The Three Steps of Letting Go, with Tara Brach

The Three Steps of Letting Go, with Tara Brach [2022-06-15]
A wonderful inquiry is, “What is between me and openhearted presence.” This talk explores the profound healing and transformation that arises when we release the blocks to our natural and loving awareness.
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With thanks and love, Tara

[@madelinespooner1008]

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi

[@maddygates9566]

BRILLIANT 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️

[@evelyncatarevas2750]

Thank you🙏🏼❤️

[@differentyetsame]

💗🙌🏽☀️

[@christinebuckingham8369]

❤️🙌❤️

[@marilynmitchell3602]

A Course In Miracles

[@margotdarling6727]

In my experience, when the tears come, I know it’s happening. Tears of acceptance, self compassion, allowing the grief to come up and out. The relief I feel after crying is so deep. Even allowing myself to cry has been a process of acceptance. Thank you Tara and all the teachers who have brought me towards allowing myself to feel whatever Is there. This practice is simple but not easy. Lots of love to all the brave souls on this path ❤️‍🩹

[@maggyhanrahan]

Thank you all for facilating this beautiful reminder of how to realy be, hoping for tears so much welled up inside pleas bless me with release.

[@TLMKingMoon]

If I don't cry, I have physical pain along with the mental pain

[@brittanyn6582]

Pmapbpbpv Was a wasP

[@victoriaparsons4378]

I recently had a good cry too. It hit me hard with vulnerability and it later felt ok to cry. Love to you as well!💞

[@helencane5416]

I feel the same Thank you

[@ellen823ful]

Letting go is a selfless act of love. It is painful and beautiful at the same time.

[@suekillian2707]

Beautifully put. Thank you

[@NessSantiago]

I’m going through a very hard breakup and I found this message just when I needed it most. I felt a crushing pain in my chest caused by the anxiety of loosing a person I love deeply. I listened to this talk all day long until I started feeling a decrease in the pressure. It is a life long journey just allowing life to happen with less attachment. Thank you Tara 🙏🌹

[@maxsheerin8219]

That is so beautifully written, thank you🙏 I walked out on a relationship today in anger but also in favour of love for me. I wish he gets to heal whatever it is that hurts him, that hurts us. It's a long road with many emotions

[@lynnemurison7326]

❤️

[@Chap17]

Sending a hug....I rejoice in your healing and New Beginnings...life always has certainty but is filled with wisdom as we move forward....being still when needed

[@brose1401]

Holding space for you and for your new open hearted life💗

[@clairvoyant896]

Ness Santiago I hope you are feeling somewhat better now. 🙏

[@margarettaylor7196]

Let go of the way you thought life would unfold and be open to presence-just let it be!

[@maxsheerin8219]

The fear of my partner returning to full blown addiction only served me to perpetually control things. I felt everything was the end of the world watching the gentleman I love fall back into a downward spiral. And I left him. I deeply regret this so much because I dont want to let go of the idea we will reunite together with the love we once had. I dont even know if he still loves me or even has the abilty anymore. I feel utter fear and sorrow listening yo this 😔

[@buddhaway]

One thing I have to practice letting go of is my disappointment that Tara Brach's videos are not among the most watched on the internet! I mean, I love a good cat video as much as the next person, but the profound possibility for suffering-reducing life change through the practices that Tara shares, combined with the very high degree of user-friendliness of her presentation, would make these universally watched and used in a sane, non-delusional world, imo. Thanks Tara!

[@zishaan7550]

Thanks for reminding me to like the video Scott :) I’ve heard that helps those befuddling algorithms that work in the background. I always share with my meditator friends too some find immense benefits others say these aren’t their cup of tea.

[@sharonl3722]

Love your comment!❤️🙏❤️

[@marilynmitchell3602]

The world does not seem to be sane

[@milaschon7209]

I just wrote more or less pretty the same ... I feel the same ❤ thank you ❤

[@robertp.wainman4094]

Cats can teach us more....

[@CatherineKay-qs7dn]

‘This vigilance’ - this really struck me. The striving pulls away from my being present. Wow thanks for the 💡

[@whitebirchtarot]

I struggle with issues of control constantly because I’m afraid. I lack trust in the world and in myself. Thank you so much for this video. I’m going to listen to it many times. I found it very helpful. Thank you. 💕

[@jewel2022now]

Just sit with the feeling you have of not trusting, it will leave. Just imagine your soal needs to feel this. Be okay with it.

[@whitebirchtarot]

@@jewel2022now thank you. I’ll try.

[@anacristinalarin329]

I resonate with this Incredible universe is listening to my petitions.. and is bringing me into the letting go!! I will hold on to universe a Ángeles for authentic liberation

[@paige8361]

I let go. I let go of what I thought my life would look like and who I think I am. I let go of the idea of the "Pinterest life" I've always thought I would have. I let go of my dream. I let go of who I thought I was or who I thought I should've been. I let go of everything I wasn't meant to have and hold. The perfect marriage, the pretty house, the children, the great career, pretty clothes, and the white picket-fence dream. For years I've had way too firm of a grip on circumstances and I was clenching onto other people trying to chase them to love me and I am exhausted. I let go. I am free. I fully accept my reality. I am all I need. I love who I really am and who I'm really meant to be. I honor her. I take it moment by moment and I only see what is right in front of me. Taking baby steps. Sending love to this world and to all ❤

[@AmandaShawamieloushaw]

For anyone wanting to go to the letting go meditation time stamp is 29.12 😊 thank you Tara for this, truly very helpful wisdom 😊🙏

[@sole9482]

Yes obsessive thoughts make me feel ill and tired!!

[@redguru]

Letting go of control is the best thing you can ever do

[@dianeschroeder5882]

Dear Tara, I just discovered you when this video popped up. Thank you for your gentle teaching as I continue letting go of a very hurtful breakup, which began in 1997 after 21 years of marriage. Your steps are very helpful. Now, at 68, I am appreciating more and more the peace of being in this moment, in this breath and in this heartbeat. 🙏 Namaste. ❤

[@deboraholiver3716]

you're is a husband. Mine is a dear friend who will never hear or know my heart only that she is right and never did anything wrong. After 20 years of rub and snub and rejection, and denial. This video is making sense for me as well. It is such a peaceful life under it all

[@snach9700]

yeah i am into year 8 of a breakup. we co parent younger kids. i just cannot let go of her. take care

[@Eeriekid]

I just love your spirit. You're like my spiritual mom. When I need comforting I play your videos and over time I've found myself using your phrases and tone of voice to speak to myself to calm myself.

[@monicahale794]

This was a direct answer to a rather desperate prayer this morning. Thank you God through Tara.🙏♥️

[@suem3267]

I'm not sure how this came up on my feed, and it was almost an unconscious selection to watch this, but it was exactly the answer I needed to a question I recently had. Thank you for your calm and wise presence, your compassion, and for kindly sharing your insights. I feel they will be so helpful to enable healing, and a moving forward. Many blessings and much gratitude to you. 🧡

[@neva.2764]

It most probably came up on your feed with help from your spirit guides 😉

[@annaska2182]

I pray that one day I will find in me this kindness, softness, gentleness that you have ❤️🙏

[@DT175Enduro]

Jesus loves you! That's all you need is forgiveness. He paid our price and offers it freely. No need for religion or performance programs. Jesus just wants a relationship with you! Pick up a bible and start reading. You will find Him! I agree your prayer, in Jesus name, may you find all the kindness, softness, and gentleness and peace you could ever dream of and more!

[@megancotton1834]

We all have different virtues- find your own. Be yourself everyone else is already taken.

[@megancotton1834]

God doesn't heal jealousy by magically giving us the virtues or qualities of others- he made us all different.

[@kimberlycole297]

Yeah it was over a long time ago I am not interested in men.

[@sandylynn9834]

Your voice and words brought me so much peace today. Thank you

[@maxpbeaumont]

You spoke directly to me, Tara. Thank you for articulating this so warmly and clearly ❤

[@elijahjude11]

It’s ironic that I found this video today because I decided to let go of trying to hold onto somehow wanting to be a part of peoples lives that are not making me a priority in their lives and it was so painful and today I decided that I’m tired I’m exhausted and the love that I was giving them I’m gonna focus on my dogs and give it all to them and when I realized that I could do that and just shift the love keep the love that shifted in another way it madeIt made me happy and my friend told me yesterday she said go where you’re appreciated and go where you’re wanted and that really struck a chord

[@catherinebridges2541]

Thank you. I suffer so much that my ego says celebrate drinking alcohol do drugs have sex I deserve to celebrate and suddenly I am not living at all at hate myself. So undoing instead of letting go really helps me know I can be human and I will feel like I can succeed and be in joy. 🙏

[@carolpridgeon9387]

My dear Lady, every time I listen to you I find myself grieving....watching your face, seeing your eyes fill with tender tears, is always so healing. Every time you tell these storeis of the healing of others you are so affected. Your tender heart sings out in compassion and it shows. Thank you, Dear One, for all that you have worked through to reflect the heart that has always been there. Namaste'

[@patricialawson-df4wo]

I'm grieving with you. Her words bring up so much for me. And I'm thinking for you too. Namiste'

[@christinesalter5845]

Tara Brach speaks with such compassion. She understands the struggle. And she speaks from a place of experiencing these teachings of self compassion, mindfulness and directing ourselves to the body to allow this loving presence.

[@maggyhanrahan]

Thos is so lovley, am very grateful this showed up on my feed, thanks google angel i had got so lost in m head , whare there are no answers. So please God let me have insite and remember to find again PRACTISE and prèsence with your grace.

[@lauramurman2642]

Thank you for an insightful lesson! I'll paraphrase (I don't remember all the details) a story from "Buddhism in practise", edited by Donald S. Lopez, Jr. : Two Buddhist monks are out walking. They reach a violently rushing river and on the shore they find a crying women who is in desperate need of getting to the other side, because her child is sick and alone at home. One of the monks contemplates a short while and then offers to carry her on his back, to the other side. The other monk reacts negatively to this proposal, takes the first monk to the side and says: "How can you suggest something like that since our commitment to Buddhism and the monastery doesn't allow us to touch women!?" They argue for a while but the first monk still carries the woman across the river. She is greatful for the kind gesture and hurries home to attend to her child. The monks continue on their journey while the dissapointed monk persistently keeps expressing his dissatisfaction with his companions choice. All of a sudden the first monk stops, looks the other monk in his eyes and says: "I dropped her off and left her by the river, but you still carry her". I read this story for 23 years ago. It has been and still is a very helpful insight at times when my thoughts, feelings and the energy wich they require, try slipping into pointless dwelling in the bottomless well of the mind. Take care and live well! Laura😇❤

[@robinreisberg8351]

Thank you for revealing and naming for me the source of my greatest pain that I have been trying to let go of for so long. Naming that thought: 'it shouldn't be this way, it should be different' has opened my eyes and my heart to the core of that pain. Thank you Tara!

[@mylightofsunrise]

Thank you for the peace and graciousness that you bring to this world 💙💛

[@rosieeilon1882]

Thank you Dear Tara for constantly attempting to help me try to find the peaceful place in me💜💜💜 Priceless lessons🙏

[@Sashas-mom]

Let go, allow what is: the feelings and situation, then call on love. This is incredibly timely for me. We have 2 lives and the second one begins when we realize we only have one. This too is timely for me. I am accepting this as a sign for me and I will follow your wisdom Thank you 🙏🏻

[@ClaudiaRamirez-ek7ui]

Tara, I live in Mexico, and I really love your meditations, thank you so much, you are a blessing in the people lives, God bless you forever

[@ralphbraden5887]

Thank you Tara for your compassionate wise teachings on letting go....how vital for this life

[@kellyhennessy4201]

Wow! Even before the mediation I went into a deep place of letting go and realisation that i have always been afraid of being left by family, partners, friends and myself. Archangel Chamuel helped me stay and feel loved. I cried like never before. Thank you xxx 💜

[@catherinebridges2541]

Let go let go let go of thoughts, always talking to myself, let be, loving presence of HS …. Family issues huge. Life long hurts can take til my brother was 80 and me 74 years old. Thank you you are so beautiful and kind

[@dianaballew6329]

Dear Tara...My guides led me to your channel and this video, in particular. Today I imbark upon a chapter of my life that seems unwelcome and I condemn myself for it. I have never needed your message and practice as I do now. Thank you for your wisdom, calm, lovely teaching manner. I will watch this video everyday for a while, establishing these disciplines and anticipating peace that this new situation will transform into, if not a loveliness, then a transitional time of significance. Blessings upon you, dear teacher.

[@andrewthacker9388]

Thank you dearest Tara, blessings 🙏

[@SusannaBearfoot1]

Thankyou - so practical and so calming to practice with you Tara.

[@sbiss15]

@Ness I am feeling overwhelming grief from a divorce I did not want. Hard to navigate all the stories and feelings and thoughts. I am glad to find this video. I like how you phrased it "life long journey just allowing life to happen with less attachment." I miss the comfort of his embrace, back when he was, I guess, pretending to love me, telling me I was "the one."

[@ilmariforsnas]

"For so close to you is the Presence, but if you cannot be with this Presence, then where will you go? What will you do? How can you avoid being with something that is so ever present, that is within you and around you? It is a question that is haunting, and yet its answer is an experience itself-the desire to experience this Presence, the intent of stopping oneself from one’s desperate thinking and behavior, the desire to experience one’s real nature and purpose in the world-a turning point within the individual." This is from a chapter titled The Presence from a book called the Power of Knowledge by Marshall Vian Summers. Thank you for your gracious presentation Tara. I liked all the analogies and stories you laid out for us for demonstration. The monkey analogy felt really powerful.

[@Alios_World]

Nice Thank you.

[@julieann1975]

Thank you 🙏

[@MrLocust]

Like so many other videos this one appeared in my feed just at the right time. It is really hard to accept death of a loved when it is so sudden and seemingly senseless. I'm devastated but this helped me so much.

[@CaptainOfTheLostWaves]

Sympathy for your loss….. ‘sorrow is not forever, love is.

[@whitebirchtarot]

I’m sorry for your loss. This video was very helpful for me, but I still struggle with not liking the feeling of deep grief. Just not sure how to deal with it. I feel for you. 💕💕

[@louisesumrell6331]

Thank you Tara. It is incredibly simple. I think that's what throws people. It's a thing like riding a bicycle, hitting a golf ball properly with a club... When you "get" it, when it "clicks", you find that it was so simple and so easy, so natural, all along... 💖🙏💜🙏🤠

[@janetcorbin2642]

So glad you got it 🎉 works great with tinnitus 🤠

[@Theowlhawk]

Love 💓love your talks, nourishment for my soul and body, so thankful ❤ bless you Tara

[@darcyanalora5771]

Thank you Tara for the way you share, express and send out love and acceptance. Youve saved my soul over and over again

[@sbmenard7374]

Tara, this is so powerful and helpful. Your teachings are always so practical and true to how life is. I am deeply grateful for you and your wisdom and compassion.

[@TomTom-df9ph]

Thank you I really needed this right now. I just heard I lost a very dear friend, leaving me full of grief and wishing I didn’t have to hurt so much. You gave me the tools to begin to let the pain of loss and grief let go.

[@Misslotusification]

Byron Katie says that grief is love. And it was my experience in the very same circumstances, 6 months ago.. But not always, there were tears of self-pity and despair as well. Good to discriminate. They were there for me to notice and know what's at play. In any ways, it seems to me that loss comes down to get to terms with the impermanence of every form in this dimension.

[@josephinekenchenten1505]

I cannot decide what was the biggest pull , that I was ready to hear this or she presents it so well. Thank you

[@marilynmitchell3602]

Both🙏

[@suekillian2707]

😄

[@LuisHernandez-qk1nu]

As an NDEr I truly wish people would pay more attention to this teachings, let go and let God Love all !! my beautiful friends and let love guide your path

[@carolannbassett6646]

As a long-time practioner of Vipassana, I understand the importance of letting go. But my beloved golden retriever Sofie has cancer and must soon be euthanized. She will be free from suffering, but my heart is breaking, shattering and contracting despite Metta bhavna. I love her as she loved me -unconditionally.

[@trondeirikjohnsen8479]

❤

[@marthawho7577]

❤

[@amyanderson3977]

Self preservation and behavioral vulnerability are factors of the past and future but here we are in the now with such gratitude and presence enveloping our soul relaxing our tension between the retrospect of self and tomorrows when all we have is being within the moment, tangible presence, love unconditional, empathy

[@earlwest3502]

This is really excellent-- thank you so much!

[@lv5980]

Love all you say! Feels so right!

[@hay16233]

Thank you Tara for sharing this moment of peace with us all.

[@SantaCruzHappy1]

As always, just what I needed today. Thank you, Tara Brach!

[@judithwallace2091]

Beautiful meditation and talk.

[@irma7354]

Priceless teachings! Thank you so much Tara! 🙏✨️🙏

[@susydyson1750]

Thank you Tara excellent way to explain letting go !! the doorway to feeling truly happy !

[@gypsystar5884]

~ So thankful 🙏🏻 Thank You Tara🙏🏿💕

[@gabykappscomposermariagabr749]

Again, thank you so much Tara. Just so much.

[@bettyrichardson20]

Thank you. You are so wise and your voice so comforting 💕

[@kacey72]

This is wonderful! Thank you Tara

[@maryhoran406]

Thank you so much Tara for your generosity in sharing your learning of how to let go.🥰

[@phyllisconway8946]

Thanks for this beautiful offering Tara.A wonderful inspiration talk on learning to let go.🥰🙏🏼💜

[@inannaurania]

Thank you for this message of compassion. It’s lovely.

[@anisarakaj7734]

Thank you for your wisdom Tara

[@rachelsmyth9912]

Thank you Tara, I appreciate and am thankful for your teachings. Wishing you well 🙏🏻

[@theresa29569]

Thank u for these moments of peace and rest.

[@SuperLifeisbig]

Infinite love and gratitude.

[@sunnygoh3638]

Gratitude love and compassion ❤️

[@curiousgem610]

Beautiful… “let go, let go”…🙏🏽💎☀️

[@suzannedavis4992]

Absolutely beautiful, thanks Tara 😊 🙏

[@aptkeyboard3173]

I am very thankful for your work.

[@albadepaola3674]

This was all so perfect for what I’m going through right now

[@irmgardkuchernig1156]

That is beautiful. Thank you!

[@karenconley9807]

I am so very grateful for you❤️🙏

[@bettyannsouthard959]

Thank you so much for this lesson! Clear & concise on the concept of letting go🙏🏽❤you’re an amazing teacher, Tara! Grateful, grateful for you!🙏🏽

[@juliemcvey9340]

Thankyou so much Tara.. This was exactly what i needed today, i have two new tools to my ever increasing Box !😊 Much Love and gratitude for all you do.. ❤

[@Stinkwolff83]

Thank you again for the lovely talk. You are truly wonderful!!

[@LindsayDylanJMS]

thank you sooooo much for your inspired service, Tara.

[@sharynfoster3255]

Joy, peace, love, hope, compassion. Wonderful presentation!

[@lisabuscaglia1856]

Wholeheartedly, appreciate this topic Tara🕊🌿 Thank you~

[@lindamilne3166]

Thank You Tara for Sharing Your Wisdom and Love.

[@dmichael2697]

2nd time listening: such a good teaching: 🙏❤️🙏 thank you Tara

[@Maria-fm2cg]

Thank you for this beautiful and nourishing meditation and talk. 🙏🏼💗✨

[@sabinemarianneangelikaboss8307]

Absolutely beautiful. Tara, you are for me a daily inspiration and support. Thank you from my heart 💜❤️

[@janetteclarke9284]

Thank you Tara. You came to me today when I needed help. I am so very grateful 🙏

[@violettemartinez7796]

Tara you are a great help, and light for us.

[@marikorhonen8382]

Thank You Tara 🙏💖

[@cassandraspalti3458]

Thank you Tara.

[@allanreyes6873]

Step 1-- the letting go of thoughts-- We will be wiser if we Let Go of thoughts of "should be this" and "should be that." These thoughts keep us trapped because they negate what's true and real-- So, Release all the "shoulds" because those "shoulds" keep us trapped in mind-fueled fantasies and suffering. Step 2--accept what is. The opening of "Let it be" gives us freedom to be with what is, let it be, live in reality of what is. Step 3--meditate on Love. Practicing meditation on the goodness, kindness, love that inspires the virtues and actions of bodhisattvas. ❤thank you for the helpful advice 🙏

[@jameswarner7609]

I feel grateful for this, Tara....it helps me to connect with my own feelings and needs....and to develop self-compassion, empathy and kindness toward myself....and then others.

[@anne-mariemoore]

I really needed to come across this video this morning. Thank you ❤️ 🙏

[@bettyannsouthard959]

I appreciate you, Tara!!!! So very grateful for your teachings❤

[@jup7883]

So grateful to have found your offerings. 🙏🏼♥️

[@wildsoulalice252]

I came across this today on a day I really need to let go of old situations and old patterns that no longer serve me. On the spring equinox 2023, I’ll be bringing in new energy. Thank you Tara ❤

[@genznancy]

So glad I found this video. Thank you

[@bethlondner5049]

I followed your instructions and let go of my debilitating thought,and i feel the love and softness within.Thank you so much.❤

[@jenikayrapetyan9716]

Thank you. So beautiful.

[@starrwolfe6666]

Thank you, Tara this was so beautiful, easy to understand and I felt your love and compassion for all beings in all of the situation. I will be listening to more of your videos 🥰

[@pamstrickland6132]

I practiced with Eyes open , I noticed how sleepy I became, however I enjoyed this and had moments of Peacefulness.... Lovely to know about MAYA.

[@loridunstan1129]

I love you Tara ❤ You're my 'Go To' person for peace 🕊