The Zushi Stalker | The Disturbing Case of Hideto Kodutsumi

Hideto Kodutsumi would bring six years of fear and terror to his ex-girlfriend by relentlessly stalking her online and through Zushi City. Over time his obsession would grow, as would his desire for revenge. And eventually, this would end in tragedy…
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00:00 Intro
01:03 Japan
02:06 Rie Shibata & Hideto Kodutsumi
04:23 Rifts
07:42 A ghost from the past
10:27 Behind bars
11:42 Scheming his revenge, further mistakes
15:17 6th November, 2012
17:11 Aftermath
19:42 Outro
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[@CoffeehouseCrime]

We’re heading back to Japan for this week’s case! Hideto’s stalking happened over a timespan of six years… I can’t even begin to imagine her fear, right through to the very end. What are your thoughts on Hideto Kodutsumi? By the way, I finally figured out how to use my studio lights properly! No more blinding lights while I’m telling you my weekly stories! ☕

[@wooderson6616]

Your channel is amazing from Austin Texas.

[@MsKassandraKotaku]

I'm going to ask for something maybe a little weird...but could you maybe think about changing the titles so they focus on the victims? It almost feels like it immortalises the perps. I notice sometimes you do this and other times you don't. Completely up to you of course, but just thought I would float it. I do love the way you tell these stories!

[@ginashemeth7708]

Amazing here in Central Massachusetts

[@PhoenixLyon]

Is that why you looked so much more comfortable? Adrian, your channel is improving in leaps and bounds! Keep it going, please. Thank you for all your hard work, and the way you end your videos, highlighting changes in law due to the crime, disposition of surviving family and what happened to the criminal after the crime is a nice, neat way to tidy things up. ✌😸

[@McSnezzly]

I think you’d be great at covering the case of Lucy Blackman and the problem of murdered foreign girls in Japan as told in the book People Who Eat Darkness

[@ZombieSazza]

I always HATE how those being stalked are told to start their lives anew, they’ve to change their job, address, phone number, email address, name, move to another town, it’s like those being stalked are being punished instead of the stalker, who gets to continue their life

[@nicoperry2784]

thats all due to the way we handle crime. can't punish the criminal until he does the crime. no government wants to waste resources on a person that may or may not do what the potential victim fears.

[@sythiadawn]

I was just going to say the same thing. The system puts all of the responsibility on the victim. They have to save themselves. The don't get any "help" until they're dead. Then the system goes "Oops! Sorry about that!" 😡

[@VanMorgue]

Exactly. I had to do exactly this ten years ago. I moved, switched jobs, got new numbers, emails, a different car and plates, and changed my name. I deleted and had to get deleted (meaning: had to contact old forums or websites) anything about me online, and had to instruct friends and family to never give any of my information to anyone. The police did nothing, since nothing physical had happened yet. It is completely sickening. The stalker overdosed around 2015, so I feel fine talking about it now.

[@nerium.nerium]

I think the laws need to be changed. The stalker goes to a mental asylum or jail based on the facts of the case. That way, the stalker is punished instead.

[@nicoperry2784]

@@nerium.nerium but for how long? this guy in the video dedicated his entire life to ending hers. he spent years hunting her. so if you put him down for 5 years, even 10. To me it would make no difference, the only thing that kept him clinging to life is the thought of ending hers. Human rights groups would argue that keeping him locked up without a serious crime is inhumane. So many things would go right for him to achieve this disaster.

[@purplestareyes]

The Law absolutely failed her. Giving out her information, only locking him up for a year, uninstalling the cameras and stopping the patrols. Really? Just horrible. May the victim rest in peace

[@jamestarrou3685]

I think the oversight in details during the court proceedings were definitely a big slip up, but I wouldn't put much blame on the police dept. The fact they were willing to even put up CCTV cameras and extra patrol for several months, just for one family, is pretty good. I have a hard time believing police in the US would even do half as much for the same thing.

[@MAnna-tq9hg]

Why why did they give it to him ?! :( like for real!!!! Nobody should have the permission to give any details about anybody just like that! Ugh!! To many mistakes! 🥺 how can you give her address “by accident”?? I am so furious! This was a horribly sad case 🥺🥺

[@VanMorgue]

@@MAnna-tq9hg I think they read it out loud in court

[@gg-ke1gp]

@@jamestarrou3685 Man the Japanese police are known to be extremely incompetent and complacent. There’s a lot out there about how violent criminals in Japan are let off EXTREMELY easily, and the judicial system is so broken that most trials are just for show.

[@sm3296]

Not only that but how could he keep harassing her when he was on probation? He should have gone straight back to prison.

[@jimjohnson6944]

The fact that the husband was compensated $10k for this truly infuriates me. Honestly, a flat-out refusal for any compensation would have been MUCH less insulting. Just wow.

[@azazello1784]

Better than nothing.

[@rioksek8930]

Bruh imagine being like we shall let your wife be killed and hand you 10k as compensation

[@alfnir3019]

@@azazello1784 No, it's still a slap in the face for their shitty justice system.

[@adzreenaziz6255]

When in japan..

[@nthabix]

@@adzreenaziz6255 From Adrian and other research into the Japanese social and justice system, it now makes sense. It was too good to be true. It's like those prestige boarding schools where everything and anything is perfect because it's the culture and everyone is happy that way. Humans are "wild" and are "tamed" by strict restrictions. So if there's no visible restrictions, I suspect that the justice system is mainly about sweeping things under the carpet. Many victims suffer in silence

[@smileplease_91]

When the detective told Hideto Rie's address, I literally gasped out loud. She never stood a chance... Rest in peace, Rie. So many people failed you.

[@taramay8174]

Thats so incompetent

[@grecogreco4]

That is the kind of shitty work the authorities used to do back in the day when stalking wasn't taken seriously. I'm so glad that things improved, but it's a shame that it took a person's death for us to get there. Here in Japan this incident is very famous to this day.

[@yasminxx9329]

Nah its still like this. Usually nothing is done until the stalker tries to hurt you physically. Its bs ​@grecogreco4

[@UnordoxRevs]

The one thing that frustrates me the most about these stalking cases is how much power the stalkers have over their victims, they're practically invincible until they seriously hurt or kill the person they're tormenting. Even in cases like this where the victim does everything right, the stalker is still able to somehow find them because of incompetent people.

[@Min-e5]

Yes.

[@UnordoxRevs]

@@Min-e5 Yes

[@ragingflare123]

The government was so incompetent. How do you leave her address to the stalker and also force them to pay so much for security cameras. Those security cameras could’ve been live saving but “muh capitalism”

[@UnordoxRevs]

@@ragingflare123 If those cameras were still there she might've been able to spot him lurking around and allowed her to react accordingly. I can understand removing the patrols, but uninstalling the cameras just seems so unnecessary, especially when the person who needs them is at risk.

[@merriquelynn866]

@@UnordoxRevs It could have made up for the lack of police security. It could have given evidence he was lurking and skulking about. They could have done something then before she lost her life.

[@joebikeguy6669]

Wait, what! The police could not re-arrest this guy for sending 1000 emails which I would think was a violation of the terms of his probation?

[@pastelfantasy_rika]

Japan is off with punishment and not as strict as the US or UK

[@gg-ke1gp]

Japan’s judicial system is awful. Because the violent crime rate is relatively lower than other developed nations, they let their guard down and the police have become complacent. When an actual violent crime occurs criminals are let off extremely easily (if the cases are even properly investigated at all).

[@mikeevans7381]

This kind of thing happens all the time in every country in the world. How many times have I heard and watched similar cases right here in the USA. It's a sad and tragic story but unfortunately it's not unique to Japan. Great job Coffee House Crime you did this story well. 🤔🇺🇸😔

[@joebikeguy6669]

@@mikeevans7381 You are correct, it is not unique to Japan.

[@Klipschrf35]

@@gg-ke1gp outside of the yakuza that is

[@tiarodri]

as someone who watches a lot of true crime, this is one of the saddest cases I think I've ever heard. she tried so hard, underwent so many preventative measures, and was on a path of happiness...yet she was left unprotected by lazy and neglectful agencies and ultimately, murdered. honestly so heartbreaking.

[@MStarr-dp8fc]

AKA….welcome to America where MOST (NOT ALL) people no longer take pride in their jobs and are basically careless and lazy. Then when things fall through the cracks ending in similar results such as this video.😢

[@sweepingtime]

The most chilling thing about this killer was how patient and methodical he was.

[@dtang4996]

Paranoid & insane

[@AlejandroDeLaRosa05]

Court: “So you’ve been trying to murder your ex for over 3 years already and have made several threats to her online?” Him: “yes” Court: “okay! Here’s her FULL NAME and Address! Just don’t kill her or anything!”

[@Silux_Ray]

About to write something similar. Like did they even try? I know Japan has low crime rates but the number of depressed people is prob the worst in the world. They need to actually look at their own people and try to help them instead of being prejudice against them “just because” they have depression. Obviously it’s doing something to the people

[@captainweekend5276]

@@Silux_Ray Japan is basically like a massive Sandford from Hot Fuzz, the only reason their crime rate is so low is because they deliberately avoid categorizing crimes as crimes in order to have the appearance of being idyllic. Japan looks nice from the outside but knowing how they have some of the worst policing and justice systems in the world I would never live there unless those institutions went under massive reforms.

[@ShadeSlayer1911]

@@captainweekend5276 I mean, isn't Japan still being run by the Yakuza, at least in some form? That in it of itself should speak volumes.

[@ragingflare123]

The Police was so incompetent. How do you give her address to the stalker and also punish the victim by charging them so much for security cameras. Those security cameras could’ve been life-saving but “muh capitalism”

[@TheRationalist.]

@@ShadeSlayer1911 they have been cracking down on the yakuza in the last couple decades. They instituted the yakuza eclusion ordinances. They dont control japan like they used to. I read about it a while back.

[@heysassafras]

So many people failed Rie. Another beautiful life cut tragically short by a person who decided "I can't live without you so you *won't* live without me". Thanks for another great case, Adrian - and in my favorite country nonetheless.

[@frankmarano1118]

More like the classic, "If I cant have you than nobody can!!" Same thing I know lol. But still this one was more on the nose than most, to the point where you'd think it was a movie.. going to prison happily because they were plotting their revenge than after the dead he jumps right off the balcony? Jeez

[@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010]

So don't mix with the dark then 🤷

[@doubletapazh9081]

@@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010 huh?

[@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010]

@@doubletapazh9081 The light cannot escape the darkness when it tries to leave it immediately is clinged to and chased back because the darkness is death where nothing any good grows that works ☠

[@doubletapazh9081]

@@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010 bro wtf are you talking about

[@mikkoobscura]

Stalking is a huge problem here in Japan unfortunately. I’ve been stalked twice since I moved here 7 years ago. And many of my friends - Japanese and foreign - have stories of being stalked.

[@taramay8174]

Ok so don't go to Japan

[@mikkoobscura]

@@taramay8174 I lived there lmfao

[@saymyname2417]

​@@taramay8174- Really, 🤡?!

[@JayyKemp]

@@mikkoobscurashould have thought about that before being born

[@Lilly-df4qf]

😢

[@hensonlaura]

I've been stalked by a crazy ex since 1987. I'm in a foreign country now, but am still afraid he'll find me. It is so scary to be fixated on by a lunatic. There is nothing you can do but hide and hope.

[@SS-yj2le]

Have you been direct with him? Be direct with him in how you feel about him. Tell him why. If he feels he is entitled to you though rather than that, then make yourself less appealing so he loses interest while at the same time, have a backbone at him. If he tries to me more confrontational, it will be more obvious and you can get rid of him. Be driven and take control of your own life. Don’t let whoever this maniac is control your life.

[@renebleu8711]

@@SS-yj2le No, don’t talk to these people. They cannot be rational.. Only thing you can do is strap up

[@SS-yj2le]

@@avelynn5976 No. I think you have the wrong idea. I am not saying that they should be together. I am saying the way that the whole situation has been handled can be much better. She is letting herself be at the mercy of everyone else. That man despite being separated, has some control of her life with this. That guy clearly still feels something and the ones who have the most drive are the ones who will never give up. She needs to put herself outside of the possibility of being someone or something to be pursued. Otherwise, it will never end as the guy is never going to give up. I also recommend that she probably has some people with her as well for safety reasons.

[@DixtunBabyAngel]

@@SS-yj2le This is a really arrogant suggestion, man. The stalker is CRAZY. Suggesting the woman hasn't done all she possibly can is a real tone-deaf response. Better you had not said anything at all!

[@SS-yj2le]

@@DixtunBabyAngel No. There is a big problem here. The stalker definitely had something wrong with him. But, she had issues too. This doesn't even just go for the situation. This could be indicative of how she had been with her family as well. There is a whole picture missing here. She doesn't deserve what happened to her and condolences to her and her family, but I'm not going to pretend that this lady was some kind of saint. Especially when she expressed some issues that are common among worsening mental health breakdown situations like what went on with this guy.

[@RougeOso]

She did everything right. Everything she *could* possibly do. RIP beautiful lady ❤️ Rot Hideto

[@kappa5809]

True. I was actually rooting for it to be a case where the person being stalked survives. But then again, stalkers are often invincible and will stop at nothing. Tbh, I have arrived at the conclusion that even if you play your cards right, death is often unavoidable. It's best to live whatever life you have in the best way possible and I think Rie Hideto lived her short life to the fullest. As goes the quote by J.K. Rowling "“Do not pity the dead. Pity the living, and, above all, those who live without love."

[@KsaThug]

leson to sellf never use your old name

[@SS-yj2le]

Lol. That thing did nothing. It basically made simplistic takes on his life with an incomplete mindset on how to live one’s life. Then said that he should feel better now due to it and his depression is his fault. One of those people who say “just be happy”. It was toxic. Though, that doesn’t mean that he should have killed it. He should have moved on and gotten some real help and get with someone better. Then, he keeps it quiet and away from it since if it figures out he is doing well, then it might try to kill him and possibly his wife. A reverse situation would not be good for it or him.

[@nawaranmw994]

@First Last and reusing her old name

[@UnnoticedKIN]

"What do you think of the Zushi stalker?" I think he was a selfish asshole who should have taken a good look at himself instead of blaming and killing someone who had actually tried to help him but left when she was finally sick of his shit.

[@marcoamazo]

I agree

[@HG-ey6gu]

Same

[@Yvonned2011]

He’s narcissistic

[@HG-ey6gu]

@@Yvonned2011 definitely agree

[@NyxyPixie]

@DYNASTY prevails it can easily be both. When she left because his mental health issues were too much he blamed her instead of getting help.

[@shabberplasm32]

Stalking is just so messed up, especially the ones who are actually going to go through with their threats like he did. Rie Shibata didn't deserve any of this

[@limgm.2551]

I felt clausterophobic listening to this story. The sheer terror Rei must have felt seeing that freak finally catching up to her! Beautiful Rei may rest in peace 😪

[@slinkbradshaw8674]

This was unfortunately a completely preventable and senseless murder. The law needs to do more to protect the victims in these cases

[@AstarionWifey]

Japan won’t tho Since the patriarchy is very strong there Women aren’t taken seriously compared to men

[@latinasawntop]

my aunt who lived in south korea most of her life was stalked 3 years by this guy who they didn't wanna arrest because they had "no proof", but it wasn't that, just like the reply above me says, they don't take women seriously at all in east asia, not anywhere, but it's something else over there to the point where it's so dangerous even going there in the first place as a female.

[@jjj8317]

@@AstarionWifey Relax your wokeness, the issue also happens to man. The problem is that the Japanese legal system is to light with anything that is not murder or drugs. In this channel there is a video of a girl who almost killed her bf, and she got 3.5 YEARS

[@bmdlddakd6256]

@Jjj I know you're A bot account

[@danielhowelli6811]

As a victim of stalking myself (for three years and i'm not sure he actually stopped or just pausing and waiting) i demand better laws to protect victims! I have heard of too many cases with police being negligend and giving the stalker the adress of the victim by accident. Stalking should be punished severly, it inflicts so much fear and stalkers are a serious danger to anyone they encounter.

[@judeedee5402]

I hope you stay safe! Stalking is no joke and not enough is being done for the victims to feel safe. I hope you have people around you that you can trust

[@beaulieuonnp593]

my boyfreind was stalked for 30 years by a man, even turning up at his workplace from US to UK. It is extraordinary how long they can stalk for

[@Paco1337]

Honestly I would probably just kill that person and serve time...Better than serving time under ground forever

[@ShrodingersHat]

I used to date a guy that took 6 years to get him to leave me alone, I whole heartedly agree with your comment. He messed up so much stuff for me, including turning up at my job and he wouldn't interact with me ((I never saw him there because he'd hide)) but he'd then come online and tell me everything I was doing on my shift ://

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Yes stalking is scary and it can get deadly in some cases.

[@mela6885]

This is scary because she took all the "correct" measures to distance herself from him. Some stalkers are so ruthless, that if you slip up once, your life will be over in the blink of an eye. Imagine living on edge like this daily.

[@bokua5684]

As a victim of stalking myself, this was seriously unjust and wrong. The victim did pretty much everything right and still wound up dead. Unbelievable. Stalkers are no joke, at all, and I cant believe that people can be this incompetent 'protecting' someone.

[@sambailey7066]

They charge him for stalking and sending threatening emails, he gets out and does it again and the cops say they can't do anything? Like how did they charge him and put him in jail the first time and there not able to do it again, if anything that should be considered a breach of his probation when he got out and started doing it again.

[@somethinginthenothing]

Because they didn't want to do their job. They could have arrested him for violating probation they just didn't feel like it. It's crazy isn't it :(

[@sambailey7066]

@@somethinginthenothing Yea it's not fair what they did it's complete bs, I feel really bad for the husband, and on top of him losing his wife, it was a slap in the face when all he got was the equivalent to $10,000.

[@ondrejsedlak4935]

@@somethinginthenothing If it's rural or country (Japan) police, they are lazy as fuck. I lived on the outskirts of Osaka where country met the urban areas and the police wouldn't lift a finger for anything short of bloody murder.

[@JoshuaRWorkman]

That's exactly what it was, but those involved tragically didn't see it that way.

[@Matthew-Anthony]

@Ondrej Sedlak What about kidnapping children?

[@Donald909090]

I don't believe he was mad. He was an evil calculating selfish person. If he could not have her, no one would. Plus he took his life because his goal had been met. He never thought of his life moving forward after murdering this young woman.

[@BrianOblivionB]

Both are the same, one is theological in nature and the other is quasi scientific.

[@luizathir13en]

Narcissist*. By calling these types of people "mad" or "crazy" makes it seem like it's a rare condition, but these types of people are more prevalent than we think.

[@BrianOblivionB]

@@luizathir13en that dosen't mean they aren't mad or crazy, they clearly are.

[@nathanfrawley8942]

Maybe if countries took mental illness more seriously crimes like these would be less frequent. Evil is meaningless word that belongs in fairytales not real life.

[@mjustjeanette7026]

The most frightening thing is that it falls to the victim to be ever vigilant. As a friend of mine once said, "To save their life the victim of an abusive domestic partner, a stalker, or an abusive ex must give up their entire life, cutting all threads, because it just takes Aunty A who never believed that charming person was abusive and so blithely hands over contact details." This in the context of escaping stalkers before the internet wherein an entire new set of tools exist to find someone as demonstrated by Hideto's use of data-mining type questions. Sadly, protecting possible abuse victims generally goes into the too hard/too expensive basket. After all not all abusers/stalkers kill... :(

[@YossDillo]

As someone who works in a company that's contracted by the government, the government officials, the employees acting for them, and that one random detective should *absolutely* be held accountable, if not in the court of law then at least in the court of public opinion. Fun fact, at least in my state, they have enough horror stories to use in training to emphasize why you ABSOLUTELY DO NOT give out others info without being able to verify that they're allowed to see it. Maybe your cause is just and we're a bureaucratic obstacle to you getting the info you need. Or. Maybe you're a stalker, an abusive spouse, a spiteful neighbor, or an identity-stealing stranger and we're the one line of defense between you and the info that could let you really hurt your victim. The people involved, in both the private and public sector, really dropped the ball here and an innocent woman who had done everything right to protect herself still paid with her life. I am so angry about this.

[@malaikamahlatsi5373]

This story is very personal to me. I once dated a man who, when I left him, threatened to make my life miserable - and did. I had to open a case against him, almost lost my job after being suspended for a month due to his actions and suffered immense mental torture. Until you've been in a situation where someone is intent on making your life a living hell, you'll never understand how debilitating it can be. RIP Riye Mioshi. You didn't deserve what happened to you 😢

[@Jkd_77]

5 months late but may I ask how are you doing now?

[@SS-yj2le]

I hate her, but do agree that he shouldn’t have wasted his time on her. Should have taken time to get someone better.

[@anonymousreviews6170]

@@SS-yj2le wow you’re so edgy 🙄 he couldn’t get anyone better he was a loser who was obsessed with someone that didn’t want him. How cool 😎 he took the cowards way out after all that!

[@chocobro3198]

@@SS-yj2le I hope you are currently receiving professional help.

[@SS-yj2le]

@@chocobro3198 Why?

[@bunnyb1599]

About his attempted overdose... "His efforts would fortunately be unsuccessful." I'd say it was unfortunate.

[@catatoblob8598]

@KahlosHack I think it's because it isn't good to promote the idea that one should commit suicide even if you think you're a piece of sh*t. Ideally, he should have seeked mental help and learnt to let go of his obsession (even though he was clearly either a narcissist or a sociopath and those disorders are very difficult to treat).

[@happytrouble5561]

I was thinking the exact same thing.

[@randomgrinn]

Really strange thing to say...Its way better that he killed someone else first, and THEN killed himself!

[@LyricalIAm]

@@catatoblob8598 you know folks with those disorders don’t really know they have them

[@catatoblob8598]

@@LyricalIAm if the court or doctors had mandated that he see a therapist, either for the stalking or the suicide idealization, then he might have been diagnosed. But, you're right that he probably wouldn't accept the diagnosis.

[@therealdeal3672]

RIP Rie. When a clear death threat has been made, the police surveillance system should remain in place, unless the party being protected requests it's removal.

[@ragingflare123]

Also apparently the Japanese police punished the victim by having to pay extra for security cameras and patrols than the suspect himself, which only got 1 year probation.

[@solasoul33]

Ali express bullet cameras save yourself and your family no time to do funeral anymore

[@Chocorade]

It's so infuriating how bad this case was handled and Rie's safety overlooked so much...

[@amycorbett4664]

They may as well have given him a leaflet with all of her information on it, as they were that shit with handling her case.

[@0therun1t21]

What he felt for her wasn't love, not even in the beginning. Love doesn't turn someone into a stalker but need to control does.

[@luv2fly745]

He sounds like a malignant narcissist.

[@0therun1t21]

@@luv2fly745 I think so too.

[@pekoeji]

the fact that he felt so entitled to her.. she tried to help him in the beginning and he didn't budge (which is fine, not everyone wants to be helped) and then when she feels like the relationship isn't healthy for her and leaves he suddenly is like 'you don't deserve happiness'? LIKE??? he's such a creep; an actual psychopath cause he was so set on her.. he makes me sick ):

[@TheDramacist]

I got sick of my stalker. So I retaliated by proving I was the one with the power. He once waited me at the gym. But I was already waiting for HIM. He never saw me but I watched him for about 30 mins in his car. He eventually got tired of waiting for me to appear and went in. I went in after and took his gym gear off the machine when he went for more water. I rubbed his shirt and towel in mud outside and tossed it over his car. The stalking stopped

[@Notme811_you]

Lmao.

[@catmoore2443]

I was stalked as well and I got so fed up ,one day I saw him went right up to him and told him ,the next time when he least expect it ill kill him it doesn't matter what time of day it was and I really meant it and I guess the look in my eyes was psychotic as he never contacted me again.

[@hotshot6674]

Today on things that never happened.

[@genoob5843]

@@hotshot6674 always gotta be that one guy smh

[@bigfoot131]

Stalker got stalked 😂 he got the shot end of the stick!

[@Luna-ii4mx]

Stalking is so freaking scary. Ive experienced it myself, although only cyberstalking. But the grip the stalker gets on the victim is frightening. My stalker spread nasty rumours about me, contacted my friends and tried to make them not be friends with me anymore, sending threatening messages to me everywhere, made false accounts to keep track of my movements online, what I was doing, what games I was playing, who I was talking to, what servers im in. I started becoming really paranoid and scared, I was afraid he was going to show up irl because he had my full name (we used to be friends) and since he had my full name he could also find my adresse, I was scared he was going to hurt me or my family, I was scared looking out the window in case he stood there watching me, I was scared everytime it knocked on the door cuz I imagined it was him with a gun or knife. I felt so choked by him, that I became suicidal, because it felt like the only way to escape him was to die. I was horrible scared and felt alone and like I was a prisoner. Police needs to take stalking more seriously, and this was only on the internet so I couldnt really report it either. Luckily he stopped after like abit over 1 year. Ive done my best to remove all traces of me on the internet, my old facebook account, my full real name and my adresse and phone number, but its probably not all gone. This case reawakened me to never give out my full name to anyone on the internet again.

[@hannahriley8085]

I really think they should start teaching this stuff to teenagers in high school, both girls and boys to teach them what a healthy relationship is about and also red flags and danger signals to watch out for in relationships because I swear these types of people seem to work from the same hymm book. All the emotional abuse, making you feel like you can't manage without them, isolating you from family and friends. Gaslighting you so often that even if you know about that they do it so often that you don't know whether your coming or going. Belittling you, critising you, always wanting everything in the relationship to be only their way and Never taking your opinion or wants and needs into consideration. If young women and young men knew what to look out for, so many of them wouldn't fall into these sorts of unhealthy and damaging relationships

[@minac1590]

I mean I agree..but it really should be the parents to give advice like that. Or at least some other like role model...cuz I think in school..you shouldn't really be focused on relationships anyways and that alone is good to instill in children. Like my mom always told me no dating until after college. I should have listened to her lol

[@luizathir13en]

Yes, teach it in schools and teach it early on. Teach about personality disorders, how to protect yourself and set healthy boundaries.

[@luizathir13en]

@@minac1590 How can parents teach about how to spot a healthy vs an abusive relationship when many of them are in abusive and unhealthy relationships themselves and have been for years? How many of these parents have gone to therapy and have learned to better themselves? I don't think so... you need professionals teaching this stuff.

[@minac1590]

@@luizathir13en I mean obviously I don't mean those type of parents. Some people actually learn from their mistakes and would give their children advice when it comes to those things. These are life lessons mostly everyone goes through, you don't really need professionals teaching this stuff? Most people don't listen to others anyways when it comes to abusive relationships. People have to realize for themselves, no one is going do to that for them. You tell a teenager to break up with their bf/gf, do you think they are going to do that? No. People will do whatever they want to do.

[@hannahriley8085]

@@minac1590 I agree, we learn from our own mistakes but if you at least armed with that information prior at least when or if it starts happening in a relationship with them they'd know which red flags to look out for

[@Siile_]

What a terrifying and sad story... Imagine staying violently obsessed with someone for that long when all they did was break up with you. And it's not even like she wasn't careful or aware of her situation, even her husband knew about it and feared this could happen, and eventually it did, like an unstoppable force. This is awful.

[@beaulieuonnp593]

my boyfriend was stalked for 30 years and the male stalker even travelled from the US to the UK to his workplace

[@Siile_]

@@beaulieuonnp593 that's really scary... Recently a woman that I had talked to on a dating app e-mailed me and followed me on IG out of nowhere, making up an absurd reason for how she had found me online when really she googled stuff until she found me (she didn't have my full name so imagine the kind of research she had to do...). That really bothered me, blocked her without a word.

[@LaraNole]

they should have let him die on one of the first two attempts of suicide

[@SS-yj2le]

I feel sorry that that man was stupid enough to obsess over that bitch for 6 years even when she did that favor of leaving him and ensuring her fake life with another guy. If they reject you, they are a waste of space and time. Get a better woman who doesn’t tell you “just be happy”. He actually if he were smarter, could have gotten a better outcome than her.

[@ellie7200]

This isn't related to this specific case but can I just say that I love the way you tell these stories. You never try to dramatise or over-sensationalise anything. Instead, you always make sure to pay your respects to the victim(s) and give us a good picture of what they were like. I love that because it reminds us that these things aren't some crazy stories for our entertainment, they're tragedies that happened to real people. Thank you.

[@keitafoxy7428]

Confidentiality is a huge problem in Australia. For example in hospitals, in the ER, patient’s names get called out-loud, the nurse comes to you and asks you questions about your condition right in front of everyone while you’re waiting to to seen. They need a ticket system and a private room where all this can be done. The doctor should only be calling out a number when she’s ready to see the next patient. It’s the same thing at the pharmacy.

[@atrain84]

I can no longer open a door and hear a chime without thinking “Where is Adrian? I’m about to hear a story!”…

[@iconodule3938]

Pavlov’s coffee shop bell

[@numero480]

She couldn’t hide forever. He should have taken his own life his obsession lasted way too long to not be taken seriously.

[@jazcena]

ikr! but he clearly didn’t want her to be happy, such a messed up case

[@Amanda-wy7yc]

I can’t even fathom what’s going inside a stalkers mind. To mercilessly stalk someone for 6 full years?! Don’t these people ever think to themselves, “What am I doing?? What is wrong with me??” As much as I love crime stories, watching too many at one time makes me really upset. Seeing all these beautiful lives cut short because of selfish people.

[@milkjamjuice]

I’ve had my ex-fiancé stalk me in Japan for about a year and a half (I broke up with him since he was physically and emotionally abusive), and the police did squat. They REALLY need to enforce newer stalking legislation because as things stand now, the enforcement sucks.

[@morgangudger2537]

Once you said he took his life & she was dead I instantly was disgusted by the fact that he felt that he had to take her life because in his mind he was thinking if he wasn’t going to live then neither should she. You can’t get much more selfish than that. I bet he thought that in some sick twisted form of fate that they would be together in death & the afterlife. I feel so sorry for the family & others who have lost their lives this way. It happened to an old friend of mine where her dad killed her mom then took his own life also. Just awful…

[@margaretr5701]

Yes, that thought crossed my mind too. In some twisted way, he felt he'd take her with him.

[@morgangudger2537]

@@djdhsmdjd7128 definitely not…

[@Abcity92]

I’ll bet he’s terribly surprised he’s stuck repenting for his selfish ways and sweet Rie is sleeping in peace. Haha. Sucks for him. And I hope she is!

[@lucyliu77]

I’ve been stalked by an obsessive ex once. It was scary and stressful. Took an emotional toll. I even move four hours away & changed jobs and phone number etc. Was a really low point & I had depression for a few years. He even got thrown into jail for a short while for breaking his restraining order, but that didn’t stop him. I’m glad I survived my ex. Life is good again. I’m glad my ending is not as dire as this young woman, unfortunately I find it hard to trust ppl now.

[@Smasho8000]

If you're in America, buy a gun. Can't be too careful in situations like that.

[@Fractal_blip]

@@Smasho8000 better yet, be careful who you associate with in the future

[@bm-ww8kb]

​@@Fractal_blip you cool if you do the personal screenings for me and pass me back who i can associate with and who i need to drop?

[@yukiefromoz2573]

Being a Japanese raised and living in Australia for most of my life, I'm always interested in cases back in my homeland so cheers for these Adro, keep them coming and keep up the good work. 👍

[@lenasamzelius5530]

I really appreciate your loving way of telling the most horrible stories. You treat the victims and their friends and relatives with the utmost respect. Thank you very much. Please keep telling us these stories!

[@DEADisBEAUTIFUL]

He was the one who decided when to end things in his life. He quit jobs frequently, he found himself easily bored, he was the one in control of when things ended. But, when his girlfriend was the one to end their relationship, he couldn’t handle it. The way he gathered information about her over the years is chilling. It mostly boiled down to luck and lackadaisical identity protection. How he ended up with her address and new last name shows just how careless people were with the protection of her information. This could’ve been prevented in myriad ways, but, sadly, no one other than she and her husband were taking Hideto and his threats seriously. It’s also unfortunate that his mental health struggles were never adequately addressed. It does make you wonder if things might’ve ended differently if he’d gotten help with his depression and suicidal behavior. But, I doubt he would’ve participated in any treatment plan. This is the first time I’ve heard of Hideto, so I cannot say much of anything about him or the situation with any certainty. Regardless, the whole thing is tragic. Especially the fact that her husband lost his wife in the way that he did.

[@dkn1055]

I feel like if someone threatens your life to this degree, it should be legal for you to end that person or put them in jail for a longer period of time like 10 years.

[@LeonardRoberts]

Don't forget to add to the mix he basically was a spoiled brat from childhood through adulthood his parents gave him whatever whenever he wanted it and didn't understand the word no.

[@flynnlivescmd]

I thought you'd enjoy this video because of your name.

[@DEADisBEAUTIFUL]

@@flynnlivescmd My username is a reference to the leaves changing colors in autumn. As the leaves die, they’re beautiful.

[@jasongann8535]

Well said dead

[@MsKassandraKotaku]

I really can't even understand stalkers...3 years of not talking and staying so focused on them? And boy is it infuriating that he was able to get her name and address from an oversight. So terrible. And don't get me started on how stupid restraining orders are. They will never stop a person who needs a restraining order.

[@poelomokgotho8127]

Their minds are strange

[@mrknarf4438]

I do understand them. Three years can be nothing, when you've had no one else in your life. You can cling to a delusion for much, much longer. Letting go of the past isn't easy, especially when a person has no future to look forward to.

[@nicholasquaid1895]

yea gotta watch your thoughts can lead you places . i think about my exs but not obsessive about it. this guy was probably real selfish as well

[@jlmcgill2031]

So sad that, not just this case, but many cases, the authorities failed to protect this woman from a clear and obvious threat.

[@tacoenvy]

I love when you do videos on Japan cases they are always really interesting. We don’t ever hear enough about them and a lot of other Crime KZbinr’s talk about the same old cases over and over again.

[@DeepThought420]

I just can't get enough of Coffee House Crime! Adrian you're an amazing person! The respect you show to the victims is unmatched! Thank you for the awesome content!

[@fabianrodriguez1811]

Thank you for being able to articulate my allure to this channel

[@stephanie5249]

Perfectly said 💛 Couldn’t agree more

[@redwolf4123]

Check out That Chapter and MrBallen too ☺️

[@jonj1163]

Adrian is great, sure. But what crime channel "disrespects the victims". What does that even mean? Do you think Mike with That Chapter is disrespectful because he's always cracking jokes at everyone or what?

[@kevinmiller4371]

@@jonj1163 That actually is pretty disrespectful. I love Mike's channel..but sometimes the joking does bother me.

[@carlderfler5006]

This story crushed my heart!! The dear poor husband is suffering in ways that he doesn't deserve and I pray that will love again?!? I'm praying for him.

[@konseq1537]

What do you mean poor husband? His wife is dead. She is the poor person in this story.

[@ennds4636]

@@konseq1537 nah, she's dead, she doesn't care anymore. The husband is the one who now has to live without her.

[@freudvibes10]

The way you organise all the information, the way you introduce it to us, is very clear, precise and attractive. Great job! I am glad I subscribed to your channel.

[@seyahtan24]

I really hate it when people always use "mental health" as an excuse for these kinds of actions. No mental health issues here. Some people are really just plain evil. That's it.

[@FollowerofJesusChristmySavior]

I don’t think people ‘always’ use mental health as an excuse Mental health is real

[@somethinginthenothing]

Remember everyone, you are not responsible for anyone else's life. You can try to help, but if you are being abused or suffering as a result of their behavior you have every right to leave. Manipulation by threatening self harm is a form of abuse that is very real.

[@24kRobot]

You’re the most respectful KZbinr when it comes to these types of channels and it’s the reason I support. Most make jokes and what not, but you always approach the case in a way that brings light to the crime and pays respect to those lost and left behind. You’re really the best. Thanks so much for sharing.

[@LeonardRoberts]

Mr Ballen is also very good at being sensitive to the victims, their friends and families plus he is a very good story teller. Check out his channel if you haven't already.

[@shrimp1429]

If you want someone who also takes cases seriously I suggest Kendall Rae. She also often works with missing persons and with the family of victims. She also holds donations for lots of companies that protect women and children from situations like this.

[@taylorhoward443]

What a terrible way to live: thinking you’re safe and away from all of that stress and then in random bursts, you get threats and have to live in fear all over again

[@lilliea.5163]

I watch your videos every week and look forward to each and every Monday with you! I love how you always say, "look after each other," at the end of every video, and I've been following your channel for months now. I just wanted to say, that this case is truly heartbreaking, and one of the saddest cases I've ever seen on your channel, but I also wanted to say that you always manage to portray the victims in these horrific cases as such lovely people, and that's something I truly appreciate in true crime videos. I love how you always include lots of pictures of the victims and talk about their hobbies and interests, as it truly helps us all to get to know them better. You truly honor the victims in the best way when you let us know what kind of people they were and what kind of lives that they lived. I love how you cover cases from all over the globe because you've introduced me to so, so many different cases that I've never heard of until seeing your weekly videos. Keep up the awesome work, Adrian!!! I look forward to seeing your merchandise hit online stores! I do hope so very much that you, of course, have a nice coffee cup for me to purchase in the future, so that I can drink my coffee in a special cup while watching. Much love, all the way from Louisiana!!! xoxo

[@gordonwybo898]

They need to be able to lock an offender up at earlier intervals in the process. There will always be leaks of information. Less stalker activity needs to carry heavier penalties for the stalker, to let the victims try to get distance from the stalker online sooner.

[@TheExigency]

I know you can't save everyone but I'm so tired of reading about people coming to the authorities and begging them for help because they are afraid for their lives and they just say they "can't do anything." WHEN THE POLICE WANT SOMETHING DONE, THEY DO IT. They absolutely failed Rie and her husband.

[@Alejojojo6]

Why do you even have police other than to protect the state's citizens, right? If they are unable to do their job, maybe it does mean people should take justice by themselves

[@lissaylissean9940]

@@Alejojojo6 The purpose of police is law enforcement. It is not protection. I will never ever forget the injustice of Castle Rock v Gonzalez. In the United States, a woman with a restraining order against her husband frantically called police dozens of times over the course of one night because he had kidnapped their children. The police dismissed her over and over. The husband showed up at the police station and shot himself in the parking lot. Their children were dead in the back seat. She filed suit against the city, police force and the officers involved, and it was dismissed by the Supreme Court. The police were found to not be responsible because their job is to enforce laws and enforcing a restraining order is not mandatory in Colorado (making restraining orders effectively pointless...). This case codified that the police's duty is not and has never been to protect people. Period. Edit: I just looked it up and I had midremembered that he actually died in a shoot out with police. He had already killed the three girls.

[@baltimorechick2092]

@@lissaylissean9940 their creed is protect AND serve.

[@SS-yj2le]

Rie failed herself too by telling him “just be happy” and failing to be more direct with him earlier on. Though I do hold her death accountable to the killer as he should have moved on to a better woman that isn’t trash like her. He screwed up more than anyone else here. Also yes. The law enforcement were completely in the wrong in the handling with the information and I have no idea how they missed it.

[@trinketeerrine6674]

@@SS-yj2le How do you know she wasn't direct with him or didn't try to help him in any substantial way with his mental health ? The guy was clearly in denial over everything.

[@rachelb.7247]

I’m so glad I found your channel. I’m a huge true crime fan & I like the way you tell people’s stories. 👏🏻 Great job! 👍🏻

[@taotzu1339]

Most stalkers don't think of themselves as stalkers, but more like unrequited soul mates.

[@randomcomment6068]

How can they be soulmates if they're unrequited? Soulmates click when they meet.

[@pantherhealing]

This story is insane…she did everything right!! I had a similar story, but even without moving house or changed anything like her..I only had 1 encounter after 5 years but it wasn’t planned. I know that my ex might be stalking on social media, but idk..This story is very uncomfortable to listen, poor woman…she was so strong to get out and change everything…

[@marmarsmandalas]

The thought of being stalked terrifies me! What is wrong with people?! Another great video Adrian!

[@afrikanrere3344]

The sensitivity you handle these videos with💯 Got nothing but love & respect for ya👍🏿

[@empressmarowynn]

It makes me so appreciative that when my ex became my stalker I was living in a different country. I had to go through so much effort to hide my identity online but it was worth escaping him.

[@amandabourke796]

This is so distressing. I saw an entire documentary about stalking in Japan. It is quite an epidemic. This poor couple did everything they could and the system failed them. Why wasn't he prosecuted for violating his parole when he initially contacted her? I wonder if it's legal in the US and UK for a private detective to find people and then give out their address? It seems like the PI in this case shouldve looked up his name and seen the the legal case before he gave her info out! And that bit shouldn't be legal to give out anyone's info!

[@SiriusAundB]

5:16 "His efforts would fortunately be unsuccessful." Well, that's debatable.

[@louisecoffey9843]

Exactly. If he had succeeded then the girl wouldn't have been murdered.

[@SiriusAundB]

@@louisecoffey9843 Yup, that's exactly what I thought. Also, he succeeded with his initial mission later anyway, so might aswell have succeed right then and there and spared her life.

[@solarose7820]

Adrian said under another similar comment that he doesn’t want to encourage or praise suicide/suicidal thoughts. He wished the stalker would’ve been treated after his first suicide attempt and then cured so that no one had died. However, the reality of Japan (and South Korea btw) regarding mental health is = they don’t want to care. They are in denial and see taking care of it as a “weakness” except there are the ones being weak no treating it and letting their people die, being abused, enslaved, and basically anything besides being a happy and respected citizen/human being. Tragic.

[@flyingcloud2677]

@@solarose7820 as someone living in South Korea I can confirm this to be true, mental health here is not a thing, there are barely any mental health providers and no one goes to mental health even if they truly need it because they think going to mental health is "admiting to society they are crazy, mentally inferior, etc", very sad because I needed a psychologist and could never find one in this country due to how stigmatized mental health is here

[@solarose7820]

@@flyingcloud2677 oh hey! I am really sorry that you couldn’t be properly treated there. It’s just tragic. In this case I always advise people to try and find help online and/or find a young psychologist who’s been to the West. Countries have much more to gain if they acknowledge this very serious health issue. Hope you’re doing good ;) take care ! 화이팅! ㅋㅋㅋ

[@vineo0]

I personally think your channel is one of the best at reviewing cases!! You give an awesome description, and I sometimes just listen to the videos without watching. Thank you for your videos!!

[@chrisbennett6236]

It is no way Rie's or any victims fault but their bright, cheerful and sweet nature attracts the homicidal, because it attracts everyone. R.I.P. Rie May Amaterasu take you where he can never hurt you again.

[@Angel_1394]

I love that you cover all these Japanese cases. You dont see them much and a lot I hadn't even heard of. You're so respectful to all involved and bringing light to the cases.

[@ryostyles9904]

His life could have been so good if he had shown such patience and hardwork in improving his relationship rather than chasing after revenge

[@aguythatthinks7931]

Another TOP quality story from coffee house. Keep it up! The excellent quality and time you put into everything dose not go unnoticed! But man, what a sad sad story......

[@xxqueenxiexx1314]

*I love how this channel talks about cases I've never heard especially from places that aren't usually talked abt with this kind of thing*

[@mememe217]

Damn she did EVERYTHING RIGHT! Moved, changed number, changed jobs, New man!!!!!!!!!! ❤️ 👼

[@ghostshell30]

fatal mistake was that facebook she made and using her own last name on too.

[@djdhsmdjd7128]

Hilarious 😂

[@elliexo8225]

@@djdhsmdjd7128 seek help

[@gingerlilyjena7078]

So frustrating that simple errors can cost someone their lives. Especially when they are trying to follow the letter of the law. It's already harrowing enough to try and prove stalking and be taken seriously. It's sad to think of a stranger finding the murder scene as a small mercy to her husband.

[@djdhsmdjd7128]

Woman. Be quiet!

[@baltimorechick2092]

@@djdhsmdjd7128 seriously?

[@djdhsmdjd7128]

@@avelynn5976 Aren’t you supposed to be somewhere getting SA’d?

[@wibskibs8937]

I used to live in Yokosuka for a few years. This was a couple years after this tragedy, but I used to visit Zushi all the time since it was so close and never once did I hear about this frankly terrifying story. Thank you so much for covering this; may Rie rest in peace ♡

[@cleoharper1842]

Beautifully done, as always! Just like you said I really appreciate your Japan-related content. Thanks so much for all your hard work!

[@megurineluka6883]

This channel can be one of the best true crime channels on KZbin. How much you respect the victims is extremely refreshing. Keep up the great content.

[@raaaamen3421]

Rie was proactive but her life was still taken away. :( The days she and her husband spent worrying instead of living the best of their lives..:(

[@wendylissolo9783]

Love your narration of these events. Thanks for sharing. 👍

[@Kerriangel]

I stumbled across your channel on Sunday as it came up after watching all of Truly Criminal’s videos and looking for a new true crime KZbinr. I’m usually fussy about who I watch but I had subbed within two minutes of the first video. Your work is incredible with a diverse series of cases to study and hear about and I cannot wait to see more from you

[@beckyfarley60]

Advice to me: Walk around with a frown, dress like a bag lady, always take a different way home. But at 62 I don't think I have anything to worry about.

[@staceykersting705]

i pretty much DO all that! At 69, I'm not getting stalked, but guys try to chat me up a LOT! The only thing I have is a good attitude and good posture.

[@MASTEROFEVIL]

That's what you think

[@gaylebynumcardosa7034]

It's not about how you dress or what your facial expression is or what you look like. The victim isn't the one to blame here. I realize that's not what you're trying to say but stalking or any other crime of this nature has zero to do with the way a person looks or dresses. That's a seriously bad stereotype that should never be put out there. The person who commits the crime looks for an opportunity, not a short skirt.

[@dollinterrupted]

That's not how it works. It doesn't matter what you look like, or how you dress, any woman can be a potential target.

[@judewhittaker1200]

When you said you were putting out two videos a week I was expecting the quality to drop, turns out they are just as good as when you were doing 1 time a week. Keep up the good work mate, i apriciat your content a lot !

[@emagolac7896]

This channel and your storytelling goes well with my coffee addiction :') Thank you for sharing all of these stories!

[@JustKeepStrumming]

If that court took this stalker's capabilities seriously, they wouldn't have slipped up at the hearing and released her new name and address. Jesus Christ. They're culpable

[@rawlahiabetes6969]

I was stalked once and it was pretty upsetting. I had to literally ghost the entire world for a several years and change all my contact info.

[@orangesweetness]

I really like your channel! You bring attention to many less know cases. You're always respectful to victims and their loved ones

[@talesofmichele]

Thank you so much for telling her story! This happened around the time we were dealing with a stalker. I was so worried about going to the Japanese police. They talked to the stalker told him to stop telling us not to worry as he was mentally challenged. 2 years later when he started standing outside our apartment building police discovered they talked to the wrong man. We moved away the next school year but it was a very scary time. Hear about this story and other Japanese mishaps made it worse.

[@Iktomithedog]

7 min old. Closest I've been to this amazing story teller.

[@one.2622]

Cringey

[@luvrgrl32]

37 minutes for me 😂

[@TigerR0ll_]

Cringe

[@mrknarf4438]

@@one.2622 Almost stalkey :p

[@toallin5146]

😅

[@CloverCutieASMR]

This one is incredibly sad. She did everything right, and due to the negligence of others, she lost her life. I'm glad they made changes to the law. At the very least, she didn't die in vain. Her sacrifice will help protect other people being stalked in Japan.

[@azazello1784]

She didn't do everything right. She shouldn't have married.

[@ninaakira3]

@@azazello1784 seriously? Are you saying you support the killer?!

[@azazello1784]

@@ninaakira3 No, no not at all... I am saying that knowing how he is, she knew that he will be mad if he found out she is married.

[@alfnir3019]

@@azazello1784 That's dumb reasoning, she lives for herself not the stalker. He should not have been a sick fuck.

[@gabriellanaser2454]

This is absolutely horrific... I don't even have words for how terrible the negligence involving Rei's case even was. That poor woman and her family, it was a loss that could have been avoided.

[@katieweber4623]

Thank you for all you do - love your delivery.

[@sherrialford6038]

How awful that this has to happen. Iv been stalked 2 different times of my life and it is scary. Laws need to change to protect these innocent people. God Bless

[@adzreenaziz6255]

Time to get a gun...

[@scionixx9568]

I don’t think his failed suicide was “fortunate”. Imo I think it would’ve been better if he was successful at his attempt 👍

[@r.t.m.7611]

in hindsight it wasn’t fortunate, but you can’t go out there and advocate for suicide attempts lmao

[@Luna-ii4mx]

I love all your Japan cases, I love Japan in general, and would love to see more videos about it

[@jeanettemcculloch3745]

Thank you Adrian for your intelligent, informative and always respectful presentations, I look forward to seeing you every week......cheers from Victoria Australia

[@kammy6340]

I am so obsessed with This Channel that I rewatch cases all the time and sometimes I'm so excited I forget to comment or anything. Love your channel man. Your respect for all these cases is truly commendable. Edit: This stuff just makes me more happy that I'm not on social media anymore. And men like this makes me scared of getting into a relationship.

[@SaucySprout]

Cases like this get me emotional. That could have been me. I was stalked for 3 years by an ex coworker. I went to the police in my city and they didn't care. When I requested a protection order they denied me and I started sobbing they asked in an irritated tone "why are you crying?" Because I was fucking terrified and the people who are supposed to protect me didn't give a single shit. I had to move cities, jobs, phone numbers, addresses, Facebook before just not partaking in any social media for a solid year or two. I made a snap chat and within 12 hours he found it and posted it on a sexting site with my old address (he looked on our system and found it at work before he was fired). Thank God I didn't live there anymore. The more I rejected him and defended my boundaries the more crazy he got. Not to mention he was married with 3 kids and another on the way. His wife even reached out and asked if he was cheating with me. I told her that he was stalking me and I had 0 interest in him. She got emotional and said she is trying to leave him but he won't let her work and it is hard with the kids and that he very abusive. I did my best to warn her like "if he is going to this extent and threatening me because I'm not interested in him and I'm just a work mate, then imagine what he is capable of doing to someone who leaves him that he thought would never leave. He admitted he can't handle rejection. That's scary. Go to a women's shelter." She didn't take me seriously insistjnh he would never kill her. I worry so much about her and I hope she and the kids are safe distance away from that waste of space. Im lucky he started stalking someone else because it was escalating to the point where he'd show up to my different jobs pretending to be a customer even though he lived in a completely different city. This story could have been me.

[@beaulieuonnp593]

what a horrible and scary story but it is sooo important that you share without providing id et.c My bf was stalked by a man for 30 years...

[@bannedmann4469]

Fun fact; if you're in America. The supreme court has explicitly stated; that the police are not there to protect and serve. That case was brought to them because a man sued the NYPD for standing and watching him be repeatedly stabbed in another train car. It's just you, you need to protect yourself. Get and carry weapons.

[@bannedmann4469]

@@beaulieuonnp593 Rare to hear about male victims. I assume he's gay.

[@SaucySprout]

@@bannedmann4469 don't mansplain survivors and not all men who attracted to men are gay.

[@alieu1731]

@@SaucySprout took you seriously until i read “mansplain” what a joke

[@stevelarson3229]

Thank you for all that you do. Watching your videos is one of my favorite past times. Thanks!!

[@yo2992]

Hearing a rich, privileged man-child threatening someone with, "I demand compensation" sparks an unbridled rage in me...