Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage

[@cowboy101lisa]

The ones that need to watch this aren’t here.

[@brianallen140]

And they never will be.

[@eide99]

Or if they do, they'll say that it's just adding more load into their "woman's burden"

[@mikemkenya254]

Very true 💯

[@Verdadesquesanan]

Wow. So sad but true 😢

[@DoctorGorbon]

SAD BUT TRUE

[@narcsurvivalist3921]

I have never heard so much accountability from one woman. I can’t imagine how much hate you get from women who can’t look at the root cause… keep doin what you’re doin, don’t succumb to the haters. Love your message!

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment and encouragement. The haters are helping me gain my "rhinoceros" skin, and I am excited to keep going and sharing truth. 😊

[@markaurelius61]

​@@thehappywifeschool It amazes me how blinkered some women (and men) are to the fact that men are people too and are affected by female disrespect. They don't think there is a problem with their attitude at all.

[@jamesjonnes]

@@markaurelius61 They're sold the idea of the patriarchy where men are responsible for everything.

[@johannesswillery7855]

@@betsyveritas1055 Key point; Shouldn't marry.........................

[@ROForeverMan]

​@@betsyveritas1055Who hurt you ?

[@timizo691]

My ex wife of 14 years told me that our son was always her #1 and that I would ALWAYS come second. Sex was about once every two months. Nothing good that I did was ever acknowledged or appreciated. My stressful job actually became a place where I could breathe and have some peace. I withdrew because I was so burned out. I was just so drained.

[@bigthangz5489]

good that u divorced that burden

[@BoksCar29]

My wife's number one is her mother, looking back it has been that way throughout our marriage. Although my wife's mother died six years ago the mother is still the bar to high that I will never be able to reach. I told my wife at one time that she should have married her mother because to my wife the sun rises and sets in her mother. Looking back over the years it was her mother that my wife would gravitate to on any issue. My wife prides herself in that her mother was married and divorced three time holding that up as a high standard. Because that mother bar was so high, I too was never really appreciated so I lived a double life as much as possible. I have withdrawn from our relationship knowing that it is what it is, it's just the way it is.

[@andyrandy0815]

I feel you

[@kostadinpantev]

Well, my wife's number 1 is herself, and not even our 5 children.

[@trpweb]

​@@BoksCar29How many times is she divorced ? She might want to hit the gold standard.

[@tomcavanaugh5237]

And, once a woman figures out that her husband is unhappy, she can get angry at him for being unhappy.

[@johnbutler1279]

But don't be angry back. Lol

[@Wayne55125]

You mean she “will” get angry at him for being unhappy

[@THEFERMANATOR]

And somehow blame him for her actions causing the unhappiness.

[@Mortablunt]

Yep, that get unhappy at him for how he’s unappreciative and never does anything around here and how he’s not paying attention to her and it’s his fault she doesn’t want to have sex anymore.

[@tednpam3979]

Exactly. It’s a lose / lose situation. She’ll find a way to spin it. You’ll be the complainer. The negative one. The one that just can’t be happy. I’ve heard it all.

[@Seregtir]

“A wise woman builds her house, A foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” -King Solomon

[@shawnsuave5694]

How is that even a quote? That's nothing. That's just basic living. King Solomon sounds weird.

[@Joey-fs7ro]

A woman builds her home with her hands and tears it down with her words.

[@vidikat]

@@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 🤡

[@JohnSmithEx]

​@@Joey-fs7rowomen are not building houses. They literally don't know how to build a barn, let alone a house. Good women know how to sustain their house, and make it a household for their family. And obviously how to not tear it down with their mouth.

[@TimothyWiley-r2b]

Wise man that Solomon...

[@Nico-rd7ur]

Wow! As a husband, this video was such a shock and a breath of fresh air. I am so used to society constantly telling men they are wrong. Thank You so much.

[@snorman1911]

At the same time it tells women they are never wrong, which feeds their selfishness.

[@Elonmuskateer]

@@snorman1911of course they’re selfish … by nature

[@Savvynomad225]

Society is constructed to uplift women and expect that men do it. If a man doesn’t do it, he’s a bad man horrible man

[@nickpersenaire4443]

Holy shit this is spot on.

[@sirrevzalot]

We’re expected to be okay with being gaslighted. Show women they can’t manipulate you any longer and watch them self destruct like petulant children.

[@thedarkestowl4224]

Imagine a world where people were as calm, rational, and accountable as this woman. Thank you, ma'am.

[@deadislander]

men and women working together would be craaaaazzzyyy. we'd get more shit done

[@brianallen140]

Never going to help unfortunately.

[@FPA33]

​@@brianallen140Lol for most women, but there'll be some who'll take heed

[@danilaroche1156]

She's pretty incredible. I wonder if she knows the Lord Jesus? I think she does.

[@danilaroche1156]

I don't think my mother ever said a kind word to my father. He was a workaholic of the first order. He died before his time with work, heart disease and a cold woman. My mom.

[@Robert-b4h4w]

When I first got married I was excited to go home to my wife after a long day at work. After bring married for a few years, I realized I had no desire to go home after work. I would come up with many reasons to delay going home. Then I would become disappointed that I had no other options but to finally go home. That’s when I realized my marriage was over.

[@Robert-b4h4w]

Are you writing a relationship self help book, trolling or just don’t have anything productive to do today?

[@MattCasters]

​@betsyveritas1055 working all day for her isn't enough, giving all his time. It always needs to be more and it's never enough and it's always his fault if she's unhappy. You don't need to spell it out in every comment.

[@EE12CSVT]

​@@betsyveritas1055I agree. He should cook her a 5 course Michelin-starred banquet as soon as he gets home from work. And after that giver her a massage before doing the cleaning and laundry before collapsing in bed. Get back in the kitchen where you belong.

[@camelio10]

​@@Robert-b4h4woh look, a sociopath that can't empathize

[@rougebaba3887]

I have had similar feelings. Through much of my marriage it felt like respect came upon me the moment I stepped outside to head to work, and then would begin to shed piece by piece as I drove home, the last shred evaporating the very moment Id step through the doorway of MY home. And during those years (and still) one of the most positive feelings I'd manage came when I'd pull up to my house at the end of a long, hard day, and I'd see that her car wasn't there. She's not home!

[@jbminch]

As a man and a husband of 30 years hear this. It is impossible NOT to take being emasculated or made wrong personally. Especially when it comes from your wife. Your husband may play the game and allow you to exonerate yourself but deep down it still hurts him. No matter how much you rationalize. It’s abuse pure and simple.

[@denisemorgan8975]

Damn Straight! I was abused by my ex husband I will Never condone a wife abusing her husband. It's wicked

[@YaRememberTHISQuestionmark]

My marriage is coming to an end but I find a lot of comfort knowing that you understand my pain. No matter what I did or how much I did, I was always wrong and wanting. It was never about what I did and always about what I couldn't or didn't do. I was muted, casted aside, emasculated, disrespected, rejected, over and over and over again. Those rare days that things went right, I'd breathe a sigh of relief, but those days when even one thing went notably wrong? I'd never hear the end of it. Sex stopped around the same time affection and respect did. It was the longest, most humiliating, and isolating 2 years of my life. My friends could barely recognized me; my self-esteem was a pile of dust. I feel seen for the first time in 2 years watching your video. Thank you.

[@laquintonpiggee5855]

Your comment made me shed a tear! Not ashamed to say it I’m dealing with same n it HURTS!!! Bad! And I’m pretty logical thinking person but men hurt too

[@YaRememberTHISQuestionmark]

@@laquintonpiggee5855 I"m still going through it, my friend. It sucks. But unless we're killed, we keep on moving, one foot after the other. I have to keep believing that it can get better otherwise I'm doomed. Hang in there! It must get better!

[@carolmapp7113]

So much emphasis is put on the Wedding day, it only 1day. Put your energy into your marriage and relationship. A great book to read is "The proper feeding of husband ", it was a game changer for me! When a woman gets married you need to make a pleasant welcoming environment for your husband to come home to. Don't nag as soon as he walks through the door. Learn to cook and plan meals. When a man gets married he expects to have sex with his wife.

[@racebannon96]

I was in it for 10 years. Loveless and sexless marriage. No affection or support. No help with our kids and the chores. She dumped every responsibility on me. She finally left us for her alcoholic boyfriend. It was a gift her leaving us. The kids are grown and out of the house. I was able to retire a few years ago. I am still relieved she is gone and someone’s else’s problem. She was one miserable creature.

[@cussy66]

18 years in and last 2 years been like this, giving it till the summers up if no change am pulling the pin and walking. Its a big world out there.

[@bcarr424]

I was subjected to this for the last 3 years of my marriage, no affection, always wrong, alone in the relationship as she replaced me with other people and activities. She eventually asked for a divorce, despite my efforts, including counselling, and at that point I couldn't think of any reasons within the relationship to object. Six months later I am healthier and wealthier, I have my dogs and hopefully soon a home of my own where I can live the rest of my days in as much peace as can be found.

[@Nathanielc2]

That's what I'm experiencing... making more money, I've lost 20 pounds because I'm not eating her greasy cooking, working out more, I feel better. I'm just not through the divorce yet. so I have a ways to go... but your testimony appears to be a prelude to what's to come for me.

[@bencarr4977]

@@betsyveritas1055 I was well aware as I’m spent three years bearing the weight of trying to repair a marriage alone. You are entirely uninformed about my circumstances and quite frankly are projecting your own circumstances onto me and in most of your responses to other men on this thread. Your displaced anger is evident and frankly not my problem.

[@bcarr424]

@@Nathanielc2 I've found the victories are in those small improvements that you make as they begin to add up. I hope the settlement treats you favorably and you are able to continue improving your life.

[@WatchfulHunter]

See my solution. It happened to me too.

[@jackgoodings]

@@betsyveritas1055 Then don't tar men generally from your bad experience. Ironically, our marriage counselor said the same thing to me .. and I still lost my kids and everything I worked hard and provided for at my expense without whining and complaining about it .. and never regretted it, but I speak out about parental alienation and the laws needing to be changed. Please stop labeling all men with your personal single experience .. perhaps see another few counselors. While you're stuck in this mentality, you're not able to speak up for the atrocities we go through too

[@CruceEntertainment]

However you slice it or dice it, when the sex ends, the marriage ends. Ladies, if you want a divorce, then cut off the sex. It’s a very effective strategy.

[@MrThenry1988]

Belly full and balls empty. Simple.😊

[@cranshawmccaw]

@@MrThenry1988 Respect and empty balls would be better. If I provide and try my best to make her happy, and then she denies either or both, it will destroy a man. A man can always cook, but having a woman who actually loves you enough to recognize and want to fulfill those needs is worth more than anything on this planet.

[@d.vaughn8990]

@@fabricecardon4165had an Army buddy say, sex isn’t everything - but if you aren’t getting sex, you don’t have a marriage!

[@susanneschmidt6159]

My husband cut off the sex ....I have a great body and chill personality..no debt but he has heath issues and 11 yrs older. Divorced but friends now.

[@j.p.5716]

@@fabricecardon4165 - This is the exception and certainly not the rule.

[@d.vaughn8990]

My Dad never came home until 11:00 at night. He usually had a few to drink. He never got up until 9:30 a.m. or so. After about 10 years of marriage, I learned why…from my own experiences. He arrived home, when my mom was going to bed. He got up when she was gone or in the process of leaving. It was how he coped!

[@magicalbeatsuk]

Love him. He stayed in that marriage for you.....good man.

[@slatersellsseattle]

💯

[@MrG360oneX]

My shift usually ends at 11:00pm everyday and ive been thinkin of stoppin by a bar before goin home cus i know i wont get a welcome home. Kids are asleep and the wife is on her tiktok

[@loverofgolf]

The signs any good man is unhappy is that he is married.

[@moorshound3243]

Yep I know how he feels

[@sirjustin511]

I asked my wife the other day why she never apologizes. She replied "because I'm not the wrong" even when she berates me, treats me like a child or shoots me nasty looks. But im expected to apologize. Even when I try to be an active father showing tough love to her boys (not my biological children) she protects them and invalidates my parenting in front of them and blames their lack of respect for me on me instead of her shielding them. She bites my head off all the time for simple comments or parenting decisions for my own daughter and then blames me for the argument. Whenever I do things to help her she has to micromanage things and tell me I'm doing it wrong. It's bad enough I have to deal with an ex-wife that treats me the same and I have to contend with an extremely ADhD child in the mix I've never felt so alone in life and yet I'm married! I can't talk to her I can't speak my mind and self-censor a lot! I feel emotionally trapped. I don't know what to do. I'm not perfect but I know when I'm owed an apology and it never comes.

[@racebannon96]

I don’t miss it. Thankfully she left us after 10 years. I helped her pack her stuff. I wish you well and hope things get better for you.

[@tombels7159]

My marriage is just like this. Your observation is not wrong and you're not alone man

[@TheDissident77]

Went through the same thing. STOP. If you're not able to leave for whatever reason. STOP. Don't play her game. Says you don't do anything? DON'T DO ANYTHING. She draws skirmish lines of whose child is whose? Do the same with YOUR CHILD. Your child isn't hers so tell her to shut the hell up about her. Doesn't like how you do anything? DON'T DO ANYTHING. Let her do it. Tell her, "You don't like how I do it some just letting you do it the way you want." It's a helluva a thing being alone in a crowded house. Work on yourself bc you clearly pick women very poorly. STOP. Do the bare minimum in and for the house. DON'T HELP. DON'T PARENT (cept your own). Prepare to leave.

[@warren1743]

Get out bud. Just reading it hurts me on your behalf. Just do it. Leave. Once you've made the decision the rest is so easy. It'll all open up before you. Make the decision

[@louisbee7923]

There's no way this is real. A woman that actually takes accountability. A woman with real introspection and self-awareness. A woman that is interested in evaluating behaviors fairly in a couple. This is truly refreshing and impressive. Bravo.

[@loverofgolf]

I agree. Never imagined such a woman existed.

[@Stoked778]

She’s probably a dude using ai or something

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

Tit tok didn't pay so she does this therapy stuff

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

Ti t tok didn't pay so she came up with this therapy stuff.

[@soullessginger9912]

​@ThisTimeTheWorld bro, quit it. You're no better than the feminists that slander good men. This woman is actually aware and isn't biased against men and you're here trying to insult her? People like you are just like the feminists you claim to hate, which makes you a HYPOCRITE! We finally got a woman with a platform calling out these toxic ass female behaviors and you're trying to tear her down? Go touch some grass.

[@comeon_man]

My wife did the 100 th unhappy routine with me while on a trip. Something in me broke. I didn’t get mad. Just picked up my suitcase and left her in the hotel. I feel like I lost 140lbs this year. I can’t believe the carnage that good men experience. This KZbinr here: Thanx for validating us

[@ModMax69]

I left one at a grocery store. Just couldn't listen to the mouth any more complaining about everything possible. Pushing a cart too slow or too fast... not maintaining proper cart distance to her... asking permission to buy bread and butter pickles started a fight that was the last straw. If I loved her I should have known to not ask for those pickles??? DONE

[@rougebaba3887]

I got to ask, what was the immediate aftermath of leaving her at the hotel? The story was short and undetailed, but brutally perfect. I experienced the "I'm unhappy" thing more times than i could count, and it always seemed to occur around things directly related to something I needed or wanted... like a holiday spent with My Family or a visit from one of my adult kids and my grand children. There just had to come a point when she made sure I knew how unhappy she was.

[@GTRNights]

Almost exact same thing happened to me. I was overseas on my first vacation trip in a decade. She tried so hard to ruin it, cussing me out, telling me how I'm evil and everything's my fault. Absolutely lost her damn mind. I just snapped and told her I wanted a divorce. 5 years after I got rid of her, I'm still in therapy for the toxic abuse she put me through.

[@ModMax69]

its your life now!@@GTRNights

[@hansnicklasson494]

​@@GTRNightsi

[@petereastwood7868]

If a man speaks in a forest, and no woman hears him, is he still wrong?

[@jasonkiefer1894]

OMG! I say that all the time!

[@ugaladh]

Back when i worked, I'd look around the room and say, "Well, I'm the only man in the room, so I know it was my fault, whatever it is."

[@Leigh-xw1gq]

Yes

[@omarkoch5429]

Hahaha they used that quote in a book I just read “No more Mr. Nice Guy” it’s an amazing book.

[@popuptarget7386]

Yes, he is still wrong because a woman somewhere says so.

[@steverogers7381]

I dealt with the constant criticism from my wife in all the ways you described except for drinking (never was fond of the taste). After my youngest child turned 18, I told my wife I was leaving due to over 20 years of being belittled and criticized for everything I did. I told her many times over the years that her constant criticism made me more uncomfortable in my own home than anywhere else on earth, and she couldn't have cared less. She was a score keeper, but never counted anything I ever did. Modern women are toxic.

[@DNA350ppm]

Yes, you did right to divorce at last, but you are wrong about women - your wife and a bunch of other wives are/was/were crap, but your generalisation makes me wonder where you picked her up! Why not concentrate on examples like Charisma and Cole who have their own YT channel and call themselves interabled. Aren't we all?

[@impudentdomain]

​@DNA350ppm nah, he is right, modern women are crap

[@stevecampbell7620]

Your Phrase "scorekeeper " hit home with me. I used to call it the "Backpack" she carried around every slight or offense I commited and pulled them out later for use against me. Eventually the backpack got to heavy to drag around and she dropped it and me with it.

[@DNA350ppm]

If you truly think and feel your wife is "toxic" for you and in general, it is your duty to file for a divorce. You cannot let the misery go on, and on, and on. If she doesn't care, then just divorce her, why would she care? I don't know how come you ended up in the destructive blame-game, but you should have divorced her, let's say after two years of thinking and feeling she was "toxic". An adult has a responsibiity to stop abusive behaviour, and when needs be to distance oneself from the toxic situation, by moving out and go no contact. (No words can stop some people. You have to act.) I say this just to clarify, not to accuse. It would have been helpful if somebody would have told me this, when I out of pity stayed way too long with my ex, just not to make him look like a sore loser. Though I didn't tell others a word about why I had to move out, everybody who knew both of us, automatically assumed it was because of his negativity. It was. I got PTSD. I had been a bad example for others. I was very unhappy. I was broke and broken. But I worked hard to repair and switch to a constructive tack. I hope the bucket actually stopped with me. I really think it did, to 99%. Though it took way too long for me to get out and start anew from scratch.

[@DNA350ppm]

@@stevecampbell7620 I hope you've learned forever to take yourself more seriously. You are nobody's dustbin! From now on: only have contact with people who make you feel good about yourself. Test: you long to meet them again and you have no remorse for anything after having had contact with them, you're only looking forward to next time. You have no duty to serve anybody with the opportunity to be negative towards you! Life will very soon be so much better, and you do deserve it! All the best wishes for healing!

[@jawsxx8683]

I almost wished I hadn't seen this. It nailed me. I literally started crying. I'm THAT husband.

[@barrynevin7062]

You have plenty of company brother , take up golf I did

[@musicgal9830]

I pray for your marriage that God comes in and rearranges everything and you both learn to grow together in a healthy way

[@papachris8540]

Same here man. Atleast we can all find solace in being screwed together

[@Chuncy566]

@@barrynevin7062 some of the guys i golf with,ill pick them up& they start telling me a bout there bad marrage&start crying like there heart will break,i cant harly get them to stop crying ,can you imagine how that will ruin your golf outing?

[@warren1743]

I'm sorry bud. It's a rough shituation. I understand your pain. Get out. Take charge of your life and get away from that stuff. That's how you're going to find your happiness

[@blaclux]

Love the video👍🏾 I’ve checked out of my marriage as a husband, I’m now a roommate. 21 years of marriage, 10 years of no sex, being called an embarrassment because I retired 20 years from the military at a lower rank that she would like, “I can’t tell my friends”, is what is was told. Being criticized for my career choices. She has turned my son against me. I felt worthless, and seriously contemplated unaliving myself. BUT, I have pulled myself up from the brink of deep depression and the affects PTSD…

[@Haphazardzone]

Keep your chin up, you can fix it and get better.

[@herculesh1907]

Bro..I know it's hard but get help and if need too...walk away.

[@Lightman741]

I am in a similar position. Except I have been married for 11 years and since my wife ate wedding cake, she lost all interest in sex. I am totally lost

[@Stoked778]

Don’t do it man. You earned that military title. Guys like me wouldn’t be able to get through basic (severe leg injury) and huge respect for you.

[@alexrad9570]

💪

[@FranciscoRamirez-nl9dw]

I'm in my late 70's. My wife and her health issues are my main concern. Married too long. Seems like I can't do enough for her. She tells me she loves me, but I don't believe her, she rarely show it by doing things for me. Bringing me a cup of coffee or just small things that shows that she loves me. I have too many kids, grand kids and great-grands. I couldn't leave her. They would not understand. I feel like I have been sentenced and given some cruel form of punishment. I couldn't leave her because I worry about who would take care of her. See, I still care for her.

[@johannesswillery7855]

Thank you for describing the plight of men. God bless you!

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

Walk brother

[@jbr84tx]

Just live your own life and do what makes you happy, independently of her. Don't TRY to make her happy, it is a waste of your time and energy. Find a hobby and lose yourself in it. You're just sharing a house, like roommates. If you haven't done so, work out an equitable budget arrangement and keep your money separate from hers.

[@ibberman]

You are not alone, 71 here 49 yrs of neglect, yet here I am.

[@sirlongschlong]

Make no mistake about what would happen if you did find a way out of the relationship. Your image among all of your family and friends would promptly be destroyed and your relationship with your kids and grandkids would be over. They will all take your wife's side. In my opinion, it is best to try to teach and enlighten your wife, then your kids. Such is the lot for men, especially if we have a family. It is our job to show them the way, even when we are suffering and going through things as well. Like a good boss or coach does, we must not put our issues onto them, so as to prevent over burdening them. Not fair, but just the reality. Eventually you will be able to make them aware of your perspective or issues once they are more emotionally mature and resilient enough.

[@betterlatethannever7337]

My wife refused to work, even when we had just one child going to school. I worked multiple jobs and long hours. She would call me at work and tell me I had to get home to make dinner because it was my turn. The house would be trashed when I got home in the evening, the breakfast dishes still on the table, the living room filthy, the kids sitting on the clean clothes on the sofa because there was no clean place to fold them. Every night I'd clean the house and get the kids going on their homework. I realized she was doing all this to show me who was boss. I divorced her and went on to earn a high income and remarry with a beautiful, hardworking girl. I wasnt perfect, but I was a good guy.

[@LisaCulton]

Wow, you just described my ex-husband.

[@a.d.b535]

You left your child with her?

[@smiechu47]

@@LisaCulton Your ex-husband stayed at home and didn't work?

[@LisaCulton]

@@smiechu47 He was working part-time, with a lot of Homeoffice time. I was working full time+ and expected to pick up groceries on the way home, cook , clean, help with homework, wash the cars, you name it. He couldn't even be bothered to take meat out of the freezer to thaw, so it would be ready to cook when I got home.

[@stuartlincoln4943]

Often, the more you do, the more you get taken for granted and the less appreciated you are. If a relationship is not equal, eventually it doesn’t work

[@ashinch0r]

If he is distant, you can bet it is because he knows that it is not going to go well for him to engage and share his thoughts and feelings. If my opinions are thoughts are not respected, then you won't get them any more, I will share them with someone who respects me.

[@cedricwork1670]

BINGO. What her actions have taught me is that I cannot share the truth with her. Even though she says "no secrets" as though she wants to know -- but she DOESN'T. Even in everyday conversations, she is literally tuning out, and she'll suddenly start talking to our daughter about something. Or just talk to me about something else MID-SENTENCE. Of the 2nd sentence at that. Or she'll take out her phone literally while I'm talking, start messaging somebody. I'll wait for a response and get nothing. I ask for one, and be met with "Can I just finish writing to this person?" For real. When I try to communicate something that upset me, it's just met with defensiveness, and she'll tell me all the reasons why I don't have a right to be upset and that she's the one who should be upset. It's all I've learned from her -- I cannot tell her the truth. And the truth at the bottom of it all is that she doesn't actually know me because I don't feel like I can show her -- even though there's nothing I'd want more. It can get lonely as hell.

[@mrsir4274]

Yep. I stopped telling my wife anything personal when she would use it as a weapon against me. I stopped asking her for help, because it was always a negotiation if I did: I'll do that if you do this... I'm not asking for help so I can put something else in my plate.

[@mikeflynn3421]

Good man !!!!

[@jeremyalcoser5742]

Dammmit most realest comment on here!!!

[@trumpwilson7846]

You nailed it❤

[@Hamp7465]

This woman actually wants to be married and she put in the work and changed herself. She never blamed her husband whom I 'm sure wasn't perfect but said If I change maybe his action toward me will change. Bravo to you!!

[@Undisputed00]

This is exactly how I'm feeling in my marriage. This video is about to bring me to tears.

[@amerigo88]

Hurting too. I think my wife has a lot of pains - physical joint pain and mostly self-image pain. Spent three decades raising five children and is really depressed now - misses the children and her central purpose in life. She is frightened, largely alone while i work long hours, and an introvert. I can't make her happy and I haven't actually made her unhappy, although that has been her reflexive understanding. We each have to accept some share of responsibility for our current, unhappy situation and then rebuild ourselves before we can rebuild the marriage.

[@peterhenning2340]

This is what destroyed my marriage. I tried so hard to reach her. But she’s too proud to look deep into her own shortcomings to ever admit something like this. You’re a courageous woman and I look up to you for having the strength to admit your part in the marriage. Most good men love their wives and want to treat them like queens. But that respect must be earned not merely expected.

[@einarreriksson4598]

I was wondering if this came down to culture or gender because I'm American and she's German and we live in Germany. Now, I see that so many men have the same problems that I have. Once you have kids with her, she has her claws in you. I wish I could leave but I love my kids and I take my responsibilities as a father serious. I have been warning her, when the kids are gone, so am I. Fishing is so much easier than dealing with relationships.

[@kenta3148]

Unfortunately, the more we treat them like queens, the less respect we get in return. It seems that women are able to last about 3 years on their best behavior. That takes a lot of effort to stay in character until they secure the legal marriage. Having children is the final hurdle to think you will now put up with all her crap for the kids sake. We don't want our kids to have a broken home. I am recently a red pilled man and wish I learned this 40 years ago.

[@markcavandish1295]

I’ve decided that I can only work on myself and hope for the best. Work on my business, paint the house, help kids with homework, keep up on my fitness and likability. If she comes around or if she doesn’t, I’m fine either way.

[@jackdeniston59]

Hide your cash too

[@dtuitt79]

That's the spirit!😂

[@jamesjonnes]

@@jackdeniston59 Put your assets on a trusted relative's name if you think she will divorce. If she has a history of lying, buy a bodycam and record yourself 24/7 to prove your innocence.

[@dtuitt79]

Based on your comment, I assume that we are in a similar situation. If that is so, I have a little advice or perspective. My wife & I have been together over 15 years. In retrospect, the disconnect in our relationship started when she got pregnant with the twins 14 years ago, but we or I didn't see it until we were almost 10 years in. That's when I came to the conclusion that you have come to now. My wife has come around but it took year's. At first she thought it was a trick, she didn't trust the change/growth that I had committed to. There was also a lot of resentment that needed to be over come. She is now working on herself. It sucks, but you can't expect a quick fix when it comes to women & hurt emotions. Just because you are growing & changing doesn't mean she will do the same at the same pace or in the same time frame. If she really loves you & wants things to work deep down, she will have to change & become a better wife, person, (I hate this word when it pertains to marriage) & partner. & so will you. Good luck.

[@bobleglob162]

My marriage had turned to sh!t and it took a big come-to-Jesus talk to get it back on track. My wife wouldn't have done it in her own, i had to make her confront how she had contributed to the marriage's sorry state and i found out what i had done as well.

[@christiaanx454]

I haven’t met a woman who genuinely cares about her husband’s or a man’s mental and emotional welfare. It’s just how it is. Dogs and mothers will care.

[@JamesBrown-eg1wu]

Neither have I.

[@kslaughter111]

Bro I don’t even think my mother cares

[@hilaryrichardson1076]

I adore and care about my husband. His emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing is very important to me. I think the secret is being best friends. This woman has some valid points. Ladies, if you are not happy alone and with yourself, then you won't be happy in a relationship. Expecting a man to fix you is really unfair and unrealistic.

[@christiaanx454]

@@hilaryrichardson1076 do you have a clone? 😂

[@hilaryrichardson1076]

@christiaanx454 😂 Nope! I'm definitely unique, weird, and quirky. I think my husband is the only man that can put up with this ball of goofiness. 😉 However, I can tell you there are women our there that share my views and are amazing. You just have to find the right one. Don't lose hope.

[@tancosin1]

I was married for four years. I had sex about 10 times in 4 years. It was the worst experience ever. After breathing through a pistol in my mouth, it occurred to me that I should probably get a divorce. I found a nice girl from the Philippines and decided to give this 100%. I have NEVER been so happy!!! The best revenge is success. My ex knows that I am extremely happy & have done extremely well financially. Retiring at 54!

[@garrusch7063]

Hello tancosin1. How did you go about finding a Philippine woman? I am at my breaking point with these American women.

[@wiltmarlonelao]

@@garrusch7063Hi there. I’m born and raised in the Philippines, so I believe I’m capable of answering your question. Honestly, the best way of finding a good Filipina is to just straight up come over here. Just the fact that you’re American makes you 1,000% more attractive to the locals here, regardless of age. I’m going to be honest with you though. Tons of women here are looking for financial stability and that’s what they’ll be hoping to get from you. On the upside of things, most Filipinas are very traditional, family-oriented and caring people; they’ll stay loyal to you and look after your every need. If you have any other questions, I’ll be happy to answer them for you to the best of my ability, provided that YT informs me that I’ve received a reply from you. Cheers man.

[@Haymaker007]

Yup. Im at twice the last year and a half, it sucks. Shes a sweetheart but oblivious to how this affects me. Glad you found happiness eventually

[@ericcriteser4001]

I went through that, too. 2000 to 2008. Some of the best times and some of my greatest wealth building years, but also the worst. We would have married for 20 years this year and I'm fine now, but GOT DANG, what a f'n waste of time.

[@slimfbiggyansah4295]

Good for you

[@Dano-MX5]

I just discovered your channel tonight! Now I’m afraid I will be binge watching. 😂 I’m 72, been married 52 to my high school sweetheart. Married at 19 to the prettiest girl in our graduating class. Went in the service at 18, married at 19, had our 1st child at 22, 2nd at 24. The spontaneousness, the playfulness, the amazing sex, the cuddling we enjoyed during those early years all went away when the kids arrived. Her adoration of me and of our marriage disappeared too. At 30 (we are the same age) I had a profound religious experience which altered the hard partying and carefree lifestyle we both had lived…up until that point. Because of my sudden change (which she constantly questioned) she began spending time with a male co-worker in what was described as a “just friends” relationship. He was like the “old me” I guess. She had always enjoyed fishing (I never did) and he had a farm pond. She would ask me to watch the kids for the afternoon on the weekend as she wanted to go out to “Joe’s” and catch some supper for us. She said he gave her an open invitation and even said he was working so she’d be the only one there besides his mom. This became a fairly regular occurrence. You can guess the rest of the story. She had a 2 year affair with him before I found proof. We stayed together for the kids and because of my faith I eventually forgave her but I’ve never forgotten. It is still the thorn in my side that reminds me everyday that what was once a fairytale marriage had turned to ashes. She never really apologized or gave me a full throated explanation as to why she did what she did. She just exhibited a self loathing demeanor for a short time then has acted ever since like it never happened. I was hoping, especially once we were empty nesters, that the spontaneous, playful, great sex and even the innocent cuddling would return. But it never did. She has never slipped her hand in mine, never told me she loves me out of the blue or laid her head on my shoulder. We have become roommates in our beautiful home. We enjoy our 4 dogs, vacationing, camping and visiting our amazingly successful kids and beautiful grandkids. Our sex has been a routine ritual for decades, not a spontaneous show of affection, which is something I have always craved. She seems to be 100% satisfied with this arrangement but I have felt empty for so many years and so many times I have wondered if I’d be happier if I walked away. I know she would never agree to marriage counseling, saying after 52 years and still being together we should be doing the counseling. At 72 the light at the end of my tunnel is getting dimmer. My time to pursue a happier life is drawing closed. What unhappiness would my kids and grandkids experience if I were to leave her? They all hold us both in high esteem. Do I destroy that manicured perception they have of us for my own happiness? These are the questions that have occasionally kept me up at night. Perhaps your videos will shed some light my way.

[@mattd8868]

Sorry to hear about all of that. I been married for 26 years & my divorce will be final in February 2024. I never wanted to be divorced but she left for a trial separation for 3 months thinking that it would make me do what she wanted. I had so much peace in that 3 months I didn't want her back. Im a man of faith as well. My kids are grown so it made things much easier. I know the term is over used but my soon to be ex wife was a covert female narcissist. We went to couples counseling. I had 2 years of separate counseling. My family & friends all support my decision, but most importantly I wasn't going to make a move unless the Lord gave me peace about it. You've been married for 52 years. I was prepared to stay in my marriage forever until my wife abandoned the family. Your wife committed Adultey. God give grounds for divorce for that. The question you have ask yourself is if you did divorce what then. You need to go to counseling & self improve. Start working on yourself. I don't know your wife so I can't speak for her but I will just tell you. When a women cheats with another man she is showing you that she has NO RESPECT FOR THE HUSBAND. And the fact that you just forgave her with NO CONSEQUENCES she sees you as a wimp. She should have no problem going to counseling after ADULTERY. I hope this helps you. My ex wife's respect for me has gone through the roof. She has asked me back countless times but I refuse to go back to No Sex, and her taking NO ACCOUNTABILITY OR APOLOGIES. The years I have left will be way better than the last. Good Luck to you & I will be praying for you. Stay strong in Him.

[@Dano-MX5]

@@mattd8868 …thank you. Your prayers are much appreciated. Remember, her adultery occurred 40 years ago. I was a brand new Christian at the time and felt God wanted me to forgive her unconditionally if she was willing to stay and try to fix what was broken. She had agreed to that. Now I am certain she would refuse consoling this late in the marriage just because it’s been 40 years and she has remained faithful since then, I am sure of that. There have been 2 instances in the distant past where she slipped up in conversations, recalling something her and her male friend did but attributing it to us. For example, we entered a restaurant 70 miles from our home that I’d never been to and she said “we’ve ate here before” to which I replied that we’d never even been to this little town. Half way through arguing about that she stopped and had the deer in the headlight look. Reading her face I knew she had just recalled that it wasn’t her and I but her and Joe who had ate there. The argument abruptly ended. I waited a couple minutes and said “so you and Joe ate here. Can you tell me what I should order off the menu.” (in an extremely sarcastic tone) The wound she opened that day remained opened for a long time. It brought back a flood of memories I never wanted to revisit. So now I am somewhat confused on what to do. I truly believe living by myself (and of course having a companion dog or 2) would diminish and/or eliminate much of my current discontent. Seeking personal consoling may answer some questions but I’m not sure it would provide any concrete solutions at this point. I feel I’d just be given suggestions, but I could be wrong. I plan on having us 100% debt free in the coming 6-9 months. Should we divorce that would make the road easier. We only owe a small balance on her new car and our 2 year old RV. Everything else is paid for (house, my truck and sports car). My feeling is with no financial obligations she would be more agreeable to an amicable division of property. But then again I could be wrong…

[@boatrvme8478]

I was married 36 yrs with kids and 6 gkids. I was not even the top ten on her list. One morning i got up called a divorce attorney and a month later she was served divorce papers!!! She was shocked but i did not bend on my decision. She fault me 2 yrs but i had had e ough of her criticism and belittling me. Today 8 yrs later i am happy!! My only regret is i didnt do it sooner!!!

[@downton39]

Sir, I think you should send her this video from the Happy Wife School. If she doesn’t get the point or want to change then it’s time to walk away. First you should talk with your kids and let them know your sadness so they can also go talk to their mom. When you finally walk away you can know you did everything possible to make it work. Life is precious and you deserve peace and stress less days and nights!

[@USMCCGAGNG]

At your age you know how time flies, how you only get this life. Demand more from her, from yourself, from life. People won't understand, but if they don't ask/aren't interested, then who cares. People change. After so many years I'm sure you've changed several times. Don't be ashamed to be human. Religion has a way to make us feel shame for this. Find life again.

[@waynezodiac8635]

I have been married over 33 years ....happiness has never been an option...

[@StevE-fj5bo]

Meaning, you know you'll remain unhappy? How do you stay positive?

[@waynezodiac8635]

@@StevE-fj5bo it is not an option either..

[@whatsupbudbud]

Thanks for the tip.

[@IBNED]

How true...honor, respect and openness are earned with performance and kindness

[@derekbilly4784]

Dang that last line was my 12 year horrible marriage

[@Xinkgs]

One of the best channels about marriage and relationships right now on KZbin.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your kind words and for supporting my channel.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

I'm curious about the percentage of female subscribers to this channel. I'm inclined to think the majority are men.

[@Time_to_Live_for_Joy]

Female here. Need all the help I can get.

[@SDPtor]

@@JohnSmith-ys3wcfemale here….happy to hear truth (even if it hurts). We’re out here! Promise!

[@starguy2718]

Once a guy says "I do", it's all downhill from there. Just say no, and walk away; life is too short, my brothers.

[@jimbrown4640]

100% true.

[@jimmymaracas6442]

Sadly I think you’re right. She even admits the emasculation never stops. I just don’t see the upside.

[@jamesjonnes]

@@jimmymaracas6442 There is no benefit for men. That's why it's supposed to be an exchange, she gives you her youth and virginity, and you give her marriage. But today all of it is only in their favor. They brainwashed men into not demanding anything and this generation forgot how it's supposed to be.

[@WatchfulHunter]

Avoid the legal trap.

[@jimbrown4640]

@@jimmymaracas6442 Well, if she continues to give love, affection, respect and loyalty it’s worth it. 99% of married women stop giving those thing within 5 years.

[@stevecampbell7620]

When I heard Chris Rock state that only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally, and men are loved under the condition of what we can provide, it hit home for me. First, I laughed and then thought about it. Wow! It was good to know that I was not alone. Thank You for speaking on this subject. Although late in life for me I do hope younger people will sit up and listen to your wisdom.

[@MrVenona]

Chris Rock has many wise observations. Will Smith....the complete opposite.

[@OrangeTree253]

But don’t work too much. You have to be able to provide without working too much

[@IronBloodedOrphanZ]

​@@MrVenonaKeep my name out of your f**kng mouth

[@ivanwalker6459]

Thank you, what a breath of fresh air this is, and describes my marriage perfectly. What a great place we would all live in if more people could learn to be happily married. You are absolutely right in this video, I'd say way too many guys know what it's like to get the blame and feel depressed simply for being a man. I'm now having a break from my marriage after being together 40 years and being blamed for my own unhappiness. Looking like I won't be returning, I just can't see my wife changing, and even if she did I'm so sick of trying I'm just not interested any more. Thank you for allowing me to see that I'm ok after all.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

I would encourage you not to throw in the towel after 40 years. At least see if your wife is willing to go to counseling. Although this lady has some good points that should be directed at women, please notice that almost everyone commenting on the video is men who LOVE hearing that their unhappy marriage has nothing to do with their own behavior. The reality is that happy successful marriages take both people working to make it successful. My guess is that your wife is feeling Resentful about something. Have you ever asked her that? ( and dont tell her how she is wrong to feel that resentment) And then have you asked her if she thinks she can get beyond that resentment and give the marriage a fresh start?

[@MattTheBandGuy]

⁠You're missing the whole point. His wife has had FORTY years to build a defensive system which blames him for practically everything that has gone bad in their relationship. GOOD Men are more than willing to put in the effort to make things better, but when those efforts are REPEATEDLY met with derision, silence, and a complete lack of effort on HER part, what is there to fight for at that point? They've just been roommates for 40 years. His wife is "resentful" that he is still a man after all these years and all she has wanted to see in him is a reflection of her, when they both should have been a reflection of God's grace and love.

[@ivanwalker6459]

@@MattTheBandGuy Thank you, yes, you get it, I didn't reply to the person's comment because I thought it would be a waste of time. Cheers.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

@@MattTheBandGuy Yes, I agree with you about they both should have been a reflection of God's grace and love. My marriage of almost 25 years would have failed years ago if it were not for my relationship with God and attempting to follow His Will in my marriage and in life. It just makes me so sad when people give up on their marriages. I have seen really bad marriages become good ones, myself included.

[@GardenerEarthGuy]

I hope you are doing okay, Merry Christmas.

[@malvokaquila6768]

Please listen to this woman. This was 15 out of twenty years of my time with my wife. I was ecstatic (after the shock wore off) when my wife filed for divorce.

[@JamesBrown-eg1wu]

Women won't listen to this advice. They just won't want to believe it. So this is for the men. For all the good it may do them.

[@ffarmchicken]

Ha, I was for few minutes. Then I started thinkn how can I make this a net positive. Which it eventually turn out to be.😊 I’m in a way way better situation with my girlfriend.

[@unbelievable-4u]

I absolutely love what you say... but (the majority of) women do not want to take accountability and do as you say. I am glad that you have clients that saw 'The Light'. mine never did. And I suspect --- very sadly, and maybe I say this with some bitterness - most of the women that I see on a daily basis can't or won't. The law courts INCENTIVIZED women to walk out of the marriage. I guess you know all of these things already. I am catching up. God bless you for your kind and supportive words to men. I needed to hear it.

[@timkellyD2R]

Being nice doesn't help. That's because good husbands/nice guys are boring. There's no drama to feed off as there is with the Bad Boys.

[@jmlkhan5153]

Being nice gets you treated like you weren't, regardless.

[@arsenelupiniii8040]

Bad boy Chad will get her sister knocked up, maybe even her Mom.

[@candyxoxo19]

Not so! If the woman does not like nice boys, then she is not kindhearted herself. Light clings to light.💡 My partner is super nice and kind and so adorable. His kindness is what drew me to him.

[@fenrichlee2867]

@@candyxoxo19 You must, as a woman have a 'bad boy' tucked away somewhere then. As I say - being a woman...

[@marknorris1381]

My experience is that if you are nice then it's seen by many as an invite to treat you any old way, whether in relationships or the workplace etc. The trick is to find that right person that appreciates and values it while they have it, not just after you're gone. That's not easy. I had one of those wives that saw my personality as an invite to kick me around. I became a walkaway husband I suppose when my youngest turned 18, but was later lucky to meet another woman who fully appreciates me. And I in turn appreciate her for the kind soul she is.

[@barend4803]

When I listened to this I broke down after many many years of abuse in marriage. I have tried for far too long.

[@eduarda.costache7321]

Omg, I never thought I could hear this kind of accountability from a woman, I am absolutely astonished by the level of intelligence and maturity and self reflection the lady in the video showed!!!incredible

[@WatchfulHunter]

After a man has kids, the wife knows he is trapped. If he divorces now, the whole World will blame him. So she does as she pleases. Refuses to work. Refuses sex. Ignores him. Talks to her friends about him. Emasculates him in front of the kids. She goes full evil. Naturally, the husband is losing his mind being trapped in his house with an intentional nemesis. His outward responses are anger, frustration, confusion, dispair, depression. The only sane and legal solution is to open a new bank account and transfer all funds possible without her consent or knowlege. Then buy another home with only his name on it. Leave the wife, and file for divorce and request joint custody. Now he lives in quiet peace and enjoys his kids without her. No need to drink.

[@ireneugeba5282]

As soon as I saw the title of the video I thought about alcohol. I saw it from childhood. Most men where I grew up; as soon as they got home from work they would go and get drunk. Weekends were worst. I now understand, yes they were unhappy with their wives, and just wanted an escape.

[@josephskowronski]

Did you grow up in the South side or Southwest suburban Chicago by any chance? I had the same observations, still never married or had children 64yrs old, no regrets, best decisions I've ever made!

[@whatsupbudbud]

I recognized this even before I experienced it myself. I don't use alcohol for this but I get those guys completely. None of the women I told this seem to recognize it though. Figures.

[@kimscott8176]

Never drank at all. Just the loneliness that goes on .

[@Appalachianasshole41]

​@@josephskowronskiurban suburban rural small town it happens everywhere

[@d00vinator]

So true. My wife treated me like a child, even called me a child. I wasn't respected as a man until I left and stayed with an old girlfriend, screaming at her over the phone from time to time. When she actually asked me if I'd help her with something she needed instead of telling me what "we" were gonna do (meaning she was going to do something and I'd go along whether I liked it or not), everything changed.

[@elderberry63]

@@betsyveritas1055 simply not true. Mine would go into a rant about the spoons being placed upside down in the dishwasher, yet she could never manage to put dishes in there herself. It was always about control. I've mentored men, and heard countless stories of not folding laundry "right", or not sorting the recycling properly, then being accused in the divorce that the wife initiates, of never helping her, or him being another child. The statistics don't lie, and new legislation in many states are leveling the playing field for men's custody rights. I believe women deserve equality, but you're not going to be happy with it.

[@nrudy]

​@@elderberry63I didn't even know there WAS a "wrong" way to load the dishwasher until I got married. I used to tell folks we got divorced because I wanted to be right about some things occasionally.

[@doomguy9049]

@@betsyveritas1055 The cause is usually the woman's immaturity, neuroticism and unwillingness to address her own insecurities.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

​@@nrudyThe only winning move is not to play the game

[@d00vinator]

She taught children all day, the most obstinate ones that couldn't fit into anyone else's classrooms. We didn't have any. It was never about me not doing the chores, it was not doing them RIGHT, and the first thing she'd do when she walked in the door was look around for some tiny detail that was WRONG. She'd latch onto that and start screaming. If I'd cleaned the kitchen, "THERE'S A SPOT ON THE FLOOR!" If I'd done the laundry, "YOU MIXED A TOWEL WITH THE UNDERWEAR!" I gave up driving with her as a passenger because I was always too fast, or too slow, or hit the gas too hard or not hard enough or stepped the brakes too soon or not soon enough or chose a different route to get where we were going or didn't switch lanes fast enough, it was never ending. If I knew we were going out I dressed like I thought she'd like me to dress (she didn't), when we were finished and in the car going home she'd light into me for something I'd said to someone that she hadn't mentioned at the time. I'm only explaining this so you understand that there was really never, never, never any way to please her; even when she seemed pleased she was simply saving the explosion for later. This went on for years and one day she started talking about how I needed to get "snipped" because we couldn't have children because I was already a child. Finally one day I'd made a payment for something (with my money, not hers) and put it in the wrong one of two accounts we had at the same bank. She told me I couldn't handle money, took the rest of what money I had and left with her friend; I thought we were gonna go out to eat. I felt like I'd been mugged. When she came back she walked in and started on my family, and I COMPLETELY lost it; I started screaming and throwing laundry around (I knew if I touched anything else I'd break it) and stormed out of the house in the snow in my socks. When I was a block or two away I calmed down and returned; I sat in my workshop for awhile and when I went in she'd fixed me a nice dinner, but I knew I'd lost something of my sanity. She was much easier to get along with for the next week or two but my head would throb if I got the least excited; I know I busted a blood vessel and I was hoarse and couldn't speak for days. That's when I left her and stayed with an old girlfriend; I was gone for 3 months. We were gonna divorce but one day she called me crying and asked if she could have my permission to buy a new lawnmower because the old one died. That was the first time she'd ever asked my permission and really all I wanted; it was the first time I felt respected. We eventually worked things out, she quit her job and dropped one of her most toxic friends and a few years later we had two kids. Sorry for the length~

[@SubcideWebzine]

I refuse to tolerate emasculating shame tactics from women now. I call it out as soon as it occurs.

[@gerardlouis4316]

So do I, so do I. And she thanks me for it. Feminism and all the other nonsense that came out either from rogue or liberal psychologists, them Dr Phil, and even the courts if abuse or violence is not involved , are kept out of the bedroom, out of our romantic relationship where gender roles are not mixed up. A male is a male, a female, is a female. And thus has nothing to do with abuse be it emotional or physical. Enough!

[@ad70preterist]

100% correct. I wish I could show this video to my wife but she would become very angry and defensive.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

Time to walk bro.

[@j.p.5716]

So you don't love her enough to do what is in her best interest? No wonder she does not respect you. Women do not respect men they can control. They want a man strong enough to (benevolently) control them and put them in their place when they misbehave. Become that man if you want a good marriage. If you don't she will eventually leave yo anyway.

[@moorshound3243]

Do it anyway

[@musicgal9830]

Invite Jesus into your marriage. Humans are sinful. The only way for a marriage to work is if the miracle working God Himself is in the midst

[@6193drizzle]

Try this experiment my married brothers. Ask your wife if she would give her life for you. (Hypothetically) but don’t give scenario’s. Its a Yes/No answer. It’ll tell you everything you need to know and change your perspective, permanently…. Prior to her answering that question to me I would’ve physically sacrificed myself for her under ANY circumstances. Now I’d only die for my kids. We’re just a means to their ends boys

[@troyeberling2432]

@6193drizzle it is much more complicated than that. Asking a woman that question won't give you a true answer just because of evolutionary biology. Women aren't designed to protect. When a man says he will take a bullet for his wife he means it. It is built into our DNA to protect. When we tell women that we will take a bullet for them they think we are just referencing an action as an attempt to show that we care. They have no understanding that what we're saying is a fulfillment of an oath that we took when we married them.

[@snake57]

Your wife is the only family member that is not related to you.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Should ask that question before you marry. Also, if a woman bears your child, she has died for you.

[@troyeberling2432]

@@deirdremorris9234 The problem with that statement right there is that you are thinking figuratively like most women do. You think it is a idea. When men say that they will die for a woman they mean it literally.We will take that bullet. We will sacrifice our life that the woman may live. It's not a figurative idea that you went through birthing pains for him.

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@troyeberling2432 If you gave birth, you would Know this is true.

[@tomtinker220]

Wow! ‘We are unhappy with ourselves and its a reflection and projection about how we feel about ourselves on the inside…’ so much truth there!

[@Mattheus217]

Especially if she is a covert or overt narcissist. She uses shame, insults, guilt, need to be right at all costs, scolding, manipulation, gaslighting. And on top of that uses sex, intimacy, etc. as weapons and withholds or punishes you. She is never happy due to deep emptiness and darkness of spirit. Her mindset is just to take supply from anyone possible to pump her up or give her control and dominance. To destroy your life and make you feel responsible for all the problems.

[@chrisaustin6255]

You pointed directly at me! I started drinking more than I wanted to later in my marriage, I withdrew, I knew things were failing and according to my elders and my wife, I developed debilitating depression and wanted to off myself daily. My wife clearly demonstrated that she didn't care about me and would never let the past stay in the past. I went from being all in on the marriage to not caring anymore. We have been divorced for 3-4 years.

[@steve7271]

She’s so wise, you can tell she’s thought deeply about this

[@johnkauppi7078]

I was and still am a hard working farmer. During my unhappy marriage I began to drink. I couldn't stand the taste of alcohol but I ended up keeping a bottle of Bacardi in my work truck. Medicine. Sober, I didn't want to be around my feminist, controlling, domineering wife. Slightly drunk I felt loving towards her and tolerated her meanness. Depression set in after a while. I had no idea what that was at the time. I'm good now. And so glad that poisonous wife is gone forever.

[@TomAnderson_81]

Unfortunately these days, not all but many women only think of themselves and therefore miss these signs

[@williamhelton1489]

Need to change the spelling of Women to Wome, with focus on the "me" part of the word. They have no self accountability or other accountability, masters at using people, to them its about all me at all cost.

[@michellesimmons3150]

Let’s correct your statement, many people, both male and female only think of themselves. Especially Americans. Deeply narcissistic people

[@bengraffam1111]

As a Christian I wish I heard this message of accountability directed towards women in church. Virtually all the men leaving ( passport Bro's) are conservative traditional family minded men and many are Christians. What does that say about the " church girl"? Or that Tennessee, a state in the heart of the Bible belt, is on the verge of requiring DNA tests for every live birth. The bill may have already been signed into law. You are a voice crying in the wilderness. I hope and pray that you make many converts. God bless you.

[@jackgoodings]

The depression .. they tell you that you've got problems and dont even want to believe our depression is because we're incredibly unhappy and have given up and shut down because they just don't want to know. They say they're empathetic, asking us to talk about what's troubling us .. and freak out when we say it's about them. Theres nowhere to go with that. Then yhey leave us and say we're narcissists and drinkers and miserable and not meeting their needs. They simply do not get it. Complete denial. Destructive

[@jimmymaracas6442]

It seems like women will only ever consider the possibility of then being the problem when the marriage is already in shambles and the man has been beaten up psychologically and then it’s probably too late.

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

@@betsyveritas1055 please do tell about these privileges men receive in marriages. 1.) Privilege to pay bills and work a job you despise to fund another human being whose far more expensive than you . 2.) Privilege of watching your wife physically deteriorate without consequence. Most of the time self-inflicted (she gets fat). 3.) Privilege of sex becoming less frequent and lower quality. 4.) Privilege of knowing she is 4-9 times more likely to end your marriage and take your children and things you built and worked for because she’s either too unreasonable or lazy to consider she might not be perfect. 5.) Privilege of doing half of all household duties and 100% of everything our grandfathers did. Marriage for men is a useless institution in 2023. All risk, little reward.

[@jefftube58]

I have an ex who always put on the compassion act while we were married but I gradually realized that her 'compassion' was very selective - only for females.

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

@@jefftube58 correct. My red pilling was the day my grandfather died. My wife had compassion for other women, children, and herself. That day I discovered there was no compassion for me, and I’ve come to realize she isn’t the exception, she’s the rule. It’s a feature, not a bug. Once you see this behavior in women, you can’t unsee it. It’s like seeing a woman naked for the first time. Women just sniff each other’s farts and hope men don’t notice.

[@jackgoodings]

@@jimmymaracas6442 Yep. On the rare occasion, it seems

[@muvumafred2887]

What an awesome lady. May you live long and continue being a blessing to the nations.

[@Target-sp1qv]

I'm stunned, this woman knows my life. In my 60's and second marriage of 2 yrs and I want out. She has changed and worn me out. I want peace and happiness; she wants to fight about everything, gunning for a fight. I call it the daily fight, sometimes the daily double or trifactor. I can only bite my tong so long. I walk on eggs. This woman was so helpful. I sent this video to my wife, I'm expecting a fight tomorrow.

[@j.p.5716]

She want's you to step up and put her in her place. Women (deep inside themselves) want to be (benevolently) ruled over. You must stop submitting to her and make her submit to you. Stop doing things that she wants and start doing things that you want and invite her to join you. If she does not want to join you, go it alone. Get out of her frame and make her get into yours. It is the only way you both can be happy.

[@swilliams2628]

I can relate to that. Remarried and I find myself regretting it. It has been less than two years but she can’t take any direction, argues about everything, complains about everything but never likes any solution, let’s the smallest stuff upset her, snaps, etc. Every guy just wants peace and doesn’t want their time wasted being told they’re always wrong or constantly bitched at cause they fold towels a different way than what she does. And good luck sending this video. I’m sure that fell on deaf ears.

[@j.p.5716]

@@swilliams2628 - If you don't have kids, tell her to straighten up or get out. Life is too short to endure that suffering day after day after day. Let he make her cats miserable.

[@FerretKibble]

@@j.p.5716 No, she doesn't. Try treating women like people.

[@j.p.5716]

@@FerretKibble - Your statement is useless. Men are men, women are women. "People" don't cover it. Women need to be treated like women.

[@gilgamecha]

These messages make sense (so much sense) as messages to help women have a happy marriage. Unfortunately they are not helpful for men unless their wife sees them and takes them to heart. But that's OK because they are for women, not for men.

[@aleewoolley]

This is gold. I’ve been purposely single for 12 years post-divorce while trying to work on what could have been my part in the deterioration of my marriage so I don’t repeat any mistakes (my parents have eight marriages between the two of them with respective spouses, so I definitely don’t want that). I’ve done a LOT of inner work and am finally starting to really love myself in a healthy way, and now this comes to me. I don’t think it was a coincidence. When we are ready the lessons come. Thank you!

[@thehappywifeschool]

@aleewoolley, Thank you for sharing and for your generosity. "When we are ready, the lessons come." - I wholeheartedly agree. I am happy you are here.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

The odds were stacked against you as your parents didn't give you an example of a lifelong functional marriage. I have been married 25 years. My parents all still married. I feel that their example gave me such a leg up in my own marriage. In fact, statistically speaking, marriages in which the couples parents are still married have much lower divorce rates than the general population.

[@allinredriskstrategies]

Accountability? Huh? I wish I could see this more from women!

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

Accountability is their kryptonite

[@EE12CSVT]

You'll find a woman who has accountability sat next to the Ark of the Covenant

[@reck0n3r]

That's like trying to get an infant to change its own diaper.

[@omarkoch5429]

This lady is soooooo spot on. I wish I can send this to my wife but she won’t receive it in the right way. So I’m just working on myself and hopefully my wife will come around.

[@savvmoreland3595]

The mere fact that she included herself in this, is beautiful. She didn't point the figure at just other women, she accepted her flaws as well. I love this! I need a wife that has this level of accountability!

[@TroyKing-y6p]

I sent a few of these videos to my wife. We are going through a divorce due to her behavior as you talk about. I got a text back...please stop sending these. Not sure she ever watched one. Definately has helped me to see what I was being subjected too.

[@jeremyalcoser5742]

She probably didnt even read them

[@MorakAyeni]

It appears we all (both husband and wife) have our requirements for happiness, which, in reality, are not reachable. Hence, we need to find common areas we can agree on. I have always believed that marriage should be enjoyed, not endured for whatever reason, children, finances, etc. If the endurance surpasses the enjoyabilty, then it's best to let each person go find who or what he or she can be happy with. You only have one life. Nothing and no one is worth sacrificing it for.

[@angeleye8953]

@@jeremyalcoser5742oh no no she saw it and she went through the whole thing …It’s over? I’d keep sending …. They need to know

[@scottneal2738]

I've sent similar ones to my wife. She didn't watch them so I stopped. I think she gets what I was trying to say with them even though there has been no change. Hopefully something will happen

[@Mike_Daddy]

My wife suffered from a chemical imbalance for the first 15 years of our marriage, and it was rough at times. I'm certainly not blameless, but now that she found meds that help her, our marriage is near perfection. We might have one disagreement per year. My wife realizes how difficult she was and wonders why I stuck around. Lesson. You have to fight for everything in life, and love is no exception.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

That's what my wife wondered after she had her hysterectomy. Suddenly I was the good guy and she acknowledged her shortcomings. It got a lot better after that.

[@ThatGuy_HiM85]

You and your family’s resilience inspires me.

[@whiteshadow204]

This is incredible! I hope you get 100X the audience you currently have! I did not learn any of this until my marriage ended. We have three sons, and she had an affair after 18 years. I learned all this finally with some counselling we did after it was over in her mind, but she really was just barely starting to get a glimpse of it. She projected so much onto me that was never true about my thoughts or feelings. I’m still proud that I never disengaged or stopped pursuing her. I did not internalize her abuse. But I never understood it until it was all over. This video nails it. What a nightmare to live. I don’t believe she was very much this way when we married at a young age. I believe social media and mommy shaming/guilt and all that sort of thing fed into her negative self image. I can only imagine now how cheating on me and leaving me has made it so much worse for her internally.

[@DavidHeyburn]

Holy hell. I have no idea how to share this idea with my wife. There’s so much pain and trauma from her relationship with her father that gets recycled and spit out at me, and my efforts to speak up for my self and hold her accountable, I’ve discovered she experiences accountability as shame and rejects/denies/deflects immediately. It’s crazy making.

[@charlieGtube]

This woman demonstrates great emotional intelligence and empathy. Her videos are like a big breath of fresh air for me. Thank you so much!

[@JWWhiteTX]

LOL, I saw a video clip where the guy said "If you're unhappy, thats your problem, if she's unhappy, that's also your problem". Jesus, I like to died laughing.

[@sirrevzalot]

That’s the definition of a double bind. Textbook narcissism. That guy is so fucked when he gets married 😂

[@thebourbonbob4849]

As a man that had to correct this horrible behavior in a wife, the best strategy is to just go stoic and threaten to leave (and leave if she tries to overpower you). She won't listen to anything until real consequences are on the table. Don't fight over the kids or money. Just cut her off if she goes too far. Women only respect power. Show them it.

[@ibberman]

What we've got here is failure to communicate. Some women, you just can't reach. So you get what we had here last week -- which is the way she wants it. Well, she gets it. And I don't like it anymore than you men

[@richardpowell1425]

Women and Vladimir Putin work the same way it seems.

[@latecheckout11]

​@@richardpowell1425what you're talking about? I thought VP just cut the crap and go straight to the point.

[@ThorMaximus]

It’s not guaranteed to work. But it’s the only thing that does work. You have to proactively leave. She has to feel it. It will never work with words. Nothing you can say does it. You must leave. This is why money & prenups are so important. If you’re not making enough money, you might not be able to afford to leave. I’ve been there. But when you’ve got that leverage, and you can walk away, it’s the only card you can play, but it’s damn powerful

[@MrCyclingobsession]

"I don’t think there is anything particularly wrong about hitting a woman- although I don’t recommend doing it in the same way that you’d hit a man. An open-handed slap is justified if all other alternatives fail.” - Sean Connery, Playboy, 1965.

[@mst3kfan13]

An elderly friend at church and his wife told me before they even got married they laid some very simple ground rules they focused on. First their relationship with god, second their relationship with themselves, third their relationship to each other within their marriage, and then everything else. Many of the younger women I have met or been involved with whether intentionally, ignorantly, or otherwise focus on themselves in very selfish and self-centered ways. I think other men have mentioned it, but when I got divorced from my ex-wife the sheer relief that I felt was like the weight of a car coming off my shoulders, and this perpetual storm raging around me subsided.

[@swilliams2628]

It’s really not worth it. Finding a woman that will actually bring peace to your life is like walking in a field of land mines.

[@keltonhouser2883]

Hellllllloooooo!!! Is this real? I think she just made me cry from joy. She just spoke what has been silent out loud but screaming in my head for the past 3yrs of my marriage. Perfection.

[@jasonstick2270]

You made me tear up. Wy wife and I are going through the same exact thing. I couldn't explain it, but you were spot on. I will share your channel with her and hope she too will watch these. Thanks!!!

[@j.p.5716]

When things in marriage start to go bad, too many men will start doing things to try and make their wives happy. It does not help but often makes things worse. Your wife wants a leader that she can respect. You have to stop submitting to her and create opportunities for her to submit to you. Stop doing what she wants and start doing the tings that you want and invite her to join you. If she refuses, leave her at home. Put small demands on her to serve you. If she complies, reward her is affection, if she does not, no affection. This is the only way it will work. You have to earn her respect and a women will not respect a man who submits (SIMPS) to her. Only reward good behavior.

[@oldjarhead386]

It won’t matter. If she gets anything from this video she will take it as an insult and find even more fault in you. As it’s never a woman’s fault. It’s not her, it’s you.

[@funland108]

Tried to show this to my wife and she got angry and shut it off immediately. Sigh. She did have some good points that husbands can be unhappy for many other reasons but the A word really is kryptonite. Unfortunately.

[@oldscratch3535]

Your first mistake was trying to give a woman advice. Your second mistake was trying to get her to take accountability. Your third mistake was getting married in the first place.

[@bigthangz5489]

she will divorce you sadly... just gather all your evidence for the judge... evidence that u are r good person so that u will at least win custody of your kids. why would she shut off! she dont wana hv the conversation & she knows the truth

[@elderberry63]

So, what are you going to do? Please don't fall for the sunken cost fallacies that keep men trapped in marriages with women who never loved them, but saw you as a means to an end. She gets it all. The life goals are all accomplished. Marriage, children, house in the suburbs, social status, financial security. She now realises that the facade can come down. Sex..... Nope! The cost/benefit analysis says that she doesn't have to do that anymore. She has your balls locked in her purse, and you are too afraid to do anything about it!

[@WatchfulHunter]

Anger is the response by wives who refuse to accept responsibility. Tell her she has an anger problem and needs counseling. Secretly video her temper tantrums. Show it to the judge when he asks why you want a divorce.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

Time to walk bro

[@MichaelHabner]

As a man, I can say that this is bang on point. Men of the world, know your limits and be willing to walk away after reasonable efforts are made, because it can't be fixed in most cases. Preserve your masculine dignity first and foremost.

[@MrEliasdl]

No need to leave. Take on a second wife as the Bible allows. She'll either shape up and be pleasant when you see her or she will have sex with someone else and you can Biblically divorce her.

[@aspinaki]

truly said. I have withdrawn my engagement due to the same facts. I have not come at this planet to bear shouting-out 24x7. when it is out of my control, I can only withdraw from it. I am now happy because I am rediscovering my self-respect and self-belief. I can now pursue my old hobbies.

[@DNA350ppm]

But why on earth don't you file for divorce? I absolutely don't understand - if you stopped trying to make progress in the marriage and all, just given up.

[@whatsupbudbud]

I'm also withdrawing from my engagement for the same reasons. Feeling better already.

[@brianbiggs9456]

Your brutal honesty, and the truths you cover is absolutely enlightening and refreshing.. I hope that there is some women willing to listen and take these issues to heart. My marriage has gone down and we are separated now. It won't be re kindled as she is not willing to admit this to herself

[@northtrader]

"it's a symptom of you pushing him away" Wow. What a hugely accurate statement. I'm exactly at that place - all the signs ring true with me. It's a very difficult place to be. Just had a major "push away" last night and it hurts. I don't know how much longer I can do this (been over 30 years).

[@j.p.5716]

Stop trying to get in your wife's frame. Women only respect men that can (benevolently) rule over them. Stop trying to please your wife and start giving her opportunities to submit to and please you. Don't go where she wants to go and do what she wants to do. Make plans to do what you want to do and give her the opportunity to join your. If she declines, go alone and tell her how much fun you have when you get back. The only way you both can be happy is if you pull her into your frame and get her to submit to you.

[@phantomvox]

Ive been married for 20 years. I can count how many times my wife has prepared a dinner for me or do anything else for me other than asking for sex from time to time. She doesnt do anything for me at all. I believe that women have lost the ability to love or care about men. Social media and work environment have destroyed what women once were.

[@j.p.5716]

You have allowed this to happen in your marriage. It is not too late to fix it. I tolerated for 25 years. It took a few years to fix and it was painful but so much better now.

[@melkerner]

@@j.p.5716 While I understand your message - the way you state it is his fault - plays into alleviating his Wife of the ownership and responsibility for her actions and inactions. Winds up making it "his" fault for allowing it - as if she did not do what she did to distance and push him away. it's not a matter of him allowing it.

[@j.p.5716]

@@melkerner - Unfortunately, both are at fault but men are responsible overall. Society has destroyed women (by giving them power and freedom) and convinced men that they have no control over the situation but that is not (always) the case. Men are expected and required to lead. Most women, like children, will do what you let them get away with. If a man will set standards and boundaries and hold the line early on in the marriage and not let his wife get out of bounds or allow her to fail to meet the standards, then both of them will be much happier. Deep inside, most women want to be ruled over (benevolently) and feel much happier when that is the case. They have to test those boundaries to feel safe and secure. It's called a "shit test". If the man is not strong enough to handle her, or does not hold the boundaries because he thinks it's wrong for him to do so, the woman feels unsafe, unsecure and it makes her unhappy. Women are constantly fighting themselves. What they feel they need inside, (to be lovingly ruled over) vs what society and their brain is telling them (be strong and independent). It has gotten so bad that a man setting boundaries might cause the wife to divorce him but ideally it's done before they have children so the pain and suffering is minimized.

[@BHTK421]

Wait she asks you for sex????

[@KoolKumasi]

​@@j.p.5716 Then why are you here?

[@AndreaMccoyMx]

I am from Mexico 🇲🇽 and I just found you ! But I also talk to man and woman about how we need to see ourselves and be responsable about us! So we can have a better relationship ! We need to start respecting each others !! There is a war between man and woman! Love your videos ! Let’s talk to society and try to make a better conscious ❤

[@einarreriksson4598]

Gracias! The world needs more women like you! Men, we make mistakes too. I just wish my wife would owe up to hers.

[@BoksCar29]

I can't begin to count how many times my wife has threatened me with divorce. It seems to be her go to threat and from what I see the emotional divorce has happened.

[@EE12CSVT]

I know a guy whose wife threatened him with that on the afternoon of their wedding, if he ever dared stand up for himself in the marriage. Bait and switch.

[@justthink8952]

Wait for the opportunity and give her what she wants. Can't control strong selfish women. Divorce is not a good feeling. Experienced twice. Never imagined in my youth that I would be divorcing. Maried first at 32. Had stable job. Not looking for working women. Just looking for a stable loving family. No luck. Her career was more important than me. Married a second time. Divorced when found not compatible just because of communication gap. Am not good at expressing my thoughts and terribly bad at coaxing people. So, she thought I didn't love her enough. Could not lower myself to meet her expectations. So divorce happened.

[@richardpowell1425]

It’s extremely hard to fix the relationship after that. All motivation to build a future together evaporates when that threat is out of the bottle. It’s only rational.

[@snake57]

Sometimes you have to just rip the bandage off.

[@d.vaughn8990]

Tell her to go! If she leaves, you are better off! Never give up your dignity!

[@CBaskins420]

You are the most self-aware woman I have ever encountered my entire life. Your husband is a lucky man that is for sure. The husband and the wife both should be accountable in my case for 22 years it was all one-sided, no matter what I tried to do to take accountability and change myself the other person was just in denial and pointing fingers, which was severely heartbroken, when she kicked me out of my house and cheated on me and got me fired from my job

[@markstahl1464]

I have a feeling this works both ways. I wish my wife and I could have done something about it, but she didn’t give us the chance. I loved her with all of my heart, and I may never love and trust someone quite the same again.

[@MemeProphet]

My gf has ODD and autism and was raised around horrible toxic feminists. She has had many heart breaking epiphany realizing just how much she has abused me without realizing it. It's not her fault but it's her responsibility. Her working so hard to change and do better makes me relentlessly proud of her and proves she loves me. Your channel helps a lot as to hear it from a kind woman helps show her how fucked what she has done/said/reacted and how it effects me. She found a great therapist who is a female who makes sure to never kiss her ass. I've even been becoming less of a victem myself. It feels great to grow in a wholesome way, together. Shes learning to let me lead and that the way I am is diffrent but not bad, that maybe I dont just day things to say things. That maybe I dont need a mommy who force feeds me logic and plans, rather a wife who just loves me and takes me as I am at face value.

[@martyharwell692]

... they won't change; they'll just change their game plan ... evading responsibility and avoiding accountability remains the bifurcated lifelong goal ... "You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows." - Bob Dylan ...

[@Queenbg1]

Strange: "When your wife emasculating you, do not take it personally". How to take it? Friendly? Not a big deal. Of course it is personal, because she depersonalizing you. In fact this should be the most personal insult somebody can do to you as a man!

[@stevenmcgrath7437]

True. I woke up this morning and wondered why im still going to therapy for depression two years later and still hoping i mighg be valued and respected by my wife

[@andrethegiant3035]

I had no clue how lucky I was to have the women I have. Been 17 years and we still love each other. She does so much for me.

[@timhanna4700]

This hit me like a sledgehammer. Been married for 33 years and our relationship is in peril. She's not happy. There is no intimacy nor affection to speak of. If i want a kiss I generally have to initiate it. She's never been happy with herself and no matter what I do won't change that. She's afraid of counseling because it will cause her to face her demons that she's carried since she was a child. I'm lonely and depressed. I'm not one to give up but I'm about done.

[@RR-bh8vd]

Tim I was there after 26yrs. You can't make her happy, she has to make herself happy. I tried that for yrs to no avail. This may be hard to take , but I say this with love to you, you need to get a divorce. I did 2yrs ago and it hurt like hell but through counseling etc. I am happier now than ever before. You won't die without her, you will thrive because that's what men do after a divorce. Not being demeaned, emasculated, nagged etc. is the greatest "win" in a divorce. You may take a hit financially but you will bounce back stronger. I'm praying for you. Peace

[@moorshound3243]

Yep

[@mafp22w]

My wife loves cats. We live in a four bedroom home with three bedrooms. She knows of many cats that are euthanized at the local shelter. It seems to me that many people would adopt cats if they had somewhere to take them if they went out of town. I suggested that maybe she could help out some by boarding other cats from time to time. She got huffy about it. I don’t care if she likes the idea or not, but her reaction has the direct result of me not wanting to talk to her very much. She is forcing us by her behavior to both be alone. In Carly Simon’s words “I haven’t got time for the pain”

[@jefftube58]

Concerning the evangelical church, the things that this lady specifies that wives do wrong are the reason, in my view, why men in the church won't rise up and take their place of leadership in the church or the home. Their pastors won't back them up because they're pastors are afraid of the women in their congregations.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Are the men afraid or just uneducated? Its like sex ed: rarely a warning that the first time might hurt. Well it doesnt have to IF both parties are educated. Its some sort of expectation that if one is male, they will just naturally know how to lead! Thats some massive pressure for a young man. We needto explore things more and stop repeating the same mistakes.

[@eleyahwilson7831]

So true. I find most pastors give horrible advice.

[@MrBill_oohya]

This is exactly my story. Thank you for making this Video. This will help my 38yr marriage to recover back to its original state. Thanks a bunch😊

[@princepeace5892]

It's soo sad but true. I just discovered you from watching an Asian lady's video. You are a blessing. I pray more wives discover you and have the wisdom, care, and humility to implement your advice!

[@soundscapes4619]

For every action, there is an equal opposite reaction. Heat enters at a high temperature, work is done, and heat exists at a lower temperature.

[@leefury7]

I recently saw a video discussing when the woman never initiates intimacy. It was an epiphany to my. This video is equal to that. I've beat myself up for nearly our entire 50yrs. I was never like this in my previous relationships. Now, even if she changed (she won't) I could never find her desirable physically again. Like my mother was, she is emotionally unavailable to me and most other adults.

[@Reichx4]

Making a man happy is one of the most easy things on earth. - Be feminine (don't be another man in the relationship) - Care for him (surprise him with his favorite food, a gift from the things he like) - Look him with admiration and respect, but if for some reason you can't do that anymore, incentivate him to be a better man. - Be loyal at all costs. (This is the most important imao). - Avoid criticizing him or his decisions with arrogance. Easy.

[@julioandrelaranjo2302]

I agree with you. You only forgot to say “Be available to make sex with him”.

[@arsenelupiniii8040]

Modern woman pride will not allow for that, therefore it is back to the CC with them. At least until their currency runs out. Almost like children in aged bodies.

[@brianlovvorn4150]

I have been married for 10 years and with the same woman for around 16 years. I would really like my wife to watch this video. Any suggestions on how to have her watch it with an open mind?

[@thishwwedojw]

the conviction in every thing she say is so amazing to hear

[@duanekeith7816]

Push him away for years, and to your great surprise, he goes! What a louse!

[@unholydanger]

These women have no idea, poor things.

[@libertydrive4388]

Just like how they cut off intimacy for years, you get your needs met somewhere else, and you're the toxic, immoral reprobate.

[@toddjohnson271]

Do not marry, gentlemen.

[@jjwwqq]

“And apologize.” A lot right there.

[@mikeflynn3421]

You are one extraordinary lady!!!!!!! beautiful, intelligent and compassionate!! Your husband is a VERY lucky man.

[@marcfox622]

Your videos have confirmed my beliefs why my marriage failed. I was beat down and emasculated for 24 years. The pain was unbearable but I stuck with it for my kids and hope that someday things would get better. They never did. She divorced me probably thinking I was the problem. I am doing better now that I am single but I know life could be even better with a good relationship with a woman that understands. At almost 70 years old now I'm not holding my breath for that good woman to come along so I make the best with what I have.