MARRYING A FILIPINA BAR GIRL - Can It Work?

@datingafilipina @thephilippines @TheFilipinaPea
Marrying a Filipina bar girl might seem like a risky gamble, but are there circumstances when it might actually work? Join me today to tackle this topic and more, as we open the mailbag to answer questions from viewers, and see what's going on in the lives of foreigners and their Filipina mates. Marrying a Filipina bar girl might not even be the worst idea we discuss today!
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[@yoojin-oi8ij]

One of your best yet ! You may want to do these Q 'n A sessions more often. I never get tired of hearing stories about these foreign guys, WHAT SUCKERS THEY ARE, GOOD GRIEF ! Thank you "Miss Pea" !

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I could always make it a Tuesday feature - if people like this format? I gets TONS of questions about funny/sad/weird situations almost every day 🤣

[@yoojin-oi8ij]

@@TheFilipinaPea ......Well Miss Pea, being the savvy media maven that we all know you are,..... I think you have your answer. Happy Easter

[@stephensmyth7566]

@@TheFilipinaPea sounds good. Some people need to hear these stories multiple times before they learn. Its also good to get your perspective on things from a filipina's point of view. Something might seem like its obviously bad because of the stereotype of gold digger girls but your insight can explain why its not necessarily the case.

[@Ron-oe7hg]

I'd really like if you made it a Tuesday thing😊

[@georgechristoforou991]

It does not make sense to avoid marrying a western woman because of a high body count, only to go to the Philippines to marry a bar girl.

[@theodethomasa6358]

Bar girl or not. When a military man gets married, there is NO guarantee it will work out. I have been married three times. The first was a black American woman. She became very ill and the illness took her life. After several years alone, I fell for another black American woman. This one, I divorced after 18 months. When I arrived in the Philippines and was sent to Thailand during the Vietnam War. I was given a choice between being returned to the US or taking a tour of duty in the Philippines. I was very, very tired of dealing with American women. Even those, not American-born had picked up those hard-to-deal-with Americanised women's demands and habits. I selected the Philippines. I stayed (here) in the Philippines. until the war was over. Best years of my military life. I was getting close to my retirement date and was "ordered" back to the US, leaving my Filipina live-in girlfriend behind. After arriving back in the US, I was determined to get back to the Philippines. Being that there was no chance, I sent for my Filipina to come to the US. When I first meant her, she was a "bar girl" After I had to leave her, she went back to her life as a bar girl. She had no other choice. We were married in Elco in 1981. I retired in 1983. I HAD SOME RUN-INS WITH JODY! Sniffing around my house when I was at work during my last two years in the military. I EVEN HAD ONE COMPLAIN TO ME ABOUT SHE WOULDN'T SPEAK TO HIM. I set him down on the seat of his pants. When I retired, my wife and I went to visit my mother. My mother fell in love with her. When I told my mother, I had decided to go live in the Philippines, the whole family turned on me. I stood my ground. On Easter Sunday 1983, back in the Philippines, her family showed me the same love my mother show my wife. And I've never left the Philippines since that day. I'm 78 years old now and she is 64. I never thought I would be this happy during my lifetime! Sorry if some things I said here are confusing, but it is all true. I love this lady! 💕💕💕💕💕with all my heart!

[@joehart7260]

I met a Filipina bar girl in Hong Kong. I was suffering badly with the prostate by the time we got back to my room and I just threw everything down on the table and disappeared into the bathroom. When I came out she was holding my wallet up before my face. "Now listen," she said "don't leave your wallet hanging around like that, some girls will just run off with it!" What a nice girl. 😊

[@JaimeWarlock]

Haha. I use to leave money out on purpose. If they stole it, I knew to dump her. I wanted to know right away if a girl could be trusted.

[@Plough78]

Happened to me with a hardcore hooker in chiang Mai.. Skanky hookers can often be very honest.. Wouldn't marry one though *Crap Game*

[@scottulbrich5376]

yep, some are so quick, in a flash they got your wallet, phone and anything else of value

[@RedditBro830]

My dad met my mom who was a bar girl/waitress when he was in the navy. They’ve been together ever since!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

So it can really work 👍😳

[@troy3456789]

@@TheFilipinaPea Some people change, or they never liked the circumstances they had to endure. Realization occurs naturally; not through our choice. We have no free will. This is how realization works and nobody gets to control it when it happens.

[@EAprima]

I want to say so much against what you said but how could i??! Your parents are living proof that it can work. The only thing I can say then is for everyone to tread lightly if you ever think about going on that path for sometimes... no... many times, the headache isn't worth it. There are many women in the world, just don't feel obligated to one with red flags. Keep your eyes open and never waiver, and if no red flags appear after x-length of time then go for it.

[@jamesherrick3668]

@@TheFilipinaPea if u can get her away from family influence, yes it can work.

[@thebigmann81]

When they say bar girl it's a girl that works at bar but is also sex worker. I do not think your mom was same

[@thedarkgreenmarine2100]

I met a super nice bar girl in Manila she was extremely cool, she told me all about Manila and showed me some cool places. She never once asked me for money. I still chat with her after coming back to the US. She told me she no longer works there anymore.

[@ChrisLloyd-g5q]

back in mid 80's i was told the same thing. I heard she was still working in a bar and when i went a year later - yep after only weeks earlier telling me she was nursing not bar work. I found her working in the same bar. Needless to say that was it for me.

[@adrianlatham7462]

After hundreds of videos, the Pea is still smiling and dancing and creating fun and interesting content in her own inimitable style. Well done!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️

[@remaguire]

I'm a retired US Navy Sailor. I spent a LOT of time in Olongapo, the Barrio Barretto, and Subic City and my experience with the bar girls was a mixed bag. I can say that there are girls that I knew who I would love to see again. They were good people in a bad situation and I hope that living that life did not harden their hearts too much. There are other ladies who I hope to God that I never see ever again. A quick story. One day I was sitting in a jeepney in Olongapo headed to Subic City with some shipmates. At the last minute, another Sailor and an absolutely breathtakingly beautiful Filipina jumped onto the Jeepney with us. This guy was in seventh heaven. I have never ever seen anyone so happy. He told us that he had just married the "love of his life" and was ecstatic. He really was. Right around this time, I felt something on my lower leg and when I looked down, this guy's "love of his life" was rubbing her foot up and down my leg. I looked up and her stunningly gorgeous eyes drilled into my soul. This rubbing was definitely not by accident. I've thought of this often and wonder how long it took before this woman tore this guy's heart out of his chest and stomped on it. That incident about summed up the PI for me. I decided then and there that I would be friends with these beautiful women, but I would never marry one. Friends of mine did get married to bar girls. Some worked out. Others turned into nightmares.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh my! How did you react?? 😳🤣

[@remaguire]

@@TheFilipinaPea I was stunned. I had no idea what to do frankly. I could have said something to the guy and maybe I was wrong not to say anything, but I just couldn't bring myself to destroy that moment for him. And if I had said something to him, do you think he would have believed me? They were married. The initial damage was done. We both know that he probably found out very soon after. In some ways, I don't understand how, if she was acting this way with me RIGHT AFTER THEIR MARRIAGE, that he didn't see the warning signs before. Love is blind I guess.

[@mypov4343]

To my attractive female friends I use this line..."Let's be single...together" hahaha, it does work but timing is everything ;)

[@lancetheking7524]

that was one interesting way to cause a major fuck up lmao

[@Abelius]

Amazing story. And you deserve credit for having experienced the Philippines as a sailor and not having been "tainted" by that specific area. Most deployed personnel come back home with a very twisted view of the location.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@bobbyquinting3918]

Your videos are free because the Philippine government hired you (At least that is my opinion) I know that times are hard and been so for a long time In the Philippines for a long time, but at least tell us why you do this for free? There is no shame in sex work -but it is dangerous.

[@49525Bob]

Sweet Pea. During my military time in Bangkok I knew hundreds, maybe thousands of bar girls. I got to know many of them well, visited their homes, and even met some parents. As with any group of people some were total trash. Others were seemingly normal. Some were desperate to support their families back home in the provinces. All were people and to be treated with respect UNTIL they proved not worthy of same. All that said, a warning for your writer, An old saying which in my opinion and experience has proved true, even decades later. "You can take a girl out of the bar, but you'll never take the bar out of the girl."

[@gordonkistler916]

long duck dong is from a comedy movie about nerds trying to get laid in the states

[@geecheelionmusic]

You are the LOVE DOCTOR for Me, You're My Sweet Dr. PEA. I know you have a great bedside manner. You know you have the Appeal (of several types, not just the One a Man may think of the Most) and you have the Right mindset, attitude and "Know How" of how to Please Your Man. I feel so Cheated, and so defeated, not having that opportunity or being in the right position, Thus Far, to court you properly. I yet hold the Torch.

[@southerneruk]

Mrs Pea 🤣 love the green screen picture of Ranunculus bulbosus

[@travisduarte4236]

I have a few friends who married both thai or filpina bar grils. Most of them have been happily married for yrs. When I see them u see great caring couples.

[@David-om2dy]

I was not surprised on the bar girl situation. I liked your take on it. Nothing wrong with giving a person a chance, who knows, they may end up very happy. Wishing him luck.

[@freezerburn04]

I’m always tuning in, thank you 🙏

[@DeltaVTX]

Guys are falling for this stuff because they are under the impression that a beautiful young woman is going to fall head over heels in love with them with no effort required. Nah man. You get out of it what you put in it. These guys are BEGGING to be scammed.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

They sure are asking for it 😳

[@dustincredible1249]

@The Filipina Pea I've got a beautiful young woman that fell head over heels in love with me for no effort all thanks to the bootyfull philippina pea!

[@hitmusicworldwide]

Sometimes I think we overuse the world beautiful. Yeah it's in the eye of the beholder. But you are not going to meet Ms Philippines in a bar that is full of older westerners. THEY will be in a HiSo Filipino bar or the Casino catering to Korean or Chinese high rollers. ha ha there ARE very well off upper middle class and rich Pinoy's that scoop up the"beautiful young" women. Pinays know a handsome guy by international standards. They have access to all the same media that that girl that ignored us at a bar in New York does. As for my self, "cute" goes a long way in my estimation and preferences. It's impossible sometimes to know who worked in a bar in Asia. Many girls dabble. Even in the West I went to one of the most prestigious Ivy League schools in the Northeast and I knew some girls who went to work in bars because they were curious, and have a wild side. Yes there are bad people. But there are good folks everywhere.

[@excelself]

Yep definitely.

[@trentonjohnson2948]

Yup I find it absolutely hilarious that people have such low intelligence and lack of commonsense. I have traveled alot and I am on quite a few travel groups. It amazed and still baffling how people don't understand basics of travel requirements. Like US born people that can't understand you need a passport to safely travel to other countries. I do cruise and the number of people showing up to board in the USA with only a drivers license 🙄 is boggling.

[@simpletoneightysix6402]

I've met some bar girls that want nothing more than to get out of the bar. I do think you can make it work with those girls. But you need to let them quit the bar on their own terms and have the resources to take care of them. The "party" girls who love going to work and playing the game....they are definitely fun, but not relationship material.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well I wish this guy the best. Maybe I’ll be interviewing him in a year or two 🤣👍

[@johnlobley]

ALL HAIL THE UNRIVALLED PEA ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

As long as you feel that way, that’s at least one person in my corner - thanks! ❤️👍

[@jerryswenson7334]

From someone who has lived many years in Angeles City and visited many many bars there. I would say that a sizable portion of the bar girls are in Angeles because they were abused in the province by fathers, brothers, uncles etc. I am amazed at how well adjusted they are after hearing the accounts of horrible province life. Others are there because of desperation. Things like making only 3 dollars a day by making charcoal but only when it is not raining. Some of these woman are so kind, so loving and so very easy to talk too. If you show these girls a little kindness they are so grateful and fun beyond belief. It is a journey worth exploring.

[@horseshoe2blah201]

Is the DMZ bar still there? I left six months before Mount Pinotubo erupted and took out most of Angeles. I've watched some street videos of Angeles, but it looks almost nothing like it did in the 80's.

[@pilotdrh]

@@horseshoe2blah201 I was stationed at Yokota in the E&I squadron. Had a guy in our shop that was friends with the owner of the DMZ. He kept asking me to go there with one morning for the "pep talk". So I finally went one day. I think it was about 1000 hrs. All the guys were required to show up and he would have them standing in line. He would walk back and forth in front of them giving his spiel about "I don't care how old they are, how ugly they...blah blah...if they pay your bar fine...you're going to fuck them"! He was really funny. I loved the decor there. How about the Vampire club? I went back in 2003 down to Fields Ave....what a change from the 80's. You wouldn't now it was the same place. There were a couple of good places to eat right on Fields, there was a Mexican place, plenty of food and cheap, there was a Thai run by a GI and his Thai wife. I live in Lipa in Batangas now, very nice golf course community, quiet, no dogs or roosters.

[@Galahad54]

An associate has been a long time resident of Angeles City. After Yolanda in 2013, a large number of young women moved to Angeles (or Manila or Cebu) to find work. Some had no living family members. Most had lost their homes and jobs, as you can't be a sales clerk in a store that no longer exists. Good girls in an extremely stressful situation. If a guy can learn to listen in the Philippines, he can find diamonds anywhere. But not all male visitors to the Philippines are good listeners. My last day in the Philippines, a complete stranger to me started screaming curses my way. I asked my lady friend, who explained. He was an extremely wealthy Canadian, who thought he could buy anything. As it turns out, some people are not for sale. And a lesson: Facebook isn't private, and reveals character. So, respect and kindness.

[@ZXLNT]

@@horseshoe2blah201 Long Long gone. You know Duke From Alaska, or Jonnie Tango?

[@harveyh3696]

Luv your closing presentations; kinda like watching the outtakes after the credits roll in the movies.

[@solarguy1702]

I am of the Vietnam war era and know many Americans that were stationed in the Philippines. So many stories about bar girls but the one story that stuck with me was a letter from my uncle after leaving Subic Bay in 1967. 70% of the crew had VD, now called an STD. Had no desire to ever visit the Philippines but came by invitation from an American friend. Met my wife on a blind date. Long story short, been here 15 years with 2 great kids.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️❤️👍

[@remaguire]

Happy that you found happiness. Most of the exposure we military types got to the Philippines was from towns like Olongapo or Angeles. The way I see it they aren't a mirror of the Philippines. It's like we Americans saying that Las Vegas is a mirror image of the USA. No way. Speaking of STDs, they used to sell a drug in the pharmacies in the PI called Trobicin which was supposed to cure your STD. Guys bought it cause for some reason they didn't want their command to find out they had the clap. Its nickname was "The Breakfast of Butterflies!" I knew a guy who was actually proud that he had had the clap something like 30 times during his time stationed there. Shaking my head in wonder!

[@gumdeo]

@@remaguire 30 times! Didn't this guy ever use protection?

[@DB-yj3qc]

@@remaguire I knew a dumb### in my unit that was about the same way got "rodded off the range" and he went back to same one got it again.

[@billyjohnson9166]

Was she a bar girl?

[@ronfindley2874]

Good evening Pea. Let's get the algorithm going.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes please! 👍🤣❤️

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Lol you really know how to get pea’s attention 😂🤣😂🤣

[@Thatone_Dude21]

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[@OdintheBully]

Long duck Dong reminds me of a coworker I had , sending money to his “girlfriend” in Nigeria. I caught him at a cheque cashing store trying to wire her 10 grand to come visit 🤥. I stopped him , made him come to the police and had them explain he was being scammed. Two months later I read about him in our local newspaper for being scammed for twenty thousand dollars. Some simps never learn. Lol

[@TheFilipinaPea]

$20,000??? Holy crap, Batman! 😳

[@Andrew32100]

Long duck dong is the exchange students name from 16 candles movie from the 80s.

[@Soravia]

No video chat is 100% red flag, but soon there will be AI generated videos!

[@artawhirler]

Oh well- you tried!

[@AndrewSmith-cd5zf]

Scammed - hardly he knew what he was doing and wanted to get rid of the money. He knew he wasn’t responsible with such large amounts and the only solution wasn’t to get rid of it.

[@Dave-nf7rc]

I married a "bar girl" 32 years ago. This September we will celebrate our 33rd anniversary. I'm a retired SCPO. Met her in Olongapo.

[@johngreynub]

Always a blessing to have you do these shows!!!! May fortune continue to grace your life

[@toddsmith2349]

My wife was in her mid 30's when we met and had a curfew as soon as I came to visit her curfew stopped .. She lived at home and respected her parents wishes . Her parents had 3 beautiful girls and are very protective of the girls . Don't give up without a couple of dates at least I love my in-laws and am so very lucky to finally have a family that loves and cares about me . Take a chance is my advice and my wife is from same area .

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

So is mine.

[@jolyonrussell7021]

Gotta agree that the Philippines is different and women are forced into things we find shocking. 30 years ago I was a missionary who was visiting missionaries in Thailand and was told by them that by age 14 a Thai girl either got a job, became a mistress or went on the game …. But jobs are rare. We in the west do not appreciate the forces that affect women in the third world but I have to agree with Miss Pea, the huge body count will have affected her vision of men and relationships. (Algorithm added to Miss Pea)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for helping the algorithm - and for being a PEAnut 👍❤️

[@Crankerny58]

You are telling the truth!

[@forestraven5271]

Living and growing up next to a Navy base in California I’ve many Filipino friends. 99% of them I wouldn’t mind being a part of. Seeing their Mom and poppa and cousins living with them was a normal thing , sometimes 15 people to a household . Their homes were always clean and polish . I thought it was nice how they all got along . Beautiful and wonderful people! ❤️from Missouri

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yup, 15 to a house sounds about right 🤣

[@ryanjones7543]

What part of Missouri

[@khure711]

Had a supervisor that married a Filipina bar girl in South Korea. Yup lots of Filipina women take work contracts in South Korea. She was a single mother as well. I imagine you’re screaming say run away. But he told me he walked into that bar and saw her and it was love at first sight. He married her. Raised her son as his own. They had 2 more children, a boy and girl. He built a home in the Philippines for 80k that’s his but her family lives in. They’ve been married 20 years. Oh he’s half Filipino so he can own property in the Philippines, but was born in US. Just remember there are always exceptions.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, there have been quite a few comments from men married to bar girls 👍😊

[@khure711]

@@TheFilipinaPea love your channel miss pea, keep up the great work. I hope to retire in the Philippines soon myself. I’m only 36 but I have the means and desire to. Have a great day

[@reidadams4277]

It's so cute that the Pea is playing matchmaker, as there are about 50,000 of us that have our hearts set on her. This gorgeous, smart young woman is the bomb. She's way out of my league, but a guy can dream right? Great videos Pea. Keep up the good work.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Only 50,000? 😢😢 🤣🤣❤️

[@daemonsw77]

not out of your league, in a different division...

[@levyoliver5363]

100.000 and up 😇

[@billtay1963]

@@TheFilipinaPea 50,001? 😉

[@engnate]

@@TheFilipinaPea no, probably about say 195k...

[@geecheelionmusic]

I can tell you that I am not going on a dating site over here in hopes of finding anyone I would really want to know or consider relationship with. And once in the Philippines, a bar is not a place I would go for that purpose.

[@LordLucan-7]

Great advice, as always Pea. WATCH THE ADS

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS, DoubleL 👍👍❤️❤️

[@krol09.]

My wife was a bar girl many years ago. Not all bars allow the girl to be bar fined thankfully but they are still required to dance on stage with minimal clothing and talk to men who buy them drinks. She was tricked into being a bar girl at 17 by being offered a job from the province to work in Manila. The job description was nothing like she was told it would be but she had no money. They even gave the girls nose jobs to put them in debt so they could not leave. She hated every second of it but had no choice whatsoever and all the girls working there were in the same situation. Can it work? Yes. Do a lot of them cheat and scam? Yes, many of the girls lose themselves eventually working in those places.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for adding your experience to the discussion, Krol 👍👍❤️

[@putingpinoy7024]

No matter what you look like you will hear, why you so handsome? 😂 Give me a baby! 😅

[@119jle]

65 Million single beauties and you chose a bar girl? Guess you knew your limits. Enjoy

[@dennisohara5293]

lol

[@krol09.]

@@119jle Thanks. It's been 14 years happily married with 3 beautiful children. Best of luck to you.

[@DecadentDj]

Very insightful and informative and as always very entertaining. Nice one Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@proanimali]

Happy Easter, Pea! Thank you for all the videos, they are great!

[@dwainpeak5129]

Good Evening To The Greatest Professor Mentor Ms.Pea Front Row Seat For Amazing Session Have A Great Happy Easter Weekend We Love You Ms. Pea !!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh that’s right - it’s Easter weekend 👍😳🤣

[@Murph_.]

My big problem with the bar girl situation is that you never met this girl. I understand all these people meeting women on dating websites, but falling in love with someone you never met? I'll never understand that. Why doesn't anyone take the time to spend time with these women you are meeting online in the Philippines first? What's the hurry to fall in love and get married? This is why all these scams we hear about work... Impatience and letting your emotions overcome simple logic. I personally lived in the Philippines for a year, spent 9 months dating and then living with my future wife, before we decided to marry. While there, I met a lot of other married couples (Western man, Filipina woman), and NONE of them fell in love online then met and married. 100% of the couples I met spent a LOT of quality time together first (MORE than a week or two)... many met online, but they all met in person within the first 6 months of chatting online. MOST of the men and Filipinas wanted to live in the Philippines. Most, not all, of the men did not send money before meeting their Filipina. I'm not saying it can't work if you fall in love online without meeting, but your odds of success are so much higher if you do things properly, and by properly I mean 1) Don't send money before you meet, 2) Don't fall in love before you meet, 3) Meet as soon as possible to insure it's reality not fantasy, and 4) spend as much time physically together as is possible for your situation. While I don't think 2 weeks is enough, if that's all the time you can afford then that is better than 0 weeks. Finally, before you get emotional about someone you met in an online dating website or online... go back and watch Pea's videos.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I agree - you really have to spend at least many months together first, or how can you know someone? 😳

[@CindysBisvlog]

This is my husband and I rules , 4years married this year …😊

[@LegalAutomation]

You're absolutely right about the fact that being a bar girl is more of a financial issue in South East Asia. I met one bar girl who explained to me that before she worked in a bar, she worked in a food court in a mall. She worked very long days and only had 2 days off per month. She confessed that as a bar girl, she could make the same amount in just a few days, as she did in the mall in an entire month. If I were born into a poor family in Asia and those were the options in front of me, I would probably be a bar girl too. At least when you're a bar girl you have some money and time to get yourself through college. Had she stayed in the mall, she would have spent the rest of her life there, serving food.

[@martypoll]

They do make more money in the bar but they often send most of that money back to their families. They seldom spend it on themselves. That is what makes bar girls in SE Asia unique.

[@DanneyTanner]

I'm in my 50s now. One thing I've learned in my life is that whenever I would go out to a club or a bar is don't bring my wallet with. Leave it in a safe place in your car or even at home. Just bring some cash with but not a lot and maybe an identification if you think you need it. Just put in as much money in your pocket as you think you would be willing to lose in one day if that happens. Because going back to your house or going back to your car is going to give you time to think about what the hell you were just going to spend a bunch of money on😅. Sometimes I spread the money around a little bit in different pockets so I don't pull all the money out at one time. Even that little tiny pocket on the right hand side of your pants above your big pocket is a good place to store little extra cash or a rubber😊

[@smferreiro2610]

Always wonderful to watch your videos!

[@rshrsh5420]

Good evening Pea! I always start my off days on Friday morning here and once the clock strikes four I count the minutes until I get the notification that you dropped another video. It’s ALWAYS great to start my day hearing you educate these young guys!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I hope you always get that notification! I’d miss you 😳👍

[@Eeasy-wq4ss]

Yep and no matter how many times you tell the world what not to do, now this. Thanks young lady ❤👍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’ve spent three years doing this, and sometimes I feel like I’m not reaching people 😳

[@Eeasy-wq4ss]

You have given me a lot of questions, and insight ,its not in vain.

[@jloren4647]

@@TheFilipinaPea Just try to remember that 4% of the internet thinks the world is flat. There will always be boneheads.

[@Niftynorm1]

@@TheFilipinaPea Men are stubborn, as the get older they get worse. Horny men, well you know how that will go. LOL

[@DMSProduktions]

@@jloren4647 And those that think there are more than 3 sexes! LMAO!

[@jerryfritz374]

Pretty Pea; I have listened & looked at many videos about the Philippines. Yours , Roger & Ismi, & Shay. Yours is still the best. Yea call me biased. Great sense of humor And Very Easy on the Eyes. Let alone being very knowledgeable about the information your passing on. Thanks again Dear Pea. Keep up Great Work

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s the kind of bias I appreciate 🤣❤️

[@jejunamja]

Thanks Pea for another informative and entertaining video. not sure how the guys who watch your videos still end up writing, and getting involved with Filipinas or people, pretending they are Filipinas that they’ve never met when you’ve constantly cautioned us on that.

[@SectorZeroOne]

Ms. Pea you're absolutely fantastic. Thank you for all you do.

[@timledbetter1781]

I met my fiancé when she was an OFW. She didn't ask for money for anything. And, she didn't suggest meeting in person until she came home to the Philippines. Thankfully, I've not been scammed

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️❤️👍

[@timledbetter1781]

@@TheFilipinaPea I have helped her some. I haven't supported her. I didn't want her to go back to the Middle East to work, simply because how rough it looked on her when we first started chatting. Her stress on her face, changed immediately when she landed in the Philippines and called me. She wasn't faking. I did send money ONCE before we met. We chatted one time and she was trying not to but was crying. Her parent's house had been knocked down by a typhoon, and she couldn't get ahold of them. So, we talked daily, and after she talked to them 5 days later, I quizzed her. She was going to send 3 months of her salary, as she earned it to pay for the materials her Dad needed to rebuild. I pressed her hard about amounts needed, her salary, etc. So, I told her to send one month, and give me her mother's information, and I voluntarily sent the rest at the same time. A few months later, I was standing in the Province, in front of her father, and he was teary eyed, and asked my fiancé to translate, and asked me if he could hug me, and then took me around to show me specifically what upgrades he had done with the house. The first time I visited, a typhoon hit the first afternoon I was there. I saw the devastation first hand. Every house on the street her parents lived on collapsed except for 3 others that were concrete. He had built a T wall in the middle of his home, out of concrete, and supported the rest of the house from that wall. It withstood a typhoon for the first time he said. So, 2 days before returning home on a trip when I was there, I had a stroke sitting beside my fiancé at mass. Her family, all of them, got me to the hospital, then drove me to another hospital in a big city in Eastern Samaar. The Hospital here, told me that they saved my life. So, her family and I are close now, and I feel like her and I meeting was meant to be, and anyone that tries to talk me put of that, let's just say, I won't spare their feelings

[@putingpinoy7024]

Same with me.

[@Styckjunkarn]

Thanks for another great and wise video. At the risk of being old-fashioned, my view is that it is easy to take the bar girl from the bar but almost impossible to take the bar from the girl. Same for butterfly men, easy to catch but hard to keep.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Nothing wrong with old-fashioned 👍😊

[@jameshanlon5689]

The same can be asked for marrying a Korean bar girl. It depends on what and how you started your relationship with said girl. Whether it’s a Filipina or Korean girl.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Watch out, and think long and hard (and not about getting long and hard) 🤣🤣🤣

[@t-and-d-productions]

But there is a difference between a bar girl and a girl that works at a bar

[@jameshanlon5689]

@@TheFilipinaPea 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@CarigisX]

korean uhm.. ladies of the night. usually will not take a foriegner for the fear korean clients will no longer uhm do business with her.

[@dbuck1964]

@@TheFilipinaPea 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Casualcollector2024]

Love your Show! You tell it like it is:)! I am married to a Philippina and I learned a lot from your channel. I met her in my home country, she’s living and working her, so I didn’t had the struggle of getting to know her in a long distance relationship. Keep up the great work!

[@KutWrite]

Wow! Fascinating, Pea. You keep topping yourself with interest, quality, wisdom, and humor.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️

[@brettogata4410]

I was in the Navy, many sailors married bar girls but no one talks about it openly but we know. Most that I still know after 30+ years are still married. My wife today is from the Philippines 🇵🇭 and not a bar girl but she was from a strict family but she gets along with the older Ate’s. After 2 marriages to American women I would recommend a Pinay, even from a bar. I met one back in the 80s that I would have pursued when my ship 🚢 pulled in but did not due the stigma 😢

[@m007mm]

When you say bar girl, do you mean waitress, stripper or prostitute?

[@MrMartellSincere]

I respect bar girls to a degree (I talked to some of them via social media and they shared me painful stories and battle's of what they'd gone through via prostitution. I respect their upfront honesty 😌) Hope those women can bounce back eventually is all I can say respectfully

[@endthefed2992]

You can take the bar girl out of the bar.... But you can't take the bar girl out of the girl..... hahaha

[@the2ndcoming135]

How about a bud light?😂

[@GUNMETALGUYUSA]

The content of this channel is as Brilliantly Engaging as the thumbnails are.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well thanks for that, GMGU 👍👍❤️

[@GUNMETALGUYUSA]

@@TheFilipinaPea You're Always Welcome Young Lady.

[@daringilmore6470]

I really like how you act as a mediating "match maker" between the east and the west to make sure no one is taken advantage of! And how you give good and reasonable advice to keep everyone involved protected. You'd make a great embassador! 👍👍

[@draconian8994]

I don't always watch your videos but each time I watch I am stunned by your cleverness. You are talented and you have a lot in stock for you in the future.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And that’s why you should watch every one 🤣🤣🤣👍❤️

[@dawster1949]

💜 As ever, thank you Pea for such an eye-opening episode! Having finally recently dipped my toe into the murky waters of online dating there, I’m finding that everything you have told us is absolutely true!! You have prepared me well…so I’m really hoping I’ve jumped the worst of the hurdles already! But I sympathise with these guys…long distance love really is a tricky affair!

[@the2ndcoming135]

She’s obviously nice to look at. Plus, her personality definitely helps🧐

[@brandonwallace2019]

Pea you are the true catch for a true western man! Any man you can find a woman who understands the pluses and minuses of our cultures combined together the way you do and embraces it , well I will just say is lucky to have you! Thanks for your service to those seeking to understand what it takes to live happily while living with a Filipino, or in the Philippines. You would be ideally what I look for!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I bet I’ll make a fun wife 🤣

[@johnlacey3857]

@@TheFilipinaPea Many of us would love to find out Pea! 🖖

[@billydakid9814]

she don't want us

[@BonVoyage861]

The art of playing it cool is totally lost on Americans.

[@theodethomasa6358]

@Andreas Müller You Joined Jun 12, 2022. Sorry, but that is a stupid comment! So, I'll make one also. Let's go Drumpf!

[@sharhune2735]

Sorry about being a day late. Great video, Pea. Many western men don't understand about the extreme poverty over there. I saw it as a child and again when I was in the Navy. Not all bar girls are bad but need to support their families and good employment can be hard to find over there if you lack the education. Keep your eye open and look for those red flags. Take care Pea.

[@godfreyvonnordeck2056]

Another great video Ms Pea, I enjoy your candor when you are discussing the topics that you choose and as always you look amazing 🌹🔥🌹

[@Guildofarcanelore]

I really like this format. Answering questions from viewers is great for interaction for your channel.

[@mypov4343]

It's about money....your money. Consider EVERY relationship transactional and make sure you are getting something for what you are giving. Consider the consequences if the relationship doesn't work out UPFRONT before you get involved so you know what your potential losses are. What about love?...think of it this way....hope for the best but prepare for the worst! Remember to love yourself before loving anyone else....YOU are the prize not the other way around.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

A sensible perspective 👍😊

[@mypov4343]

@@TheFilipinaPea Divorce taught me a lot! ...just not soon enough LOL

[@raymahannah4336]

Oh no... 😳 This was a rough one Pea! You did a great job! These poor souls needed your advice a while ago... At least they found you when they did... 🙂

[@TheFilipinaPea]

For one of them it’s too late, and for another, he’s chosen his poison ☠️- possibly

[@raymahannah4336]

@@TheFilipinaPea You're right...

[@yoojin-oi8ij]

@@TheFilipinaPea ... You have such a way with words. tee-hee-hee ! I must admit, at first, I was not such a big fan, but you're surely growing on me kid ! Keep up the good work.

[@randyguidry4958]

Pea, this video is a good illustration of just how hard it is for us to see red flags when we're in love. Also just how well some women can hide or explain them away. Think with the big head guys, not your heart or the little head. The world is a very dirty and dangerous place. I'm pretty good at seeing things as they are but I've been deceived too. If you have a good heart you are going to be a target, It's sad but true.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Live really IS blind 😳

[@randyguidry4958]

@@TheFilipinaPea Yes it is!

[@xShapeShifter]

I recently got deceived....it cost me dearly....

[@morrishooks7536]

I was married once to a bar girl. Took her to the USA. She cheated on me multiple times. Ended up getting pregnant by another man while married to me. Some times is hard taking the bar out of the girl. Later in life I meet my wife. A Filipina and we been married 33 years. She never worked in a bar. Great province minded girl. Best decision I have ever made.

[@jorgeo4164]

You're advice is always so honest and based on truth and facts, Good job Pea. I think that's why you're Channel is growing and highly appreciated by your subscribers. Keep up the great work! 👍

[@michaelcassidy1864]

I find it amazing that, despite watching so many of your videos, I've yet to find any disagreement in your views and opinions. Clearly that doesn't make both of us correct and I still find it logically improbable but interesting.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It sure makes us alike though ❤️🤣👍

[@ccrider327591]

Back in the day it was a different world than today. Many of the young ladies came to work in the clubs to make money but also in the hopes of meeting a great guy for a serious relationship. It used to be about a 70/30 split, you had about a 30% chance of a good relationship. You had about a 70% chance that the girl was all about the money and foolin' around partying. Saw a lot of broken hearts but I also saw some marriages that lasted a lifetime. Yes, a high risk of failure but it wasn't completely hopeless. Nowadays....yeah, it's a different time and a different world.

[@JimMillsCSLC]

As for David addressing you as “Miss…” I do the same. It’s about honor and respect, Miss Pea🙏🏼 And isn’t this what Filipina’s appreciate about gentlemen-especially foreigners? I was rather saddened by your comment about it. Thank you for your amazing channel🇵🇭💖🇺🇸

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, we like gentlemen and we call people ‘Miss’ here - but it still makes me feel like we’re not friends yet 🤣

[@theodethomasa6358]

@Andreas Müller ou Joined Jun 12, 2022. Sorry, but that is another stupid comment!

[@johnclark7973]

​@@TheFilipinaPea That makes now! Good explanation, Pea.

[@dangerousdanny8290]

@@TheFilipinaPea 60 yr old Southern boy, here -- Was out with family for Easter brunch on Sunday. Son-in-law made the reservation. I got there first and checked in with the 20-22 yr old young lady at the front desk ...... she asked if I had a reservation and my response was "yes, ma'am". Embrace the 'Miss Pea' thing. :)

[@rickylee6129]

Good Video Miss Pea 😊. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏

[@tonywilliams7918]

Good sound advice Pea. Thank you for sharing.

[@arnoldkim5135]

Not all bar girls are bad girls but very few are good ones. Don't ever jump in to a marriage. Unlike marriages in U.S., marriage in Philippines is forever. There is no divorce in Philippines. And annulment could take years and expensive.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

ALWAYS take your time! 👍👍👍

[@advancedanr]

Divorce is still legal in every country except the Vatican, so as long as you don't live in one of those two places you can always get divorced. The Filipina on the other hand is screwed....... Literally!

[@thelonecaliforniacowboytlc9709]

Engaged to my Filipina I met at a mall after my field op in the Marines 5 years ago now it's been an amazing ride with the woman I love. I met her family and stayed at her home I've always been worried about if it was a scam or not but she has proven me wrong time and time again. I'm going to the Philippines in January for a wedding for her little sister and in August for my birthday we will be staying at her place while I am there which is the biggest and best mainly because it gets rid of 80% of the hotel cost I have seen the difference in her family from her mom's side and dad's side so far I love her mom's side but her dad's side isn't the best her words as well I love her very much and I've had to make her wear her engagement ring because she was afraid she would lose it to a thief. I can't wait to go see her again and I love her very much.

[@daemonsw77]

why dont you move here?

[@daemonsw77]

5 years? why dont you have the k2 done? if you'd got married after 2nd time back the period for us immigration would have expired and you could just have them go on a tourist visa and bridge it to residency. you know its only 200 us buck to get perm residency here and plenty of jobs for ex military security or in English tutoring or at a call center. i make more money here relatively speaking then in the usa. btw the ring thing...i wouldn't trust that one bit. if they take their phone with but not the ring it bs my friend, pawn shops will give you more for the phone

[@kendra9060]

@@daemonsw77 As a Filipina, it's a legit concern if she takes public transportation. It also depends on where she goes and lives.

[@jimbarrow9638]

Very enlightening and very interesting. Wish the gentleman good luck with the bar girl. I actually have a friend who married a Thai bar girl and they've been together for 32 years and seven children. Anything is possible. Keep up the great work. And thank you for all that you do

[@1307scooter]

I am retiring in Dumaguete in May and Pea has been a wealth of information. I would love to thank her in person some day.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I have a feeling our paths will cross 😊👍

[@1307scooter]

I would be star struck@@TheFilipinaPea

[@robertlalor8090]

Wisdom beyond your age, Pea. Awesome and sound advice.

[@Chris-gi9ch]

I know a guy who married a bar girl in the Philippines who brought her here in the states. They had 1 child, and she seemed like a good mother and wife from what I could tell? He seemed to be the problem with his heavy drinking! But hey, he was a bar guy.

[@bruceb7747]

Good video Dr. Pea. That question from the guy about the girl who's working in China brought back a memory of a girl from Thailand who I met on a dating site. She had a lot of pictures on her profile, this was before video chatting. She wanted me to buy her a ticket to visit me and give her some "walking around" money to show at immigration. I didn't give her any money but a few months later I got an email from the Thai police. They found my email address on the computer of a German man working for a travel agency in Bangkok.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤣 Oh those scammers 😆

[@AdamKidd1972]

Pea has explained many things leading to a persons happiness or despair. I would recommend listening to her advice even if its not what you want to hear. Never to rush to find love always taking your time finding the right partner. You are responsible for your own happiness with no regrets. In reality I think all the subscribers want others to find true happiness in life. Stay safe thinking with the right head with a brain instead of the smaller one. Overseas countries will eat a person alive if you allow it. Be careful with wishing everyone the best of luck in your travels.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Never rush in matters of love! 👍😊

[@gggusc11]

One of your best videos!

[@cras17]

These are my favorite videos. More mail bag!!

[@Na.not.him0_o]

I met a Filipino bar girl.... Now I'm getting married to her this December 🎉lol

[@Endwankery]

That was rough… Times like these, I’m grateful for the abusive relationships I’ve been through since those gave me the ability to walk away no matter what. Other guys don’t seem to be able to walk away from a potential relationship no matter the red flags

[@TheFilipinaPea]

The color red becomes invisible for them, yes 😳😳😳

[@gggusc11]

The 29 y/o who lives with her parents certainly seems like a good choice. Sounds like the type of person with whom you would marry and start a family. 👍

[@gremlyn1439]

I think that I'm coming down with the fever! As always. Enjoyed it. Oh and leopard print looks nice on you. Have a spectral day.

[@R.S.407]

Sound advice as always, FP have a lovely Easter.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You too, HotRod ❤️👍

[@DavidBFHammer]

4 min and 52 likes already. These boys are hanging on your every word 🎉

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I sure hope so! I try to always give my best effort 👍😊

[@nleezie895]

@@TheFilipinaPea 👂👂

[@dancooper1963]

@@TheFilipinaPea Thats what my bargirl told me. Should i marry her?

[@bilalmega3349]

Pea, your observational haki is a sight to behold. Your like the perfect litmus test for the bs. I think when guys see that "ONE" that they fancy and that lust and desire seeps into the heart , common sense goes right out the window

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It sure does go whoosh! 😳

[@D.A.T.J.]

As long as the couple understands each other, then it can work bc love is love. Most people miss the respect part included in love, which is often why lots of relationships don’t work great

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s very accommodating of you, Davey 👍❤️

[@tezzo55]

When your channel grows. . . I bet you've got a big channel!

[@billharris3090]

Wow really amazing stories Pea . I stayed off the dating sites and I’m going down the stretch be there in May

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You’ll be here in no time 👍😊

[@steveokahn7249]

I think you are right on target with the last one regarding "professional women". IMO, it is not the body count itself. It is what damage that life usually does in the areas you point out - trusting and bonding with a man, and definitely an "unhealthy view of men". That is where the damage of that lifestyle takes hold...on both sides of it! But I personally have high regard for those that recognize that, work at changing their options, and can make the transition back into the person they want to be rather than the one that world creates. I sincerely wish her (and him) the best...it can work if they remain open, honest, and supportive of each other.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m very interested in following their story - and interviewing them, even if they don’t make it 👍

[@rickhanson8709]

Hey Pea, great episode. FYI, "Long Duc Dong" is the name of an exchange student in the movie 16 Candles. 1980's Brat Pack classic. I can't believe you haven't seen it with your great movie knowledge. I'm sure you'd love it. 😃

[@clydekimsey7503]

Yes, a great and funny movie 😅

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I think I’ve seen it! At least the name of the movie sounds familiar - but I don’t remember a Long Duk Dong in it 🤣🤣🤣 Edit: I just googled it, and you’re right 👍😆

[@kelvinthompson1660]

Like a cartoon name!! So funny!!

[@rickhanson8709]

@@TheFilipinaPea He's the exchange student from, I forget which Asian country, that's goes to a crazy teen party and hooks up with "bigger" girl. Still funny today. 😅

[@miahconnell23]

@the Filipina Pea & @Rick Hanson : the actor who played Long Duk Dong has stated that Asian men / boys of our generation tell him they are DISPLEASED about Long Duk Dong. I’m not certain that particular “Letter to Pea” wasn’t a trolling thing: the “oh No !!” parts are soooooo egregious. But, maybe not. I’ve discovered that it can be easy to fall for a fib when you wish it were true. (And that’s true for dudes wishing they could meet a cool, pretty, foreign girl, & it’s also true for young, cool, pretty, Filipina girls who wish that Auntie saying “I’ll get you a good job and a good hubby in Canada for only 1 year’s pay”… they get scammed, too. The “wishing it were true” really messes with our judgement & critical thinking.

[@stub4958]

One of the things I used to tell guys in Korea, "If you wouldn't date/marry a girl that worked in a strip club in the US, why would you do it here?" Not sure about there, but in the US it's all about drugs, money, promiscuity, and s@x for sale. I know very few that did this, in the US or other countries, that it worked out for.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Here it’s mostly desperation 😢

[@FishBarney]

@@TheFilipinaPea I am married to a girl I met in a bar in Angeles City, she did it because both of her parents had tuberculosis and couldn't work... and her siblings were all still at school. She tried working in a supermarket, and even sending every peso she made home, it wasn't enough. She had no choice but to go and work in the bar if she didn't want to see her family die. An absolute superstar and the nicest person you could wish to meet.

[@topandrun126]

I must say that I enjoyed this one maybe you should consider do more of these videos.

[@TonyKeepingItClean]

Fantastic as ever. I’ve missed watching you, which means I’ve got lots of Pea vids in hand.

[@shaunmckenna1923]

Hello Pea , interesting bar girl story , we all need that second chance but the guy should just go to the Philippines and see first hand what he is getting into, you and I both know about the scams , my advice to any man is to go to the Philippines before you part with any money. Thank you Pea I wish you a Happy Easter with your friends and family take care .

[@paulstan9828]

Some people more than others just don’t notice the red flags when love is in the air. It’s unfortunate but human nature is what makes these scams so profitable.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And people keep falling for them, over and over and over and over and over 😳

[@yoojin-oi8ij]

@@TheFilipinaPea ....."When your heart's on fire, you must realize Smoke gets in your eyes" ....... from a great American song, and oh so true. "Smoke Gets in Your Eyes" give it a listen Miss Pea.

[@vanceb1]

Thinking with the little head instead of the big head, as they say.

[@floydhill9265]

When I was younger, my friends had a saying. "Find them at the bar, lose them at the bar." So far this has proven to be true in my experience.

[@williamgood6299]

Great content and thank you for sharing these stories.

[@curtisroloff226]

So Pea when u read a question from guy like the one from SF and see how obvious he’s being taken….. don’t u just wanna reach out and grab him by the shirt and say “ What the F is wrong with u!”….. lol… that’s what it made me wanna do!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

YESYESYESYES I sure do 😳👍

[@erichkapfer9797]

I wish David from Wisconsin good luck. There are more bars here than cheese factories lol. So I'm sure he has a good understanding of the women that go to the bars. I guess there's always exceptions to the rule and I hope he found it

[@TheFilipinaPea]

He sure thinks he has! I’ll follow the story 👍

[@scottforbes4931]

Bar girls are people too.❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes they are 😊

[@levyoliver5363]

😊 Yes..

[@TheOriginalRick]

I transferred to North Island Naval Air Station San Diego in '76, with Mrs. Rick and I being married for two years. I was a young 3rd Class, with a beautiful young Filipina at my side. Everyone, especially the Filipinos in the Navy community, assumed that she was a bar girl pickup. It almost broke her heart the way many folk treated her with their bigotry. She's always been a somewhat private person who believes that her business is her business, and not anyone elses. That is why she never told anyone she had just been discharged from active Navy duty before we transferred, and was at that time serving as a 2nd Class Petty Officer in the Navy Reserves. More than a few of them were quite shocked when they saw her in her Navy uniform. 😁

[@Juan_Antonio1829]

3:53 - Love your content. In the military we call it an AAR (after action review). Keep on keeping in, Miss Pea!