YIKES-"HAD A BABY WITH THE WRONG WOMAN NOW THE KIDS ARE SUFFERING"| Thee Mademoiselle ♔

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you guys so much for tuning in to me on Fox Soul the other night I will let you guys know when the permanent link is up ♥️🙏🏽 This conversation is one that I feel like many do not speak about especially men. What do you think are the dangers of having children with the wrong people? ✨Join the email list to stay updated (don’t worry you won’t be spammed 🙃) mailchi.mp/ac76ce411d2f/theemafiaemails Let’s discuss this video! Join my Discord 💬 discord.gg/VcMhayTjZD 💚 Subscribe to Haitian channel: kzbin.info/door/YYfjodFlgAQaZeoywpGblQ Got a video suggestion? docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeOFWfzqnBcSopytz-mBfyJcqpb4dG8TstFbz02am8jXysbpA/viewform?usp=pp_url 👚 Get your merch if you haven’t yet: teespring.com/stores/theemafiamerch?aid=marketplace 💚⬇️ GET YOUR MEDIA HUSTLE PLANNER www.amazon.com/dp/B08S2SNLHK/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=media+hustle+planner&qid=1609902998&sr=8-5 💚⬇️ BOOK A 1 0N 1 CONSULTATION WITH ME TO GROW YOUR KZbin CHANNEL: square.site/book/40ME38HENQ1YB/media-hustle 💚 JOIN THE MEDIA HUSTLE NETWORKING GROUP!!!!! facebook.com/groups/346231393161877 💚 Join Media Hustle Email List For More Tips! mailchi.mp/7ad9f03e6d1f/mediahustleemaillist 💚 Follow Media Hustle on Instagram and Twitter for Media Advice: @MediaHustleCo www.Twitter.com/MediaHustleCo www.Instagram.com/MediaHustleCo ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• 💚 STAY CONNECTED 🌐 STALK ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA: @TheeMlle www.Instagram.com/TheeMlle @TheeMlle www.Twitter.com/TheeMlle @TheeMlle www.Facebook.com/TheeMlle 💚➡️ Wanna send me something? 💚 Here’s My PO BOX 📦 : Yvana Romelus OR Thee Mademoiselle 162 Elmora Ave #224 Elizabeth, NJ 07202

[@cvzdez]

I missed it

[@cvzdez]

Post the linl

[@cvzdez]

Post the video link

[@islandgirl8067]

Men and women need to be more responsible in situations like this. If men don't want to co parent with a woman then they should take steps to avoid getting them pregnant. Women need to stop using pregnancy to fix a bad relationship, keep a man, or chase a bag. The innocent children are the ones that suffer the most. By the way, this Shumake Way guy is fake; he's a panderer.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Waiiit realllt I like him 😒😩🤣 I don’t see him pandering how so….

[@Jasmiyn123]

Exactly, and some women be going with men that's in a relationship already. Like back in the day. A lot of women would literally go with someone knowing that he's In a relationship. At then act like their kids was going to have the same relationship as their other siblings. And it's also weird how some men put their selves in situations to where they know that they aren't going to co parent properly or be In a child life

[@cocoblessings]

Shumake is legitimate. He’s no panderer but everything else that you said is true.

[@cocoblessings]

@@TheeMademoiselle: Shumake is cool! I like him too. He’s legit.

[@paigelovette8156]

👏👏👏👏

[@viceanterra3]

That dude speaks nothing but the truth. My YT feed is basically filling up with ppl who hold *everyone* accountable and don't pick sides.

[@limitedreach4446]

These people know what they’re getting themselves into before they have babies by these people and then proceed to complain.

[@Melly16yr10]

Insanity

[@chiamaka_okafor]

that always ticks me off and i don't feel sorry for them

[@fivestarfuego]

Lol my momma bc apparently Me and my other 3 sisters are “too expensive” like why have kids if you first off don’t even have job. 😭😭😭

[@shutit4024]

If he has 2/3/4 baby moms you should already know what you’re getting yourself into and signed yourself up to be a single parent

[@shutit4024]

@@fivestarfuego I know somebody’s parent that’s like that too have all those kids and got mad because they were hungry and she says “ we don’t have food” “ don’t ask me for sh*t” “ I don’t have money” and got expired food in the house 🤦🏽‍♀️ that was really sad

[@Ohemaamary]

I grew up in a two parent household and I was a daddy’s girl too. My family wasn’t perfect but my parents made sure that I was loved and cared for. I had friends that grew up in single parent household. I had a friend who didn’t have the best relationship with his father which I always thought was sad because of how his father would treat him. He was barely in his life. It’s really sad when children have to grow up with a single parent. It’s good to have both parents. I’m not saying that you can’t thrive in a single parent household but it’s essential. Also I think it’s important to be careful who you have children with. It’s detrimental to a child’s life to not have a stable home environment. At the end of the day the children’s happiness should come first. Sometimes the child grows to resent the parents.

[@shemeciahaskell322]

There are many children who grow up in single parent households who have great relationships with their father. Also just because your parents live in the same household doesn't equate to happiness because I know plenty of people who grew up in toxic two parent households . As long as both parents love and care for children whether together or divorced the children will thrive.

[@Ohemaamary]

@@shemeciahaskell322 I agree with you I’m not saying that you can’t thrive in a single parent household. I do agree with you on having loving parents that care for you matters regardless. I was just talking about my experiences.

[@shutit4024]

@@shemeciahaskell322 true mine went from a toxic unhealthy 2 parents household to a one single parent household

[@Siredgey]

@@shemeciahaskell322 na but the structure created by the nuclear family dynamic helps bring more highly functioning adults into the world. And that is a FACT

[@shemeciahaskell322]

@@Siredgey I agree, I never doubted that however better one loving and emotionally stable parent than two dysfunctional ones.

[@guavaguava3339]

Men with mommy issues are truly terrifying.

[@hermon1499]

!!! The way they are so oblivious when it comes to how they treat you is beyond me.

[@fivestarfuego]

it’s terrible

[@hapiaz]

They are the scariest.

[@eulywade9745]

Nah Men with daddy issues *y’all tripping statistics prove single mother raise more criminals and people under poverty line than anyone else

[@guavaguava3339]

@@eulywade9745 reading is fundamental. Please read my comment again.

[@joneshalj]

It's definitely detrimental to be told "we're poor" or "we can't afford it" regularly as a child. I for one felt uncomfortable growing up being let in on the financial situation. A lot of the time, I wished I could just be a kid and not know, you know.

[@dani.1170]

this

[@---re9jc]

If you are man having side chicks in your marriage, you're not a good dad. Expecting the woman to put up with that and then say you're a good dad????

[@amyxmay3677]

That has nothing to do with the kid though, he’s just a bad husband not necessarily a bad dad

[@---re9jc]

@@amyxmay3677 Tell the children that when divorce is in the cards and the home is now broken. If want to be a great parent get with a person you see a future with and stop making single women single mothers. This also applies to women too.

[@eboninoelle08]

@@amyxmay3677 it does! The child will feel the tension and the effects of that side chick will effect the FAMILY. You can’t seprarte the two, good dad and good partner, because the child grows up seeing that and it effects them psychologically as they grow up and into their adult life. People thinking you can be the greatest father in the world yet the worst husband don’t truly understand what it means to be a father/man.

[@kaylam8707]

@@amyxmay3677 You can't be a bad spouse and be a good dad. Because what example are you teaching your children? That cheating is ok? That substance abuse is ok? That mental, emotional, physical, and financial abuse is ok? That disrespect is ok? That lacking integrity is ok? Kids know a lot more than parents are aware of. You can't raise your son into being a good man when you aren't one yourself!

[@amyxmay3677]

@@kaylam8707 Okay, That will affect the child and it won't set the greatest example but I still don't think that you're a terrible dad if you're not a good husband. If you're there for the kids, kind to them, provides for them and spends time with them then you are a good father. also I'm not talking about physical abuse, cause that's a bit much.

[@jaebennett2826]

It’s good to hear a man say this I’m tired of the blame always be on the woman

[@jaebennett2826]

@F A y’all try to force women to take it and don’t have a opinion about the deadbeat dads at all

[@kimr1760]

@F A op comment was about men's accountability, but you still made it about women. The video is a man taking the responsibility of his actions, which is why we all clicked the video to gain insight...but ok neo, carry on. Smh!

[@jaebennett2826]

@@kimr1760 right he proved my point flipping it on women

[@lg-snnedcc2136]

@F A yes a lot of women do take accountability and just because you don't hear or see it doesn't mean it don't happen

[@lro001]

It starts with the man; the woman should NEVER have this much responsibility….it takes two.

[@deeb8282]

My ex and I did the same thing 50/50 custody. I would have my son 3 nights and his father had him the other 3 nights. It worked out nobody paid child support..we split the daycare and I had the insurance. Worked well for us!! We never went to court for custody..we did it on our own.

[@upstageproductions]

What about the 7th night?

[@deeb8282]

@@upstageproductions we would do every other weekend which Sunday one of us would have him.

[@MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom]

Now this is what in talking about

[@upstageproductions]

@@deeb8282 You need to open a couples mediation company. Well done to both of you.

[@9.sugarandspice]

this. I believe in this method because once the courts get involved they take all decision-making abilities from both parents

[@brittanyguyton3987]

Both men and women need to be very careful who they create a child with. If you don't want to care for a child, take the necessary steps to not create one. A child should not have to suffer for their parents foolish mistakes. Unfortunately, a lot have and still are.

[@minneymcdollas1629]

I remember my granny use to say “no I don’t have it” but she always had another card (credit) card she would use to eventually purchase what we wanted. But she also never wanted us to be without so we had necessities and a few luxuries during the year. I appreciate her so much because she alway made a way 💜 RIP GG 🥰

[@pfb74]

I never want to have children. (I'm a lesbian) so the idea of conception is expensive, invasive and faulty. As well as I personally don't want to raise children in a nontraditional household because other kids are mean, those kids parents may be mean and speak harshly and then my kids are outcasts 🙃 Hating me or my to be wife because we were selfish and decided to have children. I didn't like my childhood. Fixing how I think because of what I experienced in my childhood is exhausting and an uphill battle 24/7. It's just not necessary. If I did want kids maybe I'd adopt but nah I really am against the idea of kids. I'm okay.

[@Jasmiyn123]

I think that men should also stop putting their selves in a situation to where they have to co parent. A lot of baby daddy's cheated or abused their bm and play victim later or get mad at court decision. Also some women should stop going with men knowing that the relationship isn't going to work out. Bc a lot of women already know how their bd is before they lay with each other. And co parenting isn't hard if the ppl that co parents are mature and respect each other decisions

[@TheCynicalOne_]

This is why I’m pro contraception. It reduces the possibility of these type of tragedies

[@LuvKitKatt]

I’m pro you stop f.a w people knowing you can bring in kids with the wrong women or men

[@cvzdez]

I am getting divorced but my husband is a great dad so far

[@cvzdez]

People need to realized when you get married there needs to be mutual sacrifices Both women and men Yeah she is not your perfect buddy He is not your perfect prince charming But are they good people They treat you good They help out in the household contribute They are emotionally healthy goodnin spirit. To be me I will stay and that is 100% But many men want to switch out when things are not the top top dream ideal person.

[@cherryblossom1134]

Can we talk about how beautiful and natural she is😍😍😍😍👑👸🏽

[@abenabeautiful3639]

@ 22:07 thank you for the small bit you mentioned about marriage. A lot of people also like to say theres no point in getting married and wanna tie that to why the divorce rate is so high. but People really out here getting married to people that they aren't compatible with... ( Pickles❤️)

[@tkjspeaks1491]

I think ppl heavily forget about the legal aspect of marriage too... if your bf/gf/bd/bm THE PERSON YOU LOVE is injured or unresponsive YOU HAVE NO SAY SO (in the states at least) It’s level to this life

[@siewitnessnews]

I found out a few months ago that Plan B actually has a weight limit that determines its effectiveness; if you weigh more than 175 lbs it's less likely to work. Something else for people consider when they're trying to use it for primary contraception vs. emergency contraception (which is its intended purpose).

[@aimbotnikki6301]

As someone who grew up in a back and forth household. I’m traumatized. Idc I would never let my kids go through that. My dad was a narc and used me to hurt my mother he never wanted me. If I ever was to split with my child’s parent they coming with ME there will be no custody battles nothing. There’s too many men out there if one can’t step up another will. A great man stepped up for my mother and sisters and I was left to be raised by my father cuz my mom thought it was a better option. 😭 my father let me be abused by my step mother cuz she was mad he was cheating. Idc I’m leaving the country if a man ever tried to do the same.

[@karinal75]

I actually like Michael Shumake. It’s very sensible and is big on accountability. He’s a real one.

[@Tabby112]

I grew up in a two parent household but my dad had my older sister from his previous marriage. Even though he was an active father he still paid child support. So my position on it has always been child support is meant to make up for what you would’ve paid if y’all were living together. Child care is a daily expense and both parents should be responsible for that daily expense. So if one parent is the primary parent they should be receiving child support. It’s not just for dead beats. It’s for whoever isn’t the primary guardian. If your child lives with the grandparents then the grandparents can request child support from the parents.

[@MegTelevised]

I was definitely an outlier among my black friends growing up. When I got to a PWI, my upbringing was normal. 2 parents, healthy household. I usually keep my home life silent because some black people get jealous

[@Deanna0456]

I used to find it hard to date. Men got jealous of my stable home life. It was nuts

[@MegTelevised]

@@Deanna0456 yes!! They always try to guilt me for having a Daddy who cares about me.

[@TrueCrimeTalkWithTaves]

I had a two parent home until 8 and then my parents divorced. But my dad still spoiled me and was very much in my life

[@felicias3angels523]

He also forgot to say a man can control if he release in a woman to prevent pregnancy 🤔

[@Nat0528]

Yea they always forgot that part!!!

[@CarmenSD]

Right, I don’t think this thought about enough. That’s why I say 95% of pregnancies are planned.

[@KiyaTheDon]

My siblings were so used to our parents being low on money and them saying no to things we wanted that once they started getting more money, it felt weird to ask for anything. This Christmas my mom asked what we wanted and she said she couldn't believe the list's were so small. 1/2 of that is because we're older and the other half is because we are stuck in that mental mindset that, "Ma can't afford that so don't ask." And it's crazy.

[@empress2300]

Just got out of a 3 year relationship in September with a man that has SEVERE mommy and daddy issues and let me just tell you it gets SCARY, his anger was through the roof and I NEVER ever ever thought he would threaten my life and put his hands on me. I believe men with mommy issues have a deep hatred for women in general.

[@joeroot9142]

Literally agreed

[@LuvKitKatt]

You never really know anyone 100%

[@tiptoeing4515]

They normally are angry because the mother had them. Most of the time to watch her struggle to take care of them.

[@Notanks228]

Where was he from girl? Sound like mine.

[@gringa23]

Marry for the right reasons

[@Naistov]

He reminds me of my own father. Has morals, wise, and take his responsibilities to heart. Cherish men like this!❤

[@malandro5104]

I used to be the little girl. My parents were married for two years before they had me though but I relate to missing your dad while living with your mum. I'd visit him every other weekend and I got along with him a lot more after my parents separated him because he was always at work and when he was home, he wasn't the most stable. KZbin would've considered my dad 'high value' because he had a good job, bought 4 bedroom house and gave my mum an allowance although he was raised working class by a single mother. Unfortunately, my dad would also claim my mum would live in a life of luxury for the child support money he was giving her... It was collectively £10, a £5 each month for me and my sister. That's not even a Starbucks. He eventually stopped working altogether not too long after the separation. Whenever men complain or even mention not seeing their kids and child support, I'll just assume they're like my dad and I've never been wrong. This man reminds me of what my dad used to say to our extended family in that he was always there etc. etc. but behind the scenes, there's always more they're not telling you. And even though I still love my dad deep down and speak to him, I know he's not someone I've ever been able to rely on financially and he'll get defensive if I ever mention he wasn't there for me when I was growing up. That's partly why I have a detached attachment style from my parents, I'm just used to them not being around.

[@AllThingsShaunda]

Are you going to watch more of his videos? He got popular from a video where he was telling Black men that Black women are getting fed up with them. He’s very insightful. And he looks like my brother 😂🤣

[@miesha.b8740]

I watch this guy all the time lol I was shocked at the thumbnail 😭😭

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I actually like him. Pretty chill. Someone sent him to me.

[@miesha.b8740]

@@TheeMademoiselle sameeee I learn a lot from watching his videos ❤️

[@BeachBrah247]

SAME

[@StopPlayingAtLife]

Same lol

[@Mystixspiral]

My mom would tell me when she didn’t have money as a kid, “we’ll come back for it next time” “there always next time”

[@fivestarfuego]

and then they never take you and spends it on themselves instead because “you’re too expensive” 😭😭🥴

[@LuvKitKatt]

@@fivestarfuego THIS RIGHT HEREEEEEEEEE

[@curlygirl9023]

When we were like toddlers up to about 1st grade my parents were on a strict budget… my parents had us in their early 20’s and they literally started from scratch.. they prioritized our home and having food, and safe cars to drive BUT they always tried their best to give us what we wanted and to create memories.. we never knew our parents didn’t have the means.. and we also didn’t go without clothing, new shoes, toys etc. they would take us to chuckie cheese 🧀 every month. And make sure we had a good time. Fast forward my parents are super financially stable and well off but they do talk to us about how tight things where when they couldn’t always get us what we want. So I’m glad they didn’t tell me… because I probably would have felt less than around certain peers

[@jlis889]

The same happened to me. Growing up, I got whatever I wanted, which, wasn't much all the time. And it wasn't all the time. It wasn't until when I turned 16 when my mom would tell me stories of how we struggled, ESPECIALLY when her and my dad had split for awhile (they're back together and married for about 15 years?). I'm glad I wasn't told either because it would of broke the illusion/innocence I had as a child. No child deserves to have to grow up fast, because adulting is hard lol

[@cvzdez]

I think men have daddy issues too.. the issue meaning they only had their mom so not balance in the house. And mom sometimes husband their sons of baby them. This is also result of dad's leaving too

[@deasyastarr]

So they really be having mommy and daddy issues. Women have both as well too from mothers babying their sons but then withholding love from their daughters.

[@grahamcrackerjay]

I think kids don't understand reality of the world. Even if you explain the harshness of the world. They're not mentally ready to hear all of that. And most who get shown the world so early tend to have a very harsh approach to life.. hustling, shady deals, and never feeling secure. They're innocent. So telling your kid your broke you can't have that is just wrong. Instead we should teach kids how to appreciate what they have and tell them you'd have to save up before you can get the toy they're looking at.

[@9.sugarandspice]

I don't think he should have to pay child support. they have 50/50 custody. when they're with him he's responsible for feeding and clothing.

[@nightingaleofficial3604]

50/50 custody is nice on paper but so impractical…no way kids are being raised with similar values and rules.

[@latortura1986]

Some women use it for themselves and are buying all kinds of things .my ex’s baby momma was doing that and she had other baby daddies but they wised up and took her to court to get less child support.

[@LG-oj5yy]

I am a witness to the saying "be careful who you have kids with"

[@honeyst6133]

Aye 💜 congratulations on fox soul

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

[@malachibenyisrael4621]

I don't think black people understand what accountability means.

[@RisingSun54321]

Exactly. Exploring the ways in which you are a failure is not accountability.

[@deasyastarr]

@@RisingSun54321 then what is accountability?

[@RisingSun54321]

@@deasyastarr Accountability denotes responsibility, not failure. Exercising responsibility first allows for a person to then be accountable. If you were never responsible you could then never be considered accountable .. you are then just a failure! "Don't do what I did" is not accountability, these are the words of someone who has never exercised responsibility... so this person is a complete failure!

[@cherryivana1129]

I’m ngl I have no sympathy for the man for procreating kids and marrying with the wrong woman. He should’ve chose better idc.

[@anndeecosita3586]

My parents are divorced. My parents didn’t have a bad relationship but my dad was active duty military and usually lived far away. To this day, we aren’t really close. My dad is remarried and my half brother grew up with two parents sort of because my dad was gone a lot. There were times I was told no because we didn’t have the money but it wasn’t for necessities. Like I begged my mom to go to boarding school. She told me at the time she didn’t want me to leave home before college but as an adult she admitted she couldn’t afford it. My mom’s bf’s kids went to boarding school. I grew up in a family where most people are married. it was common for the kids in my family and kids I went to school with to have to parents at home. However, many of the men in my family have a lot of extramarital affairs and some have outside kids (like TM’s dad does). But I’m middle class and Southern as far as culture. I also think a lot of men are only interested in taking care of their kids as long they are in a romantic relationship with the woman. I have seen a lot of men do more for and spend quality time with their stepkids and not their own.

[@langstonr2805]

My friends dad like that

[@butterupmyday4188]

Thee you should react to "MAPS" disturbing topic that needs to be known and not normalized

[@michulafrance117]

Dated a man with both daddy, grandparents and mommy issues. They lived in total dysfunction. RUNNN

[@msd9264]

As you said people don’t want to take accountability for their actions and like he said, think about those kids, you’d be surprised how many kids are totally traumatised because the parents made the mistake of not using ‘birth control’ or just having kids with someone that you don’t know enough or y’all don’t have a connection. It’s the poor kids that end up with issues in the long run. Think long and hard about who you make a child with.

[@jacqlinejones5648]

I grew up in a one parent household until my mom got remarried but that not to say my father wasn’t in my life, he very much was and even when both my mom and dad didn’t have it they’d let me know which I can honestly say I appreciated it a lot. My dad always told me that he’s not gonna promise me a red shiny bike and then come time I can’t get it meaning he’s not gonna make me a promise that he can’t keep and til this day that stuck with me and I say that now in my everyday life. I’d rather my parents keep the level honesty they showed then, because it gave me a real outlook on life in my opinion

[@Chrissiisoverit]

To get CASH ASSISTANCE from the state you need an Open Child Support case so Alot of Men that do take care of their child end up on it so the mom can get State Assistance

[@deasyastarr]

But what this comment makes me think about is: a lot of men don’t want women to have any kind of assistance yet she has to work and be a full time parent with no help to lighten the parenting load. They call bw welfare queens but what are they supposed to do when they have to foot the bill alone for ch*ldren that are expensive even for two parents to handle?

[@cvzdez]

My daughters miss their dad too because we lived together until she was 6yrs old. I really tried to stop us from getting a divorce and I understood the emotional conflict that would come. But I couldn't live in the situations of cheating and disrespect. Sadly some men don't see that when the want to love their Fake herum, single bachelor's life. Too me it was so easy of a choice deal with my husband that was not as affectionate , but he worked hard and was was a not so bad. Not my dream soul mate. But I know we could have loved q good life if we worked at it mutually. But some men want 2 sleep around leave you emotionally void and them it get worse because they don't make a mistake they really want to make it a lifestyle. This is what I have come to see with many of these men that cheat.. especially in the Haitian community. The second generation of women we really want out emotional sanity and we have security in work and child support.

[@michulafrance117]

Some men have to get on child support in order to see their child because his court appointed for visitation at that point. My brother had to deal with the same thing with his baby mama not wanting him to see his kids but Still wanted the financial support. When he moved on she got violent and crazy towards him. He got on child support so it was required for him to see his children. This way the mother can’t just say you can’t see your kids, the mother keeps the father away from the kids when they have a court appointed order he can temporarily get full custody of the children if she violates the order at all. Child support doesn’t only protect the mother it also protects the father. Mom can’t just up and leave cross state without communicating with the father first. The mother can’t just take the child whenever she wants either.

[@diyonnamaraj]

Men (parents) who have joint custody should NOT be paying child support! I said what I said!

[@Lakiki748]

Congratulations Yvana on Fox soul

[@kmack5647]

I didn't know my parents were struggling, but I didn't really want much as a child to realize it. My parents were very close with their family so family members helped make christmas miracles happen. It makes sense now as an adult, I just thought my parents werent materialistic. My dad is cheap even when he didnt need to be so I figured thats why I didnt have a lot we just had enough

[@ashleysartattack5600]

People are always shocked when I say that I had 2 parents that stayed married the whole time up until my father passed away. And no one in either side of my family have ever been divorced. There are no separations, step parents, step kids, half siblings. We just don’t believe in that, and it’s not a religious thing. We all just know that the person we marry is who you stay with no matter what for the sake of the kids. You work out your issues for the kids. And like you said, it’s not perfect. Some couples are toxic. But they’re trying their best for the sake of the whole family unit, and not thinking in a selfish way. Like they are mad so they’re going to just leave. Absolutely not. And guys get mad on dating sites all the time because I refuse to date anyone with kids. Because that’s showing me that you and I already dont have the same values. If you had children out of wedlock, our values dont align. If you are only 25 and you’ve been divorced and have kids, our values REALLY dont line up. You should’ve thought about your future more before choosing a partner to have children with. Cause when I get married, it’s one and done.

[@darklovely2431]

That was the most refreshing conversation I've heard from a man on the internet in a min. He spoke facts but I bet they was calling him all types of Simpson instead of listening smh

[@honestlady2942]

The shumake way seems like such a great guy!!!!

[@key2urheartg907]

That’s my classmate he really is!! Nvr been in trouble always in parades and stuff w/ his kids definitely follow his page!

[@secretlifeofalex7458]

literally just got notification and im already enjoying the video😭🤌🏾

[@TheeMademoiselle]

♥️♥️♥️

[@Epiphany428]

Men with mommy issues, the ones I dated, were verbally abusive and weird.

[@masked_shamaness9]

I don't get why he still have to pay child support when they have joint custody and the children stay with each parent equal amount of time?

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Child support like I explained is not about time spent. It’s for the child’s financial security net.

[@deasyastarr]

If it works for them then that’s that. He seems okay with it, why should anyone try to force other men to have issues with something that benefits their kids or works best for the coparenting situation.

[@masked_shamaness9]

@@TheeMademoiselle i understand its for the kids and its not based on time. But since they are 50/50 on everything including expenses both should be paying child support or neither. But if they must pay both should and the money should be put in a special account that both have access to, to use on the kids only.

[@masked_shamaness9]

@@deasyastarr it was a genuine question I had ,thee mademoiselle explained it. I understand its for the kids financial security. But I still think its unfair whether they chose the mother to pay child support, in a case where both parents is giving 50/50 why would they decide for one parent to pay child support.

[@deasyastarr]

@@masked_shamaness9 imo, I believe it’s because traditionally men are supposed to be the main financial providers for their families.

[@redgarnet27]

I think the statistics conflict depending on the area. I grew up with my brother and a single mother. Everyone else around me had 2 parents so I always felt like the oddball. When I went to middle school that’s when things started to change and people with similar circumstances as mine were more prevalent.

[@aquelairving6190]

I completely agree with your comment about men guarding their marriage and who they date more than their seed. I'll never forget when Chris brown said he'd have a baby with Rihanna but hesitated when asked if he'd marry her. The craziest thing to me

[@Lajuanitsme]

I feel you on that I been a single mother for years and their fathers not bad men they just pay child support and have a friendship now but my children hurt by their parents actions now that two of my daughter's are grown they now know it wasn't just mama faught it took both of us and they choose to do better then their mother but my daughter's are happy and I'm 50 not married and I refuse to bring different men around my daughter's other then their father to many things happen to children at the hands of others not under my watch my daughter's are my pride and joy💜😘🙏✌️and I grew up with both parents in my home and married until my parents died they was married over 50 years

[@melodycool1321]

I'm glad this was recommended to me. relationship channels have become super toxic and tribal and I'm glad I found a place where what's important is discussed. Well don'e, young lady.

[@dajiyahmcae1880]

I sent a request for you to respond to “The Miseducation of Haiti” from Foreign Man from a Foreign Land. Tbh I ain’t watch it yet, but I’d like to watch it with you. I feel like your love for Haiti as a first gen would provide a more rounded perspective for me, a non-Haitian Caribbean.

[@candacetyndall6142]

That's Shumake Way. Nice videos!

[@Lexiannasam]

My parents are the same way as yours. People would always get surprised that my parents are still together. Been married 30+ years. They never gave me a cell phone or nothing. Not because they didn’t want to but they’re taught me to get my own and I appreciate them for it now that I’m older. They were more nicer to my friends back then though lol 😂. But I still have a strong relationship with both of them. We’re like best friends but they’re my parents first always.

[@mikaarose5155]

Feel so bad for the children but it's been going on for a long time now

[@scarletteandmom5196]

@Thee Mademoiselle so funny that you mention guys with mamma issues. You should make a topic on that issue. Hope you do! 😊👑🇹🇹🇨🇦

[@marcella6223]

4:30 concerning that bit, I'd have to say that yeah, it's good to let your kids know that there may not be money for some things BUT the kids don't need to know exactly HOW broke you are. When that happens, you'll end up with kids stressed about everything you listed and kids who end up losing a piece of their childhood and grow up too fast

[@jaymsleedan]

Welp. Now he knows. -Hindsight

[@beautybyteyah7381]

women who get child support really dont use it on the kids and thats a problem. why cant it only work at childrens stores?

[@chocha4438]

So how does the kid get clothes, food, a roof over their head, participate in activities outside the home, get their hair done, school supplies, toys, child care? Who’s usually the one footing the bill for all of that?

[@jasoneaton9477]

It was just a job to me raising kids. I'm glad its over..

[@sabrinastarks7868]

These situations are the product of too much emphasis being put on sexuality.... Use yah hands PEEEEEPOOOOOOL!

[@chooselife8527]

I hope his channel soars after this I love him everybody check him out

[@pfb74]

22:00 okay reallll quick story. My ex (only ex) bluntly hinted that she was ring shopping for me and had really *special* plans for my birthday. The night the ring came in, which was a week or two before my birthday she showed me the ring and asked me if "I wanted her to ask the question" biggest red flag of my life. Why would that be the question? So I told her to take the ring back without answering anything else. Mainly because the ring didn't fit me. It didn't speak to who I was at all and I thought THAT spoke MOUNTAINS. If she was serious about marriage she wouldn't have taken the ring back and kept the money. She would've either A asked me why I felt that way B kept it and asked anyways C taken it back and gotten a different one or D none of the above. Clearly she went with D and I'm now single and extremely grateful that I trusted my gut for once.

[@savannahwynter9593]

Yeah I remember when I was in middle school and a couple of my black friends was asking me and I was like yeah I have both parents they looked at me like I was crazy or like I was like what’s wrong why y’all look at me like that or like it’s just cause we only have like one parents each is like oh I’m sorry 😢

[@aminawilson402]

Omg just finished dating a man with mommy issues 😳....fatal fuc k ing attraction 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@vaeyah5354]

I grew up in a one parent household.. my father was murdered when I was 3

[@mecimarie8907]

SQUAAAADDDD Early !!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Pureserpent]

I’m stuck on the fact you said they said it’s 13% black people in America 😂 how is that even possible

[@sweetjane7375]

a lot of those numbers are taken at the time of birth

[@shutit4024]

I was wondering could you make a video on should you tell a guy your body count?

[@Denisebell07]

I never understood the child support law

[@4QUEENSPRODUCTION518]

Please do the story of the father who had his daughter tweaking on him

[@MOONstrucky8072]

Sounds like the little girl was probably made to have chores by the mom or didn't get her way 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@sharidongaskill1128]

i saw this vid a couple months ago

[@3triplemmx]

ALWAYS here 😂🌚

[@BeautifullyAnimated]

💙💙💙💙💙

[@sistahspeaks9816]

If custody of s 50/50 there shouldn’t be child support

[@bellavella]

😍😍😍😍

[@pandaluvr]

First ❤️🥰

[@Lala-th8in]

🖤👍☕

[@jaycee8458]

I HATE MY BABY DADDY SOOOOOOOOO MUCH.. MY KIDS ARE IN THE MIDDLE N IM SORRY. BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS. I see No way in fixing it.

[@JustMeandGod_]

U seem like your an Aquarius

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I’m a Capricorn everything is in the description.

[@asmrdino5396]

First