Trendy Homemaking: The Feminist Nightmare

[@alexispera]

I’m a 23 year old stay at home mom, I just recently got into sourdough baking (and I’ve been a crocheter and seamstress most of my life and have an Etsy shop), and I find this life so so fulfilling. I trust my husband to be our provider, and I provide for him at home. I’m not against having a job, but I refuse to let a babysitter raise my son, so unless I have to, I’ll be at home being a homemaker.

[@ChildOfTheFlower]

Do you have a tutorial page on crocheting? Been trying to tackle it for a whole as I am attempting to knit my latest blanket

[@BeastlyChowder]

It really works the best for everyone.

[@paulmartin2348]

@@ChildOfTheFlower As a male I did some crochet work more than 40 years ago as a child. I have NO IDEA how to knit as I never learned. (they are very different skill sets)

[@Laurtew]

I love that you know what you want and you are doing it. I'm 53 and my kids are grown, but I was a SAHM. My kids and my marriage were better for it. There is no one more qualified to raise your son than you.

[@apersonontheinternet915]

I really want to be at stay at home mum when I am older and do charity on the side, but I feel so judged by some people for this.

[@meleebrawler6462]

I find it so funny how the same people who say that people should be free to live how they want to live get so mad when people choose to live a more traditional lifestyle.

[@TwilightMysts]

When those people say "Everyone should be free to live the way they want" what is actually meant by "they" is "the crazy far leftist" Everyone should be free to live the life that the leftists want. If your lifestyle doesn't align with the crazy leftists then you aren't allowed to live that way.

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

Maybe it’s bc they know deep down inside that the traditional lifestyle is objectively better than living for oneself above all else, and it makes them feel insecure about their bad decisions when they see other people living life responsibly and properly

[@Demochose]

It goes against their brainwashing agenda. That’s why they’re now targeting kids. Why target the older generation when you can get the new generation. A generation of kids who can’t think for themselves and kids who’re in a difficult stage of life where they’re most vulnerable.

[@MC-ze8wj]

It's even funnier that they're not even original; it's like they're reading from a script. I got all the same comments the model did when I became a SAHM almost 10 years ago.

[@Joe-Przybranowski]

THEY'RE DOING WHAT THEY WANT WRONG!

[@KristinaLJohnson]

People really underestimate how expensive both parents working can be. An ex coworker of mine once left work to be a stay at home because her entire salary was going to child care for her two kids (both under five), cleaning lady and her commute/work costs. To quote her when we talked about it: “we’re already living off my husband’s salary, I’d rather spend my time at home and do it (raising them/cleaning etc) myself.”

[@Grabthar191]

Her kids are likely to be happier and healthier for it.

[@Mimi-74]

That was my reasoning as well. Why would I have children just pay to put them in daycare, pay to commute, and not see my children? I knew I wanted children, but I also wanted to raise them. And I will never regret that choice.

[@meganreese1486]

This!! This is exactly why I stay home. I was not a high earner and wasn't in a career I cared about. We would have spent way more on childcare than I'd have been able to make working. And now, 2 years in, I can't imagine leaving my kids to go work again. Obviously I'd do it if we needed to, but so long as we can make it work on just my husband's income that's what we're doing!

[@PB_324]

It doesn't have to be. I'm a Sahm now but when I worked FT. I was home before both husband and kids. Had a home cooked dinner every night and we packed our lunchs. My clothes were provided by my work. Work is five miles away so I spent very little money on gas.( I mention all of this because I've seen so many make assumptions regarding Working moms spending money on clothes, childcare ,gas, and take out.

[@dariana4247]

They know and justify it with the excuse of climbing up the coorporate ladder and paying their social security. Because soon they will pocket daycare costs. 😒

[@utoobr10]

This isn't a new thing. Marth Stewart faced the same kind of backlash when she started her business back in the '90s.

[@thomasedsall7699]

Isn't Martha Stewart a convicted felon or something? lol

[@tvtvtfan3767]

It’s funny because I consider someone who is corporate

[@Amatureb]

I'm a teenage girl and I'm very academic and career orientated, but it always makes me smile seeing these families. Live and let live

[@KatieHolmes-kz5qm]

It's not a binary. I work as a tech consultant while also keeping a beautiful home for my family. You can have it all; just not at once.

[@lucyb5673]

Literally

[@Spooklilly-Latina4Freedom]

Good attitude. The crazy thing is how is working a career nurturing someone else's business more important than working for/with your family nurturing them!? I've said it b4 and I'll say it again, feminists are Misogynists. They extoll the virtues of & ape masculine traits, seeing that as the pinnacle of success while looking down on feminine traits & disparaging women who choose femininity & nurturing lives. That's the very height of Misogyny. They point their finger at men & call them toxic misogynists when they should point that finger at themselves first.

[@variaxi935]

Thank you for being normal. I'm 28 and many of the chicks I knew who were normal at your age are now angry and alone and consider themselves victims by birth, not by any harm actually done against them. Please don't become the type whose main focus is posting half-clothed selfies everywhere, that's all we ask

[@Amatureb]

@@variaxi935 I can promise you I won't!

[@mandongoose3472]

She literally said "my husband was heading out to get cookies and cream soft serve but i told him i'll just make it for him instead". People hate seeing other people be happy man.

[@EtoCobra]

Replace husband with any woke term for a partner and you won't see the same reaction.

[@NotaGrape_]

Yeah it was like the stay at home wife making cute lunches for husband and everyone saying that he is a manchild and you shouldn’t do it for him

[@mohdnihal8380]

​@@Jaycee979cause she said she would do it. It's not that hard to understand (maybe it is for you)

[@deannewhitney]

I can’t imagine wanting cookies and cream ice cream and having to wait 6 hours for it rather 10 minutes to go down the street 😂

[@johnbel2513]

Looks kinda like that ic3 cream was well worth the wait!

[@ladyjulbug]

Some people really hate that baking is a hobby for other people. They do it because it's fun.

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

I bake because it's literally so fulfilling to offer it to guests and watch them devour it. Like, I did that. They're enjoying what I made, by myself. Sure, going out and buying cookies is fun, but knowing that every bit of what they're enjoying is from me? The biggest serotonin boost EVER. Especially when my husband comes home and the first thing he says is "damn it smells good in here!" I love this little life so much 🥺🥰

[@zaq1337]

Girl, what they really hate is Nara Smith being so perfect. She’s beautiful, they’re not. She has a loving husband, they don’t. She has kids, they don’t. She cooks for her husband, they don’t etc etc lol. They hate seeing a woman have it all in 2024 and being so perfect ❤sad huh

[@ladyjulbug]

@-spacedout--spacebound-7438 it's an art. If you're not having fun with it, you're doing it wrong, because that's the whole point. Whoever decided it's a chore is the real problem in all of this, total lack of creativity in that way of thinking.

[@SRose-vp6ew]

And for some people baking and cooking really isn’t something they enjoy, but it’s part of their job because it saves their family tens of thousands over the years vs more convenient food that would be less healthy heart unbelievably expensive if they wanted it as healthy. They do see it as their job. They love their job, they don’t love that part of their job. Similar to how someone can love their office job, but not enjoy data entry as part of their job.

[@ladyjulbug]

@@SRose-vp6ew I stand by my comment on lacking creativity.

[@jeffreyroedel9804]

Jealousy is the most contagious virus. People will hate on things and come up with all kinds of critiques of something, but at the root of it, behind all the mental gymnastics, is jealousy of someone else's joy and a deep unhappiness with the self.

[@palomine2606]

I agree! They can smother it with verbiage and intellectual analysis, but often the source of the hate is simply insecurity and envy.

[@moon_0207]

Hate does not always come from jealousy tho. I don’t understand why people always think just because people are angry it means they’re jealous. There are other reasons people get angry. I think it’s more hate because they don’t properly understand what they see. They are fed lies from the modern feminists. Feminism painted a bad preconceived notion of what traditional values and traditional wives are like so I think modern women connect traditional women to being a slave to their husband, devaluing yourself, being weak and submissive. I don’t think they are jealous of that (even if it may not be true, THEY think that’s what being traditional is).

[@Mimi-74]

I think you are correct. It seems like they see something admirable and know they cannot attain it, therefore they get nasty and attack.

[@ATFshotmydog]

@@moon_0207 You're 100% correct. A lot of these women are basically reciting what they're told through media and university. Feminism was heavily co-opted by socialists and communists alike during the 20s, similarly to media and universities (I am currently partaking in a University, it is as bad as people say). Instead of fighting for the equality of rights, it moved to fight to be anything that isn't traditional. It's why in this video, you can see a socialist/communist having an issue with women even having the choice of being traditional. A lot of these women are sparsely politically-literate and have been - as you've said - given preconceived notions of what the world is through the lens of a Feminist-Marxist view.

[@ash7237_]

Jealousy is wanting something you can’t have and envy is wanting something so bad that you don’t want ANYONE else to have it because you can’t. That’s what this reminds me of.

[@ava4689]

Oh really? I thought it was the opposite. Envy is wanting something and jealousy is wanting it, and wanting no one else to have it.

[@yesit_slove]

It's the opposite actually. Jealousy is wanting someone's thing for yourself while envy is wanting the same thing someone has for yourself, if that makes sense. Jealousy is wanting your friend Jess' husband while envy is wanting a husband like Jess' for yourself. Envy - you don't want that thing but something like it

[@ava4689]

@@yesit_slove yea. You just said what I said.

[@emma_luce_0623]

Random but bless you, many people don't know the difference.

[@emma_luce_0623]

​@@ava4689it's a common misconception for some reason. There's a reason why envy is one of the seven deadly sins

[@2cornichons]

I'm middle class. I make my own food from scratch every day. If I want a cookie. I make them. If I want ice cream I make it. BTW neither of the cookie nor the ice-cream take more than a half hour to prepare. Baking and cooling take the longest and that's just waiting.

[@Bashbekersjiw]

Can i ask where you can learn tò do It?

[@krystalbernier234]

For myself, I learned to cook and bake from my older female relatives; great grandmother, grandmother, father, mother in law, aunts on my husband's side. Even ladies from church and community groups. I was lucky. For those not as fortunate as I was, my advice would be KZbin videos( Amy Maryon is a good jumping off point. She even has a household skills course available I believe. ), cooking classes or even better, an older lady you respect. If I got the question wrong and you were asking specifically about the ice cream/cookies thing, I think allrecipies has a recipe for the cookies. The ice cream maker she was using in the video is the same my mother in law has, which is a separate attachment for the kitchen aid mixer. I know the recipe is included. I haven't seen the video beyond what Brett showed, but I do know you have freeze the bowl before making the ice cream.

[@phijona]

Do you film yourself baking in full makeup gowns while narrating ASMR style, and looking like you rarely actually cook and have very little cooking experience, only to then spend hours editing your videos?

[@carlac33]

Haha I heard a dietician once say, "You can still have your desserts, but you have to make them entirely from scratch." Keeps you healthy. 😂 (I'm gluten, soy and dairy free so pretty much my only option anyway, sooo we might have banana bread once a month.)

[@pattyhansen7563]

@@phijona I DO wear dresses & full makeup everyday, film myself making things to txt my newbie sahm mom next door so she can learn how to roast a chicken or season her cast iron or grow bean sprouts. I don't have a particularly pleasing voice and I don't know how to edit videos, so I guess this lady has 2 skills over on me. For anyone who doesn't like it, don't watch.

[@jessica8518]

I got raked over coals because I posted a photo of my homemade ranch dressing. The over arching theme was 'you're what's bringing women back 100 years'. Forget the fact that I work full time at an office and I have food allergies that mean I have to homemake 90% of my food, which was in the caption of the photo. Guess some people just have to pull others down to feel better about themselves. Great video!

[@WhiteTiger333]

Making your own salad dressings doesn't put you back 100 years. It might, however, make it more likely that you will see 100 years!

[@commentator1984]

Clearly they have never tasted homemade ranch. That bottled stuff is swill once you have homemade. 😂

[@Mimi-74]

I know your comment wasn't meant to be funny, but I laughed when I read it. My goodness! It's ranch dressing! This hate comes because those women feel inadequate. They feel weak. And feminist women are typically not supportive of other women. If you can make your own ranch dressing then somehow that intimidates them or makes them look at their own choices? So they attack. They spew hate and anger. It is such an unreasonable way to think and live your life. Choose your path, live it. But quit looking at everyone's lives around you just to criticize them because they didn't make your choice.

[@Mimi-74]

@@WhiteTiger333 🤣

[@hillbillyhomestead1966]

We do the same here we make our own mustard catsup sometimes mayonnaise dressings my wife and enjoy working together in the kitchen

[@Strix07024]

I’m 37 and a proud homemaker and I LOVE my life! I get to be with my sweet girl and homeschool her. I get to raise huge gardens full of flowers and organic fruits and veggies. My schedule is very flexible and far more low stress than when I was in the workforce. I wear beautiful, feminine dresses on the daily and cook/bake delicious food that my family enjoys. I keep a clean, beautiful, welcoming home. And after a decade of working in both medicine and finance, I’ve never been more fulfilled and stratified with my life. Food for thought, young gals! 💗💗💗

[@Washingtontree]

Yes! You go girl. I've enjoyed the similar life, minus the frilly dresses (I'm a get in the dirt and work kind of girl). Of course there are days that aren't perfect, but you'll have that with any job. My husband has never made big money, but we live a comfortable life, living within our means. I'm so grateful I've been able to be a homemaker/mama.

[@missinginactionmiaa]

@@Washingtontreesounds amazing both of you❤

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

Go Mama!! This is the life I want SO BAD 😭 I'm pregnant with our second baby right now and I'm still in disbelief at how beautiful it's been so far. My boys are the best thing in the world, I love cooking for them and showing our son the world, one pebble and blade of grass at a time 🥰 I'm praying I have a girl but either way, I'm SO excited to meet our little bean 🥺

[@gabriellapeebles9357]

Been doing this since I was 19. I’ll be 26 in March. Best decision of my life-being my husbands helpmeet and homemaker, living out biblical womanhood and spending everyday with our beautiful little creations ages 7, 3, and 1. We have our 4th on the way. Wouldn’t have it any other way ❤

[@mbb2404]

Omg thats my dream ❤

[@Greekgal101]

I’m 14 and my friends find it so crazy how I want to be a housewife we need to normalise this thanks Brett

[@corinneleubecker2259]

I’m 23 and that’s what I wanted as a 14 year old! Nothing changed. I found a career without needing college and a man who’s willing to support me at home with our children.

[@JonathanScarlet]

It's crazy that even mentioning you want to be a housewife, much less making it something to essentially dedicate your life toward (for as much as you can dedicate to that kind of thing?) isn't treated as just another life choice but is somehow blasphemous or some kind of crazy talk. I wish you luck finding a worthy man, and for securing the greatest recipes for you two and your future family.

[@OnlyFolklore13]

I’m fourteen too. I also want to be a housewife.

[@ZestyAsh]

I wanted to be a housewife too when I was 14, I’m a housewife now at 24 with 2 step children and a bio kid of my own. It’s so so so worth it, if that’s what you want find the right person and go for it!

[@Greekgal101]

That’s amassing I’m glad there is some hope in this crazy world when I tell people I’m not a feminist and a conservative Christian they look at me like I’m crazy it’s nice to know that there are other people like me with the same veiws and beliefs 🫶

[@angelahale11]

Hey, more power to her! She lost me at "I asked my toddlers what they wanted for breakfast." I don't negotiate with terrorists 😂

[@alyzak.8997]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA they really are the most adorable terrorists ever

[@Coffee_Bean08]

They are tyrants 😂😂😂

[@mozelac]

i ask my toddler to choose from a list of things i know she will eat, because i don't care about what she eats as long as she eats...and no one actually cares if youre a picky adult...

[@Femmeaesthetic]

A lot of these so called “feminist” are so annoying, these are the same people who say “feminism is about choice” & then get mad over tradwives content creators. This is why people have criticized feminists

[@unapologeticanti-feminist3205]

A fair amount of feminists, including old school feminists, consider themselves anti-choice feminists for this very reason. Because they honestly disagree with traditional roles or women being dependent on men. Most of the earlier wave feminists closely aligned with Marxist principles and inherently view traditional gender dynamics as suppressing women. Choice feminism is a recent branch of feminism which is criticized for allowing pro-life feminists, tradcon feminists, etc. "If feminism can mean anything to anyone then it means nothing" is their perspective, and I think they're right. It's like saying "socialism can mean anything to anyone." Socialism has a specific meaning and it isn't just "supporting poor people in whatever way works for you."

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

I think the point is that Either way shaming other Women for their choices in life is GROSS. They lose their minds over someone making zero comments about ANYTHING. Attacking someone whom is just simply a happy Woman and Mother cooking for her husband and family. I find it truly unacceptable. The history of feminism and different branches of it for me changes nothing about that. When I was younger I was all about being a feminist "Girl boss". Being a mechanic. Riding motocross since I was 3. Literally on my own motorcycle at that age, and MANY other things considered not feminine gave me an interesting perspective. I dealt with SOO MUCH HATE from girls my entire life. They pretend to be my friends and constantly try to make me wear make up and be all girly. Then they would Get angry when I go riding with the boys or even without and just with my family and spread vicious and blatant LIES. My entire childhood I had problems with only the girls and women. So far as to have neighbors parents shaming me for not being more feminine and telling their children they can't speak to me. It's that type of behavior and mentality that I personally despise. I find it truly DISGUSTING and WRONG. Many of these same people never stop pushing everyone else to accept a man suddenly being a "woman" yet won't support actual women? Not acceptable to me at all. Why can't we Live and let live already!! So long as it doesn't actually affect anyone else why do they care!?!? ​@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205

[@unapologeticanti-feminist3205]

@@WhatTheWHAT524 I think women will always care greatly about social expectations for themselves. From an evolutionary perspective, women are very dependent on the safety and help society can provide, so that creates a lot of pressure to fit into society's expectations. A lot of women when they see a woman doing something different from themselves will want to tear her down because her very existence can be seen as a threat to what she is. If she's more tomboyish and sporty, then the girl feels like this presents a pressure for her to be that way, and vice versa. It could also be from mate competition, whoever is the "ideal" girl will get the best guys and that can vary over just how girly or tomboyish she needs to be. Of course the solution is for women not to care about it, but as I said, I think we're dealing with an evolutionary instinct so it probably won't go away at least for a long time. Until then, we're living in a constant Mean Girls situation.

[@aSSGoblin1488]

sure but this aint a trad wife per se. not a feminist vs conservative thing. more of a very rich lady performing for an audience. she probly has nanny for children, a cook, a cleaner and 2 kitchens. bread made from scratch screams conspicuous consumption.

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

​@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205 wait how is disagreeing with dependency on the man anti-choice? If they were anti choice, wouldn't they agree with the dependency? I am confused

[@ngraner421]

She is doing baking as a hobby. These complainers need to post their hobbies so they can be insulted also. Lots of guys like cooking too.

[@numskulltheory7133]

Complaining is their hobby

[@magic.music.memories]

🤣​@@numskulltheory7133

[@Grabthar191]

The best cooks in the world are mostly men.

[@neinne6693]

Guy here. I used to be a Baker in my youth and learned to cook from a Friend who was a Chef at that time. So yes we do indeed like to Cook and Bake, BUT it dosent pay much so its just a hobby while i do a Job wich means nothing to me.

[@Shining_Light]

@@numskulltheory7133 💯

[@babymama406]

These women cannot comprehend WANTING to be with their children and taking care of their husbands. I used to work as a RN. Then, once I had my second child, I wanted to stay at home with them and I was lucky that my husband made enough money for me to do that. Now my kids are teenagers (and therefore don’t need me home all the time) and I’m about to get my nursing license reinstated. I liked working and look forward to going back, but I wanted to be with my kids more. I don’t regret a moment of my time with my kids and husband. Nobody on their deathbed looks back on their life and thinks “I wish I would’ve worked more and paid someone else to raise my children for me.” Your kids are only little for such a short time. If you’re privileged enough to be able to stay at home and want to do that, why do people have a problem with it? Sounds like jealously to me. Also, since when is being conservative a bad thing? What about their talk about free thinking? Sounds to me like if you don’t share their values and cult like behavior, you become the enemy. They cannot stand a woman actually loving their family and wanting to be with them. It’s such a strange thing to be angry about. Why not just live and let live? I don’t get mad at women who prefer to work and not have kids. I feel like they should live as they please. It would be nice if they extended us the same courtesy. Remember when feminism just meant that women were free to choose their own path?

[@davidchambers44]

Perfectly said. I was just thinking the same thing, can't these people understand someone loving their family and wanting to be with them? Your family is lucky to have you, and I'm sure your kids are much better off. Wishing you all the best with your nursing career!

[@carmenarriola1945]

PREACH! This is the truth… SAHM here, who was the “bread winner” with the “Steady Job” until that steady job replaced me when covid hit while I was pregnant with my second. Im grateful my husband now has a job that provides. I always wanted to be a SAHM from being a working mom. I had the guilt of leaving my son for someone else to raise him. And even being a SAHM my mental health has been strained. There are downsides to BOTH sides. It shouldn’t be a comparison. It’s like apples to oranges. It really sucks to see feminism putting women against each other and rooting envy. May God bless us all. By the way I’m currently trying to pursue nursing! How did you like it?

[@khatzeye]

Funny because I got that notion that these women sound like they don’t wanna be around their kids or husband 😂 I hated working because I always had to rely on some strangers to care for my son and would be shitty at it. In this day and age, women really need to stop not leaving their babies with totally strangers. Daycares aren’t even safe. Here in NYC a lil baby boy died of a fentanyl overdose at his daycare. My son was hit by a worker. And they get away with the shit.

[@khatzeye]

@@carmenarriola1945 my son born 2005, I was getting shamed for staying home! My son had a disability but no one cared about that part just that I was a woman without a job 😂😂 times have definitely changed.

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

I think you're exactly right. As a GenZ woman, it seems to me that Millenials and GenZers are largely VERY self-centered, don't even realize how bad it is, and think that it's okay anyway. I'm guessing this is from having _maybe_ 1-2 siblings or being an only child. I was raised with 8 siblings, we learned "for-the-good-of-the-group" and "what-you-want-doesn't-always-matter" really early. And I think that was healthy for us. It's might also be the advent of Millenial parenting practices of telling your children "you're special just the way you are, you can do ANYTHING you want to, no one can ever tell you what to do with your life". Those statements aren't necessarily false, but they probably breed a mentality of "whatever I want is the most important thing, anyone who tries to hinder what I want is in my way".

[@Belle_2224]

I'm a teenage girl, but when I'm older I want to be a stay at home mom. For me this means getting my degree in marketing and working til I get married and have kids. Once I have kids I plan on not working because I want to homeschool my kids. I get so much hate for this for no reason. Reality is the "girlboss" lifestyle is exactly that a LIFESTYLE, as is wanting to stay a home, Brett puts it perfectly it's a choice. That's what I've chosen, love ya Brett, you prioritize common sense, thank you!

[@Aaron-McDonald]

That’s a good life plan but maybe realize you don’t need a marketing degree to work in marketing so getting a more useful and challenging degree would be prudent and just minor in business. Aaron Clarey has a good book on this, it’s def more for men, but the idea is the same. Basically STEM degrees are the only ones that, after economic analysis, are worth it. There’s a couple others like accounting. 30-40 years ago (or less) marketing degrees at the undergrad level didn’t really happen. It’s meant to be done after work experience and during an MBA.

[@diegojavier8276]

You can do it ! 🎉

[@herbie_the_hillbillie_goat]

Good plan. Don't worry about how others think you should live your life. It's your life.

[@Alison2436]

don't go into marketing, it's a useless degree that won't even get u an entry level job anywhere. even if u won't use your degree forever it's better to get it in something worthwhile as many people meet their spouses at work. I was a chemist before being a SAHM and met my now husband at work. he makes plenty as a Chemist to take care of us while my savings from working a good paying job paid for a lot of the fun things for us. my kiss are 8 and 6 now and while they are at school I garden and cook things from scratch.

[@chaoscharlotte1]

❤​@@Aaron-McDonald

[@SkyeH13]

These people are just jealous, and very bored apparently 🤷🏼‍♀️ So having a hobby or enjoying cooking is bad? Literally, they need a reality check.

[@SkyeH13]

@Jaycee979LOL so don’t cook?

[@sarcasticowl]

When you mentioned that the woman was Mormon, I braced myself for the disparaging comment and when it never came, I almost teared up. I can take the teasing, there is nothing you could say that I haven’t heard and brushed off before, but I am grateful that you didn’t. You have viewers of that faith, Brett, and I appreciate you not being unkind towards us.

[@lwedel3361]

To be honest, it is the Mormon ladies who seem to have the most aesthetic IG pages lol I am not Mormon but the mob I came from are frumpy looking homemakers. At least your crew look trendy haha

[@KatieHolmes-kz5qm]

Exactly. Also not mormon but I appreciate their commitment to not letting themselves go. It's okay to put effort into your appearance. @@lwedel3361

[@hayleecollins99]

I agree. I am always hearing criticism for my faith, but all I am trying to do is follow my beliefs and be kind to others. I love that she does not criticize the LDS faith.

[@cs6989]

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[@DuckDuckGooseandChickens]

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the preferred name, but I’m thrilled about the positivity regardless. I love that more people are making from scratch. Keep up the great content!

[@dailywire_memes]

Only modern Feminists could get angry over a stable and loving relationship

[@namantherockstar]

Brett inspires me.. My parents said if i get 70K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally Begging..

[@numskulltheory7133]

Feminists are the only people on the freaking planet who hold several specific opinions, including being basically the only group of people who thinks family is a bad thing. It's wild.

[@kingLukesta]

... that they cant have themselves

[@simfimpim]

They're not though. Brett is squashing feminism into just one thing, which it isn't.

[@Lawrence_Talbot]

Yeah that’s because this is something they’ll never have. They work so hard to essentially end up all alone.

[@Lilymae333]

Jealousy is the ugliest trait.

[@Mixran]

I think you mean evny

[@EtoCobra]

​@@Mixran I agree, jealousy can be good, unlike envy.

[@bunille]

@@EtoCobra Depends. Jealousy is envy with the addition that you want something to change... but it depends if that means you want to do the exact same and take effort putting yourself up, or you want them to be just like you and take effort bringing people down.

[@HopeTowne]

@@bunilleYes! If women want what she has, I wish they'd consider what steps they could take to change their life to look more like what they're wishing for. Of course it's not going to look the same, but they could pick a direction to move in if they're unhappy with where they are.

[@bunille]

​@@Jaycee979 Suspicious that you'd try to find me out on multiple comments just to complain about yourself to me. Again, you should stop projecting. You live in an echochamber that doesn't even remotely WANT to listen to the other side. Any sahm/trad woman does love women who work. What's your definition of work anyway? Cartels and prostitution? You'd be surprised when I tell you that trad women work SO hard, but I guess you didn't bother to read about me writing about that. Trad women love kind, supportive, and loving women. If you're narcissistic, then the most a trad woman does is notice how that's bad for the woman... they literally aren't stopping you, this is another one of your a thousand boogeyman. However, you do seem to want trad women to not be trad women... this maliciousness seems to only be projectively one way. Nobody's demonising a woman who wants to be a taxi driver, carer, or lawyer and so on. You, however, are vilifying women for being a good, non-neglective person who isn't narcissistic and actually looks after others (and herself). You clearly didn't have a good mother role model who put her heart into caring about you over her yearly trip away in her 5 Doc Martens. It literally takes anyone who's not vain to understand that women who are like this who value people over materalism are good mothers, and women like you who villify good parents is your only coping mechanism. If you leave your enclosed ear protector bubble, you'd realise that the most a traditional person would tell women is that they'd rather women not work because they'd rather them get paid for staying at home, not putting her in intensive or harm's way (hence bricklayers and sewage cleaners barely if ever have women applying), and to prioritise doing the BARE MINIMUM of things you as a human being would be doing alone without 10000 entitlements either way: when you're on your own you'd also be cooking and cleaning, otherwise you're ill living in a dump. If doing that for one more person is so hard for you, it sounds like you shouldn't date anyone at all because you're there to just leech and exploit them. You don't love them at all. For you to even have such a mindset proves you live entitled and privileged: for anyone poor (not broke of their own stupid decisions) or in a non-first-world country, it's a no-brainer that they help people out. It's charitable, kind, caring, AND the woman gets rewarded at the end of it with finances, love, etc. and the do-good feeling of being caring. Working in the home is unironically a job. It used to be a paid job and people could easily live off a one-income household, but now you can thank modern feminism for saying that your mother looking after you is bad and "oppressive" for her (sounds child abusey tbh) and she now needs to neglect you and throw you away to a random babysitter for majority of the day: the irony of another woman doing the mother role, someone's gotta do it if you won't and if you want your child to not grow up ill. (unironically, even very non-trad women wish they could get paid just to stay at home). How dare a woman not starve herself and have a clean house? So oppressive! Meanwhile, the guy is out there dying in the coal mine, but oh well, you're the victim here! If left to your own devices and you end up living in a slob and starving yourself if someone won't make the food for you, that's your own selfish and entitled problem. Traditionalism is all about a two-way street. Ironically, women choose "motherly" jobs on average by far and jobs that are a whole lot safer, whilst guys are the ones doing the dangerous and disgusting ones. Because the guy would put so much hard manual labour into his work, the most the woman had to do was not be a lazy and bratty sleaze and she'd literally be given everything charitable from her partner. It was an easy world if you were a nice person as a woman: it wouldn't be hard finding a guy who'd pay everything for you, because you weren't there like you are now, acting like a child and demanding that a guy treats you like a father and you as a 5-year-old that can't even microwave a can of beans because that's oppressive and crap like that. It's so soft and manipulative it makes me laugh. Cutting bread isn't the worst task you could ever have. These women are self-sufficient, unlike you who can't even make a meal for YOURSELF. It's no different task, just one has an empathetical action to it that seems incomprehensible to you. Strange when the only reason why you're here today is because men and women looked after you in those traditional ways of... feeding you and making sure you didn't live in a pigsty (I sure would hope they supported you, because for traditional people it would mean the world to do that).

[@kyliebenz2080]

It’s so unfortunate that people are so upset at people making a choice to live the traditional lifestyle just because it’s traditional!

[@numskulltheory7133]

It's not people, it's feminists. Basically everyone else on the planet is perfectly fine with the traditional family and doing whatever it takes for your kids.

[@ronaldnelson6692]

They aren't upset, they are just jealous.

[@davidchambers44]

It truly is. They're mad at people who love and take care of their families. It's crazy. Traditional families have my support.

[@SL-es5kb]

A lot of it is just having feelings of inadequacy and shame triggered.

[@je__.]

yup miserable people

[@1peon]

What an awesome concept. In 1999, we had our son and my wife took her 3 year maternity leave, Germany has awesome family policies. At the end of the three years, she resigned from her position and became a full-time stay home Mom. She took care of our son and the household while I worked a full-time job and provided the rest. When my son hit 18, she decided to re-enter the workforce. No issues getting a job as she had stayed current in her field. A couple of years ago, I retired early from the rat race, and now I do all the domestic work. I am so happy that we could do this for my son and as a family. And we are all better off for it. I applaud this woman and her family, awesome.

[@thatssogary]

I am a stay at home mom to two kids that I homeschool. I've already graduated one. I consider myself a trad wife. I am the everything in the house. My husband's only job is to work. He does take care of things around the house that I can't but overall it's all me. Secretary, taxi driver, laundress, teacher, accountant, cook, maid, etc. I chose this. He supports me. We made a commitment to each other when we married. Divorce is not in our vocabulary. I don't need an emergency fund because I know I don't. After nearly 20 years together, I know we're going to make it. Anyone can get a job even with a "job gap". I have sacrificed a lot for my kids. I have zero regrets. I love my life. My husband values me. He values my job.

[@NatetendoOfficial]

My Mom has done the same for me and my siblings, I will forever be grateful.

[@ava4689]

Amazing! The only issue I saw is that yall dont have an emergency fund. Everyone needs one. It is wise to plan for emergencies. An emergency fund is for the things you dont see coming. Like a tree falling on your car, or your roof needing to be replaced. I hope you guys have funds for such events. Or if theres medical emergencies too.

[@thatssogary]

@@ava4689 we have an emergency fund. I don't have a personal one to leave my husband because I don't need it. But we as a couple do.

[@ava4689]

@@thatssogary oh ok that makes sense. That makes me happy, good for you guys.

[@juliejaropillo7079]

I want this for my husband and I

[@thephotoshopper5908]

There was a girl in my art class who said she wanted to be a housewife someday and my teacher said “WHAT?! Don’t you want a career?!”

[@EmmaxoOCE]

Most teachers are brainlets who want to brainwash students into being little representatives for their political views. Key word, most. A few are great Sincerely, someone studying teaching.

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

yep! I got told that I'll be highly disappointed when my kids are grown and I have no purpose left. Like what?? My kids aren't gonna just disappear when they turn 18 😭

[@Erowens98]

Feminism has brainwashed people into thinking a career is the only way to gain any value fron life. Sad, considering most studies on the matter observe that family and social connections are the largest predictor for life satisfaction among the elderly.

[@phkodial]

Homemaking IS a career. One of the most fulfilling and productive careers in the world.

[@blueiris1542]

@@-spacedout--spacebound-7438 Honest question, no disrespect. Doesn't being a homemaker disappear when your kids turn 18+. You'll still be a Mom, but not a homemaker right? At that point will you feel like you completed your purpose? I just want to understand and see other perspectives outside of my own, that's all.

[@natc6601]

I find it funny when people call it Mormon propaganda 😂 A lot of us are also working moms, college students, engineers, artists, and more because while family is #1, we also believe that education is a religious responsibility. Nara and Lucky both deserve their success and should be allowed to share their happiness! 🎉

[@nicoleterry5105]

This. All of this. THANK YOU! 👏🏻

[@nekk-ra7080]

And a lot of Mormon and Mennonite women do serious hard labor. If the husband isn't there, the work doesn't stop.

[@Apopcyp]

The majority of Catholics I grew up with were raised with a stay at home mom at least until grade school. Plenty of Christians have this traditional lifestyle. Sad people are just blaming y’all for something that isn’t even something to be viewed negatively

[@xbabu142x]

It's because the media demonizes the one set of crazy people, in order to say all Mormons are bad, due to the whole war on Christianity I guess, and completely forget the other half of the religion, which is the strong family values and sense of community you guys have. People with nothing else going on in their lives always view anything positive as a negative. All the Mormon people I know are small business owners like dentists etc and super hardworking people, the characterization online of all Mormons being backwards is just insane delusions of mentally ill people.

[@abigailsmith8690]

Yep, part-time lawyer and full-time mom to two 2 and under over here! I call myself a homemaker who happens to also have a job. Nara's baking is an inspiration!

[@heatherchansler5886]

Listened to this one while vacuuming my house and cooking homemade English muffins... I have been a homemaker/sahm for the past eight years, and have worked incredibly hard to make my family life a happy one. The idea that I would be better served doing just as much work for pay from some faceless corporation is laughable.

[@rydiavalentine]

But they are anticapitalists 🤣

[@Pewpewkitty302]

I am currently making homemade breakfast pancakes while listening to this video 😂

[@PB_324]

. It's okay to like what you do. Some women actually like working outside their homes and even their families are happier. When I worked full time I never saw my boss as a faceless Corporation, and I did work that actually blessed people beyond my immediate family. Not to mention my income blessed my husband and took needless pressure off of him. So now that I'm a Sahm the last thing I would do is shame working women which intended or not - many of the Sahm's are doing here.

[@kati7082]

Im not a sahm but im a mom. I work for a wonderful family owned company (not faceless). I love my family and I do make a great deal of our treats from scratch and also have a great career (sales engineer). I stayed home with my daughter for the first two years of her life and then went back to work. My career affords us a great deal of freedom and opportunity including reducing the stress that some man have because they are the sole provider. We are blessed and I’m grateful to God for all we have and for my family and my career. I hope you and your family are blessed as well.

[@aaaa-r5l7t]

we working women enjoy our work and family too girl , do what you like in your life . glad you are happy and nourishing

[@juliebaker6969]

I CHOSE to be a homemaker when I married at 18, and with only a couple of exceptions when we were having financial difficulties, I have been a homemaker for all of our marriage. At LEAST until my health got too bad to continue that is. For the last 10 years or so my health has no longer been up to the task. But as my abilities waned, my husband has taken up the slack, especially once he was no longer working. Now he's taking care of me as I used to care for HIM. To these women who claim your husband will leave you if you start to loose your looks or your figure, I call 🐂💩. Attitude and personality trump face and figure every time. Men want to be with someone who is pleasant, appreciative, kind, witty, and happy, and they avoids people who are snappish, complaining, argumentative, adversarial and dissatisfied. It's not rocket science, men want to stay where they feel comfortable. Make them comfortable, and they'll stay put; make them uncomfortable and you'll chase them away. I've never understood how a woman can possibly be happy and satisfied with her life if her personality is so selfish and toxic that she makes everyone around her feel uncomfortable and disrespected.

[@ava4689]

We are very similar. Im an 18 yo newlywed. I can be a little feisty and complain sometimes, but my first priority is always making him happy and comfortable like you said. I agree with everything you said. So far, keeping the hubby happy has not been an issue.

[@fixeddice1982]

I've been thinking about that lately. A lot of current girls and young women are calling themselves 10's and referring to their looks and attitudes, which are terrible. And then it's men's faults that keep these girl's relationships from working. When I was growing up, we were taught "beauty is skin deep" and "it's the heart that matters" and "do not let your adornment be external, but clothe yourself with good works" etc, which does make a woman a 10 in a man's eyes. Men's eyes do not inherently wander, we do not want anyone other than our wives when our wives are beautiful inside. My wife and I are both aging into our 40's, and I find her more beautiful now than I did when we were young. Not because her exterior is more or less beautiful, but because I love her for her. That is completely lost in this "girl boss" "only a career matters" "do what you want when you're young" "you're too good for him anyway" society, and it's making everybody unhappy. And lastly, the "you need to selfishly make yourself happy to be happy" movement, when all of human history has proven that the best way to be happy is to help others, and to make them happy. We are designed to get back what we put in, if we selflessly help others it makes us happy, and if we focus on happiness through ourselves instead we are miserable. How society managed to lose 10000 years of human knowledge and experience is a sight to behold.

[@juliebaker6969]

@@fixeddice1982 It's nice to hear a man's point of view on this. Sometimes I wonder if it's just US that are like that, like maybe we're some kind of anomaly or outlier or something. Nice to know someone my daughter's age sees the same thing we do.😉

[@juliebaker6969]

@@ava4689 Congrats on the marriage, sounds like you're on the right road for success if you stay the course. 👍

[@bunille]

That's the point. They blame the guy for leaving because "my looks aren't as good as they were before" when it's just her own self-projection. Ask the guy, and he'll say that wasn't even remotely a reason for breaking up. She's just projecting her insecurities onto him. Likewise, it's the bitter and rotten personality that may or may not be correlated with the lack of physically looking after herself that is the cause for a break up. And giving the benefit of the doubt and she says he dumped her for her looks is true, that's because they were birds of a feather and he also dated for the superficial reason of good looks and etc. It's nigh impossible when you're a genuine, kindhearted, down to earth person despite being an 8-10 on the looks scale that you'll ever accidentally date a guy who only cares about your looks. It really comes down to who you want to be targeted by, and those very women want the guys who flaunt over her looks, just to have a Pikachu face when to no surprise, he dumps her when it wears off. But for any other woman, the guy most certainly does not dump her for that reason.

[@roxwyfe]

I've been married for nearly 40 years. The VAST majority of the meals we've had have been cooked from scratch by me in our kitchens (my husband was in the military so there were many kitchens over the years). And yes, that was while I was working full-time outside the home even when the kids were little. It's because that's how I was raised. My mom worked and did all this so I grew up thinking that's how it was done so that's how I did it. These feminazis need to get over themselves. They're ticked because they never developed these skills, don't have them now, and probably aren't smart enough to learn them. It's nothing more than jealousy and envy driving them. But then some people aren't happy unless they have something to be upset and miserable about.

[@notmyrealname8496]

FACTS! They are jealous they dont have what the woman baking does. I feel sorry for those people who live in victim mentality. pray they find peace.

[@bunille]

I rememebr not long ago that it was the norm and widely accepted to love baking and cooking. I don't understand how that's demonised now... but we do live in the day and age where hard work, skills, and merit are "evil".

[@G2rtTr]

Im a 20 year old guy and I am also developing those cooking skills,im not that good yet but definetly better than the feminazis who see a woman cooking for their families as a degrading thing. I respect a lot people who cook for others,its a quality that I would want in a partner definetly. It speaks a lot about you that you cooked everything from scratch,totally opposite of the feminist agenda,I do not believe it is "slavery" but actually something powerful. My grandma did the same,my mother is an amazing cook but whenever I point out how she could become a chef if she wanted she always tells me laughing "my food is like a cheap fast food type compared to what my mom used to feed us" Man I wish I could have tried my grandma's cooking at least once,sadly she passed away before I was born.

[@kristenadorno]

Thank you for this! My grandmother and grandfather raised me and they were traditional, Christian, and just all around awesome people. My grandmother cooked a large meal made from scratch every night and she made me breakfast every morning. She worked as well. I am so thankful that she showed me what a traditional marriage looks like. Now I have my own husband and children and I am home schooling our children and I take care of them and the home while so working a full time job (remote 3 days a week, only 2 days in office).

[@FlorHuang]

I was small but I always remember how my dad had his lunch pan of a full course meal PLUS his favourite egg and bread sandwich with coffee EVERY MORNING. Bare in mind this man leaves for work at 4am everyday. I was small and wondered if a magic being magically prepared all this for him but nope it was just mom 😊

[@Tamomi13]

I didn't even know you could make ceral from scratch. The thought never crossed my mind. I'm inspired to now try it!

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

not hating just wondering how else do you think cereal is made 😭

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

this was so funny I'm sorry I really did not mean to be rude 😂

[@fehyndana7725]

@@-spacedout--spacebound-7438I thought the grain is popped beforehand

[@francesmaurer185]

It's much healthier too.....❤

[@francesmaurer185]

Every woman has a right to decide for themselves and need to be respected for their own choices..❤

[@BreatheAir23]

The way that society goes insane over the most simple of things is absolutely insane

[@ilanabailey9402]

So homemade ice cream actually doesn’t take super long depending on what you have and how you do it. It’s about 20-30s for us to do. My husband actually does it. One year, my husband and son made their own ice cream and used some store bought and made a platypus ice cream cake for my son’s birthday. They had a great time and it was super cute.

[@aaronburdon221]

Yea, it's not that hard. Really depends on how you want to do it.

[@MomDeskClub]

YES!! I was chuckling to myself in that section because I make a LOT of our own ice cream ... we actually ended up getting a Ninja Creami just because we liked it better, and then it was always ready for us! Homemade is SO far out of the norm that it blows people's minds ... but it's really just changing your mindset to realize it's not THAT hard ... 🤷🏼‍♀.

[@ellerydawnpiano]

I know Lucky Blue personally, he used to babysit me when I was a child and we lived in the same neighborhood. I have never met Nara, but I hear good things about her. I cannot believe how much hate she gets for being so aesthetic and pretty. As an LDS person too, it makes me sad to see people hate on her for her religion despite the fact that she does not bring it into her public life. I hope she doesn’t listen to the hate and that they keep being that aesthetic couple people aspire to.

[@zaq1337]

The ones hating on her are the feminists lol. They hate seeing her perfect life, all that hating is only making her popular😂😂😂Haters will continue to stalk her feeds on all platforms and that’s sad lol

[@ImperialSenpai]

Well it’s a Gnostic heresy.

[@Parrothead1337]

I think it's because if you listen to everything about LDS and don't immediately say that it's absolutely insane you might be a psycho. then again thats mostly all religion but still

[@deannewhitney]

Makes so much more sense since the LDS part, I was unaware of that. I didn’t even know who this was until now

[@ImperialSenpai]

@@Parrothead1337 Psychopaths tend to be Atheists, which you can call a religion but just lumping a bunch of different ideologies together acting as if they’re all the same is retarded. Not all religions are the same, not every follower is the same, some things we don’t call a religion are religions. Humanity is an inherently religious creature.

[@karami8844]

I come from generations of homemakers and being the first daughter born in America, my mom taught me NOT to be like her and my grandmas and to get an education and learn to earn my own money. If women want to be homemakers, I think that’s OK but if women want to be in the workforce then that’s OK too. As long as one chooses to live the way they are happiest, nothing else matters.

[@strawberryynoodlesauce]

Yes, always choose whatever you want because it is your life and path to take

[@hoesmad8445]

👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼

[@unapologeticanti-feminist3205]

The needs of children matter. I support one parent staying at home to fulfill the homemaker role: buy and cook food, clean, care and nurture the children. It doesn't matter to me if it's the husband or wife that does it but it's an important and necessary role. The insistence that anything is moral so long as a woman chooses to do it is wrong.

[@emg708]

@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205 I agree wholeheartedly.

[@lotus_flower2001]

​@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205 ​​modern statistics show no difference in toddlers whether its mom or daycare they get. We send them to preschool age 5 anyway, where they are gone 8 hr a day till they are 18. Unless you homeschool someone else is raising your kid during their crucial years. Of course if your an american with a couple months of maternity leave than its another scenario.

[@kati7082]

That’s super cool. She made soft serve with her kitchen aid. I need to look into this. It looks like fun. I’m not a stay at home mom. I’m a mom. When I have time, I love doing these things for my family! It’s awesome she’s posting her lifestyle.

[@nemmy4783]

People will promote femminism and the choice to choose as a woman until they choose something they don’t like 😢

[@zaq1337]

They hate seeing someone so perfect in 2024. They could never be her lol, so they choose to hate on her. It’s sad

[@kevinsullivan3448]

Feminists hate what they can't do.

[@skeeterbronson]

I am a 22 year old stay at home mom, I live in a small town next to another small town near Houston lmao (aka I’m in east tx😂). My fiance does sales for construction, we have a baby boy and three dogs as well as a lizard. I take care of them all including the house everyday. Do I clean the entire house everyday? No I do it like twice a week and clean as I go along. Once I get to laundry I have four loads to do, bc I hate it lol. Being a stay at home mom isn’t this rich lifestyle, it’s a choice a ton of mothers make to spend time with their family. It’s still a job. My back aches so bad at the end of everyday. I only have time for quick showers and baths, I have to have the baby’s camera on anytime I’m not in the room, I deal with dogs pooping in my house everyday (potty training our two new pups is hard lmao). So if a woman wants to make her man some good food from scratch then let her, it hurts nobody, it’s probably better for them anyway, and it’s a showing of AFFECTION (which some people didn’t seem to get enough of, probably why they are mad.)

[@allyreny]

Yes!!! I’m a 23-year-old SAHM, and we aren’t living a rich, glamorous lifestyle. My top love language (giving and receiving) is acts of service! The way I best show love to those around me is by serving them. I want my children to think it’s so incredibly normal for me to go out of my way for them, not because I spoil them, but because I love them. We will never have the money to give them everything they want (and even if we did, we wouldn’t), but I will do everything in my DIY, underfunded power to give them what I can. And that’s a beautiful kind of love money can’t ever buy.

[@skeeterbronson]

@@allyreny exactly! I think people forget that acts of service is a love language, that’s why when my fiance comes home I WANT to do everything for him bc he works all day from sun up to sun down most days, 6 days a week. Even if it’s a drink I’m happy to do so. Love comes in all forms ❤️

[@Hazelnutmegan]

Homemaking can be very relaxing, but it can also be stressful. She’s just capturing the zen moments, which are wonderful. Currently working on decluttering our house, so that I have more time and mental energy for these types of moments. Better if you never get cluttered, but I can be a hard road back. It’s good to envision where I can possibly be if I keep working at it.

[@darklordsauron3415]

I like cleaning and de cluttering things.

[@darklordsauron3415]

Btw. Im a Jigaboo.

[@alyzak.8997]

oh yes ofc she has admitted to dressing up and cleaning up for the videos. She herself doesn't claim to be perfect all the time. Homemaking is absolutely HARD but rewarding work which is why it feels so condescending when working women treat them like lazy priviledged inferiors.

[@brealynn75]

I'm a 22 year old stay at home wife. My fiance and I worked 1 years at factory making $17/hr. We lived in a camper in a friend's property for $400/month. We saved $500/each a month for that year. Put $10,000 down on a $100,000 house upstate. He now makes $17/hr. Our mortgage is around $900. I make everything from scratch. We are trying for babies. It's doable I promise.

[@herbie_the_hillbillie_goat]

They complain about authoritarianism and in the same breath say woman need to follow a preordained path in life.

[@TheSulross]

yeah, they sure vehemently dictate a lot of very specific things that women are allowed to do and not do - they have ZERO self-awareness

[@Mimi-74]

In high school all I wanted was to be a mother. I remember everyone talking about what college they wanted to go to, their plans and when the conversation rolled around to me... It wasn't a popular choice. But I didn't care. In my heart I wanted to have children and raise them. I didn't want to just birth children, send them to preschool or to a daycare. And I'm not saying that choice is not ok for other women. I just knew what my heart was screaming. I wasn't the perfect Mom I envisioned, but my children were, and are, my life. Children are a gift, a treasure. I loved making homemade playdough with them, adding colors and different scents. I loved making apple sauce with them, as they were involved in choosing the apples all the way to spicing it. It was a great opportunity to show the inside of an apple and explain how they grow. Growing plants or veggies in pots was another fun activity that taught them how seeds turn to beautiful and tasty things. We didn't get to do these things daily, but I was in the position to be there and teach them about fascinating things, from infancy , in a way that didn't feel like a "lesson". And I got to be "Mom". I still treasure those years. My boys are now 29 and 27. They are the most wonderful, compassionate and loving children. I didn't want to be 50 and regret the one thing I wanted most in life because it wasn't a popular decision. I have many regrets in life, but I don't regret my choice to be a Mom. That wasn't a sacrifice, it was my salvation. My happy place.

[@AnnieHannah-m6u]

BEAUTIFUL ❣️

[@TheSulross]

you made a far superior life choice that most people do - wife and I have some grandchildren now and get to enjoy that blessing again

[@Mimi-74]

​@@TheSulross~ I look forward to having grandchildren. I am glad to hear you're enjoying the life you chose. Family is everything.

[@Mimi-74]

​@@AnnieHannah-m6u~ thank you❣️

[@HUZZAH-4Life]

This is me now. I don’t care about college and doing something amazing and big in the world like everyone thinks I will be. I am looking at jobs that will train me and pay decently like my dad did he never went to college and makes really good money. All I want is to marry a guy that loves me whole heartedly and be a mom one day and raise kids. When I found out I had a chronic illness I found myself struggling with the idea of i could have kids or if it would be too hard for me. (I struggle with getting the proper nutrition because my stomach doesn’t digest food, gastroperisis is what I have) When I found a lady with a blog with the same condition that shared how it went I cried. I was so relieved when I found this out. When I shared it with my mom the look of discuss in her face is still in my mind. How she hates the idea of how I don’t want to go to college. My mom was a stay at home mom and had her first kid at 21. She had been married to my dad for over a year. She didn’t graduate college at that time because she wanted to stay home and raise us. She got her teaching degree a few years ago and now it seems like she regrets a lot of her life choices. She thinks my dad is misogynistic for him telling her she doesn’t have to work 6+ hours after she gets home from the school because she isn’t contracted and payed to do so because she does this almost every single day. She has become so judgmental and mean I honestly don’t recognize her anymore. She has become so judgmental about how I want to live my life and my opinion and thoughts on things. She hates how I can understand my dad’s way of thinking and how I act like him. I don’t understand how you can hate a child that acts like your husband of 26 years. I stick up for myself and I become the “most disrespectful person I ever met in the whole world” to her. I think it’s because I am not like my older siblings at all especially my sister. My sister is her golden child even if she says otherwise it is very obvious. We had diner Monday for her birthday and all she talked about was my sister in her pageant and how X girl is a witch. Not what she got or what her students gave her/did for her. It was all on my sister for 4 hours. Sorry I ranted a little. Typing gets it off of my chest but putting it here puts it somewhere she won’t find one day.

[@KathyjdVanDijk]

Growing up and when I first got married, I never put any thought into staying home with my kids. I assumed I'd go back to work once my mat leave was done, but once I had our son, I knew that I desired to stay home. I had/have a great career as a nurse and worked full time for 5yrs until my son came. After discussions with my husband, we decided to make the sacrifices we needed to keep me at home with our son and I don't regret it for a single second! I always looked for this kind of fulfillment in my work, but never did and am so happy we made this decision, got out of debt, and made me being a stay at home mom a priority. Yes, I still work the amount of shifts I need to keep up my nursing license and I could decide to go back full time whenever I want/if we needed me to, but nothing is quite like the slow mornings with our son, having the time to enjoy the little things, and be a part of every step of his development ❤

[@-spacedout--spacebound-7438]

Go Mama! I love seeing all the women in the comments sharing their experience, I haven't seen a single negative one 🥺🥰 makes me so excited for our little bean in July

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

❤❤❤ love this.

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

@@-spacedout--spacebound-7438awwwee ❤ wishing you a happy journey mama.

[@mr.o5501]

"Life choking work" while literally creating life and being a home MAKER!!! Double speak on full display.

[@carolyndilbeck7654]

So true!!! It’s life giving and life sustaining work!!!!

[@dudahenkleinfit8295]

I am a SAHM and while yes it’s tiring to cook, clean, play and educate kids. I am definitely not as tired as I was while I worked outside of the house. And this whole thing about others worrying what if my husband leaves me. Well I don’t I support him a lot. And that’s why dating is so important so you can choose and find someone with good values…

[@spikefishnetwork1118]

How to say your bitter, alone and miserable without saying it. Heaven forbid she cooks for her family 🤦

[@CrystalSea216]

We're broke so I don't have all her gadgets, but this is literally how I cook for my family on a daily basis. I have taken it as a personal challenge and have begun to replace everything in the kitchen/pantry with homemade everything! No more store-bought bbq sauce, salsa, taco sauce or shredded cheese blends, dry mixes like taco seasoning or gravy mix, I make them myself. No more store-bought bread, no more store-bought coffee creamer, cake or cookie mixes, frostings or whipped cream, I now make it all myself. No more boxed instant anything because I make it all from absolute scratch all by myself! "I can't cook" isn't an excuse because only 3 years ago, I couldn't cook either. I have even started my own kitchen garden to produce the things I use most in the kitchen like all the herbs and garlic. onions, potatoes. lettuces and broccoli. I do this all while teaching 2 little humans all day. I never said it was easy, but by golly it is most definitely possible! Now I just need chickens and a dairy cow 😂

[@jerryfischer3988]

You just described my mom. But she had a dairy Cow and chickens. Like most of her peers

[@Bashbekersjiw]

How you learn tò do It?

[@Spooklilly-Latina4Freedom]

That's wonderful! The crazy thing is how is working a career nurturing someone else's business more important than working for/with your family nurturing them!? I've said it b4 and I'll say it again, feminists are Misogynists. They extoll the virtues of & ape masculine traits, seeing that as the pinnacle of success while looking down on feminine traits & disparaging women who choose femininity & nurturing lives. That's the very height of Misogyny. They point their finger at men & call them toxic misogynists when they should point that finger at themselves first.

[@SuffertheFools]

That's great. The surprising thing to me is when people are actually surprised that all the items you mentioned can be made from scratch. People are so used to going out and buying items that have already been made/assembled that actually putting things together from scratch at home is surprising and unrelatable to them. It's like if you can make a batch of chocolate chip cookies from scratch at home by using a recipe, then making some of these other items shouldn't seem that difficult or impossible to do. But I guess making a batch of cookies from scratch would also be unrelatable to them lol. And the funny part is that making some of these things from scratch really doesn't take that long if someone does food prep and batch cooking. Yes, it might take a day in the kitchen to get it all done, but once that time is spent, all the food is cooked or pre-prepped for the next week or month or whatever time frame a family plans their meals. I don't see any of this as unrelatable unless someone is just not used to the kitchen or preparing meals at all. But the amount of surprise and shock I see in some comments because Nara Smith knows how to make cereal, brownies, cheese, or ice cream from scratch is embarrassing.

[@CrystalSea216]

@gozerofgozmis4181 Autodidactic, my friend, self-taught. My husband is my guinea pig 😄 If he likes it, I keep the recipe. If he hates it, I tweak the recipe until it's just right. I started by simply watching people cooking, in person, and online. You learn a lot about technique, what to do, and what not to do. I make my own recipes by scouring the internet for multiple versions of the same recipe, and then I build my own recipe using the elements/ techniques/ingredients from each recipe that I liked. It's determination really, decide to do it and just do it! It will either work out or it won't. If it works out, you will gain more confidence in the kitchen. If it doesn't work out, you have at least learned that it doesn't work. Identify what went wrong and don't do that next time. You can do this! You are capable!

[@traceymcgraw6370]

I work all my life until about 12 years ago. While being a mother with two kids. Once I stop working and got to stay at home with my kids. Thanks to my wonderful husband who work hard. So I was able to stay at home with my kids. But by that time my daughter was grown but my son was nine. I got more enjoyment and pride out of being a stay at home mom. I ever got out of working.

[@chbb6554]

I've been in the workforce for almost 10 years and consider myself a hard worker. I left my most recent job 5 months ago before giving birth since I figured it was more worth it to look for a different job when I felt ready than to be tied down to a 6 week maternity leave. When baby was 3 months old, I decided to look for a job even though I wasn't ready to send her out to daycare. Fast forward to present day, I'm about to quit my WFH job because I can't manage to do it and give baby my full attention. It's an agonizing decision but ultimately what's best for my family.

[@eyes_espresso4803]

I've been really reluctant in the discussion, but my husband has given me the option to be a stay at home wife because the job I currently have stresses me out and doesn't pay well. I've been so conditioned to the idea that I need a job with having a Bachelor's degree, and he presented that to me as a possibility. And I've been floored and thinking about it ever since.

[@kate00040]

Dont do it. Eran your own money. Dont depend on a man who may not even stick around. 2 incomes is better than 1

[@eyes_espresso4803]

@kate00040 don't insinuate anything about my marriage, please. We've already been together for several years, and he's proven time and again he's not leaving. As far as income, that's our job to figure out.

[@kate00040]

@@eyes_espresso4803 lol okay. Do you

[@ingramwifey2016]

Girl, do it!! Being at home is sooo fulfilling. If you don't like it, you can always get another job (that you like and doesn't stress you out).

[@Charliezard100.]

@@kate00040sounds like you’re definitely a very mentally stable person ☺️

[@magdawind13]

I worked for eleven years in retail. Worked my way up to a store manager, then began traveling to open up stores for the company. Two years ago I came home to be a stay at home mom with my baby. I have never felt more fulfilled in my life. If this lifestyle for everyone? No. Is it fine for me to be fulfilled by being a homemaker for my child and husband? Absolutely.

[@Makeda2912]

Finally someone who understands!

[@noellegoble7944]

I love my fellow LDS ladies being such an inspiration! It’s so helpful to me as a stay at home mom!

[@AMERICANA1155]

Yooo fellow LDS in the comments😂

[@thedigitalmediateacher5544]

Me too! ❤

[@calleyc8916]

Amen!

[@taylorswf23]

People viciously criticize when their insecurities are threatened. I see this and think, ‘good grief this is ridiculous.’ And move on with my life. The end.

[@zaq1337]

🤣🤣🤣They hate Nara Smith being perfect lol and they continue to comment hate and hate watch her 🤣🤣🤣who does that?? I say the winner here is Nara. They’re making Nara more popular❤❤❤thank you haters!, if it wasn’t for them I’d have never known about such a perfect human being existing!!

[@kevinsullivan3448]

When she was making the cereal my thought was "I wonder if there is leavening in them so they puff up?" This is the kind of thing my mom would have done and my brother and I would have helped.

[@taylorswf23]

@@kevinsullivan3448 sounds like you have fond memories of cooking with your mom 😀

[@americandee7721]

I love that she cooks. I love it. It's amazing. Nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife/mother.

[@jonaskeepauthor1935]

Before my wife and I met we both cooked our own food from scratch the vast majority of the time. When we got together we had a bit of a windfall and began eating more like a North American by eating out a lot and having plenty of processed and fried foods. We have gone back for two main reasons, it was getting kinda expensive, and we were both feeling awful while we seeing our health go down the drain. This woman might not be cooking in a realistic sense, but good on her for actually putting in some effort regarding her food.

[@Blue_J-th2fd]

Thank you for talking about this, Brett. While I don’t consider myself a feminist, nor do I at all subscribe to any modern feminist ideology, I still don’t relate with the homemaker/trad wife lifestyle and I still want to work to contribute to our household. I don’t demand higher wages, I don’t have a high drive for promotion, I just want to make my own money for security purposes in this stupid economy. Because that’s what I was born into. I don’t see myself becoming a trad wife, homemaker, or anything of the like, but I struggle with the thought of missing out on watching my future children grow up. It’s a sucky world we live in, and I wish things were different, but here we are. Stuck in between. So, I just need to make the most of the time that I’ll get with my family when I can… but, that’s how I’m doing life. Whatever any woman decides to do with her life, be it traditional or modern, that’s fine. Don’t tear down others in their pursuit of happiness that they have a right to. Do what you want, and be an inspiration and an encouragement to others, but allow others to choose their own path in the end.

[@Greekgal101]

Brett thanks so much for your vids ur such an inspiration for young teens like me thanks so much Brett

[@jowiens32]

An ex friend of mine, shamed another ex friend of hers, for posting that she loved staying home to take care of her home, and family. Needless to say, there’s plenty of reasons shes no longer my friend, or that of several others as well.

[@jenren999]

Why did I never think I could have been making cereal this whole time!? Of all the things I’ve make from scratch, cereal was never one I ever thought about. Genius!!

[@ange7679]

"Conservatism in Disguis-" "OH NO, oh my Goddd, God forbiddd!" 🤣🤣🤣

[@Viperkingttv]

That cookies an cream looks soo good

[@PinoyFun-Tastic]

Many of us do the same thing everyday and we still have to run our own business. It’s all about time management. Being a wife and a mother is not a “cult” thing!

[@simonstapletondotcom]

Well said Brett. Back in my day, if I didn't like something I changed the channel on the TV, or switched off. I voted with the remote control. What I really don't understand is why the people who are triggered by very innocent and passive content don't just go watch something else

[@martypoll]

As a guy I could have made similar videos. My very guy thing was to brew beer but I also had a $600 gelato machine and far outdid Oreo soft serve. I cooked from scratch, shopped at farmers markets (San Francisco Ferry Building), and . . . hold on! . . . made my own custom recipe dog food for my two (now deceased) Jack Russell Terriers. Fortunately for my own mental sanity this was long before people shamelessly exposed the intimate details of their lives on visual social media.

[@PB_324]

I love this comment. People filming mundane events for attention and pats on the head annoy the heck out of me.

[@rinwesley3092]

@@PB_324 Sometimes people film their hobbies. It's not always for getting 'attention and pats'. Stop being so bitter and you'll be less annoyed by mundane things.

[@AnnieHannah-m6u]

The anger and hatred of these people is so sad..

[@salemthorup9536]

The domestic sphere has been demonized, even in the Mormon culture. As a conservative Mormon mom, i can tell you what my experience has been. These women glamorizing and glorifying the domestic sphere are just standing up for those of us who don't have the same resources to do so. Being a homemaker is glorious. It is also essential. It doesn't need to look ugly and messy. But it's OK if it isn't perfect. I just don't think these women are trying to pretend it needs to look perfect. They just don't need to show any of the mess to the public cause the public is savage and unsafe.

[@SE-hh4vx]

If you are mormon you can't divorce. He has a kid with another woman!how can he be a mormon?

[@katymartin9026]

@@SE-hh4vx Who told you that? Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints AKA "Mormons" can totally get a divorce if needed. We take our marriage vows very very seriously - as anyone should - so divorce is rare and not taken lightly, but it's still "allowed" especially in cases of abuse or infidelity. The Church just strongly encourages counseling first when applicable - once again, as anyone should - before filing for divorce. Hope this helps clear up your confusion.

[@PraiseroftheLivinGod]

That was mad smooth the way she introduced ruff foods, lol.

[@shoulderdestroyer6124]

Whenever I see home cooked made meals on social media. remind me of my mom cooking as a kid. I miss those days

[@lolingo]

this is the problem with the internet, just information everywhere so you can pick and choose which ones to leave out.

[@IamBracken]

Flawless ad transitions as always 🫡💁🏻‍♀️

[@photadyta]

I had a degree, career, house, car, child by age 22. I moved out when I was 20. I vowed to never live with a man, get married, etc. I was the total opposite that I am now. I was motivated, passionate, angry, but I BURNED out by 27. I felt like I had lived my whole life in the span of 10 years. If I died tomorrow, I'd be complete. I gave up the lifestyle I had at the time and got married and now I'm a stay at home mom and my life is a lot less stressful. I've always been happy with my choices, but things change and my life reflects that. I want to stay happy so I flow with life to keep a grip on whatever happiness looks like for me at the moment. I also fell in love and it's been incredible. I never thought that would happen for me. I changed my mind. I changed my life. I changed who I dated. I grew up. Don't judge people for the choices they make. In the future, your situation may change as well.

[@nyguy-tp5sn]

Wow! Good for you! So impressed with your character

[@jrjamon9686]

My husband and I and our toddler live on one income. I make a little on the side that usually just helps ends meet and sometimes helps us go on little outings as a family. 90% of all the food we eat is made from scratch. I make my son goldfish from scratch every couple of weeks, and most of his little snacks are homemade. It’s amazing to me how many people think that being a “trad wife” or being a homemaker is so unattainable. It requires sacrifice and dedication, but it’s possible.

[@_diet_coke]

It's jealousy. The hate is coming from jealousy.

[@Toluajagbe]

You’re spot on!!!! This needs to be said! I was so shocked that people were annoyed?

[@heatherwoods5703]

Restoring the ART to homemaking is lovely. I also appreciate seeing someone actually cooking in their gorgeous kitchen. How many people have expensive and beautiful kitchens as a status symbol, but rarely even cook? This woman does. 💪💗

[@manguy01]

Homemade ice cream is infinitely better than store-bought. If you haven't had it, you're missing out. It's a genuine treat.

[@hannahkistemaker756]

I am 28. I had my corporate job. I got married started working from home, had a baby, was laid off bc of the economy. I never planned on being a stay at home mom. But now I would not trade it for the world! I am fueled by cooking and raising my daughter and doing house work. Not everyone is made for this, but I certainly am.

[@jencrews]

These are the thoughts and feelings I had when watching this video… First, I had a memory of being in my condo on a snowy day in the late 90s watching Martha Stewart on her PBS show as she wrapped her videotape cases in fabric. I was enthralled and I thought… Someday I will do that with my videotape cases! Thankfully videotapes disappeared so I never had to do it, but watching it was incredibly relaxing and enjoyable and a wonderful way to spend the day home from work eating soup. Back then, when it snowed we stayed home from work. I feel similar emotions watching this beautiful woman make treats for her family. Second, I thought about the fact that the world seems to be filled with two types of people… People who create things and people who sit in judgment of those people who create things. Lastly, I decided that any posts on X/Twitter that sound like they’re part of a college dialogue should be dismissed out of hand. I’m thinking of the woman who actually used the term “intersection” in a tweet. For fucks sake! That’s everything.

[@billm5555]

My Mom was the City Clerk (the position just below Mayor) of a small South Florida City. And this is exactly how she did things.

[@scufflebuggy1259]

Exactly right everything about what you said. I’m a sahm, it is very hard and the most fulfilling thing I could ever do. I make almost everything from scratch and it is a thankless job mostly. But there are MANY moments when I know I’m doing the right thing by my family because my children are turning into the most beautiful people inside and out.

[@patrickarmer3160]

We Love Brett Cooper ❤

[@ladycrystalr-u.s.a]

Well, I'm weirded out by someone who uses the words "Sketched Out". It's very telling. Imagine being "sketched out" by other Women succeeding, achieving, and doing better by their children. 🇺🇲

[@nikkielliott08]

So, me taking my toddler to the park and grocery store, teaching her life skills, cooking healthy food, and keeping my home clean is “life-sapping work?” It sure feels a lot more like life-giving work than when I stared at a computer in an office for 8 hrs a day.

[@Rita_Costa]

People are disgusting, everything has to be a problem, I have followed Nara for a long time, and I find her content beautiful. I have a corporate job from 9 to 6, a toddler, a husband, a very cringy dog, and another baby on the way, and SOMETIMES when I do have time, I do those things too, because thats my love language, because I love to cook and my family loves to eat!! I do not post on social media because I am not comfortable with it. But she is, and kudos to her; she's beautiful and talented. I love her, and thank you, Brett, for sharing another social problem. I love you too 🤍

[@gemsandpearlswithlove]

So many good points here! I LOVE being a homemaker with traditional values! It has been such a blessing to me and my family💕🎀

[@mminniear984]

She literally made ice cream 😂 I know tons of people that make their own ice cream. It’s a fun things to for the kids. Some people 🤦🏻

[@chrisallum9044]

How can this women do this? Doesn't she realize that there is a boss out there somewhere that doesn't give a shit about her she could be serving instead of her own loving husband and family! Won't someone please think of the corporations!

[@ivan5083]

The problem that I have with this is her undead way of talking, and the intonation from hell where she ends every sentence like it's a question.

[@_Cortney-]

Everything you said is 100% spot on!

[@Whistlen_Dixie]

I had to come to your channel and find this video because it popped up in my feed, and I was watching it, but there was no description under it. There was no like or dislike button. There was no comment section. It was just the video playing and then recommended videos underneath it. First time I’ve ever seen this trick and unfortunately I study KZbin 10+ hours a day!.

[@joyfulchristina]

It is true that being a housewife does put a person at a little bit of a financial risk, but only in the sense of it might take a little while to provide for yourself in the same way you were being provided for if you wind up divorced. However, that just goes to show the importance of choosing well who you marry, and being vigilant on making sure your marriage stays healthy (both parties must do this).

[@CB-ks9vw]

Yes and financially speaking it’s different for the wealthy. If they get a divorce the stay at home wife or lesser wealthier spouse - make off pretty well. Its unfortunately one of the reasons why so many women choose divorce nowadays

[@MisterMonsterMan]

I love my SAHM. She is the most important person in the family and we couldnt function without her.

[@animusadvertere3371]

People who demand to be respected for their opinions, but do not respect others for their opinions, such people deserve no respect.

[@Arno_vanZyl]

You know. The days I spent further away from the internet are the days I am sincerely happier. Hahaha. Love ya content Brettyyyyyy

[@raedorin979]

I tried the oreo thing and if you keep your ice cream maker in the freezer it only took about 50 minutes and tasted amazing.

[@Momofhorror28]

I love the fact that me being a SAHM bothers so many people lol they cant admit they want the same things because they have been told that girls need to be like men. I got tired of being in my masculine energy, I enjoy being the female that I am naturally.

[@CMBBenjamin-ox2eu]

Making ice cream together will always be better than going to McDonald’s for a McFlurry. You were just missing the man. 7:19

[@Kbethany516]

Just started being a SAHM. Even though we will be making less money on one income the joy my child has knowing I am home, me being 100% less stressed and appreciated by the right people, and my husband finally being able to get the respect he deserves has been worth it. I would rather be poor than move up the corporate ladder any day.

[@Esmeralda-2003]

​@@Jaycee979 She's not glorifying being poor. She's saying that she's very happy in spite of the financial conditions.

[@TheSulross]

if nothing else, just listening to this lady's voice is calming and soothing - which makes viewing her cooking activity kind of mesmerizing

[@emma_luce_0623]

I watched that soft serve video when she released it, I was so happy because it looks so delicious and I thought that he was so lucky. I tried to find a recipe similar too. Not once did I think anything negative, some people are just too much