The Top Things a Guy Could Do on a Date that Would Make Me want to Sleep With Him

[@zachtripp6824]

It is uplifting to see a woman talk about men in a positive, non-demeaning manner. Makes me feel good about myself as a man and good about women in general.

[@ypokerface5521]

so true it has become more and more rare

[@mitchellnelson6249]

Absolutely agreed, honestly you're the only female youtuber I watch on the subject of game/seduction because you're actually being honest which most women will not do. They don't want men to know these things lol

[@davidbutler5101]

Simp

[@brucecates3772]

yes full credit to her for being so honest and forthcoming

[@mattslupek7988]

@@mynonleatherlife I’m so glad you made this video. You’re saying you actually want us men to succeed at attaining the happiness we want (and deserve), too. I know that I probably shouldn’t assume, but I’m guessing that you have a brother and you want to see him be happy and find love, and from that, you figure other men deserve the same happiness, and you’re trying to help. I could see my sister seeing this video and sending it to me. We always hear, “I was sending you signals all night”. We don’t read minds, so this was quite helpful, because sometimes we figure there’s something wrong with US, so our confidence continues to plummet more and more with each rejection. Again, thanks for the tips.

[@mannojkummar9226]

1) Sleep around girls , to become self confident even girls fall for these kind of guys. Sexual confidence 2) Make her feel hot, desirable, comment her appearance not straight up, indirect compliments 3) Hand touch , physical touch non threatening. Giving her brain signals for sexual approach through casula touch. 4) At the end of the date ask her to come back to your place. Ask her casually. But always Ask. Shows u r confident,try to kiss her make a move, girls wants to makes u make the move be the first to move, 5) While making out don't rush for sex do foreplay, enjoy the foreplay move slow to sex. Don't act desperate, Be generous. 6) complicate while making out and while.havimg sex.

[@phillipteagarden7259]

Girls shouldn't expect too much "savoir faire" from a young man. A man new to intimacy will have a very difficult time with "what to do".

[@flavioks5438]

Guys she is just wow, even puts the effort to write things in description she is basically our heroine..

[@danstylus1]

Yeah the description writing definitely shows she cares about her viewers benefit it's not like she has to and I'm sure there's plenty of channels that don't do that but the extra effort pays a million times over

[@CoreyJonesMotivation]

Okay you're the coolest woman in the world. No other woman has ever said guys deserve to sleep with as many women as they want consensually. That's not normally heard and you get a standing ovation from me.

[@simonsays5193]

Agreed!

[@hermesalonso3968]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@latinaalma1947]

Well my man slept with well over 100 females and he certainly understands women...all great to me. He started at 14 with a 16 yr old and by college had a reputation as a great lover. He always treated girls as a gentleman...always respectful but yes he was hot..knew all the ways to physically please a woman...made sure THEY came first , took it as a happy challnge. As a result girls who had difficulty got recommened to him and he was happy to oblige...maybe men dont want a woman who has slept around I dont know, but I assure you women want a lover who can control his orgasm , who will want to please her multiple ways. I had never met anyone like him before and I was 31. Granted I was a serial monogamist plenty of sex but with just four or five guys and mostly the same two before I met him. He drove me crazy..and still does 40 yrs later. No way was I EVER turning him lose but I held him lightly in my hand like a wild bird...open handed..never insecure...never acted like I was jealous or possessvie we make the choice anew each day to be together..his choice to stay or go the moment he got bored...well, he NEVER did. And he is better NOW than 40,yrs ago because he can last alot longer and he makes me orgasm alot longer...20 to 30 minutes! I barely orgasmed once or twice before the age of 40! Hooray for men with experience I say....much better lovers the more variety they have had, they have a MUCH larger behavioral repetoire!

[@edwardpinto7018]

Plenty of women hold that opinion, all my lovers do

[@CoreyJonesMotivation]

@@edwardpinto7018 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I'd like to shake your hand!😄

[@josephfarrar8534]

"Compliment the girl during making out and sex." Now THAT sounds like gold. Those are extra parts of the experience which could involve no speech, but they are good places to add approval of her and make her feel sexy, in the moment. Good advice!

[@TheNationOfTexas]

Absolutely. I've noticed that a simple "wow, your lips are really soft.." or "I like the way you move.." can make a world of difference for her.

[@anupamjoshi7231]

How honest the girl is and how she feels she talk deeply about it rather than giving the same confusing advice other relationship coach gives . I really really like this thing from any other tips or dating advice on of other channels this thing is the real deal I just from 2 to 3 days only watching her videos And also all the youtube algorithm turns rest videos into her videos showing me I am so so at peace in my head . Thanks Victoria Great love

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks Anupam!!

[@PhactorPhiction]

This why I like older cougar types because they bring it on faster than I do. Older woman know what they want and they go for it. I think the tips are good ones but guys shouldn’t have to do all of it the girl is super into the guy. Believe me, I’ve had multiple women make the first move while in public and jump me once we’re alone. I’m into that.

[@XxKINGatLIFExX]

That's what I've been dreaming of for almost 13 years now. Never happened, what would you say they like most about you?

[@ksaboxing2248]

i give up on chasing after women gotta focus on my life especially since my mum passed away

[@needparalegal]

There is no life without women.

[@ksaboxing2248]

@@needparalegal there no life with out a man to bro that why be proud being a man

[@needparalegal]

@@ksaboxing2248 I am an energy vampire who needs to feed on female energy. I sip lightly so they do not feel the drain and replace more than I took with different kinds of energy.

[@Ja_cky7039..]

@@needparalegal wtf

[@sauceyyg3938]

@@Ja_cky7039.. bro tripping 😂

[@PrimordialWaterPracticalMatter]

In other words, when on a date: try not to spend too much time with air and earth. Remember to use some fire and water also.

[@env0x]

What?

[@ericstaples7220]

Okay, Avatar.

[@PrimordialWaterPracticalMatter]

@@env0x (Ok so you understood everything she’s talking about in the video right? Good.) I am into Astrology. AIR and EARTH are MENTAL. Air and Earth both deal with the MIND/thinking. Whereas WATER and FIRE are FEELING based. The air signs and the earth signs are the thinkers. The water signs and the fire signs are the feelers.

[@PrimordialWaterPracticalMatter]

@@ericstaples7220 Right on👍

[@samcawood2037]

That’s everything I needed to know.

[@illalexei]

The rule of thumb about the complements is, the complements you use on a date cannot be used with the female members of your family: aunts, sisters, etc. These should be about her legs, eyelashes, neck, etc, and finally, her “ass”. Use that exact word, that will telegraph to her that you view her first and foremost as a woman, not just as a conversation partner. Also, 100% agree on the importance of using the touch. In fact, without it, there’s almost no way moving to the next stage, and that is the kiss.

[@KrishnarajRaoUrbanNaxal]

Your advice is gold. Making young men more observant, confident and socially competent is a win-win. Very constructive. Amazing content, straight from the heart. I am very impressed indeed!!!

[@whiteclouds618]

Uncle you are here 😁

[@kevinbutler6165]

Scandalous....I like scandalous, Victoria. I've found that my best successes with women on dates came from just being authentically, unapologetically *masculine*. Nothing forced, phony, or weird. A man has to be comfortable in that frame, before he can ever expect the object of his desire to be on board with it. I absolutely enjoy building that sexual tension with a woman. If done right, she pursues me. Much respect for your work here. Thanks.👊🏾

[@hillsideonly]

How do you build the tension?

[@RupertMcGruber]

This!

[@carolinewells4355]

Im a pursuer😊 Its like the masculine energy puts me in that trance state, and anything goes at that point.

[@NicheID]

You’re an oracle. I really appreciate the way in which you take your audience on a journey explaining complex human sexual psychology in a practical and easy to digest fashion. You’re truly a treasure.

[@TastyGrilledCheese]

You are amazingly authentic and vulnerable and this is gold.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you very much...were you already doing the suggestions in the video or was any of it surprising to you

[@TastyGrilledCheese]

@@mynonleatherlife I only "surfaced" from my life of social anxiety and started trying with girls a few years ago. I am still an anxious mess on dates. The tension of exactly the undercurrent you are talking about and my sexual shame destroys me. I get all "nice guy waiting for permission" on them. I can see the excitement in her eyes die when she realizes I'm afraid of her. I do not give women they experience they were hoping for. I can see the "...I just can't" on their faces. So I realize what women want from me but I'm such a mess I can't give it to them.

[@mynonleatherlife]

@@TastyGrilledCheese relate to multiple things you said...also had massive social anxiety, and probably even more massive sexual shame which might have been one of the causes of my social anxiety. Now my sexual shame is mostly gone but it can still resurface and SA is better but not always great lol. What do u feel the problem is for u with ur sexual shame....for me it was feeling comfortable with my hypersexuality, special interests, becoming an exotic dancer for a few years, and coming out about it to my friends and family.

[@mynonleatherlife]

feel free to dm me on ig at greenelover if u don't want to broadcast that for eternity here on the net

[@TastyGrilledCheese]

@@mynonleatherlife see my message?

[@ola...o1009]

I’ve been caught up in the conversation a few times that I forget to talk about what stuffs that sparks up the sexual chemistry or tension.

[@zuniga504]

@@adox8574 a good tip for that is too keep eye contact and watch her very carefully put less attention on the conversation and more attention on her eyes she will blush and look away when do something right and sometimes us men can crave attention and we are not wrong for it but remember that role you play is just a role (ive also noticed that woman is which i didn't share the same values with i would get turned off and friend zone her by debating that might also be whats going on )

[@FranzVonGaart]

the abrupt ending to this video was really funny and endearing. great info.

[@jamiegofigure2869]

Where have you been all my life. I needed this stuff since high school and my younger adult life when I was much lighter on my feet. Now here I am at 57 and weigh more than I EVER thought I would and you come into my life letting me know (of course in the nicest/sweetest way) all the things I’ve been doing wrong all these years. I really needed your videos a couple of decades back I “liked” & “subscribed.”

[@AlwaysPeacefulMaDeuce]

Sorry to hear you let yourself go bud. Remember, you don’t want to find the right woman, you want to be the man the right woman wants. Good luck.

[@nangaeboko6710]

Actually asking a lady back to your place no matter what is Great advice!!

[@BrothaNeo]

This is great information being shared. For me, I have realized that our American society programs us men to be weak Beta male nice guys. That being said, analyzing my own life and dealings with women, I realized all last year and until now, that the beta Male nice guy mindset SUCKS and it DOES NOTHING sexually positive for us men lol! Our society doesn't teach us much relationship sexual material that we NEED to know (men and women). I had to learn so much on my own. Now I know why when I would meet a woman, and then the same week I'm either in her bed or she is in mine lol. Or when we don't get that far. Today I realized how important sexual energy and chemistry is between a man and a woman! I love Victoria's video's because she is one of the few here on KZbin who is AUTHENTIC! Her energy is authentic and she's not trying to be EXTRA at all to impress anyone. Thank you for this video also.

[@MrVixxx69]

I agree bro been taking off the layers that I thought were correct which are all fake.

[@BrothaNeo]

@@MrVixxx69 Great! All of us men and women NEED some form of mental, emotional, and spiritual work done on ourselves. Real talk.

[@johnnycray4427]

No one can program you. You are either born with strong characteristics, or weak ones.

[@BrothaNeo]

@@johnnycray4427 If that is how you feel and want to believe then that is absolutely your choice. For me, I have studied the power of the subconscious mind, KNOW and experienced it's power. So mental programming is actual. You can go look it up on KZbin and check out various books for yourself. The subconscious mind.

[@fastingislife3766]

Just leave the west #sysbm #travel #leavethewest #blackpill

[@vikrammore8915]

Just brilliance. You're observation skill. Psychology of the women in the moment. And minute detailing in the delicate moment. And how to lead in the intimate minutes is just of such a great value that coming young generations will be thankful. Just love you. Take care.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you Vikram!!!

[@pjleon8391]

Fellas, a date is no different than a job interview, be confident, charasmatic, have a decent resume, a plan/purpose, smile, tell a joke, give complements & MAKE EYE CONTACT! Sell yourself like a million bucks & she'll definitely consider you highly qualified & Before you know it she will give you The "Job" 😏 Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance! ✌️

[@CellGames2006]

What you're forgetting is that it goes both ways... You're also evaluating HER to become your girlfriend / wife and if she fails to act properly, she will be disqualified too. Don't be a simp...

[@fredseymour1224]

Guys, she is being 100% truthful. She is giving you direct insight into the Female psyche.

[@bleish.]

Totally disagree

[@monteurevig9053]

@@bleish. TROLL you dont know what you don't know

[@grantthompson645]

Been binging your videos and you are so spot on! When I started complimenting women I finally started getting results! Not pickup stuff but honestly saying what I'm feeling. If I think she's beautiful I say it, if I think the way she does her hair is cute I say it. I kept reading pickup advice like 'don't compliment women' 'don't give them validation' 'ignore women and focus on your work'. Where do you think this terrible advice came from?

[@lisaariottiart]

100% Agreed -- There where dates I went on where I was totally attracted to the man until he started with PU Negs on my looks or sarcasm- or ignoring. Do that and all bets are OFF. What drives me wild is if a man makes an effort to engage my intellect then notices details about my look--- And if we are kissing or having sex and he verbalizes his attraction to my face or body its the BEST feeling in the WORLD. While dating I love to hear a Man talk passionately about his work especially philosophically or if there is a business strategy to his success I actually like to hear how their mind works -- (that's just me as an independent, intellectual woman) If they can move from that masculine mental space to suddenly observing qualities about me that they find feminine and attractive - omg it lights my fire and makes me instantly submissive. Also, if Im attracted to a Man during a conversation and he is wearing Cologne and it intoxicates me I will tell him that he smells so good or will lean into his neck and breath him in --- Ummm That should be a MASSIVE cue to the guy to stay physically close to me all night and when he feels it to make a physical power move -- I'm an introverted/ extrovert. I usually have to be seduced and tempted into engaging sexually as I spend a lot of time in my head and my masculine energy during my work. I have to trust be comfortable feel protected feel special to him and be impressed with his life skills or his talents and abilities that are revealed in natural conversation. The men who got to me sexually were the ones who could observe my personality/ engage me conversationally /yet stay focused on their sexual goal. A competent, confident man in pursuit where I am his primary target each time we meet is the hottest. When a Man can tell energetically that I'm comfortable with his touch he has license to Bust a move and pull me in for the kiss at a restaurant against a wall in a cab on the street at an event on a balcony at sunset under a full moon in nature ......There are lots of moments to make it Wow! Here is a recent story. I have been single for almost 2 years. I met a handsome young man who pulled this strategy and won. It took about 4 meetings part business / part flirting and a lot of conversation. I would say I started as a luke warm target. What he did right- In between the flirting he studied me, engaged my mind- observed my body language and when he could tell I was physically attracted and comfortable with him close to me out of no where he busted a Cave Man power Move and had me swept in his arms in less than a second. 😍😍😍 A few moves he did to check my submissiveness- He fed me sweets- literally was like come here and had me take a bite of a choc donut 😂. He asked me to help put his chain on his neck -- if you are that guy that is a hot move. While I was waiting outside for valet to get my car he told me to sit down in the valet chair -- I immediately sat. The only thing I wish out there is that men would stick with the easy girls who want casual sex to improve their bedroom skills and leave the more challenging women for relationships. The goal for most women is to have a passionate relationship not a million ONS. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@mooselittlethunder]

@@lisaariottiart Thank you for sharing. It was insightful.

[@hillsideonly]

@@lisaariottiart profound, thanks for the lay down. How to find women who are down for casual sex though?

[@lisaariottiart]

@@hillsideonly They are everywhere... 90% of todays women would be down for sex at any given time if you are confident and they think you are hot. I'm a hyper-sexual person in the context of a committed relationship- I have enough D discipline to stop attraction if I see signs the man is gaming or sees me as a conquest. Its an oxy- moron to want hot sex & commitment ---but Its how I'm wired. Feeling safe, desired and protected by a man is the key that opens my mind and body. I will say. Timing can have a lot to do with openness. Say I'm physically and mentally attracted to a man and he knows it and Im blocking his energy because he is moving toward me in lust... If he puts in a long game of over the course of time - by subtly flirting and being seductive then he eventually pulls a grand gesture -- he can could move the dial. I would encourage men to work hard at winning in all aspects of their life, mind, body and spirit then set the sexual bar higher. Men who are clean, stylish m, confident and good at what they do can get anyone. You will have a better more interesting life if you aim high for yourself and best of all could find a person that mutually wants to adore you and devour you💓 That's the holy grail. Props to Victoria for her amazing, provocative channel .

[@hayley179g]

I think maybe in certain PUA circles, they focus on data from drunk models coming out of clubs, so they have a bunch of sycophants using game on them, telling them their hair is beautiful, they're so beautiful, do they want to come home with them? Compliments aren't a meal ticket, so to speak, but I don't think there's anything wrong with being honest and sincere and complimenting someone, when you're also talking about something else in the meantime.

[@saintchito]

It is said that you don't ask the fish the advice on how to catch her , you ask the fisherman, but rarely we might experience an honest and frank woman who can make great points and share meaningful, valuable advice. I appreciate you and commend you for being true and real. Being so is very attractive alone. I get sexually stimulated when i meet or experience honest women nowadays. Subscribed. Keep it up.

[@pocketdweller3771]

Agreed! Always skeptical taking advice about women from women but yes, she makes some valid points. The main thing I’d disagree is giving too many compliments/validation….I make em earn that because attention is a woman’s currency….how on earth will you stick out if you simp like the rest of em’….it’s ultimately sad that it always boils down to sick, psychological games 😅

[@CellGames2006]

@@pocketdweller3771 It's not games, just common sense... Why would you be complimenting another person just for existing? Do you do that to your friends? To yourself?

[@abrajean9634]

Yes and yes. I'm a woman and I just discovered your channel. Fun to watch.

[@TeamGarhkumaon]

Do you agree with what she said?

[@deni_lerefare]

I go more for a push-pull than a compliment. Always worked

[@astrohimseIf]

@@michelangelo4701 it's very good thing u realized it

[@bernhardhoffmann530]

You are absolutely right that the man has to take the first step in kissing her. I made this experience several times and mostly it comes out of intuition. By the way you do a great job and I appreciate your effort a lot 😉

[@RS-ef2ow]

Good job on the hand placement for the thumbnail.

[@frahohen]

I don't like dating how it is nowadays, because I think about that, but the compliment is forced in my perspective. I am not the guy that wants to compliment someone just to get into her pants. I want that it feels natural. I had some days ago an interesting experience. She, the girl I was writing with, felt a little depressed and distant and the only thing I did was that I said that she has her heart on the right place and that she should not feel ashamed about her condition, because everyone of us has misfortune these days. Yesterday she started writing with me. So basically this was natural, because I wanted to lift her up and give her a different perspective about herself.

[@SinghJaspreet96]

The funny thing is I always had this man within me, but I was told to keep him down and put on an act... fuck that let me tap into the primitive man.

[@mayankkohli1322]

💯

[@realamericannegro977]

You can't listen to anything a woman tells you. She just wants you to want her.

[@g_user3]

I blame hollywood

[@SinghJaspreet96]

T U R K Hollywood sends us that message, but it’s the idea of romance. Romance is something that happens in a later stage of a relationship.

[@SinghJaspreet96]

Real American Negro yeah man. I think if you stand tall in yourself and face the world, a woman will find that nice.

[@kingkong905]

I agree with this. That's why I try to balance conversation with playful flirting. If you don't show you're interested in the woman, she's probably gonna feel you only see her as a friend.

[@xMontorix]

This video screams "You should be able to read a womans mind"

[@fcjeske5]

This makes me wanna jack off instead if I gotta be a psychic and a source of income

[@Mr.G_Rattlesnake]

I didn't get that vibe at all.

[@xMontorix]

@@Mr.G_Rattlesnake This video is pretty much "Read a womans mind. You should know what she wants without her ever telling you or expressing it". Which is trash. Woman need to learn how to communicate what they want.

[@Mr.G_Rattlesnake]

@@xMontorix You don't have to read minds, if you invite a girl into a world that you've already creates for yourself and if she doesnt fit with the program that you created than get rid of her and on to the next girl. Theirs to many girls out here to get caught up on one girl, expand your horizons.

[@xMontorix]

@@Mr.G_Rattlesnake Bro. You're overdoing it with the point I was trying to make. This video is just about reading a girls mind. Period.

[@gabrielguzman6018]

This was 2 years ago then why am I just getting notified about this now.....Great info most women will not tell things like this

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thx Gabriel

[@bleish.]

What she says may be true only for her and other women who are her type or from her culture. Not every woman is like her or her type or from her culture. The overwhelming majority aren't.

[@edwardpinto7018]

Can confirm that all these things “work”. I watched the video, and realized I do all these things a LOT. Especially the complements, and of course I mean the things I say. I’m overwhelmed with lovers, who are all amazing people, and I think it’s mostly just because I try really hard to be nice to people and really honest about what I want.

[@balancer182]

The "nice" part, won't that make you fall into the nice guy trap? I think you mean you are generous and accommodating.

[@marshalldecouto7079]

You are the most honest straight-talking woman I think I have ever heard....and I am not a pimply 20 year old. Soon to be divorced (and many of you know what that can do to your mojo) and your videos have woken me up to my power and potential. Thank you!

[@mynonleatherlife]

I am so glad to read that Marshall. AWESOME. Thank you for your comment. How do u think the vids got u to wake up to your power and potential like was it any specific point or themes in them?

[@marshalldecouto7079]

@@mynonleatherlife I am just seeing your reply! Much of what you talk about confirmed what I know about myself but my authentic self had not been accepted in my marriage over these years

[@jackLoveX]

when your girl sends you this video with a heart and you realize youve been doing everything right your entire life despite what society tells you to do - legendary

[@W3stm0rel4nd]

This... is my favorite ... voice and delivery on media, right now. Which is a completely valuable dimension aside from the insights.

[@crabbubbles1161]

I like that this woman is giving insight into how to 'get' a woman but the thing is this is way too much work and 'tightrope walking'. Getting a woman to like you shouldn't be like storming normandy on D day. It's ridiculous.

[@mynonleatherlife]

It is kinda ridiculous unfortunately a lot of guys do this stuff naturally so I’m tryin to give the ones who don’t some pointers

[@AxleBoost]

D day. Ha

[@jknott1509]

So you cry bc she gives some advice?

[@PassRush49]

@@mynonleatherlife And, unfortunately, most of those "guys who do this stuff naturally" are jackasses. And I know from experience. However, I really do appreciate the advice you're giving men. There's something about you that's very genuine.

[@davidrivas6412]

Hahaha good comparison. Storming Normandy on d day is a blood bath slaughter fest

[@risk9446]

Women like you is high value. Very calming and respecting man

[@Aaron-u3u]

Your content is amazing and spot on I have to say.

[@JW-iz6mv]

Got married when i was 22 and have been married 46 years.Guys this young Lady is offering you the best online advice available. Just take her advice and things will be better for you....

[@maygun4030]

Men.... Listen to her. This is some great advice!:)

[@tomermahlis12]

🕺

[@luker1hutcher315]

haha gotta love auto-dictate "it doesn't have to take one kind of TONY!" (tone) lol. 🤣 Another great and insightful video. Thanks Victoria with the beautiful hands!

[@gavinactivateja3869]

they say dont give women validation but some girls it jus comes natural to compliment her...it aint a simp move but u gotta connect with the woman bruhh

[@brentboost2879]

Imagine being this ignorant

[@gavinactivateja3869]

@@brentboost2879 please elaborate

[@RyderGroveSt]

Of course feed her scraps but don’t be that guy that tells a girl “Damn you fine” every 10 minutes.

[@gavinactivateja3869]

@@RyderGroveSt hell naa cant be that thirsty lol hellll naaahhhhh

[@jaamaan123]

Nice one again ! Not dating at all but keep on learning how to go through all the fazes in my 25+ year marriage ;)

[@mynonleatherlife]

Awesome...I love that...let me know how it goes if u try any of these out

[@Rand0mN0rwegianGuy]

So about this part of the video, in particular: *3. "Always ask her at the end of the date if she wants to come over to your place to hang out in a non pressure filled way. Say you want to show her something you mentioned in the conversation. This will give her an excuse to come over if she wants to. Whether she says no or yes, the fact you asked shows you have confidence. I respected this and it increased the guy's attractiveness in my eyes. Often I only considered going over just cause I was impressed they had the confidence to ask."* How does that apply then if you´re, for example, *already having the date at your own place?* For example, on my first (and only lol, so far) date, that I was on same time last year, we hung out my place (it went very well btw :-) even though, you know, we didn't end up... well, "getting it down", or anything like that. But it was nice). I have a tiny little one-man apartment. Anyways; so say, for example, that that happens again the next time I'm on a different date, some time in the future - either at her place or mine - do I then need to take a "different approach" to this then, given the circumstances are different? Because I don't feel like it applies here all too easily lol. Sorry for the poor explanation, not really sure how to put it in any other way that makes sense. Oh, and if you´re curious, or if it matters - I'm 22 (23 in a few months). Anyway - love the videos, just subscribed :-) keep up the good work!

[@paulbaerwald8055]

“Thank you” and “you feel so good, where have you been all my life.”, I’ve heard are nice things to say.

[@simpletrading04]

Rule number one of dating: there is no rule. Every human is different, you will always attract your like anyway. Some guys get girls but telling bad Jokes and by being super pervert, but ignoring them, by being rude, romantic... The only real secret is to have confidence in every aspect of life.

[@mannyaz11]

well said my Friend

[@LuisAngel-mu4zv]

True

[@basic204]

Actually that how I got my last GF. When we were out and talking I just stopped and look in her eyes for around 3 to 5 seconds and then smiled and said "You know your really cute with that beautiful smile."

[@XxMIgHTYBoBxX1]

Me: Has anyone ever told you that you have very nice feet? Her: :/

[@Leukick]

Loll every girl has different views on that, some of them like it some of them don't

[@Rand0mN0rwegianGuy]

Ok this made me laugh out loud lol, well done. The use of that text-emoji was brilliant hahah

[@noobie7719]

@@michelangelo4701 Actually, if I’m wearing sandals this would be good to hear...cuz I actually DO have nice feet...and this comment naturally needs to be followed by a foot massage! 😁👍

[@lambroyannoulatos964]

@@noobie7719 Which of course has to be private and lead on to "higher body levels"!

[@Roosyer]

@@Rand0mN0rwegianGuy lolololol

[@ayatan9119]

Lmao I wanna show you my guitar. 🤣 good one...

[@brucecates3772]

Awesome thanks for this honesty and transparency many will appreciate this.

[@josephpalanuk1034]

Confidence, compliments, connections. The dumb down version of how to get good with the opposite sex and yes it goes both ways .

[@cptbob100]

This was really insightful and I enjoy the way you explained it. It's good to hear the female perspective. Not everything women say makes sense but this does to me! Haha

[@robwitkowski4094]

This channel has changed my life

[@mynonleatherlife]

really?? do tell!! how has it changed your life?

[@robwitkowski4094]

@@mynonleatherlife I'm 31 and I can count the women I've been with on one hand. Everyone always assumes that I've been with dozens of women because Im decent looking and pretty funny. It made feel like there was something wrong with me and it left me feeling resentful because I felt i had so much love to give. I found one of your videos on reddit and I started down a rabbit hole that night that has not only changed the way I look at myself but the way I look at women. I have sooo much more empathy for women now that I understand. It all seemed so cruel before. By the way your voice is dripping with sex appeal and you have a sexy meg Myers thing going

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you very much Rob and sorry I missed your follow up comment! So happy for you!

[@mynonleatherlife]

What do u think helped u get more empathy for women

[@robwitkowski4094]

@@mynonleatherlife haha thats okay. Ironically i was watching your videos again when you replied. Its kind of amazing you take the time to answer at all. I think the honest insight you give in your videos helps alot with feeling more empathy towards women. I wish i could say i became some kind of pick up artist from watching your videos but im not. i still struggle but i have made increadible improvments. I see so much of the things i do wrong now, where before i just had no clue. i talk to women alot more now and i even get a fair amount of phone numbers, unfortunately thats usually as far as i get. I often feel like child trying to date experienced adults.

[@dvanheld]

Love the advice! Maybe try a youtube live with like a ask me anything type of video that lasts for an hour or so. I bet that would get tons of views and would raise your watch time for your channel a ton. Just an idea. You Rock!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Very very good idea...thank you for that

[@rg3412]

Absolutely terrific insights. I can’t believe it took so long for me to find your channel. Your analysis are exceptional and rare on KZbin.

[@pierrecamus]

Amazing analysis & scenario breakdown. You Insightful Girl!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks a lot. Any part u liked in particular

[@pierrecamus]

@@mynonleatherlife Nothing super specific. Just the overall descriptive nature and psychological discernment you exhibit is sharp!!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Pierre Camus thanks a lot. I hope it helps you enjoy consensual romance in the future

[@zeiddouak9833]

when I hear such sincere no demanding messages I just say Thank GOD for such mesengers May GOD blesses those sincere words and works

[@youriaa9930]

hey victoria! your videos are so great! as a woman i can tell that i resonate with literally everything u say, big love! btw: you look gorgeous!

[@mynonleatherlife]

oh wow, I love to hear from women. I don't get too many seeing my videos. I'm so glad u resonate with them and thank u very much!!!

[@youriaa9930]

​@@mynonleatherlife

[@waggawaggaful]

These are all great points. And really, you shouldn't want anything to do with a man unless he thinks you are beautiful and you light up his mind and body.

[@Vegetasinghyadav]

"U are doing god's work because if sex is sin, he is the biggest sinner" ~ a saiyan

[@classicheraldgameplays5364]

Who is he?

[@Vegetasinghyadav]

@@classicheraldgameplays5364 ur dad

[@classicheraldgameplays5364]

@@Vegetasinghyadav ♥️🥰

[@SukhdeepSingh-jt9qk]

😂😂😂😂 thank you so much for coming on KZbin.

[@icemanchambers1207]

Hearing Tips about Women from a Woman itself is I think more valuable than most Guys giving Advices in this Platform. Even though this Video is 2 yrs. Old, Thank You

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks a lot

[@fredhanna3769]

Really enjoy your perspective on dating the absolutely do's and don'ts on dating. Also revealing the female wants and needs. Thank you.

[@dovesandbats447]

Society and women are neglecting men we feel worthless deep down

[@mosthated.e.2422]

You don’t need society to validate your self

[@mosthated.e.2422]

@Reddy Reddy but they are to the right kind of man

[@dameanvil]

02:45 🗣 Undercurrent of the Date: Don't just focus on surface-level conversation; create an undercurrent by complimenting and making the girl feel desired. 08:00 💑 Non-Threatening Touch: Light, non-threatening touches, like brushing hands or an arm touch, can enhance the romantic atmosphere. 09:28 🏡 Inviting to Your Place: To express confidence, always ask if the girl wants to come back to your place at the end of the date, even if it's nonchalant and pressure-free. 10:01 💋 Making the Move: When in a private setting, don't hesitate to make a move and try to kiss the girl; waiting for her to initiate may not be as appealing. 11:08 🚦 Sexual Generosity: Avoid rushing or making sex transactional; be patient, generous, and focus on enjoying the moment rather than aggressively pursuing pleasure. 12:42 💬 Compliment During Intimacy: Bonus tip - Compliment the girl during makeout sessions and sex; it is appreciated and enhances the overall experience.

[@Eric-ny5sj]

Hey Victoria, I just found your channel, have been binging your videos all day. Thank you for putting yourself out there for my benefit. even though we've never spoken irl I feel like you are the first person in a long time who is just in my corner trying to help me, much appreciated, have an awesome week :)

[@mynonleatherlife]

Eric thank you. I’m touched and inspired by what u wrote. Is there anything else u want to know about that I could make a vid on or assist u to learn

[@Eric-ny5sj]

@@mynonleatherlife Good question...maybe you mentioned it in another video already but any ideas on how to reframe bitter/jaded/self righteous attitude that guys get after they are hurt in a breakup, divorce etc. Calling girls sl0ts and b!tches as an excuse to not give them a chance and be open and vulnerable. If you have heard of MGTOW it can be real hard to break out of that conditioning. In your opinion what are some healthy beliefs and views to have about women so men can be open again.

[@mynonleatherlife]

That’s really a brilliant question and one I am screenshotting cause I have a lot of ideas for. Thank u. I’ll report back

[@kenr4709]

Thank you Victoria for your candor and insight, it really helps a guy to understand what goes through a woman’s mind when going out on a date and getting Intimate. So, thank you very much! 13:09

[@johnnycray4427]

She dated a "ton of guys". Her poor bf

[@mynonleatherlife]

virgins only for u too huh?

[@homiesenatep]

@@mynonleatherlife he probably meant cheating

[@Fábiodarealdeal]

LMAO dude.... You just wish you were her Stop hating

[@youngpavblo7255]

why? we all have to share each other hahah

[@gabrielguzman6018]

With a women dating a ton of guys you have to be better than her past dates/boyfriends. Because chances are you won't be long term

[@miloradtrandafilovic6466]

Best video I've seen to date where almost every question I had has been answered to the T. Thank you yet again.❤❤❤

[@liljj1427]

skip the date n get her straight to the crib 💯 no confusion

[@thorthegodofthunder6694]

🤘

[@TheBillaro]

I have to thank you for your video on dominant behaviour. it made me realise that i was exhibiting weak behaviour. more than that i realised that it's not actually about the date it's about my life as a whole and my whole energy. anyway i did the leadership thing to a tee yesterday and it was hard work but was very well received

[@mokwls1]

As far as getting a girl back to your place isn't it better to say let's go back to my place rather than asking the girl?

[@mynonleatherlife]

I think your way is better yea

[@KingzCODM]

I say be like we’re going back to my place while going into the car talking to her on the way

[@Graciehunter32]

@Kingz nah that will pressure her

[@vladimator1842]

FAAACTS!!! That statement is very assertive and definitive!! It straight up outlines the next upcoming events of the evening, and she better follow along!!..

[@lambroyannoulatos964]

Dear Victoria, you are a brave and truthful soul. Everything you said is true and it works. I read the comments and was surprised at the naivety of this younger generation of men. Youngsters, get a book called "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" at least you'll learn the biological and psychological differences that require you to do the heavy lifting. Women always are thinking "what does he mean by that?" It's 'in built' in their subconscious, it can't be changed, that's what Victoria is talking about, as the under current of the conversation. You want to practice? go to a Supermarket and strike a one phrase conversation with any woman, even if only to ask her where do they keep the shampoos, if she is pleasant try to make her laugh at your ignorance, AND PAY HER A SUPERFICIAL COMPLIMENT whether it's her hands feet, legs, clothes, hair, anything even her voice ... EXCEPT HER BACKSIDE, FRONTSIDE OR BOOBS, else you'll come across as a weirdo. With practice you'll learn to make women laugh with one liners, and little compliments, you'll progress. DON'T BE AFRAID TO FAIL!!!! As for the bedroom scene, it's all on you, not her, don't ask her to touch you, your requirements are glaringly obvious and standing, she'll get to it, in due time, YOUtouch her, quietly and feather light initially slowly increasing the pressure till she's wet. Learn where the erogenous zones are on a woman's body start your light touching on them away from her vag. and slowly work you way there. Don't forget your date/pick up, is not a HO, nor does she want you to think she is, it's psychological, YOU have to show her by your actions that you know and appreciate this and for the moment she is with you in this compromising position she is the most important being in front of you. DON'T TELL HER, SHOW HER BY YOUR ACTIONS. Remember Casanova made his name not because he satisfied himself, but because he satisfied his female companions in bed. Nor by the way by bragging, the females bragged that they had slept with him. Don't brag about having slept with any woman even if they say they did, stay aloof, deny. (Google who was Casanova if you don't know) Educate yourselves about female orgasms and how you can achieve them for your future female companions. Remember in the land of the blind the one eyed man is king and from what I've read here there is a plethora (surplus) of the blind on the scene. You have little competition.

[@1StepForwardToday]

What I have found about bringing sexual energy into the interaction, is that being ambiguous in the subtext of what your saying, can be very effective at evoking attraction and arousal from women. It's acts almost like a tease, bcuz you are giving a voice to your sexual nature, but you arent being overt, or pushy. You are simply asserting your sexual presence into your space, and sort of offering the woman to choose which of the 2 ambiguous doors she wants to walk through, (the door of that has a very subtle coat of sexual paint, or the door without it). And, I think it's most effective to do it in very subtle ways. (Perhaps, most preferably, without any words at all). I like to give women an option to go through door A or door B. I make door B the subtle sexual attraction door. And, door A, the normal door. Whereas, the subtleties of [door B] become a more n more clear distinction from [door A]. Still very, undertone and ambiguous, which can't be proved to exist, but, nonetheless, which both of you understand that it does. This way, you allow "her" to choose to walk through that door. She's presented with the two doors, and now she has to come to you. By her choosing [door B], she knows that she's not only telling you that she sees you as a man (man to woman), but also, that she is taking her position as a woman and submitting herself to your masculine presence. Essentially, she's asking for your masculine presence to get between her 2 legs (not in a simple perverted way, but rather, she is submitting to your masculinity and inviting your presence as a man, into her femininity). Imo, this is not time to kiss her, touch her or even say anything sexual. You stay seated exactly where you are, and say nothing. Dont even make any face, smirk, of any sort which acknowledges her submission. Maybe an eye contact, but no more. But, mostly, just feel the mutual acknowledgment of what was just communicated. You can feel that both of you know exactly what just happen, and essentially, what she just told you. The sexiest part is that you can sit still with your sexual presence, with those two doors, but, you never walk through either of them, and you never try to manipulate, or pressure her, or even say or do anything to woo her into going through either door. This takes tremendous degree of masculine mastery, and it can elicit tremendous sexual attraction from woman. You gave her the doors, and now she understands that she has to come through the door and come to you. She knows this, bcuz she can feel what you're doing. And, she can sense that you won't cross through that door B. Not bcuz you are afraid, but rather, because you want her to admit to both of you that she is the one that wants you. You present her with these doors so that she must make a formal declaration that "she wants you". And then, once she walks through [door B], the power belongs in your hands. In a subtle but, very real way, she basically has to ask you to have her. She has to say, "you're in charge.. I want you, what do you want me to do". All of this is very difficult for me to articulate. But, let me try giving some sort of basic general examples. For example: Maybe you sit down on a bench or couch, where she has 2 choices to sit.. a seat with normal distance from you, or a seat with close proximity to you (just close enough to you to where its her subtly saying.. "yes I want to be closer to you"). Imo, the more subtle, the more powerful and arousing. Generally speaking, I'd make the distinction between A and B just clear enough to be a clear message, but still subtle and ambiguous enough where it cant be directly called out, or proved. And, I'd wouldnt act on it either, when she chooses B. I'd also make option B require a little more out of her way effort each time (maybe do about 3 total). Then, each successive time that she chooses option B, she knows that she has to admit in a more and more obvious way, that she is submitting to you, and she wants you, she is asking for your approval to have her, and you are in charge. And, she always has door A to exit anytime (which she actually has to walk around to get to door B). Such as, using the 2 seat options example, make the seat with normal space from you, easy access, and right in front of her; while, the seat that's in that closer space to you.. you make this seat more of an effort to get to. But, not enough where it's too overtly obvious. Just enough to where she has to take a step or two beyond her comfort zone if she wants to earn that seat, and earn your masculinity. Another example might be.. your talking to a woman, and you talk just as a friend. Never cross over that line. And, dont try to make her like you. Dont try to charm her. Dont try to be funny. Dont do anything to try to make her like you more. But, you must also be holding your presence, as a man. You hold your attraction for her in your presence, but, you dont directly verbalize anything that communicates it . Not even obvious innuendos (those are way too obvious and hence, they are try too hard and "needy". You shouldn't be "needy" for her to be attracted to you or to validate you. You have that attraction for her, but, you don't try to steer her or the conversation in that direction. You have to set up 2 options where she has to be the one who has to go out of her way to ask that the conversation goes down that sexual lane. Where she understands that you have attraction for her, but, the only way that she will get it, is if she asks for it. But, it's very different than a guy who is attracted to a woman but, he's too nervous to act on it. When you give her the two options, you are boldly communicating (in subtext) loud and clear, that you're attracted to her, but you will not play the game. All of the power belongs in your hands, or you will not go a single step forward with the attraction. Even if she kissed you, you must stop her. That would still be her trying to dominate with the sexual power. But, you must make it absolutely clear that she must relent ALL the sexual power to you. It must be nonnegotiable and she must know it. And, you must really be ready and willing to give up any sexual activity unless and until she gives you 100% of the power. Not 99%. Not 99.9%, but 100%. She may try to test you with threats of walking away. When that doesn't work, shes likely to try all kinds of things to maintain the sexual power in the dynamic. Touching you, grabbing you, kissing you, telling you she wants to give you a BJ. Those may seem like shes submitting, but shes not. She's dictating the pace of the sexual encounter/s. You must not let her do any of those things. You must give her only the option of [Door A].. no sexual interaction, or [Door B].. she must walk through door B, subcommunicating that she wants you, and then she must wait for your direction and lead. She must fully submit, and fully release all sexual power into your authority alone. This will turn her on beyond belief. Because, you two become absolute polarities. Pure masculine and pure feminine. Now she is truly yours. You essentially, own her. She will do anything you tell her to, or at least, you can convince her to do anything you want. But, you must choose to handle this power with dignity. You can maintain the fullness of this intensely potent and powerful sexual polarity [only through dignified means]. The more you use this power indignantly, the more power and absolute attraction you will lose. You will then have to wield the more artificial power through psychological means. But, this is a far cry from the immense power of true absolute polarity. And, it's potentially very dangerous to misuse this power for ego/pride/selfish means. Plus, theres way more sexual attraction through maintaining your unshakable, dignified masculinity. This dignified state, maintains all of the sexy dark power, but it grounds it, rather than wastes it on egoic means. It takes far more masculinity to ground it and not lose your center for selfish means. Using it for psychologically dark means is giving away the sexual power, just like the woman who tries to grab at you, kiss you, or offer sexual favors. Those are tempting, but, they diminish the true potential power that you can only wield by denying them. This doesnt mean that you cant play a bit with slave and master type scenarios. But, the truth is you'll get much more out of the sexual interaction when you ground your ego and you use your power position to simply be present with her sexually, mentally, consciously, emotionally. Then, you let the masculine and feminine nature between you two, dance for itself. You sort of selflessly sit back and watch the masculine and feminine dance unimpeded. You let your body go and flow fully into depths of this sacred sensual, sexual, beautiful, danger ridden, exotic, elegant, polarized dance.

[@anjawoms]

this is the best comment i’ve ever read :’)

[@philsmith7398]

Too many words 😂

[@MYMOTM-pn1nl]

going to need part 2,3,4,5....100 of this

[@ariues]

of course u play guitar. so perfect

[@robertl.7657]

She is talking about feeling VALIDATED! Desired(compliment), it works in some context, were females feel that guys are not confident in their intentions man to woman, touching is Kino in the pua community, some women like No Validation!!!, the blueprints are different, just keep that on mind

[@7777srd]

"I like your dress.;Can I borrow it sometime"?: - that work?

[@dlwhite1965]

I am 74 but enjoyed your video. I appreciated your taking the time to think about your subject before you speak. Adults of my age group have different processes but there still is a commonality that I benefited from in your insights. God bless you.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you David White, what are the processes in your age group? I’d be extremely interested to hear that. Thank you for commenting, Id love to get your perspective

[@superlou2012]

My humorous take: There’s really no grading system for a dude. Your either pass or fail, getting sex is like trying to make the GED if your already attractive guy and like a CLEP of chemistry if you need to use GAME. But it’s pass or fail . I guesss us guys can give tests to our partners also but it’s grades from A to D- and we feeel we can work with and pass most girls, like a friendly alternative class instructor who just wants to be encouraging and professional if they need it . We get not mercy we have to pay some kind of karma or dinner for trying , if I’m rich I probably get more try’s , or great looking I get an easier test

[@mynonleatherlife]

great analogy. i agree with u, it is 100% pass fail for guys

[@saounera_TV]

I love your videos ;)

[@oldirtydasher]

For the hand touch, look at her manicured nails, and grab her hand and compliment her manicure. So many women love that!

[@notanaive]

I really respect you for your honesty. The way you make the whole puzzle so simply clear is just fantastic. ❤❤❤

[@shadow-wolfgaming1737]

We live in a era women have to make in effort because you know it takes two to do it lol

[@alexflips393]

I like the point about compliments. Craig Ferguson and Russell Brand do this but then they quickly make a joke afterwards to release the tension.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Do u have any links to any clips of them doing it ?

[@alexflips393]

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[@terryosowski8143]

I love your facial expressions as you’re thinking and putting your thoughts together !

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thx terry!

[@chrissanders3398]

Women always run their fingers through my fro. Then they stop calling me.

[@emanandchill]

Lol 😂

[@thorthegodofthunder6694]

Ha@!

[@astrohimseIf]

haha fuck

[@joseph3036]

Happened to me too🤣. I was a black man in Asia with long hair which always attracted girl's attention. It was just curiosity, nothing more.

[@chrissanders3398]

@@joseph3036 I hear that.

[@johnferrell1962]

Came across this by accident. Good video. Looking back I think I subconsciously did these and most of the time it worked out and I think there were plenty of times I didn’t do these things and like you said I didn’t get lucky.

[@m.a.r.c.l.o.r.e.n.z]

The top thing a guy could do on a date that would make a women want to sleep with him is retain his seed, focus on himself, and build his own kingdom and not take her out on a date in the first place.

[@m.a.r.c.l.o.r.e.n.z]

and not sleep with her unless he wants her to carry his seed in her womb.

[@mightymorka]

OMG, if only I had known these facts during when I first dated. Managed to get a date with this girl (don’t want to give too much details) and we went to China town to a nice restaurant and ended up talking so much, we kind of became friends and not boy friend, girlfriend material! I was a shy guy and didn’t make any kind of move and like you said I was waiting for the signal that never came! I’m not complaining, just saying it totally would have been different if I was confident. FYI, eventually I did find my soul mate and am now happily married. Love your videos from a female perspective, so refreshing, thanks from the other side!:-)

[@racf80]

Nowadays, if we do that, we men can get sexually accused jaja

[@7Earthsky]

There's no pussy without risk.

[@orionroberts7971]

Good video everything you said has worked so good for me and its natural. Holding masculine energy in respect and humility is what i call it. Its romantic and makes it innocent and beautiful too

[@BoneThugsRTheBest]

Shes right on these points but why does it always have to have sex in the end. Ladies always associate it with sex.

[@saullandiof5768]

another absolute banger of a video

[@jessiesheppard6735]

the error was they didn't spend enough money on her drinks and food

[@jamesdean1143]

Burp !

[@worldclassyoutuber2085]

part from 3:49 - 3:54 repeat it couple times, this is the holy grail

[@1tokeover]

They'll hate your guts if you don't make a move and they'll hate your guts if you do and they're not into you. You have to be a mind reader.

[@noobie7719]

Kinda 🤷🏻‍♀️