A 97-Year-Old Philosopher Faces His Own Death

Herbert Fingarette once argued that there was no reason to fear death. At 97, his own mortality began to haunt him, and he had to rethink everything. Read more: www.theatlantic.com/video/ind...
"Being 97" was directed by Andrew Hasse (www.ftrmgc.com). It is part of The Atlantic Selects, an online showcase of short documentaries from independent creators, curated by The Atlantic.
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[@billfarley9167]

I'm now 87 years old. My wife passed several years ago and my children and grandchildren are all grown up, very busy and getting on with life. I'm still fairly mobile and have a circle of old guys as friends. We do community projects by building things like outdoor benches for the local park, wheelchair ramps, bird houses, vegetable garden boxes, fix kids bikes, serve lunch at the local public school, etc. It feels great to give back to the community and regain a sense of worth. I really enjoy the camaraderie with my friends. The Dalai Lama was once asked if he feared death. "No, he replied, I don't fear death, I'm afraid of dying!" And I have to agree with him. One of my friends died in his sleep a few months age. The response from the fellows? "Lucky bastard!" A slow lingering death has to be at the top of the worst things list. I enjoyed Herbert's sudden observation of trees, the wind and birds, etc. This is happening to me as I slowly turn inwards and begin to pay attention to small happenings around me. I'm like a 5 year old, laying on my back in the grass and watching clouds go by, finding faces in the white fluffy stuff; hearing and watching birds and small animals scurrying through the underbrush. And of course the guilt and remorse of suddenly realizing that what I'm doing now, what I'm paying attention to now, is something I should have been doing all my life. I don't know if I'm afraid of death or not. I've thought about it lately and don't have an answer. I really don't want to pass on because I love and enjoy my children and grandchildren so very much. I have regrets about what could have been and realize I won't be around when all the new science and discoveries become a reality. But then I realize what the Buddhists say about ego. Dropping the ego and staying in the moment is the secret of life. Do no harm to ALL living creatures and be kind to others. As you can see, the video of Herbert Fingarette has had an impact on me, so had to put my feelings in print. May all of you stay safe and may all of you have happiness.

[@lightfz]

That's a beautiful comment Bill. Thank you for sharing.

[@Jako1741]

It was very nice reading your comment sir, I am in my 40s and I have seen die some friends much younger than me, and some relatives much older. That was enough for me to realize that the “great moment” can be just behind the corner, and we should be ready. I mean, we should put an effort in enjoying every moment, it is our duty to realize what a miracle life is, and to be in good terms with everything and everybody around us. For reasons which are too long to explain, I am also a firm believer in the afterlife. I am sure there is something unimaginable awaiting for us after we pass away. So keep enjoying and will continue chatting in the other side, God bless you sir.

[@jerrys.1910]

God bless you kind sir. I was thoroughly intrigued reading your genuine, eloquently written, clearly honest thoughts. Perhaps one day we will all find the answers we so crave, whether we are a spiritual person or not. I wish you happiness and health in all your remaining years. Perhaps our 'death' is truly a new beginning.

[@jakewhite8340]

Best of wishes to you Bill!

[@jossbsure]

Thank you for your wisdom. I don't thinks there is a reason in life, a goal to achieve or anything remotely akin. I think the process is the thing, just like taking a walk: the destination is secondary and doesn't mean much. We all go back home in the end.

[@lumbagomason]

"I wish I had argued more online" said nobody ever on his deathbed.

[@Autumn_Forest_]

OMG, great comment!

[@allstarmark12345]

Speak for yourself!

[@jamessunday8915]

It will sooner or later become your own turn!!!

[@howtobeatadrum]

Good One

[@maikelnait4495]

Yeah , one of the great questions: “What’s worth doing?”...

[@b_dog9]

For people wondering, he died November 2, 2018, at the age of 97, in Berkeley, California.

[@SuspiriaX]

isn't that a university ..just kidding RIP

[@jameslewis8690]

THANK YOU

[@pebble312]

@@SuspiriaXIt’s a city in California, the university there is UC Berkeley

[@rachelcharris]

I was actually wondering that was very kind of you to share this update.

[@larisachern2413]

😥😥😥

[@Rollypolly1064]

Seeing an older person cry is the one thing that breaks me man :(

[@squamish4244]

It's the complete opposite of seeing a teenager cry, as usually it's over something we wish we still found heartbreaking, like a two-month relationship ending or whatever. And you know they'll be fine in like a week :D

[@johnhurley6285]

I feel you and everything. at the right moment ours are indifferent other sides of the world, but were both shy and feel pain, my heart to yours. a family member a guardian . at different times we both lost. all we can come too be is us/help shinning moments,/ and learn. it doesn't make it better nor easy/ its our memories that make us relive them and that's all we got

[@totoro9590]

Me too....I'm weeping now and haven't watched the whole video yet 😢😢

[@atune2682]

same bro

[@thefunson8087]

@@johnhurley6285 hello

[@HettiedeKorteDiplomaat]

It’s impossible to explain to young people how it feels to wake up and realize: I’m 97 years old. But my mind is still 45.

[@ruzickaw]

Mind has no age.

[@davidarden4472]

I’m 31 and I understand, I really do empathize with those older then me, I can understand the pain. I’m a feeler and I think about existence so it’s fascinating to hear something like this but it’s also heart breaking.

[@davidarden4472]

@Space Walker happy birthday!! The question is though? Would you really want to?

[@davidarden4472]

@Space Walker honestly no, I’m not scared of it, kind of want to see what life has in store

[@ironmaven1760]

@Space Walker so..im 59. im also afraid of aging. its happening and i cant do fuck all about it. MY min (or mental age) is round about..20 or 25! Im still jamming to Depeche Mode, The Smiths, with some new stuff ive found from my 19 yr old son. And since I Feel younger, and hang out with younger people..i look WAAAY younger. People cant believe my age. So it really IS in your mind to a large degree. Keep your mind in a childlike state my friend. And use sunscreen! ;)

[@andrewofaiur]

"Do not be afraid of getting older for it is a privilege denied to many"

[@kqr5133]

Christian Quiñones you cant think like that christian 🥺

[@andrewm5612]

Christian Quiñones belief is a powerful tool of manifestation do some reflection as to why you believe this to be true and decide if you can change it and if your willing and have a desire to because it’s not out of your hands in most cases unless you have a death wish/people out to get you/terrible sickness etc

[@christianquinones9347]

@@andrewm5612 you can't have a worse illness that what I already have my neuro-oncologist said its gbm currently finishing temodar but it's useless, its still growing and every time the surgeon takes it out...it just comes back faster and stronger

[@jimbosaurusrex4028]

Absolutely

[@franjocupic3241]

How is being old a privilige?

[@DavidPerez-oj2dv]

MY MOM IS 90 SHE IS SLOWING DOWN AND I KNOW THE END IS NEAR SHE IS THE BEST MOM A SON COULD EVER HAVE

[@tpeterson9140]

that means ur blessed. few live to 90.

[@biggreen1456]

give her a hug

[@DavidPerez-oj2dv]

EVERY DAY @@biggreen1456

[@joshyazg2120]

CAPS LOCK IS NEXT TO YOUR "A" KEY

[@legendmaster1989]

@@joshyazg2120 🤓

[@ekva2963]

My great grandma is 97 years old. I had lunch with her today. She still makes food, drives her car to my mom's place, we have long conversations about life together. She is very aware of everything happening in the world. She attributes both her physical and psychological strength to the people around her. She sees my mom every day, there is at least one of my 2 sisters, one of my 2 cousins or me, who are all in our 15 to 25 coming by to eat with her in the week. She lost all her friends, all the family that she grew up with, but she is so grateful to be with us, she loves us all and is a kind person to everybody, this is what preserved her.. that, and a glass of white wine every day as she says. She was born in 1926, just like monroe, and got her first tv to watch the crowning of queen Elisabeth II in 1952.

[@chinto50]

really low class comment. @@fitzfactorfan

[@kawanzaii8698]

@@fitzfactorfanIt’s totally fine to believe in God to help guide your life, find a loving community, or soothe yourself. However, do not be mistaken. God is not real, there is no evidence god is real, and processes (like evolution and the formation of mountains) that have historically been claimed to be the work of god, have been disproven. Nor is there a reason to believe in God “just in case” so that you can get into heaven. The odds of you picking the right god is close to zero.

[@thefunson8087]

Matthew 11 28-30 "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

[@ekva2963]

@@thefunson8087 damn i never Saw all these dumbass religious messages under my comment. What is it with your god seriously ? Finding god is supposed to be a personal journey, some never do and they live perfectly despite that. If god is so perfect and everything is controlled by his will, maybe he thought my great grand ma didnt need him for her time here.

[@serenityjewel]

@@thefunson8087 Be like Jesus. Stop being like Satan. Not once did Jesus ever try to convince people of God by quoting scripture at them because that crap doesn’t work. He knew it then but somehow you don’t know it now. He lead by his life, not his words. It was Satan that tried to convince Jesus to do what Satan wanted by using scripture against Jesus. Stop acting satanic.

[@Rkenichi]

“In my arrogance, I thought that I could conquer death with logic. But now I know that I only used logic to suppress my fear of death.”

[@naturallaw1733]

you can't conquer death. you just have to accept it. Fear, Anger, Worry, Sadness etc. are just normal emotions we will have because Emotions are an important part of us. but the acceptance of death is not about us. it's just about understanding what Life is all about and being humble in its presence.

[@ghostcityshelton9378]

@@naturallaw1733 Very well said.💖

[@eternityjackson3564]

Truly convert to Jesus (I don't mean a church or organization) and you will no longer be afraid of death. No matter if you are 20 or 102. I know very old people who have experienced this. I myself am old too.

[@ffdv7458]

@@eternityjackson3564 It doesn't matter if it's Jesus, Harry Potter or any other entity, what matters is to fool your brain into believing something. The process gets easier the sicker you are.

[@maxboucher86]

@@ffdv7458 You dont want to believe because you want to keep on living in sin. You supress the truth in unrighteousness.

[@elyasstephens8242]

I think his mental acuity at his age is the most impressive thing

[@1deadhead]

And IF he could still get it up , I'd be even more impressed !!!

[@sirgrotto8714]

Yeah and shit I have so much more respect for old people

[@andrewdubin5530]

looks pretty good physically for 97 too

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

My grandfather's mental clarity was as keen as any sharp and brilliant 30-year-old when he passed at the age of 100. I think he died of a broken heart - his wife passed and then, a few years later (and within just 6 days of each other), his two younger sisters (both in their 80's) passed away. My mum's memory is just as excellent as it was when she was in her 40s, she's 88 now.

[@MrSharkskull]

and have you seen the stability of the hands putting that vinil recording to play? Incredible absence of any tremor neither hesitation in the orientation of the movements. amazing young man!!!!

[@jennyhwang3260]

The grandson did a good job making this documentary. Knowing his grandfather is an accomplished philosopher and author, it is meaningful to record his final days. Touching and a sad sense of peace. True love❤ he missed his life-long companion. “We worked together. Traveled together.” A dignified gentleman and scholar🎉

[@Ibn_Abdulaziz]

Allah سبحانه وتعالى said, وَقَالُوا مَا هِيَ إِلَّا حَيَاتُنَا الدُّنْيَا نَمُوتُ وَنَحْيَا وَمَا يُهْلِكُنَا إِلَّا الدَّهْرُ ۚ وَمَا لَهُم بِذَ‌ٰلِكَ مِنْ عِلْمٍ ۖ إِنْ هُمْ إِلَّا يَظُنُّونَ And they say: "There is nothing but our life of this world, we die and we live and nothing destroys us except time (Ad-Dahr)." And they have no knowledge of it: they only conjecture. [Al-Jaathiyah 45:24] أَوَلَمْ يَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضَ وَلَمْ يَعْيَ بِخَلْقِهِنَّ بِقَادِرٍ عَلَىٰ أَن يُحْيِيَ الْمَوْتَىٰ ۚ بَلَىٰ إِنَّهُ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ Do they not see that Allah who created the heavens and the earth, and was not wearied by their creation, is Able to give life to the dead? Yes, He surely is Able to do all things. [Al-Ahqaaf 46:33] قَدْ عَلِمْنَا مَا تَنقُصُ الْأَرْضُ مِنْهُمْ ۖ وَعِندَنَا كِتَابٌ حَفِيظٌ We know that which the earth takes of them (their dead bodies), and with Us is a Book preserved (i.e. the Book of Decrees). [Qaf 50:4]

[@kimshaw-williams]

Yep. Exactly my reaction.

[@sleepingforest8797]

I’m 32, saved this video years ago and it popped back up on my feed. Watch it again. This time I immediately went out and bought his two books. I’m honored to house them on my bookshelf. I’ll read them over and over for years to come. Rest in peace sir, and thanks for the knowledge.

[@GizaDee]

If you get the time, I'd love to know what you think of them! I considered buying a couple myself but my book-backlog is massive as it is.

[@Cyba_IT]

Which books did you get?

[@ricdavid7476]

me too just bought a couple of his books. i am 70 and have cancer so i am facing death in the face and need all the help i can get

[@gaames]

Thanks to the caregiver here, and to all caregivers, for doing this necessary and decent and underpaid work. You make all the difference.

[@elrey8876]

As a caregiver I agree. I haven't watched it all, but his feet look like they need some more attention.

[@reanimated6]

If you care about getting cared for, pay caregivers as if you actually do.

[@creatorraft9197]

reanimated6 your negativity isn’t welcome here

[@elrico1364]

Its called 'Charity'

[@mistaleesreversespeech7728]

Angels on earth.

[@AnimeT0getherEU]

I was taking care of an old lady, who always forgets that her husband died and starts crying whenever she realizes. I never know what to say but cry with her.

[@oxyrisin]

That had to be horrible to witness.

[@lupebogi]

That's both funny and sad at the same time. And that makes it beautiful. Some of those things that make life beautiful. No matter how bad it looks at a certain point in time.

[@asgermortensen5835]

And I thought I couldn't get any more emotional.

[@deedeemooreco.2304]

AnimeT0getherEU That’s all we can do. Just acknowledging the pain and holding her hands is all you can do, but it’s an an act of empathy and understanding

[@brianj5271]

I’d probably cry with her too tbh

[@fartpooboxohyeah8611]

"Half of me is gone”. Those words hit close to home. I lost my identical twin brother unexpectedly three years ago at 51 yeas old, almost half the age of this lonely man. To say we were close doesn't even remotely tell the story, there are no words to describe us. My heart hurts, from losing my twin brother and for this man..

[@forx88]

I know I'm a stranger on the internet but I'm sorry you lost your brother

[@daveprisbrey8310]

I lost my fraternal twin brother 2 years ago. He died in his sleep, left three young children and a wife. I feel your pain. He and I spoke every day. I feel a part of me is gone too. I feel close to him when I'm doing things for / with his young kids. I know he's close when I'm helping his young family.

[@Stephen_Lafferty]

Herbert Fingarette - Born: 20 January 1921, Brooklyn, New York; Died: 2 November 2018 (age 97 years), Berkeley, California. RIP.

[@jenisemcintyre3839]

Thank you!

[@SunnyDarkoShow]

❤️

[@nixtick4287]

I just love that this video is made by his grandson..

[@oddone1325]

i just love that too. rip. K0 B 3

[@9234mikey]

David no need to be a dick, some people have idols they look up too.

[@maximilianraley2457]

@@9234mikey Well I am quickly learning you don't have the right to have an opinion on the internet unless you accept the hate and animosity it brings. I think it's probably people who are unhappy in their lives, and the horrible things they say to people over the internet is probably what other people have told them in their personal lives.

[@filipserec8856]

@@cuy50 how does mentioning some1 make u an asshole

[@harrystanden8585]

@@cuy50 imagine having empathy for a human beings death, for the death of someone who millions loved, the death of a father, of a son. get a grip.

[@bruceholinight7978]

After coming to terms with cancer and the fact that I'm leaving soon , I've never been so content because there's nothing left to fear !

[@JonaMv01]

What irony! And I'm here being 24 so scared about life. I hope you have a good trip my friend and I hope you accept Jesus as your only savior.

[@Sideeffection]

@@JonaMv01 in the end, even jesus can't save you

[@JonaMv01]

@@Sideeffection Depends on what your philosophy is my friend. Death is in this world but we don't know what's on the other side, no one can really tell that, not even science. And the point of accepting Jesus as your savior doesn't mean he is gonna save you from the physical death but from the spiritual my friend.

[@Jojo6931]

@@JonaMv01 jesus is false like every religion my friend

[@dlorien7306]

@@Jojo6931 that's your best guess, but to think you can really know that is to have a false conceit

[@Mobev1]

In other words…..it doesn’t matter how old you are you never understand death. Always remember that you aren’t the first to die and you’ll be just fine. Remember you are not special, maybe no more special than a leaf that dies. You will be alive again and you may never actually die. I believe we all will be just fine. God put bad people on this earth to give us something to complain about, to fear, to make us stronger and to give us something to do. You didn’t ask for this life, you just came into it. No guilt necessary just do as much as you can today and when you wake up tomorrow repeat! I love you all.

[@MrFireman164]

❤

[@Svijetjeloptasarena]

I love what you wrote❤️thank you

[@leetballerxxxx3564]

As someone who just turned 21, I don't think I ever thought about death or even considered it as a possibility. It never even crossed my mind that I could die or even get old. I mean, I knew that it would happen but it all seemed so far away. Something like this gives you a new perspective on life.

[@sigiloXXX]

Listen to your elders... if you are lucky to have some.

[@adonis0112]

im 25 and its honestly been thinking deeply abt it ahha

[@Zack-xz1ph]

Learn from older people's experience and wisdom while you're young, so you don't have to learn it the hard way

[@Random-es7yo]

Paying attention at the age of 21, you are 30 years ahead of me in figuring that one out. I salute you.

[@tacitozetticci9308]

I'm 23 and it's almost impossible for me to conceive how you could go 21 years like that. I guess you could call yourself lucky.

[@donnawells2442]

My father told me just before he passed”Don’t worry about dying.Dying is easy,Living is hard.I find comfort in that because my father would not lie to me.He said that for a reason.

[@lizannewhitlow1085]

Donna Wells 🙏🏻 My father was my guiding light. I am my father’s daughter now living the life he wanted: minimal socializing, books, magazines, reading, armchair (for me) traveling, current events, 🤭, 📚, 🙈. He taught the 11th commandment: do not bulls**t thy father. God, I miss him.

[@terregales7203]

“Don’t worry about death it’s perfectly safe “. R D

[@ayingchanda]

Immortality is what i want

[@gaurasrspublishing]

@Joe Me The love just clearly emanates from you!

[@ayingchanda]

@Joe Me 😮

[@vincentcastro366]

Being a 17 year old kid seeing this makes me think I've got time, but just like this older man, he too believed he once had time to figure it all out. And yet with 97 years old he didn't even figure himself out.

[@benbauer882]

Yes, I had the same thoughts at you age. Some day, later, there it will be, the insight and the answer to many questions - perhaps suddenly. The parents, the adults, the wise men, they know "it" and I will know "it" as well. 64 now, just got older, more experience, thicker skin so to speak, less excitement (in both directions), a heavier backpack - and that's it. But what I can say is that I do very much appreciate life, the past and the present as for me the answer to what life is about is: Live.

[@hhschrader8067]

Being old myself I smile a little about your comment, "he didn't even figure out himself". He was a philosopher. Figuring things out was his job. Figuring out himself was not just "difficult". It was impossible. It was not necessary. Life can be wonderful. You can find it (almost) everywhere. Like the commentator before me wrote, only thing you need to do: just "live". 😀 Old man's talk, sorry. 😀

[@LucidStew]

You don't have time. It's the other way around.

[@laurawhy8813]

I know he had thought about these meaning of life questions and thought can only take us so far. Seek God in prayer saying what are the answers? Why am i here? Be persistent for those who seek will find. Humbly ask God to show you and when he does you will find the peace that this beautiful man sought and with it you will find joy and frredom!!! God bless you with a long life full of his purposes for you!!! ❤❤❤

[@gypsyduke]

You will do just fine, if you are already thinking about your life! Dream and achieve!

[@JamesBenny]

‘I still want to hang around’ what a lovely soul

[@michel-carolelavallee7062]

This intimate video drew me in like a magnet. My mom passed away recently at 92 and I was wanting to see if I could glimpse some of her last thoughts and feelings. It did but then it also opened up in my 73 year old person fears of future loneliness, incapacity and vulnerability. This then made me think that it is time for me to give service to others who are in need while I still can. For sure this will raise the quality of my life now, something I will be able to contemplate with pride and pleasure when I am 92. Thank you for this touching, human video.

[@PhillyJT]

After 97 years, he is still trying to figure his life out. That says alot.

[@seniorrazr1654]

Osho Phill

[@ones_m1390]

@Jan Dromerda There is an afterlife..Thats why Jesus came

[@GoldAk47]

He recently passed away

[@PhillyJT]

@@GoldAk47 RIP

[@Interestingworld4567]

@@GoldAk47 RIP

[@outsider_in]

"Her absence has been to me, for a number of years now... has been a presence." Only a philosopher could figure out how to express that so accurately in words.

[@vhead612]

He said so much that could only be said by an intellectual, and a realist as he said that he was. Amazing man to have lived his life and still says such inspirational things. What if this is what he needed to do to say goodbye? In his heart of hearts, set the record straight on his life and his philosophies on life? Im so grateful to all the elders and to him for sharing his story.

[@valoer]

69,420 subs with no videos challenge he said that perfectly

[@NU-ph1zx]

Reminds me of a song called Emptiness, Pt. 2 by Mount Eerie and the line "her absence is a scream": "The feeling of being in the mountains Is a dream of self-negation To see the world without us How it churns and blossoms Without anyone looking on It's why I've gone on and on And why I've climbed up alone But actual negation When your person is gone And the bedroom door yawns There is nothing to learn Her absence is a scream Saying nothing Conceptual emptiness was cool to talk about Back before I knew my way around these hospitals I would like to forget and go back into imagining That snow shining permanently Alone could say something to me true and comforting"

[@Anita-tm3bi]

Any one who has lost someone can relate to too easily

[@danielquill]

Yes, what a fascinating way of looking at loss.

[@Robert-ek5ee]

I believe it is important to be "death ready". House that is cleaned of clutter, main floor bedroom and handicap access bath, paper work/trust/will/"play book" completed, living within a short distance to healthcare, and a plan B if you are struck with some horrible illness. Don't leave or be a burden on your kids/family.

[@Ssaidak]

For me to be death ready its being able to enjoy the moment. I have a friend turning 97 this month. She lives alone in a foreign country, she doesnt have children or healthcare, in a big house with a lot of stairs what helps her to being young.

[@user-ud1sd4ic2v]

Just lost my mom to cancer, your grandfathers experience helped me understand there is no understanding sometimes, you just go on with that feeling and questions as you get older. When you lose someone close to you, you naturally what answers, but sometimes there are no answers. Thank you!

[@shlokmishra01]

rest in peace to your mom my grandma as i am 18 now just reading all my elders views on death and how it feels to be old one day got much to learn any lesson if you can suggest me

[@thefunson8087]

@@shlokmishra01 hello

[@justinava1675]

Yeah when i was 11 my dad just lleft on my bday. I rememer him dropping us off from my bday party at my uncle's. I didnt truly process what was going on but. He and my grandma were crying because thatd be the last time they see us. I called him after that for months after and didnt realize id never see him again. No one even explained anything. I would still call him weekly after that but then one day i called him and he was crying and i didnt understand why. And i stopped calling him after than. He had moved across the country to texas with his parents. Away his his kids. No child support paid either. My mom i felt so bad for and i had no realization that i was only focusing on my moms feelings. No one in my family ever asked how I was feeling about the situation. This my first feeling of losing someone. Idk if its the same when they choose to leave you to go have a better life else where.. 😅😅😅

[@thefunson8087]

@@justinava1675 bible

[@jahyamack8359]

The ability to think is both a curse and a blessing at the same time.

[@emperoremyhriv4968]

Perfectly put .

[@ivanberdichevsky5679]

A trade-off, like everything in life.

[@orangesporanges1504]

It really is.

[@bsm1114]

you think for the rest of your life lol

[@jaydesigns1236]

It is.

[@BM-ru7ef]

Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody thinks they will.

[@jjns5600]

Because there IS an aspect of us which does not undergo the fate of the physical body. Once in the physical body, it begins to identify with it, throughout its duration (short or long). When at last it sheds the body, as a moth from a cocoon, a new reality of existence (which is responsible for our sense of eternal life) continues. WE DO NOT DIE AND WE ARE NOT BORN. Another helpful tidbit is that every complete day is a lifetime in microcosm. Waking up in the morning represents being born into this world. The course of our day can be seen as the course of our lifetime in the physical body. Retiring to sleep is tantamount to leaving our body and the physical plane of existence, to enter the realm of astral existence. There IS no death!

[@monke3122]

@@jjns5600 cope

[@qaikodiateo8449]

@@jjns5600 yeah no

[@DudeWatIsThis]

@@jjns5600 Sorry, but at some point, you are going to cease to be. And so will I. The sooner you deal with it, the better.

[@qaikodiateo8449]

@Deus Vult. death has no feeling to it. You can't know death. Please stop.

[@user-hr4mz4tv2h]

It’s great to have old people around, there is a deep meaning in having them around, having opportunity to talk to them and listen their stories and take care of them like we care about children. I think old people and children are the most interesting age groups to talk to. Both groups have wisdom. It’s a blessing to have them.

[@jensjdeklerk]

I’m 18 and I’m still very young, all though I feel old sometimes. I do, though I do unstand that this feeling isn’t the same as being 70 years old. The feeling that I’m trying to express is the change from being very young to young. For the first 16 years of my life, everything was fun and easy. My parents fed me, dressed me, brought me everywhere I needed or wanted to go, I did not have to think about anything in life. Slowly, while in high school I started te learn how to do all those things by myself. Meeting new people, sharing new experiences and developing passion for certain things you enjoy doing. My parents give me the best I could wish for, I’m grateful for them. I was truly happy and have never been hurt. My friends are always there for me, we had fun always and there were never bad times. One day, first thing in the morning at school I heard a good friend of mine died in a accident. Since that moment I know what pain is, I know that it won’t be fun always, I know that the joy and the feeling of “not knowing what pain is so you can’t be afraid of it” exists and could return at any moment. And that feeling, that hurts me. I would love to go back to when I wasn’t aware of any pain. Pain that others have to endure, pain that makes others feel pain or having to endure pain yourself. And now for the first time in my life, I’m starting to love someone other than family. Which is difficult but truly amazing though I’m probably naïve to believe that it will last forever. I do love her though. And she says de loves me. Probably we don’t even know what it means, but I still feel like saying it to her. You can regret things of be afraid of what’s coming towards you. But this video made me realize that you should pause sometimes to question yourself if something has to change to make yourself happier. I’d made me realize to look at that tree.

[@chazlon5061]

18 isn't that young it's a full grown adult

[@hdw5831]

You are very wise beyond your age. Very nice what you write. Raising children has dilemmas. You want to see them grow up as happy as possible, free from misery, while knowing that life is not a fairy tale. Should you tell them that at a young age? My brother ended his life when he was 54 years old. My 15-year-old daughter suffered trauma from this. It was her favorite uncle. Should you prepare a child for such terrible things? I personally think that as a parent you should prepare a child as much as possible for the reality of life in an appropriate way, at the right time and in a gradual manner. Otherwise, the unpreparedness could in itself cause trauma. I'm older now and have time to think about life. I have come to the conclusion that life and its ending are influenced by its beginnings. Education, the childhood phase, is crucial.

[@lightningbrigade4722]

I asked my grandfather if he had any friends? In his old age he was always alone. His answer was "Yes"." I have three friends". The refrigerator, television, and my bed". When he died there were 500 people at his funeral. I miss him so much .

[@petertoh355]

Sometimes I wonder is funeral for the death or for the living? Many relatives and children in my country dont visit their parents or keep in touch regularly.. only until funeral ... they gather.. so what's the meaning of funeral? I wonder..

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@petertoh355 Sad but true Peter.

[@sauviel6296]

@@lightningbrigade4722 yep

[@ruzickaw]

What a poor way of ending your life: refrigerator, television, and my bed. I still am writing and giving speeches and playing tennis.

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@ruzickaw Your absolutely right. You have to keep your brain active. I'm glad your doing just that. Live long and prosper and may 2021 be a much better year.

[@volooooo]

I’ve just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Oddly, this video makes me feel better.

[@MariaHernandez-ju6mw]

Damn that sucks, i hope you make it through 😄

[@LazyEinstein]

Whether you make it through it or not, enjoy each and every day. I wish you the best.

[@virtualgyaru]

Everything must come to an end including me and you and whoever is reading this. We all die. No one is afraid of dying but is afraid of suffering. Take care my friend.

[@mirthaadrianamezacaballero6989]

Take care friend, and I hope you enjoy every day left on your hands! We are all in the same path that´s life, it all ends, but that´s not a bad thing.

[@cwickwitted]

Whether you're still with us today or not, it was nice having you... We hope you enjoyed your stay, and please... Come again.

[@xzysyndrome]

My father died when he was 70. I will always remember him telling me "I look in the mirror and think, 'Who is this old man?' I don't feel old in my head....I still feel the same in my head as I did when I was 20"

[@youdonthavetoreadthispost.5850]

I am now 72 and my most cherished memories are of the conversations that I had with my elderly Grandparents, who weren't all that elderly at the time, but had lived lives of quiet desperation themselves. They are my model for how it is done to this day. If there has been dignity in your life, then there is dignity in your death and the circle of life is complete. As we have accepted life, so must we accept our death, as inevitable and largely without consequence - as simply what Is. Then live wisely as an observer of the lives of others. Equanimity - becomes us - life becomes us - death becomes us -struggling against what "Is" does not become us. Drama does not become us. One challenge will overcome us. Acceptance becomes us. And life departs us. And so it goes for all of us. Be at peace with the facts of life itself.

[@curtisstewart3179]

My wife's grandad was 96. In one of his talks with me he said he loved life, but all his friends were gone. He had family who loved him but no one he could cuss around or share a bawdy joke. He burried all 6 of his sons and two of 6 daughters. Fought in the south pacific during WW2. Grew tomatoes and chillies. Loved baseball and shaved himself every day, including the day he died. Ate lunch, was watching a baseball game on TV and at 4:30 PM when his daughter went to give him a cup of coffee, he was gone. Between when she asked him if he wanted one and preparing it, he left. I always believe he was one of the rare one who died with a satisfied mind.

[@naturallaw1733]

sorry for your loss. sounds like he went in Peace. 🙏

[@robertclarkguitar]

What a way to go. Sad to see burying your own kids.

[@MrConformation]

The path can be lonely the xtra mile. The Xtra mile few travel.

[@apacheslim]

Wow

[@mr.goldfarmer4883]

Sounds to me he played the Game of Life' for so long he got bored and logged out half way through a mission. You know, these are one of the better ways to go~ Bless him.

[@loki1825]

Herbert Fingarette died in 2018. Months after filming this documentary. Rest in peace.

[@danielwhirley6779]

I wondered this RIP OLD BOY GOD BLESS.

[@1flybyguy]

He believed one just ceases to exist when they die. He would have no need for peace.

[@TheRealBigSak]

@@1flybyguy his believe doesn’t mean it’s right

[@luishurtado2170]

@@TheRealBigSak your believe doesn't make it's right either.

[@soldierofzion2986]

@@1flybyguy Well that is the point. Their seems to be some need to say peace. peace would come after conflict. Life is a struggle. peace would come after one finds he was made for a purpose. If one finds out

[@theroadrunner6880]

I think that, regardless of whether you believe you pass on and exist as a soul, or you believe nothing survives after death, or if you have a different belief- regardless, you spent this entire life building this person that you currently are. You had experiences and feelings that cannot ever be replicated in any sense of the word. You cannot become this exact same person with the exact same opinions and experiences no matter how hard you tried. And there is something very beautiful in this. So it's sad that you die, not because death is something to be afraid of, but because you spent your entire existence as this person, only to say goodbye at the end of it all and finish their story. It's the same feeling many people have when they read a good book, nervous that there's only a few chapters left, wondering how it ends and yet not quite ready to read the last line. It's inherently the greed of humans to strive further that also humbles us on our deathbeds. We will always want more, more time, resources, chances.... and that is why we fear death. Not because it's something terrible, but because it's final.

[@OliverHoffmannDesign]

When I was in my twenties, I used to visit a woman who was 102. She was born in 1889, and her clearest memories were from around 1900-1910. She lived alone in the home she had shared with her husband who died almost 50 years before. Ida Gruel told me many fascinating stories, but I quickly realized that living to be very old was not something to aspire to. She had outlived everyone she ever knew, including radio personalities and other contemporaries. She was a time traveler who, like Mr Fingarette, was just waiting to say goodbye.

[@winterramos4527]

Very well put Mr. Hoffman.

[@dejacavu6259]

Bless you for visiting her! I personally look forward to death not old age.

[@KidChardonnay]

Wow that last line hit really hard, must have been a surreal experience conversing with her

[@OliverHoffmannDesign]

@@KidChardonnay It truly was. I still think of her occasionally, and I'm still interested in the stories of much older people.

[@adrianakusieluskus8941]

❣️✨

[@majbrittcastrupjrgensen2874]

My grandmother said: “ every morning I ask the reflection in the mirror, who are you? Yesterday the reflection was a 20 year old woman.....now the reflection is 80 years old, but inside I am still 20 years.”

[@scandiescot3]

My late grandmother said almost exactly the same thing.

[@sakurachan621]

@@scandiescot3 my grandmother said something a little different but with the same context...thats pretty strange, young at heart i suppose...

[@adamcylee]

The soul never grows old.

[@melissawebb7111]

This brought tears to my eyes as I think of my grandmother saying a similar thing

[@majbrittcastrupjrgensen2874]

Melissa Webb I always say, we have to remember ‘’old’’ people are still young at heart and they were also 20 years old once. I never called my parents, grandparents or other people ‘’old’’! They are all gone now and I miss them every day.

[@robertzabick1030]

Humans are the only creatures on earth that are aware of our mortality. It is a difficult thing to live with because we all strive for meaning in life. I am 79 years old, and I still struggle with these questions and fears that have been with me since I was young.

[@stevepayne5965]

"Humans are the only creatures on earth that are aware of our mortality ..." You should have added: "... as far as we know at present." I'd argue that there's already good enough evidence that other, more intelligent animals have an inkling of mortality - other primates, first and foremost.

[@paulmccarthy7461]

He has been blessed with intellect, curiosity, industry. I actually read one of his books long ago without knowing anything much about him. A part of him is gone. Profound his reflection on the absence of his wife being a presence. So very hard to live without one's special person, whether parent, child, or life companion.

[@jakeplummer4483]

I suggest we all befriend an elderly person and help guide them through their final years...we might learn a thing or two.

[@philomath67]

I want to befriend an elderly person so they can guide me.

[@robertdecker4780]

I still remember,back in 1998,when i was 28, or soon turning that age,this elderly fellow walked up to me one day at my grocery store job department, which was in Frozen at that time. He seemed to know who I was and my situation apparently. He just boldly came up to me and told me he was 93 years old,and from there,I just remember him emphasizing to me that it's no good to be single,and yes,I was indeed single at that time,and very conflicted in my personal life, and it's like he sensed these intricate details about me without actually knowing me or what I was about. He didn't seem that age,he seemed more like a very able bodied 78 year old. Obviously he still was with his wife and still thriving with an unusual rarity level of the thing that they call "Quality of Life".

[@franccci]

YES!!

[@ognjenmilanovic7057]

You make it sound so romantic

[@teacherparkshe5722]

Big check!

[@MeColinYouWho]

I remember a few months ago I was 35, now I'm 63. Time pass's faster then I ever imagined.

[@AlA-ok5jh]

You can say that again. Just me posting this comment I aged 5 yrs.

[@katherineg9396]

So true! Once you turn forty, life whizzes by.

[@charliemcintire2487]

I know what you mean Riff. I will be 62 in March, and I am still a kid in many ways. Still rock out on my guitar/s, play shoot em up video games and hope i win the lottery and win the love of a girl half my age. I try to stay fit. Push ups the keep my chest and arms tone, etc... Im told I dont look my age, and I dont, but its starting to catch up with me. Oh well. What are ya gonna do? Right? Just roll with the punches, I guess.

[@foxlight3]

I am nearing 41 and I've gone through a 2 year long battle with this fear of time passing. If your time passes by quickly, it probably means you lived a good life. At least, I hope so. Wishing you well!

[@foxlight3]

@@charliemcintire2487 Lol, so very true.

[@generaluse2878]

He died a few months after completing this film. His work was done and he was ready to go.

[@SuspiriaX]

"His work was done and he was ready to go." yeah right

[@The_Catalyzt]

I'm 37 years young right now. There's a lot to say, and nothing really to say after having watched this. Right now, I can't stop crying. I don't know that means. I guess I wasn't as ready to deal with this as I thought. I know I'm making it a point to call my people, whoever would be glad to call themselves "my" people...and even a few who wouldn't be so proud. I think I will revisit this video later. Maybe I'll be more ready, then, to share my complicated thoughts and emotions about it. For now, at least, life goes on. I can't thank you enough, Mr. Herbert, for sharing the end of yours with us. RIP

[@therupoe]

"I still find that I am, in many ways, a puzzle to myself." That makes me feel a little better about not having all the answers.

[@severianxi6990]

LoL u sure are.

[@theprocrastinator6813]

have a cookie

[@JohnVKaravitis]

I have all the answers. What's your question?

[@cocotaveras8975]

John Karavitis What is the true meaning of love? Is their meaning in life and what is that meaning? Will humans ever go extinct? And if they do go extinct what will be the cause? I have about 20 more questions I'm going to ask you after you answer these.

[@user-hc9zp9wm6h]

There are no answers, nothing is definite about you apart from your lacking of nature and inevitable physical death, everything else is beyond us, there are too many potentials, this moment is all you will ever have.

[@TheMagneticChicken]

there's something both disconcerting and comforting about a 97 year old philosopher with no answer to the question of existence

[@tonypatricelli8408]

There's limited value to over thinking

[@RATsnak3]

Life is meaningless, but since nobody tells you that. You have to figure it out on your own. But people are unwilling to admit that, because it’s disappointing when you’re expecting more. There’s nothing disconcerting about it. If life had a meaning, it would be obvious and blaring. It’s just a coincidence.

[@shaolinshowdown1123]

Jesus is the meaning of life.

[@routeboundexperience6518]

@@RATsnak3 life does have meaning...just that most people live a life, surrounded by "invention" Not "Creation" Creation breathes life. Invention is dead. It only has life by the breathe of man. Life is energy Energy never dies... Life...also, a universal frequency... Most will never know... Rootless...not grounded in life...but in invention. Without knowing...connecting, mind, body , and spirit in universal frequency.... The human is only left with "materialistic" thoughts, questions, hopes and fears within invented constructs of our own doings...

[@routeboundexperience6518]

^^^ Understanding of: "invention"... religion, politics, economics, tv, fashion... "Creation"...Food, Water, Shelter, Family, Community. It's easy to see how each generation has separated from Creation for the deception of invention. Loosing root, in self reliance and self worth.

[@lenoreleitch5297]

What a beautiful, sad, sweet and well-produced film. Such an obvious labor of love and affection - I was not surprised to see it was filmed by Herbert’s grandson. I was, however, surprised to hear Herbert, a philosopher, believed that when we die there is … nothing. And that even the question of “what is the point of life” is, in itself, pointless. Herbert died shortly after this film was made - I hope he then discovered that there was indeed a life beyond and that his pain, infirmities and sadness were replaced by peace, joy and a reunion with his beloved wife. I wish he could tell us. ❤️

[@bigfishtarpon4958]

Enjoy every day of your life, don't hope for an unproven afterlife

[@christian2M]

You have no proof for life after death. Herbert was a philosopher, so he used the logic to answer the great questions of our existence.

[@josku5]

As a young philosopher who thinks quite a lot about these bigger questions, this video was enlightning and soooo great! I love to use philosophy to make myself and others remember about the actually important things in life. Makes you appreciate the smaller things ;)

[@ahmedhamed1092]

“When you were born you were crying and everyone else was smiling. Live your life so at the end, your're the one who is smiling and everyone else is crying.”

[@Happy-Me.]

Amen to that! 🙏🏾

[@tsilveira5866]

That's beautiful.

[@efrem_1167]

After death You go to hell or to heaven! So at the end of your life If you go to heaven you will smile.... Like the Saints... If no, then you won't...

[@danrice1141]

@@efrem_1167 everyone is forgiven, try again, heaven and hell are temporary in the now, that is the way it seems to me

[@efrem_1167]

@@danrice1141 Forgive me, I'm Not a protestant or watever confesion there is out there... I'M AN ORTODOX CHRISTIAN. If You don't know what ortodoxy is, than I will tell you. Ortodoxy is the sure way for going to heaven! We will be saved by faith and by deeds. Nothing complicated! God knows exactly who goes to heaven or not. We should Not judge enybody for anything. Even if we see the bad deeds of others. Do Not judge the person, but his/her actions.

[@andybrown2611]

Life is both meaningless and the most meaningful thing at the same time.

[@greese007]

I'm 80, and astonished to be 80. I had not planned for this. My energy levels are not what they used to be, but things that I previously thought important were actually inconsequential. People are not judging your failures, because they are worrying about how you are judging their own failures. Beyond that small nugget of wisdom, you are on your own.

[@ulvfdfgtmk]

That last sentence made me laugh :D Thanks for the nugget Glen!

[@rodriguezmontes8242]

I am happy for you that you can do all of those things at your age. I hope when I get old I can do things too. God bless you a lot!!!

[@themistersmith]

Remember Allah -- look to Islam for the truth.

[@tellitlikeitis8691]

We can live so much in fear of how other's will see us that we conform to mediocrity so we won't be seen beyond the normal.

[@Ryan-yn1bz]

Honestly, there is nothing to lose for you except the truth. Seek Islam, I only ask you to read about it before its late.

[@johncahill6859]

God bless this wonderful man. He missed his dear wife for sure 😢

[@williamabie4028]

All man will experience death, no one knew when it will be and how it will be. And this old gentleman makes me appreciate things because there will be time that you will not be ever see it again, such as simple thing like seeing falling leaves. Though you're not here anymore and you will be not seeing this message, you're a great man Mr. Herbert. Thank you.

[@zachtomlinson8281]

My neighbor across the hallway is 97 years old. his wife passed away several years ago. He often sits in the building breezeway, looking at the street. not until a couple of months ago did I know he is the reason why all the plants on our floor are alive.

[@madfishinskillz]

Have a talk with him it might really mean a lot

[@hahano4428]

Please sit down and take a talk with him. It would mean the world to him

[@DarrellBubb]

I third this, hope you have checked up on the old man, if not for much, just to say hi. And likewise, I must do my part to those I know in person. Have a good one.

[@coma0232]

I fourth this

[@ochakij]

I fifth this

[@richardrobertson1331]

I found "the point of it all", for me. I'm 75 and have been dealing with cancer for the past twenty years, and have taken the time to question "What's the point?" I have observed almost everyone has inherited a few obvious challenges, and some not so obvious , , , weaknesses such as depression, boarder line personality disorder, bipolar, selfishness, diabetes, tendency to be fat, or a thousand other physical or mental ailments. Everyone! So my challenge, my 'reason for being' is to learn to deal with my personal challenges. No one else has my DNA nor my experiences, and we can all say that. Every day I contemplate what I should do to be a better person in spite of the package I carry. Given my condition, what can I do every day, every hour, to be a positive influence on someone else, lighten their burden, make them smile, teach a skill to a grand child, help an injured animal, whatever. That, for me, is the point of it all. I hope that helps you.

[@tvtitlechampion3238]

The best working definition of enlightenment I've heard is to 'lighten one's load', or burdens. May you have much success in that endeavor, sir.

[@amylee9]

Thank you. I copied your statement so I can remember it and share with others.

[@jadtchrcchn8597]

Thank you sir for sharing your vision of life. I am 21 and I have quite the same vision as yours. I've been dealing with my own issues since many years and it is not really over, but it taught me strength, and hope in myself and other. But the thing I want to learn more than anything is not to be afraid of love. Because I think love is the answer in the world of living.

[@jalalazizi1069]

Bravo sir!

[@badidagher9834]

Inspired to read your comment... Thanks for sharing.

[@arthurmaia8961]

"Find your grandparents or someone of age Pay some respects for the path that they paved To life they were dedicated Now, that should be celebrated" - Joseph, Tyler. "Neon Gravestones"

[@David_Talks.]

He reminds me of a man I worked with for several years. He was 83, had made many millions of dollars in the petroleum business and after selling his company for 7 figures got a job to stay busy. Keith, you touched me in many ways and I grew in wisdom from every day I spent with you and I hope to see you again.

[@vanessajazp6341]

One of the worst curses of aging is a mind that is still “young” in a body that is increasingly deteriorating.

[@TomasPetkevicius94]

So true.😔

[@miguelmarrero3383]

Me

[@riotxx]

nice

[@Sarah.Riedel]

@ my dad had the worst of both worlds - he was an MIT-trained aerospace engineer, a pilot and a flight instructor who developed Parkinson's and dementia secondary to the PD. His slow decline was one of the most traumatic things I've ever had to process.

[@letsomethingshine]

Who decides, but yourself? And the mind so often DOES regress in maturity and thinking capability. They call it the slow death of dementia when the mind dies first before the rest of the body. Hoping to be with loved ones and family when you die, especially the elderly would like to be with the youngest

[@Snazzydaps]

My fiance was killed in a car accident that we were both in on the 18th of December. We met when we were both at our lowest in life. We saved each other, and never even fought. It was this surreal dream of reality. We spent every minute together, and shes gone now. I'm picking off the last of my scabs as I write this. Didnt even get a broken bone. Just glass in my hand and cuts on my legs. I've been trying so hard to understand. But theres nothing to understand. I can relate so well to this man in his loss.

[@lookingforjohnpauljones1937]

I'm so sorry...

[@Snazzydaps]

@@lookingforjohnpauljones1937 I'll get through it, I've been doing some really big stuff to get my mind off and let it vent at the same time. I really appreciate your concern though.

[@karelthiele1178]

Snazzy Daps I’m very sorry for your loss!

[@MountainGyspy]

So sorry. I'd hug you if I could. xo

[@joshmiller9559]

I've had dreams about such great journeys with someone who I can smell, but she is not there when I wake. I would throw everything into an abyss if only I could see her outside the fog of my dreams but I don't think she was ever real. I feel like I am wrong though, especially how warped and twisted reality can get. Good luck finding her again and good luck to her too I guess.

[@christianfunintuscany1147]

This is an amazing movie … thanks for sharing all these memories and ideas from your grandparent who had definitely a very special mind … I will keep his words with me 🙏🏽

[@matz4k]

he knows it now, I'm happy for him

[@Dan-pt2tn]

He knows there's a God now. Hopefully, he's with Him.

[@matz4k]

or maybe not, the easiest answer is not always the right one. @@Dan-pt2tn

[@farishope6540]

You just saw an experience that can teach a stone to think and feel. You see him doubting and regretting his whole mindset but you still want to do it!! my answer will be in Arabic @@matz4k

[@farishope6540]

@@matz4k أَفَلَمْ يَسِيرُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ فَتَكُونَ لَهُمْ قُلُوبٌ يَعْقِلُونَ بِهَا أَوْ آذَانٌ يَسْمَعُونَ بِهَا ۖ فَإِنَّهَا لَا تَعْمَى الْأَبْصَارُ وَلَٰكِن تَعْمَى الْقُلُوبُ الَّتِي فِي الصُّدُورِ

[@farishope6540]

وَضَرَبَ لَنَا مَثَلًا وَنَسِيَ خَلْقَهُ قَالَ مَنْ يُحْيِ الْعِظَامَ وَهِيَ رَمِيمٌ ۝ قُلْ يُحْيِيهَا الَّذِي أَنشَأَهَا أَوَّلَ مَرَّةٍ وَهُوَ بِكُلِّ خَلْقٍ عَلِيمٌ @@matz4k

[@geebeedee9509]

Rest in Peace, Herbert Fingarette. I didn't know he had already died two years ago.

[@nuclearnadal3116]

Wait how did he die two years ago before this video was even made

[@carmenalfred1325]

i could not say he rests in peace, unless he got the answer to the obvious question that bothered him and or accepted it

[@feduntu]

@@nuclearnadal3116 true story, he died in 2018, i suppose this video was uploaded as a "remembrance" to him? I guess...

[@simonhorak]

Rest in peace.

[@CherryBlossomOhka]

I litterally took my hat off just now...Rest in peace.

[@honestlythetruth6664]

That woman helping him is an HCA (home care aid) let's give a round of appreciation to the HCAs in the world helping our elderly. 👏👏👏

[@MohsinExperiments]

That is not the case everywhere in the world. Because not everyone needs it. Here in my country Pakistan we take care of our parents ourselves. I don't mean that HCAs don't deserve appreciation. But my point is that it is different in every culture. For us our religion is most important and it teaches us to take care of our parents.

[@DS-hy6ld]

@@MohsinExperiments It's not that in the West we view caring for our elderly as any less important a religious obligation (those of us who are people of Faith, anyway); it's just that, here, our lifestyle is actually set up _to be an assault on_ our Spiritual nature, its obligations, and its very existence -- and so, we have the sort of changes to the family and the family dynamic, which you allude to here.

[@Scyllax]

I have been helping my terribly ill partner since 2015. She is the ripe old age of 50.

[@solarwind907]

@@Scyllax I wish you and your partner the best.

[@Scyllax]

@@solarwind907 It will never get better.

[@jackchadwick9583]

Watched this a few times over the last few years from the ages of 17-19 as I embark on my journey to be a Philosopher and a young man. Each time is just as touching. Some of these comments bring a tear and smile to my face.

[@sharonscarborough5395]

The point is that you belong with us here in our shared world. Your spirit lifts us all. Thank you for sharing that with us in all the moments you have.

[@MrMakoto2]

I'm not concerned about dying, I'm concerned about not living.

[@indianmilitary]

what is the opposite of living?

[@emilbrandwyne5747]

@@indianmilitary you

[@andretta3099]

Shawn Valverde he is afraid of living a life not is unfulfilling, not truly living

[@xSmuckerZxJelly]

I know thats my problem. These people don't understand its about not living a good life, letting it all go to waste not doing what you always wanted to do not taking enough chances not loving enough not saying what you always wanted to say not doing things and not doing so much more. Life is short don't question the length and sometimes we procrastinate, get stuck in our heads and don't live a full life. The thought of all that is incredibly daunting way more than the thought of death

[@MrMakoto2]

@@xSmuckerZxJelly beautifully said

[@russellb6249]

My grandpa said to me on his death bed: "don't be afraid of dying , be afraid of not living life the best you can. Everyone dies , but not everyone truly lives. " This is all the motivation I've ever needed 🙌

[@shortpics1827]

In Quran, Allah Almighty says: “What! Did you think that We had created you without purpose, and that you would not be brought back to Us? Exalted be Allah, the True King….” (23:115-116) “They say, ‘There is nothing but our present life; we die, and we live, and nothing but time destroys us.’ Of that they have no knowledge; they merely conjecture. And when Our revelations are recited to them, their only argument is that they say, ‘Bring us our father, if you speak truly.’” (45:24-25) “Until, when death comes unto one of them, he says, ‘My Lord, send me back, that I may do right in that which I have left behind!’ But nay! It is but a word that he speaks; and behind them is a barrier until the day when they are raised. And when the Trumpet is blown there will be no kinship among them that day, nor will they ask of another. Then those whose scales are heavy, they are successful. And those whose scales are light are those who lose their soul, in hell abiding, the fire burns their faces and they are glum therein.”(23:99-104)

[@dited358]

@@shortpics1827 Allah also told us the sun sets inside muddy water, and we should torture infidels who counter islam.

[@MsOrganicBlack]

@@dited358 Shut up

[@Krystal_Kitty7]

Amazing ❤️

[@i_observe9846]

@@shortpics1827 The same quran tells us how mohammed was a pedo! LOL!

[@shourya2408]

Thanks for making this video, this video reminded me how precious our life is and how we can appreciate things that we are surrounded of rather than complaining about those things which we don't have.

[@spaghettiking7312]

This is one of the best videos you'll ever see on KZbin.

[@emo7supreme7o]

“Many people have asked what is the meaning of life. That answer is simple. It is whatever happens to prevent one, in any given moment, from killing themselves.” -Albert Camus

[@ChrisWaterguy]

That's really bleak, and it reminds me again to be thankful that I've never struggled with this urge. But then, I've always had a strong sense of purpose, however imperfect I might be at living it out.

[@TorahObservantUnitarian]

Wow. Amazing.

[@clay7182]

Lmao love it

[@minenetoki]

The meaning of life is trying to find meaning for it ^__^

[@namiesnaturals3557]

Its being needed , loved & appreciated but also helpful to man kind. , hard work, & respect. To share!

[@FatheredPuma81]

I'm not sure if it's worse to see someone who's "gone" mentally or to see someone who's all there and trying to come to terms with dying.

[@ummche14]

the caretaker-everywhere at the end of time

[@treasureobsessed]

I can tell you from experience with both that someone who is "gone" mentally was harder for me as a grandchild. I watched my beloved grandparents both pass. My grandfather went first and he lost himself to dementia. I was heartbroken when he forgot me and I still tried to spend time with him and read the same stories he read to me as a child. He tore the pages of the Grimes fairy tales like a toddler would. I watched as if he was tearing out the memories of my childhood. I knew he was gone. Soon he was put in a nursing home. I never went to that place. I couldn't bring myself to see him there, drugged so that he wouldn't wander or be a nuisance. It still breaks my heart to think of him like that. He was a wonderful man. My grandmother outlived him by 6 years and she was sharp as a tack to her very last moments. I got the call that she got an infection that went to her heart, she had a pig valve replacement so the antibiotic won't work, she's too weak to survive surgery, so she only has a few days before she is gone. My entire family came to the hospital jammed in her little room. Each of us took turns talking to her and holding her hand and saying goodbye. I asked her if she was afraid. She told me, No because Jesus had come to her in a dream to take her home & she asked him for just a little more time to stay & say goodbye to all of us. It was always her wish to die surrounded by her loved ones. She was the most honest loving person I ever met, they both were. I think grandpa feared death & so maybe being gone made it easier for him. Grandma always knew that she would go to heaven and would only miss seeing the new babies and weddings, but was not afraid of dying at all. It was just the next step in her existence. She believed that her soul would live on & sometimes in a quiet room when I am alone, I will feel like she is there with me, just visiting & watching over me. I never sense my grandpa, even though I was just as close to him. I don't think he believed and grams said that believing is what gets you there.

[@jamesvalls8530]

Your body may fail but without a mind, it is utterly useless.

[@danielthenatural]

neither are bad at all both are beautiful.

[@cataddict_]

@@ummche14 just thinking about that album makes me feel existential dread and worry for the future

[@darlenealvarezfasolo5522]

Profoundly touching and what a beautiful homage to what seems to have been a bright mind and fine human being. Congratulations to the producers of this video.

[@luisrossetto5247]

God bless you Professor! Very sweet and sad video at the same time. Thanks a lot! The video allowed me to remember my father who died at 87 with infinite tenderness and love. Mom died at 79 and the loss of your wife also made me understand the importance of a beloved mother in life. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@inoutdoor4211]

Seeing him cry, especially over his wife of 70 years is just heart smashing.

[@corysmith3447]

yea hes not a philospher though, most people think those basic type of deep thoughts about death from time to time, sounds corny to call yourself a philospher

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

@@corysmith3447 I think a philosopher would not care about people saying he is not a philosopher. Also you spelled the word wrong.

[@HiddenWen]

These kinds of relationships I feel do not exist anymore.

[@fuzzylogiceire]

@@corysmith3447 He was a professor of Philosophy at an elite university, has a PhD in the subject. I think that's enough to justify calling him that.

[@Matt-zs1vu]

@@fuzzylogiceire exactly. Funny how people think they know so much.

[@captainjacksparrow1518]

The way you treat your elders today. Is the way you will be treated when you are amongst the elders. Respect your elders.

[@perrodehont5109]

@do br I was going to say unless your elder is my late father , Now I do'n't believe in heaven nor hell otherwise I could say I hope he burns. My grown up children respect and love me , i only felt fear and hate . Both feelings are gone long time ago but I will never forget.

[@PeterKnagge]

Respect your friends, respect your enemies, respect your family, respect yourself, respect the planet and mother nature! ok zoomer???

[@rafpac6]

Not really. Because I treat my elders well doesnt mean some on else will looking after me will do the same. No cause and effect.

[@francoantonelli7723]

Oh my word, thank you for sharing this with us…. Deeply touching…. I hope there is more, we somehow squander everything… be at peace friend…

[@namelesschild3724]

we're very aware that you existed in this world herbert fingarette. i will never forget you.

[@MatheusMPL]

The death of oneself is frightening, the death of loved-ones is unbearable

[@TheMagykKonch]

I'm not here tobe edgy or start an argument just my opinion... I respectfully disagree.

[@thurler7cordas]

hard take, vro

[@obiwankenobi2520]

Logan E same

[@true7285]

Accept the lord Jeebus Christ be4 its 2 late

[@dtraindaimyo3377]

@@TheMagykKonch I think it depends on the person and the circumstances. I truly believe most, not all, but most parents would rather experience their own death than a child's.

[@khalaka1160]

Wow, he´s so lucky. 97 and no cancer, parkinson or alzheimer. He can even walk and eat bacon!

[@posysdogovych2065]

But sadly, even with a perfectly sound mind and none of those aliments, he was unable to escape death.

[@snookslayer4559]

"Congratulations... 97 and no cancer, parkinsons or alzheimer.... but you can't dress yourself, can barely move, and look like the walking dead."

[@cachemole]

@@snookslayer4559 He's moving better than a lot of people 25 years younger.

[@cheekycunt4160]

@@snookslayer4559 least he didn't lose his mind like some.

[@donkeyIips]

but hes got a hot chick helping him dress and rubbing him so its all good.

[@herbsewell5302]

My elderly upstairs neighbor just passed away. I really enjoyed talking to him and miss him. It makes me sad thinking about how all of his memories and experiences died with him. Existence is subjective; we all get something different out of it.

[@emiliozampieri6642]

One of the most beautiful things I've ever seen, which has reduced me to tears. Thank you so much for uploading it - and to Mr Fingarette for making it. I used to be a believer, although always torn between faith and rational skepticism. Now I think I can say I'm an atheist, as I find belief totally ungrounded and absurd. To some degree atheism has a liberating effect, but deep down I've been miserable - desperate would probably be more to the point. And I feel that a vital part of myself - I could say my soul, if I believed I have one - has died. I feel I'm not exactly "living", it's closer to existing, albeit a nice enough existence. I can totally relate to Mr Fingarette's conclusion that in no way can we come to terms with our own mortality. We don't want to die, we can't possibly bring ourselves to accept or even understand why we have to die. No explanation, no rationalization works. It's terribly lonely and terrifying. The only feasible way is to stop fighting an exhausting battle we can't win, and give in. Admit we're powerless and surrender. I'm grateful there still are people who have faith and actually believe in their heart of hearts there's a good and loving God who's just waiting for us to be with Him and live an eternal life of bliss. I can't help reckoning it's all wishful thinking - nothing but an illusion - but I find it highly desirable. And I completely understand why there are so many apologists who fight with all their might to defend faith, often clutching at straws and facing (well-deserved) ridicule. They aren't fighting to actually prove anything, as they simply can't; they're only fighting to keep their vital delusion alive. I think they are right in doing so. If Man's end goal is to attain happiness, and knowledge brings you misery, what's the point of searching for the truth, which is, on top of that, unattainable? And yet some people can't help searching. They yearn for knowledge, and I fear there might be a point of no return - when you've learnt too much, there might not be a way to un-learn and go back to believing - you're doomed. I can understand why in the Book of Genesis God forbids Adam and Eve to eat from the Tree of Knowledge - Man hasn't got the strength to bear it. I guess that's why Jesus said the poor in spirit are blessed. Yes, blessed are the poor in spirit. Why do we want to live forever? Maybe because we can't have enough of the love we give and the love we get. We want to love and be loved for eternity.

[@nubl3718]

"It will happen to all of us that one day you'll be tapped on the shoulder and told -- not just that the party's over -- but slightly worse: the party's going on, and you have to leave. That's the reflection, I think, that most upsets people about their demise." -- Christopher Hitchens

[@J.M.-nb4gw]

Funny I have always enjoyed leaving a party, even a fun one...it's just a matter of knowing when to go

[@odeefree6486]

Underrated comment 💯

[@ultraphobic69]

Christopher Hitchens I believe?

[@gwilson420]

@@J.M.-nb4gw just some leave the party too early thinking theres nothing to stay for

[@Neorient]

Hitchens is Ibn Taymiya of West in both pejorative and honorific senses

[@grady4757]

Our elders deserve much attention. Their stories are invaluable.

[@mayaozen487]

Not only because of their stories. - Because of who they are.

[@grady4757]

@@mayaozen487 I absolutely agree.

[@Ezop1959]

Because of their stories and accumulated experience and - I dare say - wisdom accrued throughout their lives. Such very old people as this man can offer a unique perspective of life and its meaning (or lack thereof). They are precious as human beings, their wisdom and experience is their "added value".

[@user-ux9ci4yj5n]

@@Ezop1959 true, no one really better understands life like what the elders do. they speak based on experience.

[@7aydarah]

So, each one of us should take care of his parents.

[@TheTatager]

What a beautiful and enriching experience must've been for both Herbert and his grandson to document these profound conversations about life and its unavoidable end. May we the young learn the wisdom of the old.

[@GaryAlloway-yn7mf]

What a wonderful piece of depth and realness that only one that has gone through such things can even talk about.

[@gloriabermudez4987]

I was with my 97 year old father at the time of his death. He was not sad or lonely. Family and friends never left his side. He passed at home as his wish. He life filled with dignity and great acceptance. No meds. He lived the last few months with laughter and never complained of pain or sorrow. His life was magic, filled with generosity, kindness, love of creating a beautiful environment. Love. His memory guides me thru my time.🦋💙❤️🌺

[@denise2169]

My mom was very much like your dad, and I was lucky to care for her during the last years of her life. We were so lucky, you and I.

[@lisajohnson6351]

As I deal with death on a continuous basis at this time in life, I know how lucky your dad was...most people I don’t think are that lucky.

[@Rhino-ux7yf]

I had 2 grandfathers . Neither of them ever spent any time with me or took me fishing . A ice cream cone , a play at the park , anything ! I always wondered why ..

[@Rhino-ux7yf]

Lee Smith yes sir !! Thank you

[@TREVASLARK]

Lovely.

[@matthewchunk3689]

"I don't know" and "I'm scared" are never answers to be ashamed of. Thank you Herbert Fingarette for a view into a life well lived.

[@williamsouthwad]

Jesus said in John 14 v 6 “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

[@matthewchunk3689]

@@williamsouthwad Whatever gets you thru the night, William.

[@DonStuck]

Bravo, Andrew! Very will done. Godspeed to Herbert. I too am an author of philosophy and would have loved an afternoon to listen to your grandfather's thoughts. The world could use a lot more Herbert.

[@TAMER.GHANIMA]

One of the best video on the internet thank u

[@e-conrecords4665]

Death is a matter of perspective. To a third person, death is the end of one person. To the experiencer, death is the very end of the universe.

[@jpalmz1978]

E-Con Records 👌🏼

[@christianquinones9347]

I pray for death each day and god is finally accepting my demands

[@bluntsessions3577]

It actually maybe the beginning of your next life.

[@indianmilitary]

E-Con Records Only our ego identity dies. Neither our body which is made of energy nor soul can die. What we call age is nothing but energy changing from one form to another. We all are the same divine being (soul/formless divine) having different human experience not the other way round. So, we have to take into account karma or cause and effect (since we are the same divine doing different human roles) and reincarnation (if we have karma or cause and effect).So the purpose of life is to avoid karma or cause and effect. If you were to lead a dharmic (no equivalent word in English) life, then you wouldn't create karma and no reincarnation. Then (soul/formless divine) will get a universal body instead of a small human body called as Moksha

[@e-conrecords4665]

kashsoldier citation needed there, kashsoldier. Majority of your comment is unfalsifiable woo. I think it’s fine for you to believe in that stuff but to present it as real to other people is disingenuous at best.

[@alexisderoode216]

"Her absence has been a presence." So beautifully said.

[@johnflynn7410]

Ah, memory. She'll be with him everyday 'til death.

[@janparish8055]

I loved that too, very eloquent.

[@madonna816]

He truly had me until the rundown of his life’s works. Wishing him all of the empathy he bestowed upon others.

[@Carphoporus]

I don't think you can be afraid being dead. Its the process...the dying itself, that makes me worried. Ive been with people who have died and it seems we suffer both physically and mentally before we go. So we are actually afraid of suffering.

[@dr.g6105]

His willingness to let us see his infirmity, indignities, and grief somehow made him seem more powerful, dignified, and transcendent. I’m glad he did this and I’m glad I spent the time.

[@maxman1060]

bro idk if its because im high as fuck right now but that shit you just said was beautiful.

[@will6176]

Yes, agreed.

[@purriify5090]

@@maxman1060 LMFAOOO

[@motorboomersnz9888]

It just seemed so sad. The pointlessness of life. Never coming to understand what it is about. I'm so thankful as I approach 70 that I have a faith in God. Otherwise it would all seem like him... pointless.....

[@CryptoAddiction]

@@motorboomersnz9888 YOu did well, you reallized there is god, you reallized some one created you, But there is fake version of god, I mean there are msulims there chirsitian, jews, hindus, So how do you decide which path is correct? are you believer by choice? if yes,, Then yo must be clear why you believe... if you ask me..... it's not about blind follwoing.. it's about logic, Wyh i blieve i am right path has logic, a very clear ...

[@cyruskalali8222]

Herbert dies on November 2, 2018. He was such an enduring man. Thanks for putting this on KZbin.

[@honeychildlor]

Thank you Soo much for that clarification

[@Spark-Hole]

How did he die?

[@kalldagreat]

ຮຸ່ງ ພຸ່ງແຣງ heart failure

[@martinfarrell2204]

It is said, that we die 3 times. First, when our heart stops and we are medically dead. Second, some time after the funeral and when all family and friends have gone back to normal. Thirdly, when you are no longer spoken of (not remembered by anyone). So Herbert is certainly remembered and spoken of. I am speaking of him in Ireland today, so in that sense he is still alive (his values and opinions are still with us in this world, that part of him is still alive). If that makes sense.

[@shut0p]

How do you know? :’(

[@teamworktan]

Bravo for the honesty.