The Ultimate Guide to Forgiving Yourself: Tips for Self-Forgiveness | Advice From Catholic Priest

How to forgive yourself? In this insightful video, Fr Cristino, a Catholic Priest who shares his insights on self-forgiveness. We all make mistakes in life, but it can be difficult to move on from them when we don't forgive ourselves. In this candid conversation, our provides helpful tips and practical advice on how to practice self-forgiveness and find inner peace. Whether you are struggling to forgive yourself for a past mistake or just looking to cultivate more self-compassion, this video is sure to provide you with valuable insights and inspiration. Tune in now to learn more about the power of self-forgiveness and how you can apply it to your own life.
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[@Catholicspeaker]

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[@annewiens1612]

Great incites, Ken

[@annewiens1612]

INSIGHTS

[@kunjamma4546]

❤

[@davidcole333]

This really hit home. I carry the burden of sins from decades ago. I know how to approach it now.

[@Catholicspeaker]

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[@ritaaraujo5697]

What a great and very helpful conversation. I have in the past been very scrupulous and had a difficult time forgiving myself. It took me some spiritual direction and prayers to free me from this sad situation. Father and Ken have given a perspective that should help many people. Most of us are parents and love to give gifts to our children and to see the gift rejected is a very sad and frustrating thing. God bless you both greatly.

[@debbiefurtado9780]

God please help me forgive myself from this day forward and continue to bask in your love and total forgiveness of my sins.😢😢😢😢

[@bettyscherger1908]

Thank you for this conversation, I have struggled with confession and this has helped with a new perspective on Jesus’s forgiveness,

[@lldlila]

This was so helpful. I didn’t know how much I needed this. God please forgive my unforgiving attitude of myself.

[@patodwyer721]

Thank you Fr.Cristino and Ken for the benefit of your Wisdom and Guidance

[@maryjofinn792]

Thank you for this beautiful explanation. GOD BLESS US ALL.

[@dorisodonnell2948]

Thank you both. Great conversation. The image of you as a child with the soap, Father gave a great image and holding the crucifix after confession. Thank you Father C and Ken for your great insight on this important matter. God bless 😇🙏✝️

[@Catholicspeaker]

Thanks for watching!

[@mazikode]

Thank you Fr and Ken..God bless you both.

[@Catholicspeaker]

Thank you too!

[@organicmonica]

"I release you from the debt of pain you have caused me"... truly life-giving words!

[@lynnobyrne4241]

So many good points. I too sometimes have trouble forgiving myself and today you two explained so well the gift we’ve received from Jesus and how it must hurt him when I don’t accept his gift of forgiveness freely given. Living in gratitude is changing my life 🙏🙏thank you and God bless you both 🙏🙏

[@johnholding1918]

Hard to hear , but very true.

[@lorettarobertson6705]

God bless your family and thank for sharing this Easter time

[@allensmith4072]

thank you

[@melissat1619]

This message has really hit home for me. I struggle with forgiving myself of a sin I committed almost 2 decades ago. I FINALLY went to confession and vouced my sin out loud for the first tume ever, and even though the priest absolved me from my sin, I still havemt forgiven myself. To know that I am causing pain to Jesus as a result is even worse. I will he asking for forgiveness again and this time cling to Jesus' response. Thank you.

[@lvlc5]

I was talking about this with my middle one. My sons 1st confession was today and yesterday he was nervous about a specific sin that even when Jesus can forgive him, he feels he cant forgive himself. This is a great to put it. Is about being open to his mercy, allowing him and not allowing ourselves are not compatible. His first comunnion is tomorrow, olease pray for him 🙏

[@trevajana]

I really needed to hear this. I struggle so much with forgiving myself. The Lord is so good. His mercy endures forever.

[@Catholicspeaker]

Thanks for listening.

[@carolhensen8005]

Thank you Father and Ken for the great words of wisdom to trust in Jesus……….

[@traceyhackett3741]

The Baptism of my 8 yr old grandson during the Easter Vigil was my highlight. His celebration on Easter Sunday was great as well. I used the plastic Easter eggs to fill with a Bible verse and a few Chocolates for all the guest. It will be a memorable Easter for all my family.

[@traceyhackett3741]

Sorry this comment was for your Easter video with your family

[@brendankelly7500]

Thanks very much for your advice re.confession and God's forgiveness and compassion .Made a huge impact on me in the best way possible

[@alejandrasweet8596]

I always do more penance than what was given to me. But this discussion have shown me about your analogy of not accepting the grace of God..as if it's not enough to forgive myself. Sorry God for not trusting you and for not accepting your gifts ♡♡♡ Thank you Ken and Fr. Cristino ♡♡♡

[@bluebird5949]

Thank you. Well done.

[@citizen862]

Thank you Lord for forgiving me. and giving me the grace to forgive myself. This message from Father C. is so powerful to find inter peace.

[@chebet4264]

This is amazing. It will help us alot in the journey of our faith. Be blessed for this wonderful job well done.

[@dianenoll9126]

A great conversation especially as this week leads to Divine Mercy Sunday. What stood out to me was the prayer you say Ken when someone hurts you. I love that. I'm going to use that type of prayer when my grandchildren say something that hurts me more than it should. My youngest grandchild is 9 almost 10 and the oldest is nearly 22. As you can see they all know better. BTW there are 8 total. I try not to feel hurt but at times it's tough. Same goes for my children who are adults. Anyway God bless you and thank you for this gift today. ❤🙏🏼😇

[@dianesimpson8869]

Thank you Fr Christino for sharing your story of when you were a little boy tying your shoelace and the bar of soap! What a wonderful analogy for how we can make things worse by not accepting forgiveness. Ken, I am going to start saying I release myself from the debt of pain I have caused myself because Jesus does. Today's video resonated with me deeply!

[@rickyking2554]

Such wisdom. Such understanding, thank you. God bless you both

[@elenasilipa6090]

I was so glad that listening your Conversation with Father, about Forgiving ourselves, I was listening Attentively and am feeling so grateful hearing Father's response, Explaining sounds very clear. And how you also add your side to towards the topic, and of course what Father said and what you added in, is really honestly true. Thank you, so much for sharing, I always believed, we Catholics needed to hear these kind of Spiritual Foods to understand and continue to grow and knowing that we are not alone. Thank you Father. So comforting enjoying listening to You both interesting program.👌👍 May God protect & Bless you both.🙏💕💕😊from New Zealand🌺

[@dianeknittle9087]

So much energy in your home! 🎉😊

[@charlesoneill466]

Beautiful homily

[@mariececilehachey6305]

Thankyou so much Fr Thankyou both God Bless You today and always

[@melmerk12]

Such a great video, Ken and Fr. Christino! Truly truly I needed to hear this! Thank you, both!

[@Catholicspeaker]

Our pleasure! Thanks for listening. 😀

[@katkat2340]

Outstanding faith filled session! Also - we can pray for the grace to forgive or be forgiven- it completes the healing of the heart. Makes Gods child - restored in His power for abundant life . A forgiven person also forgives as He knows the deep gift and love it is

[@paquitogarcia7418]

Thank you for that clear explanation and examples. I had been struggling for a long time sorting out and looking for the meaning of forgiving oneself, and why and how to do it even after going to confession.

[@maradonjuan5090]

What an awesome lesson, thank you Father and Ken. It amazes me how our Catholic faith is so interesting and beautiful!! May the Lord continue to bless both of you and guide you. Thank you for all your videos and lessons 🙏🙏🙏 blessings to your family Ken and for Father's family as well

[@elizabethjackson2928]

Very good question from Dawn, and I liked your answer & message, Father Christino! Thank you! Also, I found it informative your answer to someone asking for a harsher penance. Thank you both for today's video. God bless!

[@gloriasanders1760]

Thanks Ken for the talk you have with Father which is full of wisdom , humility n honesty that each of us should do whenever we encounter this very big word FORGIVENESS. Thanks too for the lady who raised up the question. This forgiveness is one of the words that easily said but hard to do coz most of the time a person do not really understand the meaning of Forgiveness.

[@johnydevassia]

Dear Ken and Janelle. Congratulations to both great model couples and the little ones. Today's interview with Rev. Fr. Crisano was extremely good The relevant questions and the best answers made this interview highly attractive. I am very happy to see your family photo. How happy and innocent your children are. . Wish you all the best

[@OLGrace]

This stood out to me. 5 years ago my young son died in my arms. It was a tragic backyard accident. The morning of the funeral I had a dream, and in it he said to me everyone needs to learn to forgive themselves. It's stuck with me, and I believe a few of us involved are still trying to do this. For me it's been in phases of letting go of blame and regret, and letting God love me. Your discussion was helpful in refreshing my viewpoint of Jesus's mercy. There's nothing I can do about the past, but I can accept his gift, no requirements. Thank you.

[@Catholicspeaker]

Thanks you so much for sharing such a personal story and the wisdom you have been blessed with through the tragedy of the lose of your son. 🙏

[@amyschmier8090]

So, so, so helpful!. I love these conversations with Fr. Christino.

[@dawnmireles2912]

April 12, 2023 Thank you for the guidance.

[@dawnmireles2912]

April 12, 2023 Begin with gratitude! Yes! This! Love all of these ideas! Great points Father Cristino and Ken!

[@nancygallie7014]

Thank you so much. This is so helpful. God bless you!

[@Red_Sox_Fan.]

I've been struggling with my mental health and not being able to fully or even forgive myself at all for various life mistakes. I didn't realize until after watching this video with you both that in order to gain inner peace, I need to learn self-forgiveness and I need to learn to follow God's will better like you both said so that I can gain that inner peace. The perspective that you both gave me is just what I needed to hear to set myself on the path to self-forgiveness. As everyone else has expressed the words of, "I release myself for the debt of pain I have caused myself" truly is something to live by and are words of grace and wisdom. Thank you for making this video and providing a way to help me and others to learn self-forgiveness and begin to let go of the past.

[@wangakawanjiku4169]

Thanks for the message of confections of how we have to forgive ourselves and others

[@mariannemacarthur716]

Mayb those of us from the guilt Era of the church ( decades ago) just felt unworthy of His 4giveness & struggle with the thot of " His Just punishment " 4 those same sins? I can 4give others & have. I am much tougher on myself. I attend confession weekly, attend daily Mass as much as possible. & still so humbled that He wud 4give me of my sins. I changed those sins- that has helped me very much! Giving a proper Lenten offering - brought the joy 2 me years ago. Change yr sin,- I am thinking- that is all He wants? Thanx & U need 2 go deeper 4 the seniors - that suffer this, the most! 🙏🤲

[@kathrynmacgown6575]

Thank you for sharing! Happy Easter!

[@blujeans9462]

Excellent topic!! Thank you for your inspiring words. I remember years ago a priest gave me one Our Father as penance. But he said it must be said over the period of 5 minutes (!). This told me I needed to ponder every phase - and dwell on its meaning. Now, when ever I am given 'a one' of any prayer as penance I try this meditation process. Sometimes it takes even longer. :-)

[@farmersdaughter1000]

Thank you Father and Ken for addressing things that weigh on us but do not know who to ask about them. God bless you!

[@jacqueschauvin1398]

“I release myself from the debt of pain I have caused myself “ “It’s God pleasure and will that will we live in His Mercy” Thanks to Father and Ken

[@patrickmcginley4356]

Absolutely beautiful, thank you, you are a very special family,keep up the good work ,May God continue to Bless you.Happy Easter to you All

[@pegquilty592]

So good! 💙 I find it so helpful when these big concepts, like forgiveness, are made relatable with real life situations and examples. Thank you.

[@peggypeck1539]

Thank You. This has been very helpful. Many, many years I have not been able to forgive myself for past sins that I am sure God has forgiven me for. I think I can forgive myself now. Still not happy with the sin/sins I committed but pretty darn sure I won't do it again. 🙏

[@branedey6421]

Thank you for this. God bless you.

[@monicajean6432]

Thank you, Ken and Father Cristino. Beautiful words and message today. Soul healing. ❤😊

[@monicakosiorek2713]

I’ve done it…asked for a different penance🤦‍♀️thank you father I’ve discussed this very thing in confession and never got such a clear explanation and redirection 🙏🏻

[@maryconnor432]

Thank you Fr. Christine- I appreciate so much how you explained this answer; I will be watching this video more than once to fully absorb it. Ken thank you also for your sharing too; I can relate to all in this video. God bless you both. Thank you Jesus for your great mercy and forgiveness. Christ is risen Hallelujah 🙏✝️

[@jacqueschauvin1398]

Thanks Father and Ken. I am struggling with this and suffering from anger at myself for situations where I caused myself pain because of pride and compulsive behaviour. I will think of how to move past that and be grateful and accept His gift. I could give myself forgiveness

[@pdxnikki1]

Its often this: Many of us have been raised without any experience of forgiveness from our families. We don't know how to forgive ourselves because noone ever forgave us. We never learned. While we can be very open to receiving the forgiveness that Jesus offers us, that's about all we can do, while praying daily to ask Him to help us learn to accept His mercy as He heals our very wounded hearts. Willingness from those of us who don't understand the concept of forgiveness at a basic human level is necessary first. God will do the rest. And it usually is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and with God as He works to heal your heart. ☺️🙏

[@dawnmireles2912]

You are so right. So very right.

[@j.polishboy4871]

Thank you. I always struggle w/ this.

[@diannezalewski3885]

I have also held on to guilt about sins committed decades ago. Thank you for this session. It's really been helpful!

[@miyaanthony621]

I have been suffering from self forgive ness since a few decades now. Even though I accept that God has paid the price for the consequences of my sins, I still feel guilty thinking about the consequences. Those consequences can never be changed and that is is weighing me down. But I'll continue to pray to God to give me the wisdom to lead towards the path of forgiveness.

[@VitorOliveEOT]

What?😮 This values more than gold. You're both are simply saving lives and famílies with these precíous 16 minutes. Thank you so much! Hope Jesus keep inspiring your words 🙏

[@cmsanc2918]

This has got to be one of the very best videos you have presented …I have struggled and this just makes so much sense and gives me such absence of relief thank you

[@sylviareta6697]

I have been working on my spiritual life much more and I was one of those ppl that couldnt really forgive myself bc I thought my sins were too huge to be forgiven. But then I read how Judas great sin wasnt so much about that he had betrayed Jesus but that he did not believe in God's mercy, and that was the greater sin in God's eyes. So thank you for this talk and confirming that I must believe and trust in God's mercy.

[@lindabaca1850]

Thank you! I needed to hear this!

[@paulinao.5516]

I needed this . Thank you

[@jenniferwestrick7848]

Thank you so very much for explaining this!! I have struggled my entire adult life with forgiving myself 💔for certain things in my past. Oh no this is not the message I would EVER want to give our Lord!! Lord thank you for dying on the cross for MY SINS, help me to forgive myself - thank you for loving me unconditionally ❤✝️🙏

[@jessicarobinson1133]

A truly marvelous message thank u Ken and Fr. K.

[@vedrijan]

Awesome. Loved thi very much❤❤

[@maryjohn4411]

I say…Bless themJesus, Heal them Jesus!

[@ItsNotAllRainbows_and_Unicorns]

Sometimes, I find it hard to forgive myself, not so much in falling into the same sin, providing I go to confession immediately, but when others have not forgiven me for "supposed" past sins. I have apologized to the best of my ability, but I think there is an element of the devil in keeping people apart. I have resorted to prayer, but the element of sadness sweeps over me, regardless of what feast day it is, such as Easter.

[@fatimaantao465]

Thank you. This conversation helped me. God bless Ken n fr. Christino

[@EllenCarroll-mh8wv]

This was perfect! This was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much!

[@danadoo777]

I love this message. But can you explain why we are required to sacrifice and do penance? I'm a Catholic trying to convert but am finding teachings that contradict one another and it confuses me time and time again. Another teaching is God forgets our sins as far as the east is from the west. So if that is true, why do we still face punishment for it in purgatory? I'm still in it to win it, however, I'm searching for clarification bc the confusion is hindering my growth. I'm at the point where I feel like we have to be perfect to get into heaven. Then people say "no, that's not true, He forgives". But how does he hear your repentance when the church teaches you're dead if ur in sin and your prayers aren't heard. It makes me feel like one big sin and constantly question if I'm good enough. It's made me want to throw in the towel so many times but i keep showing up all glory to God. Thank you and God bless you for all you do ❤

[@jjfarmer1]

Wow. I like the way you guys put it

[@majorfrank1167]

Problem I have with these videos is they bring back those sins I have forgotten.

[@amartinez589]

Jesus said those who look backward aren't worthy of me. Look to Him, fix your yes on Jesus. He paid it all. Praise God for His mercy there is no one like Him

[@carriecarrie6012]

My nephew Christian 20 yrs was killed 4/12/23. I've been so filled with guilt and self hatred... I've been in agony. How can I keep going on. Please pray that Christian may be at peace.

[@dawnmireles2912]

My your Faith bring you peace.

[@jacqueschauvin1398]

It’s very hard to forgive myself. I do better at forgiving others

[@venuscuevas1091]

How to be positive when people talk you down?

[@davidmcarthur7800]

Because of my many addictions I don’t have any depth to my life. I’ve never experienced love. My emotions are dead. Everything is in my head. I watch, listen and read Catholic material almost constantly. But it doesn’t sink in. Can you help?

[@dawnmireles2912]

Pray. Volunteer. Create Holy Moments as much as you can throughout the day. Ask others to pray for you. Read the Bible.

[@kathleenodonnell8355]

Agree! Get out there and serve others and how transformative it will be to your life. Attend holy mass, find a priest to help you make a good confession and continue to go frequently and then receive Jesus in the Holy Eucharist and be fed on the bread of life. The sacraments will give you the supernatural grace needed for a new, vibrant and truly fulfilling life! 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@maryma4024]

If I sin , do I have to go to church and make confession in order for Christ to forgive me.

[@bryansmith7758]

would it be incorrect to think that the debt of eternal punishment is forgiven in confession, but the debt of temporal punishment must still be satisfied?

[@DJK-cq2uy]

Whonis he? Good teaching

[@cecilehilts1003]

Is not forgiving ourselves what it means "to sin against the Holy Spirit"?

[@dawnmireles2912]

Thought provoking!

[@danadoo777]

Then why penance?

[@lphbtnlvchristian]

with all the talk about my ancestors that leaves no room for the one that saved my soul and has forgiven me; how long have people been saying you need to forgive your self and then say your gaurdians angles ( gardening angels) say this or that...what hypocracy that is..and tjen a message saying im blocking messages from my angels..and loke for the 9 months i dont get many of my text messages.today it said i had a text message and nothing..thats my angels? sounds like manipulation to me..

[@ericgagnon4489]

Praying for a scratch eyeball

[@pinkieshyfan2012]

hi mr yasinski im have a question im sorry i hope it oki my auntie told me to talk to more catlicks about this and she said its not a nice thing but i think i want to kiss girls my mom says it ok and im stil lher little autism warrior no matter what but my auntie says no no i dont know what to do :c ponies do it in my little pony but i don't want to make jesus said and frowny she's so nice and pretty can you help please thank you ❤❤🧡🧡💛💛💚💚💙💙💜💜 :3

[@CatholicCarlismEnjoyer]

It sounds like your dealing with same-sex attraction. It's not inherently sinful but it is disordered, and you should try to live a righteous life. You are made in the image and likeness of God and you are loved, and it is fitting to return that love to God. God desires the best for you, even when he seems distant and you seem to always suffer. You should try yo live a chaste and celibate life as difficult as it may seem, and talk about your issues with a priest/spiritual director, they could help you immensely with this regard. I apologize for the length and of this, I was trying to be as charitable as possible in writing this.

[@pinkieshyfan2012]

@@CatholicCarlismEnjoyer thank you umm my aunt keeps telling me to repent but my mum mommy keeps saying love yourself you're a firework you should let your colours burst and i think colours are pretty and i think they use rainbows and rainbows are cute it's really tough :c but my auntie says if i'm homeofsexual i wil l be set on fire or something i dont know sorry

[@sherylbeamer7189]

This has been so very helpful today. “I forgive myself for the debt of pain I have caused myself”. Words of grace✝️🙏🏼💕

[@Catholicspeaker]

Glad it was helpful!

[@cathydecarles7084]

Ken this a wonderful video thank you so much for sharing it 🙏🏻✝️☮️📿🐑✝️🙏🏻✝️☮️🐑🐑

[@danielfedele]

Thank you very much for this video. ✝️ Thank you Jesus for your Mercy that you have shown me on the cross. ✝️🙏🙏 God bless you.

[@nickj7980]

this video came at a time when i really needed it. thank you!

[@terrikangas8310]

This message really hit me today. I have had a hard time forgiving myself for a lifetime of sins. I was away from the Church for over 30 years and the hard thing is seeing the harm that it caused to the people in my life. How do we deal with that?

[@janrmillen]

Great conversation. I think about things that happened so long ago and feel depressed. Should have I done more to be really forgiven? This video hit home for me.

[@85rockhound]

Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. Thank you. Some sins cause deep, lasting damage that need to be dealt with.

[@staceypeck8073]

Love this channel. Love the show. Love your topics. Love this Priest. Learn so much here!! Wish we had our children after you. We could have learned so much. God Bless and Please keep up the amazing work

[@christineferrara8102]

This was absolutely awesome! So healing and helpful to understanding how to let God do what he can only do! God Bless you both ❤️🙏

[@tsg234]

So many good things to think about! Thank you!