10 Things Every Wife Needs To Do For Her Husband | Paul Friedman

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@TwoTrakMind
@TwoTrakMind 2 жыл бұрын
As a man, I'd like to say that Paul is spot on. These are really good. I would love to see a video like this for husbands too!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kevin. Its always a good idea to search in the channel. Usually there are male/female versions of a topic.
@saharantrip
@saharantrip 9 ай бұрын
I do love your mentions of free will, taking responsibility for ourselves and the focus on love and spirituality. It really resonates
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 9 ай бұрын
This approach is truth about ourselves and our marriages. It will bring joy to those who embrace it 🙏
@berichinlovegrattitude4468
@berichinlovegrattitude4468 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Today was a trying day for me. This video played in perfect timing. I applied everything in this video to my test I was given for the day. I had inside issues I needed to deal with while my husband was at work. At the end when it was time to talk to my husband I went about it according to you and got rewarded instantly. Your wisdom and knowledge and understanding has spoke to me spiritually and helped me physically and mentally. I look forward to learning more about marriage!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Perhaps also consider the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/
@babycakesweetiepie77
@babycakesweetiepie77 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this . I needed this . 13 years of marriage i wish i found you sooner. My father and mother were married 60 years ,they fought like cats and dogs 60 years .they were so judgemental. i put off marriage till late in life but to someone i met and loved instantly at 16 years old. I was afraid to marry for good reason . I did so many things wrong ,i wish i could do the last 13 years over. Hopefully we will have 13 more to fix the things we did wrong. Holy Moly ,such simple great advice!!
@brixandblooms
@brixandblooms Жыл бұрын
6. Eliminate your anger 7. Start interaction with a compliment 8. Be affectionate 9. Be motherly 10. Open your heart
@sgfrmindia
@sgfrmindia 3 ай бұрын
Be motherly🤮
@MR-yl3wm
@MR-yl3wm 3 күн бұрын
Be motherly would kill the sex drive but the rest is good
@JamieHager0727
@JamieHager0727 2 жыл бұрын
I love that story of you and your kids. My father was the same way. Our fearlessness came from my father. Memories I look back on and think how did we even survive in my fathers care? 😂 Such a great father who built a bubble around us as a family. It was always US against the world. ♥️
@pamelasuozzi
@pamelasuozzi Ай бұрын
I rarely leave comments but had to on this one. Thank you so much for this helpful list🙏🏼
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын
You're very welcome!
@WeTimebyRoshaniRC
@WeTimebyRoshaniRC 2 жыл бұрын
Your , coming to my life was just a perfect moment. You came as an ANGEL to me... I wish you long life so that you can keep guiding us... you're a GUIDING STAR 🌟 ... I would have never understood marriage this way if I haven't watched you... your videos have given me much clarity...plz keep making them ... Loads of love to you Sir ♥️ God bless you in abundance..
@zaraa1988
@zaraa1988 Жыл бұрын
God it's too late for me when i saw this :( now my husband is about to file for divorce. It's ripping my heart off my chest and I can't breathe. I wish i've seen this sooner. I've done most of the dont's and i'll pay for it every single day with or without him God bless you, Paul. You remind me of my late grandfather. He was so wise just like you. We need more men like you
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
I would suggest it may not be too late and yyou should consider taking the course for women, as many who do are past where you are and it still works...maybe your grandfather would suggest it too :)
@zaraa1988
@zaraa1988 Жыл бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation i actually started the course for women as a desperate attempt to save my marriage but my husband is already decided to leave. We live in the same roof (for now) but separate rooms that's because i don't want to leave even though he was kicking me out with all his might. And he tries so hard to strengthen the walls between us. Sure i did not know how to be married but I still blame myself because i didn't listen to his needs. I didn't let them guide me. I've heard him over and over but didn't make positive moves. Now he's fed up, about to file for divorce and i'm feeling hopeless. It's very dark right now. Thank you Sir for responding. I appreciate your comforting words. May God bless you always!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
Think about the momentum that took you to where he wants so much to leave. Now, with the course you are putting on the brakes, which is a start. The process you are using with the SEW and using it to open your heart WILL work. Sometimes we have seen it take a year or more, but the process does work. It is cause and effect. So, keep opening your heart, keep diving into yourself, the soul, keep praying. And, keep on keeping on. There is nothing better you can do.
@stephanie579
@stephanie579 11 ай бұрын
How should I treat my husband of 35 yrs who just told me he had a 2 yr love affair ?? Am I able to judge him for his lies, deceit and betrayal ???
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 11 ай бұрын
We may judge but it never brings about love or happiness. Using our free will wisely means learning to love, unconditionally.
@alaciad.1874
@alaciad.1874 8 ай бұрын
So as wives love unconditionally even if it’s not reciprocated? I already feel I make my husband’s life more convenient for him. As a wife I must stay sweet and loving, and hope that it causes my husband to personally change.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
The Bible says adultery is a very grave sin before the Lord. If he's not contrite, you should separate.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
​That's unrealistic, naive and unbiblical.
@ericaalbright8876
@ericaalbright8876 5 ай бұрын
This video and this channel is for people who want to stay in their marriage. When betrayal happens, you have the choice to stay or leave. It is the same choice we all make every day. Every day of a relationship we are either choosing to stay or we choose to leave. Only you can decide if staying or leaving is what you want. You have the free will to choose either path. And no matter what others think you should do, no matter what a therapist or coach or clergy member or friends or family or random people on the Internet think, there is no right or wrong choice. They are not the arbiters of what is right or wrong for you. Only you can decide that for yourself. That is your free will.
@joliemiranda5685
@joliemiranda5685 2 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely amazing piece! Thanks so much for sharing this. Please keep up the great work. I appreciate you and the Marriage Foundation! 🙏
@lesliemontagne6797
@lesliemontagne6797 Жыл бұрын
WHOA! WHOA! WHOA!, WHAT????? I do not ever imply he is lying. But when he does and I have the facts to show it, I call him out on the lies he tells. What I have told him is that this behavior seriously reduces my trust and it’s hard for me to believe he is NOT lying sometimes. Lying and cover-ups have damaged our relationship. This seems to be an automatic, go-to behavior for self preservation, and it’s better, but not stopped. What now???
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
I use this format to educate, not as a q & a... for that we have a free service where you can ask a counselor. you will see the option on our website themarriagefoundation.org/
@evej865
@evej865 Жыл бұрын
I'm going through the same thing. I have found that confronting him isn't helping me or our marriage. I have photos, text messages, etc. I think there are at least four "girlfriends" over the past 7 years. I have realized that if I don't let this go and try to turn the marriage around through my behavior then I will end up divorced. I'm reading "Lessons for a Happy Marriage" and applying it. It can't hurt. My confrontations are hurting my marriage. I'm not going to get an apology which is what I want.
@jennifersheffield1433
@jennifersheffield1433 Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@jackiehirsch1138
@jackiehirsch1138 6 ай бұрын
He's saying not to call on husband when they're checking other women, so we should be quite & still be loving? How can you still be loving to a husband that's being unfaithful. This advice is for an egotistical man. Trust & Love goes both ways.
@Gotoworkkk
@Gotoworkkk 5 ай бұрын
Buzzer! Wrong actions towards him!
@debbie-h756
@debbie-h756 2 жыл бұрын
One of the best videos I’ve watched! Very helpful. Hope I’m not too late. Thank you!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Most people who take the course (for their gender) began when they thought it was probably too late ... you might want to look into it. themarriagefoundation.org/
@dreamy9919
@dreamy9919 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. My husband is a man’s man, and struggles with my will and sense of purpose. I am passionate, he is quiet. He often feels berated by me when I am trying to explain how I feel. I am trying to understand how to communicate without crying or yelling. As a woman it’s difficult. Please pray for my marriage, thank you.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
I pray for all marriages and all people and you, should include mor understanding of your husband so you focus on his goodness rather than his "lacks" themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@karenaverette3343
@karenaverette3343 5 ай бұрын
Make a video about what husbands need to do as well
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
I did, search the channel
@burndinaeck3490
@burndinaeck3490 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks very encouraging. God continue blessings in our lives
@j10-r7m
@j10-r7m 12 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏 ❤
@TrevinCauble-dl3bi
@TrevinCauble-dl3bi Жыл бұрын
Please help me out here, I've judged mine for almost 2 years i his that's my personality since i was judged as a child by my dad. I treat my husband like my dad treated me growing up. Controlling and i want to stop before i lose him
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
You are right to want to stop and we have the SEW technique for that.
@TrevinCauble-dl3bi
@TrevinCauble-dl3bi Жыл бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation please tell me where to begin
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
See what we have here themarriagefoundation.org/
@brittany7573
@brittany7573 7 ай бұрын
I do these things now because i was kinda trained to do it. My husband becomes cold and distant if i have any emotions other than content. So i stay content other than when i can barely hold down my depression. You can guess where that leaves us on emotional intimacy. 😢 Me suppressing and him ignoring.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 7 ай бұрын
It is not about supprssion it is about where to put your focus, on the emotions? NO! On love and joy!
@TCgirl
@TCgirl 3 ай бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation I feel like I would have to be superhuman to ignore all his cruelty, his love of lying, the alcoholism, and insensitivity. I am still listening to you, and I know you have a lot great ideas. I'm trying to understand.
@ashleyreeves8997
@ashleyreeves8997 3 ай бұрын
​@@TCgirlThese things do not apply to abusive and toxic situations my dear
@queenofhearts2465
@queenofhearts2465 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I have been married a year now but I LOVE my husband. I have already done somethings because I just want to handle a problem n then move forward. I am so thankful because I always wanted to be a great n wonderful woman and wife. I know we have one life n I never want to bring negative to my husband. Or be the cause or any reason he has stress n or anything unwanted or unnecessary
@IbelieveinJesusAmen
@IbelieveinJesusAmen Жыл бұрын
You sound like you are masculine.
@danerismorales2537
@danerismorales2537 2 жыл бұрын
I bought the course for women like a week ago and it is amazing ❤️ Having good results so far, a long way to go. I feel better with myself after I thought I was going to fall in a black hole. Thanks so much Paul you are amazing ❤️
@lesapalma9986
@lesapalma9986 2 жыл бұрын
I need this I’m at work listening to this I’m ready for this I love my husband
@ez2u1
@ez2u1 Жыл бұрын
This is refreshing and useful… Going to try it.
@NOUSSAROM
@NOUSSAROM 2 жыл бұрын
It is nice video, great advice never meet before. Lucky to find this channel. MILLION THANKS.
@eben4jesus3248
@eben4jesus3248 2 жыл бұрын
What a wisdom! This video is really amazing! Thanks for your advice. Many many more blessings to you.
@HexMail
@HexMail 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I believe your perspective on marriage to be built around the idea of tranquility. Comfort and peace of mind are integral.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
God wants us to enjoy this wonderful gift of marriage and rise to love at every turn in life... we have many offerings on our website themarriagefoundation.org/
@Taken_Irrelevant
@Taken_Irrelevant 5 ай бұрын
Thank you I’m newly engaged and have never been married before but this is def some wisdom❤
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
Congrats, now take this course so you will have a heavenly marriage forever themarriagefoundation.org/premarital-program/
@takeyouwithme743
@takeyouwithme743 2 жыл бұрын
please more advice for women i m so happy i found you i can even apply your advice on my parents
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
We try to offer about 50/50 😀
@WCRealtor876
@WCRealtor876 Жыл бұрын
Hello Paul. I would like to speak to you regarding my broken marriage. How can I get in touch
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
themarriagefoundation.org/ go to "ask a counselor"
@rajaa94
@rajaa94 Жыл бұрын
Your words are like poetry ❤
@mistyschachter4173
@mistyschachter4173 3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I will ppput this into proper application for a happy, loving marriage. You are awesome.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын
Wonderful! Every marriage is sacred until we hurt them
@rubiesmilo7128
@rubiesmilo7128 Ай бұрын
That was tough. I've got a lot of work to do. Happiness and love and no anger!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын
It will all work out and change everythhing. It's worth it. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@rajaa94
@rajaa94 Жыл бұрын
Isn’t anger good in certain situations especially for a man when the instinct to protect kicks in? Or when you are angry your body is trying to tell you something is not right? What point am I missing?
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
The problem for modern man is that he is a victem of anger, a sare those around him. When was the last time you were attacked by ninjas?
@nivaska13
@nivaska13 3 ай бұрын
So if I find my husband looking at some inappropriate pics, don’t say anything? That doesn’t make any sense?
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын
It is amazing how we imagine that saying something will get someone to change even though all our experiences prorve that it will not work themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@connie.g2048
@connie.g2048 4 ай бұрын
So good, 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽♥️♥️♥️heading over to Amazon now to buy the books 📚
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
I know it will help you so much and I can't wait for your response to it 🙏 www.amazon.com/Breaking-Cycle-Marriage-Foundation/dp/0988594013#customerReviews
@thegirlatthefrontdesk3519
@thegirlatthefrontdesk3519 10 ай бұрын
You've got another subscriber. Thank you. I know I need to do better. This really lays it out. ♡ Thank you!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 10 ай бұрын
Thank you very much 🙏
@rakshatiwari6307
@rakshatiwari6307 Жыл бұрын
I do all the don't and don't do the does 😢😂 thanks for pointing out... let me improve myself
@KLynn998
@KLynn998 Жыл бұрын
After 30 years of marriage, my husband and I have become like roommates 😕 watching your videos has really been eye opening for me. I feel I have closed my heart and not sure specifically how to “open” it
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
Look around our website. Many will use the course for women to learn more than surfacy tips... themarriagefoundation.org/
@ggrace1133
@ggrace1133 4 ай бұрын
Emotional divorce is real.
@zymbc
@zymbc 2 ай бұрын
Start doing things that both of you enjoy together.
@Prettygritty111
@Prettygritty111 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos :) I really needed to hear this.
@lindapowell1060
@lindapowell1060 9 ай бұрын
This was the best marriage advise I have ever heard.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 9 ай бұрын
Isn't it amazing how far behind the world is when it comes to marriage? We want to reach everyone! 🙏
@vanessalozarita4187
@vanessalozarita4187 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for teaching us this good advise.
@MsElke11
@MsElke11 Жыл бұрын
my husband and I seem to be stuck in that MUNDANE LEVEL. Every time I try to connect on a higher level....by going out, going on vacation, watching a film together....he prefers to watch anime with our kids. I don't know if I can ever see him as a grown adult.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
May I suggest you consider the course for women, as you can still heal your marriage and gain ALL the benefits that way themarriagefoundation.org/system/
@veronicaj777
@veronicaj777 9 ай бұрын
Anime has a lot of lessons in the story line. Just a suggestion- find one anime show that you can try to like. Invite him to watch it with you. Ask your kids which one your husband likes. Why does he like it? Why is he drawn to that story line? If you watch it with him, he might be so curious about your new interest, that he'll be interested in YOU. Then he may want to try some things you'd like to do. But if you continue to see him as a child, he'll keep playing the part. Try not to keep him "beneath" you. I know it sounds like a silly thing to do, but if he's important to you, make the connection. Just a suggestion.
@Gotoworkkk
@Gotoworkkk 5 ай бұрын
I know what you mean, it just becomes boring
@evelynadong9490
@evelynadong9490 4 ай бұрын
This is absolutely amazing Sir . Thank you 😊 🙏🏼
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
You are very welcome
@cebohnkosi6102
@cebohnkosi6102 2 жыл бұрын
So much wisdom thnk you....
@merolynten1484
@merolynten1484 7 ай бұрын
Infinite Happiness and Love❤ Thank you so much. Enjoying all your videos ❤
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 7 ай бұрын
Marriage is awesone when you know how
@merolynten1484
@merolynten1484 7 ай бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation Thank you 🙏🏼💯👑
@JohnJano
@JohnJano 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for all your great advice! I know one thing, it won't be hard to tell my wife she is beautiful more often! 😁😁😁
@toughr1506
@toughr1506 5 ай бұрын
Wow, i really envy those couples who live according to these principles. I can’t see this happening in my relationship.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
Ah, but of course you can! themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@erikatanner2418
@erikatanner2418 4 ай бұрын
If I could reach my Husband and he could see my heart to understand how much I love him…. It could change our world 🌎
@chloefinch4497
@chloefinch4497 10 ай бұрын
I am so grateful for the full video! I agree with all of these points. I struggled with postpartum depression and hormonal challenges it changed my view on life so drastically but I'm coming out of it now and I'm able to think clearly and be much happier (myself again). So grateful xx
@shivanisisodia
@shivanisisodia Жыл бұрын
you are doing a great job ..thanks
@kimyoung3484
@kimyoung3484 Жыл бұрын
GOD bless you and your family 🙏❤️💪😁
@eyaalem7990
@eyaalem7990 6 ай бұрын
Very informative and genuine info.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 6 ай бұрын
You are already moving forward
@kellysilva8473
@kellysilva8473 2 жыл бұрын
You gave a good explanation.
@2022nlkwm
@2022nlkwm 2 жыл бұрын
It took me a while to warm up to this ...
@jessc3257
@jessc3257 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I had the desire to do this for my spouse. We are in a bad spot and I feel out of love after so much conflict :/ I use to be so loving with him.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Then do this for yourself so you feel love within. Might I suggest that if this makes sense to you that you look into the course for women? themarriagefoundation.org/
@IbelieveinJesusAmen
@IbelieveinJesusAmen Жыл бұрын
Listen to Kevin Samuels. You likely are nagging and use SIGN language.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
Give it to the Lord Jesus. It's the only way.
@fatimainlondon938
@fatimainlondon938 2 жыл бұрын
please could we have any advice for mix mariage mix culture i mean deferent culture deferent cuntry how to leave in the cercl respect and love relationtghank you for your amazing advice
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
I passed it on... it will come
@fatimainlondon938
@fatimainlondon938 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you so much
@donotask7908
@donotask7908 Жыл бұрын
Thank u so much for those videos. I watched a lot of videos about marrige and almost every video made me even more insecure about my man and marrige. But the things u say really give me a lot of hope in this dark place im currently in. And the things u say r so realistic. God bless u for ur good work and help
@kimyoung3484
@kimyoung3484 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Sir ❤️🌹♥️
@catherinemlongoti6100
@catherinemlongoti6100 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Sir❤
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
Most welcome
@NarrowWay-BrotherBen
@NarrowWay-BrotherBen 2 ай бұрын
The expression, "You get what you give," has become upsetting to me because my ex would defiantly use that as a retort to any constructive criticism. Nothing I did was enough, she would just insist I wasnt romantic or caring or kind enough. I realized it was impossible to have simple peace and moved on.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын
You missed the point of that expression. In marriage its not a tit for tat. We must learn to love unconditionally. Now, move on, perhaps get the course for dating? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@getta_io702
@getta_io702 6 ай бұрын
Please, let me understand better. Sir, are applying in point 3 that gotta let go lies, or i misunderstood? 🤔
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 6 ай бұрын
Let go of everything that isn't love and joy
@curtisgore1611
@curtisgore1611 2 жыл бұрын
That's a lot of good information
3 жыл бұрын
These videos are a good supplement to the course, I think they're invaluable. I feel blessed to be on this path, but I think that I tend to be perfectionistic, I am sad when my sacred space of marriage doesn't seem amazing at the moment.
@adoletabela
@adoletabela 9 ай бұрын
Então, se vejo meu marido olhando para outras mulheres, devo apenas continuar observando? Sem reagir? eu não sei se isso é sábio para praticar.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 9 ай бұрын
You could try other things but at the end you will always get further with love
@phoebe109.
@phoebe109. 2 жыл бұрын
I am not a wife yet by God’s grace I hope to be a good one when the time comes
@zilperokumu1785
@zilperokumu1785 Жыл бұрын
How do I go about this course for women?
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
You will find it right here themarriagefoundation.org/
@us6427
@us6427 4 ай бұрын
For number one. How do you give negative feedback to your husband without him feeling berated? I feel like however polite and composed i may be, he’ ll still be offended when I mention something I don’t like about him.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
There is never a need to give anyone negative feedback in marriage. It is that simple themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@Mscugu
@Mscugu 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the videos. Great content
@lesliemontagne6797
@lesliemontagne6797 Жыл бұрын
Here again, appreciate your comments and agree men are just “different” when parenting their children. But…. I was a loving, reasonable mom. Taught my kids how to problem-solve, think for themselves and that there were rules and expectations in our household. When a child disobeyed, talked-back, was disrespectful, there were consequences. My problem was he never backed up my discipline which was usually pretty lenient, actually(go to your room, sit in the time out chair and think about your behavior, vacuum the living room - you’re not supposed to eat in there, oops, no TV tomorrow because you haven’t finished your homework today). He undercut me, my daughters saw this. Made life hard for me as the primary parent!!! He wouldn’t make changes despite our discussions together.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
"primary" parent? Loading this phrase as you are defines a distortion in your thinking about your husband and his role in his children's lives....you must look at your marriage as a whole if you are to heal yourself. Use the counselor service, or better yet, one of my books or the course if just watching the videos isn't enough for you... themarriagefoundation.org/
@franziskani
@franziskani Жыл бұрын
I agree, if one parent has much more interaction (time) and by necessity does more of the corrections and is more responsible for the safety ! of the children and that there is no bullying between siblings - he or she IS the "primary parent" or "main caregiver" or whatever term one wants to use for that. (I think primary caregiver is the better term). If she stays at home and he holds a paid job he will be called the breadwinner. The husband should be eager to get on the same page as her, respecting her (larger) share of the carework. And why should she agree with his rules when she has many more interactions and experience (regarding discipline and daily life) with the kids. It does not sound like this father has even botherd to come up with well defined rules for the household, nor did he develop a habit of demanding compliance whenever the kids test them. And he is not willing to embrace the necessity to have and follow rules in a household, not even after discussions. This borders on being lazy, stubborn and childish. He does his family, wife and children a disservice. Children need predictability. + lesliemontagne is not even extreme with her demands or the "consequences" (neither extremely harsh, nor super lenient) so she bothered to figure out a system, and likely would be open if he wanted to make some changes. Sounds like the husband does not agree with having consistent rules for the kids / the household. Children will watch that and they will see that the mother tries to find and enforces rules that make sense, and that are beneficial for the whole family and that avoid unncessary work for the wife (like messing up the living room or car when the kids are not supposed to eat there. It goes without saying that the husband also should not eat there to be a good role model.) The lessons for the kids would be: How to have a nice home, how to feel responsible for having a nice home, eating the meals together and no endless snacking all over the place, and how to be considerate of the reasonable wishes of family members). Children will naturally test such inconvenient rules, inconvenient for them. Testing the rules is their job and they will find out soon that one parent actually derails the efforts of the other. Or at least does not think they are important. That is something that children will pick up immediately and it will encourage them to think what the mother asks them to do (or not to do) is not important. It is an effort to consistenly enforce those rules in a mild but firm and predictable way. Being lenient and inconsequent would be much easier. Why should that weight only be carried by ONE of the parents. When the father is present (less time than her) he can help or derail her efforts, his 20 or 30 % input can make that so much easier - or harder. I do not think the father is so gracious - he just does not have the diligence and commitment to do the work. Or the maturity to see the long term benefits of teaching kids good habits (even if that is another tedious chore of the parents). Versus, the kids going: nah I can weasel my way out of compliance, mum is the spoil-sport, but dad is cool and he does not care. And then there are the parents (mothers of fathers) who want to be the cool laid back parents and the (thankless and sometimes exhausting / annoying) role as disciplinarian falls to the other parent. Plus that it would be much easier to instill certain rules and norms if both parents help to establish them (whenever they are present). If one parent is usually more lenient it encourages the kids to seek for backdoors. So it slows down the learning process, the aquiring of the good habit, because at the beginning there will be usually the attempt to circumvent - else the kids would just do what is good and necessary - and be done with it.
@theinfjgoyim5508
@theinfjgoyim5508 6 күн бұрын
@lesliemontagne6797 One of the parents has to be lenient. If you rule by dominance, your relationship will not last in my opinion. I understand having rules and discipline but one parent should always try to balance and mitigate the situation. You want your children to "behave" because they respect and love you not because they fear you or punishment.
@theinfjgoyim5508
@theinfjgoyim5508 6 күн бұрын
@franziskani You don't get it. It is about preserving the relationship and wanting there to be the highest good and a loving relationship. I honestly think you sound a little unhinged. Parents should always be looking to restore harmony and the man should promote the children to respect their mother but if you can ever defuse the situation and let it go... Well that is the best. Your children will hate you and not want a relationship in the future if they see you as a person that causes them harm. They will obey as long as they need to, but it won't have the love which sustains.
@zannaadedigba3936
@zannaadedigba3936 2 жыл бұрын
So on point …
@TCgirl
@TCgirl 3 ай бұрын
I'm confused, if he is lying and you know he is, you should pretend you don't notice? And then what? He just goes on lying about everything? Doesn't that turn me into a liar also?
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын
Everyone is a "liar" sometime. Marriage is built on love, not judgement themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@marcelamariaetchebeherebow2654
@marcelamariaetchebeherebow2654 2 жыл бұрын
What if he did lie and sneak out from you and you catches him?
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
You need to learn how to bring your marriage to love and happiness. At this point you need the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/
@hasinathandar5669
@hasinathandar5669 2 жыл бұрын
Great advice on how to be a better wife . It would be good to have videos on how to be a better husband too .
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
We have them. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mF63emWArK1_bJY Go to the home page and search or just search in the search box.
@annelizeviljoen-previousvd1527
@annelizeviljoen-previousvd1527 4 ай бұрын
Unfortunately I cannot afford the solo woman’s cause. With current exchange rates it is way beyond my reach 😢
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
We have made every effort to put the courses within reach for everyone by offering plans that amount to less than $10 a week. Our feelings are that if one wishes to save their marriage they can scrape that together. You do have my prayers. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@Prophetessdaeja
@Prophetessdaeja 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sir for this wisdom!
@sherriAnn365
@sherriAnn365 3 ай бұрын
This must not be the content for me. I can't do any of these things.. quess I'm not there yet.. how do you respect a man that doesn't deserve it....
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын
Shoing respect is based in understanding and humilty, not how they deserve.
@cheylombewe6914
@cheylombewe6914 2 жыл бұрын
Are you saying when his lying you just let him continue doing that and disrespecting you
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
You do not have any control over his actions, only your respnses.
@brixandblooms
@brixandblooms Жыл бұрын
No, you can leave.
@anissaholmes4495
@anissaholmes4495 Жыл бұрын
Setting boundaries is ok. Men need to know the limits.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
Lying is sin. Ask the Lord what to do.
@childofthemosthighGodLove
@childofthemosthighGodLove 5 ай бұрын
Pray over and For your husbands lying spirit to leave. Fasting and 🙏
@janethxro4739
@janethxro4739 2 жыл бұрын
Wish I heard this sooner. Thank you so much for your words. ❤️
@melkerner
@melkerner 9 ай бұрын
Too late - nothing I do, say or feel is right. And she makes sure to undercut me at every chance. She is in Boss-Mom mode for 17 years and thinks she gets to treat me however she feels like (as if I am one of the kids). And she wonders why I am disconnected
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 9 ай бұрын
It is NEVER too late! But blaming her is not going to help one iota.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
​This is a spirit. The Bible calls it a Jezebel spirit. It attempts to control & render the man, impotent. Emasculate him. This behavior is encouraged in our society. I'd temporarily separate. Run to Jesus for salvation & guidance.
@rcz2023
@rcz2023 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@Shear33Bear
@Shear33Bear 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the excellent videos. I recently found your channel and really hope my husband will get on board with me in learning these important marriage lessons together.
@samankhan9102
@samankhan9102 6 ай бұрын
Amazing amazing I totally agree 👍
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 6 ай бұрын
Excellent
@alicemajemite3618
@alicemajemite3618 7 ай бұрын
thank u sir for this video today u make me happy
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 7 ай бұрын
I'm honored 🙏
@pharmclare
@pharmclare 2 жыл бұрын
Very helpful content
@lindsayward7928
@lindsayward7928 2 ай бұрын
I like your style.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын
Thanks, as long as it helps your marriage I am happy 🙏 themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@jessadawa7120
@jessadawa7120 9 ай бұрын
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@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 9 ай бұрын
The Philippines is awesome! Welcome 🙏
@isangelawilliams
@isangelawilliams 2 жыл бұрын
Besides God's Law, this is the BEST marriage advice EVER!!! 🙌
@madeinhisimage9277
@madeinhisimage9277 2 жыл бұрын
It really is
@rockyayyy8978
@rockyayyy8978 2 жыл бұрын
-#4 is so hard!!!
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Not hard when you are filledd with love
@KaylaDixon-q7m
@KaylaDixon-q7m 7 ай бұрын
Why am I not allowed to be angry if he is allowed to be angry at me or with me or blame me for his anger? First of all, that doesn’t feel fair. I understand that anger is damaging to the harmony of a marriage, but it’s frustrating to say “just cut it out” when I’m supposed to just sit back and take his attitude problems? I would love to rise above all of that, but I don’t see how it is possible.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 7 ай бұрын
We were not taught about anger because Western psych has it all wrong when it comes to emotions. Anger is an "outsider" to the true us, souls. We have free will and must never allow anger to take over our mind, our lives, or our marriages. Anger can be eliminated, not just managed or stuffed. It is one of the great truths I discovered and everyone should be receptive to the idea of eliminating anger.
@danilaroche1156
@danilaroche1156 6 ай бұрын
The Bible says a soft answer turns away wrath. If your husband is acting up, step away. Put some distance between you. Do it peacefully. Don't render evil 4 evil. That's precisely what the devil wants. War.
@VanessaDelport
@VanessaDelport 4 ай бұрын
But how can you be happy Al the time if your husband sms other women and cheating and then still not say any
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын
The truth is deep, but yes, you can still be happy all the time. However, your real question is if you can rebuild your marriage and the answer is a definite YES themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@lorenadeleonsolis1126
@lorenadeleonsolis1126 2 жыл бұрын
I'm new to your channel and I would like to Thank You. I appreciate the insightful content from the videos I've click on thus far Thank You again 🤗
@Candaces8484
@Candaces8484 2 жыл бұрын
This was really really good Thank you I need to really contact you
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
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@VickyLashenko
@VickyLashenko 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for creating these very helpful videos! I’m hooked and just ordered your book!! Thank you!!! 🙏🏼
@lindahdornahkaleh2660
@lindahdornahkaleh2660 2 жыл бұрын
Thank u so much
@millicentasena9469
@millicentasena9469 5 ай бұрын
How do I show affection when he comes in the middle of the night and leaves the house too early. Everyday.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
Thanks for the clarification themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@millicentasena9469
@millicentasena9469 5 ай бұрын
@@TheMarriageFoundation it's not because because of that state. The nature of his work keeps him away till that time..... The link is not opening.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын
themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
@beautytherapy3967
@beautytherapy3967 2 жыл бұрын
im new to your channel thank you very much for sharing those gold advice
@SC-ev7cc
@SC-ev7cc 3 жыл бұрын
Great video
@pxcollinson3046
@pxcollinson3046 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏h
@chantelwillems6040
@chantelwillems6040 2 жыл бұрын
How to be girlfriendly? Lol. 💖💖. Just wasn’t explained like the others.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын
Girl friends and by friends, and I speak about that as a the phase prior to engagement, are careful in their behaviors to please, and to not offend. Lots of loving greetings, smiles all the time, and basically showing off one's better attributes and hiding the things that push each other away.
@solpelayo
@solpelayo Жыл бұрын
I wish the advise is given to husbands.
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын
It is, just search the husband for wife version
@Michelle-tp3bt
@Michelle-tp3bt 10 ай бұрын
I'm not married, but I want to know for a relationship one day
@TheMarriageFoundation
@TheMarriageFoundation 10 ай бұрын
Smart! We do have a course for dating wheb you are ready for that 🙏
@AbdulHadi-dz7rr
@AbdulHadi-dz7rr Жыл бұрын
Great
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