The Women the Top Tier Black Men Want

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[@CreoleLadyBug]

My mother had a doctorate degree and married a man that didn’t finish 7th grade. He was a hard worker and provided for her. He retired with 50 years of service on the same job. My Mom became a housewife something she wasn’t able to do being married to my dad. She didn’t leave him, he died, so she kept her vows. All I’m saying I’ll marry a man that works on the back of a garbage truck as long as he treats me with kindness and respect and brings his check home and not waste it in the streets. Education and status in life is not everything if you have no common sense. A rich man can give you 5k and it means nothing to him. A poor man can give you $9 out of his 10 and who would be the most generous. Real love is not about what you have it’s about how you feel about yourself and your ability to display that same affection to the one you love. Water seeks it’s own emotional level.

[@RomWills]

Well said.

[@CreoleLadyBug]

Rom Wills ~ Not Just talk. Allot of good brothers are overlooked because of the car they drive or the station they hold in life. I’m glad my parents taught me to look inward and test the spirit. We as women are to quick to give up the goods because they feel incomplete unless they have a man. They don’t realize that they are the prize. After you’ve given away the pearl in the jade temple what else do you have left to offer. To my sisters, complete yourself. Be happy without. Increase your territory. Buy land. Open up your own business. Don’t look for a man let him find you. God didn’t make Man for us he created us for him. You are the prize.

[@TheonlyChocol8one]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@CreoleLadyBug]

TheonlyChocol8one - A hard lesson learned my brother. These so called top tier brother usually look for trophies also known as dressed up garbage cans. They look good on the outside the have the hair the nails too body everything that looks good on the arm. But their guts are rotten on the inside and invariably wind up cheating because the didn’t test the spirit. have you ever seen a real good looking guy with a girl that you could put a paper bag over her head? Well I have. He chose her because he tested the spirit. She listens to him. She comforts him she’s his friend his lover and his wife. His backbone which means she can get the job done in case something happens and he can’t. That’s what my mom did when my dad got sick. A real woman. People don’t understand true love these days. Top tier SMH.

[@TheonlyChocol8one]

Mademoiselle Minou- I am a sister. I agree with your stance. Your mom is a upstanding woman based on what you are saying.

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

I say this all the time, and i will say it again: There Is nothing in this world that is a greater asset to any man walking than a BAD CHICK who really got his back! A woman who adds VALUE and brings PEACE to her man's life is a rare gem among a sea of hoes and thots. When you got something going for yourself or have goals to get something for yourself, and she helps you get there while supporting you mentally, you hang on to her. Problem is most women don't understand that they are an ADDITION to a mans life, not the center of it and damn sure not in charge of it.

[@RomWills]

Correct.

[@mayaj291]

still taking notes quietly

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

MayaEJa'Nae Jo we're guys. We're dumb and easy to please. You can keep ANY MAN YOU WANT happy if you just do these 3 simple things. I call them the three F's: Feed Him, Fuck Him, and be Fun. That's literally all we want. Make good food for that man, give him good loving in the bedroom, and bond with him in a way where you are recognized as HIS woman, and not just one of his options. A man will do whatever you want him to do for you as long as he believes you to be worth the effort. Most women play the game backwards. They let the dude jump through hoops setting himself up for boyfriend position while not doing anything to set herself up for girlfriend position and be mad when he doesn't take her seriously. The plan shouldn't be "make him wait 90 days to see if he's worth it," the plan should be "how do I get him to STAY after the fact"

[@roshmn]

A lot of men don’t understand that a womans greatest need from a man is attention and affection. If your not willing to make her the center of your life, get a transgender. They have less oxytocin so am guessing they can do without attention.

[@stoogie375]

Good Day Jeremiah, You have made a lot of lovely points but what of men who support women and their dreams and help to build them as well. Not an addition to you, but I have seen many men with their hands open looking for that woman to help build them up and truth be told, a lot of them are lazy. They aren't working hard and just looking for that moral and emotional support, but a lot are looking for financial and physical support as well. Tell me your thoughts and have a good day.

[@KL-xu1nm]

The power to have a better class of women is actually in the hands of the man. If they would stop giving so much attention to the trashy women, then these women would change their standards to match what was required by these men. Instead, men say they want one thing, but still chase the opposite.

[@RomWills]

Real talk. I tell men all the time to raise their standards.

[@FGAlele]

KSLunbreakable: True. The Same can be said about Women. It Goes Both ways.

[@KL-xu1nm]

FGAlele right!

[@elim8792]

They’re not trashy...

[@Timoteo4]

Rom made an important point. For all the furor over Black men being with white or non-black women, the overwhelming majority of Black men are with black women. People look at what a couple of celebs or other high profile Black men do and project it into some kind of trend. It isn't.

[@RomWills]

That's the truth. I know brothas who would rather be alone than be with anyone other than a Black woman.

[@justinlumpkin1929]

Timoteo4 it's the same situation where a woman might of been played over by a guy now all men are assholes because of that one dude.

[@ReallyStrongGuy]

Problem is, most of us grew up rough af, with all types of abuse, inside and outside the home. Those of us who "make it" have a lot of strength and will power, but we also changed enough to avoid the BS. Last thing I want is a battle in my house, I save that energy to create my life in this world full of competition.

[@RomWills]

Real talk.

[@MagickalMermaid]

This 1000% I have a real fear of reliving my past and passing that on to my kids.

[@chrysanthemum3464]

So true! Who wants to sleep with one eye open? Home should be a sanctuary for you and your family.

[@health5227]

ReallyStrongGuy real shit

[@angelamiller8630]

Mr. Wills, stumbled upon your channel. Pleasantly surprised!! I'm 55yr young Black woman. From my experience most of what you say is true. I love my Black brothers!! The swag, confidence, strength & many looks of a Black man is so very attractive. I'm blessed to have given birth to 2 Black men. Though I've had bad experiences with their Father's, I will be forever grateful for the children we created & share. They were my best friends. I enjoyed the good times we shared & can appreciate the struggles we endured. Only wish we could've weathered the storms. I'll never turn my back on my brothers. The world is hard enough on them, I will not be a part of their demise!!

[@RomWills]

Well said sister. The brotha will have your back as well. Despite what brothas may online it's because they want the sistas. They just want the sistas to want them back.

[@PamelaButtafly10]

❤ this comment

[@skinfanjay]

The older. I get. COOPERATION AND A NICE. DISPOSITION Are. VERY. Important to me.

[@RomWills]

With maturity comes wisdom.

[@butterflykiss1982]

Im 35, have great career, stay in shape, classy, one child from a previous marriage, and make 6 figures. A true top tier woman does not need validation to know she is a queen.

[@RomWills]

Well said sis.

[@DeWente69]

Do you have a problem getting a top tier man or a good man?

[@butterflykiss1982]

No

[@DeWente69]

Well, you are in a good position.

[@johndoe-pk6tj]

Failed marriage. Check. Child from failed marriage. Check. Bianca thinks socioeconomic status is the same as having class. Check. You have major baggage and are the type of black woman quality black men should stay away from! You just don't know it.

[@mimim8569]

I appreciate your effort to educate black women because you live the black family image.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@redaquarian8665]

You know when you see the exceptional, beautiful within and without, classy black woman! I guess it's like what women say about the really decent black man....THEY ARE RARE INDEED, but when you see one oh they are a sight to see. The most beautiful thing about them to me is when they get their education and not let their education get them. Translation: they do not allow their degrees to make them think themselves superior to others (this is a Eurocentric trait). Instead, they simply keep their education in it's proper perspective. They can recognize when they see a man who may not have the same level of education that she does, but he has several proverbial PHD's in Integrity, Self-discipline and Awareness. She understands that her place is not beneath, but beside him. She resists the constant temptation lurking within her to try to manipulate and control her man thus allowing him to BE the man he was called to be. She understands her power and uses it to uplift those around her, not tear down. She's out here fellas. Not all of them are hoes just like not all of us are not Dogs. If we get caught up in the myths we'll miss that one when they are right in front of us.

[@RomWills]

Very true statements brotha.

[@C.Douglas777]

C Toomer ... U make some great points Sir.

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

C Toomer the off chance that she's actually out there is the only reason I haven't cut off the idea of relationships entirely

[@user-nq8nl4wh9w]

C Toomer the problem is BM don't think like you.

[@Renould2010]

Truly Will explain, I Personally agree! Brother!

[@annaleesfantasy]

I agree! Unfortunately many Black women are conditioned to hate Black men because of possible abandonment from their own fathers. Luckily, my father has been married to my mom all my life and has always been in my life so I don't have a hatred for Black men. I feel bad for the women who were abandoned by their fathers but this is not an excuse to berate Black men and expect to have one want her.

[@RomWills]

Well said sis.

[@snatchedwaistcuteface5415]

annaleesfantasy I understand your point, but if the fathers werent there THEN of course they arent going to know how to act around Male leadership. It sounds as if you're Blaming these bw for their fathers not being there, it wasnt the daughter's faults

[@illmatic826]

In stead of hating Black Men they should hate their deadbeat ass mothers

[@pickmeisha]

I agree here as I grew up with my married parents going into adulthood. The majority of my black female friends who grew up with no father have unrealistic, fairy tale views of the man they seek and subsequently feel they deserve; however, they have no clue on what they should bring to the table as a woman to receive such a man. I hear very superficial wants and needs (looks, swagger), outrageous expectations (take care of me and my bastid kids) and little to no give and take (I don't have to do anything for you, matter of fact, I don't NEED you). In turn, they fail consistently and remain single (and used up).

[@skyjuiceification]

annaleesfantasy ...u hitting hard here.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Respect and salute to those men but i'm not that kind of guy. I'm more the guy that will make it happen regardless. My wife can have tattoos because i have some so it's not a issue. A strong men always looks for a strong women. If have no time to raise a women if you know what i mean. She should already know who she is in this world.

[@RomWills]

Well said fam.

[@MarcusHart]

Well if it's working for you brother no shade here.

[@TheTurk56523]

Yes I want a strong woman but I don't want to come home regularly fighting with her.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Women will be women they will always fight for their rights. A fight once year is normal.

[@msjassy1990]

Sniper 11 N.D. Agree with that.

[@tweetyslife253]

I saw myself as very educated but once my husband told me that the first time he spoke with me, he couldn't slept that night because he wanted me to be his. The thing with me was, I was very educated, excellent carrier but I was not smart. My hubby thought me to be smart. The thing I have against educated women is, lots believes that carrier first and man and children after. I have chosen my carrier along with my man first and oops I got married while still in university. My hubby said that he alwarys knew that he'd marry a black woman on the same level like him. Now I gave up my carrier to be a stay at home mom while he takes care of everything while my job is our home, myself and make him happy.

[@RomWills]

Great testimony sis.

[@tweetyslife253]

thank you, have a wonderful day ...)

[@hunneylipps]

tweety's life sis i could barely understand your post. There were several misspellings?

[@tweetyslife253]

Thanks for pointing out the mistakes. My key board in not in english, so let me give you what i was trying to say : I saw myself as a very educated person.Once my husband told me that the first time he spoke with me, he couldn't slept that night because he wanted me to be his forever. The thing with me was, I was very educated, excellent carrier but I was not smart. My hubby thought me to be smart. The thing I have against educated women is, lots of believes that carrier first and man and children after. Women do not have to choose to be successful, if the have the right man beside them. I have chosen my carrier along with my man first and oops I got married while still in university. My hubby said that he alwarys knew that he'd marry a black woman on the same level like him. Now I gave up my carrier to be a stay at home mom because im now in a position where i don't have to work outside to be happy.

[@hunneylipps]

Ohk. Thank you. It's #career

[@octavialong5447]

Yes an exquisite "Woman" who rules with an "Iron" fist and a velvet glove, who is submissive to her man... You compliment and support him in every aspect.

[@nappyscribe1987]

I love on all Black men that will let me, to reach their greatness. Black Women who are not perceived as "classy," should get encouragement from the brothas too. Just like a big brother would do!

[@RomWills]

That's fair sis.

[@charleskeyessr4288]

I think I like you

[@bigsix7]

Ginger Ashford when you try and encourage they get very defensive and wanna argue so the attempt to encourage is Lost.

[@fastcars.4093]

In total agreement. :)

[@richtubestl]

yes i totally agree it happends all the time

[@PeaceOfMind8190]

As long as those college educated women aren't stuck up and condescending towards lower class people.

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@PeaceOfMind8190]

Ross Collins Damn Ross, unless you're a sacastic genius, or you have alot of insecure issues based on your past where in fact alot of good "lower class" men would want to get to network with you to get ahead in life instead of being in that class forever. Teach a man to fish you know?

[@BernardBethea6339]

fuck you

[@2ndblock66a.w.o.l7]

Daron Gates fun fact....black men actually earn more money than black women... black women just have the more attractive titles.

[@beautyhair8157]

Or those lower class people stay in their lane and marry in their own class.

[@mirfirsts.8923]

I'm already married for almost 5 years. I'm striving for top shelf status now. I'm in my mid 20s this is very helpful

[@RomWills]

You might already be there sis.

[@mirfirsts.8923]

Nope, gotta get in that gym!

[@Mcdowells]

Nothing beats a nice sophisticated woman that is pleasant to be around. Sidenote: Yo Rom..college bball is here doc!🏀

[@RomWills]

I know man. I'm excited but my squad has some key injuries now. They'll be okay though.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Rom Wills who is your team?

[@PScott-yh2cs]

The truth is, many black women who didn't attend HBCUs in their prime years missed the boat on meeting quality men in their 20s of their same match due to proximity. Less black men are enrolled in any college compared to black women. Two, there are a plethora of quality black women comparatively to quality black men. So, if every quality black man in theory chose a quality black woman as his partner, there would still be left over quality black women without a partner due to the numbers. As more black men end up dead by 30, are more likely to have a jail record, multiple kids, underemployed and virtually lack in any skills compared to their counterparts. I am speaking of black men as a whole, not anecdotal "exceptional" black quality men. Third, black men, as all men take a longer time to mature than black women. Women unlike men choose to date men that are similar in age versus men who choose much younger women. So, if a black woman in her 20's is quality and looking to settle down, many black men are either not ready nor seeking to settle down at that time, which makes it much more difficult for a quality black woman to find a mate during her prime years versus non black women whose counterparts are able to settle down at earlier years. For example, white men have the maturity to marry early when they find a quality woman. Black men will pass up a quality black woman because they know their are more quality black women than quality black men and will use their 20's and 30s of squandering quality women's time. Whereas other races of men are willing to marry once they find a good woman. So, it puts quality black women at a disadvantage to meet their match even in their prime years. Fourth, let us be honest, the black community overall does not produce a lot of quality people period. At least not since the 1960's. Many of what remains in the black community is prolific with single parenthood, gang culture and an emphasis on material acquisition. Therefore, for many quality men and women of the black community it is hard to meet their match. So, lets be real and stop putting all the blame on black women squandering their youth. There weren't that many quality men to choose from in the beginning.

[@gsheverything_2716]

Those legs are killing me over here, love seeing my gorgeous intelligent SISTERS...

[@RomWills]

I love seeing them too.

[@busyrand]

You nailed it with us wanting Deltas and AKAs... My ex-fiance was an AKA, and my Fraternity [KAPsi] Brothers mostly pair with and marry Black Women. Many of them are members of Black Sororities. Sigma Gamma Rho is common among the wives too... Actually it's the most common among my chapter wives. We're Black and Latino fyi...

[@mcarthurspark8636]

Wow, my sister is an AKA and has been happily married to my brother in law that she married right out of college for 19 years.

[@RomWills]

For the most part AKAs are going to come correct. That's why I like them.

[@REDMICRADIO]

There are plenty of Black men in that category, Muscular built, book smart, street smart, college degree, military benefits and making good money. But that guy is usually with a latino or someone else. Because (most not all) black millennial women wouldn't know what to do with a guy like that. Or when a black woman finally wants to get that. She is usually in her late 20's early 30's with kids already. Seen this some many times.

[@RomWills]

Real Talk.

[@balance6016]

I'm 30 without kids and never been married. I chose the wrong guys and now have decided to just focus on myself. I would love to meet the type of men Rom speaks of.

[@grandcanyon2]

Sadly the problem, is men are attracted to youth and beauty, so if your 30 your gona be competing with 21 year olds. In most cases if your after decent quality men its less likely they will commit long-term. Mother nature and time waits for no one. The same men women pass on in their youth, become more attractive long-term mates as they get older. these men get more options and are even less inclined to settle down.

[@balance6016]

grandcanyon2 I don't look 30 but I get what you are saying. Oh well. I will live longer single.

[@grandcanyon2]

i just turned 30 myself 7 days ago, and people think iam age 19-21. I was just being honest about how men think. The reason women in their 30s and 40s are having trouble getting long-term commitment is because men in their 30s and 40s are trying to leverage, their looks,money and social status to date women in their 20s. If all the 18-29 year old women in the world died today, marriage rates for women in their 30s an 40s would increase dramatically. So as men get older and their mating options increase their less inclined to settle down and marry. Your very own comment is proof of that, their is a reason at age 30 your looking for these men now, which you probably wouldnt have during your prime years ages 14-22. When your a young women in your prime the mating market is in your favor you can have casual sex with men at least 2+ points higher than yourself. And your not alone the market is flooded with late 20s early 30s women looking for beta providers. So now men see their options improve they can date women their age or younger and have less reason to settle down.

[@LBCTexas]

This was a confidence boost to hear. Thank you.

[@davidburrell6045]

You speaking the truth brother you're making a lot of sense!!!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@mysticdyme74]

No they are not looking for sorority types unless they are thin. The body obsession trumps everything. Signed a single never married size 18 wearing AKA

[@O.ggamingreview]

ladies or ig thots listen to this man. THE KEY WORD IS LISTEN.

[@RomWills]

That's the key word.

[@MaryThiboudeax]

I must agree.... I’m in the gym at 4-5AM everyday and there’s nothing but successful black men in there. Oh yeah, and thanks for the Delta shout out! 🐘 OO-oop

[@RomWills]

I know Deltas really run the world and let the rest of us live here.

[@garygrant2000]

All a man wants bottom line is a woman who has his back. What I mean is a woman who genuinely cares for her mans needs and feelings. This is why men hate stuck up women as they're the complete opposite to this.

[@RomWills]

Correct.

[@preteyes]

I dated a man whom back and front I had. Unfortunately it wasn't enough for him, now many years later I am still single and he has married a Delta (nothing against the ladies but I thought it was irony considering the author reference to Deltas) and now he comes to me stating he realizes he had someone who had his back. Nice women finish last too.

[@mrdrich4prez]

I heard something a man said years ago. He said: "The Game is lacking sophistication and needs a face lift."

[@RomWills]

One of my friends I grew up says the same thing.

[@henrygarner4649]

Great video Bro Rom. Attitude is everything! Keepin it tight (working out or staying healthy/in shape) is a must! But a GREAT attitude can be worked with if a GREAT ass is lacking(Not too much leeway though because I too am a LOPA Tribesman! Lol). Thanks!

[@RomWills]

LMAO!!! Good points brotha.

[@henrygarner4649]

Thanks! Rom Wills

[@ericmatterson9905]

These women are beautiful without having to dress in clothes two and three sizes too small, or sticking their behinds in the camera,or ridiculously oversized fake behinds. There is an elegance about these women.

[@RomWills]

Those the type of women I like.

[@drroaf]

This was very informative! I appreciate learning more about the man's perspective.

[@RomWills]

that's what's up.

[@staciestephenson622]

Thank you for clarifying! Goals, Class and Azz Let's keep it 100% but some WOMEN are Top Tier $$$,$$$ too and want some one to still court, date and treat her with respect even though He makes less...RIGHT!....Representation, Co-operation, Down with His Plan= Protection/Security...Attitude is everything goes both ways...vs Options!..... Men have baggage and Issues too! SOME men are the first to start bashing, calling women bougie and stuck up. BUT IF ONE HAS BEEN EXPOSED TO CERTAIN THINGS AND CAN AFFORD OR ARE ACCUSTOMED TO CERTAIN TREATMENT of life...WHY SHOULD A PERSON SETTLE? Some apples and oranges are not compatible!

[@RomWills]

Respect. I like a classy woman but not one who uses it as status.

[@sunnatural1272]

The whole world is built on status. Black folk are the only ones still not understanding this concept. This is why the Black race can't progress or excel. No concept of life as is.

[@DeWente69]

Stacie Stephenson So that type of woman can stay single until she finds a man who makes enough money for her. Men know most men with money come with a certain attitude and certain problems. But do what makes you happy.

[@Sjtoolsie]

I'm not college educated but I'm working on that . Is being well raised, disciplined ,loving ,respectful and overall street smart ,good decision maker and intelligent make me valuable enough?

[@RomWills]

Self education is ultimately what every man should have even if he has a degree.

[@bnwo]

I've never met a man who wanted his woman to be able to converse about bitcoin.

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

N.W.A. we literally just want good food, a nurturing positive attitude and a big booty. Our list is short.

[@RomWills]

N.W.A. It's depends on the circles you travel in.

[@christrucker4882]

Because he thinks you would deem him a lame for talking about something other than what benefits you. No disrespect

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

Auto Chris truuu

[@damnfoolz]

Marcus Payne not one you’d want to f**k.

[@livingabundantly362]

This is interesting. I'm educated, 34 with one child from my previous marriage, no baggage, God fearing, career oriented. I stay in shape...I'm a pesco-vegetarian. I'm I out of the dating game for a top tier due to my age and child??? Just curious...

[@RomWills]

Many brothas don't want to deal with a woman with children especially if they don't have children. Too many horror stories.

[@livingabundantly362]

Rom Wills I see and I completely understand. I have seen the horror as well and I have seen how it has made a lot of single women with multiple children bitter. I have seen these same women lower there standards for the sake of having a man. Its not a good look. Its important to stress the importance of marriage before starting a family. Our community has a lot of single motherhood and it creates an unbalanced. I got married in my mid to late 20's and I don't regret it but now that I am single again I am amazed with this new dating culture. It has changed in the past 10 years and I'm not at the top of the pecking order anymore. Not to say that I'm not a good catch but from the comments I have read, written by other men, dating sounds complex going into 2018. So either he has to be a single father or its a no go for me. I can deal with a solid gentleman that is a single father. It would be difficult for me to date a man with no children. How could he understand me when it comes to that? It would be a headache!

[@livingabundantly362]

Ten Two Lions Whelp Thank you for your reply but do you mean like a second wife as in married again for a second time or a sister-wife? I just want to be clear...

[@livingabundantly362]

Ten Two Lions Whelp Oh that's cool but nah. I cannot and will not subscribe to the sister-wife situation. I'm not built for sharing my husband and although the Old Testament is law. Jesus came with the New Testament and I'm down with that. So if that is my best option then I can do better by coaching my daughter to get married in her prime and live out the rest of my life as a Spinster. I'm not afraid of that!

[@kite160]

S. Hanan Willis yeah we now from the fact it anit to do with you it your drug deal mother that it

[@proveyoself]

Great video. Thanks for posting.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@kivakarmen8628]

There are so many things that come into play concerning relationships. At the end of the day individuals must be whole and have common ground. I hear my Brothers issue their wish list and most sound as if they want a servant or a demigod. Everyone are prone to have character flaws and it requires patience to see something grow. We have no more patience or compassion for each other as a people. I guess it is easier to have a garden that is ready to harvest than to customize and cultivate your own.

[@lilyplum6142]

50k is not that much.

[@RomWills]

In this country only 25% makes that much money. It's a lot of money for the other 75%.

[@AllPro777]

+lily plum 1. Depends on where you live. In WNY 50k is equivalent to $100K. 2. If you know how to manage your money you can do a lot with investing with even less than that. You have to think outside the box. It's not what you make so much as it is about how you move it. I was making $14/hr and bought my first house (nice house, good neighborhood) CASH. Most people will never accomplish that even if they were making 100K or more.

[@SkeltonWarriors]

In the south it is.

[@preteyes]

how did you accomplish that? make a video on that topic!

[@PamelaButtafly10]

AllPro777 FACTS!!!

[@puffy_vegas7610]

Finally I am one of these men he is 100% correct.

[@RomWills]

That's how it is.

[@mlssrsevenseven8160]

Brother Polite said it best....”have a conversation, determine if she’s a fit, have a conversation, determine if your likes are compatible, have a conversation, and very importantly determine if all of her future phases can handle compatibility”

[@megatron5047]

thats why everyone loves your work Uncle Rom,because we know where to find that instant game.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@JDTR1900]

Hell, I'd take an adjustable 6 or 7 as long as they'd help me build. I know an AKA who's a cool chick. An adjustable 6 or 7. She's a bit older than me, a bit heavier (got a fine ass, though) but she's got a good personality, can hold a conversation; she's cool. If it wasn't for that age gap, maybe we could start something. Those women are rare, Rom.

[@RomWills]

Unfortunately they are getting scare.

[@sunnatural1272]

how old is she?

[@kevinbistre3002]

The Jazz intro is nice 👍🏻

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@GamerGee]

Black women. If they didn't have the bad attitude that would go such a long way

[@RomWills]

Truth.

[@couturegalx3]

not entirely true

[@GamerGee]

+couturegalx3 how so?

[@FGAlele]

Classic.Gem Discussion Big Brotha Rom. Definitely waiting on your Future video on 'Class and Subcultures' in the Black Community. Black people in America have been Painted as Monolithic in the Media for a Long time. Also hope Brotha BGS tackles this Topic on his Channel in the Future.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@miss.phyllisreneefoster9547]

OK IM A WOMEN AND IM LISTENING TO WHAT YOUR SAYING,

[@RomWills]

Thank you. I have a woman's channel coming soon.

[@ericmatterson9905]

6:10--also like Angela Bassett, Viola Davis, Nia Long, Halle Berry, Taraji, P. Henson, Regina Hall. I have never seen them dress overly flashly and they are always looking classy.

[@RomWills]

I love that.

[@GMSCHAARAWTAZA]

great info brother Rom !

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@octavialong5447]

Growing together, moving forward... Complimenting each other in every aspect. My father told me when a man places you in the vehicle like a "Lady", see if she reaches over to open the door for you... If not, then pay close attention, she's for herself.

[@RomWills]

Wisdom.

[@octavialong5447]

Rom Wills : Rom, your compliment is humbly appreciated. The circle you may enter in, may or may not be a blessing because the masses do what many do. Usually non-original thinkers. There's so much more to a "Man" that requires an in-depth look into the character of his content, inclusive to you as well. Spiritually, respect, loyalty and the list goes on. It is vital to know what each other wants for both parties, yet it is imperative that the actions are performed and not just featherless words... Love is very sacred this is why I don't settle. Loving, communication and building on a solid foundation is absolutely key. Though, I must admit this has been very damaged as "Females" do not understand the power they possess. Being a "Woman" is a title you earn, it has absolutely nothing to do with gender... Vie~

[@dudewat212]

Had to watch this again. Excellence, Rom.

[@RomWills]

Thanks fam.

[@sherrybee9864]

Great content Rom!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@SAMack-xd2fn]

Thanks for that thumbnail pic...lol

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@keithjohnson7448]

Very wise words.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@dorothyhoward6552]

My latest experience was I am a professional and my job sent me to South Florida to take care of a region for 2 years I had a condo in South Florida I will stay there during the week but I will come home on the weekend. The guy that I was dating first of all got upset when I took the position. But I was not married to him and I was not going to let him destroy my career. When I got off the road I came back because I had a home here. What I experienced was because I didn't have a need for him he would get angry. I will explain to him I'm with you because I want you but I don't need you to take care of me. I also experienced where because I had my own finances I made it clear to him that you still don't get a free ride you will still have to contribute to this relationship. But I dealt with a lot of jealousy because I was a strong woman and a successful woman he felt intimidated by me but there was nothing that I could do I would let him know that these were the attributes that I saw but I was who I was.

[@RomWills]

Seen.

[@dustbgone8435]

Sisters and brothers need to share this video.

[@mrj9224]

That thumbnail hehe hot!

[@RomWills]

I like that classy look.

[@mrj9224]

Rom Wills same here

[@cjmike1024]

Rom Wills they classy, but they all look great. These are the Women that the good black men covet.

[@briangriggs]

On point!

[@RomWills]

Thanks.

[@evelynjm7]

Hi Rom, thanks for the video, I feel that there are a Lot of Good Men and Women out there that do not have a doctorate degree, or any College Degree, but they are like needles in a haystak...But have good morals,character etc, classic, good attitude, no tattoos who is fun and funny to be with. I feel that LOVe is a Beautiful thing with the Right MATE!..People need to be real and down to earth with each other...if you know what I mean... There are Men as well as women who have bad attitudes or who dont even know how to Communicate at all...Therefore some cant go to Part B cuz the cant even pass Part A which is to conversate and communicate, This is a simple skill most dont seem to have..Be Blessed..

[@RomWills]

Well said.

[@ms.mahoganylibra6513]

👏👏good video....

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@cardiganflynn4905]

Don't sleep on them Zetas tho lol

[@RomWills]

Trust me I haven't.

[@jneezypv]

Lol. I was thinking about my SGRhos. We are all women of quality.

[@EbonyJoneskuye]

Larry Michael Don't sleep on any Black sorority member! I am SGRHO!

[@justinlumpkin1929]

We just want a woman that's supportive and encouraging that's not combative and hostile.

[@RomWills]

It's really that simple.

[@d-vo5042]

So what about Robert Smith? This is supposedly the richest black man in America, but he married a white woman. Oh, and this white woman is a Playboy Model.

[@RomWills]

Robert Smith is one man. I'm talking about the majority of Top Tier Black men.

[@PeaceOfMind8190]

Aside from the select sexual arua personality of a black man, do you (and anyone else in the comments especially women) believe that a black man in America MUST have a college degree in order to get these type of classy women that I (and as you proved most black men) want?

[@RomWills]

He just needs to be successful and intelligent. I used the example I did because it's these brothas who are most picky about being with a classy woman.

[@user-nq8nl4wh9w]

Daron Gates I have a masters degree however I do not feel that a man necessarily has to have a degree to be in a relationship with an educated/career driven woman. I believe that education can come in a variety of ways such as life experience, street smarts, trades, reading, self educating. Some of the smartest and most successful people I know which I'm proud to admit they are in my family are NOT college educated. As a matter of fact I'm the first in my family to have a college degree. The one trait that I've noticed with people who although are not college educated but are still successful in their careers is that gift of gab and having the ability to effectively communicate and articulate themselves and build rapport with people. I guess I have a different perspective when it comes to education. Oftentimes especially when I was dating I didn't mention my education because men immediately got intimidated and things would change. I even stopped allowing men to come to my home as well because that seemed to be an issue. I think some of the issues these men face did not have anything to do with me but underlying issues they had within themselves. I think you allow people to make you feel a certain way (less than or inferior, intimidated). I wouldn't have a problem with my man not having a degree however he should still have the ability to communicate and network in professional settings. because of the work I do I attend alot of mixers conventions conferences etc so his interpersonal skills are a must.. I don't think any sister has a problem with a hard working man I think the problem is the men that are doing the most complaining about educated career driven sistahs don't have their stuff together. In that case it's really easy to claim that someone is making you feel less than when you don't even possess the basics. I believe everyone has got to bring something to the table. When one person is lacking it just doesn't work. I use to date a truck driver and it was nothing sexier than this man coming over after working hard that day and giving me money to shop. He was confident with himself so my education/career did not matter to him. I think it all boils down to if you are confident with the path you chose in life or do you know deep down you could or should be doing better.

[@mayaj291]

No my aunt and uncle are a prime example. He has no degree (that I know of anyway), he chose to go to the military and she has her master's. They've been married for almost 30 years.

[@PeaceOfMind8190]

SHENA CROWE You are 100% correct. I am currently going through a major setback which is why I am not dating at the moment and I do not have my degree and/certification(s) as of yet but to address what you've said about alot of us men is that yes, we do have our own insecurities when a women is college educated and presently successful. I have "some college" experience but I have knowledge on alot of subjects that I educated myself on so I would believe me to be dumb. I personally feel sometimes I don't deserve that woman regardless of how "good" my character is because of the lack of accolades, trophies, and high income success. One of my lessons was recent. I've met this classy, beautiful, black teacher on a dating app and infact she hit me up first because she liked what I put on there mind you I don't get much "select" play plus she was just the woman I was looking for. Long story short, we've dated, I spent too much time and money with her instead of getting to know her and eventually she frienzoned me and I'm not blaming her or bitter about it. I subconsciously felt that I didn't deserve her because of her status and me not having ENOUGH sexual energy and confidence to keep her around and not feel like I've waisted time. Believe me, if I can date or chill with someone like her again regardless if my ducks are in rows, I would do it in a heartbeat with the added lessons I've learned. You are a queen and you deserve a king secure in his skin regardless of his titles but his work and moral ethics. I'm glad to have good dialog with you too Ms. Crowe ☺😉

[@PeaceOfMind8190]

MayaEJa'Nae Jo Right, Ive had the worng perspective for a while. It's all about being confident in your skin and having a stable work ethic/passion regardless of titles and according to the opposite sex's preferences in a man.

[@calmmind1247]

Good video rom

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@latoyahodson150]

I recently came across your channel and you stated the things that my uncle told me about meeting and marrying a man. Some people just don't want to hear the truth. I had to check myself on some things including my attitude. Its time for the black woman to break the cycle of a bad attitude which its not our fault. This is a learned trait. I enjoy your videos and please write a book. Can you please do a video on how to date a rich and successful man?

[@RomWills]

Check out my videos on successful men. Women need to catch them before they become rich.

[@barackthecomposer6642]

All lovely women, but they would be lovelier with their NATURAL hair. Love thyself the way The Creator made you.

[@Triumphant712]

I was just talking about this. The person I was taking to through out a number of 60% of the upper tier black men are dating outside their race. That's after you account for celebs and athletes. I completely disagree. We have been sold a lie that successful black men don't want black women. 99% of the black men in my circle date black women. It is very rare that I come across a black man that has this strong desire to date outside his race. Ladies! Black men do want black women.

[@RomWills]

That's what I saying. The thing is that these brothas are not in the spotlight. Sistas focus too much on the celebrities.

[@jabbaweezy]

If they don't get the top tier black men, then they're "settling".

[@bbthahammerlanediva8337]

this is an interesting perspective

[@michellemarie2590]

Eye 👁 opener❣️ Thank you 🙏🏽

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@sheezadiamond369]

Thanks Rom sir. Your views are on point and hilarious as well, however, I'm curious as to why you stopped at Delta's and AKA's. No shade because I love all my sista's, but do you really think most Top Tier Black Men think the same? If so, then this may be the very reason we can't find these dudes!!! LOL! No, but seriously, have you thought of Military Retiree's or other Sororities? My friends and I retired under forty and I must say that I've never met a group of women that were more beautiful! Other successful black women have never been to college and are doing quite well also. There are so many black, classy and down to earth women that have yet to be discovered man! I hope more sista's can agree with me because we're out here looking for the same thing these Top Tier men are looking for. My opinion is when you've reached a certain status in life, being out on the hunt is no longer an option. It's too risky and many of us don't trust these online Date Sites. We really have to rely on faith because running into someone of quality is almost impossible unless you're at an event or an outing. One last thing. Your demeanor is just what's needed on both sides, men and women. It's cool to be educated and have class, but if you don't have a personality, then bye!! I think that's the one thing I didn't hear you cover is a dry chick! It sends chills up my spine to be around a snooty woman! You touched on negative attitudes, and I totally agree, but it's nothing like being around someone that can't open up, laugh, and be human. All the education, good looks and class in the world means nothing if we as women can't learn to just be relaxed and laugh at our mans corny jokes every once in a while. Some women don't realize that small things like that or helping him rake up leaves, take out the trash or start up the car on a cold day is all it takes to keep him nice and snug up under her. Now that's it because that other side of men does creep out no matter how good you treat him, so I'm going to end on a safe note. (Smiles) I really do hope that those who are searching find that special lady or man because it's nothing like Good Black Love. It's a beautiful thing.

[@RomWills]

Well said sis. Trust me I never limited myself to AKAs and Deltas. They are just the women who came at me the most. I'm open to all types of classy Black women.

[@kylewest2906]

I love your response

[@beautyandpositivity1343]

Rom, you told the truth. Men, and happily married women (which I am) will appreciate your words. If a woman doesn’t respect a man’s vision or doesn’t want to support it or follow his lead, she shouldn’t entertain him as a suitor. Looking good & staying fit isn’t just about the body (though it’s super important to look good for your quality man), it comes with a mindset & attention to self care that is attractive to a man. If a man is willing to respond to a woman’s expectation of protection & provision, I think it’s just wise for a woman to respond to a man’s need for visual stimulation & satisfaction...nothing unrealistic, just demonstrating pride & care, and attentiveness to what floats your man’s boat. Good men always return the consideration. I’m not sure why it’s so hard to honor the nature of a man (esp if someone is looking to have one commit to them). My advise for men & women: only involve yourself with someone who cares about, is attracted to, and can love how God made you. It’s what I’ll be telling my son when he’s of age. Take care.

[@RomWills]

*Standing Ovation* Well said sis.

[@ceeg0865]

Cooperation is key to togetherness love and success. Otherwise, it’s out of order and ultimately will not work. Secondly, she must be working on building, just like he is. Sorry sexy do nothings, we not that thirsty or dumb.

[@cooldizzle93]

7:50. I'm thinking Angela rye

[@RomWills]

I feel you.

[@dustbgone8435]

This is not anti-black women. This is truth.

[@frilla77]

Foreign Black women.

[@RomWills]

Many professional brothas deal with upper middle class Black women.

[@premehpbm4096]

Si

[@FLCLimaxxx]

no, get off the foreign bullshit.

[@premehpbm4096]

FLCLimaxxx explain?

[@FLCLimaxxx]

Preme Foreign black women present no better an option. Many are just as bad, many more still hate being black and hate or dislike black american men....and there are fewer available as foreign black women that have it together overwhelmingly get with men of their own culture and the rest overwhelmingly date interracially. Most non american black women date out at far higher rates, and openly express that preference. It leaves just a shitty pickings for American black men on average. your chances of getting on with a good one are almost as bad as getting a very good black american woman. Even going to those countries, besides Africa with their vast number and everybody being black, you're more likely to get on with mixed race women of the carribean and latin america.

[@mmfmmf332]

I like your video. I also like your music in the video. What’s the name of the music you’re playing in the very beginning and during the video? Thank you.

[@RomWills]

The music in the beginning is "Ohm's Law" by Mia Miata. I just have the Jazz channel on in background so I'm never sure what's playing.

[@deonselby713]

I got it Uncle Rom!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@latoyahodson150]

Well, when does the women focus on her dreams? Waiting to Exhale was an example that sticks out to me. Angela Bassett's husband left her after she help build their company. I see your point of view but is their a way that the woman can guarantee that the man will help her with her dreams. How do you feel about online dating?

[@RomWills]

A sensible man will help his woman with her dreams. Some men even take a secondary role to support the woman.

[@viewfromdowntheroad4138]

I have a neighbor who married a black woman. He is from Europe. He married her to get his green card, and didn't intend to have children. But she "forgot" to take the pill. She proved to be remarkably difficult; she spanked the children with a belt buckle, accused her ex of attacking her- and he was unable to defend himself, given the Duluth doctrine, where men are not listened to. So he did enough prison time that he can't work in his professional career any more. She kept the divorce going for 8 years, and bankrupted him. Her sons will not talk to her, because she still plays abusive mind games with them. She calls him up, every now and then, to whine because she can't find a boyfriend. He had to cut her out of his cell phone directory. Is this typical of black women? I don't know. I do hear many black men saying they much prefer Hispanic women- because "they always be talkin' up they man, they respect they man". My Caucasian exes were abusive. The variety show Sabado Gigante used to have a section, where Anglo men would talk about having Hispanic girlfriends, or wives, usually in bad Spanish, and you can see from their faces that they are getting all they need, in every department. The Hispanics laugh. Do you remember Captain Hook, nervous about the clock the crocodile has inside, ticking? Yeah. So, a man gets a choice: a woman who is grossly disrespectful, or one who is desperate. Think about that choice.

[@stringbeanrickjameslooking7243]

A strong woman makes for a strong man period.....regardless of all the accolades. The thing that trip me out about a woman is she don't want to be a side piece...but always putting their family before them and gets mad when the man seeks attention somewhere else.

[@RomWills]

Interesting points.

[@DJMoiyMoiy]

I thought that one of them had a prosthetic leg, then I realised that it was part of the chair.

[@RomWills]

LOL!/

[@amen-ramccarthybsrrt1860]

I love it

[@danio3162]

When you call the guy and ask him out, you've got braces in your mouth. As teenagers, I was just making my intention known. Now you're successful and realise you could do better. Men changed the script on us. So it's time for them to elevate. Why does mainstream media not take young black men seriously. They need to be taught that it's not all that glitters is Gold.

[@RomWills]

I feel you.

[@Jax0n2.2.4]

Ur speaking the truth... thanks for sharing.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome fam.

[@jholliday3]

I need a woman who can entertain the client when the closing is running over.

[@dinajohnson2496]

Mr ROM Willis, hello. We are all part of a flawed existence. We must be careful and quite prepared for what we ask for. I submit to you that no one method is the better of several methods which yield the same desired outcome. I found your video to be quite interesting.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@arouse8597]

Very on point!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@vashti2027]

I dont equate professionalism with dating. Competion in the work field is stressful enough. As a woman dating is not a option that way , I have found it unattractive intelligently.

[@shebamooncat9162]

Great information.

[@RomWills]

Thank you sis. Most brothas want classy. Even some hood dudes.

[@msmartin7932]

I just came pass this channel. The black women gets a bad reputation. I see some quality black educated women. The top tier black men for me is a god fearing man with drive and loyal. Through my years, I have dated a Surgeon, Capt.of Fire Dept, business owners and even a PASTOR. The insecurities issues are unbelievable. I don't have a degree and I was a single parent. My work ethic is off the chain; I brought my 1st house at 28years old, (3rd house now) my son was 5yrs old. I didn't have my father; but I had an incredible uncle. I'm smart, confident, please no drama, classy to elegant (killer smile) and been successful. I don't drink or smoke because I go to the gym. The body (Coke Cola) God gave you is to be treasured. Most black men young and old guys say I'm attractive, but they can't seal the deal. Once they see your class and your not putting out the ass. They are limited in their approach. The top tier professionals ones I met come with baggage. I'm not impressed by the tiers, but I will always celebrate a black man's accomplishments. Back in the days the black man didn't ask "What are you bringing to the table? My people , THE REAL BLACK MAN brought the table; the woman's job was to make it up and take care of that table.... UMOJA. I want your STATUE of a man; not your STATUS. I'm looking for the God fearing man who stands by his word. A real black king (God willing). Let's keep it real, the tier black men has easier options and he wants something different. Now were getting into self love, but that is another chapter. I apologize for the long note..Lol.

[@RomWills]

Naw it wasn't long. Very well said. Respect.

[@msmartin7932]

Rom Wills Thank you : )

[@msmartin7932]

Thomas Washington III Hello Mr. Washington III, If some black women in the streets are acting a fool; then they have to be accountable. The media who takes a few of the black women who prefer to act undesirable and give them a show. The people who take television and social media as it's "ALL BLACK WOMEN" reality. I'm personally not a sitcom character or a video vixen.

[@thesacredibis6723]

Intelligence and Interdependence.

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@greenenergycoding9068]

A good start would be a woman who take constructive criticism well, more so a open minded individual. Anyone less will not be worth perusing.

[@EvangelistCharlette]

HE'S THE ONLY. BROTHER I HEARD THAT TOLD THE TRUTH

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@miraclemajesty]

I really enjoyed your video

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@ednaevans2025]

Like your thoughts on this presentation.

[@RomWills]

Thank you sis.

[@gillfilly]

RW keeping it real !!

[@RomWills]

That's how I do.

[@SikkDiggy]

A video isn't complete without one of Uncle Rom's stories. Also, a woman is often regarded as a reflection of the man. So, for the top tier black man such a woman has to be the total package as well as get with his program. Nas' song, "The Makings of a Perfect Bitch" explains that. However, there is still the issue of the "bait n' switch". So, a lot of men need to be vigilant when dealing with women. She could possibly be a masked woman.

[@RomWills]

I need to do a video on that bait and switch.