After 2 years with someone I thought was finally 'my person', she ended things 7 weeks ago, while I'm enduring extreme isolation with basically 6 months of lockdown in Australia. Coupled with severe BDD, at age 43 this last few months have been the hardest since my early 20s. Your videos have helped me cling to sanity, and I know I can continue to grow and be a better person, even when all hope feels lost. Thankyou.
@WahkeenaSitka4 жыл бұрын
Oh dear one, I so feel you. I just went through the same thing this summer.... In solidarity.
@annemarliac49474 жыл бұрын
Same here, stuck in WA Australia, family back in Europe, breakup after 8 years together, it was my decision but nevertheless the most difficult one, this year has been by far the hardest of my life but what a time of growth and reflection, there is a reason to everything hey.....2021 will be better, you can do it, we can do it. Look after yourself for now
@clappymake4 жыл бұрын
Felt that. My partner from Australia left me and then passed away in January of last year. Here's to personal growth.
@morehn3 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't take this video as gospel. You don't need other people to be compatible with you to meet your needs. She speaks about ways we were nurtured and that makes us who we are. It's only nurture, so you can always adapt. I don't think you have to feel like you know she was for you when there's no way to know that. You wanted to assume it. Let it go. You'll get someone more fitting for you.
@tachibanamei66472 жыл бұрын
You matter and you are enough. What you seek is your own unconditional love, not theirs.
@russride2 жыл бұрын
6 Basic Human Needs 1. Certainty (Safety, security, order, structure) 2. Uncertainty (Novelty, change, adventure) 3. Growth 4. Contribution 5. Love and Connection 6. Significance (Meaning, having a sense of purpose, approval)
@crowekirstin1 Жыл бұрын
I would add Ease. We don't just need achievement and forward movement
@lisasunshine76544 жыл бұрын
Self care has been helpful to me. Setting up things that feel good: electric fireplace, pink salt lamp, oils diffuser, furry rugs, blankets and pillows, my sweet cat, a fan for white noise. These work collectively to create a safe and nurturing place for me in my loft bedroom. 💗
@Edith8644 жыл бұрын
Wow that sounds already soothing 🤗
@raynacurtis4 жыл бұрын
This is really inspiring... I am working on this now. I like the white noise idea. I also need to stop doom scrolling social media too...raises my anxiety :(
@lFrenzied3 жыл бұрын
Pink salt lamp? That sounds v interesting
@eloisemarie52193 жыл бұрын
Oh your list is really good. Thank you.
@bethr87562 жыл бұрын
I'd like how you had some concrete things to do, this teacher said a few good things but basically it's not that helpful
@DeborahLorraine3 жыл бұрын
6 basic human needs: Certainty Uncertainty! Interesting!! Growth Contribution Love and connection Significance Triggered by people who "threaten" an unmet need. How do we meet our own needs? Knowing what we need and being able to communicate that need effectively. Need to "fill our own cup halfway" before being able to get needs met from others. Needs are like buckets, when filled feel happy and fulfilled. Desperation pushes people away and sabotages our efforts to get needs met from others. Recognize what basic human (unmet) need is driving your (bad) behavior.
@sw12164 жыл бұрын
I took Thais' needs course almost a year ago, and it helps me everyday to know what I need and find ways to efficiently meet those needs in creative ways. This has definitely impacted my life in many positive ways. Highly recommend!!!
@pereleloffler90143 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing
@chrissearcher35633 жыл бұрын
Thanks. I'm seriously considering it.
@LoremIpsumPeach3 жыл бұрын
There's literally courses for any struggle you may be going through and the webinars are awesome.
@LilBoyBlues852 жыл бұрын
Is it really that good?
@sw12162 жыл бұрын
@@LilBoyBlues85 I am one to fully jump in and do the work so it was that good but only for the people who really do the work it requires to change. I think you can try it for 7 days for free
@lotusblossom114 жыл бұрын
For anyone interested, Rosenberg's nonviolent communication is another good resource on this topic 🙂
@philb60464 жыл бұрын
That is some amazing stuff!!! Regarding blame and judgement being about others using it to let you what is this need that is not getting met.. Could actually be a gift or opportunity to allow someone express or even discover their needs and can help the attachment grow closer by discovering what is alive in your caring, loving partner and help discover how you can both help each other by wanting to provide what you can and want to do for them and your life together while also getting your needs met either with them or by yourself.. nonviolent communication and all his videos are remarkable in discovering this.. so beneficial in relationships!!!
@Edith8644 жыл бұрын
Very true :-)
@w.o.r.d75164 жыл бұрын
Totally agree! I'm reading this book now. 🙂
@pereleloffler90143 жыл бұрын
@@w.o.r.d7516 me too
@solarastone35263 жыл бұрын
Seriously get triggered when I see it when mentioned because of how people with abusive tendencies use it it gaslight/bring it up to shutdown discussion by criticizing the person's communication style.
@bunnysparkle4 жыл бұрын
Your videos have done more for me than years of seeing a therapist. Thank you!
@Exodus5K Жыл бұрын
I am particularly interested in understanding why we are prone to sabotaging things when trying to get your needs met from a position of desperation. I'm AA and my wife is DA, we get into these feedback loops where she detaches from me, I react in a way that's wanting reassurance from her, and she reacts by detaching more. Once this has escalated enough (I'm sufficiently desperate) I start to sabotage the relationship. I start talking earnestly about divorce, and in those moments it feels like achieving the certainty that the relationship is over is infinitely better than the continual detachment.
@georgekarma1375 Жыл бұрын
I can empathized 100%. Have you learned how to improve in any way? How’s it going?
@Exodus5K Жыл бұрын
She left a month and a half ago and we're going through divorce. She made the final call to end the relationship. I think if we could have made things work we would have. In the end I have been iced out and emotionally abandoned for too many years, and she got tired of me being angry about it.
@tmreaves111 ай бұрын
You did the right thing. Since ending a situationship that went on for three years I am at peace because it was a daily struggle asking and looking for connection. I know it hurts and I know you were married but you should not have to beg and chase anyone to love you. Work on your emotional regulation and do the inner work. So happy I found this channel. I know ots easier said then done to love yourself but everything Thais is saying is correct. You have this information and it is impossible for you to grow and learn and still accept what you had in the past. You will be in eternal and internal conflict with yourself. God bless you.
@RachelWalker-u9bАй бұрын
The exact same thing kept happening to me, I didn't understand how I could meet my own need for understanding by myself but Journaling and writing in different voices and from different perspectives(as I viewed them) and looking at different angles sufficiently met my need. Then I wasn't so desperate to be understood, they stop distancing, also going about it with effective communication in the approach. I kept looking at which things they were responsive to or not and tried not to overwhelm them
@RachelWalker-u9bАй бұрын
@@Exodus5Ksorry i just read the replies now sometimes too long is not salvageable, you can still let this help you in the future tho 💓
@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx4 жыл бұрын
Wow! This video is gold. I listen to a LOT of self-help material and no one has taken this angle (not even Tony Robbins really). This is valuable and nuanced knowledge. I definitely need to listen a couple of more times to digest it. Thank you Thais! You are amazing. ps. Don't reduce the playback speed to .50 because then Thais goes from caffeinated genius to drunk college girl. Dial it down to .75 for best results.
@Surreal1944 жыл бұрын
I just did that, thanks!! 0.75 is perfect
@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx3 жыл бұрын
@@pasmetha At 2x Thais starts speaking Swahili.....
@CaballeroJesterGirl3 жыл бұрын
@@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@tucky31913 жыл бұрын
Caffeinated genius 😂💯
@NunayoBisnez3 жыл бұрын
1.5x speed is how I get my listening needs met.
@ipaycloseattention6 ай бұрын
My only family was my maternal grandparents, and they're both gone. I have autism, so I've never been good at making friends. And I only end up with emotionally unavailable partners. So I came to this video looking for how to do this myself without any other human beings.
@dirtywordme5 ай бұрын
Good luck. Keep searching if needed.
@cavelleardiel4 жыл бұрын
When I know I need desire physical affection I get myself a massage. I remember as a kid I wanted my mom to rub my back because that was a way to meet my need for a hug which she was incapable of doing but she would rub my back.
@RadioRomance792 ай бұрын
Gets to the point: 20 min 20:02
@alpineai7 ай бұрын
14:45 (describes specificity like having a precise map to meaning your unmet needs 'destination')
@ErvinMitchell2 жыл бұрын
Great stuff! I'd love to see that video about sabatoging
@sunshinestar60764 жыл бұрын
Who on earth gives a thumbs down to these precious informations?!!
@monicaoliver40413 жыл бұрын
I would love to see a video about sabotage when we are coming from a position of desperation. Just joined the school and I have much to learn but everything I've learned so far has been super helpful and enlightening (including the knowledge that I'm an FA). BTW: You were were recommended to me by my therapist.
@miles63853 жыл бұрын
Wow. I pretty much never comment on KZbin videos, but this just changed my life. Thank you so much. I've been in therapy and working on myself and relationships for a long time, and this is like the piece of the puzzle that I've been desperately missing. THANK YOU. Will be signing up for the needs course today!
@Meaowwww4 жыл бұрын
Super interested about the sabotage reasons when we look for affection from a place of desperation!
@AR-nl2bp3 жыл бұрын
At about 11 something minutes you mentioned about how if certainty is highly ranked, then a reckless person can threaten our need. It’s interesting because my thought was that if safety is a need but chaos was your upbringing then maybe we’d be more threatened by the unfamiliarity of a calm person - like a maladaptive need. Something to definitely try to work on and change, at least for myself!
@buddhaneosiddhananda84993 жыл бұрын
By serving others, our own highest needs are met...
@OnjelieMarie Жыл бұрын
Certainty is my biggest need , it’s very hard for me to fulfill myself. I wish I knew how.
@wolveswithin44443 жыл бұрын
Makes sense. But. When my need is intimacy. That takes two. I can’t make someone want me or touch me. So. I’m still at a loss as to how to fill my own cup in that regard? It’s unfulfilling when it’s just “self service”.
@wellthisisinteresting4912Күн бұрын
Thank you for this video. You have deepened my understanding of my own needs and how to meet them practically.
@ashougton44 жыл бұрын
I'm a fearful avoidant and I try to fulfill my need for significance by "love bombing" intimate partners. I know you stated that should look at how i feel when i am recognized as significant and what it fills in me, but im having difficulty trying to find other ways to fulfill my need of significance by myself. Maybe charity? I dont know, you really got my brain thinking Thais. Thank you for everything you do.
@violetsky__76493 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. I think charity is a good start
@unaburke16933 жыл бұрын
a video about the self-sabotage when coming from a place of desperation and unmet needs would be great!
@nico36414 жыл бұрын
I’m able to meet my own needs very well almost intuitively as a DA. My issue is that I don’t know how to articulate them so as to invite partner to fill the other half. Plus deep down inside I feel I don’t have the right to ask my partner to fill the other half so I just do it myself.
@ricardozk3 жыл бұрын
People complaining that Thais talks too fast Meanwhile I'm watching her video at x2 speed.
@shansational18033 жыл бұрын
"Talk to me, Wisdom Squirrel."
@alexanderlopez-orozco44799 ай бұрын
maybe we got adhd friend 😂
@RobMacDougall9 ай бұрын
just being able to see the positive and negative associations we have 😢 absolute game changer
@flosotall30413 жыл бұрын
Finally, cracked the tip of the iceberg. This is all starting to make sense to me. We need to get are unmet needs met to be able to live a more happy and fulfilling life. You are true gem 💎 Thank you
@narcabusevictimgermany96873 жыл бұрын
I got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which is probably a combination of lack (lack of boundaries,lack of emotional support etc). So I am very happy about your Videos,thank you!
@miss_martyna4 жыл бұрын
Amazing video! I feel that healing the AA in me will actually require me to learn how to feel my own needs. And sadly that’s the biggest struggle.
@koroshiya_13 жыл бұрын
I'm a PDS member. Thais is changing my life. Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
@tammy64522 жыл бұрын
You make these lessons so easy to apply. In a few months i have learned to feel fuller so much more of the time. More like i was when i was younger before I let myself be in several unhealthy situations.
@godlovesyou91774 ай бұрын
Yes plz to another video on how desperation causes us to lose the relationship often. Love this thank you!!
@moniquejonescomedy3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been binging this channel and she is amazing! It seems like if I get THIS figured out then I will heal and become secure and won’t need the other videos. Isn’t this the foundation for secure attachment? Isn’t this how to parent ourselves? I think this is gold! Thank you for all you do! You are a gem. Tony Robbins who? He is the Slim Fast of self help. You will get some quick results but they won’t last and you can’t live on Slim Fast. You’re the Whole Foods of self help. The fruit and fiber!! 🙏🤣💕
@madawageises24684 жыл бұрын
Yes, please create a video on self-sabotage :)
@TheAlexcristian214 жыл бұрын
Thanks to you, I understand the principles of human needs and how to manage them. You are so passionate about this... you have saved me from years of not knowing myself. Thanks to you ,many people are healing from neediness and frustration. Tremendous work. 👍
@fbmbassist4 жыл бұрын
Regarding the need for sex: If we address the emotional aspect by filling our own tank, what about the physical aspect? I read so much about the health benefits of sexual activity with a partner, and don’t feel like I get it the same way by doing it myself or through exercise. But if sex is lacking in frequency with our partner, how do we meet that need of the glow/health we’re looking for through sex? I would love some resources on replacements for this that have the same neurochemical & biological effects.
@Nirosha1013 жыл бұрын
Yesss. That was exactly what I was going to ask. Could someone please answer this for us?
@Kareena19883 жыл бұрын
you need sex and for that you need a healthy relationship and in order to get you nned to work on yourself as fast as possible..
@rachellefromcali3 жыл бұрын
Very good Q. Sometimes in a relationship drives are different I have learned this. I don’t think you can make someone want it as much as you want it or as often. Etc.
@alexisbradford51114 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this information. This has helped me to see where I was and how far I have come on my healing process. Your information has allowed me to put the puzzle pieces together on where I was coming from in previous platonic/romantic relationships and current relationships ! Sending Love and Light! This has also given me confirmation for what I know my purpose is and how close I am to achieving my goals🤗 God blessings 🦋
@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for that glowing comment! So happy to hear things are going so well for you. You are amazing - PDS team member
@TaikiBansei5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, the best video that explains the mechanics of emotional NEEDS thank you so much
@DanielGarcia-hk5lh4 жыл бұрын
Want to add to the list of people who want to see the video on why you sabotage when coming from attachment. Thank you for what you do!!!
@a.j.f38992 жыл бұрын
Wow. Thank you so much. I didn't realize how much I depended on other people to feel safe, it makes so much sense why I have a dependency on certain people.
@samantha-ourmovinghome83699 ай бұрын
Did you end up making a video on what you mention as the end… why we can have a desperate energy which actually repels what we are seeking?
@aliveandwell39583 жыл бұрын
This video helped me more than all of the therapists that I've seen combined! Thank you!
@jerrykasinger86212 жыл бұрын
I have been listening and watching thais for the last 7 months, it is always so good I always start listening a little bit guarded, and she is so good at softening me up and I completely open up and wanting to understand what she is saying. This is so much needed for me in my life and I'm very appreciative and I can see how it can benefit my whole family. If I could just figure out a way to to offer it without without them being offended Or just feeling goofy about it. There's some really good information in here Thankyou thais
@ShimmerSoulSong3 жыл бұрын
Thais, your pace of speaking stimulates my mind and emotions. You pack in alot of info in short time. Your knowledge is vast and detailed around this stuff. I may listen to a video twice, but do as you do, the information brings so much awareness and insight. And tools! Thank you!
@kulanifernandez3668 Жыл бұрын
What a great eye-opening education. I am loving all your tapes. Thank you for the slowing down hint… really helps me digest it better. Thank you
@kate79324 жыл бұрын
I don’t want/ feel so much to meet my needs for connection with friends but from a partner yes when I’m in a relationship.. but I can’t say I had positive experiences with family, peers in childhood or previous relationships.. still with the partner is my favorite..
@tanyatrw10634 жыл бұрын
Please do this video about sabotage😔
@mikefr123 жыл бұрын
This is the best daily breakthrough video I listened to. I took so many notes. You're presenting us with the fundamentals to develop and grow our own identity. Excellent stuff. Thank and so grateful.
@SnowWhite-vf9qc2 жыл бұрын
In my last relationship I pushed away a guy who did all the things I require or appreciate in terms of needs and ended up not knowing how to receive it and of course, sabotaged it. It’s a strange feeling to reflect back on that. I will start trying to meet said needs myself
@L..2942 жыл бұрын
Have been binging your videos all weekend Thais but this one here has to be by far the most profound and insightful one yet. Thank you so so much for bringing your life's work to us in such a well articulated and conscicely explained manner 😭💜 you are without a doubt saving so many lives and lives to come!! Thank you! X
@norwegean_nomadАй бұрын
Wow ❤ Thanks for this. Will be rewatching many times
@aliceshekina3 жыл бұрын
Wow I think this vid changed my life lol. Just the beginning
@amalmohamednoor72612 жыл бұрын
That was a wow, big fat wow. I love it. You know what always impresses me, Thais. when I watch you, I say when did she learn all that. She looks so young & beautiful. I’m glad we get to learn and see a beautiful face lol. Have a great day. I’ve learned a lot from you and I’ve been so excited and sharing about what I learned with others. Well done. Go on 👍
@WahkeenaSitka4 жыл бұрын
Thais, I love your videos. Your messages are SO SPOT ON. And I am seriously just blown away by the depth of insight that I am receiving from you. But! I just want to let you know that I am struggling with the speed with which you speak. You speak and deliver your message so fast, that sometimes it's hard to take in the information or process what you're saying. There are moments during your video where you take a pause or slow down for a moment, and it is a refreshing moment that allows me to catch my breath. I find my nervous system a little bit overwhelmed by the fast talking. I'm seriously considering signing up for your monthly membership, but this is something that makes me nervous - because I am feeling impacted by the frenetic energy. But let me just reiterate that messages are so spot on. You have a lot of incredible insight. Thank you so much for all the work you are doing and have done. I wish I had known any / all of this 2 years ago.....
@aix833 жыл бұрын
Why not use the speed function of KZbin and play the videos at lower speed?
@beemovieisok3 жыл бұрын
pause and rewind
@aix833 жыл бұрын
@@CbosEasyRecipes7 On the video, bottom right in the computer browser (and I think upper right corner in the KZbin mobile app) there's the SETTINGS wheel. Click the wheel and select PLAYBACK SPEED, which opens a menu where you have various speed options. In the computer browser, if you open a new video from the same page where you changed the speed, the new video will keep the speed you selected. But if you close the browser and reopen, I think the selected speed option resets. I'm not exactly sure when the speed resets and when it carries over, so you'll have to experiment a little.
@Bre-wd7vz10 ай бұрын
This is such a great video! Thank you so much for it 😊
@miimina5445 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this information. I find it very helpful in understanding my needs. Your videos have been such a huge help in understanding myself and others and feeling fulfilled. ✨
@kalinabozhkova56553 жыл бұрын
No tell me more 😂 I love story time with you I can’t get enough of it! I just learned so freaking much and it all makes sense the puzzle pieces are coming together 🥳
@mahsaabidbid57752 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful thank you 🌹
@montelo5553 жыл бұрын
Nobody talks about needs the way you do. Your videos has brought unexplainable amount of clarity in my life in just past few weeks & m so grateful for that. Thank you.
@johnnycassell43382 жыл бұрын
I'm loving all your content!
@jellyrcw122 жыл бұрын
I am going to give this another listen. Some eternal wisdom right here
@alexandras9703 Жыл бұрын
What a useful mind blowing video. Yet it all makes sense , I need to do this course soon .Amazing video
@shah3265 Жыл бұрын
Thank for this video ♥️ this does helps in some extent
@griffinwillig4332 жыл бұрын
You are amazing! This is the first channel I have subscribed to.
@cor33akasrtakeystotryingto413 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for your tips I appreciate it and you are perfect at your speed of talking. Lots of content should be delivered fast! I feel relaxed at ease listening to you!❤❤👌 Very good indeed God bless
@kellyharrington8843 жыл бұрын
YES more on self sabotage of needs sought in desperation
@jadeo.7072 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this Thais. This explains why I had codependent tendencies.
@الهِلالي-ذ6ن4 жыл бұрын
Please make a video about these mechanisms of rejecting and sabotaging the receive of needs. Thank you for this amazing lecture 💖
@lucymatthews97334 жыл бұрын
A big yes to the sabotage video
@chloevos59172 жыл бұрын
Wow this video is AMAZING! so so insightful and helpful. Thank you!
@JadeNichelle2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I would love a video on why desperation pushed people away
@mer-ced-es4 жыл бұрын
Yes please a video on sabotaging 😍🙏🏻♥️ Thank you for all you do, you are simply the BEST 😇
@anyaroz8619Ай бұрын
Everything is great with regards to love and romance, but I am struggling with friendships. Please make videos on friendship! Thank you
@zaram131 Жыл бұрын
Life changing information..
@tm.m.c93233 жыл бұрын
Wow. Such another eye opener this video too. Thanks Thais
@andygladish58174 жыл бұрын
First, this is real breakthrough stuff for me, and I have to thank you from deep inside, so many missing pieces are being filled in, giving me hope of going forward around some really big obstacles. Second, I understand that your target audience and 90% of your customers are female, and I do want to point out that the nonstop flood of words is difficult for me, and I suspect most men, to absorb. Please keep it up, just wanted to point that out.
@biancamichelle113 жыл бұрын
I am female and have noticed the same thing. I love the content but at times it does feel like a flood of words. Glad to know I’m not alone in that.
@primerdimers4 жыл бұрын
this is awesome stuff! thank you! and your speed is fine for me💕 I actually speed it up to 1.5x so I can absorb more videos in the same time
@hannaheverest38852 жыл бұрын
This video came up at such an eerily perfect time for me I couldn't be more grateful. Exactly what I've been struggling with lately and definitely challenged me to think about me emotions differently.
@katisakat48322 жыл бұрын
One of my needs is Thais Gibson
@Mars-2 жыл бұрын
OK, Thais, I took your advice and SLOWED the video down to 50% Now you sound like a WISE drunk sharing insight.🎉🤣🎉
@bakesabundant20283 жыл бұрын
This makes a lot of sense ! I resonate very well with this and this gives me tons of clarity on un met needs I wasn't even aware of. Now I feel more aware of them and feeling confident to express them in communication.
@ajalomaureen4738 Жыл бұрын
This has been so damn helpful..saved my floating little heart
@flower_78902 жыл бұрын
I've just purchased this course and so excited to find out what my needs are and work on it😅
@surabhinarain58813 жыл бұрын
Thais!! This was truly amazing. I suspected some of these needs were unmet, but hearing that there are basic needs and personality needs and these unmet needs manifest through our subconscious mind as emotional pain is so clarifying! Loved this so much. I watched this video at least 3-4 times and took notes. Thanks so much! Love all your videos. 💗
@yellowisme3 жыл бұрын
This is incredibly profound!
@kelcben2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! This was super insightful, helpful, educational, and hope producing.
@ygernkot3 жыл бұрын
I love your videos. You are so knowledgeable and have such a talent to express yourself concisely, eloquently and very clearly. Thank you so much for your work, Thais!
@andreaelissegaraysylvester2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Thais, this was so helpful. I realized I wanted to be chosen and by being chosen as the only option, I would feel safe. So I realized that I didn´t choose myself in a way. Thank you again
@nidar18125 ай бұрын
So relatable
@mindfulpaths101 Жыл бұрын
Ok great great great video. What an amazing way to answer this tricky concept!! But oh my god… the constant repeating of “I know this is a lot to fit into one video I hope it makes sense” and constantly over explaining assuming that you wouldn’t be understood was extremely annoying
@chaogong7532 жыл бұрын
Just want to Thank you for making this video, I feel so lucky to have seen this one and this is the video makes me decided to enroll for pds courses.
@tynaturkova3614 жыл бұрын
This kind of deep explanation is actualy needed. :) Brilliant examples - imagination helps me understand more. Thank You so much for Your time. :)
@efeosawaruoyelade3 жыл бұрын
I'll love to learn about the what causes the sabotage
@ccharge14 жыл бұрын
Thank you for hearing me 💞. This has helped. My need for certainty and love and connection is spilling over so much into my ocd. I think having some order in my life will help me. Eternally grateful for this . Claire w
@An_Gha_ Жыл бұрын
Yes i want that video, where is it please?
@shwn36854 жыл бұрын
This makes so much sense -great information
@gulliver74194 жыл бұрын
I like a lot of what you say but I do wish people would talk about relationships in general as well as not everyone is in a romantic relationship. If you are anxious avoidant, you tend to have made friends with people who are not able to value you as those ways of relating are familiar to you - we tend to repeat old patterns for example and make friends with people who have their own relating issues. What I am saying is, how do you meet your needs for love and connection when you are swimming in the same water as people whose wounds mimic your wounds?
@alpineai7 ай бұрын
4:08 - unmet needs are supposed to produce emotional pain