38: Dating Rules with Eli Rallo | The BCC Club Podcast

Eli Rallo is an ex-theatre kid turned multidimensional creator, writer, media personality, journalist, and podcast host living in New York City. This week, Sarah and Kendahl sit down with Eli to talk about her new book, "I Didn't Know I Needed This," and what it's like to date men. Wow!
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[@p-h-a-n-t-o-m]

Sarah and Kendahl’s synchronized yeah’s throughout this episode is so funny

[@kristensjuicebox]

I haven't seen Eli before, but I am loving her. Her talking speed is chefs kiss.

[@lindseyhendrix2405]

No kidding! And she enunciates well?! *is jealous in a southern accent* lol

[@dannyshepard9382]

It’s a midwestern thing lol we talk fast

[@tristin197]

I love how Eli fit the vibe of the show so perfectly

[@Randomositysweet]

Thisss I didn’t love the previous guests, vibes were great this episode

[@sydney9011]

Eli comes off as so knowledgeable!! She is so well-versed and confident!

[@berryquiet6497]

"self care is community care" -Eli Rallo really resonated with me as someone who struggles feeling guilty at times for self care, when in reality, it benefits everyone when you take care of yourself. you cannot give if you don't allow yourself to recieve

[@childish5976]

love this conversation, everyone is dialed in for the entire time and I'm living for it. As someone who has a partner who is a theater kid (I am not, and never got into that until I met my partner), I vibing with this so hard T.T

[@chllin22]

I’ve never heard of Eli before but I love her perspectives and the conversations she provoked this was a great episode!

[@novah8906]

“i just hate them u started to describe them and i just got so pissed” LITERALLY MEEE this is why i love sarah

[@kirsten2132]

This is all so incredibly validating, thank god. I didn’t know how to verbalize these feeling about dating and this is perfect ❤

[@malceleste]

sooo true about the therapist analogy, my current therapists are very honest about that using the skills they give you will not cure you or fix you immediately, and might only help just a little bit or not at all, but the point is to try and see what happens. and honestly thats helped me a lot even with them saying that because i feel like it gives me realistic expectations and I don't feel disappointment when things don't work.

[@8infinite8possiblities8]

Eli gives me so much hope for the future. Very intelligent, confident, and well spoken 👏

[@lindseyhendrix2405]

!!!! This truly feels like every conversation my girlfriend and I have with someone else about dating, communication, relationships, whatever. I can’t wait to listen to it again with her! Y’all crushed it, Eli rocks & i can’t wait to check out her content

[@YikesShesBack]

I’m Sarah at the beginning when my friends talk about movies and shows LMAOO

[@428w1tch]

going through a break up for “selfish” reasons. hearing you guys talk about how being intentionally selfish is self care was so great to hear. loved the episode!!

[@waletax]

I love that Kendahl finally got her extensions ✨

[@puumpkenn]

The way I fucking screamed when Scorpio Rising by soccer mommy was mentioned

[@chloehuppe9647]

this episode was so fun, it felt like a girls night in, just asking your friends questions about their dating life

[@BeccaPatches]

1:22:47 Kendahl, please pitch that! I would watch it

[@forrestlarsen]

hey uhh i just want to say thanks because this video helped send a text about clarification. to sarah's point, i have a ton of emotional trauma with abandonment, so when i don't hear from people i immediately go to "they hate me and don't want to hear from me" so the idea of sending follow up texts gives me anxiety. and it's this nasty downward spiral. but like, i'm allowed to ask for clarification while also knowing i need to work on myself. idk i'm like crying right now. also, eli is so well-spoken at 25. i wish i knew what you know when i was 25. thank you all.

[@lilliputianhitcher3808]

my dad is a golfer and will miss anything if it lands on his golfing day. including a wedding. anyways, i’m in therapy for prolonged parental neglect haha

[@nicolelavigna7237]

This is so good!! And also makes me want to give my bf a big hug bc I’m so lucky

[@twiggyink]

absolutely loved this episode!! thank you for introducing us to eli definitely gonna check their stuff out, loved everything they had to say!! :) 💕💕

[@Cashhhhew]

Thanks for introducing me to Eli! I just got out of a long term relationship and it has been rough. I really look forward to reading her essays

[@Randomositysweet]

Slay loved the guest Xx get her on more1!

[@maggiedk]

About calling audio books "reading" or "listening" - I get where Eli is coming from, but holding other people to that would require them to disclose whether or not they have a disability so that we can judge whether it's "valid" for them to say they read a book. Some people have undiagnosed learning disabilities and just know that it's easier for them to comprehend when they listen. When you have to put so many disclaimers on something to avoid possibly hurting/invalidating disabled people, it's best to just let people say what they want. Personally, I have ADHD but I am able to visually read a book, though it can be easier for me to understand/not get distracted when I listen. I've consumed many books through both methods, and if I don't have a physical copy of a book, I often forget if I even visually read it or listened to it. So, yeah, I just say I read it 😅 Eli was a fantastic guest though!!! Just wanted to try to explain that from my point of view 🩷

[@Poohbear5560]

Such a good episode Sarah and Kendahl! You guys always pick the best guests :)

[@erin1912]

I loved this episode!! wasn’t familiar with Eli before this, but I really enjoyed hearing her perspective

[@breeeeeeeee7386]

ahhh this episode is so good!! i love hearing you guys just talk and have fun❤️❤️

[@ingridadames8541]

What a fantastic episode! Such great insights into all types of relationships and giving yourself grace.

[@phoebedrupa2816]

this episode was so incredible, i love this topic

[@Picklemick33]

Oufff I definitely needed to listen this ep❤ love you guys

[@jameswarden5312]

really good guest!

[@joshm.1483]

I thought Eli was wearing a karate uniform for half the video, ngl

[@alyssamango4978]

You can say twink 🧝‍♀️💀

[@oscarkamala]

eli coming for rupaul lol

[@Blue-iv5fv]

On the topic of doing things thinking more about how other people perceive you. I have a question to anyone who can relate. So i am autistic (not diagnosed just very obvious to me now) and i think i don't know how other people perceive me. It adds to my discomfort of being perceived and when doing anything i cannot think of what would they think of me if i do this. it's not like i don't care what they think it's like i don't know at all what they think of me when they look at me. I have been seeing some ND people talk about being perceived and how it is emotionally draining etc but i feel like for me it is a bit different. Like can people gauge or imagine how someone perceives them? Like for the life of me i cannot imagine how i look in my friend's eyes let alone a stranger. and like okay my friend had told me i am cool and she loves to talk to me etc so i have her word... but like i don't know what i look like as a person walking down the street. I don't know if this makes sense at all. but just answer me this if you can, do you know how people around you see you?

[@jadetree]

Eli was a great guest ! Great convo overall. Going to have to disagree slightly with the love is blind reference - yes having disposable plastic isn't great, but Stacy was clearly approaching it from a more classist perspective. I also disagree that Izzy is a nice guy, he genuinely scared me at certain points throughout the show lmao... Johnie and Aaliyah were the best off the season

[@veronicasund8720]

U guys newd to put your names on somewhere so people know its u

[@LemonSte]

The astrology conversation begins me: oh god the lesbians are at it again

[@moyaxoxo5923]

I vote keep her as the third co host tbh

[@nissdalycervantes6665]

i love kendal and sarah but can ya’ll PLEASE have more guests that aren’t white/white passing?

[@emilypalma5763]

Lol my bf doesn’t even do flowers or gifts on special days where do y’all find these menn

[@nicolelavigna7237]

If he wanted to he would babes

[@hollyshepperd]

break up with him!!!!!!! that is the bare minimum i’m being so serious

[@erin1912]

you deserve flowers!!

[@Nikole.19575]

You can only find the good ones by not settling ❤ you can’t choose a partner for their potential, gotta believer what they show you and know you deserve more

[@softkitty2553]

It's definitely wrong to generalise like that about men with dogs being caring. It can be every bit as likely that they love their dog because it worships and idolises them unconditionally and they probably want that in a woman too - it cuts both ways, maybe don't make that one a rule.