Reacting To TOXIC Advice From Tik Tok Girls | Courtney Ryan

In this video, I react to some Tik Tok girls giving toxic dating advice. I don't think these girls should be judged based off of one clip, but if you follow any of this advice...GOOD LUCK! Thank you all for watching and let me know in the comments what you'd like me to react to next.
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[@LFGSD_Danielle]

I pursued my boyfriend first. He was SOOO SHY that he never would have made the first move! He loved that I texted first, asked him to do things with me before he officially asked me out, and generally showed that I was engaged and interested. I didn’t go as far as to ask him out, but I gave him the confidence to finally ask me. Now we’ve been MARRIED for five years!!! I love that man so much!!!

[@kumarules118]

Awww my boyfriend is also very shy. I was always the one initiating things until I confessed to him and this dense guy was so confused cause he thought I would never fall to him lol. After that he always text first and we've been together for 7 months 🥰

[@LFGSD_Danielle]

@@kumarules118 Haha, that’s great! Dense is a good descriptor. My husband will still miss things. I don’t even do hints, I’m very obvious!

[@vidard9863]

Honestly girls can get really crazy, and even call the cops if you make the first move. There are a lot of guys who have had an experience with that one crazy chick, and as a result ladies are going to have to turn on the welcome lights and hire a marching band because woman clues are not actually noticeable clues.

[@Crazyhead432]

Take notes ladies cus she has actual game

[@Crazyhead432]

Take notes ladies cus she has actual game

[@zachd1448]

I have 3 words for you "cheat just in case"...hunny we're getting you a math tutor right after a therapist

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂😂

[@728huey]

Follow that advice, and you're on s one way ticket to being a guest on Maury Povich. 😂

[@treasurewuji8740]

let toxic people be toxic together. That is how you make the world a better place.

[@slaughterhigh23]

Maybe that loser thought, “Cheat, Justin case”

[@gleepythehen]

@@slaughterhigh23 I would advise Justin Case not to cheat

[@findingnemo928]

There is a difference between showing interest and being “thirsty” or desperate. My fiancé and I pursued each other equally and both showed interest. It was so refreshing to not have to question how he felt or what his intentions were and not play games. I was 100% direct with him as well and even kissed him first. We have been together for 2 years now, are engaged, living together and have a very happy and loving relationship. Don’t be afraid to show interest ladies- as long as they are reciprocating and matching your energy

[@CourtneyRyan]

Love this!!

[@moonlitlovers]

Oh my gosh, same here! The current relationship I'm in has been SO liberating and uplifting because I don't have to be second guessing ANYTHING. We are like an open book to each other and we communicate so well. There was no need for any stupid games, no bullshit. We have been together for a little over a year now and moved in together a few months ago. I feel like I've known him for my whole life tho. I'm so happy for you, internet stranger, and hope the best for you and your fiancé!

[@findingnemo928]

@@moonlitlovers thank you!! I wish you the best as well!❤️

[@hagberry6477]

OMG same with me and my bf! He was so honest and straightforward about his feelings, and that's when I knew I'd be with the right person. We've been dating for 8 months, sadly long distance, but we talk regularly and it's been going great!

[@montymatth2409]

@Hailey you speak the truth about showing interest back. I have stopped talking to a woman before because she didn’t show any interest back. Women might think they are being ghosted but in reality, if you don’t show interest back, I’m gonna think you’re not interested and move on to someone that is interested.

[@cohnjesse]

I didn't text my wife back for a full week after the first time we hung out. I did this because all of the advice I got from my guy friends was not to text her to not appear desperate. I have been married to my wife for 15 years now and when we talk about how I didn't text her back she was so upset that I wasn't texting her. Her friends all told her not to text me because she would appear desperate. This lead to us both wanting to text eachother and just sitting there thinking about eachother. Thankfully she forgave me for waiting so long especially since I wanted to text her the next day but didn't listen to my gut. Don't listen to this terrible advice, if you like someone, let them know.

[@Itamii1337]

thanks for sharing your story

[@jameslester6785]

These Tik Tok girls are giving good lessons on how to never attract a quality man. You get what you give.

[@Supertzar999]

When they turn 40 and are alone, it's game over for them.

[@sarahpak5167]

Amen

[@legoguru3000]

♫ You've got the music in you Don't let go You've got the music in you One dance left This world is gonna pull through Don't give up You've got a reason to live Can't forget We only get what we give ♫

[@Uvray]

Yeah, that's dead right, man. And look at them, young and attractive for sure - but so fake. They're like plastic dolls. And you just know that dating them would be an absolute nightmare. Nightmare women giving out their nightmare advice.

[@MrFurley69]

They keep trying to upgrade to men with more money, better looks, etc. In the end, they've hit the wall, probably have kids, and alone. Oh well.

[@robertnguyen9493]

“Don’t text him first, it looks desperate and you know it.” If he likes you, he most definitely doesn’t think you’re desperate! He will be genuinely excited that you texted him. And if he does think you’re desperate, then he is not the guy for you!

[@cookiesandpie4837]

Right

[@caliginousmoira8565]

TEACH!!!

[@triplemoyagames4195]

That means they want guys to look desperate smh

[@robertnguyen9493]

@@triplemoyagames4195 because a desperate person will be far more tolerant of bullshit.

[@joshclark7229]

They wont listen tho

[@Theberrychica]

These “girls” are broken inside and full of fear and insecurity. Text whoever you want whenever you want as much as you want. They will like it or they will not. Everyone just RELAX!

[@jaidee9570]

Unfortunately that isn't the message they get from feminism, once brainwashed, it's very hard to see it as false. Not quite the same thing, but not many people turn their backs on religion, they're indoctrinated, the message gets reenforced over and over again and they don't want to see the reality. Same thing happens with the feminist message.

[@FuckPalestineFuckHamas]

Amen ^

[@pandemicneetbux2110]

It's not just that though is the problem. Like it's the same with Cluster B personality disorders on the male side, MRA/mgtow trash is the same damn thing, it's being espoused by people that literally have Antisocial Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder for playing games and manupulating people because they're incapable of experiencing real empathy with other human beings, and as a result they're literally doing this just for some type of power and leverage over others and the "thrill" of conquest etc. The problem being, that many young people live online and don't actually know any better between someone who knows what she's talking about like Courtney Ryan, vs. the toxic sludge infesting YT and wherever else. I'm serious, it's like watching some poor 15 yo boy trying to ask "how do I get a girl to like me" and he goes with the lesson "be a complete asshole to her and be nice to her friends." Same dumb crap here, no guy over the age of like 18 is going to fall for this stuff. Most young men are only going to tolerate it up to a certain limit and even then it's not it "working" it's the fact guys can be really patient and persistent. So you being toxic is on the same scale as you having a smack addiction, and he's pursuing you anyway, not because he likes having a smacked out druggie gf, but because he's willing to deal with it all the same. I don't think these girls even understand the degree to which it's not working at all, and most guys are simply putting up with them to a certain limit. A lot of these are actual sociopaths and narcissists is the problem, and they're in turn advising neurotypical women on how to behave with neurotypical men. It just doesn't translate. It doesn't translate because you and your goals are separate from the goals of a sociopath. Sociopaths aren't interested in growing old together with anbyody. They're purely doing this shit for the thrill of having power over others, and to massage their egos. It's going to break down, and it's why these promiscious sociopaths and narcissists churn through so many people, because it's more like a drug addiction to them of trying to have sex with or "conquer" as many people as possible. With that understanding, you will realize as a normal allegedly healthy person mentally and emotionally, these tactics will accomplish literally the exact opposite of what you want and all but guarantee a series of rocky, turbulent shorter term relationships that all invariably fail.

[@ellalouise3745]

I will never understand "game-playing" and "the excitement of the chase"- that is so so so tiring. I went back and forth with someone for SEVEN YEARS because they used some of these "tactics" on me and at the end of every phase of us being close to getting into a relationship to then crashing and burning.... I was exhausted. I was young and couldn't see that it was game-playing and that it was super unhealthy, and I'm now in a relationship where both parties made it clear from the start that we wanted to keep pursuing things and that we liked each other a lot. Relationships aren't a game and you shouldn't have to use loads of mind tricks to try and make someone interested in you

[@Melodysupporter]

These kind of games are really toxic. I lived it on my skin and it was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever lived. It was like hell. I would never do such a thing because it only shows no respect. Also I heard somewhere that if you have to play with someone with mind games because you think you’re in control you’re actually the one who is controlled because you’re just too focused on the person you manipulate

[@GSP-76]

You put up with that for 7 years?? Wow..

[@pandemicneetbux2110]

Jesus Christ, 7 years is a super long time.

[@Pyramidz_]

That girl teaching you how to send mixed signals is literally giving you a step-by-step guide on how to be THE narcissist in a relationship. She is dangerous and gassing up a ton of young non-critical thinkers.

[@independentthought3390]

Unfortunately, many women are sending mixed signals all the time, without her telling them. I don't remember ever being with a girl who wasn't giving me mixed signals to some degree, or who wasn't frequently flaking, or eventually ghosting. Maybe toxic women attract me.

[@mcale8384]

@@independentthought3390 if she's giving mixed signals, best thing to do is just not chase after her anymore at that point.

[@godnyx117]

Her (and her students) in her 30s: wHerE aRe All ThE gOoD gUYs?

[@jamescalder5115]

@@independentthought3390 Trust me bro its not just you.

[@hiitsme__-_-3760]

@@godnyx117 that's already some 30 year old women rn that followed along to Cosmopolitans cesspool articles like how cheating is good for a women lol. What helps is throwing feminism out the door, the modernity of feminism just turned women into shit people

[@zmilk]

These “women” giving “lessons” are the loneliest

[@jkshallinheritearth3883]

Whose inbox filled with chads!

[@remissxi6098]

facts tho

[@johnsmith-kt7ef]

You can see it in their eyes. The eyes don’t lie, and these girls are miserable.

[@brett84c]

They're on top of the world right now. Give them about 5 to 10 years and their tune will change.

[@fermentedfruit]

@@jkshallinheritearth3883 lmao

[@markonlife]

I've been a dating coach for 13 years, and totally 100% agree with your analysis of every one of these videos. Subbed. How someone can start a video, "This is toxic and manipulative..." and then continue speaking is......terrifying.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you, Mark! Happy to have you here. I completely agree 🤯

[@devilsadvocacy]

Welcome to the brave new attention-whoring world

[@thepubknight6144]

@@CourtneyRyan as a low key indifferent introvert, these women on TikTok playing games and encouraging women to play games, never works on me because, I don't live my life playing games and I don't entertain any women who do that or "shit testing" it's really easy to figure out Any women who's bragging about lots of men wanting her or her "asshole" ex I know she's trying to bait me , I dont need that drama in my life.. I think the girl who did a video got a huge backlash on her first video but instead of acknowledging it she back pedals and reverts the attention Great video

[@kakarotwolf]

I love how calmly she just says "that's just the dumbest thing I've ever heard" lmao I love Courtney, you can just see immediately how mature, intelligent and confident she is as soon as the first girl pops up you make a mental comparison and Courtney just exudes this real womanhood, and when you look at the tik tok girl she just seems so immature and full of herself. As a man you automatically think to yourself "I would much more prefer a woman who carries herself and presents herself the way Courtney does." She sits up straight and talks so calm and respectful, this is why so many men take her seriously and respect her, and take her advice seriously, because she does give true wisdom of a real woman. This is why I also think the majority of her fanbase is male.

[@TK-cg4ks]

I’m 15, and I’ve never dated anyone (I also know that I’m pretty young and impressionable) and I never realized this “advice” was narcissistic/manipulative, so thank you for this video. 🥰

[@whyaskmenoely25]

I dunno how good this piece of advice is going to be. You shouldn't have to force things. That goes both ways.

[@katemiller7874]

When it’s time you’ll know. Glad you realized this

[@moanapooh9726]

I'm 15 too sis n never dated anyone too, n I'm so glad we both know which advice is dumb or not. 🤗 I've seen these a lot n I Kno its stupid. Make sure we can be critical thinkers Abt this cuz this is delusional😭😭

[@Rosa-ey8kl]

I started dating when I was 23 and this was my first and last boyfriend, we fell in love and stayed together 7 years and we're getting married in August, you're still young don't rush things up try to know what you want from a man first and you fill find the right one in the right time ❤️

[@akaalisbenjamin2093]

@@Rosa-ey8kl Where can us men find more of you. Please point us in the direction of the farm field which you were plucked out of. Thanks.

[@jpoeng]

“These girls wear their crazy like a badge of honor.” 😂 Modern dating in a nutshell.

[@CZAR-]

JP, you are absolutely right! I am a baby boomer and in my generation and generations before mines, we would have to take the time to get to know a woman. Now these young women wear red flags all over there body. Tattoos, piercings, blue, green and purple hair. Consider your generation lucky that you can see a woman that has issues and you don't have to waist your time trying to get to know her. Take care and be well brotha!

[@jpoeng]

@@CZAR- Unfortunately I’m a Gen X’er who was raised to rationalize away the Feminist upbringing, so I’ve been through the meat grinder and spent 6 years working on myself after the divorce. Wasn’t until I started kinda looking at the modern dating scene & trying to make sense of it that I found RP content & started putting the pieces together. But the younger guys who are wise enough to learn from our experiences will be much safer. I feel like guys my generation were like lambs to a slaughter. We were raised to be these white knights believing in “true love” bu11shit, when the women who get their claws into us were raised to be a new breed of villainous predators.

[@CZAR-]

JP, I have been in love twice however, I kept my own place because I need a place to go to be alone. And I would never allow a woman to have access to my finances and resources. You're headed in the right direction brotha, work on yourself, your purpose and your hobbies. Date women, have fun with them but never get married again or move in with a woman. I am 58YO and I have never been married and have never lived with a woman and I have no crumb snatchers. I have lived a peaceful, happy and fulfilling life. Most of that time was without a serious relationship.

[@jpoeng]

@@CZAR- Man, hat’s off to you, you’ve played it right. The only things I have to show for everything I’ve been through are my boys & my faith. And I guess in the end, that’s gotta be enough.

[@MADNESSMADEMVL]

Hello, I’m a Gen Z. I hate Gen Z’s but I’m a Gen Z so I kinda got the shortest end of all sticks. Women who literally make TikToks to fantasize about people and stuff like that... We don’t like that. So I’m pretty quiet when it comes to girls and I just keep a few for entertainment reasons...

[@7ninjachick]

My boyfriend and I both started out super toxic towards each other but after six months of pride and prejudice bs we had to face our behaviors and choose change or total separation. Four years later and here we are in a healthy relationship 🥰

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s not always sunshine and rainbows! 😂 glad to hear things are healthy for both of you now. wishing you all the best ❤️

[@islanddoggear]

Jesus Christ, these women are awful. I approached my girlfriend 3 years ago and told her straight to her face that I had feelings for her and wanted to pursue something deeper. No beating around the bush, and she gave me a chance. We didn’t play games, we didn’t over think it, we just treated each other with respect and took a chance on each other. Good people don’t do weird shit like these women. Yuck.

[@kalvindavis9319]

These Tik Toks were step-by-step instructions on how to die alone and miserable.

[@thomasmichaels6850]

anyone else hear cats meowing in the background?

[@stephenkarmichael]

nah they don’t die alone

[@reboot4357]

Most of these females will anyway because most lack accountability

[@tropicvibe]

Most men are tired of games and nonsense and will look for relationships elsewhere. These women are incapable of loving a man for his mental, emotional, and spiritual qualities and will end up turning away potential loyal, lifelong partners but that's what u get...

[@sunsetballers2425]

You don’t fool me Kevin Samuels going under the name of Kalvin

[@FreakinfreakInfreaki]

Women: don't text him first it makes you look desperate and like and option and lose interest Men: don't text her first because it makes you look needy and she realizes she doesn't need to chase you and will lose interest Me: *visible confusion*

[@monocharismatic]

That's the battle of two players, IMHO. The "relationship" between the two sexes has turned into "The Game" (coincidently the title of a book by Neil Strauss) of "cat and mouse" where neither is looking for long term. You being confused tells me that you are not a player because as this channel's owner confirms it is fine for either side to text first. And if I am right and you are not a player, then take this info as a strong caution/warning regarding the modern landscape of dating, because at least if both are players, then they know the game, but if one is not a player, then s/he will become a casualty.

[@rodiusmaximus]

@@monocharismatic You got that right. I hear about all these rules for dating, admittedly from tv and movies (and maybe a little YT), and it's mostly bs. Then there's the gurus who say you need to act like a jerk, they tell men to do things like criticise the girl so her self-esteem drops and she'll settle for you. Or be abusive because women really do want 50 shades.

[@ariannasviolin1751]

Hearing this bullcrap advice from both sexes just makes me want to facepalm. Bruh, just text who you’re interested in, no matter who you are. If they’re interested in you, I guarantee you that it’ll go well if you text first

[@snowy_sparkly9397]

Its so confusing 😢

[@juliamae8994]

LITERALLY

[@nadiabenaissa1835]

I guess never using TikTok is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life so far

[@FuckPalestineFuckHamas]

As an extremely shy, introverted male, I am thrilled when a woman texts me first. The few relationships I have had in life were actually all initiated by women.

[@Lowest_G]

bruv same, im only tough online but when it comes in person i’m a pussy and i get really anxious when a girl walks up to me because i’m not looking for a girl yet i’m currently working on myself and getting my money up to become an alpha male

[@sarahpak5167]

"Cheat just in case" 😂😂😂😂 Worst advice ever. The most toxic thing I did was hack Facebook to get proof of cheating. But that was immature of me. If you do not trust someone to the point of hacking accounts, that is not a relationship you should be in. Regardless if you are right about the cheating, it is still wrong to invade privacy.

[@charliedallachie3539]

It’s not toxic if it saves you from wasting your time. It’s toxic if you have to keep doing it. I did it once to validate what my intuition was telling me (something wasn’t right) and sure enough I found the cheating and took photos of the messages and images. Sent it to both sides of the family before she could deny/lie about it and that was the end of a long term relationship. Sometimes getting that evidence helps.

[@royalecrafts6252]

@@charliedallachie3539 there is no blind trust for me

[@aliciabyul9550]

cheating just incase....Stds taking notes💅😂😂😂😂 just joking

[@bratindas5814]

@@royalecrafts6252 are you in a relationship?

[@royalecrafts6252]

@@bratindas5814 yes, about 8 years now

[@QuintinTufoua]

"...oh no Honey we're not following you" 😂 👌

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂👏🏼

[@ReneEstrada1991]

Love it 🤣

[@UsernamerAlreadyTakn]

I died laughing 🤣

[@s.o.s.pnaruto9523]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tshiamoleipego5549]

That's the highlight of the video.

[@kristyncoons1774]

There needs to be more content creators like you. Thank the Lord someone makes sense.

[@s3any1977]

These women on Tik Tok are the female versions of PUAs. I like that you are holding these women accountable.

[@clwilliams9287]

These girls should have written for “How To Lose a Guy in Ten Days”.

[@creelin489]

Bro real talk, I was talking to this absolute BOMBSHELL of a woman ten years my senior. We would hang out every weekend. We had made plans to go see a movie one weekend. Not only did she never show up, but she never responded to my texts. The next day, I hear from a trusted source that she had gone to see a local band with another guy. By lunch, she still hadn’t responded. For once, my common sense clicked and I realized how desperate I was over a response from a woman who had moved on without warning. I blocked her number and social media. It’s been six months and I’ve yet to seek her out. Haven’t even thought of her until I ran across this gem of a video!

[@victorvaldez760]

@@creelin489 good for you but whatcha doin dating a old hag that’s 10 years senior

[@juliamae8994]

@@victorvaldez760 💀

[@DillonColtMusic]

If they wrote it it would be called how to lose a guy in 10 seconds.

[@charissa6648]

Underrated comment! THIS IS SO GOOD!

[@koolandblue]

I have never watched tik tok before in my life, and after seeing these clips I don’t think I ever will.

[@farkasabel]

There are many funny, interesting stuff and memes but you have to dive deep in the ocean of trash.

[@Jikrin]

Same, I don't know many guys that use it.

[@zombieslayer7759]

Yeah, TikTok is interesting, to say the least, and not in a good way.

[@salvadorpericullo7]

Good decision

[@CourtneyRyan]

LOL you’re not missing anything

[@clayformations1638]

As kind as we try to be, speaking the truth about toxic advice and behavior is healthy. It may be a one minute video, but it speaks volumes about the persons personality, beliefs and behavior. These women are insufferable, and unfortunately spreading advice that is unhealthy. Period. It needs to be called out. Thank you for doing this!

[@zartan-1975]

You are a giant benefit to me as I am really learning how to start dating again. I can’t believe how toxic society has truly become after just 7 years!

[@SvetlanaSunnyGirl2025]

The most horrible advice ever given. I said hello to my husband 1st and we've been married for 16 years. We messaged each other equally no matter who started. We've built TRUE LOVE and become True Soulmates and best friends. Our son is 14. Cheating advice? Manipulations? So bad! We never manipulate each other and that's why we are happy, genuine, loyal, honest and sincere with each other.

[@moanapooh9726]

Omgg yess I'm 15 n I'm so happy for you guys!!😍😍wish uu guys love, prosperity, happiness, and peace for so much more!!🤗🌾🌾🌸🌄I'm currently in a talking stage w/ a boy n we're so sincere, honest, genuine, loyal, n happy w/ one another.💕 Ive texted him first to check up on him bc I did a poll if anyone is doing ok.🌟 Hopefully we'll be high school sweethearts till the end as I go to college n he pursues his boxing or football career!! I highly recommend this type of relationship advice. You guys rock!💯💯🔥🔥🤟🏽I look up to that & inspired !! We need more people like you guys!!

[@Raviadhonis]

it’s very warming to hear this kind of experience. many of my generation love to play this kind of game and almost made me want to change my mindset from focused on pure loving my partner into joining this game. but thanks to everyone’s advice and this channel, i decided to stay on my mindset now.

[@copainspammeur404]

@@moanapooh9726 hopefully you'll stay a virgin till marriage

[@guntassingh8747]

W couple 🙏👑

[@juanecheverry6831]

“Oh no honey I’m not following you” 😂😂 loved that

[@missiridia2337]

Finally someone intelligent! Thank you! By the way, you’re such a beautiful woman, so unique and soft spoken :) Loved this video, going to the next one!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much 🥰 glad you’re here!

[@mariamatmos4506]

Wait wait. So if I text first I look desperate, but if I make a bloody super twisted plan I am not… Girl, these women are the definition of being desperate!!

[@888records]

there’s plenty of girls that say “oh he texted me for a week and then he ghosted me, what an asshole” but they don’t realize that the guy is the one texting first the entire time and is tired of it or thinks the girl isn’t interested as she doesn’t invest then they start talking shit about the guy, ruining his reputation

[@alexfowler9785]

🎯

[@michaelhart1072]

Then just tell the girl that you wish she would also text first occasionally. If she flips out leave. Otherwise she would. Ghosting is lame

[@adamdavis4928]

Yeah I'll text people but if I notice that this trend starts happening and it becomes very black and white where it is like 100% i will just stop bothering. Don't waste your energy on someone that does not care and if they are going to say shit like what you posted in your comment that is even more reason to not bother if they are going to act childish needing your attention lol.

[@comedytv2832]

@@michaelhart1072 no its worth it. She should know to take intiative. Its time to stop handholding women and treat them the way they treat us.

[@michaelhart1072]

@@comedytv2832 enjoy being single then. Having a loving and caring posture to my girl seems to work a lot better than having unspoken expectations of her.

[@Nel164]

I’ve actually learned to take relationship advice lightly from others. Most of the time people aren’t even following their own advice nowadays it’s just a facade

[@mouacheemeng]

They get mad when you don't take their dating advice but they aren't even successful at it first to begin with lol. Like at least show me you are a living proof otherwise....... what do you know?

[@sucram1015]

Or they give you advice on what they want in a relationship neglecting what you may or may not want. Sure you can give ideas of what makes a good relationship but too many people give advice based on what they want in someone or a relationship. Too many people impose or put their world view onto others and think what they want, others want. Example, I've seen many people say "don't move in together until your married." I'm like, everyone doesn't desire marriage nor does every couple make decisions based on marriage. Or when people with these beliefs on marriage find out that a couple lives together without being married. People with these beliefs think a couple like that is doing something wrong or should've waited for marriage failing to realize that not every couple desires marriage at all and every couple is different.

[@moodsofkiwi9285]

@@mouacheemeng the sheer volume of single people giving advice is enormous compared to the married people giving advice. Us married people know we don’t know anything 😂

[@garbageparade5144]

@@sucram1015 not moving in together before your married is good advice whether you desire it or not, its just safer for you and the relationship

[@sneakyelbow2254]

@@garbageparade5144 What works for one relationship isn't necessarily what will work best for someone else's relationship. That's not to say it's bad advice. It just might not be right for everybody.

[@darthtron5804]

You can definitely judge these women from just one clip, because they willingly uploaded it and they are fully conscious of what they say and do.

[@MG-yh7we]

Love your authenticity 🥰 Let’s normalize authenticity instead of playing games and manipulation

[@redacted1093]

5:48 The funniest thing about this is I just read an old 1950's guide on how to land a husband that was in a women's magazine and one of the things it suggested was calling on the guy first, it's been around 70 years and it seems a lot of women still don't know most guys actually appreciate when a girl is open about liking them.

[@pinkanime_cat1460]

Or giving them compliments and many other things. I make sure to compliment and up lift my bf almost everyday. I love him a lot, and i want him to know that

[@JMVASON1]

The woman I'm really into now - when she messages me first, I'm excited; I'm not thinking, What a needy loser. I like it. I imagine that many if not most guys would love to get a message first from a woman they're interested in.

[@veronicaana]

Yes but you do not stay interested gauranteed.

[@Truevitz]

@@veronicaana ?

[@bears2life366]

@@veronicaana that’s a big assumption to make about someone you don’t know on the internet especially the “guaranteed” part

[@davon_DaGod]

@@veronicaana stop dating bad boys, just stay away from chad and Tyrone and your life will be great...

[@Kat-sx9dd]

I initiated with my now-husband on a dating website. He's repeatedly told me that I was the only woman that ever contacted him first, and he was super interested because of that. Personally, I was fed up with being bombarded by men wanting to be my sugar daddy (I was only 19 and 40-50 year old men were constantly in my inbox). So I took control and initiated with men that I could actually see myself dating.

[@codytipping9407]

I'm really happy you did this. Someone recently did the pain / pleasure technique to me and to tell you the truth... It worked. It worked too well. It had me baffled; it also led me to lose hope in dating for a second. Videos like these help, so huge shout out to that 👌

[@friendlyneighborhoodathies5229]

People are so hurt and I’m so much pain that they’re gonna just be awful to ppl as a defense mechanism and it’s sad. If you’re not toxic don’t allow someone else to make you a toxic person. Protect your peace. Also they little “goodbye”s she does is so cute I love it

[@PowderedToastMaaaan]

You're a rare breed, Courtney. It's refreshing to see women like you exist in this world.

[@abbagil]

I second that.

[@waterliketeetee1775]

refresh button

[@tastybrownie7448]

So true. She has that feminine grace. I feel like there were a lot more women like her in the 90s.

[@SF-fb6lv]

Just 'sweet' what's not top like about her?

[@oscarperez5539]

@@tastybrownie7448 yea man.. Love that femininity she has

[@OriginalAstiae]

So rare to see a girl/woman not being toxic these days its kinda weird watching someone being wholesome.

[@brownpunk1794]

so refreshing..like a breath of fresh air!!!!

[@donelmukiza2357]

@@brownpunk1794 you are the breath of my air😎

[@pjuliano9000]

Can we clone Courtney... I wish.

[@ga5234]

You need to get out more. Meet real people.

[@Jikrin]

There are a lot of women and men that are great people. The o ly problem is the bad ones are so loud that they drown out the good.

[@bubbleluver333]

Your voice is so soothing!! Love this, let’s abolish toxic thinking for relationships

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you Madi! ❤️

[@heatherstacy2976]

I love this video! I think we all have our times when we react negatively to stuff or want to overgeneralize, but I see groups of men and women just constantly trying to "outgame" each other and it fucking sucks.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Totally agree.

[@Pdrum2]

People have lost the minds. It's fine to understand attraction, but getting in a relationship is not that complicated.

[@kaioken227]

They gonna call Courtney a “pick me” and be mad cause she got picked.

[@zackkarma7760]

There's a big difference between a sensible woman and a pick me. Pick mes are simps and internally misogynistic.

[@moodsofkiwi9285]

Pick me is way overused nowadays anyway. Ppl over-apply “simp” in the same way

[@meggieqin8496]

Honestly thats not even near a pick me type ,but OK

[@_Alibon_]

@@meggieqin8496 You'd be surprised. I made friends with a girl who got called a pick me over the fact that "pick me" became our label. Why? Because we were defending and agreeing with a woman that agreed with a man.

[@zwimipo1828]

Just another chameleon

[@TheToxicP]

Pro-tip: it's never a good idea to take relationship advice from individuals who've never experienced a healthy male - female relationship, who promote deceit / manipulation, who lack integrity and/or from someone who views the opposite sex with contempt.

[@jakemf1]

Boom

[@user-jw4bd5id3k]

Do you mean a healthy romantic male-female relationship? Bc if that's the case, I don't agree with you. If you mean platonic, then 100% agree.

[@animefactor4371]

@@user-jw4bd5id3k ?_?

[@shaylawayla5721]

You could’ve just said ‘from individuals who promote manipulation’ rather than adding the ‘who’ve never experienced a healthy relationship’. Not all victims of manipulation take on their abusers tactics.

[@brocksamson4245]

Yep, f@cked in the head

[@mirahr]

My boyfriend is the only man I've ever texted first. Before I met him, I, much like many other women, was left under the impression that "If a guy wants to be with you, he'll text you first.". (Plus, I am an extremely shy and a slightly awkward person.) Most, if not all, of my previous partners were the ones to text first. Coincidentally, none of those relationships worked. Even weirder is the fact that the only man I have ever texted first is now the person I love most. Turns out he started liking me way before the moment we met, he was just too shy to ask me out and was afraid that I wouldn't like him back. We've been together for a year now and I've never been happier. Suffice to say, regarding the blonde girl's advice on desperation and texting, I call BS.

[@leogiardello993]

Thank god for courtney ryan, at this point she has so much wisdom that everytime she analyzes each of one those clips she provides great information based on what she sees.

[@itsicy673]

To be with someone you manipulated is the true definition of settling.

[@elizabethstallcup8204]

Amen!!

[@masterdevoe2519]

It's not manipulation, it's called mutual understanding. It doesn't exist in the west, so people won't understand.

[@Petrichorus-]

@Evidence Based Health what? That’s not what the comment said. She meant if you have to manipulate someone in order for them to show interest, that’s going against your own good since you HAD to manipulate them in order for them to be with you. Not only are you a shitty person, but you’re settling for somebody who had to be tricked to give you what you wanted in the relationship

[@binarydigit0942]

Best comment!

[@rolfjohansen5376]

wisdom compressed , 10 of 10 norsemen endorse

[@saureco]

"Toxic": what a guy suddenly becomes when you can't manipulate him anymore

[@Hypie582]

It's ironic that they're the toxic ones.

[@juliusperseus8612]

Well Said Brother !

[@rockfresh5359]

Preach

[@truth2919]

So true 👌

[@TheBennyZone]

Amen! Its great to see them when they don't have that power anymore.

[@jlh4jc]

The root of the manipulative advice from Tic Toxic vids is the desire for control. One thing I've learned the hard way is to understand what I can't control. I can't control how she feels about me. But what I can do with what little control I have is continually developing the best version of myself. I'm at peace with what I can't control.

[@briioxx7468]

I totally agree with your video. I use to be one of those toxic women not knowing I was toxic. I went to therapy and worked on myself and now I am in a happy, mature, healthy relationship. If you are toxic you attract toxic. If you are healed and happy you attract that.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Love this! 🤍

[@brianmendoza137]

The “oh it’s her again” got me laughing 😂

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂

[@absentmindedprofessor]

When you said, “Oh no, honey, we’re not following you.” *click* 😂😂😂

[@babyjay2932]

I’ve had 2 girls approach me because I’m generally clueless to woman. Healthiest and happiest relationships I’ve ever had.

[@lightfire864]

hopefully we all find someone great like Courtney

[@that_si_chick7]

You are completely right! I’ve dealt with toxic men in the past & stuck around because I thought I wasn’t good enough. One day I just cut myself off from the dating world to heal myself & found someone who I’m still with after two years. Good men are out there, but these tik tok girls aren’t helping.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Same exact thing happened to me. Thank you for sharing this! ❤️

[@chucklombardo8167]

@@CourtneyRyan i think thongs are the most attractive thing on women

[@jimmusthegrimmace]

but the tiktok girls are helping though. theyre helping us see the tactics used on us and are helping us be happy in our decision to stay single. we can watch videos like this when we feel down about being alone and it helps us to feel like we've made the deicison. like showing a recovered junkie pictures of the damage meth does to a body as a way of reminding himself to stay away from meth. more and more men are leaving dating wholesale and while we may just be a blip on society's calendar, we at least as a group will die happier than we would had we married.

[@blk7747]

@@chucklombardo8167 bruh ? Wtf?

[@cassettetape7643]

Guy's like chuck aren't helping either🙄

[@stripes616]

Yes thank you! As a woman, I think it's crazy that some women have these high expectations and claim to be independent then expect men to do things like pay the full bill at dinner, buy them things all the time, expect men to do all the contact and heavy lifting in the first part of the relationship. It's like they don['t understand what "equality" means. You have such a rational and genuine mindset that I rarely see people talk about! 👏👏

[@Elisabetta.Scalisi]

So for you women shouldn't have any exceptions at all? You prepare yourself to meet some really nasty guys if you have low standards and are willing to accept the scraps he has to offer! And paying for your dinner DOESN'T diminish your sense of indipendence nor it devalues you...If it's a nice gesture from a man why shouldn't we welcome it?

[@Elisabetta.Scalisi]

And all this equality matter is ridiculous. We are not equal, we have equal rights which is different... Most men don't play a huge part in the household even today. A woman must work and have a nice career, give birth and be with the children often at the same time without help and without complaining. She also has to be always or often attractive and pleasing. This is really absurd and shady. We should accept that we are different and have to offer different things without degrading one another...

[@stripes616]

@@Elisabetta.Scalisi Did you read what I said? I never said don’t have expectations and I didn’t say that a man paying for your dinner diminishes your value as a woman. Whether your in a relationship where a man pays the bill or you split it or do what ever is completely up to individual relationships. Either way is completely fine as long as it’s something you both agreed upon. I’m saying it’s hypocritical to claim to be independent and strong but then EXPECT men to pay for your dinner, buy you things all the time, and be the one to contact you all the time. You need to have conversations about this and come to a mutual understanding of how your relationship is going to work before just expecting something. And it goes both ways.

[@Elisabetta.Scalisi]

@@stripes616 I have perfectly read what you wrote, clearly you didn't read or understand my point of view. You create a contrast between strong and independent and being taken care of by a man which is a huge basis of modern feminisms and for me unhappiness. Things obviously should be discussed but isn't that shady to have to tell a man/woman how to treat us? It's ok for suggestions but otherwise I am very skeptical...

[@selrox879]

@@Elisabetta.Scalisi ehh, they are pick me's the thing is they will still get cheated on no matter what

[@justinfaulkner4663]

My girlfriend straight up asked me "Would you be interested in dating?" My heart just melted and I said yes absolutely. She also called me baby first and it had the same effect. The "cheat just in case" girl, btw, is involving a third person in their toxic relationship, just using them as a tool of manipulation/self-affirmation with no regard to that person

[@adventuringwithambervoncure]

I pray that younger generations watch this video! I love that you’re an advocate to encourage healthy and positive human connections from a modern and effectively educational perspective!

[@gordonduke8812]

My girl never looks through my phone, and there is a simple explanation as to why. I make it abundantly clear that she is welcome to look through my phone anytime for any reason, no questions asked and no judgement passed. There is no mystery or secrets on my phone, it is an open book, so she doesn't see a need to look at it. But we've only been happily married for 32 years, so what do I know?

[@TimpBizkit]

Great although im wondering whether someone has ever hid their adultery in plain sight here

[@travis6694]

@@TimpBizkit we call that pessimism no matter the circumstance. And that’s unhealthy my friend.

[@alldecentnamestaken]

"Three little words: cheat just in case." Four. That's four words 😂

[@amyrajpat5696]

She thinks 'in case' is one word. Babes, go back to school and learn proper English before giving 'relationship' advice.

[@saureco]

In her mind it's "cheat Justin case"

[@twjull]

Chasing Chad, he pumped and dumped her and now she’s having her epiphany. How many guys has she destroyed??

[@harrisonmilne727]

Lol I thought it was 1 word

[@enverkudic8504]

@@saureco *Justin Case 😂👍

[@DrLewis82]

Oh my goodness. These girls 🤦🏼‍♀️ This is why they will probably be miserable for the rest of their life. Not only will they treat men like this, they will treat their friends like this.

[@kylegamble6531]

Been seeing videos like these for years and it’s refreshing to finally see at least one woman acknowledge them for the toxic BS they are.

[@KF-zl5io]

The beauty of this woman increased 100x after watching this vid. I hope she can reach more girls with her positive influence. We all know what she's up against. 💯👏

[@RamonSanders]

This is an actual female role model. I hope more women will see the light and know they don't have to be manipulative and deceitful..

[@NishchalNigam]

Thank you Courtney for going through the Toxic Tiktok content, so that we don't have to.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂 happy to help LOL

[@jamesg1974a]

Tik Tok itself is toxic.

[@pradhanh1641]

😂😂😂 Nice one Nishchal

[@benzemamumba]

Tik Toxic - there, I fixed it for you.

[@78pianist]

A very sad world we live in with so much growing toxicity. What is worse is that people dwell on this negativity. It's as if these types of individuals almost don't want to be happy, and live by revenge, spite and nastiness.

[@alexisdaylynn]

I love the way you say “goodbye” it’s so calming 😌

[@zadekeys2194]

"cheat just incase" what an incredible mind & show of character...

[@kennedygabrielle8768]

I'm 14 and boy was this so helpful. Playing hard to get has been so normalized and being toxic that I sort of forgot how it's really supposed to be. This video was truly a blessing🤍

[@screwgoogle4993]

Boy, you're 14, you're not old enough to have forgotten your first thing yet

[@concretecassowary2862]

@@screwgoogle4993 Legit what the hell does this mean For someone talking shit about a 14 year old you type like you’re even younger than them .v.

[@moanapooh9726]

@@concretecassowary2862 frrr💀💀

[@moanapooh9726]

I'm 15 n I just don't get how dating works anymore. This is why most relationships fail because of toxic advice like this. Never again. Guys n girls, follow what's best for YOU and YOUR other😍. N also, work on urself too!!💅🏽😁

[@misscleo_]

You can pursue a guy in a likable way without looking desperate. If you like someone, pursue them. If they don't like you back, move on. Thank you for sharing this!

[@laurenfarrell7169]

So glad I found you... literally 5 minutes ago. So far, you remind me of the female version of Kevin Samuels or Jordan Peterson and I am here for it. Your intelligence and class shines through. We need more females out here that talk and act like you. THANK YOU!

[@spamsamwabam]

I pursued my current partner because he‘s introverted and kinda awkward - well, we both are, which was more of a reason for me to kickstart everything, otherwise we’d both be beating around the bush forever and he was too fine and too lovely a man to lose without trying 😂. He always reminds me that he’s very grateful I initiated things as it gave him the confidence to reciprocate ☺️ we’ve been dating for a few months now :) #TEXTHIMFIRST

[@kieannamoore1814]

Same! Glad your story turned out well! ☺️

[@juliamae8994]

awww this is cute

[@zippy3253]

Hope it works out well!

[@alphabeta3105]

"current partner" pfff, you're already damaged. Please, leave him, you're doing truly bad things

[@Bert_de_Wit]

You sound strong and down to earth. I hope all works out for you.

[@Tarack1]

''I'm not scared of looking like I'm into him. Because, If I am...I want him to know.'' Why can't more women be wired like Courtney!

[@jamilgotcher5456]

Yeah, but if a friend told me she is always the one that has to text first, I would think, you're into him more than he is into you. Texting him first after you are an established couple is ok but in the beginning, I just hate to see girls becoming the one who is most of the time reaching out to a guy. I feel sorry for them.

[@amyrajpat5696]

Society is building a world where we are quickly becoming a rare breed.

[@garygreen3638]

Because most women have been raised with the notion of "You are the prize, You are to be the focus in the man's life, Dont settle for less, etc" instead of common sense. It's the sense of entitlement that they have because they get so used to getting what they want so when a guy calls them out, they get mad.

[@Zathren]

To answer your question, becauae the L3fT has taken our schools and homes away from young girls to mold them into this. Courtney was probably raised by at least one parent that had good values.

[@benzemamumba]

Cowardice and ego.

[@abelarvizu2898]

You're helping so many people, great work Courtney

[@sammysammuelson2425]

I’ve been in that stage where the girl in 11:30 was talking about. It went on for almost an entire year, and honestly makes me sad because she made me indeed feel like there was such connection, but it came to a point where it became clear she wasn’t interested. I felt like an idiot but that’s the importance of walking away when she lacks consistency. Great vid Courtney 👍🏻

[@secretnobody6460]

Girl: "I got hit by a car, im bleeding, please call my dad!" Her friend: " No! Don't! That's desperate and you know it! He must call you first!"

[@mariamelkholy8567]

HAHAHAHHA

[@avonlies9482]

lol imagine like a girl "i got stab, pls call an ambulance!" the friend: "no! that's desperate! the hospital must call you first!"

[@juliamae8994]

LOL

[@wasimnawaz8775]

looooooool

[@ayoutubechannel1156]

🤣🤣

[@damemethief]

"Cheat just in case" Imagine how much the internet would implode if a dude said that lol

[@nosajmartinez6175]

Thank you for providing a rational voice in the sea of the toxic voices out there!

[@titolovely8237]

woman in healthy relationships are generally out raising children or having fun with their partner, not posting on tik tok how to "get men". i also love how woman think there needs to be advice on getting men. like just be feminine, and not an absolute chore to be around, and men will flock to you.

[@devilsadvocacy]

They also have to make good decisions, which a whole lot of them have a whole lot of trouble with

[@reicherreinhardtvonkesslri9847]

"The English language had devolved into a mix of Valley Girl, hillbilly, inner-city slang and various grunts." -Idiocracy

[@Saulgoodmane]

Water? Like from the toilet?

[@mickey6275]

Brawndo has electrolytes

[@GCP25]

My goodness… this is why the dating world is so toxic for the single guys. Be safe out there fellas

[@tempest411]

I don't think they have much to worry about. It sounds like 99% of the guys aren't good enough for 99% of women to bother with.

[@joshclark7229]

@Feminism Rulez they cry and wine but that dosent entitle guys to go 4 them if they arent interested

[@mirandawynn8982]

You’re reactions aren’t giving me LIFE 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 when you said “please for the love of god leave” I was like YASSS

[@Geo-se7mc]

Im so glad im came across your video. I agree with what you are talking about. It feels nice not to be the only person thinking this way. definitly cant wait to hear more.

[@brainrich1358]

The whole "texting first shows desperation" is so dumb. No, texting first does not show desperation. Texting someone and expecting them to text right away and hanging on for the next message is desperate. Texting someone and going about your day, eventually responding back and going on with your day is fine. As long as that back and forth is going on then it's fine.

[@jambajoby32]

I love how you can see visual clues that Courtney is put off & frazzled by the bs in these videos yet still calm in how she communicates her thoughts! #gfgoals

[@jambajoby32]

#wifegoals

[@CourtneyRyan]

Haha I appreciate you 🥰

[@tomaspeixinho4447]

Looool, I could feel her wanting to roll her eyes

[@NathanielJewell]

We need more women like Courtney

[@AMQFDatingRelationships]

Hurt people hurt people, thank you for sharing your wisdom Courtney ❤

[@alexandrak4180]

I always wonder, when it comes to relationships, why people try to make things complicated ? Maybe they want the attention that they don't get idk.

[@codyk.8104]

Relationships have become a way for people to promote their egos. As much as I wish I could find a true genuine romantic relationship it’s not worth looking for in this day and age of trash can people.

[@elonever.2.071]

This is how manipulative you become when you only date toxic, unavailable, narcissistic men.

[@Vitapantern]

@@elonever.2.071 Right you sounds like a women who take zero accountability as usual. So hard for wome to live in reality, blame everything on society and men.

[@Vitapantern]

Women are hard wired to get attention from men. You love it, you need it.

[@elonever.2.071]

@@Vitapantern Wrong gender dude.

[@thecosmicbug]

We have the same mindset, I like you. Glad I found you! ❤️

[@benzemamumba]

Lol.

[@Foundry_made]

Courtney Ryan - Keep calling the toxic girls out, they make ALL OF YOU look bad! You're a true friend of Men, a REAL lady and a SOLID 8. Keep up the good work!

[@thecamssicle]

Thank you for saying these advices are toxic! Not all women can tell how toxic some advices can be sometimes.

[@redhawks0526]

I LOVE it when a woman texts me out of the blue. It makes me feel special and it eases up the social pressure that men have of, "you got to show interest, but also not show too much interest" to a girl that might not be showing almost no interest in me at all. Also, I try to never use this as an excuse or try to not let it define me, but I do have ADHD. My attention can change in an instant. And when I'm away from people, it's hard to focus on my connection with her, I can't always think about them because my brain needs me to focus on whatever I'm doing. If I'm at work, I need to focus on my work or things won't get done and I might forget about not only women, but some people in general. Not on purpose, but it does happen to me. I might randomly remember someone maybe a few months later and I do want to reconnect with them, but anxiety will also set in, "maybe they forgot about me, maybe they already met someone else, what they might feel annoyed if I text them or they felt hurt because they think I've been ignoring them and they aren't interested in me anymore because they think I was ignoringthem." Those feelings do come out. If a girl that likes me texts me, alot of those feelings go away, I'm able to refocus on them, I can feel confident in trying to make a move or see where things go....... I don't know where I'm going with this anymore..... Thanks for coming to my ted talk....

[@truealpha7258]

I respect you Courtney for standing out. Honestly, tictok is the most toxic app I have ever used and it also made me feel insecure at times. WELL DONE!

[@abhiramachari8954]

I like your KZbin username bro. But are you really an alpha male bro, just asking??

[@MrRossT1]

What are you even watching?

[@NeoN-PeoN]

@@abhiramachari8954 I'd argue that anyone with a YT username claiming to be alpha probably isn't.

[@HSdanish]

You are so gentle and give so good advices. I’m so thankful for this channel. You are so beautiful too. All the best.

[@jennygranillo7181]

I just found your channel, it is like a breath of fresh air. You are so beautiful and so down to earth, thank you for spreading positive messages to women, we all could use healthy advice over the toxicity!

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re so sweet, thank you so much Jenny! 🥺 so glad you’re here!

[@jennygranillo7181]

@@CourtneyRyan Subscribed!!! I love that I can play your videos and listen to them like podcast as I'm working :D

[@eveweiss5543]

your voice is so calming. it's very nice :)

[@BoyzInTheHoo]

"Oh no honey we're not following you..." Courtney you are a slayer!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@FishersofMen721]

Thank you for being such a role model. I am going to share your page with my daughter. The information your putting out could help change relationships around the world. Glad I found this page. This is the kind of advice I share with my wife & daughter about how to spot bad behaviors or avoid bad relationships

[@michaelbonanno7476]

Hi Courtney! Thank you for doing this video. A long time ago… I used to pick one of those Cosmopolitan magazines and flip to the advice section to see what kind of dating advice they would have for women. Back then it was all about manipulating men… but today it’s what you featured in this video (almost unbelievable!) I believe this is one of the reasons (at age 59) that I’m single and have never been married.