The Trust Epidemic: Why Nobody Gets Along Anymore

[@ColeHastings]

How do we start to change what society rewards?

[@LessonsFromAnime]

unrelated, but congrats on 700k man!

[@ColeHastings]

@@LessonsFromAnime Thanks dude

[@CommandoMaster]

Take away social media from women. Will correct everything.

[@darcyjrpliego34]

That would start being the change ourselves first no matter if you are a man or woman in many different ways from the way we choose treat others around us, in our communication, in questioning the messages that we receive from both society and the culture we grew up in, not fall into extreme individualism (there's gotta be a balance), not fall into greed, if healing is needed then do what is possible to heal, change of mindsets, teamwork, standing up for what is right, having empathy towards each other, and there is many more to list but those are things I am working on but need to be considered in order to set the tone so that it can become a domino effect

[@gogidolim]

Think outside of America. Think beyond America.

[@Phirestar]

Everybody wants for there to be more good, honesty, loyal, and respectable people in the world. But nobody wants to suffer from the risks that come from doing so. Most are waiting for someone to come along and be that person for them first, before they’re willing to offer the same in return. People always say, “I want to _have_ friends. I want to _have_ a girlfriend. The world needs more good people _like him.”_ Few will stand up and say: I want to _be_ someone’s friend. I want to _be_ a partner to someone. I strive to _become_ the good that the world needs. If everybody desire to _have,_ then there must be some that’re willing to _give_ in return. But we don’t promote that way of living anymore, we don’t teach that mindset. We’re told to give to _ourselves_ instead, to dump other people for _our_ benefit, to “focus on _yourself”._ Be the change you want to see in the world. No-one else is doing it, so why sit there and wait with them?

[@IAmDaDumb1]

Hope this comment gets pinned

[@topjos12]

Finding a partner is hard ngl, but I am already doing my best to be kind to everyone I meet. If I can make someone's day a little brighter, that's enough for me. I've been taken advantage of before, but the amount of joy I get from seeing the genuine happiness from my peers is more than enough to keep me going.

[@ptootie5657]

Seriously, so many people will funnel a bunch of self improvement brainrot at you when they really dont truly try to do anything.

[@b.pack3]

To be selfless is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

[@beingsshepherd]

'Everybody -wants- *says they want* for there to be more good, honesty, loyal, and respectable people in the world.' Before enthusiastically voting for a provable scoundrel.

[@Ooh_My_Josh]

i have made it my everyday goal to be as nice as i possibly can to everyone i talk to and it’s great

[@rubenburger2621]

I don't know what to think about the fact that it's your goal and not your nature to be nice

[@keltonbuck3816]

This is just how I am and I can't tell you how many people think I have an ulterior motive. Nah man I'm just tryna be happy and make people happy

[@ColeHastings]

@rubenburger2621 I think you’re reading too far into it. This person just wants to make people happy. Maybe they’ve realized their behavior isn’t like that sometimes, and they’re looking to grow. That’s all it should be.

[@MrRatMommy]

6:35

[@ReasonWithRainer]

Don't be a people pleaser though, do what makes you proud and confident in yourself, do what you can look back at and be like "I really did that sh**", specially when you don't want to do it.

[@itsallloveingenz]

Pre 9-11: Everyone initially trusts everyone Post 9-11: Everyone initially distrusts everyone

[@furiousdestroyah9999]

Guilty until proven innocent

[@X3nophiliac]

actually social cohesion improved after 9-11. everyone had a historical disaster that they could bond over. tho...this didnt extend to brown/arabic passing people

[@NJGuy1973]

Trust was declining before 9/11, I assure you.

[@Mudpaws]

All part of the agenda

[@flyersfan28-2]

I get what your saying but 9/11 wasnt the shift that made everyone distrust eachother

[@joelbelmonte1383]

I know an elder man who connected and helped many many people in his living area either professionally or privately. To my surprise he is very much not interested in talking about global or political things, but he always focuses either on his wellbeing or on the wellbeing of others. Other than that he seems to never waste time. People on the street often greet him very thankfully, but he often does not remember them anymore, because in the past he was so socially active. To me he's a rolemodel of someone pushing forward the community and the results are mindblowing.

[@SC-gw8np]

Sounds like he knows what's important and what's a waste of time. Great role model indeed.

[@13sinra13]

He sounds like he’s a good leader. The fact that he goes around making sure everyone’s alright is a nice quality of his person.

[@japangator]

I'm currently 30 and I've noticed that people are constantly saying to me that I'm the nicest person they ever met, both online and offline. But these comments strike me as strange, only because the things that people are calling me nice for, are things that everyone should be doing in the first place

[@BRNG2042]

As a McDonald's worker, getting a tip for treating people like people is both heartwarming and heartbreaking.

[@jadedpremiere]

I don’t like generalizing, but I think many people are just devoid of empathy and some adopt this attitude because………….everyone else around them is doing it…… And if you almost never get to see what empathy does in the long term for people, you may even believe that empathy isn’t real or perceive it as being “weak”…… If you are the only person in your life who practices empathy, please continue doing that. People WILL see the truth for what it is eventually.

[@CenturionKenshin]

It think the reason is easy to understand - most of the people want to live good(not amazing or exciting life) but good life in very crazy and very un-humanistic economical situation, that is pure financial capitalism(not the one which goal is production of values but production of profits). Thus most of the people you might meet would have interest in you as a financial source and nothing more - and sadly not because they are evil and greedy(though it might come at next level of financial independence :) ) but because they have to survive. And when it is a matter of survival - empathy goes to background(this is very sad). When you come to the dealership to buy a car for example, in most cases seller there wants to sell you something - but not to satisfy and try to help you to buy what you really want. In the restaurant the waiter might want the tips more than it genuinely wants you to make you feel good and have good experience or enjoy your meal - btw service and support is special area where some people really like to work and help others, while others just have todo this work to survive. And this is the problem here. And that is why people stopped trusting each other.

[@flyersfan28-2]

In my opinion, it all starts with going outside and doing something as little as petting someone’s dog or saying hi to a stranger. Makes everyones day better

[@shawndemarsico7837]

Agree

[@beingsshepherd]

A _Hi_ tacitly demands an obligatory reciprocation. A stranger greeted me on the street whilst I was leaving a hardware shop a couple of days ago. I assumed he was mad.

[@flyersfan28-2]

@@beingsshepherd why

[@beingsshepherd]

@@flyersfan28-2 Because he (menacingly) awaited an answer as if owed to him.

[@flyersfan28-2]

@@beingsshepherd he sounds like a nice dude

[@EveloGrave]

I recently moved out of a house into an appartment. It is so nice. I hear other people living their life, I see people and wave, they wave back. It isnt much but after having lived in a house for 9 years, it is amazing to actually speak to someone again. Granted I hate prolonged socialization but even cordial small blips of it really helps the brain.

[@imageword5576]

i'm the opposite, lived in apartments my whole adult life and I'm ready to live in a house away from people. I don't like my apartment neighbors and they don't like me

[@patrickschott265]

Real people are boring, that’s why everyone tries to be someone greater than that. Authenticity is sacrificed for status.

[@TemperedWambat]

You can be both. It's just alot more difficult.

[@imageword5576]

are people boring though? Or is it just a perception

[@afruitlesshippo]

This is absolutely social media's fault, I've been saying it for 12 years, I predicted the negative impacts of social media when I was a child, but no one listened, though even I didn't know how deep the rabbit hole would go. Receiving validation after more than a decade is a bitter treat.

[@CommandoMaster]

Social media is a plague on society and women are the users😢

[@afruitlesshippo]

@@CommandoMaster men using social media is really no better, don't place responsibility on one group

[@CommandoMaster]

@@afruitlesshippo women are the ones entitled and unrealistic about dating, not men.

[@NJGuy1973]

Social media didn't ruin society. It only made it easier for a-holes to spread their a-holeness quicker. If we were a society of nice people social media would be nice.

[@afruitlesshippo]

@@NJGuy1973 Very simplistic and reductive view. People are molded by their environment, the anonymity and disconnected nature of social media permits more "a-holey" behaviour and normalises it. Social media is the cause, not a symptom. I don't claim it to be the root of all evil because that's also simplistic, but it is a destructive force and has a net negative impact on the population.

[@germanus7302]

As someone who didn't grow up on US-American culture. The amount of pleasantries required in the US social contract is in sane. And honestly the social contract does not leave any room for honesty. It was a shock to me at how fake it made everyone. Seeing a friend go from "Hi! It's so nice to see you" to "ugh i hate them. They're so fake" within seconds taught me that participating in US pleasantries was the actual cause of the feeling of fakeness in the USA. A "brutally honest" american is only slightly less straightforward than your average European or Latin American. Few of them thank waiters, yet society still functions and with fewer feelings of "fake". If society frowns upon honesty and demands a constant string of pleasantries made to make things look better than they are, how are you ever supposed to express your problems and resolve them?

[@superioropinion7116]

Yeah, I kind of agree with you. imo the biggest problem is not the erosion of social contract but how easy it is to hate somebody now. You can pick any thing you dislike about them and the whole image is tainted

[@martinsvensson6884]

Children learn to say thanks when you get something.. How do you not thank a waitress? I dont know if I've ever seen anyone display such bad behavior ever in my life in Sweden.. from any normal person.

[@nobodythenobody9779]

07:47 "if you think politeness is a good thing it means you support the patriarchy, and if you are polite to men in particular it means you are helping the oppressor oppress you" 😂 these people actually exist ?

[@ColeHastings]

Unfortunately

[@thephoenix215-po2it]

Jesus that tiktok creator first hats off to them for making that tiktok, second fuck the people that think that saying thank you isn't owed to service people. They are the backbone of everyday life and I've been there I feel for them. Society and people can really suck sometimes.

[@MagicPork]

Those jobs suck too, ive done a couple, I know how bad it can get 😅 so I try to be considerate and say please/thanks where I can.

[@yaboyjosh3023]

I have to agree with "we really are just our generational stereotypes". Gen Z is very solitary to their own lives at the moment. And this is coming from someone whose 27. Relating to a fellow gen z around my age, almost feels natural. Yet, following up and getting to spare time for one another seems impossible.

[@KarsonsChannel]

Social contract is broken. We are at peak utopian mouse experiment. Put an L in the chat for humanity

[@Lulz1356]

if there are bad people there are good people too, we simply need to search for them. also, people have not become bad, their crappyy behaviour is just more obvious now so its actually easier to discern them better.

[@pace1195]

"... people have not become bad..." Correct, they were never taught to be good by society because it is eroding into the gutter. Political extremism, fatherlessness, culture clashes and financial hardship are just a few of the large issues taking people away from teaching the next generations how to be good people and citizens.

[@e.t.theextraterristrial837]

"It is easier to find dates through dating apps" My boy part of the 10% of men who get matches from 90% of the women

[@milkak6823]

I live in an appartment and one day i saw a woman infront of it taking pictures of the trees and i asked her if she saw a sqirrel (since i've seen them too and why else would she be taking pictures of trees). Her face lit up and her tone got all sweet and she seemed so happy to talk to someone. We spend like 10 minutes just small talking and then wishing each other a good day. Don't think i've seen her since (it's a lot of people living here) but it did make my day a little bit better.

[@Jiggonomics]

Cole with another banger keeping on the societal level grind. I loved the points at the end about what society rewards. I hope we can start to shift this reward towards community and love rather than division and hate. I'm personally gonna keep working on my social anxiety through therapy and talking to strangers so I can hopefully start a butterfly effect rather than allowing the fear to overwhelm me and keep me stagnant and "safe".

[@coldcloakmusic6630]

My issue is that I grew up around mentallly unstable people. Like 90% of my neighbors were thrown off and unfortunately from a young age what I thought was normal, like your neighbors having psychotic breakdowns in public, or hoarding to the point they wouldn’t socialize due to embarrassment…took me years to realize why I don’t trust neighbors and don’t like them being close. I’m working on this, and have realized that simply scoping out a community before moving there is the difference between a healthy community and unhealthy one.

[@Level_Eleven]

Been saying for years now that trust is a commodity of the past. Stay sharp.

[@thanosianthemadtitanic]

hard to trust when theres so much incentive to do the wrong thing

[@KDROzzz]

A lot of people are nice to mask bad intentions, I think a lot of people dont trust other people because they've been decieved by people who seemed nice in the past

[@unnderneath]

Whew! I got called out in this video. Idk when it happened but I see everybody as disposable now, I don’t even bother talking to people if I don’t have to. When I’m at work, unless the conversation involves the work, I give 1 word responses to end the conversation quicker. Generally unless I need to talk to you, I’m probably not going to 🤷🏽‍♂️. I wouldn’t even know if my neighbour is dead or alive. I try to avoid them as much as possible. They’re not bad people by any means but I’ve just never cared to get to know them. I only talk to people if there’s a necessity behind it.

[@ColeHastings]

Researching this video exposed me too. Made me think deeply about how to be more considerate

[@Vivi_9]

It's cause you live in the West. Go travel Latin America or South East Asia and see how much happier and more connected people are

[@Saberdud]

That’s kinda sad ngl

[@unnderneath]

@@Saberdud why?

[@thehatter1074]

To be fair, the public education system has certainly played a part in how bad our society has become: interpersonal skills, learning skills, and overall happiness is impacted from early education and many have to overcome these inscribed faults to live fullfilling lives.

[@goarmybeatnavy841]

This was well spoken and developed. I love how your words convey the message you’re trying to relay to us as your audience. Dispensable stuck with me because that is how it feels these days encountering folk: you do not get the time, consideration, or decency as a human being anymore. These are simple elements to be shared, not earned. Society needs to drastically address this decline in mannerism, responsibility and congeniality or we are doomed to capitulate in our hubris and ignorance.

[@remiremsar5946]

The moment I heard the solution I said outloud in the middle of subway in Spain "We are fucked"

[@civicboi96]

I said hi how are you and smiled to an old man in the grocery store once and he literally thanked me for treating him like a human being.

[@sithalchemist]

I believe people are inherently good and that most people are just trying to get by, but I also believe that our society promotes the worst and rewards the worst in people.

[@thatguy-fk4wv]

The reason everyone feels fake to me is because they are. I'm in Texas and was brought up to be polite, but now the same people that were always polite and treated others with respect are instead trying to force their views onto others. They can't help themselves, they insert it into every conversation. Either their political or religious beliefs are subtly hinted at or just overtly pushed onto you, and god forbid you push back. Their civility was always an act, and now they no longer feel obligated to keep it up. So dealing with this for last 8-9 years has made me deeply cynical. Now anytime someone is polite to me, I immediately start waiting for the mask to slip or wonder what their angle is. I used to give others the benefit of the doubt, now I deeply distrust every person I encounter unless they prove themselves.

[@silverhawkscape2677]

No surprise in this Polarized Political Climate. No one can even get middle ground anymore. Abortion? Either No Abortion or Abortion on Demand. Anything middle ground is shut down. Abortion under certain circumstances with Limitations? Unacceptable. The trick is how Politics have become extremely tied to Morals or ethics. And we know people are not willing to Compromise on their morals.

[@imageword5576]

yeah I know. I've become disappointed in human behavior over the years. I used to think most people were generally good, but I've seen how people really act when you take away consequences and add anonymity. Look at how people act on the internet, for example, or how people treat each other on the road when driving.

[@rhiannonscott9641]

Amazing content..! One thing that wasnt mentioned was how often younger generations move around more regularly. travel is so accessible compared to decades back for older generations. My partner is from an irish farming family who live either on the same street or 10minute drive into the nearest town at the furthest. I was raised by a single mum until i was 9 who moved around regularly and sent me to 5 different schools within 5 years...the most stability i had was remaining in the one property with my dad for 3.5 years during highschool. i then continued to move around to different shared rentals in my early 20's and then moved country.. only recently have a bought my first property and thought about how important it is to remain in the neighbours good books and to be polite...if i happen to make friends with a neighbour at any point in my life, that is a bonus

[@derek4412]

What you say about the decline in neighborliness is true. A very nice lady in our condo Association always throws Fourth of July, Labor Day and Memorial Day parties. Nothing fancy. Everybody just gets together for a couple hours and eats some hamburgers. But my wife and I have three small children, and we can tell this is going to be the last era this kind of stuff as possible. The other young families in the neighborhood don’t come. There is no more socializing for anybody if you’re born after like 1980 or so. My wife and I do not own a television, and we don’t have any streaming services. We also don’t have any social media platforms. I think this is the only reason why we still feel drawn to socialize with people in person. Most of our peers are numbing themselves inside their condo units. I feel awful for my small children. I am very happy. They will at least have some memories of going to neighborhood parties. Because I doubt these will be possible in the future.

[@AaliyahClemons-fs1to]

This is one of my favorite videos of yours. I’ve been practicing kindness my whole life. No matter how much bullshit I get from other people it’s so important to show kindness. One thing I do to find purpose is I educate people on how to take care of themselves and how to treat people. I love helping people. Talk to them, see how they’re doing. People are shocked by my kindness. That shows that it’s rare and our society has a lot. it shocks people even more since I’m a black woman. The stereotypes are becoming easier to fight the more I become myself. No, I am a loner technically. I love my alone time more than anything. But I know I need to talk to people and give to people in a certain way. When you give your heart out, it feels good. That’s my purpose in life. To give love and kindness to people no matter what. No one never asked how I’m doing, but that’s OK. I know I’m OK. And a lot of people need to work on that too. How to be OK in your situation. it’s hard to do that being in poverty I understand that but there’s some things you can control. Control those thoughts , control your mind. It’s hard but it works. I can’t wait for my comment to get buried and never seen again. Great video Cole 👏🏾👏🏾

[@saritkumar9351]

I think being nice towards others is what helps us to make new relationships with people. Also, being nice towards others also shows our upbringing and for me personally, it shows that a person has a basic decency towards others. As for the "Gen Z" bullshit, they're delusional. I'm also come under Gen Z but if we want to make our world a better place, gratitude is the way to go.

[@xxCrapNamexx]

Multicultural and multiethnic society problems.

[@ColeHastings]

Multicultural, maybe

[@audrichvuneo181]

@@ColeHastingswhy do homogeneous societies score the highest on social trust and cohesion?

[@ColeHastings]

@@audrichvuneo181 probably mostly due to the fact that they all adhere to the same culture.

[@nobodythenobody9779]

07:47 "if you think politeness is a good thing it means you support the patriarchy, and if you are polite to men in particular it means you are helping the oppressor oppress you"

[@NeoGarax]

@@nobodythenobody9779Where’d this logic come from?

[@andrewrice9383]

Agree with a lot of this, a lot of this is stuff I didn’t want to happen (not knowing your neighbors, people having trust issues widespread) and other people keep doing it enough that I have trouble trusting that someone that someone can be trusting

[@Jesuswalks7475]

Jesus said love one another not trust one another. Only Trust God, abide in jesus love so you can love one another. Suspect no one, trust no one.

[@remiremsar5946]

Nobody cares 🙄

[@Jesuswalks7475]

@@remiremsar5946 you will in the after life honey..

[@RobertHowe-zv7gs]

You can be kind to other people ; just be wary of whom you can trust !

[@deswill2737]

As an EU citizen I understand where you are coming from. Our elections are never 2 sides pinned at one another and the trust in our mainstream media is a lot higher because they have a better track record. Yet tho, I dream of living in Japan where society trusts each other and people live in harmony even if its not perfect by any means.

[@luxraider5384]

"Our elections are never 2 sides pinned at one another and the trust in our mainstream media is a lot higher because they have a better track record." depends on which european country. Some of them are on a political crisis, a prime example being france.

[@randomuser5443]

Japan is significantly more of a capitalist blood bath than even the US, and arent yall having a riot every month?

[@deswill2737]

@@luxraider5384 Nobody likes france anyway. EU is not perfect neither is US but at least I can confidentally say I trust my neighbours, I don't need to lock my door to feel safe, don't need to worry someone will ever point a gun at me and I don't have to choose between 2 bad candidates to become my president every 4 years

[@roykalager2360]

If you don't want people to say. "I don't know anybody anything." "No one owes you anything." Can't be a thing either.

[@Ponk_80]

Sadly focusing on the problem will not make it go away, the solution is to focus on the solutions to our everyday struggles, instead of constantly talking about them. We need to get our acts together if we want to survive the next 10 years. Start building trust, and stop creating fear of what can happen if we don’t.

[@nicolasbolas2247]

I moved around quite a bit growing up. I think I've known about 5 of my neighbors over the course of my life. Only one of those families were my age. 99% of my neighbors are baby boomers who don't really like anyone

[@MagicPork]

Yh , I moved a few years back, one side have a really nice oap neighbour , willing to help people if he can, really stand up guy .Other side are miserable oaps who don't like even the tiniest noise yet ,when they have others over, are quite happy to make loads and get confrontational about such petty shit. When you live next to oaps , remember its 50/50😅 Regardless how insufferable and toddler like tantrums they exhibit. Not all of them are like that.

[@Deep_Matter_Analysis]

You go to church, there is gofund me, you go to mosque, there is gofund me, you go to party out, there is pay for me. Everywhere you go, there are bills waiting on your wallet. I solemnly chose to bee lonely 😅😊

[@DayrusBPB]

12:38 "Young are too far apart from each other in this mouse utopia" FTFY

[@Tommyant999]

i’m an extremely emotional and empathetic person, makes my song lyrics authentic and relatable

[@kyledahlquist9423]

For basically every societal problem highlighted by this channel, the root cause always comes back to capitalism. It is greed manifest, and it's destroying the world.

[@doomsdaybro8290]

No. We need to go back to laissez-faire capitalism and reject all kinds of Marxism.

[@CenturionKenshin]

I agree with you with one correction from my side - it comes back to financial capitalism - not the one that is created to produce some real values or products and not stream of numbers and hypes.

[@j.davila4523]

Agreed, although it’s hard to think of a new model i’d imagine

[@LucasTheBee]

Wow Very nice Video Cole, i will question my Social behavior

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@eyes1168]

gen Z will either be the greatest generation or destroy the world

[@beingsshepherd]

But in the meantime, those video games won't play themselves ...

[@rontennis6569]

This was fantastic. I needed this. Thank you!

[@nicholasgutierrez9940]

It's really easy to bond with people, you just have to try. Like actually try and be interested in someone else. It's hard because it's not instant and almost all of us now have been raised to have instant gratification. So we go to where it's easiest to get a dopamine rush and try to stick with that. We bond with that because it helps to distract us from reality.

[@Satanic-Dan]

It’s sad for the average male. We are lonely and destroyed mentally. I don’t know why I had to exist but obviously it’s for all the wrong reasons.

[@shawndemarsico7837]

This video kinda made me realize that I pushed away some good people in my life…..

[@ColeHastings]

Good on you for reflecting, though. Dont be too hard on yourself

[@erge-px8up]

Well I don't like my neighbours because they all spy on each other, gossip about each other. You say hi, they will ignore you, but they will monitor you and gossip about you. They throw tantrums if they hear you making light noise in your OWN HOUSE, while they scream at the top of their lungs outdoors. The only good neighbours are fences.

[@NormanconEVE]

"Because they haven't proved themselves to me yet." Well It would appear you just proved you aren't worth my time. I don't understand what this means. There is the understanding that the initial interaction between people has the largest impact on perception. If you are just going into interaction with a negative outlook like that don't be surprised when you only get negativity in response.

[@CenturionKenshin]

Actually it is funny, I would say, one should be very grateful and polite if person is doing something for you, because he does not owe you anything (even if this is his job as he will get his salary anyway :) ) and especially that neither he and neither you proved yourselves to each other yet - so it is just a show of good will :)

[@justacoginthefkery]

Same thoughts. Whenever I hear someone say "I don't owe anyone anything. Respect is earned" I think "& that goes both ways." Treating others as undeserving of basic respect by default is undeserving of respect. Ironically, I've found those same ppl also tend to operate from an attitude of "I owe no one, but everyone owes me for existing."

[@Bat-Georgi]

Let me put it like this. When you spend your early years in middle school and high school being laughed at and criticized for every move you make regardless of what it is, at some point you start to see people for the monsters they are. Yeah, you gotta prove yourself to me that you're not like everyone else, otherwise you're just a threat.

[@justacoginthefkery]

@@Bat-Georgiwell I experienced te same on top of abuse at home. That's why I do the opposite... because I know the impact of one person showing that not everyone is the same. Why turn into the very thing you hate?

[@Bat-Georgi]

@@justacoginthefkery Two reasons: 1. I already AM better. I don't go out of my way to humiliate or belittle the people around me UNLESS I feel like the first swing is coming or they already swung. Majority of the time I just go about my business. 2. Simple game theory. The first to "be nice" is the first to lose. I've had this happen too many times and I refuse to be a sucker anymore.

[@eksbocks9438]

Why would I trust somebody who thinks I have "no right" to exist? Not to mention how society rewards abusers. And ignores the people they affected. -But even so, I haven't fully lost trust in others. There's still good people around. It's just that the bad people have more initiative.

[@BennettYancey]

Watergate and Vietnam both played a role in the increasing distrust imo.

[@runningman2989]

After covid I dont have any faith in humanity

[@beingsshepherd]

You didn't agree with universal house arrest for mankind?

[@runningman2989]

@@beingsshepherd nevermind that. The way people, governments and society in general handled the whole thing. There is no hope. People fighting for toilet paper etc

[@QuantumVoid-ro3hi]

The fundamental error is assuming that the social contract promotes inauthenticity. It's not inauthentic to speak or behave contrary to how you feel if people know and expect that you will do so (because they understand the social contract). To think otherwise would be like refusing to watch a movie because the actors are being inauthentic.

[@gabrieljordan8015]

I have a 1st cousin I see at family gatherings all the time but I had no idea him and his girlfriend lived only 2 houses down from me for about the 1st year they lived there. This has gotten pretty bad.

[@gianpaulgraziosi6171]

You can’t have truth without trust & ruth.

[@maggie6152]

Ruth Bader? I see. Yeah, the Supreme Court definitely went to pot with her dead. 🤔

[@asdrubalivan18]

I'm from Venezuela, and while this video is a bit American-centered I think that many of the things said do apply to other countries like mine. Social media has replaced lots of interactions that we need in our daily life PS: 4:45 Man, I felt bad for the guy.

[@ondraondrej17]

Yes, my favorite thumbnail facial expression.

[@thatundeadlegacy2985]

I grew up on the internet since i was 8 years old, i firmly believe it needs to be strictly controlled, its obviously a cancer to society.

[@daorientalgamer6610]

4:42 yup, this is my problem. I'm terrified to approach, I'm terrified to be vulnerable in any capacity. I understand that these people are a very loud minority. But I think the damage has been done. I don't know if I'll ever get those thoughts out of the back of my mind.

[@tips4truckers252]

I think everyone under 40 at one time has been taken advantage of by someone very close to them. I don't know many baby boomers who had that happen comparatively.

[@LisSolitudinous]

During the last few months I've been thinking about stopping using internet...keep it just for making orders and downloading books...

[@fannierioux-gauthier5057]

So, you dont think people that live in apartments are more likely to hate their neighbours because of closeness? Having people walking on their heels on top of you all day is enough to make me hate my neighbour (with time). That issue doesnt apply in a house, proximity is a big factor to liking your neighbours or not. Good video

[@furiousdestroyah9999]

Nobody cares. We're born alone, we live alone and we die alone. The only reason somebody would at least pretend to care is if you have something they want

[@ColeHastings]

That's a tough mindset you've developed. I'm sorry your reality has taught you that so far. Hopefully more growth to come

[@My10thAccount]

@@ColeHastings No he’s completely correct. The natural state of the human heart is to love results. It loves the result of things, not what it takes to arrive at an end. It loves ease and comfort by nature, not discipline and the price of loyalty. Hence why man needs God and the ministrations of his Catholic Church. Only The Lord loves you for what you are because he created you to love him. Only by loving God and with reverence keeping his commandments can man learn again what it means to love his neighbor, but if he continues to separate himself from the pursuit of virtue and piety he will be continue to be able to love neither. I am living testament that what I tell you both works and is correct. What was once reprobate has become an example through Christ. Ave Christus Rex ✝️🇻🇦

[@luxraider5384]

i wasn't born alone tho.

[@AdidTurreno]

​@@My10thAccount keep your mental illness to yourself please and thank you!

[@furiousdestroyah9999]

@@ColeHastings It's unfortunate but that's all there seems to be out there. Time and time again reality only seems to confirm this notion, no matter how much you want it to not be true

[@TimEssDub]

Getting involved somewhere helps. I sing in a local choral group one night per week and meet with a local over-the-board chess club another night.

[@custos3249]

Always entertaining when people go full surprised pikachu after being treated like crap post "I don't/the world doesn't owe you anything."

[@gustafgauffin3675]

You explain something that I have thought about in a very concrete way. Thank you.

[@Mmmmchocolate]

100%, our culture is trash.

[@frendirrbeliar6048]

0:00 Dont trust anybody i learned that from all the worst ways possible!!!

[@char2723]

Amazing well put together video! Gives me a better perspective on society! 👍🏽

[@JaneDoe-ft7ln]

This is a normal sign of soceital collapse

[@MirijamGensthaler]

The thing that this video made me relize the mist is I am glad I deleted my social media apps its honestly disgusting me at this point to look at those videos even just watching it in this youtube video

[@rwed13]

Idk. Fake niceness might be worse than natural indifference. Don't say nice things do nice things. More so do things that other might think it's nice, not just you. And then don't tell anyone you did it

[@snailairy]

I Loved this video but, I just want to inform people that (at least where I lived) Gen-Z was strictly taught to not talk to strangers. Also I don’t think Gen-Z is saying they would say thank you to a server, but they’re saying they’re not gonna laugh at some stranger’s bad joke just because everyone else thinks it was funny.

[@CorvusCloudburst]

This makes me curious if there's any notable relationship, direct or not, between the rise of HOAs and the perceived unfriendliness of neighbors.

[@CRiver396]

Just discover this channel and Cole Hasting is gorgeous! 😍😍😍

[@MF-jb9jv]

Thank you !

[@spencermarkham1]

Since I have come to find that most people are untrustworthy we the people deserve all of the consequences of being a low trust society! Don’t blame the politicians, they are only a reflection of us!

[@BOSSDONMAN]

THEY ARE EATING THE DOGS!

[@lostpicasso260]

Just a millennial here to tell you that my neighbor is indeed way too loud.

[@Migs19991]

Hey, Cole! You probably don't remember me which is cool XD. but you interviewed me a few years back and I said I wasn't happy. Nowadays I'm feeling way better now that I'm going out more. I hope you're doing well, dude!

[@ColeHastings]

Yo! Where did I interview you? Glad you’re feeling better!

[@Migs19991]

@@ColeHastings The galleria mall near Buffalo airport

[@clovis5857]

I carry my sketchbooks and art projects with me everywhere. I also make notes on natural observations and own a microscope. Part of my goal is to help educate people on misunderstood creatures and help inspire people to get outside and make a nature journal. It’s very rewarding having knowledge that you’ve gained from personal observations. And who knows you may see something unusual or rare. iNaturalist is one good way to get into photography and nature. For the art, I’ve had people tell me just looking at my work made them feel happier in some way, plus I’ve gotten commissions and have made a few new friends that way. Having something you do be it singing writing drawing those things should be honed in on and shared with others. Just being present and no talk of political matters. There’s enough stress going on as it is. Some days I feel down and sad but I know that those low moments will pass.

[@lostheboss7938]

Now politicians just do the same shit in broad day light lmao

[@friednoodles666]

the renter statistics are interesting. in my personal experience renting apartments as a guy in my mid 20s, ironically the boomers are the ones who hate us gen z and millennial folks where i live now. i am tidy, quiet, and polite. i keep to myself entirely now because the boomers here continuously go around saying the most out of pocket, cruel, and strange things about me and other younger members of the neighborhood. i know gen z gets a bad rap but a lot of us would be peaceable and are just trying to survive. :((

[@ColeHastings]

You should always take these statistics with a grain of salt, although it seems like that reflects the satistics i showed. Boomers mostly find young people "rude" (ironic) which is probably part of the reason gen z says their neighbors give off a weird vibe

[@tjthoma7295]

I honestly have put forth an effort to make small talk and be positive with people but it is not made me happy for real

[@bobbyhild3907]

These video titles are getting better lol!

[@moshow93]

It's income inequality and diversity.

[@RouVie2001]

small talk makes me uncomfortable, but it's something I can work on

[@jayboy2kay7]

I’ll say what we all know to be true, but aren’t allowed to really say anymore… the “oppressor/oppressed” victimhood mentality of power dynamics brainwashed into young, VERY, impressionable women has caused MASSIVE damage to society. The chick even said it in her second vid within this vid, for pretty much most “modern” women, this mentality has destroyed much more than what is visible on the surface. Example being, men no longer have anything worth protecting, as unlimited options given to females, the average guy is now amongst the bottom 80-90% of what is deemed “acceptable” standards, including work status, money, looks, etc. So most of us are now no longer inclined to follow the most basic path of life… being work, family, love, whatever… none of it matters anymore to almost every guy I see. I’m not even blaming women themselves, as if you truly look into it, it was the corporations that really pushed f-minism and women entering workplaces etc, doubled the labour force, halved the value of each worker, it’s the same for everything, it was about power and money. Always is, always was.. now it’s 10x worse. So, no wonder nobody trusts anyone anymore, the top 1% have us all fighting each other, absolutely everything now is one side vs another, when it should be about coming TOGETHER, they want us all kept apart. Power. Money. Control. All it is.

[@redmagebr]

Tbh it sounds like you might be a tad brainwashed by the "incel/red pill" victimhood mentality yourself.

[@j.davila4523]

Top 10% vs the bottom 90%, left vs right, man vs women, rich vs poor…societal collapse by 2030 atleast in my estimation if this shit keeps up

[@kobold7466]

i thought talking about or comparing high trust vs low trust societies was racist?

[@Demi-kid]

Family yall. Dont hate yall fam.

[@beingsshepherd]

6:39 The young lady preaches politeness after uttering the word BS uncensored 🙄

[@nasdq]

I knew it.

[@brokenpixels263]

Yeah no one seems to want to do anything with their neighbors.

[@beingsshepherd]

You should see how they vote.

[@456456459]

Good video.

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks