The Top 5 Reasons Why Men Disappear on You (and What You Can Do) [Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy]

[@lochtessmonsterxoxo]

"It's easy to have standards when you don't care if somebody leaves." DANG

[@Destinyklp]

Bro, while I was watching the video I scrolled down to the comments and while I was readying your comment thats what he just said xD

[@hipnhappenin]

That’s confidence. Knowing you’re ok no matter what

[@hagarmmamodel5131]

wally121000 🤣🤣🤣

[@abhishek0o7]

@wally121000 sorry but I don't want *standards* like that.😂😂😂

[@aphroditeg2712]

@wally121000 fair point. However, is it better to sit alone, take some time for yourself, and go back focused and refreshed, or to spend time with someone who is using you and will deplete you, whether financially, physically or emotionally? A good partner is better than being alone, but alone is better than being with a bad partner.

[@springfauna1465]

"No amount of effort with the wrong man is gonna lead to your happiness" ....thank you, Matthew! I needed to hear this!!

[@sadespain2339]

Me too.

[@mmr6825]

A total true!

[@ninamoom]

I know this but still... i dunno how to get over him when he is super nice

[@Araaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

Super !!!

[@samwong1781]

goes both ways when the guy gives and gives and gives and comes to realize that it's only one-sided effort, time to pull back

[@iranramezanipour936]

“Disinterest is closure”, I keep telling myself that but still find myself waiting for his text deep down

[@catlady8052]

Yeah it's hard when connection doesn't happen often

[@nofybn7794]

@@catlady8052 YES.

[@astrobot702]

I like that saying... I'll have to keep it.

[@Anna_Dawson]

I prefer to go the crazy route, and text him a novel at 3am XD

[@codyfernfan6274]

Meee aha im the psychoest bitch out there

[@Barbie-gg3fx]

Let him go if he disappears. Ghost you once, he'll ghost you again. Show him the door 🚪

[@rizikrizik1395]

exactly. if they do it once they will do it again

[@charlotteknutsen7262]

Yep, Barbie unfortunately that's the truth. To me the were word "ghosting" is creepy but really the creepiest thing is that they would evef play such a cruel game such as ghosting.

[@explosivebest3703]

@@charlotteknutsen7262 unfortunately women do it too

[@nickyp.969]

Totally true!! Do not waste time and take him out of your life! Let him go !

[@RVCAXD]

What if he’s never looking back?

[@serinarachid4670]

He stops texting, so do I :-)

[@tataniaalba9601]

I do the same

[@Shari-Attarian]

I need to do the same

[@Shari-Attarian]

@Stepping Onnn Or I learned that they didn't want anything to do with me, and that's okay with me.

[@chelsylai]

Me too. My ex-boyfriend disappeared 2 weeks ago. I found him on the 4th day after he went missing, said he already back to home country...blah blah... after that he stops texting me. I gave fullest cooperation for not contact him too :)

[@michellekahlez2105]

@@chelsylai well in my case So THIS GUY IS RLY CUTE NO CAP. We met on a dating app. He's the one who liked my profile first then I asked him for his number then he gave it out. He used to complimented me a lot, even KEPT BEGGING TO ME FOR SENDING HIM MY PICTURES and initiating a convo for solid 3 times. We texted almost like everyday but then he suddenly blocked me just yesterday for no reason after I was asking him like ''are you busy?'' in voice note. wtaf I RLY WISHED WE COULD BE FRIENDS IN A LONG TERM BUT GOSH LIKE CAN U TELL ME WHERE'S MY FAULT PLS? 😭😭😭 it's painful

[@klulouis]

4:17 is my favorite: "stop thinking about this shit, send the text & go & live your life." 👏🏽 Sick of obsessing & over analyzing.✌🏽

[@tc9875]

Yes!!!

[@danamuller5016]

Which text ?

[@viktoriagal5993]

"Disinterest is closure." - Matthew Hussey That's it. Always keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.

[@anuugoo]

Viktória Gál Disinterest is closure?

[@tonythomas6122]

Viktória Gál but what if the guy you're in love with is gay and he's he does not love you he only wants to be with you for your money so what do you do from there

[@tonythomas6122]

Ko

[@sablethompson1212]

Holy shit yes. I thought I was "over" my ex for a while. But I wasn't really over him until I saw his name on my phone hitting me up and I felt no emotions. Not even "ugh why is he texting me right now, so annoying." Literally nothing! And that was when I was truly over him

[@xm377Moyocoyatzin]

Disinterest is closure.... #MGTOW Disinterest = Freedom

[@LUMALuxuryMatchmaking]

Spot on with #1! We become so infatuated with the idea of someone! We are quick to fall in lust because we're so blinded by the idea of love.. So quickly that we ignore red flags.

[@sandrarife3595]

I am here waiting for you to text me please let me know if you want me to take care of our lives together or not

[@Acecentricsp05]

It's a red flag for women anytime they are not getting their way. Im lost as to why some women believe that a man should feel as much as them. We are different but being held to the standards women have set.

[@rowmccoy9545]

"Choose long-term happiness with someone who's gonna give you the world, not short term graphication with someone just sees you as a chapter in thier life"

[@joannemates6367]

Row Mc Coy “Their Their!” Hehe

[@kurisktan]

Choose long term happiness with someone who's gonna be your world, not a short term gratification with someone who just see's you as a chapter in their life.

[@lulalula7120]

🤔

[@msdemeanour]

@@joannemates6367 And gratification!

[@yazialmarzooqi6017]

“NO AMOUNT OF EFFORT IS GONNA MAKE THE WRONG GUY A RIGHT ONE FOR YOU”

[@Miss.Weirdo00]

In my experience, men who disappear without letting you know what's going on and how he's feeling... it's because he isn't the one for you. None of the guys that pulled away had good intentions, but they all came back after a long time like nothing happened, one of them made a big excuse and asking for forgiveness, I let him in my life again and after a week started to ignore me once again. What I've learned is that a man who really wants to stay with you won't make you go through these mind games. It's okay if someone needs space to think and spend time for himself, but ignoring and acting different after being sweet and caring? He knows he's pulling away at the worst way. A man that really likes you won't like you to feel hurt or rejected, no matter how much someone wants to justify this behavior I will not tolerate it. Quit being afraid of losing someone when it's not your fault and you gave your best, they can feel you're weak and allow him to drive you crazy. This is why you should focus on one guy while dating, you create a big obsession, he becomes a priority and to fix things you didn't ruin

[@oceejay5148]

Exactly !! Nothing but the truth 👌🏾

[@tammyknipe6262]

Exactly what you just said, was what I just went through. You are so unbelievably right !

[@julietmolapo3685]

Wow ! So profound. Lesson Learned

[@SHINCHAN-hn4cw]

actually women don't attracted towards man who like them or actually wants to be in relationship with them because they like guys who don't give shit about them and also same with guys most of guys also suffering from this thing and we humans must accept that we should choose our partner who are interested in us..... not for bitches

[@Greenpastures79]

Thank you for sharing!! Great advice❣️

[@keva4672]

Does anyone ever watch his videos, and half way through is just Like "ffffuuuuuucccckkkk" I give up. 😂😂😂

[@dannac_8888]

That's why I NEVER watch his stuff for more than a few seconds.

[@chinny012]

KEVA lmfaoooooo me

[@weishen4878]

lol yes, it's like you are getting an interview. Damn...haha

[@lindawolf2952]

Uh ya

[@sydneyreilly5657]

ME

[@tammylee3681]

Dating is too much of a game! Ugh. I give up, bruh! Y’all can have these dudes. I’m too mellow for all this! Lol. Seriously

[@claras.9819]

Tammy Lee same girl

[@reereechanel]

😅

[@sabrinajacobs9480]

Girl same here!

[@tammylee3681]

Ms. Elite don’t like cats. I’ll enjoy my life as is instead. Peaceful!

[@bonezbaaaby]

For real.

[@TrinaTat]

1. Instead of falling for a real person, you fall for the ideal 2. You don’t keep up the standards with the guy you like 3. You obsess over your behavior 4. Move to quickly (over invest) 5. Choosing unavailable man

[@tanyahylton4430]

Lqh

[@rainbow_unicorn5]

Thank you

[@curtistinemiller8038]

When a person Ghosts you,you just experienced who they are,(A Coward).....

[@remydutour7768]

Some people understand quickly, the only problem. They need long explanations. "Ghosters" are there to let life teaching them... Communication is nice when it is factual, short and to the point... Not dramatic, long lasting and time consuming . KISS (keep it simple, stupid)

[@jengildz9104]

Yuppppp

[@sergiocarreon6686]

It's a pump and dump nothing wrong with tha

[@yolocholo9611]

nah u just ugly asf or a 5 to be fair 😂😂😂

[@GW-gz8jh]

@Quirini Copie no contact isn’t the same as ghosting.

[@accidentallyglammakeup6169]

"no amount of effort with the wrong man, is gonna lead to ur happiness" whoa! that's an amazing quote. damn that's true!

[@Zagadka1988]

🙂

[@debrawis7187]

What ever happened to two people just being honest with each other. And Committing to a future!?!? The older we get the less Bull shit I put up with.

[@Malitubee]

Shaun Hensley Facts!!!

[@Annemarie_case143]

PREACH!! I'm done with this appear - dissappear / hot - cold / pull - push / etc... i want an honest and frank conversation upfront. what are we doing? why we here? what is our goal? do we have the same plan? I'm done with childish act. it might not be sexy and exciting, but less headache.

[@tulinbeyduz920]

Anne marie laluna I know how hard is it .. integrity

[@laurenjames6630]

One word... Internet! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@hillarybillary21]

Yas aunty I’m 35 and way to old not to thrive! 🤣 I have a much better life, skin, body and job at 35 than I did at 25. Why? I DONT PUT UP WITH CRAP!!!! Bye bye mister ghost, you ever call me again I will show the world the screenshot of your bank account that only has $7 in it! BYE!

[@msdemeanour]

Stay single, calm, stress free & far away from clowns 🤡

[@audreymeru633]

This made me cry. I just want to stop being 'that girl'. 😭

[@lindawolf2952]

Your not alone! It's harder these days, people don't seem to value real connections anymore. Just tiltles, degrees, and social.media interactions.:/

[@veggie42]

Me too

[@veggie42]

@random epic videos I wish

[@imellesure6218]

Me too

[@celiaa3829]

Me too!!!

[@syndisue530]

Happiness starts within you, being ghosted is so cowardly! I will never lower my standards ❤️

[@swedishgirl2506]

People today are so insecure. Scared to approach people, date or commit to anything, especially since there's so much miscommunication, mixed signals. People don't put forth the same effort anymore in relationships since Facebook. We're losing social skills and appreciation for things that require a little work, and stepping out of our comfort zone.

[@ZGwoo888]

swedish girl definitely I agree! People also feel like they have so many options they don't need to make an effort 😒

[@gregoryeverson741]

i blame social media, been on dates where the girl is on the phone most of the time

[@zurub]

I find girls who use social media a real turn off.

[@oleberrutra9759]

How's rape in your country? "Welcome refugies" help with those numbers, your country are going to be destroy in one generation. Be great full to feminism.

[@MeiVandenberghe]

Exactly!

[@karimaassegaf3852]

Bruh i'll just stay single

[@Marcellopez1249]

😂😂

[@destinymtika4751]

Me too🤣🤣🤣

[@dr.ghada.fakieh8483]

😂😂

[@criconinvestments7723]

You won't be happy that way... put some effort into your relationships...

[@destinymtika4751]

@@criconinvestments7723 I thought they say that what's meant to be goes smoothly 🙆

[@AimeeMontgomeryonline]

I was actually pondering this today. When I was about 26 I hit that place, absolute happiness alone. I lived in a state of total bliss, no exaggeration. But then as if I had sent a signal out to the world all these men wanted into my life just because I honestly didn't care. Then one of them ran me down and proposed of which ended up not working out. This week I reached that same place of total happiness. I mean I wouldn't change a single thing, I am happier than anyone breathing. This time, I am going to be much wiser. I realize for reasons woman cannot understand that men like when you don't give a crap. And I really don't give a crap. I have officially created my own happiness, everything I ever wanted I have. Why is it when us woman find happiness on our own and it doesn't depend at all on any man, that they suddenly come running. Mark my words, I won't be making the same mistakes my younger self did.

[@melimevivzla]

Aimee Montgomery totally agree with you! I've had similar experiences. And in my opinion is the best way to go. Your happiness depends only on you, that's why he doesn't feel any pressure that he has to make you happy, he just desperate to share that, have more of that with you! Wish you all the best ✨🍷💕

[@melimevivzla]

Aimee Montgomery totally agree with you! I've had similar experiences. And in my opinion is the best way to go. Your happiness depends only on you, that's why he doesn't feel any pressure that he has to make you happy, he just desperate to share that, have more of that with you! Wish you all the best ✨🍷💕

[@mstfua9400]

This is what all men must read. Most men can't be happy alone, unfortunately. Women are way better at being happy alone. Men are always in need of constant female approval, that's where all useless compliments, kindness, chivalry, romance comes from. Men must stop buying the nonsense; ''you must love your country, 'your' woman, the only thing you should never love is yourself and other men''. Men must get rid of this nonsense and learn to be happy alone and must learn to love themselves. Seriously, men should read what you wrote.

[@TheFairKnight]

Aimee Montgomery Mustafa U. You people speak from your pointless anecdotal experience and think you can generalize to other men? Seems you have a lot of growing up to do.

[@KeiViolet]

Aimee Montgomery It's psychology. People have unfulfilled needs which they seek unconsciously to fulfill. When you are happy with yourself and authentic among the other things you own, people who lack or feel they lack those qualities and most of people do, will want to be with you because you have something they want. They unconsciously think that if they are with you it will rub off on them or if they are with someone with those qualities means they are worthy like that person, otherwise the person wouldn't be with them. Of course if they see you don't have the qualities they need they won't fall in love with you. Many women become needy and insecure in a relationship and the other side sees that, they lose the qualities they had in the beginning of the relationship and start depending on their men to make them happy, men see that and realize those qualities are not there anymore so they seek for someone else again who will fulfill them.

[@sadespain2339]

1:50 "He knows that around you he has to raise his game." 4:30 Rushing through the stages doesn't allow courtship to take place.

[@lavayuki]

I assumed it was because they just found someone else on Tinder

[@marah3298]

Lava Yuki me too lol

[@missytaurus2258]

Yeah fuk tinder , ruining someone life, but I am was met him from tinder but 🙊🤣

[@11cesarrenato]

then they come back cause did not found anyone better

[@maxisyoon8316]

Cesar lol this is so true. there’s this guy who have always been doing this to me

[@11cesarrenato]

@@maxisyoon8316 this is so ridiculous

[@marcelleazevedo2018]

The amount of truth in this video is shocking. I wanted to watch this 5 years ago.

[@JCFrigid]

Marcelle Azevedo Like your avatar

[@hithearto]

Same

[@milica4277]

#1 was my case. We had so much in common, especially intellectually. Our conversations lasted for hours.

[@marcus.guitarist]

0:29 Instead of falling for the real person you've fallen for an ideal 1:17 You don't keep up your standards with the guys you like 2:55 You obsess over your behavior too much 4:20 You move to quickly 4:48 You're choosing unavailable men

[@MatthewCoast]

Boom!

[@lisaess]

Childish Wisdom bravo! 👏👏👏👏

[@AmyAnnLand]

Thank you

[@juliebenjamen5338]

Well said

[@thecelticcrone7927]

Childish Wisdom ...you've Forgotten HOW To Just Simply Have FUN!!!

[@hayitssydney]

“He has great qualities = he’s right for me” “NO” 😂

[@curlyy6]

It's so true, I had to learn that the hard way hahah

[@XX-jm8zs]

It’s a tactic to reel someone in but likely not their true nature

[@coriwilliams1983]

Its been 2 years since my Divorce; Dating has change since the 90's. Guys use to be direct never a coward; Called never Text. I'll just stay single this is to much

[@orientaldancernoorie]

Times have certainly changed since 2000. Everyone has become a serial texter 😅 90s period was so much better and simple!

[@coriwilliams1983]

@@orientaldancernoorie yep, wow a month after I wrote this I met my soulmate 😂 we are still together.. But yea prior to that it was 2 years of nothing

[@anamoisinho7628]

@@coriwilliams1983 I got so happy when I saw your second comment. Got bless your relationship ☺️

[@coriwilliams1983]

@@anamoisinho7628 😊Thank you hun

[@BernieTime1]

Constant texting has killed making real connections IMO. It's an exchange of Memos and not a conversation full of dialogue, nuance, and real interest.

[@SanaAkhoon]

Am I the only one who was saying "yup that's me" On every point?

[@DanielleYSmith]

Sana Akhoon 😂 it is difficult to hold to your standards if you really like the guy, but if he really likes you he'll stick around. We want to have that bond first, I get it. The standards are not my strongest but I'm working on it.

[@MatthewCoast]

Ouch!

[@irekhan6247]

no.its me too

[@planetChristie]

Yup 😩😂

[@drsareekakatkuriphysiother5376]

Sana Akhoon me too, I did all of that, made myself too available

[@SamanthaN92]

This is very helpful. I constantly find myself in situations not just with guys, but also with friends that act like they really care about you, but they ghost on you or screw you over the next day and your asking yourself: "how can someone treat me so nice one day and be completely heartless the next?" Its very frustrating but now im being more smart about the whole thing and not allowing people in my life too quickly anymore that dont deserve it.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

Grant cason excellent advice. Stop relying on other people, stop relying on the one-and-only who's exclusively in debt to instill You with what Your entitlement entitles You to ...

[@stormzfront1611]

You sure you aren't the problem?

[@beseez]

I saw myself, as a female friend, in what you write. I am suffering with a few issues and on good days, I am happy, easy to please, somewhat outgoing. I easily get "full" and am just done being social. I want very little social interaction, texting a few is enough. I have noticed in this time of technology (and age) that many people become over stimulated and back out of interaction. It Should be ok to give peace and quiet to another. ♡

[@janehajny5849]

Matthew, could you do a video solely on how to identify unavailable men? It'd be greatly appreciated.

[@DominicaL1134]

Check out a youtube video that is called: "11 Signs He's Emotionally Unavailable". It's SO GOOD!

[@jisson57]

What do you mean Matthews opinion of this? I don't remember him condoning dating a married man.

[@JCFrigid]

Everybody Dance That is despicable, and he only said it would be fun in order to influence and discourage women that pursue unavailable men.

[@elleneastwood3637]

Love it!

[@Ninitschga]

Jane Hajny well they usually wear a ring on their right hand. Every body else is fair game. ;)

[@Mzfoxy08]

Thank you. Sincerely; A broken hearted woman 😔

[@mmr6825]

Sorry to hear that. Been there. Unfortunately people are dishonest and lie a lot. There are few good people out there. Keep your faith 🙏

[@marah3298]

Keep your faith and keep your head up. It does get better. 🙏

[@nerima1275]

Shit hurts

[@Nina-em4kg]

2 years ago you left this comment, tell us, How do you feel now? Sending love ❤️

[@carolmilligan3259]

@@nerima1275 same.

[@PinkyMsBrain]

You are absolutely right about all this. The point is, do not change yourself for another person. You come first before others and if that guy loves you, he will find you regardless. I had to learn this the hard way for 7 years before I actually realize and treasure my worth.

[@lauraw3338]

I was married for 16 years. I waited 2 1/2 years before I started to date. It was important to me to take that time to find out who I was again and not a wife. I dated for 11 months before I threw in the towel. I have found that men in there mid 40's are needy, insecure, need their ego stroked and lie through their teeth. I can't work with that, I'm too independent and don't have time to raise another child. For now I'm enjoying my life and if I'm lucky to have another great love in my life, great. If not I'm ok with who I am. I wish all you singles the best and good luck in your journey.

[@iamkat8104]

Similar life Laura! Divorced my ex, spent 12 yrs on my own. Now I got 40yr olds thinking they're still 16, coming around wanting me to be a caretaker for them 🙄...2 didn't want the accountability of a relationship but wanted me to have a baby?! Oh please....if it's all that's out there anymore I will stay single.

[@veggie42]

Haydn 42 ran off he has a room in a shared home, worked in Morrisons and a face like a horse/slapped butt

[@veggie42]

@@iamkat8104 Yes Andrew did I dumped him after 2 years he has a daughter with his next partner..it hurts even though I didn't want kids

[@fionagregory8078]

@scott sanger I love cats

[@enadine6405]

@scott sanger Wow you sound bitter. Also just cause she is divorced doesn't mean she is broken? she clearly isn't.

[@yurideleija_]

He’s just not that into you...

[@flowerpower231]

"Send the text message and stop thinking about this shit" 😂😂😂😂😂

[@stargem6351]

I was about to text this guy i had a huge connection with that's why I came on this. he came back about 2 weeks later telling me hes sorry he ghosted AGAIN and its fine if I dont wana talk anymore that he'll understand but that he misses me alot. He keeps ghosting on me and i have no idea why! Its exhausting annoying and frustrating. After watching this video i just deleted the long ass message i was about to send him. I felt bad, i stalked him he looks sad even behind his smile he has dark under eyes he lost alot of weight but Fuck that. I avoided him for a year I think I could avoid him permanently. I still genuinely like him and wish him the best. Heres my advice ladies, if you find someone with a genuine connection someome that gets you and someone that takes the time to listen to all of what you got to say never let them go. Finding someone with a GENUINE connection is so rare nowadays

[@egyptianqueen4007]

I thought I found someone with a genuine connection but he ended up ghosting me. Even when you think you have found a good guy they still end up playing you. Guys ain't shit.

[@Navysingh43]

Me too omg same situation

[@skyfall1481]

If they can live without you....show them you can live without them too.

[@bihtersaat7836]

Matt I can’t stress enough how accurate your videos are. The only thing that upsets me is how fucked up our dating world is. Why people can’t just enjoy loving and caring about each other without all these games, “earning sth”, “investing into someone”....

[@aidaaida2910]

It's so sickening

[@kekoakaawa8879]

I think this is an issue in our society. Men expect a lot from women (be thin but have curves, smart but don't come off as smarter than him, pretty, sexy but not slutty, confident, ambitious but not in a way that intimidates him etc) and women are often taught to accept men as they are.

[@Star-tf3xi]

kekoa kawawa So true. I’ve also noticed that in any relationship really the guys are (almost) always worse looking than the girls...

[@SINNAMON997]

What? Are you shitting me? Women's requirement are most of the time unreachable by most meb

[@skylight_gameuse]

yes like it's okay if the guy doesn't look great because he's kind and all, but this example is never for women

[@stephaniep1761]

Amen!

[@bonezbaaaby]

Exactly.

[@allim.830]

And here I was thinking he just had terrible communication skills and a deep rooted avoidance of conflict

[@MatthewCoast]

There's almost always another side to it

[@joanneclarkson5254]

The 1 thing men are most obsessed with is not what you think. It’s an elusive combination of emotion and biological drive that is very rarely satisfied in life or love. When a women can satisfy this obsession, a man will please and pursue her to the ends of the earth. bit.ly/2wtPYw2

[@Nmgmgrand]

alli e SAME

[@AmyAnnLand]

Ugh, that was exactly what I thought. 4 months later and I’m still not over the guy and he’s moved on to many other women...and dropped them like a hot potato. Fucking hurts. I need to move on ASAP. I hate this feeling.

[@ursulak.2691]

Amy Ann Im in a similar boat. He used me and has a gf at home. Hate to feel rejected, tossed like a used rag. But honestly we are better off. It hurts, what helps me is talking bout it with friends. Hang in there gorgeous, he aint worth the tears. He will get whats coming to him

[@hobbyhive]

This is the video I want to rewatch when I meet a new guy to remind myself not to over invest and overthink. Can't love on this video enough! It is a great reminder to choose the path that feeds your self-esteem and self-love and not accept less than that kind of loving behaviour from any potential mate.

[@christianpulisic7784]

Mary O'Hea -Saywell,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!

[@janhughes7786]

Put all your energy and love into yourself and be happy. If a man wants you he will chase you and you can decide if you want to spoil your great life🎉

[@rose_yts]

I'd rather learn algebra and complex square roots than going on a date. I'm not good at Maths, but I am worse at dating games.

[@SpiritMQ]

Same

[@susanarsoniadou3588]

@@SpiritMQ Maths is nice but people are social beings...

[@SpiritMQ]

@@susanarsoniadou3588 I know but if you've bn terribly hurt, then you'd rather do maths than try your luck again at dating

[@brandywalkenten9085]

AMEN!! And my experience with relationships and texting, I think it has done more harm to relationships than good. I’m 50 years old. I have never had so many problems in relationships until texting came along. I allow texting at a minimum ONLY!! I can’t stand it. Don’t get me wrong , it’s handy. But will never allow it to be a part of a relationship like the younger generations.

[@MsHaileyD]

I have seen every one of these 5 from relationships my sister and her friends have or have had. I hope everyone out there remembers that you deserve someone wonderful and great. Never settle for a person or a situation that is unworthy of the spectacular person you are.

[@MsHaileyD]

Everybody Dance No guy is perfect period but anyone who has had any experience with relationships will figure out what they are willing to accept or work with and what they are not. Relationships take work. Either it's something you fight about and get through it, hopefully with one or both parties learn from it and moving forward, or its something that causes a fight and you break up. A relationship is not a fairy tale. It is a reality not the senario you come up with in your mind. It takes work and honest communication to build something worth while. I know too many people that breakup at the first problem and then get back together without ever really addressing the issue that broke them up in the first place and they just end up breaking up a few weeks later and on and on until you are left in a situation that is stagnant and you have to leave before you hate each other all the time. Love is great and wonderful but you have to remember that you can only know how you think and feel, and how you like things. Unless you are honest with each other you're just having a relationship with yourself. Everyone deserves someone that likes them for them, flaws and all, and someone who will want to go work for a life together. There is also a difference between trying to change someone and both parties learning to compromise.

[@marciamwfs9664]

MsHaileyD You're really sweet...can't decide whether you are a breath of fresh air or a lovely ray of sunshine.

[@grumpy_cat1337]

"Never settle" is very dangerous and double edged advice. It might encourage you not to settle with a bad person, but it also might to turn on "look for better" mindset and though you would have good person at your side, you will not settle and try to find better, most likely ending up never finding one.

[@joyejohnsonauthor]

I always sober up by asking myself 'how is he treating me?' Don't think about how you feel, just look at how he's treating you. You may not like the truth, but you're better off forgetting the guy than making excuses just so you can get a fix. If you're part of an intervention, you don't accept excuses from the addict. They are focused on how good the drug makes them feel, not on how the drug is treating them. It's the same with guys. If he's not treating you right, the high you get from being around him is irrelevant. He is bad for your health. Don't contribute to your own destruction by stressing over unresponsive people. That's why you don't hand over your body before you're committed. My brother told me a man will be a monk for a woman he really wants. If he drops out of your life, delete his number. If he decides to come back, be polite but make him do the work. Make room on your horizon for other guys.

[@abernathyomalley9493]

Oh man... I did all of the above in my last relationship. I was way too emotionally vulnerable to start dating again, but I was very attracted to him, and he seemed like I great guy. And he was a good person in a lot of ways, I was just way too willing to compromise my standards in how I was being treated, because I really cared for him.

[@Gabriela323]

I’m going through a tough situation, but Matthew’s videos are really helpful. They give me all the answers I need, and I feel like I’m moving towards finally letting go.

[@Jasminesj569]

I listen to this video more than 10 times. Just met this situation. And guy is quiet and didnt explains anything. I was so hurt and dont know what to do. Thank you for cheer me up with this video. Otherwise i will wait for that guy. Wish you all the best 5+5 is always 10!

[@bridgetmenham5103]

Remember 5 plus 5 IS ten ha ha I've just had that too where second date the guy said hE fancies someone else ..So I'm not chasing him cause 5 plus 5 is ten ha ha xx

[@Wildcamp-lifestyle]

Mathew tells women what they want to hear, instead of what they need to hear. If a man goes quiet, it’s because he’s not particularly interested.

[@neynijuwitasari9008]

Me too , he's been ghosting me for 2 weeks now.. No explanation none..

[@toomuchbutter1496]

@@neynijuwitasari9008 me too! we texted fine and one day suddenly he’s gone. Idk what i did ... but im sure the problem is himself NOT ME. ugh

[@plambeats]

Guys are easily to retreat if girls come on too much. They are easily to get scared. Acting calm and cool and waiting him to come around is the only way to get him. If he didn’t come to you, that just means he is not the one. It’s his loss.

[@dani238159]

I obsess over my behavior sometimes because I'm traumatized from the shitty relationships I have been In... Lol

[@ramneek79]

I hear you

[@MatthewCoast]

Yeah, I think there's a lot of that going around these days

[@marciamwfs9664]

dani238159 To obsess never helped anyone. Search yourself, find what you feel are your flaws, decide whether they are habits; traits you can adjust or improve; or characteristics that make up that intrinsic uniqueness that is you and will always just be. Repair what you can and love yourself for the strength it takes. No one has to be spot on all the time. Love will see the good first and the support it provides will make you strive to be your best to support it in return.

[@whiggygirl]

Same!

[@celestinac1105]

dani238159 me too

[@skylight_gameuse]

truth is if you keep your standards high it's much harder to find someone, prepare to wait for a long time

[@skyfall1481]

It’s a lonely ride sticking to your principles. Never settle.

[@ultimateoptimist5217]

Actually no. If you keep your standards while focusing on God you can not get hurt AND you will meet someone by weeding out the garbage.

[@Ivan-tk7pn]

Love is naturally, standards will make u wait longer

[@skylight_gameuse]

@@Ivan-tk7pn standards protect us from bad people

[@artsyhyd]

Loved the part about choosing long term happiness than just being a chapter in someone’s life 👍

[@crezzytv.4251]

After watching this. I feel like I don’t want to talk to him but he owed me money 😂👍🏼

[@whome2289]

I’ve learned to only lend what I’m willing to lose. Take the loss and move on...his bs is soo not worth the money.

[@danieladebarros]

This was by far your best video, Matthew! I remember when I got to the conclusion that the guy I was in love with wasn't the ideal guy. This thought crossed my mind "Wait! If he doesn't want to commit, how can you consider him the love of your life?" I'm glad I listened to my intuition. I let him go and felt free. Because it takes a loooot of energy trying to make someone love you; or trying to stick with your plan of being with him forever or thinking of new strategies! No! I was exhausted. Now I feel good. Like myself again. 5 + 5=10. Kisses from Brazil!

[@shahrzadmodiri7087]

Wow. This is exhausting. I lost an interest all together. No one has time to keep up pleasing men like this. Men should grow up They are spoil and self center. Where are all the Gentlemen? 😅I rather stay single!

[@redfather5342]

Your thinking of women

[@Adam-cc9ny]

Gentlemen don't date anymore. Feminism has made it too dangerous for normal men to date that is why the majority are just staying single and the only men still appriaching women are that 5% who approach every women they see.

[@shahrzadmodiri7087]

Adam I guess you’re right. I think that goes both ways. Women with quality don’t put themselves out there. There are too many women also like to challenge men. That is how I see it. Although I m a woman and probably should defend women but to me sometimes I can’t blame men because some women hard to deal with which result makes it harder for some men to trust and also good women ending up being alone too....Thank you for your respond.

[@nofybn7794]

PREACH!!

[@nofybn7794]

@@redfather5342 Wrong. Very Wrong. It is men, not women.

[@NarrowPathDiaries]

Here’s the advice my sister gave me: if someone finds you attractive & asks you out, always, always, ALWAYS assume they are taken & work backwards from there! Saves a lot of time & headache once you realize that they can’t or won’t ever meet you in public or it takes them 2 hrs to reply to a simple text message! Watch for the suspicious, erratic/evasive behavior & then you’ll know. Everyone WILL ALWAYS tell you who they really are but you have to know what to look for & you have to listen to your gut instincts

[@thecurrentmoment]

What?! So if a guy asks you out, you assume he is taken and turn him down/evade it? No wonder guys don't want to ask women out

[@NikkoYM]

I wish I had had a talk with your sister a year ago. Not that he is exactly "taken" but, there are other issues which ... if I knew what questions to ask I may have thought twice before getting involved, or taking the relationship too seriously. "I'm having dinner with a friend" is something he had emailed to me 2 months before we met IRL. In my mind I imagined 2 dudes going to a sports bar for burgers or something like that. It turns out "friend" is his ex-girlfriend...who he sees on a very regular basis. I just didn't think to ask for details about his friend during the email exchange. There was a lot of information about their relationship that I would have appreciated knowing before falling for him head over heels.

[@veggie42]

Yes suddenly wanting to meet got me stressed

[@truth322]

Sarah H good advice👌

[@nikkicyrier]

Literally screenshot this. Thank you!

[@estlola2317]

I can't believe how badly this resonates right now. Just met someone I like recently after a very long time and after a few weeks of going out, he's beginning to go silent. Emotional rollercoaster I'm not interested in, but good thing there are other people interested.

[@cynicalnerd2529]

None of this explains why I guy can’t outright tell a girl that it’s not working out. No, you gotta be a coward and ghost them. Edit: I said men specifically because of the title of the video, but the same thing applies for women

[@humanitychangers3846]

I tell you why, we ghost for the same reasons females ghost men. == "We don't care about you, not even for sex"

[@oceejay5148]

@@humanitychangers3846 wow !! Do you really mean this ? This just happened to me lol. So weird

[@DividendFiend]

It's either "be ghosted" or "harsh words".

[@skyfall1481]

I called someone and dumped them, they hung up mid convo. So just ghost now. They don’t want to hear it, don’t waste your time they’ll be angry regardless if your speech is thoughtful.

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

@@DividendFiend That's childish as Hell. Little boys out here on Tinder.

[@lindseyh7505]

Matthew I did the no contact period like you said in your last video and now he's back chasing : )))))

[@khadijasistar]

good girl bravo

[@MatthewCoast]

Good job!

[@ThingsILikke]

OJ Simpson did that to Nicole. Chased after her and broke into her house confessing his love for her once she left him and cut off communication. Clearly, it was a game of control, that he wasn't going to let anyone call the shots but him.

[@lindseyh7505]

Marcia Wagner you are right...

[@MySweetAriane]

Were you guys boyfriend and girlfriend? Or just dating and getting to know each other?

[@justinewhite-hadley3138]

Thank you 7 years I've been in this relationship. I'm 38. Want kids. I'm unmarried waiting for HIM to decide on when HE wants to get married and whether HE wants kids. I've intertwined my entire life with him and if this doesn't work, I have to leave my work, my home, my animals won't have a place to be, etc etc. I wish I'd listened to this year's ago.....

[@edumaros25]

What have you been doing for the last 18 years? How come you haven't find a guy already?

[@francescanapoletano3080]

how that's end up???

[@nofybn7794]

@@edumaros25 18 years?

[@starlistener8285]

I hope you blew that shit up. I blew my life up and started over from nothing after 2 years with a guy like that. F all that. Time frame getting shorter on the ones I've been meeting too.

[@justinewhite-hadley3138]

@@starlistener8285 update: With some much needed counseling, we are doing Much better! He had a lot of issues to work thru as did I. We all do right?! Lol We are celebrating our wedding, after Many covid delays, in 2 months! ♥️

[@lush1276]

I guess I never really knew him at all 😔 ghosting Me.. obviously showed me the real him..

[@potatopotato6180]

I hope you're doing good, ghosting someone after living powerful things with them is so cowardly

[@RunninChic620]

Didn’t even make it to a first date. He completely disappeared. Messed with my head. Almost like stopping on the incline of a rollercoaster, on the way to a climax. This is not right.

[@MuniFu6]

I love this channel but I also always end up kinda sad because of all the mental effort a relationship can take, when it should be such a naturally, spontaneously caring bond

[@marcilk7534]

#6 You tell the guy you're not having sex until marriage. Guys disappear fast at that one. Honestly though, guys need to stop just disappearing. They can at least say it's not working out or they're not interested. I have to do that with guys I'm no longer interested or they text me endlessly. It's just courtesy. A guy who you've went out with at least twice, if he just disappears without a word, that's just being a jerk.

[@EarlyBirdCraft]

Yup. Ball-less insecure beta males

[@JJ-vp3bd]

You gonna make a guy wait years for intimacy?

[@marcilk7534]

Robbie Jackowiak - First, a guy should know within a year if he wants to marry me. It won't need to be years. Second, no one is entitled to my body. If he can't wait, it's his problem, not mine. Third, I prefer guys who have self control, are spiritually minded, and have something of value to offer. Not self-observed men who are more concerned with satisfying their temporal pleasures than building a strong, spiritual connection with another soul. I know men who also wait until marriage. This ridiculous idea that men are owed sex or it would be unjust is completely false.

[@marcilk7534]

Robbie Jackowiak Plus, there's a whole world of meaning to the word intimacy than sex.

[@JJ-vp3bd]

I wanna date you so hard now

[@poppyrose846]

I really needed this , makes me realise that the person I want isn't right for me

[@eleniashioti8754]

All relationships have something to teach us about love and about us and how we love.

[@amyb3585]

“Stop thinking about this shit, send the text and go and live your life”. Pure gold Matthew. This hit me between the eyes and totally resonated.

[@nickygbabe]

I know this is all true but letting go is so bloody hard when I thought I had connected on every level

[@fiona1287]

Life is not all about men and dating.

[@haruny100]

Fn N kinda literally is

[@christinacataldi877]

scott sanger true, but once she’s over the 40’ something threshold and the biological urge to merge and reproduce Mellow out substantially the WHOLE world and all the amazingly cool things there are to do, places to visit, things to study, it’s as though you are waking up from a deep sleep or a wicked spell since puberty is finally loosing its shackles that you find yourself not feeling all that upset about not having a Man! Now you’re thoughts become one of, a Man still sounds wonderful IF it’s going to improve my life and add to it as opposed to wanting a Man at the expense of everything even if it means losing everything!!! Hormones are the Curse!!!

[@hangukhiphop]

@@christinacataldi877 Huh... Sounds a lot like what happens to men with their declining sex drive as they age haha

[@epakerd]

Women ain’t everything either

[@rubylvldup]

LOL

[@Lauralew92]

MATTHEW I THINK THIS IS AN INCREDIBLY GREAT VIDEO AND WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW! But honestly I've watched a lot of your videos for years and they've helped me, not even just in a romantic way, but in understanding human behavior and improving all my relationships and understanding and helping others. Thank you!!

[@tahirihachiaa1626]

You guys are more complicated... than women... for real... no offence 😂...

[@tahirihachiaa1626]

well I'm glad guys like you exist... bless 😙

[@PheebSue]

Men can be real sensitive and immature sometimes but problem is that they never wanna admit it themselves!

[@0fficialdregs]

chick please, women are much worse. He even said it, women over think shit so i rather be immature than overthinking

[@cn1976]

NO, some men run when they feel something real! They are scared. They also have 1 track minds. If they are having issues at work, they bail so they can focus on work.

[@SINNAMON997]

@@cn1976 if it's men that are scared then why do women never aproches men?

[@LisaGemini]

Good video. I did all this in my 20s, and that's why I got divorced at 26 years old. You have to GROW UP, do the work to love yourself first, last and always.

[@kurisktan]

Choose long term happiness with someone who's gonna be your world, not a short term gratification with someone who just see's you as a chapter in their life.

[@Ivy285]

"Because they didn't earn it." Most brilliant reason I have ever heard for why men ghost women.

[@skyfall1481]

Get to know guys over time without sleeping with them, it helps you stay indifferent. Ask lots of questions about their relationship history and if something doesn’t stack up, walk away.

[@najwamd_]

I thought one of the reasons could be "He's dead"

[@smilessmiled2784]

I used to think he was dead. He disappeared for 8 months, he never picks up, never replied to my text or email. So I really thought he was dead.

[@anewloveofficial9137]

When you love someone sometimes you become blind of the red flags about that person because you're only thinking of what makes you happy. I've learned that you need to take a step back for you to prevent from having unnecesssary pain.

[@nitahudson5109]

I love it! He’s “here to teach us to rely on training, not our instincts”. So smart. 5+5 is always 10

[@msjennable]

I really love how you didn't blame the other party in fact it's all things that we need to work on ourselves

[@marlonsmusic]

The way Matthew didn‘t waste any time spitting the bitter truth in my face is sending me

[@shiqsmercy9402]

That was so wonderful. The 5+5=10 was. You never lower your standards to please...

[@Helena-xk5jb]

Matthew, you always say what I need to hear. What everyone needs to hear.

[@gccing]

'5+5 always = 10, it will not vary' I needed that 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@nancynguyen7201]

Thank you for making these "ghosting" videos Matthew, it's a very painful situation that takes a long healing.

[@christianpulisic7784]

Nancy Nguyen,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear

[@juliemiller9760]

I think it's because they want to be fascinated. . .captivated. . .and challenged. Those things are difficult online. If you can't meet soon, and have eye contact, tone of voice, and body language, interest will fade fast. Also, men aren't looking for Miss Right. They're looking for Miss Right Now. Don't be Miss Right Now!

[@arefashionista]

Julie Miller ah man i missed my chance to meet him asap and then he disappear =(

[@kristianjensen5877]

Why wouldn't you meet up soon after meeting someone online though? At least, you can't really be butthurt when someone doesn't want to spend weeks or months "getting to know you" first - that just indicates you have a low level of interest in them or you are otherwise so guarded, that no matter what effort they put into being your text buddy, you will never meet up in person. And that's not really a relationship, that's mental masturbation.

[@nofybn7794]

Yes!

[@teopistorsind9874]

@scott sanger to rid ourselves of narcissists like u.

[@JE-nw1em]

Is there a video on what to do when a guy who disappears or 'ghosts'....tries to make a comeback?

[@KrystinaStar]

Don't make this mistake. I see your "tries" in your sentence. I'm so glad as a Women you never do this. For whatever reason. No reason is Not good enough to not be #1. If your worried or want to know now. You'll always want too know. Starts out wondering if Mr. Ghost has a secret.

[@KrystinaStar]

Carol T. - So True

[@kathyphillips2727]

There was a time a while back..when smack bang in the middle of an intimate moment the guy said.. " I'm not looking for a relationship...so i thought i should tell you up front so i don't hurt you..😆😂 My instant reply to that statement was said in a very calm and matter of fact way.. "Who said anything about getting into a relationship...i didn't..it's the first i've heard about any of it and it's the last thing going on in my mind. " He went silent for quite a bit..and from that moment.. needless to say..the mood and moment were all over. After that..i hadn't heard anything from him in just over a week...and then out of the blue..i get a random text msg that read.. " If i call you, will you speak to me ? " Of course i said yes..because i'd known him for a very long time..and i wasn't even angry with him. He called a few mins later..and said a few things about being busy with work and family and that's why he hadn't been in touch..blahh blahh..waffle..waffle..and then he comes out with.. " I didn't want a relationship..but i do with you." Unfortunately for him i actually meant what i said..and more so after what and when he said it. He showed me exactly who he was right there in that very moment..that he didn't know what he wanted..and that he couldn't be trusted because he waited until the middle of an intimate moment to say it..instead of saying it well before the intimate moment. Had that've been someone else..that may have actually wanted a relationship..but was never given the option to opt out prior to the intimacy. NOT COOL !!! Actions do speak louder than words..and a person's pattern scream's their truth !!! So ladies..there you have it..no need to make excuses for bad behaviour. If you feed bad behaviour..you breed even worse behaviour. I heard a brilliant saying once.. that went... " Listen to your Heart/Gut..because lust makes your head go all stooopid !! 😴😜😝😆😂 🙏

[@rosedeli7821]

You are so smart!

[@thecurrentmoment]

While I agree, I find it interesting how people will judge someone by actions like this as though that is who they are and always will be. It is quite possible that he realised his mistake and decided to never do that again,and to bring that stuff up before intimacy next time. We all make mistakes, and hopefully we learn from them. Nobody tells us how these things work and what you're supposed to do/say, so it is learning by trial and error. You make a lot of mistakes and learn from them and get better. The you become one of the guys who knows what to do - but those guys only know what to do because they made the mistakes and learnt from them, probably earlier on than the guys you ate dating who don't know those things. So don't be too harsh, we are all learning

[@damirapevec6203]

@@thecurrentmoment ok, so he learned it and he won't do it next time.. But this lady he lost forever... Actions always have consequences...

[@astgoddess]

@@thecurrentmoment yes he learned it because she enlightened him. If she let that go he probably wouldn't have learned from it.

[@Aleyna_304]

I so agree with you.

[@ANDJELINA]

This is why I hate dating. I dont want to date anymore...such a waste of time and energy. I just dont know anymore, I dont want to be alone. I've been single for a while. Its not fun anymore.

[@GemmaCraft]

I feel like I’m being yelled at

[@анниелниф]

same here ))))

[@paris8780]

You are loooll he is very good. he is 100% right

[@kenziemmw9486]

I should have been taking notes from you years ago. Where have you been all my life, Matthew Hussey!?

[@nomadcess]

Watching your videos somehow made me okay from feeling empty inside! Thank you so much Matthew! Please keep doing this, it helps and inspire people!❤

[@eugeniaporrasfraga2653]

Loved the unavailable man. I was about to start something with a man who's 39 years old and I'm 21. So I think this video really helps me to define what kind of thing I want with a man that is 18 years older than me. Thank you Matt. Love from Mexico 🇲🇽.

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

If somebody likes you the little things won't matter. He will go out of his the way for you. He will make time for you. He will listen to you and try to understand you.

[@nicolesingleton8454]

He looks like my first love. When I watch him, it's like he's telling me what all went wrong. Lol.

[@rubyc7771]

He loves me He's available He really likes me There was never a day he didn't call or text He can't wait to start a relationship with me I showed I like him too Love him even Were honest and flirty After a very busy 2 weeks he came back a different person Very cold and not texting as often. He's drained and exhausted the whole time Doesn't put as much effort now. Giving him space and time to recover and rest fully but I can't bear this distant. Can't know where he stands now cus he's still not himself.

[@fortunesky4388]

Did you put as much effort as he was putting. That's the no. 1 that makes GOOD MOOD lose interest Also, was the relationship Respectful from the start. He didn't disrespect you and you also didn't disrespect him. These are questions you ask

[@alexandrachirila1917]

i swear this is EXACTLY my story... i am wowed that is a perfect story match. I am truly sorry for this, it hurts like hell. That uncertainty...

[@wezichirwa5398]

Ever thought maybe the person you met initially was the fake and this is the real him? You should look up "love bombing". It's a real thing that narcissistic people do to get you depending on them so they can later abuse you as they wish. You're left thinking that it's your fault they changed but the truth is the person you fell for never existed in the first place.

[@Adam-cc9ny]

Honestly I sort of disappeared on my girlfriend briefly and started to get a little distant because as we were getting more intimate and close I felt like a piece of shit because 1. I didn't feel I was good enough for her - she has far better options. And 2. I couldn't figure out what she ever saw in me and I was thinking I should end this before I get deeper into it. At one point I was in her house and thinking to myself "What the hell am I doing here?"

[@davidbolha]

Look up hypergamy, Briffault's Law for starters. 🤔 Then read Esther Vilar's The Manipulated Man book. Pay close attention to The Chameleon Syndrome chapter. Try also Lawrence Shannon's The Predatory Female book too. 😊 Women always have an agenda when it comes to choosing theri mates. You have to remain impartial & start noticing those small clues that give her off. 🤔

[@j.j.j-x6r]

Save yourself the heartache and listen to this man.

[@juliekrol]

Find your bliss, and when someone comes along, set boundaries so they don’t invade your bliss, you should create something separate with them that adds to your life, not takes away 😊

[@eznosnopes5276]

He also might disappear because he is not attracted to you. Might be something you've done or something you are. It might not even be something wrong with you, just something that makes you incompatible. I had someone try these 'tricks' with me and I just ended what was left of the friendship. I'm not stupid and neither are most men. You can't trick someone into a meaningful relationship and you can't get any guy or girl you want by 'gaming' them. If you are a horrible person he will eventually see through all of the 'game'. If you want an exceptional guy, then make sure you are offering things of equal worth to what you are asking for, be that looks, personality, success, dependability, thoughtfulness...or whatever. Having standards when you have nothing to offer for meeting those standards is pointless. What I'm saying is work on yourself and develop qualities that make being around you worth while for anyone in your life. If you are someone that is truly great fun, can help carry a conversation, looks good, is reasonable, can think about his emotions too (instead of only your own), you are going to stand out compared to a lot of women he meets. Your standards will be meaningful because on the other side of them is someone rare he wants to be with.

[@terriesmith8219]

Ezno Snopes~Preach!👏👏👏💯💯💯

[@MatthewCoast]

This is true

[@marciamwfs9664]

Ezno SnomuchThank you! I was beginning to think this section was just a whistling wind of pointlessness. You are too right! Unfortunately, often all you get is a first impression. And there are so many things that can intercept all the positives you have to offer. They say anything worth while takes work. I'm still stubborn enough to call the fate card. I have a lot of work ahead of me. Life alone calls me in different directions currently. I am not a people pleaser, though I care and want to spare everyones feelings always. There is only one you. The idea that someone's interest could hang on a physical feature, your laugh or smile, how gracefully you move, knowledgeability in limited, obscure areas, how submissive you are, your career or monetary value, your contributions to society or the global platform, how willing you are to change or suppress what makes you unique. It aggravates me. I'm willing to learn more about someone, but I have yet to find someone who isn't superficial and is willing to dig deeper than the obvious. The only positive is the constant look of surprise throughout your time together when you do something they didn't expect, didn't know you had knowledge of, or didnt know you were capable of. Drawback- constantly being under valued, under appreciated, and underestimated. What I want is probably a needle in a hay stack. Raising standards so you don't fall back into the blah life of good enough is right and should be embraced. However, it seems to cut you off at the knees. They tell you "you will be better off in the end", but they don't say how much strength you need to love yourself to get there. Why isn't there just a shortcut or something that jumps you ahead to either happy in yourself or in a relationship, stamped and posted, express mail

[@twistsnkicks]

@scott sanger Exactly. Modern Humans have overcomplicated even the simplest things. Survival/self-presevation and reproduction are really the only things Humans live for. Anything else is delusion.

[@gosiama480]

I'm like that and ive been still ghosted.