THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BECOMING CONFIDENT | become magnetic | glow up through self-love

[@alessyafarrugia]

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[@maiiixz]

hii

[@Kaylynn_iedit]

Hi I’m 11, can u do a video of going into 6th I’m kinda scared so pleaseeeee I love you so much !

[@_f0lkl0re]

mind if you spill the workout routine? i literally need improvement on my body!! ❤

[@LivyyLeigh1]

@@_f0lkl0re ya i think we need a workout routine

[@y0ur0n1yL0v3r]

do i have to not have social anxiety to be confident? because as a teenager, everyone around me is judgy,,, "you're so fucking ugly" "girl, yo forehead right now looks HUGE" and idk why but I just crave validation, it makes me feel better about myself.. i have hair JUST like yours but mine is all frizzy and messed up, i always want to straighten mine.... can u help?

[@Mazziuwe]

"calling yourself ugly is like calling God a bad artist" oh she gagged everyone with that line

[@Itsive247]

Wdym by gagged?

[@notg8od]

@@Itsive247made everyone understand basically

[@Itsive247]

@notg8od OH yeah! Srry I'm kinda slow😭

[@Byebyebyyeee]

Yea

[@annamoravcikova8045]

❤

[@Rohama-tz9cs]

I love how she pointed out that God created in a perfect image and calling ourself is basically saying that He's a bad artist and that we are all perfect in His image ❤ Edit:wow 113 likes in one day Thank you guys❤

[@alaahussein3365]

As a Muslim that's what we always say and that what we believe in

[@ameliagaska1462]

As a Christian same we love to see it, God Bless sister

[@alaahussein3365]

@@ameliagaska1462 🤍🤍

[@heathersnumber1fan]

I don't even believe in God but its a beautiful message to share

[@adi-tz1eg]

Wake up lil sisters, BIG SIS IS BACKKKKK🎀

[@alessyafarrugia]

SHE'S BACKKK😛

[@StephanieElaine-uk5mk]

🎉🎉🎉

[@melatabereham9175]

Yeeesss🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@gadugyamfi803]

I always feel good with her vids. Thank you sis.

[@gadugyamfi803]

I feel you feel me😂❤❤❤❤❤

[@Troy_Cupid]

I'm i the only male that watches alessya?? I mean I know she makes the videos mainly for girls, but I've been watching her for some time and what she has said has really helped me over the past few months

[@IFxith1230]

Alessya you should make a Girl Talk series where you just give us advice! (Stuff like relationships, self esteem, body care tips, etc.) That will help a lot of people :))

[@natty-zxa]

GIRL TALK WOULD BE SO GOOD AS A PODCAST OMDS

[@cutexstar707]

Yess!

[@ushakumar77]

THE TIMING IS CRAZY😭🎀

[@IFxith1230]

I WAS LEGIT ABOUT TO SAY THAT 😭

[@arunisingh5225]

OH FR SHE HAS NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS RIGHT NOW

[@sietskevanderlaan]

I KNOOWW I NEEDED THIS SO BAD

[@Ggwen1]

Reallllll

[@larkfly9273]

Real confidence is extremely rare. I'm 34 and I have not even met a handful of them. My boss right now is confident, and magnetic is absolutely a good word. She makes me feel relaxed and better about myself because she feels relaxed and good about herself. Her energy makes me so calm. There is not a hint of arrogance about it, just pure "energy joy".

[@kenziseek5663]

I've never been earlier to a video in my life

[@advita.m]

Me too 😭😭😭(i think)

[@Kiki_is_a_star]

SamEe I hope so😂

[@savannahicks6774]

Same

[@mozz777]

this is exactly what subliminals are good for, reinforcing certain ideas/beliefs like " i am already confident", that's my tip of the day

[@kookie22]

Girl do you have a podcast if you don’t you need one… PLEASE GET ONE IF YOU DONTTT I NEED ITT

[@mira98kkhh]

this girl has been one of my KZbin big sisters from day 1 I love her, anytime I'm feeling down or need a confidence boost I know to watch her and ill be just fine

[@alessyafarrugia]

omg bae that makes me so happy🥹❤️

[@briajali]

OKAYYY IMMEDIATELY SUBBED WHEN U STARTED PREACHING SIS!!! "That's like calling God a bad artist" was such a fire line. You did that.

[@vilylalleyy]

physical confidence: -stop comparing yourself to others and love the way you look -know you're perfect the way you are -attractiveness is subjective -work out -change negative self-talk into positive self-talk social confidence -its not "i know they'll like me" its "it won't bother me if they don't" -don't please others, please yourself -its not others judging you, its you judging yourself -embarrassment is a choice -act like the most confident ver. of yourself would (celebrate other's successes, try to engage in brief convos, stop using self-deprecating language, stop seeking validation, open body language) -start waling into a room like god sent you there (because he DID) -be confident for yourself and not others authentic confidence -trust yourself -be forgiving to yourself -root for yourself -educate yourself (outside school) -don't fear failure -accept your "shadow" self

[@MegTsioumi]

the video made me giggle and feel so comfortable in living in the present moment without feeling the uncomfortable feeling of unease

[@losgatos19]

1:59 love the sit down videos

[@palviika8712]

Today I got to know how it feels being faster than the speed of light 🙃🌸🌸

[@hananeraouf-pu8sx]

I've been ruttin in bed for the last week because of depression and anxiety and i just hated my life and how i look but this video made me get up and work out and do my work just thank you girl you really are my life model

[@elizabreath2007]

THE WAY I SCREAMEDDDD WHEN I GOT THE NOTIFICATIONNN

[@JusticiaTali]

SAMEEE

[@alessyafarrugia]

LMAOO ILY

[@elizabreath2007]

@@alessyafarrugiaomggg mommy replied😭😭😭😭😭 ILY MOREEEE

[@adrianaxx777]

HELPP SAME I'VE BEEN WAITING

[@paige_louise]

hi! i don’t know if you’ll see this but you have CHANGED MY LIFE! you’ve made my life so much better by changing my mindset and really helping me get my life together. i used to be a huge bet rot too and would comment on myself every time i look in the mirror and would cover it up with makeup but it would make me feel worse. now i have a healthy body, i wear makeup maybe once a week, i take care of myself, and i found someone who loves me for me and he’s been the light of my life. thank you for being the best influence and inspiration on my life. ❤

[@DaughterOfTheKingdom16]

This video is so good. i am very secure but not always the most confident. I heard this : "confident" has an association of acting or feeling proud of oneself, but "secure" has an association of feeling safe or unthreatened. "confident" often means a feeling that you are satisfied with yourself, but "secure" often refers to a feeling that you are safe where you are.

[@ripxdoc]

you are so beautiful! one hearted comment from you would make me so so so happy! ❤

[@rimshakhalid777]

I LOVE THESE SIT DOWN TALK VIDEOS SM THEY GIVE ME SM COMFORT ILYSM

[@OLIVIAPOOKIee]

PLEASE GET A POSCAST!!I have 3 brothers, so you are like the older sister I never had!! I’m starting school soon, a new one, and I want to be confident to start over! I don’t want to be know as shy again.

[@manashwita]

gurl i can literally listen you talk for the rest of my life!!!

[@saylenadominguez2924]

Girl I missed you, you made my morning once I seen this.

[@evesakura6158]

GOD KNOWS HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS I REALLY HATED MY NOSE MY WHOLE LIFW THANK YOU FOR BEING OUR STANDARD ILYSM

[@jeffypaul8835]

Only girl youtuber I watch as a male lmao. Wish you all the success!

[@gr4ce..m]

holy crap i used to watch you wow. i feel old

[@leilaisurdaddy]

@gr4ce..m me too omg

[@lawsonkitty3747]

i love your personality so much, ughhhhhh. Being gorgeous is just a bonus.

[@saltycake769]

8:11 THE WAY I FREAKING GASPED

[@mervc_]

Frrr sleeper build

[@arandom7595]

Ong that was so cool

[@akktegoo3726]

Ugh this helped me sm ty! I actually loved this video, it organized my thoughts and my mindset a litttle bit more. Now I have a more clear idea of what i have to do or who I am. Im someone who compares herself a lot to people who I think are similar to me and are even “better” than me. Now I understand that I have to accept it but also learn that I am different from them and I am enough just like those who I compare myself with. Thank you!! Ilysm!❤❤

[@EmilyGiselle-i8t]

OMG, not only that she is beautiful with or without acne, she is so wise!!! Like when she said, " you might be thinking that the person is mean in our heads, were the ones judging not the other way around" ❤

[@rat-hy2kl]

GIRL YOUR HAIR HAS BEEN LOOKING SO GOOD RECENTLY

[@treekitties]

LITERALLY!! My social confidence and my looks confidence need a MASSIVE upgrade. Back a few years ago, if anyone hated me I would be really sad, EVEN if I didn't know who the flip they were. And that made me realize, others opinions don't matter of you, only yours does because only YOU know everything about yourself. And about your looks confidence, don't hate or try to change your features, enhance them. You'll know what I mean soon enough.

[@basant356]

I really needed this video , i was strting to lose all confidence and i started comparing myself to the other girls but after watching your video i decided to start loving myself

[@maricarmenhernandez109]

I literally never get on KZbin, mainly because the type of content I like to watch is saturated with so many unrealistic standards. But YOU, you're so honest, smart, and can actually articulate your thoughts so well. I also love you referencing God, keep making these amazing videos! congrats on the new camera btw

[@koresbabysitter]

Only 1 min into watching the video and I'm already... mind blown! 👀

[@Zara7EDITZ]

I love watching her videos it makes me feel so good and it makes me feel like I have a big sister to talk to because I am the eldest out of all the little ones so it’s hard but thank you for making amazing content and your beautiful 🤍

[@xoaaliyah]

the timing is absolutely crazy, i’ve been struggling with confidence, motivation, and fear of failure. ily ale and all that you do 🤍

[@LuxeGlow_Diaries]

Self-love is the key to everything, great reminder ❤

[@tvqlerie]

Thank you so much for this!! Remember‼️ Our God was perfect in every way and some people still find something to say about him,and that's on their part. That just proves that they were jealous and insecure. We should learn how to not care about others opinion because people who say bad things about you will not be the people who'll you'll be with when you die, don't let it get to you❤

[@kerissa15]

I NEVER CLICKED ON A VIDEO SO FAST IN MY LIFE. I LOVE YOU GIRL ❤

[@sabrinao.699]

You're literally packed with so many truths. I'll take notes and put them into practice to become the most confident person I could be. Let's be brave and confident enough to do what we believe in especially in God. 💗🎀💄

[@KenziCook-c7t]

i actually love ur channel i found it yesterday and have been watching ur videos ur like the wisest person ever

[@annah0707]

she is literally saving me rn bro

[@ntsakeloxo]

we love the sit down videos 🌸❤️🫧

[@ChrisBreezy-n2f]

That "do you clench you ass cheeks when you focus?" is so real!! omg I'm wheezin coz I literally thought to myself earlier on when I was doing it,"do other people do this,am I the only that does this?"❤

[@leyoo-mo4qp]

Girl please keep making videos like this, I’m begging u!

[@Sne_Mncwango]

Why am I starting to be more confident, I love you . Your voice and confidence heals ❤

[@paprincess13]

I LOVE these sitting down girl talk videos. I like to listen to them while I’m heading to and from the gym.

[@alaahussein3365]

You make me feel like I'm the best ever! I've been slowly improving myself for a year now. Thank you girl! I'm so happy when you post a new video🤍🥺

[@spongebobstarfish]

Girl your timing is literally perfect

[@vibess2403]

I listen to many women, speaking on confidence, making like a pep talk like this and whole lot other things about life and self improvement and i try to be better version of myself, and honestly they do speak good and give advices and but THIS gallll, she really speaks fact and really goes into the depth o the problem and makes me really question myself, "Am i really what i THINK of i am? Or i just think that i am like this" and this really helps me alot to be better instead of saying and affirming shallow thing ls, and i love you for it❤

[@callhermana]

LITTERALLY YOU LOOK SO PRETTY WITHOUT MAKE UP, GIRL❤❤❤❤

[@marta-mz7sc]

alessya YOU’RE GLOWING ILY

[@duckpond301]

Girly we NEED the updated curl routine

[@fiene_csp]

When I first found your channel a little over a year ago I felt so comfortable "around" you. Because I found your videos I wanted to improve my mental health and start to be a better version of myself❤Thank you for being on this platform and encouraging and helping people 💕💕

[@kerimorrisonn]

alyssa I just wanna say you are absolutely gorgeous and beautiful!! and thank you for making me feel gorgeous 💗 you’re such a queen!!

[@addysinlee]

i love how you broke down the three different types of confidence and gave examples and life experiences to make them easy to understand! this video was literally the most helpful thing ever. ily alessya ❤

[@jasminehealey9405]

This video was my introduction to you & it's as if you magically materialized into my life like some kind of beautiful & majestic guardian angel, saying exactly what I needed to hear at the most crucial point in time. THANK YOU!!! You are absolutely amazing & I'm so goddamn glad that the almighty KZbin algorithm has finally put you in my path☺️ From the very bottom of my heart, I thank you🧡🧡🧡

[@chahinezabdelmoumene2258]

I LITTERALLY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS AND I REWATCH THEM ALL THE FRICKING TIME

[@zennormotley]

I literally need a summary note page of her videos because there is SO much good info in her vids xxx

[@LivyyLeigh1]

you are my fav youtuber and i have seen all your videos, after watching your videos i have become a more productive person in the mornings and i am always prepared for the next day thank you so much for being a helpfull person and i also love your hair :)

[@sinadikularatne9603]

I just found her channel and i thought it was just another video on confidence but i was sooo wrong. This single video has taught me so much more than any other self - love video i've ever watched. I love the way she speaks too💖💖

[@Mari_JJK]

Girl , I really have to thank you , bc you ACTUALLY changed my whole mindset , like before a few months , I felt so bad about my self and I discovered your channel AND IM GLAD!! Thank you for your videos and you are the best!

[@Hungryisveryhungry]

Hey alessya,I know you prob wont see this but I just wanted to say, you have honestly helped me so much. I found your channel in feb when I was really depressed and was sh really bad. Your videos have helped me so much I really look up to you a lot and because of of you that depressed 13 year old girl from 5 months ago is now a confident about to be 14 year old I love you and your videos so much thank you for helping spread positivity and being honest with your viewers please continue to do what you do p

[@EverythingGirlyM]

I've watched and read a lot of videos and books on confidence and I feel like this was literally meant for me. A part of me is so glad that this video took this long to come out because, my brain is more receptive to this information today than it would have been any other day .Girl I love you and if there's a 1000 people that this video moved then I am one of them.

[@real_roses]

Girl, you're amazing! Thank you, I've been searching for a GENUINE video on confidence, love you queen 👑💖

[@KKaur1996]

This woman is literally incredible, oh my goodness gracious me! This was so, so needed for me today. Thank you, you beautiful soul❤

[@glazedhedwig]

I’m so happy you posted at this time!! Summer is almost ending where I’m going back to my home after visiting the fam in Brazil in 3 days and I feel horrible about myself and everything around me, and your videos always give me that little boost of confidence no matter what type of confidence it is. I hope you continue to post more because I love your videos girl! Have a great rest of your summer! ❤️

[@zoerose1813]

Alessya came in clutch when we need her fr

[@asmaaaaa-r7c]

ahhh i literally love you so so so so sooooo much alessya. you made me feel for nice inside and confident in myself and my body. thank you so much for being the role model every girl in this generation who are going through the harsh expectations of the society need❤

[@gr4ce..m]

i rlly hope she knows how much her words improve my day to day life. props to u bb hope the best for u

[@SamanthaRincon-ei2nr]

Amazing. This is the energy, and yes something a lot of girls should hear! I know it helped me.

[@cuties-sundaiis]

GIRLIES WAKE UP CAUSE OUR BEAUTY QUEEN HAS POSTEDDDDDD❤❤☺️😊 ( love your beauty tips💅)

[@Natures_bestie]

Pookie you are truly the big sister I’ve always needed and wanted. Youve truly helped me find myself for the first time and I was kinda scared to post this comment but I need to take risks. I’ve always been shy and insecure since I was like 6. Thanks to your videos I feel like i can actually learn to love myself. Thank you so much ❤️😋

[@renenene1]

i use to watch ur old videos on tiktok and now i discovered that youre on KZbinEE ??? wow! i loved this video SO much. im on the jounrey of loving myself. thank you love 🥹💛

[@itskasey1839]

I used to HATE my forehead because I thought it was huge, but now I've grown to love it because it's part of who I am, and how God created me

[@taliw7736]

Love you and yes that quote that God placed me in that room is super essential to my confidence now.

[@y.mma09]

ONG ALESSYA YOU DONT KNOW HOW MUCH I MISSED YOUR LONG VIDEOS❤👑✨️

[@zzxinab.mm2]

Guys i have officially watched every one of my big sisters videos ❤

[@shirrasia]

Thank you sooooooooooo much for this video. You stopped filming for two months and you got stronger

[@Kyaonfya]

Thank you for your videos 🤍🤗 I’ve been on a journey of healing and changing my mindset. The timing of this being uploaded is amazing 😭🙏 God Bless

[@BrianFitzgibbob-zk1yx]

Tbh..i tell myself i look good but really my braindoes not agree,this helped me soooo muchhh

[@eliltaliya]

queen! my confidence was just going up the whole time. the quotes were just ❤. also pls make a video on skin texture, it’s something i struggle w.

[@fa1ima]

You should make a Podcast!!! The way you speak, humour, voice is perfect

[@Anathi210]

Before this video, i thought that im not even close to being confident, but recognition hit me from the tips you(she)gave us❤

[@jin-tc9sv]

You don't understand how much I smile watching this whole video you are the best

[@iadoregegu]

listening to this while i clean brought me TO LIFE ✨

[@amelialee7866]

You couldn’t have posted this video at a better time for me, also your talking speed is PERFECT 👌

[@Iloveminkatt]

omg i feel like i needed this video!! i've been trying to find my confidence but it's genuinely so difficult :( thank you for posting this

[@paige_louise]

hi! you may not see this but i just want you to know that you have CHANGED MY LIFE! i’ve been a subscriber for a long time and i am so grateful i found you. i used to be a bed rotter too😂 i would always comment on myself every time i looked in the mirror, eat like crap, and treat myself horribly, but now i have a healthy body, a ton of self confidence, a love for myself and all my flaws, and a special someone who is the best guy i’ve ever met. he really is the biggest light of my life. i’m so happy that i have this new found life all because of you. you really don’t know how much i have changed over the years because of you. i love you so much and i hope you continue to make everyone around you so happy ❤

[@ItsMeKimy]

The way I searched for this video on your channel a while ago and you now uploaded it literally brought a smile to my face.🤭 Out of all the other videos on confidence that I have watched none of them really spoke super in-depth about accepting yourself like you did (not to glaze or anything) and I especially enjoyed when you spoke about the difference between 'faking it till you make it' and how that is still putting on a mask on for other people rather than manifesting and saying that you ARE confident TO YOURSELF even if you don't believe it yet. Thanks for making this video Alessya. ❤

[@carmenterrana20]

I love the sit down and giving girlie advice vibe, def would love love love to see more of these!!!!

[@sadiaaarafiq6465]

Your videos are like therapy for me,i feel really good after watching them , please be consistent on KZbin, you're my favourite youtuber🥺♥️

[@scarlettclifton-vaciannia4535]

You are literally my FAVOURITE KZbinr ever ahhh this video was so needed thanks gf

[@livingmybestlifewslimchick3625]

Loving the Girl Talk Message about "BEING CONFIDENT"✨❤️🍾🥂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Byebyebyyeee]

I love this video so much being confident is important for us to build on ourselves and also being forgiven and grateful for who we are. ❤

[@froggieskkk]

thank you so much alessya, i took notes of EVERYTHING. I love you

[@iloveyou4eva]

Ive struggled with confidence since i was 12. I use to have clear skin but now i have so many pimples and blackheads. and when i tell you, I TELL YOU, this queen helped

[@Anne-un7kv]

Okay, i almost cry. I have no words to express the way that this video helped me. Love u so much Aleee❤❤😭😭