10 Mindsets to Avoid in WITCHCRAFT.. (How and Why I Changed)

[@sophier77]

Little Red Riding Hood of the astral 😎

[@kitdubhran2968]

I actually take the Jewish attitude about my religion, spirituality, witchcraft etc. i debate, ask questions, look deeper, change my mind, change it back, and pick it apart with tweezers and a microscope. If my path can’t hold up to serious scrutiny it’s not sturdy enough for me to walk on.

[@teslagoth9401]

The moon does get unnecessarily insulted! Like the “dark side of the moon”, it’s dark to us but it’s technically the far side of the moon. How dare us. 🌚

[@SorcererLord]

Absolutely spot on about correspondences! I work full time in a ''normal'' job that I had to study so much for and get a PhD to do, so the thought of studying so much in my spare time about correspondences was a complete turn off. And for a while it meant I was an armchair magician that couldn't get into practice because of it. But now I don't give a damn about traditional associations, I'm a rebel sorcerer! If I want to use rose petals for a banishing, or dried/dead/golden brown grass to represent abundance and gold instead of using the sun or flowers or whatever than that's what I'll do. I go much more with my intuition and what I feel something means to me rather than what I've read in lists.

[@russellstephen6998]

Kelly-Ann you look like if little red riding hood grew up to be a badass! Love the video and the energy. Can’t wait for my Samhain reading ❤️

[@shellyemerson7998]

💯 Yes...if I'm coming from my own internal witchy woman space, it absolutely IS me witchin'.!

[@melissagraham2716]

Yes! I’m in my villain era too!

[@morriganwitch]

I like the small things . Thank you xxx

[@kimberlywolfenheart4275]

I love spell videos and am grateful when KZbin witches share their rituals and spells online. And I totally get having a personal practice. Some of the best spell videos are ones the witch has done often is is fine sharing with others. Good spells are usually beautiful in some way

[@LadyNekoshema]

When you got to Overgiving Witches, I groaned like you punched me in the gut. I started a Witchy shop on Etsy this year [mainly tarot but I'm hoping to branch out] and when you mentioned boundaries, I froze like "Don't say it, Kelly-Ann." I know I need to stop giving free readings to my family [my friends have understood when I explained I need them to buy my readings, even have a discount and everything] I've explained and asked and they've said "Oh yes, I'll make an account so I can buy a reading, just one question really quick" and they never purchase readings. One family member [who I love like a sister] asked for readings every other day. I just don't have the heart to put my foot down. I've explained and she's said she understands, then looks at me with these sad eyes and asks if she shouldn't ask for a reading and I cave. Every. Single. Time. My husband wants me to put up this boundary. My Deities want me to put up this boundary. My guides want me to put up this boundary. But I cave every time because I don't want to hurt her feelings.

[@CricketsBay]

I think a lot of us have that problem. I used to think telling them they should learn Tarot themselves and do their own readings was a good idea. But then they want me to teach them how to read Tarot. Ugh. It's a never-ending cycle.

[@NeonCicada]

People tell me I "overthink" everything and it's a mental problem. Your videos validate my belief that it's not a defect -- it's a gift. *Thank you for that lol 😉* _"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be ignited"_

[@theblackberryhag]

I loved this whole video so much, but especially helpful for me were the parts about 1) not oversharing my practice online (something I had to learn the hard way and still have scars from), 2) not needing my witchcraft to be labor-intensive or involve acquiring lots of "stuff", 3) focusing on failure (and worse, in my case, often blaming my gods for it), and 4) witchcraft not needing to look like witchcraft (I solved a major problem for myself today that I thought had defeated me, and NO ritual was involved--just witchy willpower and the refusal to give up).

[@fifidubois5514]

I find it annoying when I used to get asked in company, to ' get out that crystal thingy and wave it over my hand' or pick a card for me to see if that bloke at the bar likes me" I'm not Paul Daniels!. Lucky for me now, I'm billy no mates... no one asks... I prefer it.❤❤

[@Levongrova]

Meanwhile I'm over here wishing I could prioritize my spirituality/witchcraft but have zero motivation to do anything 😅 Well, aside for my nightly guided meditations to connect with my spirit guides... I am not sure what mindset is holding me back honestly... I want to connect back to my practice, but the thought of casting spells or doing rituals sounds so boring? Communicating with spirits, working on my clairs and lucid dreaming were the only things I felt more drawn to, because at least when I'm dreaming and I realize it. I can bend water and see it moving with my hands when I want to call on the water element. In real life, I'll call on the water element and feel nothing? It feels so stupid :/ I don't know what's wrong with me... sometimes I wish I found enjoyment of those type of things like so many others in the withcraft community 😭

[@CricketsBay]

Kelly Ann's video on 10 Mindsets to Have in Witchcraft has kind of helped me with those things. I think she has it linked in the description of this video.

[@jenniferpike8168]

I am just starting out and I felt seen when you talked about the reasons for not prioritizing the craft. Right now I am caring for my 3 year old in addition to working on settling my mother's estate. She passed on August 2nd and I was with her in the hospital practically all summer until she passed and have been dealing with everything one does after a death in the family. In the meantime, I have been studying, finding out what interests me and watching videos and listening to podcasts and joining facebook groups and reading books, including Rebel Witch, taking notes, to try to continue to grow in my learning about the craft and figuring out what I'm interested in. We have also been in a state of flux for the last 2 years - long story - and I feel like I will not have a way to really have any kind of way of, what I see as "actively" practicing until things settle down at least a little bit. I feel in chaos - and not in a chaos magic sense. Right now the gathering of information makes me feel involved and included. A witchy friend of mine gave me some crystals while my mom was in the hospital for her healing and afterwards as emotional healing for me and I'm grateful. Plans are already being made for a witchy group of us to memorialize/honor my mom when my husband, son and I go into town where our family and many friends live. Distance prohibits doing it sooner. But I'm looking forward to it.

[@evergreenforestwitch]

Anyone else looking forward to venty, ranty KAM videos coming up??? I am!!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Hshah, yes, love you for this

[@evergreenforestwitch]

@@kelly-annmaddox ❤️ 💙 💜

[@elineeugenie5224]

I love everything you share that has Chaos Magic in it somewhere ... You've really gotten through to me with that, thank you!

[@thechaosvibration1181]

Great list, loved the points about online witching, and over giving. I've been dealing with these struggles myself. I found myself asking "who am I even doing magick or content for at this point?'. Whose beliefs, am I using in this approach?" As for chaos witch, this is why I dropped the chaos magician title. (Despite keeping this name for now-i like it). I think it's time magicians (not yourself) admit that the person on the camera or the page is not the entirety of the person. I doubt most do the things they teach daily, I don't see how; from a time-resource energy perspective. Loved the remarks on the authorities, and rage addiction too.

[@ms.fruitbat8883]

Feeling guilty about making changes to my spiritual practice is a huge issue for me. I feel like if I change things up, I'm just dabbling. But I've been in a spiritual rut for awhile now, and I know something has to give.

[@TempestGetchell]

There is so much that I needed to hear in this video, I can't even begin to fathom and process it right yet.

[@ladysmall9853]

Wonderful stuff! The part about the "witchy gaze" hit strong. Part of getting to know a new deck, for me, is flipping through it alongside my other decks to get an idea of what all it "plays well with." For a while I had been sharing this practice on a particular fb group. Looking back, I can admit that I got carried away and was probably spamming the group in my excitement to share with like-minded people. Somebody didn't find value in the pictures and decided to tell me about it by making a very rude comment on a particular image and making a ranty post in the group about how they found it pointless and annoying. The admins reached out to me and, presumably, the other person. For a while it got in my head and interfered with my actual practice. I have only recently begun sharing some of this practice again and I have scaled it WAY back. Mostly limited to what people are already showing interest in. I still take many pictures, but I only share one per deck pairing after going through the part that is ACTUALLY part of my practice. I also blocked the person who was rude to me because I don't need to be bullied for my practice because they don't see what I saw.

[@beanbaghagwag]

7:04 Agree so much about having boundaries for what I share on line. I don't even want to share everything. Most of it is so private and personal and not meant for another's eyes. 21:51 I have a GINORMOUS apothecary for my witchy biz, but for myself and my own practice I use about 10 different things on the regular, and most of it comes from my spice rack or garden. 38:12 Going through menopause was my most powerful witchcraft EVER! And yes, art is magic.

[@rachelwebb9040]

Nuance in that orb! You're a fucking gift to this ancient, lone witch! Blessings on your beautiful truth lovely sister.

[@seekingvision]

I have learnt this year that I do need to drop all of my regular rituals/practice etc when my craft is shifting apart from journaling….even things I’ve been doing for decades. It removed any guilt nags about not getting regular stuff done & frees me up to explore new things with joy. My practice has shifted dramatically in 2023 after I had leg surgery & had to become a hearth witch (doing 99% of my craft indoors) rather than a hedge witch (doing 90% of my craft outside in nature). As I recover mobility I will bring back many of my outside practices as I do miss them but I feel like I’ve explored a really fulfilling indoor practice that will be so useful in the future when I’m unable to ramble through wild undergrowth in the future as I age (58 now).

[@sophiavinaz]

Oh my gosh this so speaks to me. The boundaries. This has been a huge obstacle for me. Most definitely has been the biggest obstacle for me. It has been a work in progress. 😮

[@sinjaja5836]

No. 10 is so powerful! 🤩 Thank you for the insights.

[@dee-deetaylor219]

BRILLIANT vid, love! I’m very much in alignment with you on all these points! My being and doing are witchcraft, quite simply. I feel very fortunate to pretty much embody magic, for nearly 35 years now. Big love to you, you gorgeous witch!!

[@rgwood2381]

regarding the correspondences, I agree 100% it's actually really interesting in my shop because people, particularly I think beginner witches, really focus on what things 'mean'- particularly when it comes to spell candles. I think it comes from a place of not wanting to do the 'wrong' thing or to have some semblence of structure to what their doing to avoid the overwhelm. I always make sure that I tell them that they can use any colour for anything that resonates with them, and that their intuition and experiences are the most important. They often get the candles that are on paper the 'correct' one, but I hope that I have planted a seed of sovereignty for the future :)

[@rachelwebb9040]

Ah - the blessed seed of sovereignty! Keep on sowing, dear gardener of spirits.

[@rgwood2381]

@@rachelwebb9040 Gardener of spirits, I love that! Thank you so much

[@MoonVixenWitch]

100% agree on correspondences. Funny you used Lavender as an example. I had that scenario in my life. It reminded me of someone I didn't want to be reminded of. I've been able to heal some since then and now I love lavender but for years, I just didn't use it at all.

[@ArwynAvalon]

Kelly-Ann, this video is so timely!! I've recently been going through my tools, and I decided fuck it, I'm only going to use what I vibe with verses what is the "right tool" to use and I'll make it work. I've started doing this will all my crystals and herbs in particular. For example, as much as I appreciate rose quartz, it's not a stone that really speaks to me yet is one of the most common stones used in the areas of self love, inner healing, etc. I have found my "rose quartz" in pink morganite, plus all the gemmy feels that stone gives me over rose quartz. I have a true connection to it and that's a powerful thing. Our practices are at their core deeply personal and we really should not be afraid and use what we vibe with on that deep, inner level, regardless if anyone else does or not. It's our magic, after all! 🪄:)

[@Universopiate]

Our coven is finding our magnanimous CHAOS groove ✨️ Never felt more in tune as I do now 😁 Great video as always Kelly-Ann 🤘

[@TheLakeWitchWriter]

From an autistic Hungarian solitare in the broom closet practicing Cristo-pagan witch: in times of meltdowns it happenes that i often skip even months from my craft cbecause recovery consumes huge amount of time. I have studies to do and my illness mixed with ADHD i have to simplify everything or i get so overwelmed that i am not able to proceed a single step due to the overstimulation which i need to avoid. I have to take care of people, i have studies to work on to graduate from university, i have to find a stable job tha also eats up my time - i have to feed myself from sthing and pay my bills. Witchcraft/faith will be my last thing to persue, alongside my hobbies, as my mindset is: duties first, everything else can come later. I try to navigate myself towards the most simple least resource consuming solution to a problem, and most of the mundaine problems needs mundaine solutions, witchcraft is a tool for me, not the entire personality of mine. A little advice: if it brings you down and not uplifts you, you should consider changing it or quitting. I HATE the proverb "Winnders never quit and quitters never win" because it is a complete bs. One needs to know, to feel when it is bad enough to quit, to figure out iti s not our path. There is a place or changings in our life. As one of my former mentors says: "There is a level of stagnation/stuckness which metaphores some level of death in our life. If it is the case, the better is to let go". I really hope I could translate it well into English. In Hugarian it is the following: "Ha megrekedsz az életedben, érdemes körülnézni és kiásni a halott csontvázakat, és eltemetni, elnegedni azt, ami visszahúz, régi kulccsal nem lehet új ajtókat nyitni". The other half of her wisdom says you cannot open new doors with old keys. ;) Happy Eastern/Ostara season for those who celebrate them.

[@soon_to_emerge]

19:05 I still have a mental block about deity work, but maybe for a little bit different reason. I have always called myself agnostic and used “gods” instead of “God”, because there’s so many gods in so many cultures and I wanted to kinda include everyone. However, when it comes to working with them, I feel deep shame, because I was never devoted and don’t feel like I can actually devote myself, and deity work is supposed to be me asking them for something. Idk it just rubs me the wrong way, not being a worshipper and suddenly knocking on gods’ door and asking for shit without even feeling sincere in my worship.

[@KateAtNight]

This may be a silly question but, just curious, do you have new lighting in this one? You look very clear and lovely! Scrumptious video, as always. 🌹

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I actually don't have any new lighting. Must have been some wondrous light through the window ❤ Thanks for watching x 😊

[@IAMtheoneyoulovetolove]

Thank you Kelly-Ann

[@unclebadger7744]

A lot of very good points there. Thank you.

[@whangbar]

You are an interesting lovely person and I'm glad I discovered you. This video, in particular, resonates. Great.

[@kitdubhran2968]

I’ve never liked long complicated flowery stuff in my craft. Before it was because the rituals were all someone else’s. And that’s incredibly personal imo. And so it was kind of like putting on someone else’s underwear. Bleh. Now, I’m just aware that big rituals like that just don’t do it for me. They don’t get my engine going or help me connect or inspire me. It just feels overly complicated and like too much work. And that’s not what my craft is about. It just won’t get me moving spiritually if I am feeling “ugh” the whole time.

[@cookieshard3]

thanks for this!

[@La_Dame_aux_chats]

Bloody hell Kelly-Ann.. You really are the sister I never had. 😅 I feckn love you!! ❤💜❤️

[@simoneoconnor9392]

Love your work Kelly-Ann! Look I just read that you should never cast a spell over others because it takes away their free will. I'm new to the craft. My grownup son was ill and I wished him good health in a spell. Was this the wrong thing to do? I'm confused 😮 thanks Simone

[@kelly-annmaddox]

There is no definitive answer to this question because different witches run their practices according to their own ethics. I have personally performed spells for other people for positive outcomes. It's not an ethical grey area for me. But for others, it is. I trust myself to be able to do workings, prayers, rituals etc for other people and know that I'm not going to infringe on their free will or accidentally send anything unpleasant their way. But others really feel like ANY focus on other people's lives is not a good idea.

[@simoneoconnor9392]

@@kelly-annmaddox thank you so much!

[@riot.9]

yessss

[@kuolevainen]

Hi Kelly Ann. I'm such a friend of your content. It's been really helpful. Psychosis is a highly intriguing topic for me. I'm personally quite "anti-establishment" and find the views of modern psychiatric system on it rather questionable to say the least. I don't know if you have done a video that addresses your experiences with the condition per ce, but that would be a fantastic watch!

[@cyberbrujx]

yes. correspondances are a tool of capitalism. use what you have. make your own magic. lol

[@JoeRiver444]

This video was released at the right time for me because I am really going through it and questioning everything! I've been practicing for approximately 3 yrs now and the first spell that I did was a love spell to get an unavailable man. I got the spell from a random KZbin video which did not mention the importance of protection and magickal circles. This spell was done before I decided to become a witch. Online and self tarot readings also opened up the door to the craft. Since then (3 yrs ago) my life has gone down hill and everyone has gone against me. My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer around the time I started practicing the craft. I really enjoy practicing witchcraft but it sometimes feels like it's doing harm to me and my life. Currently I'm scared to even light a candle due to fear that everytime I practice (including divination), even if it's something light. My mother becomes extremely sick and recently she got really hurt during the same time I did a reading (we don't live in same household), by falling in her home. Everytime I step outside I attract mentally illed people and they always say something negative about me and even become confrontational. This is so creepy and frustrating. I love practicing but I'm thinking I may need to step away from it at least temporarily. I am thinking I may even stop practicing completely. But I don't know if I want to practice being Catholic either. I'm just tired of everything and feel physically and mentally exhausted. Suicide seems like a great idea right about now. I'm experiencing issues on every level of my life. Anyway thanks so much for this video, I have a lot to think about.

[@tami.1111]

❤sending Love & Light❤