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[@thedavidboland]

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[@user-jz6to8md3c]

Im 56 and 24/7 alone no friends no family i can really relate.

[@thedavidboland]

[@MadonnaGrogan]

Worse to be with awfull company

[@tomasmigmon2751]

No worse to not be able to socialize and be likable because you have autism

[@SideB1984]

When I lost my ability to train and compete in triathlons, I lost that entire network over time. Then I was heavily discriminated against in corporate and stopped working due to my disabilities and lost that network as well. I never had a supportive family. I'm not a feminine lady, so I repel most men. Women in disability communities have a terrible victim mindset so I don't fit in there either. I'm autistic, but not autistic enough to fit into support groups. I'm just rowing my little boat along, financially independent, chillin with my little dog.

[@thedavidboland]

thank you and say hey to your dog

[@cestmoi7829]

Touching & I have had a similar experience to a lesser degree. Hugs from me 🤗 an ex Traithlete that was also forced to stop & lost my network / friends

[@SideB1984]

@@cestmoi7829 hugs right back at ya! I met a few other ex triathletes who've shared similar experiences. Belonging is hard when you don't fit neatly in boxes.

[@cestmoi7829]

@@SideB1984 what I have learnt in life the closest friends can and just do disappear; and those who you sometimes don’t expect step up and surprise. Life is a journey and journeys are best enjoyed when new roads are travelled. Great videos btw - you have reflected & worked out a lot at such a young age; shows you have lived so bravo and long may it deliver moments of joy

[@SideB1984]

@@cestmoi7829 over time I have learned the same, that not everyone can come along with you. It works both ways and is always evolving. 💞

[@marcmeinzer8859]

Most people are quite shallow and superficial so the more intense you are the harder it will be to connect with others. For one thing, dull normal people think that bright people are weird. And then also the older you get the more isolated you tend to become. Old people are pretty much impossible to get together with even if you have aged into being one of the old people. Then if you outlive your relatives you’ll become a hermit for the most part.

[@mar8542fckjux]

I used to go shopping or drinking with my friends and I hated it. We were wasting hours in shops and that supposed to be an entertainment. I was doing this because I wanted to have friends and that was what they wanted to do in their free time. During pandemic when shops and pubs were closed I was the happiest person because we started to cycle together. Today I have totally different group of friends and I feel so privileged to know them and spend time with them, which never feels like a waste.

[@thedavidboland]

I feel similar about my friends, it's beautiful

[@beatleme2]

At 51 years old I came to the realization I don't need anybody except my wife of 13 yrs and one good friend my mom, then my wife of 13 yrs passed within 3 mths of cervix cancer tumor 8 1 23 we/she thought was menopause n butt pain, now what to do? .. Now at 52 loneliness is awful n compounded by used to having someone 24/7 to love n be loved, feel so broken... no friends n only a sis that comes by here n there n has her own life.

[@TheAleksandros]

same here but im 29. broke up with my gf, have a sis, one good friend n my parents. Im afraid Im gonna grow old with creeping loneliness losing all of them along the way. This world is shit

[@beatleme2]

@@TheAleksandros yes it really can be, no matter how hard we try, fate has its own way with us :(...all we can do is try to control how we feel inside and guard our emotions, our mind... but yep at 29 i was where you were, 20 yrs goes by quick, n truly didn't think I'd live this long nor wanted too, hence why I smoked, but at least thought I'd grow old with someone n not have them die unexpectedly :( n left with one parent and a sis in the world...keep ur connections they r your bridges

[@TheAleksandros]

@@beatleme2 thanks, Im trying my best to have my connections in tact, but it's hard to break through all the hopelessness. I hope it all balances itself out for us somehow, so that at least we have peace of mind in the end if nothing else

[@lillierose5304]

I've given up on trying to make friends. Atleast for now.

[@Bathing.in.Emptiness]

I'm 64 years old, retired, and divorced with no friends, no social media, and a toxic family, after being married for 30 years. Friends and people are WAY overrated! I'll take my solitude and tranquility any day of the week ❤ Nature is my love language !

[@thedavidboland]

glad you are enjoying solitude my friend!

[@aaronbrock9480]

I didn’t have any friends but I’m a runner so I started running with other people but I’ve always enjoyed running by myself. Today, I ran with friends and then ran by myself. Best of both.

[@thedavidboland]

nice, I like running too

[@theguynextdoor4978]

It's a part of life. People can sometimes be right for us at a certain point in life. As years ago by we change and so does our priorities, outlook on life and interests. People will sometimes come and go. Being in the wrong company can feel lonely too.

[@grubhubboogieman6125]

honestly, im so glad i stumbled upon ur videos! i found one of ur videos about how not everyone will like you and your words helped me bring a lot of reassurance and comfort to be okay with being disliked. i struggle with people-pleasing tendencies, so for me to just be able to find a peace of mind and not craving the need to be validated by everyone's opinions felt nice. thank you for that and for ur wise words. it means a lot to me.

[@ebruozyurek5266]

This video feels like a warm hug 🫂

[@michaelbugner7011]

Very uplifting. I've been craving companionship lately. Romantic and platonic. My mentor says if you're lonely, there something about yourself that you're still not OK with. Kinda like what you said about needing to know your self worth. I had that issue before starting therapy and meeting my mentor. I've done a lot of self improvement and now need to find events to go to so I can find like minded people. You kind of just gave me the motivation to do that.

[@elizabethc9406]

Loneliness stays with you, sometimes always

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[@JustDontCare406]

There's comfort in loneliness.

[@m0thdm]

We on the journey with you brother

[@bhangg_high]

100%

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[@dragonspitch4rk]

This story feels so similar to mine. Was fortunate to find a wife in the midst of my falling out with friends and family after my “awakening”. I quit drinking (plus more) daily in 2018 and have been building a new me and a new life since.

[@GringoNation]

Thanks for sharing, David! As a 10-year solo traveler, this struck a chord with me. When I go back to my home town, I often feel like I've outgrown my group of friends too. And drinking is the one thing we all have in common. I'm almost 40 and my body just can't take that sort of pace anymore. When I travel, I'm able to take it easy on myself a little more. A work in progress. Thanks again!

[@juefous]

I think, that you need to be your own friend first to attract folk that align with your values. I am in a poaition where i can go travelling and dissapearing physically to find myself. However, my gut feeling is saying no way it wil help me. So what i did, i deleted everything from my phone. Especially the contacts. And told myself that folk wjo are meant to stay in my life will reach out. Boxed all the possessions in the house, when unboxing i binned everytjing that does not serve me anymore. I started running, meditating, dont have a tv, no netfilx, no prime. I dont even have internet. It has only been a week, but i am feeling so much betterm And it is interesting how the act of letting go started bringing peace and amazing folk into my life, at the speed of light 💚✌️

[@thedavidboland]

wishing you peace on your journey my friend!

[@cestmoi7829]

Hi, we are all alone - people come & go through the years; enjoy each moment but most importantly know thy self & learn to be happy alone; if only for a moment until the next …

[@NicoSchweinzer]

You are incredible and wonderful. I'd take a friend like that in a heartbeat.

[@dieKathrinDistel]

I simply love that full stop at the end of LONELINESS. 🧡

[@thedavidboland]

me too!

[@kavbob2772]

Great video mate, I'm in the same place after drinking less, having children and concentrating on my music. Some of my circles are still acting like there in there 20's when were all middle aged now. I feel like I don't fit there vision of me anymore because I'm not the same, some accept it, even encourage it and are like family, will always be, while others are upset with me for moving on. Life always changing, enjoy the ride and you drive the car, not someone else.

[@thedavidboland]

thanks for sharing

[@TommiTuominen1975]

I have voluntarily given up all people - we just don't fit for each other. On Monday I intend to waive my unemployment benefit. I don't want anything to do with this system anymore. I don't wanna work or even live anymore. I'm disappointed to myself, people and this world and what it represents to me - money, money, money & power. Nothing else. And I have absolutely nothing to offer to this world. I was a songwriter but nobody appreciates this only gift I thought i had. Maybe I was wrong. Well, anyway, I'm too depressed to go further with this complaining - i shouldn't even have started - so I just say bye.

[@marcinromuald]

Dude! 10/10 I can relate 100%. Being this open to fellow human beings not only gave me the level of inner-calm I was looking for, but also helped me grow to the peson I am suppose to be. To do what I was made to do.

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[@jamie.miller.inspiring]

So very true, when we no longer resonate with anything we energetically repel it and it repels us to move onto different timelines for different experiences once we outgrow certain patterns, belief systems, ways of being. We are constantly evolving and changing as an individual, especially if we so choose to embrace the bigger changes that the outer has to change and reflect out current inner state of being :)

[@thedavidboland]

thanks jamie :)

[@DailyTopTenner]

A wise woman told me. Better to be on your own, than badly accompanied. I found out how shabbily my stalking neighbours treat each other the other day. My boyfriends would not even swear inside the house or want to hit me. I can see a whole area of my life where I have sweet smelling roses. However, when there are stalkers close by you will always need to guard yourself. Best wishes to all the lonely people, your not really alone

[@SisterSherryDoingStuff]

Always something good to reflect on - thank you, David.

[@thedavidboland]

thank you too

[@kaysodog]

Dear David, thank you, these are very honest and open insights to common feelings we may have coming and going in our lives. I am having one period like this now. You honor us with plain talk that we need human to human. You’re on your way to being a great wizard.

[@bhangg_high]

Beautiful stories and positive reminders. Thank you David.

[@thedavidboland]

thank you

[@grubhubboogieman6125]

just to share a bit about myself. i know i used to really hate being alone and i'd often cry about how pathetic i was for just being alone and hating myself for it, but i learned to practice being uncomfortable and learn to make amends and be comfortable with being alone. this soon became a result of me just isolating and also feeling unworthy in making connections. but i recently had a therapist appointment and she helped me see that i do have value and the more i put myself out there in uncomfortable social situations. i realize it's not as bad as it may seem to me before and that i am not as boring of a person as i appear to be when i begin to enjoy the connections and people i interact with. im currently in college right now so getting involved on campus like joining extracurriculars help me by a lot. in all honesty, i still do struggle with making close friends, but im also just learning to be okay with just having a lot of acquaintances too. so i really appreciate how insightful you are when dealing with topics such as these.

[@thedavidboland]

thanks so much for sharing

[@HomemakerDaze]

It's soooo hard to have anxiety and make friends. My only local friend is moving 😢

[@thedavidboland]

I hear you.

[@Adam-pd7lh]

Your latest videos are very related to my recent life situations. It is as if God or universe sent it to me. Thank you David, this was very eye-opening video.

[@thedavidboland]

glad you're finding some solace :)

[@nihilisticsoup2919]

Excellent David! Followed you for over a year now, great channel and always sage advice!

[@thedavidboland]

aw cheers

[@shannonlera3844]

Brilliant!

[@WildBakerCrew]

But when you keep moving, and you travelled a lot, how you do ? Who wants a friend they never see ? We are in a society where we are consumers, friendship, relationship is also about that, we just want friends that make us important most of the time (pareto law). And as an adult, over 30-35... When everybody around is married, have kids, a house, a settled life, well, it is even harder, my point of view is we live in the most connected period with the most easiest way to reach friends, but in the end it is the most loneliest for most of human kind. But at the end, I know nothing about friendship 😅

[@thedavidboland]

it's possible, you can do it if you want to

[@Riverman63]

Some great advice mate. Most interesting

[@michaelconnolly7681]

Excellent video

[@thedavidboland]

cheers Michael!

[@user-tp2gn5lv9v]

I would say life is a very strange adventure.. I did not notice any accumulation of anything at all....

[@JustDontCare406]

Sometimes maybe it's you.

[@Whishitwassummer-wd2uh]

this doesnt exist. just computer code algorithms showing me , guiding me like gods. i am just david.

[@thedavidboland]

:o

[@Whishitwassummer-wd2uh]

all all all fake.... XD 🌛🌜🌛🌜

[@jasonnielsen6886]

I have short term memory from car accident and your utube video is helpful in time where I’m gonna have to find new friends and start all over. Appreciate your company and words thank you