The truth about my job on social media | Money, freedom, criticism

[@lauraelisee]

I know you don’t want unsolicited advice. But I’m thinking maybe trying out a more traditional job for awhile with vlogging on the side might bring stability, routine, and a new perspective on life 😊

[@alexhika]

I am little bit older than you (31), so I remember very well the utter CHAOS of my 20s and I also have a few more years of experience at being on the planet lol One useful thing I have learnt (and it might not apply to you, but you never know!) is that a very important characteristic of my ideal job, whic I could have never guessed before starting to work, is the importance of knowing what you dislike. Yes, it's great to know what you enjoy, but assuming you don't have one dream career (e.g. wanting to be a doctor) there might be several jobs that you enjoy. For me, it has been very important to understand what I cannot stand, what lowers my quality of life and doesn't help with my mental health. For example, I cannot deal with a job where I am the only person in charge of "starting the business" in the morning, something I learned super well working as a shop assistant. The anxiety of being late/not hearing my alarm when I had the morning shift etc and consequently not opening the shop made so anxious I couldn't sleep. So when moving forward to other jobs, I made sure that was something I paid attention to. I also get exhausted by daily human interactions, so working for home is really good for me. I am also not good at setting my own deadlines and managing time, and I have lots of deadlines set up by my boss at my current job which is super helpful. Small things, but overall removing those little sources of anxiety truly improved my working life. I guess it's something you could try and apply to your current job(s) or to consider for a career shift. Or, as someone suggested, mix and match with a very different job to balance it out? I am sure things will slowly come together and you'll find your balance ❤ I have a lot of admiration for people who share their experiences and opinions online, I definitely couldn't do that! Sending lots of love

[@allyson--]

I love this comment & I feel as if this is practical advice that's difficult to come across! Also, I see you with that Spring Awakening pfp!

[@marcelasanmartin6633]

Great advice!!! I will take and use it 💕

[@UU-mt4wv]

I just hope you're doing ok. You seem a bit anxious/breathy when talking. Switching Jobs, feeling uninspired, switching careers - all of that is so normal, especially in your mid/late 20s. We are all in the same boat. No one has it figured out :) I think you're doing great.

[@marcelasanmartin6633]

Here unsolicited advice: I think that you are not your performance nor your persona on social media. You are not your work!!. And as a long time viewer i can say that it shows that you are so intelligent, talented, creative, loving person but also a person who thrives in structure and routine and goals, so maybe you need to find a job that gives you that exactly, and from that stable and comfortable place, start sharing and enjoying the social media life again 😊😊 ( job or an activity that give you stable income)

[@AlwynRainMystic]

do you ever see yourself working in cancer research?... what do you see your job being in 20 years from now? if the worse comes to the worst, where social media is no longer able to be your job, what job do you see yourself doing?

[@ktnmz2046]

I suppose I’m curious about what the direction of the channel is going to be going forward? Maybe you don’t know and that’s OK too. If the views/numbers stay as they are, will you think about a different job offline? You’re at this crossroads in life that a lot of student productivity vloggers eventually come to so I’m interested in what direction you are hoping to go in. I’m sure you’ll do well in whatever avenue you decide to pursue.

[@MK_2023.]

You're talking about financial freedom, but yet you still live at home with your parents, which gives you a safety net and the opportunity to save money easily. If you were renting and having to pay out over 1-2K a month just for rent, I don't think you'd feel the same way. Also, from seeing your home and the surrounding area, it's clear to see that your family has money, so that definitely helps too.

[@allyson--]

Good point

[@blueflamingo5771]

Well, that's part of her financial freedom, isn't it? Ad there's nothing wrong with it

[@MK_2023.]

@blueflamingo5771 how can you be financially free if you're still living at home? If she was living away from home, renting and still making enough to actually live without the worry of rent or needing extra money, then she'd be actually be financially free.

[@alias4610]

Give her a break, I wish I didn’t have to spend so much money just to have a ceiling over my head

[@AlwynRainMystic]

financial freedom is different for everyone, with regards to her life and circumstances she has financial freedom. not everyone's lives are the same, she is speaking from her perspective

[@aconspiracyunmasked]

It's quite easy to say you’re financially free when you live at home with your parents though. I would say I am financially free as well, but that is with 60% of my income going on rent and bills

[@LL-wu5ui]

How do you know? Maybe she has enough money saved to buy an apartment, but chooses to live with her parents.

[@jenna9510]

Holly, I think you are struggling/anxious because you don’t have a routine like job. I am similair to you and it drives me crazy when my days aren’t centered around something solid, because then I feel like there is no limit and I end up overworking, whereas in a, for example, 9-5, you work for 8 hours and you’re done and then you know you can relax, and you don’t end up overworking. Maybe consider setting limits to work, and so you will have set out times to relax, then it won’t all feel so muddled up and cause anxiety. Some people like no routine and couldn’t stand a “9-5”, but maybe it’ll be better for you :)

[@AlwynRainMystic]

did people get anxious in the stoneage because they didn't have a 9-5? 9-5 jobs aren't natural, the system that we are enslaved to isnt' natural. we can have things to keep us interested and passionate without a 9=5, youre just conditioned by the system. wild animals don't get anxious because they aren't sitting in an office supporting capitalism for 3/4s of their lives. what kind of life is that? waking up, working 9-5 then coming home and being too tired to do anything else. people in these comments are just so mad at holly for not conforming to the corporate capitalist machine that destroys our souls. instead she wants to work for herself and whenever she wants so she cant spend her time doing things she enjoys with people she loves. its no wonder most people are conformist sheep these days with the amount of pressure to conform that is piled onto someone who is not doing the same as everyone else, until they eventually give in and conform too. what a sad world.

[@Its_Elise_C]

THIS OMGEE THIS. Anytime I try to "take a day off" I feel so anxious because I feel like there is no reason I am not working because I don't have a "9-5" where this is my work day and then I am done

[@AlwynRainMystic]

you have just been conditioned by capitalism and the system@@Its_Elise_C

[@princyyu7443]

It’s like: when you vlog your life, you have your life. When your life becomes vlogging, you have no life

[@silvialogan9226]

Holly, I am sure that there are laboratory jobs which you can do which specialize in cancer research. Will you ever be interested in working in Immunocare because they do talk about new treatments in trying to treat and cure different types of cancers in more advanced stages? I do not believe that you need a PhD for that position. Holly, I wish you, Angelo, your sister Emily and her boyfriend, Matthew, your parents, and grandparents a very Happy New Year.

[@ktnmz2046]

Or maybe some sort of public engagement/communications officer in the oncology field. Potentially for cancer charities or cancer research UK?

[@amy_runs]

You could look at associate lecturer jobs, its basically a 0 hour contract for lecturing and a lot of unis let you do this with experience without a PHD. Then it might give you more variety

[@caitlindaly9108]

Respectfully that's nearly impossible with just a bachelors + masters. Academics is so brutally competitive, so for someone who has been "out" of academia in the way Holly has (no recent experience/research) it's so unlikely unless she begins (and potentially not until she completes) a PhD

[@jackhodgson6929]

That's the spirit! ​@@caitlindaly9108

[@AlwynRainMystic]

most of my lecturers don't have phd's and they are senior lecturers, @@caitlindaly9108

[@LunaJoy]

I could totally relate to you about the pressure we give it ourself when it comes to uploads on social media. It kinda takes toll on you if we don't keep some boundaries to it, but am glad to see that you are doing it so gracefully ❤

[@user-tj2he6mq5h]

Mate, you are NOT financially free/independent. I don’t mean that to come across as rude, but as someone who lives alone and has no one to rely on/help pay bills/buy food, you have NO idea if the pressure that comes with that. Maybe be more mindful and acknowledge your privilege

[@user-zd9po3tt4j]

Ikr, she is delusional 😂

[@LL-wu5ui]

How do you know? Maybe she has the money to buy apartment and CHOOSES to live with her parents.

[@AlwynRainMystic]

i think if you got another job social media wasn't your main job' you would go back to loving it again, because the pressure would be gone, it would be soemthing you do for fun and because you enjoy it again. when we turn our hobbie into our job we can begin to hate it

[@ariane1263]

I still see you as a phd candidat tbh 😊 i feel like you‘d do great if you ever wanted to consider it

[@Its_Elise_C]

I do recall you saying that you would never do this full-time years ago. I love to see you reflecting on what will make you happiest!

[@Elelooovesmusic]

Hi Holly! Just wanted to say that there is so many of us supporting you and not judging you or picking your life apart. I am in awe of how much of your life you have been sharing, I could never deal with that kind of scrutiny. I really hope you can free yourself from other peoples’ expectations and create a life that suits your personality and your values and that makes you happy. I’m currently in the first year of my PhD in law and questioning whether or not I should continue. Genuinely, I feel like hardly anyone has figured out what exactly they want from life 🤷🏻‍♀️ Keep doing you! ❤️

[@momentmemos]

This!! I’m also at a crossroads in life. Not sure if I want to continue pursuing jobs that I studied for in uni. Not sure where I’m even gonna live this year. But we’ll figure it out🤞

[@Elelooovesmusic]

@@momentmemos a hundred times yes to all of this ! Good luck with everything 🫶🏼

[@allyson--]

Yes!

[@momentmemos]

@Elelooovesmusic Thank you and good luck to you too❤️‍🔥

[@lizaval03]

For me I grew up with you and watching your videos. We’re exactly the same age and I basically finished university with you. Even though I did a completely different field (3D design), I absolutely love your channel and you just being you has inspired me to keep going. If this is any helpful, would love to see your daily/weekly vlogs more like you normally do them anyways! But also it is absolutely fine to feel lost and confused and try new things, I feel exactly the same at a full time job 😅 you got this 💪❤️

[@ADCIC]

I love how honest you are. We love you. We will support you no matter what you choose. I'm glad you took time off and enjoyed it.

[@allyson--]

I love this video & it helped me reflect on the blessings & curses of my current employment. It's also interesting to think of how our relationship with motivations & possibilities has grown & grown with each decade of human culture.

[@AugherAndy]

Get a real job! Then you dont have to worry

[@RJS4287]

Exposure of much of your life does seem to come with significant costs as well as financial benefits. The limited number of vloggers I have seen do not seem to do it for ever.

[@Langnase-vw7sj]

Hi Holly, I say thank you for all content and if you need a break then take the break. We will be waiting for you. I wish you the best for 2024 love greats from Germany ❤

[@PlanetImo]

I feel like the algorithm rewards making videos on the exact same topic over and over again. I love channels like your where there's a good variety. I feel a sense of loss when channels I love give into their content traps and make the same 'variations on a theme' videos all the time. But then they do really well...

[@thubelihlemathebula6057]

Hi Holly, I hope you get better and that the critism does not affect you too much. All 440K of us love you and love the oversharing part like about periods losing them and getting them back again it is very informative. We love seeing you happy with Angelo and i am sure that we are all happy to have been with you throughout your first🥲. I hope that everything works out this year and if you ever need to take a break just know that we will be here waiting for you to return at your best. Love you Holly all the way from South Africa❤.

[@Sit2024x]

It's quite unfair to label constructive criticisms as the darkest part of socmed / trolls / hate. Like what do you expect? You exposed your life to this platform, yet you only wanted all "toxic positivity" to read? You're not perfect, girl. Learn to listen and accept. You don't like the pressure, yet you keep on vlogging frequently. Like it's kind of common sense to give yourself a break if it's too overwhelming. You're sick. If socmed is too much, quit. You've got a bachelor's degree and other opportunities anyway. There's more to life, Holly Gabrielle.

[@suki7333]

She has no idea what actual hate or trolling looks like. That would be people calling you ugly and useless etc. I've never seen a comment here saying that sort of stuff to her. Most people are giving her constructive criticism, and she often asks for feedback, and then goes the other way and gets offended when people actually give her feedback. It's massively childish.

[@zonaantifascistax4678]

Amen to that!

[@klaragurkensalat5914]

Hello Holly! I very much appreciate the video and the vulnerability. I can definitely relate to the finacial instability that comes with being self-employed. I am self-employed myself (still new to me though) and struggle with weighing the freedom to work "whenever" I want to against the volatility in my income. I'd love to hear more from you about financial matters, e.g. how you budget and save as a freelancer!

[@PaolaSanchez-hc5my]

Holly, I know you said you weren't religious, but when you said you still feel like something is missing, I felt like inviting you to consider that what you're missing in your life could be purpose and meaning. That is why I urge you to consider the words of Christ. I invite you to read about him in the gospel of John, Mark, Luke and Matthew.

[@grachoderunwiderstehlichen]

"ugly" is the advertising campain , if many "click's" have had each video (after 30years of youtube spirit this is only one -of reason why i will not load up my very first video !!!)

[@PaolaSanchez-hc5my]

I think what we all want to know is why are you talking about financial freedom? What is your point? What is the purpose? This topic is nobody's business but yours, you know what I mean?

[@paulinag]

Love new covers style for your videos

[@amirasherish]

It is great too see you back but what I like to see is what is going to make Holly happy and if you share it with us then great but find a path what makes you happy don’t worry about what other people say or what they say you should do. This is your life and don’t regret it make Holly happy xx

[@kevsersahin2443]

ya ingilizce yazıcaktım ama yazmıyorum anasını satiyim ya arkadaşlar -influencelar KZbinrlar-ya sizin işiniz hakkınızda şikayet etme gibi opsiyonunuz yok, çünkü kendiniz patronusunuz bu kadar sıkıyosa seni yapma derler o zaman adama ama hepiniz hem bu dünyanın ilgisini hem de parasını o kadar çok seviyorsunuz ki açıklama yaparken bile dakikalarca video çekip yükleyebiliyosunuz ki kimsenin böyle bi beklentisi yok sizden yani, ya bu dünyanın en kolay işini yapın ya da yapmayın ama yapmicaksanız da gelip burda bize 9-5 çalışan insanlara açıklama yapmayın.Çünkü sizin elde ettiğiniz yaşam tarzına ulaşmaya çalışan milyonlar var bunu unutmayın yakınırken. Teşekkürler

[@evronnie]

A huge respect for you. But she is kinda infantile, that’s just it:)

[@Leilahannoun]

could relate so much to this Holly!! but just know that you are more than good enough, and your contribution to this social media world is impactful and amazing

[@AugherAndy]

Is she still with angelo

[@jimmason1111]

Your are so inspiring thank you for your time and work. I am rewatching some of yours old ones because you motivated me to run, and maybe do a marathon some day... so seeing you training and give advise is so powerful and give me energy to get out and do !! So thank you again for that. I wish you a very happy new year !! xx

[@glitterrecord5347]

I followed you years ago ! And this has never came to my mind ! But you have the famous face of Noah Cyrus !! ❤❤❤ you are beautiful and so inspiring as always ❤

[@sunqueen4080]

I dont why you refer to yourself as an influencer for somone who only just recognises she should be an adult how can you possibly influence anyone!

[@annaspeaks373]

I missed you happy new year 🥳

[@momentmemos]

I can’t even imagine how it feels when so many people come at you with their expectations and opinions how you should live your life. Remember it’s YOUR life and remember there are still soo many people who are rooting for you even if negativity seems to take over. I hope you are doing better🩵

[@PaolaSanchez-hc5my]

You are you and that is your super power!!😊

[@Lana-ou8vu]

Hey Holly, I am following you since you where in Uni and your doing such a great job of protecting yourself because there is just one Holly.. love you to pieces and even you will not upload as many videos as you did, you always will be loved. Take care and remember you are an inspiration for so many people. Love from Lana ❤️‍🩹✨

[@allyson--]

That's such a cute comment :,)

[@autie-fibromyalgialife3953]

Do u pay tax as your earning income ?

[@justinfelt748]

Hi, Holly! Happy Sunday and...HAPPY NEW YEAR!!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🍾🎉🎇🌷🇬🇧💜💜💜💜💜💜😊🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. Well, look at you! Your hair is pretty and getting ready for a new beginning in 2024. I'm impressed!😍⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍. Also, my mom passed away last year in November😢and...she's in heaven right now. So, pray for mom and thank you.💙🙏🌷💖🎇👍

[@charlotte6175]

I really enjoy your vlogs. I’m sorry about the negative comments you received. Wishing you all the best for 2024!

[@zahra.mo11]

Holly I love your videos and your vlogs. You have a unique style which is completely yours People online are just brutal tbh It's hard, but try to ignore the negative comments of people who are salty because of God knows what. If you don't have anything good to say, just leave:)) Love you❤

[@karinstaring]

Such a nice and interesting video 😇

[@VishalSingh-pd9iz]

We missed you on youtube

[@davidc4408]

Your marathon times are impressive, especially for a none pro runner

[@Farhaan_Enigmatic]

❤

[@EuphonicElla]

Yay a new holly video!!

[@jzadomaaa-xn8hz]

The definition of anemia

[@typhanthongphay]

💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

[@sunqueen4080]

Get a job earn a living late twenties still living with mum and dad i bought my first house at 20 stop living off your parents

[@AminTheMystic]

Learn to use punctuation, or don’t bother to comment!

[@nurinizzdhinie2407]

hi holly! i hope you're doing your own podcast bc i like to listen to your accent