The Surprising Psychology Of OnlyFans Simps | Reacting To Charisma On Command

In this video, I react to one of Charisma On Command's videos about OnlyFans simps. I get asked a lot of questions about OnlyFans and I thought this video was a good way to address the topic. I had never seen this video before, but there are a lot of points that I agree with. Thank you so much for watching and comment something you'd like to see me react to!
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[@JAREDGRAF8181]

Im glad you mentioned how women complain about men objectifying them but then turn around and give men a way to objectify them more. I guess they only care when they aren't profiting from it lol

[@vklnew9824]

Demented broads all of them

[@Comeback180]

Women get objectified every season including fall and winter, there's no monopoly on the month.

[@rossg4641]

every woman is different, just because some women on only fans like to be objectified doesnt mean others do, maybe you shouldn't think of women as a collective mass and think more individually, just because some women are on only fans doesn't give you an excuse to do it in real life

[@JAREDGRAF8181]

​@@rossg4641 No one said it was ok to objectify women. nice try with the straw man argument though.

[@NoizeTank]

@@JAREDGRAF8181 he is right though. How are you gonna make a statement like that of a group that has billions of members? It has to be taken down to an individual level. Call out the hypocrites if you want to but you can’t generalize half the entire population

[@kingcalboss]

Great to see a woman speak against only fans. Seems like everyone has one nowadays. You are real one💯

[@gillygrylls]

I went out with a girl months ago and the only reason she went out with me was to try and get gifts and bills paid and to tell me she has an only fans account that I can send her money and tip her on. I’m like nah no thanks. Got up and left her at the restaurant lol. She didn’t even look like the kind of girl who would have an only fans. She looked like an innocent church girl. 🤷‍♂️🤣

[@kingcalboss]

@@gillygrylls my now ex wife left me 8 months ago to live the party life instead of building a family. She actually was a church girl and completely changed after she started to hang out with the wrong people. Honestly wouldn't be surprised if she ends up doing only fans. A lot of the stuff she was doing was very suspect. I don't complain cause my life has been way better without her. At first it was hard but as time goes on you start to realize that you don't need those type of people. I know I will eventually find someone who truly wants a future and build a family. I literally gave her everything but some people just never appreciate the sacrifices. Life is good though and there is amazing women out there who are also looking for a good hardworking man.

[@gillygrylls]

@@kingcalboss best wishes to ya brother. I’m in the same situation except with a past girlfriend. Girl I was talking to been giving it up to every guy she finds hot lately. Yet complains that no one values her. She keeps choosing these guys when she had one that cared for her but I guess that’s typical to many ladies today

[@kingcalboss]

@@gillygrylls that lifestyle is not forever. It will eventually catch up and reality is going to hit hard. It's not worth fighting for someone who won't do the same for you. Stay up brotha!

[@jimlucas8414]

Agreed

[@johnj3577]

'A fool and his money are soon parted' - Someone, a long time ago.

[@llcooldrockindahouse4631]

Thomas Tusser The Origin Of “A Fool And His Money Are Soon Parted” This phrase is at least 460 years old. It was used by a poet named Thomas Tusser in a poem he wrote called Five Hundred Points of Good Husbandry, in the year 1557.

[@lemonborn]

yep JESUS, i belive in the book of EL:KIN..

[@brainrich1358]

Sun Tzu

[@SportZFan4L1fe]

@@llcooldrockindahouse4631 it's from the Bible. Book of Proverbs.

[@davidchmielecki7653]

Younger men need older men as role models to tell them to get off these platforms, save their money for long term goals, workout, do something difficult, embrace the suck, and purse meaningfulness.

[@paulcarmi8130]

This. I'd be even more of a loser without positive male role models

[@davidchmielecki7653]

@@paulcarmi8130 Well said. Anything I can do to help you in a mentor role?

[@paulcarmi8130]

@@davidchmielecki7653 thing Is, I've become a bit of an ask-hole lately, I need to implement the advice I HAVE got... I appreciate it though.

[@Cantetinza17]

I know a ton of old guys on OnlyFans. Mainly because they are looking at Young meat that they know wouldn't give them the time a day normally. In a way they are Splenda Daddies.

[@Brecconable]

Like a Drill Sergeant!? @ThirdsLynch @JohnBurke @AngryCops @MikhailSimmons

[@Xyronium]

I don't think that Onlyfans is a place where guys go if they have other options. Many of them have been lonely for years.

[@anonymousincognito7831]

There have been some guys who are megamillionaires who join it and think that by joining they can meet the woman and have her choose them as potential mates. Spoiler Alert: the women don't.

[@ag-88802]

Probably, but that's still horrible.

[@tchoythao5579]

Agree. I don't agree with it, but I won't shame the people buying it, and somewhat the people running it. Females only look for the 10-20% of males. people have become so materialistic that it's actually really scary.

[@Xyronium]

@@tchoythao5579 On what exactly are these incel data based?

[@anonymousincognito7831]

@@Xyronium I didn't see any incel data.

[@axiom7261]

Only Fans reminds me of a stripclub, that fantasy where men can be desired, even if it requires money. It's so rare to be desired as a guy, and it takes so much work and investment to get it naturally, I think that's why these systems work so well.

[@martintanz9098]

That was my thought as well.

[@nicbell8090]

This right here. The good ones will make you forget you’ve even paying to talk with them. Or you rationalize it as a few bucks a month. Your cash times 100, 300, 1000. This is a job for them

[@MrMerajjio]

100%

[@jdanon203]

Yep it's a better version of a strip club I would say for both sides.

[@CourtneyRyan]

100% 🥺

[@nassirmreyoud4415]

This isn't rocket science: 1. Women reject beta men. 2. People realized they can capitalize on rejected beta men. 3. The birth of OnlyFans and such.

[@Royan1900]

This is very true. Well said.

They've also realise that they can capitalise on women who want to live life in Recruit Difficulty.

[@ajayharry987]

There is a creator called Sydney Watson and she did a 20min video on that very point. Watch it, it’s soo interesting.

[@francisregala3604]

Finally someone who gets it 😂

[@zei1002]

tf u talking abt Wym beta men are yall animals or smth?? 😭😭

[@slavi7191]

"I want my future wife to be a successful onlyfans girl." - said NO self respecting man, EVER! This platform is so toxic for both men and women.

[@theretrogamers7690]

This has inspired me to start an Onlyfans page in which I go to appliance, and electronics stores, and take pictures of only fans and post them.

[@bunnyboo6295]

That's not cool they are doing it for money maybe that's all they worth and need it

[@johnames6430]

I think someone already did it bro, saw that new Dyson on there

[@wtfzalgo]

AHAHAHAHAHA

[@MrJoshuaAwesome]

There are funny shirts that show only fans. So funny!

[@Poyonep]

Do this but with PC Parts and their fans. We gotta be diverse here. GPU fans, CPU fans, case fans, and fans on other components would be cool to see

[@JoseMartinez-vq9zt]

Courtney has the best real life emoji faces in history. Love it.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂🥲🥴 hahahaha

[@aryeh24]

True

[@samiuddinomer2538]

History?????

[@smferreiro2610]

@@samiuddinomer2538 Jose must be a millenial... world must have started in 2008 for him.

[@Inertia888]

I think it's funny, we used to call that a facial expression. Now that people are online more than they are in real life, it is being called a real life emoji face. Emojis were modeled after real life facial expressions, 😂 ... not the other way around.

[@pastoraddams5103]

I used to be into only fans type stuff. Im so relieved that i stopped in 2019. Courtney thanks for this video. I never got so involved as you describe. I feel good knowing i didnt get involved so deep. And im very empowered now that i have a life. Im into cooking weight training reading bible etc.

[@CourtneyRyan]

That is amazing!! 🥰

[@TheBlademan-]

I used to follow a girl who was a stripper who also had an OF account but was constantly posting about how trash men were because they only saw her as a sex object and she could never find a real relationship. she was genuinely the most delusional person i’ve ever seen.

[@maenad1231]

Reminds me of how male pornstars often enter normal and leave having a very little ability to have compassion, love, fondness, respect, empathy, like for any woman at all. So many leave HATING the opposite sex

[@kenyoung6666]

@@maenad1231Very true. That’s why most marriages between two pornstars don’t last either, both are so numb of emotions for a lasting marriage and have a high rate of cheating.

[@renren221]

Something that was missed is that alot of these girls on OF hire someone to answer their subscribers, so in the end you're paying a guy to have a connection with.

[@bunnyboo6295]

Hey fantasy is fantasy. If people feel like it dose something for them who are we to tell someone how to spend.

[@anjeloambi6425]

Idk man but for me this video just shows the sad and depressing reality of our society. Shows how lonely alot of people are

[@mortizmortiz]

Men*

[@screwgoogle4993]

If only the Democrats would stop trying their hardest to make every problem including this one as bad as possible... if they weren't constantly STILL looking for excuses to lock us in our homes and stop us from talking to one another in person AND online...

[@maddogkilla1]

@@screwgoogle4993 the democrats will rue the day they brought Only Fans into our lives 🤣🤣 last video id thought i see someone blaming left right politics lmao

[@killaken2000]

@@mortizmortiz True. Look at the data leak of Ashley Madison. The site was comprised of men and bots posing as women to keep the guys on the hook (and paying the subscription fees).

[@anewagora]

There is a powerful lesson that comes around repeatedly. Embracing being alone, and loneliness if that comes with it, is essential on the parts of the path to healing and liberation. Ultimately, self determination. Everyone has those stages where this comes up. They can choose to seek comfort, the addictive hedonistic lie, or relax with the reality in front of them, investing in the slow uncertain development of real life. Pema Chödrön describes the depth and power of loneliness in When Things Fall Apart. Eventually, we are willing to let go. Some learn sooner, others much later. Putting it off does nothing but hurt us and make it harder in the long run. And the longer we wait, the more corrupted we become when we finally let go. Those who hang on their whole lives will miss their opportunity for their rare, unique transformation. Most people keep the door closed all the time, so have no idea how devastating their choice to stay blind and addicted is.

[@sg.o7139]

My god ! KZbin actually hands me a diamond for once. It's good to see an intelligent, beautiful woman with her feet on the ground shining a light into what is becoming a very strange world. More power to you Courtney. You are the beautiful flower⚘ that grew through concrete 🥂. Many blessings and have a great day.

[@stephenperera7382]

The film HER with Joaquín Phoenix is ultimately where all this is heading. The love affair with the Operating system of a computer/phone. Prophetic perhaps.

[@imadmiller3146]

Excellent movie by the way... You're right. 👌

[@johngalt6838]

I agree.....but society wont stay together.

[@anewagora]

This makes it all the more unsettling how feminists berated that movie for supposedly being "misogynistic". I think it is clearly a movie about two themes: A) consciousness and being alive; B) loneliness and finding unexpected companionship. Like Ex Machina, it goes so much deeper than lazy people only looking for something to make their ideology seem real.

[@stephenpeter8350]

I watched a 60 minutes programme on this recently. It portrayed the females on this site making literally millions of dollars as strong independent women. Pretty sad. Young girls need more roll models like you Courtney . Keep up the good work.

[@Brecconable]

*Role Models. Unless you want a model to roll over like a boulder.

[@FerocityFPS]

it is sad, and do you know what else is funny with the statement "independent woman" thats not true... When you got men paying for your bills literally

[@screwgoogle4993]

@@Brecconable Liberals would eat that shit up

[@minciNashu]

It's glorified VC.

[@inihilisme1511]

@@FerocityFPS Yes and no at the same time. A product need people to buy it to exist, so there a dependency, but if the customer need to buy it, there dependency here too. So it's more equal. The product is their, they know how to make you want to pay you become dependent of them and you give them your money. Using people is for me not being dependent on them, because you can use other men/people if one men don't want to give you money anymore. So no dependant woman on men. But dependant woman on customer.

[@vineethvish11]

Everytime Courtney gave a glance to the camera with that disappointed look, its her internal scream showing up.

[@BLITZY261]

Understable..she has STANDARDS.

[@gdblesscptamerica1726]

@Richard Schiffman Bro stop projecting, and stop using Onlyfans. Yes, it is That obvious!

[@chipparmley]

It is a tough lesson guys have to learn that some girls are being nice just because it is her job.

[@tchoythao5579]

Well, a lot of males under this probably already know. Loneliness is one of the worst feelings in the world, hence why one of the main causes of suicide is due to a feeling of loneliness. It's better to feel a false connection than to live with none. I don't necessarily agree with it on the ethics side, but I won't take it away from them when it could possibly be one of their only hopes in life. Ultimately, this shows that we have to start discussing male problems instead of cold shouldering or victim blaming them because I believe society has forgotten the difference between having no emotions and being in control of emotions. And, while the term "victim blaming" has been overused to the point that is has started to mean absolved of self responsibility at times, I do believe that is is genuinely used here, especially considering the approach towards males by the current wave of feminism and sjw.

[@seca_999]

great to see that there is still girls like her that exists very proud of her

[@yazsaif]

Your opinion on this is what most woman should have as well 👏🏽 . I also wanted to say i admire your femininity and honesty. That’s something a lot of women lack nowadays so hold on to it!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much! I wish more women watched my videos lol

[@mendeltomas]

Very well stated, Yaz!

[@yazsaif]

@@mendeltomas Thanks Mendel!

[@inihilisme1511]

@@CourtneyRyan Isn't the "I'm not like other girl" thing right now ?

[@wildtoobig3780]

"You are so much better than having to pay someone to talk to you" Nailed it!!

[@charlesstanford1310]

That's exactly what therapy is. Are we so much better than needing to go to therapy?

[@wildtoobig3780]

@@charlesstanford1310 No i don't think we are

[@cynicalidealist11]

@@charlesstanford1310 The difference there is that a therapist is a professional who has studied specifically to help you deal with problems in your life. It's not meant to be the solution, it's meant to help you find a solution.

[@charlesstanford1310]

@@cynicalidealist11 I can see that. I still deplore the excesses of professionalization of the human activity of guidance and friendship. By the way, do you listen to Rush?

[@qaiserelahi122]

Thanks for sharing your opinion about this low level and immoral activity. The world is full of amazing people and all we need to do is to step out of our houses and try to get involved ourselves into some activities and eventually we will find genuine people.

[@OperationEndGame]

What makes it ironic that a lot of these “feminists” have an onlyfan account, and the app itself was created by a guy.😂

[@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945]

Professionals have double standards.

[@johnames6430]

"I don't need a man", no you need 10,000 of them.

[@TineTineBean]

Using an app that is made by a guy does not make someone a bad feminist. doing sex work does not make someone a bad feminist.

[@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945]

Clearly someone doesn't know how to identify sarcasm from irony.

[@aubreysuave]

In a hyper sexualized society I think it’s important for men to focus their energy in other areas of their lives to better themselves rather than spending time and money on a site like that. I recently graduated highschool and the amount of girls that started an onlyfans was just surprising to me. (Not saying anything is wrong with starting an onlyfans or viewing the content, just know what you’re getting into and view x rated content in moderation) Great video👍

[@bryanassissilva3674]

100% right man.

[@aubreysuave]

@@bryanassissilva3674 🙌

[@tpespos]

@@aubreysuave I agree with your point. Although I can see how it’s difficult for men that aren’t considered desirable in society to fall into this.

[@gcg101]

(sorry for bad English, not my first language) I graduated high school 20 years ago. This time is pretty f** up. The fact that we live in a hyper sexualized society is pretty accurate. We also live in the "# metoo" time. I think all the onlyfans thing is counter productive. We, Men, must not subscribe to all that crap, and You, Women, must not sell your sexy pictures for a god damn tip. (I know i know, women can do anything they want, that is not my point). The society can't say "don't rape women" and "any girls can sell x-content if we tip her" at the same time. The women who works in the porn industry are professionals and know what they are doing. The 19 years old girls I don't think they realize the impact that must have on their life. And so the men. Guys, pls, don't fall in that hole. (I'm saying all is wrong with starting/subscribe an onlyfans 😂)

[@aubreysuave]

@@tpespos You’re totally right. Those men should be working on building confidence and working on themselves but i can see why it can be difficult to do so

[@armand0]

Ive seen this behavior happening even through non Only Fans sites like Patreon. Pokimane is a big gaming streamer and she has to set donation caps due to the fact that there are men out there submissive enough to donate their entire salary in hopes of validation. Keep in mind that her Patreon is 100% clean.

[@AbhiBass96]

Christ!

[@John-iq4cj]

I feel sorry for those guys. They must feel really unloved. What the hell drives a guy to eventually become like that?

[@eurydice0009]

I'm gonna be honest, onlyfans is really awful, but when it comes to Pokimane and all the things people do to try and get her to validate them.. it's.. incredibly disgusting. She may actually be a nice person and entertaining, I haven't watched her, but that is just awful

[@ExeErdna]

@@eurydice0009 Yeah she recently kinda got sick of it because it finally clicked how these men are acting and how she's enabling it. She had to control it. The more money she allowed them to yeet at her, the worse they got. It's a legit two-way street the women gotta control their fans instead of letting the fans control them.

[@7aflores7]

@@John-iq4cj rejection, feeling like being yourself is not good enough, general feelings of worthlessness, things like that. Basically just what you said, feeling unloved and rejected.

[@johnames6430]

Onlyfans girls "I'm independent and I don't need no man", yeah you don't A man, you need 10,000 of them to justify your existence.

[@borislibaque1558]

I always see some cognitive dissonance when a guy brings up Only Fans and a girl is around. Its the kind of look Courtney, you gave in the beginning part of Charlie's video. And then I see the gears turning in my guy friend's head; to him its a judgy, dismissive sort of look. As if it was wrong for him to want someone to respond to his messages, to take interest in what he wants, who shares something in common. It makes him feel small and empty to know that even among friends if he were to say or act like he wanted those things, he would still be horrible for wanting them. So of course, he says no more about it, and learns as many men have throughout history that he should never be open with people, they will not accept and love him and he'll lose everything if he does. I don't mean to pick on you Courtney, especially for a gut reaction sort of expression, but I wanted to illustrate the narrative, and how sensitive a guy can be. Ya its triggering, the cognitive dissonance is real, I get it, we want to think of guys as strong but they're more nuanced than that. Do you see why it can be hard given our natural responses for men to communicate about what goes on inside? I cringed while writing that by the way, the thought of someone so weak inside is really uncomfortable, but I gotta work on it too, we all gotta be better. Turns out its not that easy to create a safe space for someone to open up and takes some skill and tact. Would you personally open up about your desires in an unsafe environment? Fortunately guys don't need it nearly as much or as often and are better at creating the space, and women seem to need it much more so it all works out on the surface. Testosterone lowers anxiety thresholds, as long as cortisol levels are kept in check and the female nervous system is more stress sensitive generally, although women also have better habits around emotional hygiene. But if Only Fans has shown us anything its that guys need that space too, and maybe we should move to a more 80/20 sort of thing. A guy needs to be able to say what he wants without it being used against him in his relationship, and that seems to not be happening for a lot of guys. We need to stop being judgy of guys for wanting what they do, and instead become better at communicating, better at being genuine, better at being fun and kind and supportive. The typical guy, genuinely doesn't think he's valuable, doesn't know what he brings to the table, because no one's ever told him he matters! No one's showed him they want him, they appreciate him, they like him, we just expect him to be confident without a reference point. And a guy need so little, so so little encouragement, to feel like he's enough and yet...Only Fans Relationships are really complicated and the guys that go on Only Fans, just want to feel seen and loved like everyone else, but have learned that they never will, that they're not good enough. They totally know, they're prey on Only Fans, they do it anyways because its better than being alone and don't know an alternative, and like porn, deep down there's an emasculating sort of shame that if left unchecked turns to bitterness. We have to do better as a society and be kinder and more loving to men and boys. If this was any other victimized group you wouldn't say, you should know better, why do you keep going back there. Its just insensitive, and we're used to it. Its not good. Don't you find it sad that even in a relationship, a lot of guys don't feel connected! I think we oversimplify women too sometimes, thinking if a girl likes him she'll do things for him and be kind to him and act like she likes him. But she won't, not all the time, and sometimes not at all. She's a mess, just like he is, like we all are! If girls and women as great as we pretend Only Fans wouldn't exist. We gotta keep it real AND we gotta put in the work to make relationships great; so many people are so lazy in their relationships. Think about how sad it is that a guy has to go to a site to talk about anime with a girl he pays because his girlfriend doesn't care for it! Or to see a girl in a certain outfit or position. Is that really so objectionable? At a certain point we gotta stop pointing the finger at guys and say yo, women gotta level up! We should be ashamed as a society that this where men go to find idealized girlfriend behaviour. Why is that behaviour so rare? Isn't that sad? I think its sad. I wish more men knew what to do to lead and excite their partners so they wouldn't have to settle, and I wish women were kinder and more open and loving with their partners. I feel so bad for the average guy, that he has to resort to this because he just doesn't understand women. And I feel bad for the average girl too, because she'll be outcompeted by the Only Fans girl, and misunderstand it thinking its because she's not sexy enough, when really its because he needs connection, he wants her to engage with him and he's not getting that from her. Thank you Courtney, for this wonderful female perspective on Charisma on Command's video, I'm a big fan of their work and yours, and hope we all continue to build a community focused on growth and empowerment. You're the best, Peace and Love :)

[@Goblin_Hands]

I'm just curious, are you a man or woman, because your understanding is incredibly comprehensive from a guy's pov, plus you even brought up anime, despite it sounding too sympathetic and emotional for a man, not too say impossible for either end, it just has me curious. Maybe us guys all secretly want the same level of sympathy, not that I'm gonna expect it from another. I'm trying to find the timestamp that best depicts her early disapproving look, but I guess it's a bit of everywhere. So far I'm at 2:24

[@borislibaque1558]

@@Goblin_Hands I'm a heterosexual guy who works in the self development space, studies relationships and social dynamics, and has a cursory understanding of both neuroscience and jungian psychology. And yes, I'm aware of my tendency towards evocative language and imagery; I find its keeps things interesting! Thank you for complimenting my insights, it means a lot! Stay safe :)

[@dantemoriarty4059]

I wanted to say, I genuily cried, but just a little you know, the little tear drops that press on the edge of the eye but you breathe deeply and shove it back inside. I suppose it is the same for over mens as well but even alone in my room, reading the comment of a stranger I can't manage to allow myself a bit of vulnerability. That got longer than I thought. I wanted to say thanks.

[@Coachandrewjames]

100%, thank you for pointing this out and proving I'm not crazy 😂. If you have to pay her to talk to you, she isn't into you!

[@martynsutherland3170]

I didn't know so many men signed up to this .Its like an episode of Black Mirror. Maybe the real issue is low self esteem and loneliness?

[@williamprine9135]

Courtney, you did a video, that I watched this week on male loneliness. Now, like many men, I have been friend-zoned in my younger years and basically got used for favors, money, and attention with little to nothing in return. I think we have a whole slew of men worldwide whom have been treated this way and onlyfans kind of, subconsciously, gives a lot of guys a leg up from that. At least they’re getting something out of it finally and that is why it is so popular!

[@wilbob-vg8uv]

You, sir, are spot on!

[@williamprine9135]

@@wilbob-vg8uv I personally never been on only fans, because I feel it would fuck me up even worse. I hear so many horror stories about it. And I have enough issues as it is.

[@wilbob-vg8uv]

I'm sorry to hear that. I follow several free accounts and have free trails to others. Basically, it is a place where you pay a girl to pretend to like you. And she loses interest when she sees there is not money to be made. I generally just scroll it when I'm bored and feel like trolling the women in my DMs trying to take my money without giving them a dime. I have learned to also be careful on other free social media sights about being "friendzoned". It does mess with your head and heart. It has happened to me a few times now and I am still recovering from one. Being friendzoned does so much damage, especially if the friend lies and manipulates a lot. So please be careful and, best wishes to you!@@williamprine9135

[@leekellerking]

It is an addiction, just like "death scrolling" social media. The thrill of the hunt. Each time you "score" you get a shot of dopamine and norepinephrine. The addict finds this kind of "relationship" is less threatening than a relationship with a real woman and gives the addict the illusion of control.

[@sahilahmadi3664]

Waitress: "Have I kept you waiting long?" Customer: "No, but did you know there are 3,296 squares on the ceiling?"

[@tomaspeixinho4447]

Guys aren't missing out because they're resorting to this. They're resorting to this because they don't have any other options. That's the big difference. But I agree with you, this is just sad

[@jdanon203]

I would say it's more of the cost-benefit analysis that pushes men to use onlyfans. At some point it's just easier and cheaper to do onlyfans. I think Courtney misses that point and will never get it because she has probably never had to beg for attention from the opposite sex. Women just assume their experiences are the same as it is for men in this respect. There is a reason sites like onlyfans are thriving. Also keep in mind that onlyfans is a form of sex work and many of the women use the money to support their families or put themselves through school.

[@royalty5058]

Tips for my fellow men, a long time ago, I deleted all the only fans girls on my instagram and even though I wasn't subscribed to them, I don't wanna see it. Gives you a false sense of reality with woman and forgetting about love and friendship and only think about sex with woman. Give up the simp mind, and take care of your fellow women. 💯

[@John-iq4cj]

Well done, sir! it's so easy to fall into that trap. Glad that you got out

[@royalty5058]

@@John-iq4cj it is! I'm dating this beautiful woman from Puerto Rico and I tell you my approach was much different than the past because my change in how I see woman now, it makes you almost see woman as props with that BS

[@Brand117]

A gorgeous woman who is against only fans is rare af

[@swagcitydrips2hard930]

Love hearing this. My friend recently started an onlyfans and it’s really heartbreaking. Hes 23 and has totaly given up on life. All he does is flash his junk on camera for $10 a week just to smoke some weed. Having you speak on this topic really brought warmth to my heart and hope in my soul.

[@visaman]

At least he is getting paid for something he might do for free. 😉

[@bunnyboo6295]

People pay to see that who pays to see a male gross

[@visaman]

@@bunnyboo6295 Other men, sweetie!

[@Zoxion]

The problem is, that the people who uses OnlyFans is probably not your main audience Courtney :-( It's s vicious cycle and I've seen boys down to the age of 13-14 years old have subscriptions on there. When you get them that early, is6 nearly impossible to get them out of that addictive behaviour.

[@IxamusMC]

wow, so young?

[@AW-ix5qg]

Sounds like child negligence...how do they subscribe online without an adult's payment method?

[@northernexposure7669]

Brilliant perspective. Love how she expresses how she feels about really amazing to hear a woman's point of view love from UK

[@jeremyking9094]

That honestly sounds perfect. All of the benefits none of the hassles.

[@crash7098]

You know, I can understand why this exists. I’m not great with women. I haven’t had many successful relationships unfortunately, been ‘burned’ a few times, if you will. I can, though, see where people who have hard times trying to date women, or who are just too anxiety ridden and introverted to approach women use this stuff.

[@arcticwolf8313]

Yes but internet porn and imagination are free and don't pay for someone who wouldn't give you the time of day if they couldn't extract money from you.

[@nandishpatel6285]

You can literally see the anger on Courtney's face while looking at the video..But, only Fans and those other so called free cam sites are only for people that truly don't respect themselves and people who are very much lonely.. I genuinely feel bad for them..

[@zenar30]

You just said it ! The word "respect" is the key to everything. When men or women behave toxic, cheat, sell themselves, they're not respecting themselves. That's the point. I think, when your partner is faulting in your relationship, in the case you did the best you could, then the partner isn't respecting you but himself or herself. No one isn't perfect, of course, and women and men must educate themselves, they must better themselves, though at the end, it's about respect for one's self and for the other and the values you should carry.

[@wilbob-vg8uv]

I signed up for one account for one month back in 2021. It was a woman that said she was going to have it discounted that month and was really going to put the explicit stuff on there for that month and then close her account the following month(this was back when a rumor that OF was going to ban X-rated content was going around). Turned out her paid OF feed was no more graphic than her twitter feed and extra money had to be paid for the explicit stuff. I seldom even visited her page for most of the rest of the month I paid for and I never spent a dime on a sex site again. Both CC and you were correct about this, Courtney. It is sad how lonely men have become in this country and how these predatory women take advantage of it. I still follow several free accounts and have free trials to others so that I can scroll it when I bored. It is sickening how often I get a DM that says something like "I took this picture special for you" and it is a selfie locked behind a $6 paywall.

[@smileyface3107]

I can’t believe this channel exists, she’s really helping lots of guys out there

[@Mrbergmann]

Most girls are manipulative, there's this and then there are the girls on tinder that match with you and they won't talk to you unless they're drunk or bored, and some are on tinder just to show their friends the number off matches they have

[@IxamusMC]

And farming simps for instagram

[@knload]

;(

[@zanzy001]

A bit extreme to say 'most'. There's certainly a bunch. But it's not like guys are perfect angels

[@ryanbarker3978]

This is reaching. The hard truth most guys who complain don't want to accept is that they haven't done anything to actually make an impact on the lives of the girls they are pining for. I have extreme empathy for people who get lonely or feel like they do not fit in with their age group. I have had one two week relationship in my entire life and I have spent the majority of the past 10 years either working or by myself. I worked through the second half of high school and all of college because I struggled to relate to my peers. I tell you this not to compare or seek pity but to say that even though I'm capable of understanding this, I'm also capable of taking personal accountability for the lack of my own social life.

[@rossg4641]

if you dont think guys do this you are delusional and if they dont talk to you maybe your just a boring person, sorry but you need to hear it

[@MrKreationsHD]

I got you Courtney! You were thinking of the movie Her with Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson. It's crazy to think that the movie came out back in 2013. Ahead of it's time really...

[@badrequest5596]

i loved that movie and the implications behind it. made me wonder if that is the direction we're going where it's easier to form connections to game AI characters and AI operating systems. imagine if, right now, during this pandemic, we had access to human-level intelligence AI, specifically tailored to the user.

[@Pauloajm15]

The source video is spot on. Your reaction to it is confirmation. Thank you. I had the same question...why pay for only fans? I get it now. I would encourage men to take responsibility for their lives, their future, their actions, in a manner that makes you "high value". Have self-respect first and give your love and your value, to worthy women. Courtney, you're a gem. There are more Gems like you (I found mine, many years ago)!. Guys, it starts with self-respect and taking ownership of our lives.

[@vflow2345]

I come across guys who dream about being with the perfect woman, but those guys do nothing to seduce, they don't take care of themselves, don't dress up, don't clean up, don't work on their conversation, their health, their career etc. It's not just be yourself, it's be your better self, because a little effort makes a big difference.

[@MrCrazyfan123]

We need more Courtney’s and Teddy’s in this world

[@DavidSaintloth]

I was reminded of "her" as well. That's the movie where Joaquin Phoenix falls in love with an artificially intelligent agent played by Scarlett Johansson.

[@MKF30]

Never heard of it sounds interesting also kind of sounds like or reminds me of the movie called blade runner 2049 where he falls in love with joi this A.I. I mean to be fair he didn't exactly have lots of other options and the world is such a depressing, dark futuristic, hopeless looking world lol.

[@MKF30]

@@Whatisthisstupidfinghandle Which one? The Her or Blade Runner A.I. example? Or both? Lol. Theres a great comic series came out a few years back called Alex & Ada it also dives deep with the concept where A.I. human like bots help you live around the house etc but some of them if they're illegally unlocked become sentient and very illegal. This guy gets a female one does that she she becomes sentient, has feelings etc and eventually have to be on the runnits very good. There was also a very underrated show a few years back too called Almost Human.

[@Sagefrakrobatik]

Nice. I just mentioned the movie as well. I was trying to check the comment section to see if anyone else mentioned the film. It's very different.

[@MKF30]

@@Whatisthisstupidfinghandle Yeah, the stuff in Blade Runner was like Star Trek hundreds of years into the future kind of stuff. No doubt the companion robots and/or sex robots, love bots whatever are closer to reality. We already have them now but it's beginning stages of the whole learning A.I. curve. I actually think I remember seeing an episode of Almost Human with sex robots involved lol. There was another show too few years back that had AI bots kind of felt copied from Alex & Ada too but I can't remember the name. It was after Almost Human but within the past 5 years I think. I'll have to get back to you on that lol because it's going to drive me crazy til I find the show now. But yeah probably more advanced than Alexa, Siri etc since they're pretty basic programming. I definitely foresee that happening within the next 10-20 years for sure before the holographic advanced A.I. stuff.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Lol 😂 i love ❤️ that movie, it’s like falling in love with Siri. You should also, watch Made for Love on Prime video. It shows a husband using technology chip , that he put inside his wife to make her fall in love with him. Until she finds out and wants a divorce, tries to escape him.

[@amelendez6270]

Very interesting video! I admire your courage to talk about it! I’m 50 yo, so I’m not into “Only Fans” trend, but I can see the illusion that this platform creates on guys... it is an “easy way” to an unreal “relationship” and to create a connection. It is very sad, because I saw other videos in your channel with real down to earth women, just like you, and this type of apps create alternate realities than only increase the insecurities in men. You’re and outstanding woman, and your suggestions and approach is very healthy for everyone! Keep going!

[@pux0rb]

I'll be honest, I never really had an opinion either way on onlyfans, and other subscription-based explicit content sites. I never really had a perspective of what was going on, other than some women were hustling to make a few bucks, and some men were acquiring content while fully aware of what they were paying for. I'm all for doing whatever you want with your body, and with your wallet. But I'm glad KZbin randomly decided to put your video in my recommended section today, because it really opened my eyes to the amount of manipulation that's going on, and perhaps more importantly, the lasting psychological issues that many men are going to have to deal with as a result of this manipulation and abuse. I've always been against casinos for many of the same reasons that are given in this video in regards to onlyfans business model. I honestly think there should be some shame on the creators involved with perpetuating this type of behavior.

[@aa0750]

Weren’t you at 85k like last week?! It’s nice seeing this channel grow📈🙌🏽

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much! 🥰

[@GoodGuyPlayer2]

I love how at 7:25 - 7:40 you can pinpoint the moment Courtney's inner voice is screaming "You manipulative SNAKES!!!" in a single video she's probably shown to care about these poor guys more than 99% of all the accounts on onlyfans.

[@johnames6430]

we have huge problems in our society with no one to address them, the women also don't realize it could affect their dad's, brother's etc. But that's fine because they are all taught to hate men anyway

[@TechOutAdam]

"You'll lose money chasing women, never lose women chasing money."

[@robblaettler4589]

I love your videos and perspective. You are genuine, thoughtful, well spoken and sensible. Keep up the good content :)

[@leninfranco9328]

this is why I love Courtney,..she will never fool us for money. so glad I subscribe to her channel.

[@leninfranco9328]

@Stone Cold Steve Autism you might be right, but I'm not one of those simps that give their money to some chick they'll never see in person or have sex with. The only female that will get my money from me is my daughter.

[@Immortalassassin1]

Agreed. When I first heard about onlyfans I was confused by the concept lol....until I realized what they were doing. On another note, I"m starting an onlyfans page for my cat! lmao

[@endorphinrider1633]

Courtney ~ You have an excellent delivery and style, you're very calming and relaxing. It's no surprise you have so many subscribers.

[@westfieldartworks8188]

The first time I heard of Only Fans was in March, about 5 weeks ago. I haven't done it yet, and I don't know if I will. I don't really know what it is, but I'm starting to kind of getting a sense of it now. This video helped clarify it. The problem with all these things is that when you get into a real relationship, you'll find yourself getting impatient with the woman you're seeing. You might find yourself unwilling to put the hard work in, because these fantasy sites make it seem like it ought to be easy. Something like that. I wish they didn't invent things like this. These things don't help.

[@bryanassissilva3674]

Big Sister is back. Thanks for another video.Greetings From Brazil.

[@ReneEstrada1991]

🇧🇷

[@christopherdale1745]

I got hooked by OF for a while. I know/knew she didn't really care about me, but I was just looking for someone to at least pretend to like me in the absence of genuine interest.

[@mathematicalmonk1427]

I am no one to tell you what you should do but Do you realize how fucked up your mindset has become and it will get worse if you continue it a better way to solve your problem is try meeting real people and form real relationships rather than living in a made up world which tries to immitate the real world with different rules

[@christopherdale1745]

@@mathematicalmonk1427 my fucked up mindset is not news to me. I repel real people. This is why I got sucked into the strip club/OF scene.

[@christopherdale1745]

@@aweigh1010 thanks for the advice. I'm working on it. I know that what I put into my body is the key, as that is the fuel I'll be using throughout the day. Now, if I could just break the chains of junk food....

[@lucianocastello9260]

@@christopherdale1745 persist on your goal, also reading good books is a good strategy to become more "attractive" to people. I found very interesting "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and "Awaken The Giant Within", give them a try!

[@bunnyboo6295]

@@mathematicalmonk1427 Hey For some thats all they got its not easy

[@colinforsyth7828]

Yeah it's true Courtney is the real deal. Tells it the way it is, really nice to see and very appreciated. Thanks. The force is strong with this one. Nice, thank you Courtney Ryan, great channel and quality content. ☺😎❤👍

[@swamymonish]

Well, I am a believer in curing the demand for it instead of the supply which is what channels like yours, the roommates, and charisma on command are doing. These technologies like onlyfans would not work if there wasn't a demand for the 'easy way'. Great video!

[@rburbr0171]

Any advice on how to make a real connection with people? The cliché "just be yourself" and "find things you enjoy" and "love yourself first" aren't working for me.

[@nguyenductien9098]

Define “yourself” first. Answering the questions: who you are, what are your strengths & weaknesses, what kind of girl do you want to attract, what kind of girl are you capable of attracting? Then work on yourself to become the person you want it to be

[@grapeabyss1744]

That “oh jeez” for the cams thing had me rolling.

[@AhmedMohamed-oh8ml]

This video is another reason why i love this channel and this woman ... thank you Courtney for respecting us and most important respect yourself much love and respect

[@CourtneyRyan]

🥰🥰 this made me smile, thank you!

[@beata.w895]

This is so sad..... how internet has changed relations between people. I really start to worry how my 12yr old daughter will function in this society in the future? There is no romantic love anymore, people are so nasty to each other it’s all about money and using other people to get popularity. Basic human needs are not met anymore (to be loved, respected, feel needed, supported and happy in relationship ) you can see why there is so many mental health issues around. What values should I pass to my daughter? The ones i now - don’t exist anymore.

[@eoinbrennan3949]

The Movie was called "Her". I remember going to see it at the time and thinking, as crazy as this story seems its probably gonna happen at some stage in the not so distant future.

[@johnames6430]

What you forget is the lonely women. They aren't talked about. They are also invisible to men but have nowhere to go. Maybe they don't' exist in such large numbers as the men but they are out there.

[@godpilled9077]

@@johnames6430 No one cares about lonely women at all. Women that are unattractive are completely invisible to society.

[@johnames6430]

@@godpilled9077 yeah there are plenty of lonely "femcels" out there (female incels) but the media and everyone else pretend like they don't exist.

[@artbygilik]

Finally a woman that shares a similar outlook to me. I know your content is geared towards men but I appreciate your advice and the way you deliver it in a classy way. I think it's sad that people feel the need to pay someone to feel "connected" instead of working on improving themselves and forming real meaningful connections

[@octavianr526]

Awesome video, thank you for bringing it to our attention. I have never visited O.F. too and never understood why pay for free things. But now I see some reasons. There is almost the same explanation (the need for connectivity and attention) in a phrase from a very good movie, "Valmont" (d. Milos Forman, after the French novel "Les Liaisons dangereuses" by Choderlos de Laclos). At the movie's end, the woman who has tried hard to resist Valmont is told by him that he does not love her. But deeply in love to the attention she believed he gave her, asks him humbly: "Then lie to me".

[@Derpaherpa123]

Ngl you are changing my view on women. It’s good to hear smart women talking about these issues. It is refreshing. Thank you and subbed.

[@Gutch220]

Paying for fake/virtual personal relationships is just a sign of the times we're in and what the dystopian future holds. It's only a matter of time until they connect OnlyFans with an Alexa device, and a _pleasure_ robot to live in your house and be an android girlfriend connected to the internet.

[@willphillips1225]

Agreed!! I never knew the depth of how bad only fans was until this! What Courtney said is so true!! We are all worth so much more than having to pay to talk to a girl.

[@Teddy_Gautier]

The sad thing is, the only reason onlyfans is a thing is because there is a target audience that is ready, willing and able to fund it. Unless the majority of men experience a massive shift in mindset, this will persist

[@smferreiro2610]

OnlyFans bussiness model is the oldest bussines model. They follow prostitute's way of doing things. For ages they have listen to men as if they care, and they always have an excellent reply! That's how they are still current.

[@garypierce7380]

I was just talking to Siri the other day and she says these phony Only Fans relationships are crap.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’m excited to see this after work, many of my friends have mixed feelings toward OF!

[@CourtneyRyan]

As do I! I see why people do it.. easy money. I would never do it. Definitely not good for long term mental health though.

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@CourtneyRyan Definitely understandable for people to pursue making money however they can! Nothing against it, and you’re right, dealing with internet strangers can be very hard!

[@arande3]

Paying for connection without frustration is a great point. I can relate to that. It is a fantasy though. Although some people like to dream instead of facing their fears/disappointments. Not healthy. Maybe what society needs of some sort of global therapy plan heh heh. Really enjoy your voice by the way, nice combination of a good microphone and good speaking skills. Little things like that make the difference.

[@moonpatrol9717]

Ah, the joys of using 56k modems to download smut, one pixel at a time.

[@Novaximus]

I also feel like every girl who makes an only fans has a good percentage of subscribers who are actually real life friends, family and peers who are subbed secretly because they bothered enough or curious enough that they just have to see for themselves and keep tabs at just how far they're willing to go with their content. Like....If she's your daughter... you have to know right? Like..."Uhg....there's no way myyyy daughter would go that far!" You have to see for yourself so you can secretly shame them or displine them or just not feel like an idiot whose the last person in the world to know that your own daughter is a sex worker. And then if you're like a friend you just have to be in the know as well right. And you sub to see what's she posting so you can tell all your other friends. It's like a train wreck. You have to look. Especially if you know the person. So when some chick is like...Wow hey...! I'm so popular I did an only fans page and l instantly have 50 people paying me 10 bucks for a sub....Guess what lol... Chances are most of those 50 people are irl acquaintances. Like how mortified would you be to spreading eagle in photo shoots and responding to dirty sexual comments to know that your brother or Aunt or pastor is watching every thing you post! These are the kind of lines you have to be willing to cross to be an only fans thot. It's so insanely shameless. It's totally low level IQ to think some day your own kids will see and find about this content "mom" had made when she was their age.... and so immoralistic that most of these women justify it in their own minds that "it's just business." or "I'm a woman celebrating my body and shouldn't feel any shame" or some other fucked up delusional mindset to help them sleep with themselves at night. What's more...is yeah these women are pretty and all but think about it...Would you be ok with your girlfriend doing this? It's a total trust issue and respect issue. And she'd probably make you only feel bitter that she's pulling in a million a year sitting on the couch so you feel sucessfully belittled as a man that you would probably never want an onlyfans girl as an actual g/f. So then why would you invest so much time and money and envy towards them as a "fan"

[@Goblin_Hands]

Crazy analysis, although ratios could be anything, but yeah up to 50% or so could be people you know, and it's true, it's kinda like women exploiting the guys, you never want to be with someone that would exploit you. How would you be able to trust a double or triple agent? Eventually, they'd probably have a mental meltdown after they lost so much of their innocence and self too. It doesn't seem healthy. And so, if around 50% of young/desirable women have it, that's even less incentive for guys to try irl dating, especially with Twitter being a way for women to flirt secretly and inflate their ego by rejecting everything imperfect, it's all just more fuel to the dumpster fire. The average girl's ego must be the size of a blimp or stadium, not helped by the fact that women in general have similar brain patterns. Guys are both dumber and smarter, women are more balanced, which is a nice way of saying average, hive-mind-like, and samey, which contributes to them seeking the same type of guy along with other things. Things will inevitably get worse.

[@coryames1170]

Courtney's facial expressions during these reactions are the best 😂

[@wizeguy2388]

I am happy to see a woman react this way about OF. To give you a male perspective to why guys are on it, I can tell you the whole connection thing is real. While this does not apply to me because I actively do things to meet girls in the real world, I can tell you that I have had my more than fair share of bad luck on dating apps and can only assume this goes for most guys who end up paying girls on OF for connection. I can swipe right all day long and get zero matches. I have never had a date come from a dating app before and girls just completely not responding to messages is completely normal on these apps. It’s like I need to be a master wordsmith at everything or she will just go onto the next because she has 100 other matches. On top of that, the rise of messaging toward guys that they are toxic, just talking to girls is considered harrassment, etc., has led guys to want to find girls who actually will talk to them and be nice to them. After experiencing this often enough, OF with even a fabricated interaction with a girl, seems nice enough to these guys. That’s just my observation on this and take as to why many guys sign up for this

[@MrTPF1]

I know I'm late to the comments, but this was a real eye-opener. I'm an old guy and have never been on OF, but heard of the site. The guy making the video was fantastic, and your comments, Courtney, were right on. This is all just another ploy to degrade women and mislead men. God help us all.

[@MrAmboy36069]

i am so glad you're pointing this out. i really can't believe how guys fall for this stupid shit so easily. personally, i would rather go to Vegas and pay for sex to skip the bs instead of paying for a tease. i still wouldn't do this, but there you go. my opinion.

[@SkytaStyle]

The movie of the guy falling in love with the voice in his phone is "Her" with Joaquin Phoenix

Only fans is false advertising. Imagine buying a car, but then needing to pay to unlock it and pay again to use a windscreen wiper when it rains

[@payyourrentbabes]

Only fans is basically a shortcut for relationships

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

.Don’t find time to exercise. Make the time to exercise

[@HAYAOLEONE]

cringe

[@brandontran4180]

That thumbnail is amazing and I have to give props to Bel Delphine for being a marketing genius 😂

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂 truly

[@bernardwilliams4071]

I really appreciate your videos C you keep it so real and on point you spit those facts and keep it real 100 it would be nice if we had more women like you

[@paddyofurniture9523]

The amount of times Courtney looks from the video back at us like a disappointed parent is what gets me every time XD

[@shaynesparkes8740]

I’m only 38 I’ve never even heard of this term!!! Lol I’m glad I ain’t that clued up mugs paying for something that’s been free for a long time 😂

[@tiagopereira5260]

I never knew what only fans was, but then i saw this reaction video of yours..... and i got to say, i'm deeply disgusted about what internet "idols" are turning into hese days! -.- ' Love these reaction videos... just keep showing your awesome reaction faces :p

[@roxygidz3428]

This guys is what we call a needle in hay good content and good points I'm def subbing

[@jimboa20]

Your point at 10:05 is compounded even more by the fact that in the dating market, women are getting more and more picky in guys they will even respond to, let alone give a shot via an actual date. The effort guys are expected to put in gets more and more herculean, to the point where most guys are simply getting burnout and stop trying. To put in only a little effort and get an immediate response is so refreshing it's practically intoxicating.

[@obredaanps3]

I know I'm getting old as I only heard about OnlyFans a few months ago. Its really a sad state to see so many men falling for this scam but I can't help but feel sorry for them also. I'd venture to guess most of them are just lonely guys who have struggled talking to women and a lack of love and affection has led them down this road.

[@ELTIGREKF]

Courtney you should look into channels like Fresh & Fit or other MGTOW and react to them.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I definitely will! Thanks for the recommendation ☺️

[@ObiWanBillKenobi]

The simple truth is that people literally cannot date during a pandemic (currently it is month 14 of the pandemic and still counting). Sexuality and sexual encounters counts as part of dating, even if it’s just hugging or holding hands. Sexuality is a part of being human that is neither possible to deny nor healthy to deny. Any real-life dating that you do do during a pandemic runs the risk of being unable to resist being within 6 feet of them, even just to hug and hold hands, and thus risk becoming infected or a carrier.

[@Allergic2Stagnation]

Thanks for telling it like it is with no filter. Great videos