the worst tiktok husband? | Matt & Abby

[@ndoina_]

I about died when he said, “hand delivered flowers our FRIENDS bought for her” like whattttt??😂

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

He carried them all the way from the front door to the living room! 😂

[@ndoina_]

@@user-nf3ry4mw7b what a guy 🫠 goals

[@JeremyAnna16]

The friend bought it and dropped it off at home I guess. And then Matt gave it to her.

[@maxinewilliams3626]

Agreed! But he makes it sound so impressive, you can get easily tricked if you don‘t play close attention. ”I EVEN hand delivered flowers“ A bit manipulative if you ask me. Poor Abby :(

[@Marina_7]

Right?? Was he supposed to leave them by the door and just announce to her that flowers for her which she does not see do exist in the house? 😂

[@suebuchert7797]

Since Matt doesn't have a traditional job what is his traditional role as a husband? Sit all day or go to the gym or play your music.

[@KagomeYasha023]

And don’t forget going to the gym is code for cheating just taking an extra hour to chat with the guys after working out (not always but with this Matt guy everything about him screams cheater)

[@bananayummyable]

EXACTLY. This type of guy wants a traditional wife (a mom they can f*ck) but don’t put in their part as a traditional husband!!! It’s a SCAM

[@xtonibx5770]

He "takes care of the finances" and does nothing else. He doesn't seem smart enough so I'm sure they have someone helping them with their finances lol

[@RagingInferno-cd7hn]

So, basically the influencer lifestyle ?

[@arrowverselover100]

Exactly. Like other than editing the vlogs for YT, what else does he really do that he can't do some cleaning and take care of their sons? What I find completely unfair is they had another baby because they didn't use protection, and then had her parents move in with them to help. Well maybe if you helped, you wouldn't have her parents living with you. Like I'm sure they agreed and are happy to help, but these are your kids and your responsibility. Take care of your own kids.

[@thatskums]

In one video, Matt said that they follow more traditional gender roles like he looks after the finances and she does chores around the house but then in another video he forgot to pay the water bill and electricity bill so their water and electricity was cut off. So basically, he does nothing!

[@astorrhymemaster]

I've heard that in many "traditional" cultures, the wife looks after the finances, because otherwise the husband will spend it all :)

[@zucchinikindaslayed]

​@@astorrhymemasterthis is so true. I live in a place where even washing their own dishes that they ate from isn't a "male's work".

[@GamingWithABoyandAGirl]

I wouldn't say that he does nothing. He does alot of the editing for their channel along with more of the behind the scenes soicla media stuff. You also have to remeber that they were fine, and nobody was harmed when the water and electricity got turned off, I'm not saying it happens to everyone, but mistakes happen. I would be completly on your side if it were to happen on a regular.

[@thatskums]

@@GamingWithABoyandAGirl Not paying the bills is not a 'mistake.' Paying the bills is a recurring task that should be taken care of in a timely manner. If he doesn't remember to do these things, he should put it on his calender or something. I just think it's a sign that he's irresponsible. Also, they run the channel together and we are not privy to who's doing the behind the scenes work. They both earn so that in itself is not a 'traditional marriage' anymore. It's an excuse that Matt makes to feel better.

[@myyoutubeacc]

Because they had just moved and he usually set up autopay put it just slipped his mind.

[@melissathompson2629]

Her surgeon told her not to get pregnant for 18 months after surgery!!!

[@Jynxxy13ravedoll]

Oh my gosh, I didn't know she had surgery and was super concerned for her health wise getting pregnant that soon after her first. That makes it even scarier/riskier. I'm glad it seems like everything turned out ok for her, not for me though.

[@melissathompson2629]

@Jynxxy13ravedoll she's been really reckless with her health. She did a Spartan run at 3 months post c-section. I am sorry to hear you haven't had an easy time

[@xr9588]

@@melissathompson2629 FR C-sections are so risky. An Aunty i knew had a c-section on her last birth and her staples came out while she was just cooking at the stove, and my sisters c-section scars from her sons birth fused onto her appendix and resulted in her having an appendectomy. this was 6 years later.

[@suhadkamo6202]

Ever heard of an accident? What, did you want her to get an abortion and kill her baby?

[@Melarona23]

​@suhadkamo6202 doesn't negate the carelessness fact. And yes, she shouldve gotten one and there are very valid reasons for it.

[@Vanessa___kelman]

No other opinion could convince me otherwise that there’s something off about Matt , he’s immature and Abby has definitely lost her softness that she used to have .

[@OOPSALLCAPS]

Same. She seems to have lost that spark

[@bakageyama222]

Oooh I noticed it too, like she had that softness to her. Not talking about her body or anything, people grow when they become parents but yes…she used have a ‘nice’ vibe to her.

[@suebuchert7797]

​@@OOPSALLCAPScould be shes simply worn out from caring for 2 young toddlers and making content for podcasts plus just normal daily living and obviously not real involved with anything but himself. Neither one have the same sweetness they had when they first came on vlogging.

[@courtneylust]

i totally agree i mean i never watched their context but their yt shorts sometimes came up on my page and he always had such an immature and annoying vibe while abby seemed nice and normal

[@Vanessa___kelman]

@@suebuchert7797 I know that’s a factor ,but she always mentions she doesn’t wanna do social media and he continues to film her which I feel adds to the stress

[@ranaeid2390]

Always always be picky when it comes to choosing a partner. Never be afraid to leave a relationship.

[@margo421]

Yes, agreed, BUT adding to not only picky about a relationship but MORE importantly picky about whom you are intimate with!! That is what can result in bringing an innocent human into your problems that you can't just "leave".

[@melz6625]

@@margo421luckily for situations like that there is plan b and abortions. The dumbest thing ever to get tied to a man you don’t like with a kid you didn’t want and giving that kid a shitty home life. No thx. No one would ask to be born into that, so best thing is not to.

[@stewiegilligangriffin4904]

That’s why ur old and have no body and probably gonna marry an uncle

[@chrisc4507]

I see, you want women to look for perfection and ignore their own flaws, got it

[@thewizard555]

@@chrisc4507 women are not even looking for perfection , they are asking for the most bare minimum that seems like the biggest impossible deal to loser guys . asking for bare minimum is what is termed as being picky cause most men fail hard at jumping over that below the ground standards . what they mean by being "picky" is not search for rich good looking dudes but just finding a guy who would not make a big deal out of handling his own kid to not settle for a guy who throws all the responsibilities of child on the mother, who makes her feel like a single mother even while being in marriage to not settle for a guy who cant respect your efforts to not settle for guy who gets upset over not having enough time for his carrier while his wife just went through terrible pain of surgeries for the child that is his too to not settle for a guy who cries over "sex not being the same , vagina too loose" after you just gave birth , the guy who cries over his sex life instead of caring for his wife who went through miserable painful surgeries if these things are being "picky" for you then for god sake remain single and dont ruin some woman's life

[@dimalanta4919]

he ain’t even buy the flowers 😭😭😭 that’s so wild to me bro

[@Marina_7]

😅

[@nodrvgs]

LMAOO like fr

[@coconutnot831]

Its okay bc he “Hand Delivered” it for her, its major contribution on his part LMAO. -I had to rewind it bc i thought i heard it wrong 😭😂 like WTFFF

[@ameliorated]

Yeah I caught that.

[@yorelativo5394]

I came for a recent video where he says sex "doesn't feel the same" after pregnancy and he procedes to describe it I was shocked. She literally was pregnant for 2 years straight and had the hernia surgery. Idk If she has NO standars or she just stays with him for the kids.

[@peacefulbliss8242]

It’s clear that she is extremely insecure and he is bored and unsatisfied in the marriage . Smh. He is a horrible. Can you imagine how hurtful that would be for your husband to say those things after you brought life into this world

[@randomassname_]

that one was wild, would it have killed him to say it enthusiastically? bro she went through 9 months of hell and there you are thinking your opinion is so damn important

[@user-xi9mq7dt3v]

​@@randomassname_They have two under two .Plus running a social media must be rough.She hasn't gotten a break .She hasn't breathed . She hasn't felt a sense of just motherhood that she obviously wants

[@kioumim]

I remember that one, it absolutely made me uncomfortable...

[@84mobstar]

They have known each other since they were 12-13 years old.

[@rubberdingy]

Ill never forget him booking horseback riding the same day she got an IUD implanted. I don't care if it was an accident or if she said not to change it, it shows carelessness over a procedure that can be BRUTAL for women to go through. I couldn't follow them any more after that. She legitimately looked in pain. It just gave me the ick

[@CaitlinPope-ji7ij]

Same!! I've had an iud before and the pain is brutal. I was home on the couch for a full 24 hours.

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

Yeah- I picked up on this immediately! I think he’s most likely abusive IRL.

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

@@CaitlinPope-ji7ijThere is a movement of women demanding that we receive proper pain management for ALL feminine care procedures. Men would never put up w/ this! #make the ERA law in the US!

[@alexialira3839]

@user-nf3ry4mw7b what does a whole gender have to do with you choosing an IUD instead of other methods of birth control that don't bring pain, not researching it, not asking your provider questions and choosing to visit a provider that apparently doesn't talk to you? You're getting yourself wound up over the assumption that men won't take pain while getting a medical procedure lol You're odd.

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

@@alexialira3839 You’ll see when you grow up! 😆 All these men getting vasectomies now to support women since Roe v. Wade was overturned: they are already complaining & having side effects. I’ve worked in healthcare 30 years now. Men refuse to put up w/ pain levels women are required to endure. (Mostly b/c they are strong enough to rise out of bed & beat everyone up!… plus the patriarchy and their current power.) # make the ERA law in the USA!

[@dabading2860]

This guy has always given me the creeps. Its like he delights in how emotionally unstable his wife is. Its the way he plays to the camera whenever she gets emotional as if this is some inside joke between him and the viewer. He doesnt truly try to calm her either not until hes provoced her into an outburst and then he plays the sweet understanding husband and the brain dead (sorry) comments always go "Oh what great guy." What a weird, weird man.

[@clairescott5977]

A 1000% agree

[@courtneylust]

omg i COMPLETELY agree, you worded my thoughts perfectly

[@cutiefox6455]

Yes!! I also always saw something strange in his eyes

[@gobindmayhershared5468]

bro thats kinda deep

[@Too_tired_for_this_]

Exactly, the crying over how cute the baby was rubbed me the wrong way, she just gave birth like the day before and her hormones are SHOT and he’s going “yeah it’s cute but I didn’t cry over it”. As if the reason she’s crying and super emotional might’ve not been the rollercoaster of emotions and hormones on top of just being happy for her kid

[@mildlifecrysis]

3:30 the issue is that he knew he was giving her water too cold when shes sensitive. He knew two. He said two on his own. He did this ti mess with her. He asked about temperature on ourpose to get her focus there. He played a prank on her on such a vulnerable time. And its not like it was one icecube too little or something insignificant. Two ice cubes and 6 are the diffence between sensitive teeth hurting and not hurting with every sip.

[@Marina_7]

Exactly. Even if it had been accidental 6 cubes could cause additional pain/discomfort. But doing that on purpose to get a reaction out of your vulnerable wife, who is in pain and under the effects of the anaesthesia wearing off after surgery? I have no words.

[@emptyheart09]

HE IS SUCH AN ASSHOLE. PERIOD

[@TheCuddlebun]

Good point, @mildlifecrysis. This prank gives the same ick as the pranks that couples play on each other to test their loyalty or how willing a partner is to help the one filming to 'peel an orange'.

[@talkingtochapri]

Same thing with iud, same thing with making her pregnant right after hernia surgery instead of getting vasectomy and taking the lead. He hates her and clearly isn't attracted to her. And most of these family channel males cheat on their wives 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rando9820]

this.

[@patreece9302]

This is crazy because I literally just saw the clip today of him “surprising her” by cleaning the house. But he made sure while cleaning to say “I don’t usually do all this” then something about “traditional gender roles” in their home. I don’t watch them but I just remember thinking how random that video was because you literally have to clean your house

[@ember3449]

Can you link the video or do you have the name or something I could search? I haven't seen that one..

[@rebeccahicks2392]

@@ember3449 I don't have a link to that video, but Layze has clips from it in his commentary video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXfHnHynr5yYecUsi=cBehDbbflRf_f8T1

[@beautyallaround_]

@@ember3449​​⁠​​⁠ 11:59 the clip the commenter is talking about. Dani is adding in her commentary on the video starting from the time I shared.

[@mrym_.]

😭 traditional where? He doesn't even have a job. He's so delusional

[@moviegal6000]

I personally think about it like this...if you would have to do that chore if you were single then it's your responsibility if you were married/in a relationship. At that point it is just the responsibilities of being an adult person.

[@srhdance9327]

You should really look into their podcast. It reveals the worst. For example In their podcast it was revealed that for 2 days right after Abby gave birth to their second son Matt ignored her. FOR 2 DAYS!! And after a C section too! His excuse was that he was upset because now that he had 2 kids he couldn’t do all the things he wanted to do.

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

OMG! I do know that she left the hospital after the C-section after less than one full day! They complained b/c the hospital made them sign a paper saying it was against medical advice. I think he had something to do w/ this!

[@gillypiexo]

Atleast they have her parents there

[@aterryadg]

Yes he wanted to go to Nashville to record his dorky songs and was mad because he couldn’t go. But just recently he did go.

[@Echoesofherexistence]

Wtf..

[@yorelativo5394]

I would literally divorce him like wtf

[@4MixMasterMonkey]

I’d KIND OF understand his point if he worked a 9-5 job & she was a stay at home mom…But, they both stay home & work as content creators. And personally, I believe “traditional” roles should NOT exist. You live together, eat together, make messes together, have a child TOGETHER…you should both take care of these tasks equally. It’s pure laziness if you don’t.

[@tryingtobeproductive1996]

I agree with the first part but not the second one. I think when you say you practice traditional gender roles, it doesn't ( and shouldn't) mean the women does everything, it should be equal just each one does what they prefere/ they're best at. Like I love cooking and cleaning and would not see myself taking care of the car, fixing my computer and so on ...but my boyfriend helps everytime I'm tired or if I ask he will cook, clean and other stuff. Same foes for him if he asks for my help I will help him. It's not " closed territories "

[@JeremyAnna16]

Exactly

[@ajgjngfthyfbk7564]

"Traditional roles should not exist" ok but like, the whole point of feminism is that people should be able to choose what they want. Of course there's a lot of relationships with unfair distributions of tasks, like this one, but in general theres nothing wrong with a woman wanting to take some years off work to be with her small children. The issue starts when disrespectful men take advantage of their partners or financially abuse them in some way. But wanting to be a SAHM is super valid, especially considering how expensive child care and domestic services can be.

[@menacinglygorgos7653]

traditional roles means men provide women nurture, in their case, both people provide since they're both influencers and into social media thing, so traditional role shouldn't be applied in this case because they both provide so they both should have nurture(caring for the kids and housework)

[@nodrvgs]

nothing wrong with traditional roles. It's silly to claim that everything should be 50/50 OR to say that everyone should be in a trad relationship. Let people live as they please, but they need to do their parts properly.

[@narutounleashed9374]

They got married so young . Had babies too, was pregnant 2 years straight . I feel bad of her.

[@itsrama27]

Well it’s her choice?? It’s not like she’s oppressed or something ?? Like I’m sorry but did he forced her to be with him 😅 ? Her family are with her too, so she ain’t really alone with matt for him to controls her or abuses her

[@leslycevas9993]

Just a secret hater… deep down this person probably wants this too or probably so “young” too realize that being happy is having a family of your own flesh and blood not the corporate family nor the cats

[@sparkyblue7016]

​@@leslycevas9993The problem isn't the kids it's how her husband treats her.

[@mirroruniverse9331]

And I think that's the reason why they're still together. For the kids

[@avery_wilson]

i love Abby. Shes so sweet but Matt on the other hand is just off. He doesn’t seem right

[@ninakoch1799]

In the podcast episode with Trey Kennedy it was so obvious how mature Abby is and how Matt is a literal man child. Abby vibed so well with Trey (not saying romantically) and I just got so sad for her, thinking what life she could have had with an amazing, mature man who respects her if she had not rushed into marrying Matt.

[@nicolesannas]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@fbiagentfrank]

I agree except I don't think they rushed into marriage. Weren't they together since they were like 12 or something crazy?

[@clairescott5977]

I really really don't like Matt at all he just rubs me the wrong way, like the video where he gets her "drink wrong" just for views 😑😤

[@arrowverselover100]

Personally, I think if they allowed themselves to have s*x, their relationship wouldn't have lasted. You can tell that they rushed into marriage just so they could have s*x. They left their wedding early (or right when it ended) to go have s*x. That shouldn't be what your wedding day is about. It's about the people you know and love watching you marry the person of your dreams and celebrating with them and talking to them, and instead, they rushed out of their wedding.

[@arianah9532]

@@fbiagentfrankyeah but i will say that your brain isn’t fully developed until about 25. you can be together for a decade and still “rush into things” if you’re not fully emotionally available with your partner. plus, being so young, it’s hard to grow as an individual in a relationship at that point anyway.

[@audreywilliams474]

I definitely think they’re a couple that is only staying together because they’ve built a platform based on their relationship. You can see the contempt they have for each other in newer videos.

[@goduxunike]

At this point? Yes. Their podcasts have exposed the cracks in a crazy manner

[@giatalamantezz_]

lies

[@Irishcharlie1994]

Absolutely. Because they have zero life skills outside of their fake online world they would fall flat on their face if they split and had to attempt to get by in the real world. I could go without his two cents to Ms piggy all the time. Why it scrolls across my FYP is beyond me. Maybe subconsciously my hatred for their fakeness keeps me on their videos for a bit too long which is what brought me here

[@betternews3835]

@@Irishcharlie1994 Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure Abby was a teacher.

[@Irishcharlie1994]

@@betternews3835 idk but doubt it. She’d rather cry and record herself and her home life 24/7 for attention. Most teachers aren’t attention seeking fiends

[@chromesthesia]

If these folks don't want us to criticize their awful marriages why must they show them ALL THE TIME?! With their dang triffling husbands

[@sickening_love1154]

"Look at our life so we can make it your business but don't criticize us, it's not YOUR business!"

[@user-kk9hi3op5m]

Abby says that they have different roles and everything is fine. And then she lists her tasks and his. A question! How often do I have to pay for water and electricity, insurance, and a car?Let's say once a month. How often do you need to cook, clean the house and take care of a newborn? EVERY DAY, NO, EVERY FEW HOURS. These are simply roles that are not comparable in terms of responsibility and workload. Their DAILY LIVES depend on her tasks. She does EVERYTHING and he does THE MINIMUM

[@zsideas2594]

also they are influencers so it's not like he is going to work

[@inthesameuniverse]

this is so sad :( I feel bad for Abby , my parents are exactly like that as well

[@noeliahermoza3786]

I understand what you mean, and agree with the general idea, but you can't just say "payment is done once a month, tops", yes, but to do that payment you need to earn the money, which is earned working almost everyday of that month, 8 hours each day. Again, I agree with the general idea, but you can't say "What does it take to pay for something? 1 day maximum" as if all the work to get the money didn't matter

[@zsideas2594]

@@noeliahermoza3786 he is not the only one working they are both working on the channel together don't defend a toxic man

[@sargunkaur4298]

​ @noeliahermoza3786 We cant fairly count his job as a chore he does when they're both doing the same job. We can assume he edits and uploads the videos alone. But even then he's only working for 2-3 hrs a day while taking care of a newboarn is like a full time job as it is. And then she has taking care of the house, cleaning up after him and cooking in her list too.

[@lonelycracker3334]

I recommend listening to their podcast. Listening to it made me think how scary it would be to realize one day that I don't LIKE my husband. I may love him but i don't actually like him as a person. I'm genuinely so surprised that Abby is able to put up with Matt when he constantly acts like a literal man child.

[@ranaeid2390]

Never understood "I love you, but I don't like you"

[@muggleintheupsidedown]

I’m so happy that I am in love with my husband and like him as a person! We’ve been together since we were 20, going on year 13 now. I couldn’t imagine not liking each other.

[@ChristinaFromYoutube]

That "aren't I such a clever boy" look/smirk on his face would cause rage in me. You're not Huckleberry Finn bro. You're a father of 2 who is pushing 30.

[@ssssaaaaiiii]

@@ranaeid2390i think it means there’s an obligation through your history of relationship, like a marriage or a family relation or something, but you wouldn’t talk to them if it wasn’t for that. ‘love’ is used pretty loosely here, depending on how you look at it i guess.

[@TheDeadPoet226]

​@@ranaeid2390 I guess it means that" I'm in love with u and I don't wanna leave u but as a person u are not good and I acknowledge that". Basically leads to very toxic relationships

[@Sunny-209]

Matts whole personality: Being shirtless.

[@talkingtochapri]

That's not very traditional of him 😂 she cooking and cleaning for him meanwhile he is eating her food, using her money that she is generating from her labor pain and he is going to gym and building body to show other women at gym and all the female audience. I wouldn't be surprised if he is cheating as well because she isn't attracted to her at all.

[@moustik31]

Right?!

[@adwore.]

and being a dick

[@xx44661]

"There is no way I could have takem care of both Abby and Griffin" up until this point I was sceptical about the whole premise of the video, but honestly this is just wild. When my mother had cancer my father took care of her and their 2 teenager children while also co-running a business. He cooked, took her to appointments, cleaned, supported her, did 100%, but honestly if you love someone then 100% is the bare minimum in the time of need.

[@nandinishrivas3540]

If the man wants to he would

[@bossefied]

I hate the comment “you are such a great husband and father” you changed the diaper. Lmao that should be a normal thing. 😂drives me crazy

[@adameleliott1777]

I swear the expectations are so low for men…

[@BrewsBrownies]

Seriously, the fact that dudes get downright PRAISED for doing the bare minimum is sad. Praising a literal father for doing such a simple thing like changing a diaper is like rewarding somebody for returning a wallet they found.

[@huelaura4691]

To be honest, i think she is in a toxic and possible narcisstic relationship. They both need prayer. Being in those toxic relationships are not easy at all😢

[@Miauhh158]

Everyone needs to watch the podcast with trey kennedy interviewing matt and abby , abby actually calls out matt and says "he actually never does nothing around the house " and you could see how annoyed matt was . In my opinion, this whole youtube idea was all matts passion, abby has said multiple times that she hates being on camera and shes just supporting matts passion . I dont watch none of their content , but i hate the fact that he makes these videos just recording abbys pain knowing he only records these things to tick her off .

[@StarbucksYes]

But the thing is, when you watch their KZbin shorts; Abby makes her own mini “vlogs” on going to baby appointments and running errands. Not defending the situation because honestly I’m confused but yeah. I could be wrong but that’s what I’m seeing.

[@srensvold]

It doesn’t seem like she completely hates it. I think it may be more about how often he wants to post and that he wants to post EVERYTHING, but I guess we’ll see what unfolds in the future

[@Too_tired_for_this_]

@@StarbucksYes maybe she likes doing some stuff just not to the extent he does or to the extent that they have to to keep putting out new things

[@mina.m.]

@@StarbucksYesshe does make a lot of her own videos so she could’ve evolved to liking it or actually liked it from the beginning. There’s also the possibility she does it because she kind of has to at this point. If Matt decided his job is social media but on his own he doesn’t make enough to support their family & he isn’t interested and/or equipped to be the primary caregiver to his children then abby would have to find a way to take care of their kids and make money at the same time which makes social media one of the few options. I’m not saying this is their reality just one of thousands of possibilities. Personally I believe Abby is more of the reason people watch. Mom content and couple content is super popular - Matt alone really only offers “hot shirtless guy” and I guess he sings sometimes but he probably doesn’t pull in the same level of views unless he’s making “look at me I’m such a good dad” content while been shirtless. Idk he doesn’t really seem to offer the same level of substance Abby does but that could just be my viewing experience. It’s interesting to theorize but at the end of the day who the hell knows 😂

[@kenna163]

I mean he wants to be a singer or something, right? Being an Internet personality is a good jumping off point.

[@pinkgiraffe378]

We really need to demonetize family channels because it's just not okay to exploit your children for content.

[@kassie-annonandia67]

You need help

[@Tm-gg2mz]

Matt and abby are one of the few channels that don't show their kids faces at all and keep videos of them at a minimum

[@Mi_1_2]

@@Tm-gg2mzHonestly that’s the only reason why I don’t think that they are the most toxic couple on the internet. Because the biggest problem with all these family bloggers, is how they exploit their children.

[@katierucki276]

I use to idolize Matt as the perfect partner…then I finally got into a healthy relationship and realized he’s barely doing the minimum.

[@ellala1000]

I can relate to so much of your saying. What really upset me, were the vlogs about the second birth. SHE just gave birth and was a hormonal wreck. But HE was upset because he had dreams of a great career etc and felt that he couldn't accomplish them anymore. And some time later she is vlogging about being a single parent for X hours - what can be really challenging. And at the same time he is vlogging about "pretending to be single for X hours" to work on his singing career and complains that it can be so difficult alone.

[@danixxgreen]

I had no idea about their KZbin drama! Maybe he’s even worse than I already thought. I’ll have to make a video on that too.

[@YourgirlIsra]

@@danixxgreen Just don’t

[@YourgirlIsra]

I love Matt and Abby but you shouldn’t be criticizing them just for views. It’s so annoying!

[@elliekay6005]

@@YourgirlIsra perhaps you shouldn't watch this youtuber then.

[@elliekay6005]

@@YourgirlIsra just don't

[@pinkgiraffe378]

The fact Matt is complaining about how much work it is to do everything abby normally does with her mum and friends helping them, without even contemplating what abby must normally feel like doing all that with no support is baffling.

[@orangeants]

BuT sHe’S a WoMaN iT’s EaSiEr FoR hEr he sucks

[@ashlyngolden18]

i used to really enjoy matt and abby, i found them before they were pregnant with their first and i stopped watching shortly after she gave birth because i just couldn’t stand their relationship as a whole or matt himself. not only is he immature and constantly behaves like a man who regrets getting married and having kids so young, but abby has had to excuse things for him so many times and try to use their religion to justify their relationship and his behavior. she used to be so bubbly and excited about seemingly just life in general and now she seems so forced to get on camera and play the happy mom and wife.

[@driley5004]

Sadly a lot of people do this. A lot of men especially. They then end up like some I know who go to work and stay there as long as they can bc they hate thier lives.

[@ashlyngolden18]

@@driley5004 it’s very sad to watch. when i first found them i looked up to their relationship in some ways because i got married young too. but the more i see them pop up in clips the more it feels like they genuinely hate each other. i hope they can both find happiness, whatever that looks like for them individually

[@swimgirl24]

Same. I stopped watching soon after their first baby was born and Matt was really arrogant about never wanting to use a condom. I realized then that I never wanted to give that man any of my views.

[@ashlyngolden18]

@@swimgirl24 there was occasionally a comment here or there from him in some of their Q&As that would throw me off sometimes but i never really realized how toxic he was until their son was born. it seems like they spend more time trying to convince everyone they have a happy marriage instead of actually working towards maybe having one, for Abby’s health sake and for the sake of the children i really hope she takes a step back and realizes everything he’s putting her through and how she was conditioned to believe it’s normal

[@TheHolly1997]

Same here! Found them super cute early on then after their first child something just started feeling off with them and i couldnt stand their videos popping up anymore… not so much abbys solo vlogs but anything with matt just instant ick and never understood why

[@SoBethSaid]

The video where he gives her an anniversary gift two months early and at the end she asks "you do know our anniversary though right?" Her face told me everything I needed to know about that manchild.

[@lydiazentzis9551]

I don’t think it was brought up, but he can’t even take care of the finances and tasks he’s supposed to do. There’s a video where their water (and maybe some other utilities) were shut off because he hadn’t paid them in months

[@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim]

i’m sorry WHAT???

[@paulamugabi7320]

Wow that's sad 😢😢

[@khaila9962]

Wow he literally had just one job😂

[@suebuchert7797]

I predict if Matt doesnt start acting like a caring husband this marriage will eventually implode.

[@adameleliott1777]

They’re traditional and highly involved online. To me this means they’ll never take the risk of ending such a beneficial collaboration and the shame of divorce. Most probable is Amy would (as many brave women who have to tolerate a man child) be losing her energy and character, fading away…

[@paulamugabi7320]

They will divorce just a matter of when.

[@kenna163]

​​​@@paulamugabi7320aren't they religious? Religious ppl only divorce in extreme cases like psychical abuse and even then

[@chadiacallewaert]

​@@kenna163 no actually in more religious stats in the us (eg. Utah, arkansas,..) people get divorced more often

[@addies4066]

@@kenna163yea the reasons are abuse or infidelity but some do it anyways

[@SassyUnicorn86]

My heart breaks for abby. No wonder her parents moved in with her :( matt seems to try to embarass her online.

[@ikallibby]

Dude. How the hell is anyone on Abby's side here? She's the most privileged complainer that I think I've ever seen on the internet, and throws her husband CONSTANTLY under the bus at any opportunity that she gets. She scrutinizes him on literally everything, even the fucking temperature of the water? What a lame excuse to get upset at a partner for. She's guilted the poor guy to being a servant, and now she's making her parents servants too?????

[@lizzieg4535]

@@ikallibbyshe had just had surgery and he knew what he wanted and purposely didn’t do it..

[@ikallibby]

@@lizzieg4535 what an absolutely absurd request though 😂 to have a tantrum over it? Yeah after a surgery I better have a popsicle made with a dipstick half melted and microwaved for 4.5 seconds or ELSE. LMAO

[@amrilovesart]

​@@ikallibbypeople on anaesthesia are way worse. You wouldn't know because you havent gone through it .😊

[@ikallibby]

@@amrilovesart Yeah you have a point, but also, I think people are going way too hard on this guy. It reminds me a lot of an abusive relationship that my friend was in :(

[@Catalina-Winemixer]

He has always had rancid vibes. If he doesn’t play around on her I’m a cactus wearing a hat.

[@aterryadg]

I don’t think he plays around on her because I believe he is in the closet!

[@prudym1469]

@@aterryadg 100%

[@saladfingers.]

I definitely think he's gay.

[@KagomeYasha023]

@@aterryadgok he still playing around on her super secretly with dudes

[@xysarenottheprize]

Tradmen are always cheaters. Usually abusive, too.

[@athenaserna4805]

“i think that matt is a freak” 💀 real

[@krakatauer1464]

"Traditional marital roles" usually equates to "the wife does basically everything and does not know any better". When both are fine with it, there is nothing wrong. However I have yet to encounter a real life example, where you couldnt see, that the woman was stressed by all these things and got barely any recognition for it.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

You have so much disdain for traditional wives and mothers, poor idiots they don't know any better

[@meou_meou]

once a video popped up in my feed where he ask her a public question” if cheating is forgivable in a relationship or kinda acceptable” she answered yeah! If it’s a one time thing not a reoccurrence and he nodded and said “yeah mistakes can happens” and all with enthusiasm I knew something was off with this couple and something has already happened for them to normalise cheating like that

[@sarahe.1159]

I mean that’s kind of a personal thing. I also would mind cheating less than lying. Doesn’t mean it happened in my relationships 😅

[@NoThankUBeQuiet]

​@@sarahe.1159cheating and lying kinda go hand in hand

[@Dobbyisfree000]

He got her regnant 5 months after she gave birth. His reaction was a goofy grin.

[@BusesTrainsandbubbletea]

Takes 2 to make a baby they both had options for birth control and decided not to use them.

[@bulma463]

Bruh they had consensual segggsss

[@mandyfrade3047]

@@BusesTrainsandbubbleteaif that’s all you think it is or took from this video then you’re not very bright ✌🏼

[@paulamugabi7320]

​@nikki9278 it's not even about birth control at this point. One is supposed to wait at least 5-6mths.That psycho doesn't respect her nor did he wait.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

He got her pregnant? Weird choice of words

[@onstandbi-]

One thing that always bothered me- in the video where abby responds to everything, she said one of his responsibilitys was to manage finances amd pay bills(or something along those lines). In another video (i dont know if it's before or after), he says that he accidentally didn't pay the water bill for FIVE MONTHS as he thought it was on auto pay. So, you pay the bills, but there on auto pay? And you dont pay attention to whether there *actually* being paid? Sure, your putitng in your weight

[@anna3707]

9:24 He went back to sleep after that. She said it on their podcast. While she had a complete meltdown about her surprise pregnancy (understandably!!), he went back to bed because he was tired.

[@lindawinda3434]

WTFFFFF

[@ikallibby]

?????? This woman sounds like she has a meltdown over anything. What the hell is he supposed to do? Compromise sleep for a tantrum? I think they could have been smart with contraception rather than blaming everything on him as usual...

[@LynzeNicBeauty]

I love Abby but that man is so aggravating

[@USmomma4]

Same! I used to like them both initially but QUICKLY became repulsed by Matt….he’s so CRINGE…and self absorbed. I like Abby 👍

[@LA-cm9uo]

Wtf? When I'm on my period my man does all the cooking, cleaning, dog-care etc. Matt : picking up stuff is really hard!!!

[@cw9108]

You have a keeper for sure. I wonder if he learnt that from his home life like mom dad growing up or just around you. Either way good man

[@LA-cm9uo]

@@cw9108 He grew up without parents so I guess it's just his good heart

[@serenitygilles7064]

@@LA-cm9uo us no parent adults are so used to taking care of everything and need extra understanding sometimes :)

[@carlad6665]

What....thats crazy

[@juliajenkins5713]

My man does the same thing even when I'm not we clean together and cook with each other and help each other out with stuff

[@nivedhas1949]

Our daughter is 17 months old now i had a vaginal birth she broke my vagina it took 4 months to walk properly i can't imagine abby had to go through hernia surgery after pushing a baby out and then another pregnancy immediately then a c section all of this in 2 years i hope her body doesn't breakdown 😮😢

[@zomacchy16]

I hope you get well soon

[@mariakhan1084]

I hope you are heal soon. And Abby is doing great.

[@kmo3066]

Why would he film her in that moment when she's crying in recovery from surgery. I'm so sad for her.

[@addies4066]

She has said many times tho that she approves all the videos that are posted and all of the footage beforehand. She also may have asked him to record beforehand, which you wouldn’t post bc it would be odd yk. Either way if she wanted to delete and not post it she could have.

[@fayzasalam559]

Omg when he compliments her instead of saying she’s beautiful he’ll say she looks like a hotter sister? WTF

[@aterryadg]

I think him always saying how hot she is is to cover for being in the closet so no one will suspect. He literally says she’s so hot every time he sees her

[@xxxmaysilssss690]

@@aterryadggirl what are you talking about?

[@zelacat]

@@aterryadgtag me if the conspiracy theory is real later on

[@ikallibby]

@@aterryadg Probably because she's had to manipulate him into doing so. She complains about everything the guy does, probably trying to drag him down with her rancid attitude.

[@danaeigsti8657]

I liked them at first until the point she got pregnant again. They aren't the first parents to have two under two but they act like they are. They talk about stuff that people don't need to know her getting an IUD no one's business. Then I seen a video where Matt was calling Abby out for the food choices she gives the oldest. If he has concerns he needs to talk to her off camera. Not every talk you have with your partner needs to be filmed.

[@stuffystuffsityas6302]

What ticks me off is how much her body has gone through, while he’s just around. The least he could have done is get a vasectomy. It’s reversible, much less painful, they actually receive numbing for the procedure rather than going in raw on pain meds - just get snipped?

[@MelissaKitto525]

He is sooo immature. Too immature to be married and have children. This is why the wait till your married to have sex belief is so toxic. People get married so they can have sex but they are not ready for the commitment.

[@driley5004]

I swear to God I was thinking these exact words. It's crazy that people don't realize the difference.

[@kdramas1004]

Waiting for marriage to have sex has nothing to do with it. Sex doesn’t equal maturity so regardless if you have sex before or after marriage your still the same person and going to make the same mistakes and choices

[@dishuuu112]

​@@kdramas1004 yesss I have seen people who waited till marriage and years later are still doing great in their marriage!! Sex before or after marriage doesn't account if you don't have basic respect for your partner that they are another person with feelings and emotions.

[@phenomenonnarutokun]

What a horrible take. Having sex after marriage has absolutely no correlation to immaturity

[@snowa5558]

I think what they mean is the opposite, it might, and has, contributed to young people rushing into marriage too early

[@ewelinabudzinska]

I never write negative comments but omg he's such a child and a brat and a narcissist! Why do they have such a huge following? He's glorifying himself every step of the way! I feel so sorry for Abby... I hope she'll learn that she'd be better off without him as soon as possible...

[@wendyfrederick5965]

I would love to see the male to female ratio of their subscribers. I'm betting most of their followers are "man children" like him ... Probably they don't even have GF's and this is their idea relationship goals!! Hate to tell them most real women, in the USA, will not tolerate this level of BS from their partners!

[@juliajenkins5713]

I agree she could do way better then him

[@cassidydiaz2502]

Is this me or did he once say he doesn’t want a daughter because he would feel less masculine?

[@sadiaali9856]

omygod😮😮😮😮😮, did he actually say that

[@aterryadg]

That proves that he is afraid he will show his feminine side!

[@ChristinaFromYoutube]

​@@aterryadghe is a ballet dancer.

[@Stellarstray51]

i remember him saying something like i'd be so disappointed if it were to be a girl or smtg like that after which i proceeded to instantly uncubscribe and never looked back, until today, youtube decided to randomly recommend this video to me

[@myman2930]

Lmao what? What does that even mean😂 i wouldnt be surprised if he said that though

[@yeollyx1237]

This is the same guy btw who is responsible for the financial decisions since he is so good at it who FORGOT TO PAY THE WATER BILL FOR 7 MONTHS

[@nla5307]

I KNEW I didn’t like him for a reason. He’s always all big mouthed and smiling and that seems fake to me.

[@reeserelli9011]

BrUHHHH when they first started uploading I could see he was a freak. He insulted her underhandedly over and over

[@allie5171]

How? All i remember is him calling her hot all the time lol

[@tryingtobeproductive1996]

In my opinion nobody should share their life that much on social media, and it will always be weird. People should not show their children until they're of age to understand that millions of people are actually watching them in those.

[@TheKillaShow]

I'd argue that children should never be props in their parents social media period. But thats another story.

[@MersdeLunes]

I’m horrified by their videos and I have just watch a handful. I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids and no external help (paid or family) even if I stay at home to do most of the chores my husband does a lot. Also he takes care of our children as much as me (children are not household chores) he is as present and knows as much about everything that they need as me. In my postpartum (all three were fine, a little of baby blues in the last one) he didn’t let me do anything that wasn’t breastfeeding or taking care of myself as I see fit (sleeping and being able to shower) he did everything on his own, laundry cleaning, cooking and after the first taking care of the oldest so they didn’t feel left out or jealous. I’m so grateful for my husband and he is great but I do the same if he is sick or if he has a crazy work week, we are just there for each other in complicated times. We don’t see what I do or he does as extraordinary, we are thankful of each other and we will say thank you but is just normal in our marriage.

[@jamiebourgault4481]

He is so immature its pathetic!!!

[@sara-jayn]

So glad to watch this video. I feel so bad for her. He is an abusive narcissist. And because of her religious indoctrination she just can’t see it. Also what I really hate is that they say they struggle. My mum raised me and my sister alone working two jobs. These two have no jobs and two parents living with them.

[@giatalamantezz_]

yes they do have a job. SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!! are u dumb? 🤣

[@aterryadg]

And no financial woes either!!

[@davisj7973]

Why do you think the blindness to narcissism is rooted in cultural religious influence ? I genuinely don't get that.

[@sara-jayn]

@@davisj7973 because god is the biggest narcissist of all. He is the route of patriarchy. Of pledging yourself to a man no matter his flaws because divorce is evil. Being wilfully blind is an effective coping strategy to deal with spending the rest of your life with your high school mistake.

[@miseendriste6337]

@@davisj7973 Because religion is influenced by narcissistic men. It’s not even new or shocking information. When Henry VIII wanted to leave his wife and the church wouldn’t let him, he founded his own new church. He’s just an example. Priests (historically all men), clergy, theological scholars have for millennia ruined religion with misogyny and male narcissism.

[@evatadida6054]

Matt gives a strong wibe that he is so convinced of being the hot stuff in the relationship. Like he seems to think he has the upper hand and i cant shake the feeling that he thinks he deserves "more" while Abby seems fully dedicated to her family and her husband. He just seems not to see her

[@Your.Benefit.]

Well saiddd

[@Mandahaya]

I found their channel shortly after the second pregnancy announcement. There were instances where I felt like Abby was being somewhat abrasive towards Matt, but the longer I think about it, the more that seems constructed. Highschool sweethearts are always a difficult topic, so they both might not know better, but it's giving me more and more of an ick how Abby is trying to grow as a person, getting to know herself better, and then there is Matt filming himself taking care of his family, presenting his songs... and taping Abby's emotional breakdowns. Somehow she always clarifies that she gave him permission to post these, but there's a difference between one such instance vs. one every other week... it feels so disrespectful putting your struggling, hardworking wife on blast. And then I read the word "narcissist" in the comments here and the logic checks out. He loves to profile himself as this dreamy relatable supportive hubby/father meanwhile whenever she talks about these daily tasks, they're normal and nothing to whip out a tripod for. I can't even recall a single instance of him running errands or cooking. It's like he never matured beyond 17.

[@cw9108]

Peaked in late high school college vibe if you can even call it a peak

[@ceceburke7309]

Allocating tasks based on “natural strengths” is such an easy way to never learn the other tasks or take responsibility and it looks like Abby has the everyday nonstop tasks while Matt has the monthly to yearly organization (bills, insurance, cars). This seems like a very common recipe for disaster that leaves moms feeling burnout

[@dekes1997]

Thank you HE is so annoying … but they’re terrible as a couple I can’t stand them

[@averymcgowan1683]

He is so immature!

[@cornflakegirl4811]

He is horrible, but they are both creepy. People who overshare every second of their private life on social media are deeply annoying. They both seem to be very immature and their dramatic break downs on camera really pathetic. I guess that is the toll that couple - family vlogging takes on people: it makes them mentally sick and brings out the worst in them.

[@someonewho]

@@cornflakegirl4811exactly like im scared for when their kids get older…poor things…hopefully their parents don’t have a platform by then

[@addies4066]

Honestly I like Matt but hate Abby. She gets on my nerves and annoys me as a person most of the time..

[@sushiirolll]

@@addies4066are you being fr?

[@teslag23]

I’ve had an upper abdominal hernia surgery and the recovery is AWFUL. You can literally barely move.. having a newborn does not make the house insanely messy- they don’t move.

[@pinkgiraffe378]

I used to follow them and like you, thought they were cute. But after seeing a clip on a podcast about matt talking about how she felt different "down there" after giving birth, I was appalled and my opinion of them really changed and I unfollowed them bc what the fuck, that's such a horrible thing to say and I felt bad for abby, she looked so crushed. I feel like a lot of things I've seen of them since (especially of matt) just add to that negative opinion.

[@TheKillaShow]

He lacks true empathy. No person in their right mind would think that was okay to share so publicly.

[@franziska9260]

oh wow he's lucky (though Abby isn't) that he didn't get his teeth kicked in for that comment; most women would start swinging

[@cortniobrien1904]

Every word of your commentary was spot on. Every single word. One day Abby is going to get tired of having an immature, absent husband, and leave him. I wish her the best though, she has always seemed so sweet.

[@TheCuddlebun]

Why was Matt chuckling while he recorded his exhausted wife crying? That's not right.

[@Sandwich179]

i will always think of that moment from their podcast where abby said she wouldn’t remarry if matt passed. Then matt revealed he would most definitely remarry but said it so passively. He said he would hope she would, because he wouldn’t want to be alone if she did. That’s when I started to hate him.

[@ikallibby]

Why? She's an insecure martyr for being a widow??? It really doesn't sound like she wants any happiness for him whatsoever. I goddamn HOPE my partner would remarry after my passing. Also, who gives a shit what my partner does after I die- I'M DEAD LOL

[@llxhs8]

I’m 40 and British and haven’t a clue who these people are but Abby seems she could do so well by dropping this deadweight and making it on her own with help from her family.

[@rezaadara7866]

I feel like their content and relationship will not age well

[@Kaymarnic]

IUD insertion and healing is CRUEL AND UNUSUAL PUNISHMENT!!! It should be done under general anesthesia. My GYN tried 3 times to insert before “realizing” my uterus anatomy was a little different. I had to walk to another room well waddle and then I almost passed out. They let me drive home after that. I have been back since but also haven’t gotten pregnant the last 3 years so it must be working.

[@chloe-ev3qk]

Tell me about it! I got mine 6 days ago and I was screaming and crying when they put it in :( it was awful!

[@Mei_ying_]

i’m at 13:20 and the way he says “Griffin duty” is just sad. like bro if taking care of YOUR child is a duty then idk maybe DON’T HAVE CHILDREN?????

[@cakeorpurse]

"Big boy pants" 😂 soo unnatractive

[@Issssme11333]

He purposely posted that “Ice cube” TikTok and put more ice because he wanted a reaction out of her. That is straight up manipulation

[@ilovekaleadventures3471]

Abby needs psychological help. She needs to see a psychiatrist. She needs medication. She’s an absolute mess. She always has been her husband exploit her. He has severe ADHD that is untreated. These two are an absolute mess. Thank you for your video!

[@B.Harper7]

100% my heart ACHES for her. She takes him into consideration for everything, and she's taking all of the flack coming for Matt personally. She's taking his incompetence as her issue to "support, help, or train" out of him. Nobody is calling her a victim, nobody is saying she's not allowed to want traditional roles. WE ARE SAYING that he needs to step the eff up and actually be a provider and protector, if that's what she's looking for. However, those of us who have been married for many years see this whole relationship as a countdown until she finds herself and her self worth.

[@radhika7387]

Abby's grandma rightly referred to Matt as a narcissist.. and I think he is in the closet as well.

[@aterryadg]

@@radhika7387I totally agree! On his Nashville trip and the end he fist bumped one of his friends and said “dude that was so hot.” Ewww. He makes me cringe..

[@radhika7387]

@@aterryadg He is a manchild who somewhat regrets getting married and having kids so early.. I think secretly he loves being single and might have cheated behind Abby's back.

[@autumnossevorth4270]

She needs to be far away from the narcissist, I’m not too sure about the meds but most of her psychological issues are due to his exploitation after years of abuse. It’ll take more than two years for her body to regulate after being away from that environment. It’s crazy how much damage narcissistic abuse does to your body and your mind. You have to rewire your brain to be healthy. I hope she can get help and healing

[@cbrisalchemist6887]

My husband is almost 70 and I have been in the hospital for 6 days. He has taken care of 5 animals and comes to the hospital 3x a day, cleans, takes care of the garden, and he had been in patent heart failure, had heart restarted 5 times just 6 months ago! He raised 5 children as primary caregiver ( not mine) while working a social service job. That is a man who steps up. I wish I had a husband like him when I was having my kids.

[@sheila933]

I remember watching a podcast clip of theirs where Abby said something to the effect of how she doesn’t see herself being an influencer forever and wants to eventually go back to teaching. Matt’s reaction was less than supportive, one of his “really??!” responses. Her reaction back was to the effect of, “you already know this, we’ve talked about this before, stop being performative”. I wouldn’t be surprised if once the boys get older she leaves him and lives a private life as a teacher while Matt keeps going as an influencer. Their future goals don’t align at all.

[@addies4066]

My take on it was different. I was thinking maybe she loves being an influencer and he was bringing her back to reality. If she was saying “I don’t wanna do this forever” and he was like “really - you seem to rlly like it” sort of a thing and the “we’ve talked abt this” being more of a like you wanna raise the boys and teaching wouldn’t work with that etc. not him holding her back and being a monster.. And I wouldn’t argue about the being performative thing, everything seems scripted about their channel and most people’s channels now adays.

[@puffoffluffedair543]

the heteronormativity here is pissing me offffff like its fine if yall are fine with "traditional roles" but it truly comes off as an excuse to be inconsiderate and insensitive. It's such a weird dynamic to me that he gets to feel almost superior in the videos with little snide comments by being the "level-headed" one while exploiting his wife's emotions and not actually acknowledging them. Again not saying I know them but ABBY GURL PLS you deserve so much better.

[@KagomeYasha023]

That girl needs to leave that “husband” he’s worthless, narcissistic, and BET he’s cheating on her and been for a while.

[@justangela1684]

I found Matt and Abby mildly irritating but continue to watch their stuff because they were kind of entertaining. That was until they announced that Abby's parents were moving in with them because they were having a second child. At first my husband and I thought it was just for the first couple months or something. But they made it clear that it was a long term thing. I am a firm believer of the phrase "it takes a village" however Matt and Abby both work from home. They kept emphasizing how they have no time or energy to raise two kids alone. My husband pointed out that they seem to have not given up anything else in their life just to make time for their kids. Life is going to be different with kids and there will be sacrifices you'll have to make. But they seem to want to avoid sacrificing anything to raise their children. I'm not saying they're bad parents I just think they're immature. Plenty of people have raised seven children on one little income or four kids with two working parents. Yet you practically live in a yet you live in a massive House have a cushy job and all the time in the world and you need practically two live-in nannies?!

[@TheHolly1997]

This! Everything about this comment!

[@addies4066]

I agree!! The thing is Abby wanted them to move in tho and Matt did not seem to be very happy with it.. but no I completely agree it seems like the parents are doing most if not all the work, not Abby as she claims and also not Matt. It is very odd.

[@everettliu5157]

16:50 “On that note, if you’re enjoying this video, please give it a thumbs up, subscribe, and comment below.” ✨ICONIC✨

[@KristaTacker]

Im actually a fan of matt and abby, but my first husband was so abusive it was just nice to see like you said the ....bare minimum lol

[@classyoatmeal7]

the ice water thing is such weaponization incompetence for content

[@JadeTokier]

I'm always fascinated by how uneducated people are when it comes to toxic relationships. It's very obvious Matt likely has NPD and Abby is just his supply. I guess some of your commenters have never seen this dynamic before but it is clear as day to me.

[@ChristinaFromYoutube]

Especially with how he tries to humiliate her.

[@marona7899]

100 % agree

[@Annabanana246]

YESSSSSSS

[@xxxmaysilssss690]

“Uneducated”. Girl no one in the KZbin comment section has any certification or right to diagnose a stranger with NPD. That’s not uneducated, that’s being reasonable. Are you okay?

[@troyebeyonce]

npd? ?

[@og.hails27]

19:18 just a note, newborns tend to need to eat excessively the first few days actually… Babies naturally lose weight right after birth and nurses will keep tabs to make sure it starts to increase before release. At your first Dr appointment, typically days within giving birth, if the baby is not back up to its “birth weight” concern is raised as it can cause many problems and could be an indicator there is already an issue. Formula supplement is extremely common

[@user-nf3ry4mw7b]

Especially after a C-section. Sometimes the pain is too severe to breast feed.

[@nicolehervieux8013]

Having two babies in the last three years, and breastfeeding both of them, I can tell you that yes it’s normal for a baby to lose up to 10% of birth weight.. both of my babies lost about that much before leaving the hospital, they do not make you stay. Your first Dr appointment should be in the first week after birth and that’s when they will give advice and tell you any concerns they have about weight gain. I was not giving my baby formula at all, and my staff did not push that on me whatsoever.. your baby’s stomach is the size of a grape and gets a little bigger each day, the colostrum you produce before your milk comes in should plenty enough to fill your baby. Of course this is in a normal situation, not any special cases.

[@og.hails27]

@@nicolehervieux8013 Since credentials are apparently needed…. Having a 8 year old and a 3 year old, who attempted to breast feed and couldn’t produce enough milk, formula is very vital and they will most definitely keep it close when this is the case. From personal experience, they will make you stay if your baby’s weight is not increasing quickly enough, or is close to birth weight. Point blank period babies need to eat A LOT, contrary to the provided time stamp statement. 👍🏼

[@lolwat5569]

Yeah, I agree with you here. My lactation consultants and nurses worked really hard trying to help with my daughters latch while I was in the hospital. We had to stay an extra day anyway due to my own health complications, but we likely would have had to stay regardless because my daughter wasn't getting enough milk. My husband and I made the decision to provide some formula otherwise she wouldn't have gotten the nutrients she needed. Although I really don't like Matt, I'm glad that at the least he doesn't perpetuate the societal pressures and culture of "breast is best"

[@EmeraldSky33]

Yeah if OP is gonna be a know-it-all she could at least be correct 💀

[@unon735]

4:39 wtf "even hand delivered flowers that our friends brought for her" WHAT????? What else would you have done? Uber'd those flowers to her bed??? That is your "act of service"??? Not buying flowers for her or or sthg but "hand delivering" flowers other people bought for her? what the actual fuck is this Matt person

[@JMNL07]

The breastfeeding thing really bothered me. "My wife thinks it's important to breastfeed. I think it's important my baby is fed". So toxic.

[@addies4066]

Well I do agree tho. If she’s set on breast feeding that’s great and I completely support breast feeding and will be doing that for my kids as my mom did for us however there is a point to be said that if you aren’t making enough you need your kid to be fed. My aunt was very set on feeding her babies naturally but was not making enough milk and her baby actually almost died from being malnourished and she still wanted to continue to try breast feeding. The doctors had to explain that the baby needed formula for her to give in, sometimes moms can be very set and overlook the other things bc of their overwhelmed and tired brains

[@GOGOSLIFE]

I've never heard of these people before, and I don't generally watch these types of videos. I've been married for 36+ years. You don't do things because you're obligated to, you do them because you want to make your partners life a little easier for them. Did he want a hero medal because he delivered flowers, that the neighbor gave her? This has to be a joke right?! He took care of the baby for a day or two, to help her heal. He did the laundry. He cleaned the kitchen. Were all these things that he never did before? He should have been doing whatever he saw needed doing, and did them without complaint, or because he wants to be thought of as a 'great husband' and 'father'? He seems to think he's Gods gift women, simply because he did a few things without being told or asked to. Smdh! This should be done every day, not because he wants brownie points, or to look like he's a 'woke' new-age man! Hubby and I help each other, not because of obligation, but because of respect for one another. You should be doing things every day, all day long to let your spouse know that you love them, and that goes both ways. I hope he learns that being a man, means more than just doing chores. Peace

[@sidratulmuntaha1122]

Cleaning the house is a surprise? So she is supposed to come back from back the gym and clean the whole house? Then what does matt do? Sit there and watch

[@lily-if8ir]

No he watches TV that to boring to do

[@Supergace1234]

I went to college with them and Abby lived on my dorm floor and he was on our floor allll the time, I saw them constantly, Abby seemed super sweet but idk Matt does kinda give red flags

[@britvic4334]

She actually looks afraid of him if you look at her closely. Also he doesnt let her speak, he will always interrupt her and cut her off. There is something dark going on behind the scenes

[@geminimoonmadness]

Honestly think so too. He's very verbally and psychologically abusive, clearly. She always looks very nervous and like she's trying to play something down.

[@britvic4334]

@@geminimoonmadness thank you! It's nice that somebody else sees through the smoke and mirrors.

[@winter333]

@@geminimoonmadnessone hundred percent, she is always downplaying his behavior/attitude/immaturity and giving endless excuses for him. That’s typical in abusive relationships. Speaking from experience. He gives her the silent treatment, which is an abuse/manipulation tactic. I’m sure he does worse that isn’t spoken of.

[@KathrynB621]

@@geminimoonmadnessYes!! I don’t trust him at all.

[@allie5171]

Y'all reaching

[@emmamyers6152]

please do more of these videos on matt and abby because the icks are really icking recently.

[@danixxgreen]

February 14!

[@muirgirl]

I hate this guy. Gives sociopath vibes. To me he is breaking her for fun. Spooky.

[@kristinsimco5242]

You did a nice job pointing out all the ick that they tend to show. I found Matt and Abby when they found out about baby #2. I listen to their podcast at times due to some of the guests that they host and I genuinely believe them to be good ppl trying to make a living online. I don’t like ppl who just bash and bash but I don’t feel like you did that at all. And just like the rest of us, everyone is entitled to their opinion. You did a great job explaining to others, the things that healthy married couples do for each other and that you should have expectations for your spouse. Nice job!

[@ncjxbshj]

The video where she's having a full blown meltdown because she's pregnant again FIVE MONTHS after giving birth and his reaction is basically "nahhh it's gonna be fine lol" disguised in support literally made me see red. And I didn't even know her first birth was so traumatic. Sure it's gonna be fine, dude, you're not the one who's going to go through it. Why bother about it. It's so disgusting to me when infantile menchildren pose as emotionally stable romantic family men when in reality they don't worry about anything simply because they do nothing, because all the stress is pushed on their wives' shoulders. And of course if the woman is upset by anything, he makes her believe that she's just being hysterical, she's emotionally unstable and weak and should just "let him handle it" (which in their world means "do as I say but don't hold me accountable"). I'm not a fan of even the most mild "traditional gender roles", but this is such a mockery of the concept of family even by conservative standarts. Poor girl, she may never truly realize the position she's in.

[@SageWolf219]

What made me look at Matt sideways was when Abby give birth to their second child. He actually admitted he ignored her the first few days afterbirth.

[@TheHolly1997]

The fact that they moved abby’s parents in to basically be full time nannies😒🤦🏼‍♀️ Because raising two kids is way too much work when your whole job is whipping out your phone and filming 10 minutes of your day 🙃

[@driley5004]

They were wayyy to young to even get married let alone kids. Idk how ppl like or follow them.

[@ghoulsilver6352]

I used to watch them. I defiantly started to notice that Matt does not take anything seriously especially when Abby is upset he does not seem to actually care. When they found out they were having a second baby he didn't seem to take it seriously at all even joking in other videos ''he couldn't help himself'' When he set off a big party popper behind Abby while pregnant and he knew for a fact she'd cry and she did. Also explaining theirs and especially Abby's personal business in detail with no respect for her privacy.

[@morgyn1002]

Oooh the quality, the tone of voice and clarity! Girl you have a new subscriber!

[@Pokemongoguy-bn2md]

not anymore.

[@Lavanyasingh1406]

Wait i thought you're some big KZbinr with 1m + subscriber....bro no way you have 2k youtuber...the quality and script feels so high end😮

[@danixxgreen]

this is so sweet! thank you so much!

[@bundleofbec]

I saw a video of him “opening up” about how he was sad because he can’t open up emotionally because it’s weak and womanly. I said ope this account is NOT for me 😂

[@umbellicalchick5635]

I mean that is a real struggle men often have. It's traumatic to grow up taught to repress your emotions. I'm not going to mock someone for admitting to struggling with something that's very real.

[@bundleofbec]

@@umbellicalchick5635 all love 🫶🏼 I know it’s a struggle it was just the wording of calling women weak and then saying he’s struggling because he doesn’t want to be “weak like a woman” is a bit off putting to me, the sentiment that men should be allowed to share their emotions freely is true, the delivery just isn’t for me! No need to put down women to say that point

[@bundleofbec]

@@umbellicalchick5635 I think you missed what I was saying. I’m not mocking him. He is insulting women saying he so much didn’t want to be “weak” like us he made himself depressed. I wish him well and hope he can learn not every quality a woman has is bad and he can show his feelings like a woman and it will actually benefit him because not everything women do is stupid or weak like he is expressing he thinks.

[@umbellicalchick5635]

@@bundleofbec okay fair.

[@user-tz2yv7xv1k]

I am sorry but I find this extremely disrespectful, because you never tried to actually acknowledge what they had to say. You mentioned what they said and showed it, but you never tried to be in their shoes. Yes they decided to post these videos but you just took them the wrong way. You called him a freak and pretty much called Abby an idiot for staying with him. Just by posting this you are extremely disrespectful. Now of course I don’t actually know you in person, but from seeing this video it just seemed like it.

[@gabriellebaker3969]

"Now of course I don’t actually know you in person, but from seeing this video it just seemed like it." I believe this is the point. She admitted several times that while she doesn't know Abby and Matt, she is drawing a conclusion from the videos. Aren't you doing the same with her vid now? Could it be that you are taking her video the wrong way?

[@user-tz2yv7xv1k]

@@gabriellebaker3969You do realize that I was proving to her that due to her not knowing this couple she shouldn’t be saying all of the horrible stuff about them. I was putting her in their shoes.

[@gabriellebaker3969]

​​​@@user-tz2yv7xv1k I do realize, quite clearly. What I'm pointing out to you is the irony of your conclusions about the creator. You have decided that she is disrespectful on the basis, not of knowing her personally, but of what she's chosen to publish on the Internet. In the same breath, you are saying that her conclusions about another creator are invalid because she doesn't know them personally and can't make those judgement calls. Except that she's using the same criteria that you did -- what the creators chose to publish on the Internet... I'm not criticizing you so much as pointing out a paradox. As humans, we all make judgment calls about people. Sometimes we used faulty evidence, sometimes we use clear and indisputable evidence. Most of us base our opinions on what we see. This creator has made judgement call about other creators using videos they've posted; you've made a judgement call about her using a video she posted. If it's "horrible" for her to judge and label them (without knowing them), wouldn't it also be unkind for you to comment on her video and call her "extremely disrespectful" and "horrible" (without... knowing... her...)? You're making a judgment call based on your morals about how people should treat one another. So is she. It's just being human.

[@user-tz2yv7xv1k]

@@gabriellebaker3969 1) I never called her horrible I said that she said some horrible stuff 2) I still believe that is is disrespectful to say that he is “the worst husband on the internet” even telling Abby that she has been with him for so long that she is just used to all of it. Basically saying she shouldn’t be with her husband. While she is perfectly capable of deciding whether she wants her kids and even her in that kind of environment. 3) You completely disregarded what I said and made your own accusations about me so if you think what I am saying is wrong then you are doing the exact same this as me so don’t tell me I am rude when you are commenting on what I have to say. 4) At the end of the day we can all have our opinions.