The Zero Sum Game in Relationships (What is A Zero Sum Game and How To End One)

The Zero Sum Game is a Win Lose scenario that we often play in our relationships. For whatever reason, conscious or subconscious we often find ourselves in zero sum games. In this episode, Teal Swan explains 'the zero sum game' and how to end one.
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[@alextarot]

This behaviour is teached to our children from kindergarten.. I remember the game "music chairs" in which I didn't want to participate and said, pointing to other chairs"clearly there are many more chairs for everyone so we can just dance" and I was punished for that. bcs the aim is to create the notion of "not enough for everyone" and teach competetivness instead of cooperation. That is one of many sad stories about the humanity 😒

[@jinkim3186]

Well... it's true that the human society teaches the idea of lack and competition. But so does nature. While the humanity definitely could do better with its intelligence and compassion, it's not fair to expect too much more from it than from everything else in nature. What you said about the music chairs game actually has a different perspective. A game obviously has rules, winners and losers. You saw that as teaching the notion of lack and competition. But you must remember, this is a game. No one really loses anything. A game is supposed to be played for fun. Of course, it may not always play out like that, since someone might feel hurt for losing... but losing can sometimes teach you more than winning. It can teach people not to take everything too seriously, to rise back up when they fall, as well as to care for and respect others. But because you refused to participate in the competition, you were refusing to cooperate in that mutual experience for growth. To the teacher, you may have been the one who was not cooperating with everyone's fun and learning opportunity. I'm not saying this to be mean to you or say you were wrong. In fact, I think what you said also has a good point, and it's admirable that you took a stand for what you believed in. But your perspective is beneficial for you, because you are where you are. Other people have their own perspective, and they're also doing what they feel is right for them.

[@wordivore]

Good insight. I never thought about that about musical chairs. I played it all the time at birthday parties. Sorry you were punished for what you said.

[@gwalker2292]

SO. TRUE. didn't think about it like that! Wow.

[@alextarot]

@@jinkim3186 it was not for growth it was for indoctrination. Just bcs I refused, does not mean I wasn't forced to participate. Lol. There are also games to teach you how to loose without imputing 'lack of resources' mind frame. Though those games are also competetive in nature and yeald win or loose. Which doesn't produce growth, only establish more ego. Cooperation only produce win- win situations thus, growth. and it is not something that was teached to youth in my country. Nature and its weather are only outside manifestations of human state of consciousness, so only human is selfish but the nature is forever giving.. In accordance to whatever we are doing.

[@julijakeit]

@@jinkim3186 the nature is one and in balance. a predator won't kill if he's not hungry, any species that takes over diminishes the resources of others and this leads to the elimination of the numbers of the aggressive species. Look at humans, how much more suffering are we going to inflict to other life forms on our planet and are we happy? Even the richest and healthiest cannot relax because the system is set to make us unhappy. Do you eat healthy food? Is your water really clean? Heck, you most likely breathe fumes from the cars, factories and rotten garbage. Do you wear clothes made with love or made in poor countries by slaves? Do you really need 20 pairs of same t-shirt and still feel like you have nothing to wear? Do you need to live surrounded by gadgets and not creating anything for yourself?

[@babynuggethead5576]

Who else had to watch this MULTIPLE times just to fully understand the message????

[@tristanbhampton444]

I still don't get it 😕

[@jasonf441]

It's like my mind doesn't want me to understand it because then I realize I do it.

[@srosecardella]

I’m constantly inspired by you. Your teachings have been so practical that I feel like they are being used in my day to day lives. You are very different from other spiritual teachers and for that reason, I thank you.

[@vixenvalenzuela]

Yesss

[@ErikaK]

Your need for mutual happiness and connection is greater than anything else. Integration is the end of the zero zone game, respecting each other and commit together to find a win win in every scenario. Holding love and trust.

[@wordivore]

Can't be done if one party remains unwilling.

[@teslagoth9401]

You’re the best summariser

[@ErikaK]

@@teslagoth9401 :D ♡

[@焦糖瑪奇朵-b1p]

The story of how my parents lost me.

[@sarahhunter5953]

Omg I can’t believe how much sense this makes. My relationships with my partner & kids will be so much easier now. Thanks beautiful Teal. I am so grateful to have found you. I love your work xo

[@pupculturevenice]

Thank you so much Teal Swan. This is brilliant and so true. Strange that we don't always see this dynamic even though it can be played out right in front of our eyes. Thinking back I realize being anxious for no reason might be me being involved in a zero sum game, not knowing it but noticing the tension. Thanks for clarifying things we need to understand so that we can move towards change, A brilliant mind you got. Still new to your work. Thank you for helping so many. Much love to everyone! Truth feels good ✨✨🌸❤️✨✨✨✨

[@alex-ander-13]

This was so profound, that it almost fully healed my betrayal wound in 1 video. Thank you so much Teal!

[@danielamestanek7899]

M. Rosenberg's (C. Roger's pupil) NonViolent Communication is teaching us this important topic well. As of relatively recently, NVC is being taught at schools and universities for professions that are about educational or therapeutic relationships/care. But it takes way more than that to truly integrate it in our personal and professional life. Even Rosenberg, a clinical psychologist says - it is a spiritual work (too). Thank you, Teal.

[@gurudra]

Only when we think of ourselves as being one with the universe will we be able to reach our maximum potentials )

[@Electronicmedium1111]

Soooo true Guruda! ❤

[@devonseamoor]

I believe that by thinking alone there's not much result, Gurudra. It's our actions in the mundanity and glory of life itself, that allows us to try and express our potential. We may choose to be the best version of ourselves that we know how to be and all expectations of others fall away. The journey is what counts, to me.

[@devonseamoor]

@Patrick quote Ah, here we have a well-wishing guy disguised in business suit. Or is it the other way around? Make your day? Mend your heart.

[@Nadiahope7]

This video was amazing & although I've heard you talk about zero sum games before it really clicked for me. Our whole lives are these games! That's why so few really trust anyone & why I personally for years shut myself off completely (also a zero sum game) I'm definitely better at the win win with my daughter than I am my partner or family & I'm definitely going to get more aware of when I'm playing these games. Thank you. 🙏 love the new dramatic music too

[@emocean582]

Great insight on shutting ourselves "off" is also zero sum...I do this too!

[@davidryan8269]

Now I can put some perspective on my childhood.

[@MacyandTHeREd]

I've learnt this in the relationship I have been in for 16 yrs now. You realize that for it to work out and your both happy, you have to find the Inbetween that works for both always. There is no ego in this. There is complete openness and trust. It took me a while to get it but I am there now.

[@jenniferpepper22]

Teal Swan, your content is phenomenal, insightful and brings together all the fragments of Egoic self I offered up to the Alter of Healing at countless Retreats, Webinars, Therapy, Workshops, Healings. Yet, I also want to acknowledge the exceptional Production Quality, the edits, the produced Example Stories....brilliant work all together and the more I watch, the more I want to watch of your work! May we all continue to ride/surf the Flow~

[@jimmybiemans8264]

I have a lot of discussions lately with people around me about the definition of solution-based thinking. In other words: I am in a zero-sum game about existing options aside from zero-sum games. This is the most frustrating zero-sum game to play.

[@irenageorgieva8011]

I love you! You’re saving my life every day!

[@litamason9083]

Your wisdom and the way you convey it is golden ❤️

[@badmotivationofficial4369]

1M Subscribers Teal !! Congratulations 🎊🍾🎈

[@gustafrindestal]

Win Win always Wins

[@italiancapo7]

Wrong wrong and always wrong

[@nathandestaart]

It's amazing to see you put all of this into words. I just wish everyone could actually hear what you said (by viewing KZbin that does not seem to be the case). I've always wished for humanity to have a simple practical way to actually hear themselves and each other. But yeah. All of your latest videos (and other things) have made me really excited about Pluto in Aquarius. Transformation of the collective mindscapes and the human social collective. Cleaning out everything that's not working, transforming it entirely. I'm excited! Anyways, I always enjoy your videos!

[@SandeepSinghCreator]

I have the same opinion about the Zero sum games... Since i was growing up... I have observed this. Its not necessary that one needs to be a loser and the other winner... But sometimes somthing has to loose to gain forward... Like loosing old patterns. ... Fualty beliefs... Something needs to be hated in order to truly love something. The best part of this video is where you explain "Integration.

[@saturnreturns613]

Society at large is not taught to be authentic. This is a pay (in some way) to live planet. Just seeing the game for what it is and how most people operate (unconsciously) gives you choice.

[@acefrost]

A pay to live planet. Very well put!!

[@malcolmlagares8245]

Wow! This is the absolute best video I've seen on the Zero-Sum-Game. You've done an excellent job. Excellent! I applaud you.

[@joegrace2690]

I've been looking for resources for a speech contest regarding "zero-sum" and your video has been the best of them. I'm so inspired by you. Thank you!

[@zackbartlett3964]

Thank you Teal. I see you as an inspiration and damn near enlightened. Have a wonderful weekend. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Much love.

[@melissavalentine9771]

Absolutely 🥺 people and businesses find out the hard way

[@LoveAndPeaceOccurs]

Thank You Dear Teal, for your words of wisdom. This info helps me to better understand why I didn't like games as a child ... much ... I did play them but I could not understand why others wanted to win ... I didn't like seeing anyone loose. My best friend and I never played any game (cards, chess, monopoly ...by the rules ... we just played till we were tired of that game with no winner or looser. (her mother baby-set for me while my mom worked the evening shift ... so I was there most evenings and slept there and well this best friend was really more like a sister). I never enjoyed watching competitions and when my late husband talked me into being a judge for a local science fair event at the local college (BSU) (He had been a judge at the event for years ... I'd never even went with him) ... I was reluctant but accepted. I saw the selection of the few (I think 3 top winners) out of so many who had perfectly great projects ... I saw from the inside the process and I was so uncomfortable with the entire thing ... made me realize the extent that people are excluded from ever going further in their fields ... just from one simple event that nearly everyone thinks is .... needed???? My, late, husband could never understand why competition bothered me so ... and I could never help him see the harm that came from it ... In one of the replies to a comment below, Jin Kim, points out that lack and competition is in nature, " ... and they are correct and I am watching the TV series showing wild animals in nature ... yes mostly competing for food and water ... and for life ... BUT only when resources are limited ... when a large old elephant died ... the lions allowed every other animal to eat ... alongside them and it was also very cool and interesting to see all those animals (lions, wild dogs, hyenas, vultures, etc ... All of them moved aside and back when another elephant came to morn the lost one.) So .. lack, is shown, even in nature, to be to the true root of competition ... and we have been taught by games that there is lack ... that we must compete ... when in fact we do not. Love & Peace to All

[@RosiesKosmicGarden]

I was just thinking about this yesterday! Thanks for making a video on this!! 💜👽🖖❤

[@patriciakuzmicz4456]

Thank you Teal. I thought of you recently..and admire your courage you bring inspiration & understanding. A growth experience The examples are super to make the point :) Good weekend!

[@karonpowell750]

I love you and your incite on human nature, Teal Swan. It hit home with me. And, I have noticed myself doing this at times, still, and wanting to take it back immediately. I have begun to realize what I had done and follow thru with an explanation of my 'error' when I feel brave. Or maybe it's just being present. I am brave more and more because the energy it creates is not the uncomfortable and damaging energy playing the 'zero sum game'. Wow Teal, I love being me now, thanks to you and all the other teachers who put themselves on You Tube.

[@TheIlluminatedOracle]

Absolutely in all ways... if two people can have a conscious relationship... and hold the highest and best for each other.... developing conscious relationships are essential in this age if people truly wish to experience real love, and develop trust! In all my Akashic counselling, there is typically guidance that asks people to step back from inside the relationship and develop a higher viewpoint to truly SEE each other and the experiences/lessons being learned from a relationship!

[@sovamau1119]

seriously... Teal for president. of the world !

[@osok3338]

Dropping Jem's.. I was feeling this dynamic and decided to just focus on passing through rather than being on top.. 🌊

[@paola_pinna]

This concept has helped me a lot in life.. thank you Teal!

[@CZcomedy]

Just discovered Teal! Watched a few of the videos, caught up on the allegations. My opinion is... I believe her and I think she's here to help. Thank you Teal

[@macoeur1122]

I'd say it's long PAST time to end the zero-sum-game with everything in existence....and yet it seems we're headed in the complete opposite direction. The only hope I can personally see is the possibility that it reaches a breaking point. I don't think "we" (collectively speaking) are capable of grasping the idiocy of it without some ENORMOUS losses.

[@ranirathi3379]

because to END it, we must REALLY CONSCIOUSLY SEE what we've been doing wrong. and that triggers us like nothing else. if anything i've learned from 3yrs now into healing and integrated life, it is that it is NECESSARY for polarities to clash and cause chaos for it to then be resolved. 2020 really brought the zero-sum games to glaring focus.

[@SaminSays]

@@ranirathi3379 agreed, plus if someone is playing a zero sum game with you, they'll suck you dry if you don't play one for your survival. it's a vicious cycle

[@roberthuston7896]

17th HEAVEN 😆.It ain't no fun if we ain't one.Love you all 😆

[@lesjaggard7450]

This video explains so much even though I knew this! spoken in plain language for even the most inept in awareness to understand. With a 13 year old son I'll remember your words ledgered into my mind for his future. Thank you Teal! This will and most likely is groundbreaking for many! MJ x . Hit the likes guys get this out there!

[@osse1n]

The civilisations are built upon this principal. Someone has to lose in order for others to gain. Law of energy conservation - energy is transformed from one state to another. The moment the humanity becomes highly conscious, almost all development will stop in the manner as we know it.

[@TheTrueHolyDarkness]

My economics degree disagrees with you so hard its laughing it you! Hahahahahahahahahahaha.

[@TheTrueHolyDarkness]

The zero sum game is a recognized fallacy in the school of economics. Resources are a product of the human mind. We cannot run out of resources anymore than we can run out of art. For your GDP isn't just what you consume, but what you produce. Your excuse is based on complete economic ignorance and now that I am done laughing at you, you have my pity. The zero sum game is a complete and utter lie. A lie that the ego tells itself so it can justify creating a world of artificial scarcity. No one has to lose. Stop. That. Thinking. When everyone respects the deal, everyone wins. Provided no one INSECURE tries use FORCE TO START WARS because their ego can't respect the art of the deal, NO ONE loses in the economic entity that is capitalist civilization. And capitalism doesn't believe in zero sum. It believes in rising tides that lifts all ships, period. It believes in a world where a "poor" person is still nonetheless impervious to the wraiths of nature, with two cars and an internet connection. There is no zero-sum! Go read some Hayek, Ricardo, and Von Mises if you think that Teal is alone in this. She is simply describing something that others have already earned Nobel Prizes banishing ad nauseam.

[@aquagal8645]

Very very common sick pattern in the American society, a pattern you see every time you turn your head, everywhere. People are obsessed every whr trying to prove themselves and others around them, they 'win', someone else lose, when they aren't really. Pure Illusion!! I became aware of this pattern in few months I moved to the US. I have been wondering for years about the best suited term. Thank you Teal Swan for pointing it out. Healings always starts with recognizing. Love and Light💕💕

[@ElijahPerrin80]

I would love to comment but my past is only full of zero sum games and I blame myself for being the loser in it. Now my relationships are simple and mutually beneficial or non existent. I didn't become a better player I closed doors and only opened a few that suited me. Look within and you will find it.

[@GoddessHabits]

This is literally impossible on the planet - we compete with other humans and animals and plants for resources. We have to consume at minimum plants for sustenance, which by your definition is a zero-sum game with plants.

[@joshua___8697]

Fruit 🍉🍇🍒🍑🍋🍐🍍🍌🍎🍊🍓🍅

[@phyliciataylor2054]

Plants reproduce in abundance. Look at plants they create hundreds of seeds and if nurtured right those seeds can create hundred of plants and with create hundreds of seeds. It has the potential to never end.

[@easterntechartists]

applies to countries as well as to individuals.

[@tiihonenpekka5406]

So many things to learn from you ,much love ,thank you.

[@leselle777]

Thank You Teal...This is Light.

[@devonseamoor]

I agree with what you're saying in this video, hearing the term Zero Sum Game for the first time. I wonder how much double bind is part of that game when an equal amount of love and hate is projected on others in a relationship. I remember a double-bind relationship of a once upon a lifetime and this experience is teaching me until this day. I observe immediately when that imprint is triggered and so I can make a new choice. The training of a new muscle. From the past in the present. Knowing the fairy tales I can tell myself, in order to make myself believe in something that is unreal, I've come to the conclusion that a person who is in a survival mode for a longer time, isn't a rational thinking person. Discernment is covered up by anxiety and fear. Today I realized that a dysfunctional family can use rude and abrasive manners, as a means to be in touch and confirm a bonding that knows not of love and respect. but of hurting and pain. In that way, family-life becomes a Perpetuum mobile of dramatic scenes in need of repetition. I witness this in the lower class population of Britain often. Which knows harsh austerity now.

[@arield1991]

I think it's a win/win when I put myself first but open to collaborate (or vice versa the other person puts themself first or both which is best). Is putting my best interest first a zero/sum game? I know that when I do something that I don't want to do for the sake of someone else it creates conflict in me because I can't blame them for a choice that I made (so I usually chose what works for me). It doesn't make sense to me to take someone's best interest as my own if they can't even see what's in their best interest. You're right Teal, it is like talking to a child. Example: Someone's complaining about work to you (they do this almost daily) and you know that it's been 3 hours and you're just hearing the same story told in different ways and you believe it's time to discuss solutions rather continuing to complain is in their best interest but they believe that complaining and being upset is in their best interest. I'm not an enabler whose not going to tell you that I see a problem and when I do people usually get mad no matter how I deliver it. So either way I lose unless I'm dealing with a person who is on my level mentally (aka someone who questions themself, attempts to learn how to understand their emotions and the emotions of others or understand the concept of "I don't know" etc) We're not taught how to feel, think or communicate in school and most parents don't teach you how to either. The root words of government means guide, rule, direct mind or mental but most governments use this to their advantage and not for our best interest. I'm trying to find a place that works with my spirit principles but if I can't find one I'll make it. What I'm saying is that when you vibrate higher you can't take everybody with you.

[@vanessavetter2420]

Finally! I've been waiting for Blakes music! Intro is amazing! Sooo where can I buy his Songs?! Thank you Teal for your words

[@zariahlafleurpowell7028]

Truly gifted by God... I never heard of this before

[@higherselfchronicles]

I am reminded of the battle of Kurukshetra mentioned in the Hindu text of Mahabharata. Both parties lost, even when one party "won".

[@catinheels5551]

Good session Teal, thanks. That is a Big concept.

[@Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

Thank you, Teal. Whoever said that compromise is negative? Compromise can be positive too.

[@taltalit2]

She has a video on that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aHPWgqKan9SEmrM. (Got your bast interest 😉)

[@tuxito]

is a win win not just a lose lose on a higher level, benefitting the immediate relationship but harming those outside of it inadvertently.

[@sanfernvalley619]

Us vs them

[@AnnieeBubble]

nice! could you give some more examples of the difference between a zero sum vs loving solutions to scenarios?

[@Electronicmedium1111]

Thank you as always, Teal! I truly enjoy your information and your insight! You have worked so hard on these video's and giving information for many years. We appreciate you! Sending love to you from Arizona ❤

[@D4NC3Rable]

So. I definitely grew up playing "zero sum games" with my mother, but it was always for a good ~reason - she was a single mom and it always had to be her way because she was the only parent, or she was struggling financially, or she didn't have time, or she was too stressed out - everything was always a valid reason for why it had to be her way. It wasn't like a choice like this video describes, where someone's being mean just to be mean or whatever. I really feel like my mom loved me but also didn't make great choices and so she could never really provide for us properly and it cramped her ability to provide, and that trickled down into me just having to do whatever she decided - often just because she was stressed. Except over time this emerged as a pattern and finally I decided she did have a choice, she just always chooses the thing that will continue her life cycle of pain and poverty. Right now I'm not speaking to her. I can't even think about it. But I don't think she did any of this malevolently, so it's confusing. I never hear people addressing what poverty forces people to do or not do, the damage it does. Most spiritual teachers act like choices happen independent of circumstances, but what if it was very much tied to very tangible resources, and not just a freely made choice? It's hard to be mad and it's also hard not to be and it's also hard to digest in this wordless way I can't describe.

[@apollofateh324]

Almost exactly the same thing happened with me, except mine started taking out her stress by purposefully making everyone else suffer in the same ways she was. So it was easy to see the reasons for some things, but then, left me wondering if she did have a choice, if she would have done most of what she'd done anyway.

[@davidgustavsson3570]

Trust you and Love you Teal

[@Unikadanceevents]

this really triggered me. just because what you describing no one can or don't really want to do - I donno if it's even possible to have a relationship without zero sum game...

[@veronika9279]

Teal is changing the world!

[@bananamilkshake7066]

teal can you do a video on vanity please?

[@Awakenedmind333]

I touched on these concepts when I was learning about non-violent communication.

[@psychoblackat]

Thank you for all of these videos that you've posted. They've really helped me a lot

[@TheAmal89]

I stopped writing competitive exams for jobs because I am getting the job by making a whole lot of people sad, I am sure that job will make me sad in the long run.

[@bbyplague]

Thanks Teal, another fantastic video & as usual I have to watch it each one at least 4/5 times before I truly understand & know that I'm starting to live by your content. You are so important in my life Teal, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Big hugs from Australia 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺 XXX💖🙏😉✌👌😁👏👏👏👏👏👏😗😗😃

[@pq541]

Thank you Teal Swan! Grateful for your works, blessings!

[@marcusgraham3479]

brilliant bulls eye. best yet. thank you ! so well considered. the hole in the boat, you've found it. more power to you , this is the well. xm

[@karenrhodes5079]

It's an infinite loop. A zero sum game is just life. If everyone understood they are all connected, and everyone agreed to everyone else's best interests (which then suggests that you know what I know, and I know what you know). We'd quite literally have no reason, nor need to exist. We'd simply be. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't need to talk to each other, because you already know what I'm going to say, and you mutually agree with me, so I don't need to convince you of my point (which would be a zero sum game anyway). You then don't need to work, because we all mutually agree to each other's needs, and capacity to contribute. Wouldn't need to eat, because of the same reasons. Why go out at all, and so on, and so on. Until the point we then return to our true selves, and are just pools of pure interconnected energy, existing in a pure state of everything and nothing, all at once, always (and never). Yeah, we got bored of that existence, and instead created layer upon layer of zero sum game upon zero sum game, that resulted in everything you see here. Is it pointless? Yes, it absolutely is... But it beats floating around in pure nothing, never talking or doing anything. Because to do anything, you have to play a zero sum game. Yes, moving in any way, thinking etc, is a zero sum game (just on a whole other level). So the fact is, you agreed to every single zero sum game, fully aware (and yet unknowingly) of that agreement. And if you didn't, you were still involved in that zero sum game, and lost, which is why you're here... Playing a zero sum game. Confused yet? Just go with it. If you try fighting it, it'll go on infinitely, until someone gives up. Therefore we'd both win, but both lose, at the same time. The better question is. How do you get out of infinity? Pretty sure 42 isn't the answer. At least, that's what I drew from this video.

[@asmrindawoodsasmrindawoods8555]

glad i dont have to feel bad about buying stocks. Its just another zero sum game. But i need the money thoug. thanks for your input bro

[@GGGGGG-xd8ru]

Zero sum games in sports, and life lead to expansansion.

[@jolienwillowtree2248]

again very insightful. Thank you

[@sebastianwrites]

I agree with much of this... some things I am not sure of. Don''t really agree with the point on 'compromise!' Surely, there is nothing wrong with compromise, perhaps it can even be a good thing... as long as we don't compromise ourselves?

[@Anders01]

Notice that job interviews are generally a zero sum game. Pretty sociopathic, haha.

[@optionstv894]

Master mind teal 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@shareebee2158]

Thank you Teal, you have helped this soul so much.

[@ChristopherR-q2l]

I'm glad I watched this video

[@Aliciamoonrise]

I think my cat is playing zero sum games with me

[@lesaspravka1173]

Makes sense.

[@Koenshakuable]

Thank you. I needed this succinct kernel. You have my gratitude.

[@AlexanderDiFiore]

You’re a beautiful person.

[@shamyshamuswow213]

The message i needed rn

[@angryangel3335]

I love you 💜♾💛

[@Me-by8qi]

This is the essence I got out from the book "How to win friends and influence people"

[@deanna5941]

13:00 mins...... I/Me/ Mine/My !!! Was my Ex's philosophy, HIS Rules ! HE was a Covert Narc & HIS ZERO SUM GAME,,, ended our relationship 🐍

[@claudiaduncan3419]

I am confused.. I thought compromising in a relation ship means finding the best win win solution. How is it 2 different things. As I understand she is saying to compromise is to loose yourself and get hurt, but to find a win win does not do that? How?

[@franks471]

having limited resources is a cause, but that's in nature itself.

[@Noeskate1]

Thanks for showing us, how to dive in this concept and understand it for identify its several ways to appear camouflated, in our paths. Have good weekend !!! :)

[@1steyevisione]

😊 Yes. You Did Th@ 😊 Thank You Teal 😘

[@Elcirculodepoder]

very good

[@jlck325]

Yes.

[@tachaprosamigos]

I'd love to see a conversation between Teal and Jordan B. Petterson on the subject of competition in society.

[@sarah6557]

Thank you so much teal very helpful 2 me and my son 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕🌸🌹🌺🌷🌼🍀🌼🌷🌺🌹🌸

[@gwalker2292]

In the words of the iconic Eartha Kitt "COMPROMISE FOR WHAT" lol

[@Cateret]

Merci

[@bernardbujard9944]

We are playing a zero sum game with nature and Mother Earth. Our national parks were an attempt to create a win-win scenario.

[@emaambition9378]

You are powerful spiritual teacher teal. You always stretch my mind as usual. You are absolutely right wen you said. They just don’t understand what trust is etc. your soul mate is lucky.

[@UnknownUnknown-zj3pz]

She is not lucky nor considerate lucky. Love and harmony on levels is all means.

[@emaambition9378]

Unknown Unknown what are you talking about. I said her romantic partner is lucky. A lot people hear teal but they don’t listen to her deeply. Her knowledge is untouchable.

[@UnknownUnknown-zj3pz]

@@emaambition9378 understandable but life itself as everyone will be lucky.

[@InTheNow2020]

Enjoyed your video Teal. Watch the movie Wall Street and the scene with Michael Douglas explaining "The Zero Sum Game" to Charlie Sheen. "It's a zero sum game pal, there are no winners and there are no losers, the money just merely changes hands".

[@aidandorrian3946]

Insightful ...

[@godjususst.pierre7255]

No love come from the hart when u feel love some wone it cane rip the person a part i love my self 100 hundred persent

[@manufacturedreality8706]

Thank you Teal!

[@iamchannelll]

when one is playing zero sum up game with oneself, how does one , Heal from this?

[@antonella.ahumada]

I love this so much, thank you Teal!❤

[@firestone7198]

As always, wisdom laden words