The Truth About Love & Relationships Today | Tony Robbins Podcast

This intimate FULL VIDEO episode of The Tony Robbins Podcast complete with behind the scenes footage was shot at home in February of 2023 with Tony Robbins, his wife, Sage Robbins, and Mary B., friend and surrogate of their child. Watch as they discuss unconditional love and the modern family.
Tony begins with an introduction on our evolutionary advantage and the most powerful force on earth: LOVE. He riffs on why people become jaded and pessimistic after the loss of love, pain, past references, and cultural conditioning and implores the audience to keep their hearts open to the depths of the human heart we all crave.
Tony and Sage share “the explosion of love” that has come through their 23 years of marriage and starting a family together.
This extended conversation covers topics including: expectations of intimate relationships, media messages, parenting, prince and princess romantic ideals, oneness, mindfulness, modern love constellations and chosen family configurations, sobriety, human behavior, couples communication, emotional fitness, the trap of blame and judgement, the importance of self-love, and more.
This episode serves for all watching to be reminded that “love defies the odds.” It invites us all to offer the love that is our highest and truest human essence to our beloved, our parents, friends, children, brothers, sisters, co-workers, and beyond. Let’s love this world up. Enjoy!
SHOW NOTES / KEY MOMENTS
2:01 An explosion of love
5:13 Tony fell in love with his “weirdo”
10:31 Dr. Gottman can predict divorce in 15 mins
11:47 Self-Love
15:41 Story: Abu Dhabi dinner with crown prince
19:35 Law of Familiarity
22:35 The Making of a Modern Family
28:05 Creativity, Caring, Growing
33:22 4 Levels of Love
39:55 On break-ups and separation
41:09 Conditioning, pain, loss
43:35 Love inside out
47:33 Alcohol and relationship
54:43 “Where we all meet”
1:02:58 Opening and closing
1:06:41 “All are welcome here”
1:11:15 Filters & Dating apps
1:17:15 Story: Jordan Peterson meeting
1:20:55 Love transcends IF we are open to it
1:25:50 Life Skill: S.E.W.
1:29:58 Life is precious; lean in
1:32:54 “Let’s love this world up”
1:34:17 Deleted Scenes
“Love connects us, it unites us, it aligns us, it reminds us of our oneness rather than our separateness and I find that to be a beautiful lens and a beautiful reminder.” - Sage Robbins
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Tony Robbins is a #1 New York Times best-selling author, entrepreneur, and philanthropist. For more than four and a half decades, millions of people have enjoyed the warmth, humor and dynamic presentation of Mr. Robbins' business and personal development events. The trusted strategist for peak performance of our generation, Tony is called upon to consult and coach some of the world's finest athletes, entertainers, Fortune 500 CEOs, global leaders and presidents of nations.

[@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384]

Amazing stuff. The fact that Tony is till doing this after so many years shows how much he cares about others.

[@romanm1842]

He cares tremendously... for a small fee, of course 😉

[@teeokeefe]

@@romanm1842 I think you might be surprised if you take a look at ALL the free content that he has available. On his website, KZbin & podcasts, on the FB groups and free challenges he's offered, and he's one of the creator's out there that doesn't go after copyright infringement on all the KZbin content of his that is posted by others. He knows that what you see in YT isn't the same experience of being in an event with him - he wants the world to have the information, and he does charge for the experiences he's created. You were right in the first statement - "he cares tremendously" 😃

[@javierdemendonca257]

@@romanm1842 the guy talks about money and financial freedom (among many many other topics), what do you expect, to be a communist or something like that? doesn't take out the fact that he is passionate at what he does.

[@hannaraoul7731]

and himself ❤

[@Bellab414]

Sage sounds so wishy washy and generic talk’s quickly about nothing much

[@angielucido8045]

The genuineness...and Sage calling it out...on her deep appreciation for Tony ....he then extends his appreciation for her

[@connie558]

Thank y'all for your kindness, caring and love.

[@TheMinimalists]

Always great to see Tony and Sage’s love emanate through the screen. Bravo!

[@rohanaurora]

The line between love and attachment can be blurry and unclear. Maybe like is more powerful than love?

[@lgnt823]

The genuine care in their tone of voice is legendary

[@MaryBsides]

I agree. Legend.

[@xaviergarcia3599]

Sage is a world treasure

[@amiecave8249]

Yes Sage is

[@VernaBowen]

She sure is. ❤❤️

[@jusdhaliwal8602]

I just lost my daughter I was 6 months pregnant. I could not understand why I feel kinder, more compassionate and want to love myself. I love myself like I never had before and thank you Sage she described it perfectly. My pain and loss has woke me up to the gift of life. I woke up. I have also fallen in love with taking care of my body. Any podcast episode with Mary and Sage has been a blessing, each one has taught me and helped me on my path after loosing my daughter. Thank you both I am eternally grateful. Jusleen xoxo

[@annpane1227]

Tony and Sage Thank you for being so kind. Miss you.

[@mikedefazio2226]

Bless you for the honour… being the first to receive your invite via txt… I’m joining today from Canada 🇨🇦 and such a beautiful session #love #pain The Incredible powerful force of Love ❤️

[@mikedefazio2226]

@tonyrobins @mastermind community #podcast #modernfamily 🎉 congratulations on this moving milestone

[@allaboutrose2247]

Oh my God I needed to hear and see this. I’m crying inside and learning that I need to be glad that I’m alive and though my body is hurting and don’t know why that I need to embrace the life that I’m breathing still and I still get to see my children and I need to not feel that they need to feel my pain and feel sorry for me. God I’m trying, thank you Mary and Sage oh thank you. I’m praying you feel the love and gratitude coming from me right now… Love is love

[@teeokeefe]

Sage is such a beautiful soul. Hearing the story of Mary's shame and Sage's love and compassion in a moment of embarrassment illustrates such unconditional love that is not pervasive in our society. This story is something that we can all learn from. In Sage's words, "it's gorgeous"!

[@manwithanamethystheart]

I love you all! Just want to add from my wisdom on the subject of love.. only because I was born with the extreme spectrum of love and believe to understand more than most. Love isn't an emotion like you're led to believe. Love is an action. Within that action many emotions are brought into existence. In order to truly love.. you must be willing to accept all the emotions that love brings without wavering. That is called "unfailing love" meaning it accepts every emotions that love brings. Be unwavering in your acts of love.. just as the creator of love is unwavering. I hope that helps bring some clarity and substance to one's perspective on love. 💜 many blessings to all of you!🙏

[@teeokeefe]

indeed, Love is a verb♥

[@manwithanamethystheart]

@Gen -X-Appeal I feel it's more of an Adverb. The verbs would be the emotions that come with. Ie happy, sad, hurt, excited.. etc 😊🫶

[@jocelyngreene3991]

😊

[@teeokeefe]

@@manwithanamethystheart Coming from the foundational rules - verbs are actions, nouns are things, and abstract nouns describe feelings we experience with our senses - like describing emotions - but I get your sentiment. I was simply agreeing that Love is an action (even though technically, love is a thing )☺💗

[@carolynmonahan2488]

Love Sage. Need more of her

[@VernaBowen]

Agreed. Incredible human. ❤

[@loveradiating]

Mary- thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a bit of your story. I can so relate as my “choice” was alcohol too. I also had someone in my life that made me want to do better. We got married!! 😂 Almost 13 years ago was my last drink. I am so proud of you!!!! 7 years!!! 🎉 that’s amazing! I’m so grateful you saw that you didn’t want to feel that way anymore. 🙌🏼🥰💗

[@ligiasommers]

How beautiful… I adopted 4 kids and we are the most loving family after getting together 25 years ago 🙏🏻🌹❤️✨🙏🏻

[@aboubakarbebeto]

Hello

[@shiranomilesin8570]

Wow! This is an amazing Podcast, given by three incredible human beings. Thank you Tony for being you and caring about the world, you continuously help change my life for the better! Thank you Sage for your gentleness, humility, honesty, love and depth. I have so much to learn from you. Thank you Mary for bringing our practical examples and being so honest, kind and real. May you all be Blessed!!

[@elianefigueira8616]

Listening to Sage talking she reminds me of Bob Goff he is all about love also. He wrote the book Love Does and it’s beautiful.❤

[@malachiobrien]

So good! Thank you. Much love to the TR Tribe

[@Sharonmc812]

Sage, MaryB, Tony, this is your favorite butler Sharon from LasVegas. I regret the last time I saw you all when I had an opportunity to tell you Sage that a baby would be a part of your life and Mary B would be a part of that life. I had no idea what an important part you would be MaryB. I have a gift and saw it all before it actually happened. I am overwhelmed with Joy and happiness for you all . Please keep us all updated on the beautiful girl that has entered your lives and will change the way you look at the world. ( I hope you read comments or ppl that are monitoring this thread please show this comment to Mary B & Sage) xo

[@cazola247]

This remains one of my top favourite videos ever.

[@dawnandfaith6814]

I loved every minute of this. As a woman who suffered with infertility for 6 years and became a mother through newborn adoption at 44 years old (my daughter is now 12), I can relate to so much of their family story. It is a deep and special love created that is so revered when you must overcome so many unexpected hurdles to become the mother you always dreamed of being. Faith's (my daughter had to be named Faith) birthmother is an angel in our lives and I almost can't put words to what she means in my life for the critical part she played in making motherhood a reality for me. I would so love to talk to Mary and Sage and dig deep into the nuances of our experiences. Such a beautiful share it would be. Thank you ladies and Tony for the wisdom and vulnerability in your message for us all to take into our own lives.

[@allaboutrose2247]

Sage you are so beautiful, so much peace and kindness and genuineness radiates from you! I would love to be in the same room with you 🥰

[@DontUBaDiva]

Love these! Xoxo ❌️⭕️❌️⭕️ Love is the answer!

[@kimicoffey6542]

Thank you!

[@Cheryl___M1]

Wonderful! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻❤️

[@belenfernandez1698]

Wouldn't it be nice if many (all) of us could communicate so much care as you do, naturally? I'd like to express myself with the same sweetness as Sage, I sometimes do but I admit I hide myself behind a wall because I'm so sensitive and people hurt. I find myself struggling between being soft and loving but not naive or being tough and set limits so I won't be hurt. I believe in love no matter what anyway. Thank to the three of you for reminding me. ❤

[@teresajackson3409]

Thank you for this, I have a tendency to shut myself away so I won't feel pain in relationships. The key take away for me was to stay open, and take responsibility. You have given me such peace and a beautiful perspective. Thank you so very much.

[@AnnTsungMD]

I'm so glad to hear that this video has been helpful for you and that you found some valuable insights to apply in your own life. It takes courage to recognize and address our own tendencies to shut down emotionally and avoid pain in relationships, so congratulations on taking that first step towards personal growth and healing. Staying open and taking responsibility are indeed key elements of healthy relationships, as they allow for genuine communication and trust to flourish. By being vulnerable and willing to face discomfort and potential conflicts, we can deepen our connections with others and ultimately experience more fulfilling and meaningful relationships. It's heartwarming to hear that this video has brought you peace and a beautiful perspective. Remember to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you continue to work on improving your emotional openness in relationships. It's a process that takes time and practice, but it's well worth the effort. Thank you for sharing your feedback and experience!

[@bonnieschlosser9353]

Wow. That was beautiful. Sage, my daughter and I are weird, too. Wonderful, eclectic, intelligent, radiant and devoted. Blessings to you and your lovely family.

[@angielucido8045]

Wow...Sage... that's a normal concern, baby nursing on Mary...the entire dynamic of how you set it all up...very unique and definitely having the love in All your 💕 💞 ♥ 💜 do critical and you did it

[@projectqueen610]

As you were talking about self love I was reminded of scripture *Matthew 22:34-40* that includes "Love others as you love yourself". I've leaned on these words particularly this year. How can I give what I do not give to myself. I have to do self care and fill my own cup, so I can continue to pour into others. *** yes, Mary, it is in Corinthians** love is ...

[@MaryBsides]

Hey all, thanks for watching. This episode starts with Tony's intro and he stays on set for 40+ mins. Here are a 7 timestamps to chart your course as this video is a little longer than usual: 15:41 Tony & Sage share a funny story of dinner in Abu Dhabi 22:37 Love makes a family: the story of an unexpected constellation 29:00 Tony: The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships 41:05 Tony has to scoot, passes ball to Sage and Mary 47:43 You’re the reason I quit drinking 1:06:42 Love is love 1:34:18 Behind the scenes OUTTAKES

[@ewoolwine]

Thanks!

[@elianelefebvre4444]

This episode has really touched me. It's so inspiring, yet again, to witness Tony and Sage's generosity, wisdom and the artful way in which they master human life and emotions. Thanks for being a teacher and helping me grow and aspire to be better ❤

[@TheSexHealer]

Curious if you are all in non monogamous relationship romantically!

[@cazola247]

Thank you, Mary!

[@BobMillspaughMusic]

❤ You’re the real deal Tony & Sage!!! Love you heaps!!!!

[@levcimac]

Wow, Sage Robbins! I'm so thankful for you sharing how you are relating to and treating yourself, and your life as a miracle. It seems that this depth of self-respect and care is exactly what I'm being called to cultivate in myself. The sudden realisation is showing me how much I have alienated my own interiority and, I am wondering how much of that has to do with how, as a man in particular, I've learned to disregard the depth of my tenderness. I know there is pain there, too but so is overwhelming joy. Thank you TR, for inviting Sage to share her way of being with us, and help her light extend into our lives.

[@OrangeBarnEmpowerment]

I appreciate Sage's honesty about not noticing it before 40s and in finding ways to blessing ourselves! thank you

[@michellefernandes2570]

What a fantastic share and beautiful story. We can feel the love, sense of gratitude and how blessed the 3 of you feel as you put each other first. Your hearts and joy are so inspiring. Mary B. - you are such a special soul! Thank you for blessing this family with the most precious gift the three of you could ever have. Sending you all lots of love and light! ❤

[@sheilamcvicar7801]

Beautiful feelings with true beliefs and caring...so very rare to see. Thank you for sharing.

[@WisdomInTheLight]

I just received a text this evening saying that I’d love for you to be one of the first to watch 💞 what a beautiful surprise. 💛🦋💛 It’s incredible to see Tony and Sage’s love. The first time I felt their love was last year at UPW. I’m like, WOW!!! 🤍 This is what I will attract, so thank you for showing us what true love is. It’s so lovingly gorgeous that they include Mary and what a beautiful loving family ❤ ❤️ I’m blessed to witness the highest frequency on earth, LOVE! 💛 A TRUE LOVE that comes from within first. Love that heals, Unites, transforms, contagious and changes lives. It’s an energy

[@saradastrickman6406]

Mary carried there daughter!

[@Sylvie-Retailleau]

Love is shining from every tiny particle of this amazing sharing ! Thanks 🌞🌟🌞

[@rogergarcia306]

WOW ! - AMAZING ! - TONIC FOR THE SOUL !

[@angielucido8045]

Truly awesome that you shared

[@annawozniak9223]

Thank you so much for this Tony 🙏🏻 you inspire me daily!

[@BusyAcreHomestead]

Thank You Sage 🙏! My husband and I for the last two years have had to have a long distance relationship I am in Illinois and he is in Nebraska and it has probably been the hardest years in our marriage. Due to my job I cannot get transferred out there for another year. My husband has a health condition and last year he became the oldest member in his family with this illness. I have my own health issues and we are moving to the country to help us with our well being. Along with it we may end up helping raise our two young nephews. Your video is also helping me to trying to deal with the my issues with the fact that my brother has drug and alcohol issues along with many other problems. Our love Has to be strong for Ourselves and Each Other to Help Us be Better People.

[@alschmidt1560]

Ol grin bake ! I absolutely l o v e Tony. . . he has such a winning smile . . .

[@MahnaGhafori]

Love this so much ❤ thank you

[@lindanakandi9594]

Wow I love you guys,the knowledge you share is so awesome, especially the way the world interprets love ,as a form of give and take... When actually its all about giving ,both to others and self , thanks Sage and Tonny

[@maggiechi8718]

So happy to see this today a day I am checking OUT!! I see and feel your LOVE for the 3 of you VERY INSPIRATIONAL!!! Thank you!!! I HOPE people find the LOVE they deserve! Blessings to ALL!! Thank you for this podcasts!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻✨♥️✨💓✨♥️✨🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Nutritioneats]

Love is our true nature. Thank you for sharing your life and love to all Sage, Mary and Tony. Truly grateful..

[@CherylBerryl]

No coincidences, I Really NEEDED to hear these words of wisdom today!!! Thank you! 💞

[@AlburpCatstein]

You guys are adorable ☺️ Thank you for this

[@jennifermartin8584]

Thank you for this! 🙏🏼♥️

[@Hannahh-777]

Love the openness and care you all share for each other. Such a blessing and gift. ❤️🕊️

[@vanessaclark3754]

Wow, so many beautiful stories here, so much love, so much courage, so much wisdom, thankyou thankyou! So pelased I spend my saturday night with you all. Thankyou again for all the treasures that you brign to the world!

[@CharityKenney]

So beautiful! Sage, your love for yourself is so pure and inspiring! I am going to focus on loving myself in this way, thank you!

[@lindajones1419]

This is just beautiful thank you for sharing xx

[@patriciawisher9887]

I woke up to this timely text this blessed morning, feeling love , there the three of you were there to share this love, life message with me and everyone. My take away of appreciation of how special I am and how I live my life, the truth, of Love is .. Thank you.. I am sharing this Love .. I love you all

[@patriciawisher9887]

A blessed reminder as my Birthday is Tomorrow ❤️76, thank you

[@donaldbreckenridge7010]

Being True to yourself is so important!!!

[@marisolm.9324]

Beautiful said. Enjoyed so much. God bless you all!!

[@lenawarelius4195]

Thank you for sharing ❤🙏🙌

[@hollihogan4191]

Love this ❤

[@alexhamlin2730]

This is incredibly moving and inspiring! Thank you for touching my heart

[@werealreadyhere1273]

Beautiful wisdom - withholding love only hurts the withholder. Such a great reminder to lead our lives with love

[@amiecave8249]

Thank you for sending this to me. I am still recovering from concussion I got last May while teaching.. So needed to hear about kindness and love. I have helped in the teaching field over 10 yrs between church, volunteer and community work.

[@nataliebetts777]

Trade expectations for appreciation. Thank you for sharing this perspective of loving.

[@rishikapandey1056]

Happy birthday my mentor Tony Robbins 🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@jane-gz1oo]

So inspired by this, it would have been so easy to have `kept it all under the carpet`, and pretended to be a `regular couple`. Just shows that Love has no bounds. Although I have been aware of Tony`s work for years I now feel I really did not appreciate the extent that he `walks his talk`, so glad for this interview.. Definately an `eye opener`

[@healinghippies1471]

I love you guys so much. Sage is the best example of loving purity

[@leighallen9255]

New to this type of work on self, I'm glad for the lessons you all have, I'm trying to be a human being now and never loved myself or anything else but onward we go

[@SuperAnneBirgitte]

I am so amazed of how you all express yourself. This is my first time listening to Sage - and I am completely taken by this beautiful warm and caring person. Thank you for creating this video. You lift everyone in your teaching of love. Really grateful in - love from Copenhagen 🇩🇰 can feel your energy across the Atlantic

[@olgaangel8080]

I love this Family it’s pure love 💕 I learned how much you can give to the other person thanks for everything

[@ivanagabric5256]

Best thing I started morning with today.

[@carlstedmond]

Such a lovely conversation about the greatest power on earth..thank you ALL ❤

[@lornacignarella6612]

Beautiful ladies I feel inspired by you both ❤️🙏

[@Portland_with_Penelope]

Beautiful family! Their daughter is blessed to be surrounded by so much love.

[@MaryBsides]

thank you for sharing these kind words, Tiffany!

[@sequoiaredwood4801]

Thank you beloved, Tony, Sage and Mary for sharing your internal beautiful Spirit Angels with all x x

[@diamondmindconsulting]

Great conversation and wisdom. Thank you ladies. Thank you Tony. ❤

[@donaldbreckenridge7010]

Tony and Sage. Thank you for your wisdom and experience. I appreciate you and have for years . Your Genuine Love for each other is a blessing to everyone. Thank You so much!!

[@annamiller87]

Love your unique and genuine love for each other ❤ loved listening to this. Service is love, love is laboring for the happiness of others ❤ two beautiful truths I took from this. Thank you!

[@debbieferreira9669]

Thank you so much for sharing your alcohol story. Bcos I love life and I chose to stop drugs, bcos of my sister's love for me. And then they where killed in a car accident on their way to my wedding. Which shattered me. Guilt, dought and fear come in. And I shut love out. So thank you for reminding me of that again.

[@CherylBerryl]

OMG! Mary. I just Cannot even fathom what you have endured. God speed! 🙏💞🫂

[@donaldbreckenridge7010]

Lean on God . He will renew and restore.. he loves you !

[@helencastle4994]

LOVE ❤️❤️

[@GeorgeNedelcu]

Thank you beautiful soul❤️

[@benmagwana626]

Yes thank you sir

[@JohnCorpus-hk9lv]

more power to your team tony!

[@janettem.880]

This is the most beautiful podcast about "Love" So Amazing! Blessed to listen to your words. Love bares All.

[@veronicadurango74]

I feel that there is so mutch POWER in this. The beautiful thing here is that I was in the UPW last week and found out about the 6 human needs. I needed to step into Love and Connection and the day after I saw this video and started to cry.❤ Many people say that I am like a mini Tony. But the truth is that me and my wife to be are alot like Tone and you sage. ❤ Thank you fore this video and thank you Mary B and Sage. Loved this. ❤ Bless you

[@charlottecharlotte4213]

🥀 Thank you for sharing 🩷

[@lornacignarella6612]

I am so grateful for this blessings and love. Looking forward to utpw ❤️🌹🙏

[@CharityKenney]

I love you , Mary! Such a beautiful momma

[@The_Wealth_Diva]

it has been a while since I have been in physical proximity with all of you (since my Plat amazing experience + as a senior leader) AND it feels so good :-) .... Sincere & True moments. Loving this moment with the 3 of you xoxo

[@user-xl8wl1mp2q]

Thank you for your kindness and love😮

[@themooneytwins]

Great to see Tony being able to surrender with himself. For years he was always so intense. Bravo to love and a woman who turns you on.

[@tivakudzemagunda23]

I am grateful for the conversation. Thank you. THATS WERE WE ALL MEET_LOVE_I FIND IT TO BE A BEAUTIFUL LENSE_.God bless

[@jacquelinefinch645]

Sage is a star!

[@malloryohara3084]

Wow I am mind blown, totally didn't know they are your family, throughout the whole time knowing you In San Diego! Flawless!

[@julieanneedwards]

This has been such a beautiful listen you three.. Thank you Robbins family

[@journeyhomewithballori]

What I struggle with is that I often find myself thinking of others and doing things for others and then when I'm at a low point or need some support, there's no one but me. I can't figure out how to get past that sadness.

[@mindbodyandsoul8815]

Love is God AND God is Love. I love the demonstration of I Corinthians Chapter 13 as I call this the love chapter in the Bible. There was so much take-away from this video for me and I'm so grateful as being vulnerable is sometimes a good thing and/or a situational thing as I'm experiencing at this current time in life. I'll have to see how this love thing plays out. Thanks for expressing love in so many ways as it just doesn't have to pertain to an intimate relationship but the love relationships we can build on our jobs with our co-workers even though SOME management styles express not getting involved with the team players too much. I could go on; however, thanks so very much for the insight!

[@maryoliveira2348]

Tu eres El mio maestro! Gratidão 💜

[@jacopoiasiellobroker2735]

Family is everything. IT❤US

[@romilaagard7621]

Super interesting life experience🙋🏻‍♀️♥️♥️👣👣👣👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

[@hannaraoul7731]

Such a pearl of loving wisdom for now and the generation to come 🙏❤

[@alschmidt1560]

🙌 👏 🙏 🤝 👍 you BET mate !!