The truth about your attachment style after abuse

[@jordansharp7081]

This video should have a lot more comments! Thankyou for such a clear, easy to understand breakdown As someone that was more secure, and then suffered narcissistic/psychological abuse/emotional abuse and gaslighting - I transitioned to anxious due to the circumstances. After healing, I'm starting to feel more secure within myself and noticing my partner is more fearful/disorganised attachment which likely caused the abusive/maladaptive coping strategies to his shame. Thankfully, getting more secure in myself has helped me be there to assist him in beginning to heal his attachment and repair breaks in our relationship, and helped him stop his hurtful behaviour and take ownership of mine too

[@drruthannharpur]

Thank you so pleased you had the security from previous relationships to draw on ❤❤‍🩹

[@schoolbonddogs]

Didn't know that attachment style could change over time throughout someone's life, I thought it was more of a 'template' a person got stamped with growing up. Very useful, thanks!!!

[@drruthannharpur]

This was the original theory about attachment theory but the scientific evidence is clear that it can change! Good news for anyone who has struggled with their relationships ❤️

[@schoolbonddogs]

@@drruthannharpur If someone avoids relationships completely do they even have an attachment style?

[@drruthannharpur]

@@schoolbonddogs yes - sounds like a highly avoidant attachment style

[@Cull_Obsidian]

I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS

[@drruthannharpur]

There's more to come - I'm planning a whole series on attachment! 🙌

[@digishah]

Lovin the new style, diagrams are a big help ❤❤❤

[@drruthannharpur]

Glad you enjoyed 🙌

[@Bisseline]

So true! My parents were both narcissist, covert mun, overt dad, and I am an anxious-avoidant type. I often attract narcs with and try to change it though!

[@drruthannharpur]

Change is possible - keep an eye out for my next few videos as I'm going to deeper dive into different attachment styles and how to move towards more security ❤️

[@Bisseline]

@@drruthannharpur definitely what I need! Looking forward to watching it! 🤩