireland and have a break. Spring maybe? Weather is crap here for motorcycles at the moment. Blacj ice. Storms. Nonsense Weather.

[@thepeakybiker]

I will mukka that a must

[@JeanetteMason-bv9zi]

Thinking about you Brian, stay strong

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks bab

[@SteveF80]

I’m not far from shrewsbury mate I’m in stoke, if you ever want a chat or a ride with a fellow biker , weather permitting. I’m in the same boat mate single for a few yrs no real friend group and at mid 40s it’s not the same as being a kid

[@thepeakybiker]

Stoke isn’t that far is it mate hour ish from me could meet in the middle like the raven cafe or sumat

[@SteveF80]

@@thepeakybikeryeah it’s not far mate about 30 mile

[@thepeakybiker]

@ yea about the same for me mukka

[@spugone]

You’re not broken buddy, you are grieving. I know what you mean about the being in and feeling lonely. I live in my own and don’t go out other than in the bike or in the car. Don’t do the pubs and way too old for the clubs 😂. I feel it much worse when I have been with Heather and then back to being alone. I find myself looking at the wine but resist most of the time, watch you and the others on here, The friends from this have helped, but I get what you mean about no one to pop out for a chat with or a pint. We are all here for you. Have a great day at the bike show and leave the credit card at home 😂😂

[@thepeakybiker]

thanks thats it just a social hello thats close kina thing

[@AdamsLifeRiding]

Hi pal. Hope you're feeling better . Are there any riding clubs or local ride outs near you. Mybe go along on one of the ride outs to meet some local riders. It's always easy to get a good conversation going when you have the same interests. I'm o hgv driver spend 4 nights away in my truck it's a lonely place at times. I feel for you, bub. But it's good you have spoken about it. All the best peaky

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers ive been a wagon driver not nice trunking thanks for the comment

[@BlakesPipes]

Being alone is different then being lonely. If your don't life yourself, your have a lot of work to do. But when you do like yourself, things will slowly set themself into place. I found out after 2 failed marriages , that I no longer want that hobby. I have found peace in life and found out that life with out women , is lovely 😂. I do wish some days I would go back to having a female friend, then I call people I know that are married and that stops that thought in its tracks. 😂 find some old hobbies and reintroduce them back into your life. Take walks and remember to ☺ smile!

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@howie702]

sounds like you're starting from scratch again Brian, it's gonna be hard at first but I'm sure that after a time things will get easier, get yourself away to some of the local bike nights when the weather gets better and they start up again I'm sure there'll be plenty of folk come up to you for a chat (maybe some subs) like minded people and all that .... chin up and smile you can do this 😎😎😎😎

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro

[@wheeliemalc]

Keep your head up pal, I’ve had 2 major splits from wives and both were hard, there are some bleak times, but it will get better. You come across as a sound guy so it will work out.

[@thepeakybiker]

cheers bro its hard as you know but just wanted to put it out there for people to see mukka

[@wheeliemalc]

@ good on ya, not everyone lets us see them when they’re down. Brave vid buddy.

[@thepeakybiker]

@wheeliemalc thanks mukka

[@thebluetrumpet74]

Hey Bri, when my marriage broke down it nearly ruined me so I understand where you're at. £30 of fuel in the bike will get to Nottingham, my door is always open if you fancy a change of scenery and a brew. Chin up youth, stay strong.

[@thepeakybiker]

Cheer bro I’ll remember that brew stop