Phillip Rogers he’s closer in age to the step kid than the girlfriend... insane
@philliprogers23835 жыл бұрын
I wonder if this is the real reason why they aren't getting married. GF kid has a problem with the age thing but she's too afraid to tell him and uses the SSI benefits as the excuse
@random-nz7dy5 жыл бұрын
@@philliprogers2383 I think she is totally using excuses to avoid something. And if it's just to save a mild check, that's sad that she would prioritize that over him.
@justshady5 жыл бұрын
It’s like she’s sleeping with her son. Super awkward
@Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes5 жыл бұрын
@@justshady Who cares, shallow people do.
@tailorforeman70825 жыл бұрын
Let’s call it as it is. She doesn’t wanna marry you brother. I am the daughter of a deceased soldier and I def got my dads education benefits. And my mom was remarried for over a decade.
@love_reka_88775 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss 🙏
@edb4845 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t lose them benefits either lol,
@VivKittie324 жыл бұрын
Taylee Nicole You called it, girl.
@goddessmelanisia4 жыл бұрын
Widow here: SSI benefits on the Kids won't be affected by remarriage. I am remarried, my daughter will still get SSI till she turns 18.
@liveyourbestlife1434 жыл бұрын
I agree. My father was a navy man. My mother remarried and the military payed for my college.
@amandanicole74495 жыл бұрын
Every 7 years she gets another kid... 21 year old son... 14 year old daughter... 7 Year old son... 28 year old boyfriend... Err... nope, yep, that's right.
@marciawade91015 жыл бұрын
Lol! 😄👏
@stephengalindo63404 жыл бұрын
The math checks out lol
@Fifthelement2034 жыл бұрын
Amanda Nicole 😂😂😂😂. U nailed it 😂😂😂
@Zefaniya4 жыл бұрын
And? And it's 'has' another kid not 'gets'.
@garronl.79894 жыл бұрын
😂
@massumudin5 жыл бұрын
He is 28 and his step son is 21 😂; he is not his step son but his step brother
@flowerchild72504 жыл бұрын
Nazma Trucking 😂😂
@xman666soad4 жыл бұрын
Nazma Trucking BURN
@4door_papi4 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭
@Jergs184 жыл бұрын
David Matthew 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@classicredwine4 жыл бұрын
😂
@smithersrob5 жыл бұрын
She can legally remarry, shes choosing to keep receiving a check rather than marry you, when someone tells you who they are believe them.
@debrawilliams79835 жыл бұрын
Robert Smithers When a person shows you who they are the first time, believe them. Just saying
@user_abcxyzz4 жыл бұрын
Financial security is most important first and foremost. Her need to have financial security is greater than the need to have a marriage document with new guy. Nothing wrong about that. She has children to put first
@senorpants56044 жыл бұрын
@@user_abcxyzz agree, she is putting her children's future, before her romance. I'd wait the 10 years and cross my fingers that everything works out. (assuming what she said to him is true)
@user_abcxyzz4 жыл бұрын
@@senorpants5604 I don't know about other places but in california after 7 years of living together and you split up afterwards, you can claim spousal support if you were the non working spouse (ie homemaker)
@bellmeisterful4 жыл бұрын
Nice work Smithers.
@Fifth.Amendment5 жыл бұрын
I clicked so fast after reading this title. I thought he was trying to marry his cousin or sister.
@christiansalazar46045 жыл бұрын
FifthAmendment me too!
@amyadams77285 жыл бұрын
Same! I had to see what this was about!😂😂
@DH-uw3us5 жыл бұрын
I thought one of them was still legally married but getting a divorce.
@comicalsun23165 жыл бұрын
Glad I’m not the only one who’s head goes there
@amyadams77285 жыл бұрын
@@DH-uw3us or that scenario
@thefoodwench48483 жыл бұрын
She’s lying to him. The kids won’t lose their benefits. She doesn’t want to lose hers. And he doesn’t have step kids as they’re not married. She’s a roommate Run Dude
@EstablishedHeritage2 жыл бұрын
🎯
@Judi4Him4Ever Жыл бұрын
Roommate with benefits 😮
@MrEnergyCzar5 жыл бұрын
She values the military spousal benefits more than marrying you.
@xSalamz5 жыл бұрын
Facts 😂
@knowthyself82335 жыл бұрын
Voilà 🤣
@TheRibofJESUS5 жыл бұрын
That's pretty sad..
@xSalamz5 жыл бұрын
@@TheRibofJESUS She is securing the bag. I got to respect it.
@samuelcarrasco38295 жыл бұрын
Then how much is her husbands death worth? When would you stop collecting money from the job that killed your spouse?
@NicoleDestinee5 жыл бұрын
They’re not “step children” because they’re NOT married! 😒
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! He sounds controlling already! No wonder the 39 year old woman is finding an out. This guy is nuts or truly desperate. He needs to move on.
@ethangamer31735 жыл бұрын
UR SO RIGHT SISTER !!
@Musashi2465 жыл бұрын
@@ceecee8757 Controlling? He's trying to take responsibility for entering her family. Calling her kids "your kids" is quite important even before marriage. Especially if you ever want to make a 7-year-old accept you as new father.
@jennifertackett22415 жыл бұрын
I've been with my SO for 12 years. We're not married, for health insurance reasons. I call his 2 sons my sons. I'm partially responsible for their upbringing. You got a problem with that?
@ethangamer31735 жыл бұрын
What is SO ??
@victorhernandez6125 жыл бұрын
“I’m not going to form my life around dodging regulations” could not have said that better.
@CFproductionsTV5 жыл бұрын
“They’re all my step children..” but they’re not... you’re not married to the lady lol
@nadiar.7788 Жыл бұрын
Exactly. People need to stop re-defining and re-categorizing things to ease their conscience. He needs some self-respect and confidence.
@fauxbro1983 Жыл бұрын
@nadiar.7788 lol what do you think these gender bender wierdos are doing. In 2023 you absolutely can. Haha
@stephenhoppe51635 жыл бұрын
7, 14, 21, and a boyfriend at 28. This woman collected four children and kept em separated.
@AN-tp4rs5 жыл бұрын
Stephen Hoppe look out for the 35 side piece 👀
@Robert744504 жыл бұрын
Stephen Hoppe one kid every seven years the boyfriend better run or she is pregnant in a wink
@SilenceSlayer2245 жыл бұрын
She's lying to you bub. Run, something is up and it's probably worse than you can imagine.
@oc45155 жыл бұрын
SilenceSlayer224 If he was worth a dime in the first place he probably wouldn’t have gotten involved with a woman like this in the first place. Something tells me he he isnt very desirable. Either that or he has extremely low self esteem.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Plot twist: she's running from him! He's 28, she's 39. Wth does he have to offer when he makes $35k a year and she already makes $45 by herself? He sounds controlling and she's probably just making up an excuse to get rid of this guy. Not worth it.
@hansonallie5 жыл бұрын
or Mommy issues!
@oc45155 жыл бұрын
CeeCee Nunya well its obvious something is severely wrong with him. What single man in his 20s worth his salt would pick a single mother of multiple kids who is almost 40?
@jimziemer4744 жыл бұрын
L V When I was in my 30’s I still would not have got involved with a woman with several kids. Who wants to deal with that.
@44fastgun5 жыл бұрын
Sounds like "I can't legally go back to work or they'll discontinue my welfare check!"
@joelrodriguez32805 жыл бұрын
44fastgun she lost her spouse who died while in service to the nation, I don’t see that as a “welfare check”
@44fastgun5 жыл бұрын
@@joelrodriguez3280 I'm fine with a deceased soldier program. I'm completely against a mooch manipulating the family structure to take benefits that aren't his. Are we to believe that Johny-come-lately's greatest concern getting money to adult children that aren't his?
@peekinghills24505 жыл бұрын
This women barely seems different from any other ""welfare queens"" people like to criticize. I know her husband died and all but she seems like sure wants to live off taxpayers forever. The only thing I don't mind is her children getting college benefits. Even regular welfare has a end date eventually.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
@@44fastgun she's not mooching. She has her own job making $45k. How's that for being a mooch?
@44fastgun5 жыл бұрын
@@ceecee8757 ....and that's why I never called her the mooch 😉
@pamalatalley72625 жыл бұрын
The former spouse will lose VA benefits, not the children!
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Right. The veteran would have had to transfer the benefits while he was active duty. Look up chapter Ch.35 Va benefits.
@meshleesimpsoncool5 жыл бұрын
yep. i think she doesnt want to lose benefits. not the kids. i think she just wants a boy toy. no commitment. 28, 39. he needs to get someone on same page and level.
@unbiasedinsight62375 жыл бұрын
I was going to say the same thing.
@karin09635 жыл бұрын
She's a widow.
@st0rm4g3dd0n5 жыл бұрын
@@meshleesimpsoncool or they just got bad information. The only truth is we have no idea who these people are or anything about them besides a brief conversation on the radio with minimal details. Nothing to justify such a snap polarized judgement of someone you know nothing about
@love_reka_88775 жыл бұрын
She is using those things as excuses...she DOESN'T want to marry him. Parading around with her boy toy. It's all temporary for her. Poor Mitch
@mikemcbeth32164 жыл бұрын
I understand her it happened to someone I know if she gets married she loses her money if they break up it's gone
@philanderwicks5 жыл бұрын
She would lose her Dependency Indemnity Compensation (DIC) and social security. The kids would be eligible for educational benefits until they are 24 years of age.
@user-kp6we9qw7i6 ай бұрын
She will also lose her health insurance
@bettywith2girls4 ай бұрын
@@user-kp6we9qw7i Yeah...not worth it. One can live with someone and love them and not get married...if it makes more sense to do so at that stage of life.
@thecure39822 ай бұрын
How much is the first benefit? Thank you
@mrdomino18815 жыл бұрын
So cute that he's already claiming her kids as his "stepchildren". Dude! Her son is only a few years younger than u! Is he going to call u "dad"?
@ajm9355 жыл бұрын
That was crazy! I get it with the younger ones though, especially if they have been living together for a few years. They basically become your kids.
@ILoveRomances4 жыл бұрын
He better stop. Apparently, if you are publicly recognized as married, the same rules apply as if she had remarried.
@TheGreatOldOak4 жыл бұрын
@@ILoveRomances haha she'll get him to pay child support for kids that ain't his.
@michellerichardson30903 жыл бұрын
Wonder if she knows that
@debrahill79113 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣NO, HE'S NOT CALLING HIM DAD!🤣🤣🤣
@LifeSoDevine5 жыл бұрын
She doesn’t want to marry him. She can remarry and keep the benefits for the kids till 16 (the social security) and the kids will still get GI bill and chapter 35 title 33 benefits up till age 31 even if THEY get married!
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
LifeOfDee they definitely do not get it until they are 31. They will get it until they are 26.
@LifeSoDevine5 жыл бұрын
Arlene Augusta I’m 26 and i still get it 😂😂 go to the va website honey! Fully disabled and survives get it till 31
@LifeSoDevine5 жыл бұрын
djhavok101 that’s why i said SHE don’t wanna marry him lol
@alyssam89775 жыл бұрын
This guy should man up and take care of the two kids he calls step kids already! Two is a breeze to take care of benefits or not.
@prepordietryin91195 жыл бұрын
@@alyssam8977 lol man up and take care of another man's seed
@RERK85 жыл бұрын
Man, this guy needs a spiritual and relationship advisor. They'd both tell him to reconsider the relationship.
@davet11494 жыл бұрын
She is 10 years older and doesn’t think you are capable of being an adequate provider.
@nursedebbie13323 жыл бұрын
She’s 39. Do the math.
@kokoskokso5 ай бұрын
He's earning 35K on a good year. She's 39 with three kids.
@bettywith2girls4 ай бұрын
@@kokoskokso Exactly. And he's earning maybe $35K and said he was $30K in debt too. She makes more than he does, and none of her kids are his. He wants her more than she wants him.
@kokoskokso4 ай бұрын
@@bettywith2girls yeah I think he's good as a boy toy, eye candy, something to lift up her confidence and mood but he's not a viable partner for her in real life. Unless she's fine with waiting for him to grow up and get to her level eventually and financing him until then. Which might be when he's 40 and she 50 and chances are he'll be gone for someone younger and prettier who can give him kids, now that he's all made thanks to her.
@fsmoura5 жыл бұрын
Of course you *_can_* legally marry. You just don't *_want_* to _let go off the dole._ Let's just call a duck a duck.
@robinrubendunst8695 жыл бұрын
fsmoura those kids deserve that benefit.
@fsmoura5 жыл бұрын
What about the kids of the parents whose resources are being taken from them against their will (tax payers) to provide the benefit? Do they deserve the benefit of the resources their parents earned with their work?
@rachelcrawford19774 жыл бұрын
Robin Rubendunst the kids would not lose only the mom also when a service member dies there’s a lump sum they get I think it’s 100,000 when they die so she got that on top of the alimony she’s just not willing to lose her money
@rachelcrawford19774 жыл бұрын
fsmoura I do not understand your question the kids lose nothing the only one that would lose is her the military also gave her a big cash settlement when he died to pay off debt and live for a while she’s only going to lose not the kids
@turnonesacredcat79233 жыл бұрын
@@fsmoura tell that to welfare recipients not kids whose dad died while defending our country.
@jefflauracook5 жыл бұрын
Kid's would not loose benefits, she would loose a check!
@Jenniferde20075 жыл бұрын
I think you mean lose benefits and lose a check?
@debrawilliams79835 жыл бұрын
Jeff Laura Exactly
@mikeb83424 жыл бұрын
@@Jenniferde2007 you are correct in you're grammar (see what I did their....I mean they're..... er, there 😃). But Jeff Laura's point is also correct. Everyone gets a star today.
@harrisonwintergreen11475 жыл бұрын
you can legally marry her bro, she just wants to keep the taxpayer gravy train more than she wants to marry you
@lavendarj73185 жыл бұрын
harrison wintergreen i don’t think the benefit for losing a spouse is a “gravy train”
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
@@lavendarj7318 exactly. She's not exactly a millionaire. She's just being smart about her choices.
@msparkz7705 жыл бұрын
@@ceecee8757 exactly! Why is everyone judging her?
@MarcusKiner5 жыл бұрын
m sparkle because she’s a pathetic dependa.
@hansonallie5 жыл бұрын
It wasn’t our business; that is until Mitchell & Dave shared it with us, lol
@amyadams77285 жыл бұрын
If the info that was sent to Dave is accurate, then it's clear that she doesn't want to marry him & he should move on.
@claudiasantana41084 жыл бұрын
Oh man. This is actually a sad call. She is playing him so hard. He sounds smart and like a good guy...
@VolleyballAddict5215 жыл бұрын
“Our daughter” made me cringe a little. I couldn’t even focus on his financial situation. 😅
@vjs45394 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@oneeyedman994 жыл бұрын
He's probably the only father she's ever known. He's doing the right thing by referring to her that way.
@VolleyballAddict5214 жыл бұрын
Eric Blair ok, if that is your assumption.
@TheGreatOldOak4 жыл бұрын
@@VolleyballAddict521 Nah you are right to cringe. That guy is a pathetic. He'll never have children of his own because he too busy looking after someone elses's children.
@bellmeisterful4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I agree. Kinda sweet on one hand but also sounds a little deluded too.
@anthonywaldrep59825 жыл бұрын
There's quite a few red flags popping up here.
@Retiredmco5 жыл бұрын
You are calling the wrong show if all you wanna do is shack up!! D. R ain't putting up with it!
@rcairforceone5 жыл бұрын
You didn't get bad information, the Mitch is getting played. The girlfriend does not want to lose her goverment check and get a job.
@codymorrison39355 жыл бұрын
Dependa 4 life
@Allaiya.5 жыл бұрын
She already makes 45k.
@coachb27665 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@SunlightsHorizon5 жыл бұрын
She’s a smart woman.
@Tony_Wes5 жыл бұрын
She works and make 45k a year
@miltoncat5 жыл бұрын
I’m guessing she is lying about that to him. Something’s up.
@DanielIles5 жыл бұрын
This father son dynamic should be made into a movie. How wild!
@elijahrobinson46505 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that’s 100% not true. Remarrying does not eliminate those college benefits.
@junkfoodvegan5 жыл бұрын
This guy sounds like a pushover. She's never going to marry him and risk losing her spousal benefits.
@sophiasmith59493 жыл бұрын
Not if he doesn't have that or more.. If that's the case I don't blame her.
@bettywith2girls4 ай бұрын
@@sophiasmith5949 I don't blame her either. It doesn't make any sense for her to lose all her spousal benefits in this instance. They can live together and be in love and not be married.
@user_abcxyzz4 жыл бұрын
They are NOT your step kids...you're not married to her 🤣🤣
@juliamarlin56124 жыл бұрын
I mean if they have been living together and he has been raising the youngest child he's a step father in all the ways that matter.
@sweet_southern_gal5 жыл бұрын
My friend she got remarried and her son had full benefits to attend college, its the check she gets.
@PinkIslandJewel5 жыл бұрын
If he made a lot more money she would marry him
@eclpzlvr974 жыл бұрын
Why is that a bad thing for couples to want to keep as much income as possible?
@user-sr7gp7rj5s4 жыл бұрын
I don’t think so.
@kailashnair44473 жыл бұрын
True
@NA-vt6mz5 жыл бұрын
Get a life and marry someone ur own age . Men r losing their minds and spine in today’s world
@benjones6215 жыл бұрын
Men always prefer women in their 20s. This story just doesn't make sense.
@demon666855 жыл бұрын
@@benjones621 Almost always. Never talk in absolutes man.
@carultch4 жыл бұрын
@@benjones621 Women in their 40's are for poor men.
@samanthasmiles91123 жыл бұрын
@@carultch are men in their 40's.
@michellerichardson30903 жыл бұрын
Probably cant find one he can shack up with lol
@texuzlatina5 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don’t think she wants to marry. I’m sure she knows the rules to the benefits
@nadia49994 жыл бұрын
She knows that mess in her sleep. Plus she has kids from her previous relationship. Yeah, sorry buddy, a marriage to this marriage is not happening no time soon. Enjoy getting rocked to sleep at night, and stop desiring more than she is willing to give. Or you could just go find you a woman who too wants to be married.
@lee-annestevenson87665 жыл бұрын
Soooooo the title should be “We won’t get married so we can get more $$$$ from the government”.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
@@ChevonneStaton right! However, if the surviving spouse has moved on, this new guy needs to step up to the plate!! That would be the honorable thing to do.
@kingkong-ni4ho5 жыл бұрын
While you see it that way. I see it more as, "We want to make sure my girlfriend's late husband's sacrifice for this country keeps her and the children financially stable. Becuz my 35K a year income sure won't."
@nitapita87445 жыл бұрын
I don’t think she takes him seriously enough .... poor thing
ransom182 I thought: “it’s more financially inconvenient for us to be married” is closer to reality
@stevenroshni12284 жыл бұрын
Yeah I think he feels that they are married off paper, like that's the commitment he has
@fionamoonsamy67953 жыл бұрын
Pp popo
@jayrmotors5 жыл бұрын
Wow, the eldest child is 7 years younger than the caller, what a mess. Sir you should just leave whilst you have a chance
@Jesseg-rj6xf5 жыл бұрын
In other words: how do I cheat the system
@daaronwells5 жыл бұрын
Does your mommy know you are using the phone, young man?
@meganbarton44114 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha 😂
@Spaceysgurl4 жыл бұрын
You better cut it out you bully🤣🤣🤣
@Jergs184 жыл бұрын
D. Aaron Wells 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@DeezNuts-3 жыл бұрын
Lololololol
@carboyau3 жыл бұрын
Top comment! Hilarious!
@Ces9999198224 жыл бұрын
If I was this dude, I’d be embarrassed to show myself around my family.
@HereIsWisdom13185 жыл бұрын
The sad reality is the widow earned what she's getting. Her husband died while in service, or even if he was retired, she (and he) still gave up a lot to serve the Country even as a spouse. I dont fault her for wanting to maintain her EARNED benefits.
@ErrorPagenotFound-ig1cy5 жыл бұрын
HereIsWisdom 1318 did you serve?
@sammag91825 жыл бұрын
But it’s there to be as the aid when you can’t provide for yourself. If she is married then her new husband provides for her. She looses not the kids
@HereIsWisdom13185 жыл бұрын
Sir We Are About to Die -Military spouses have to put with a lot, and they have to give up a lot. Most times, they’re single mothers while they’re husbands deploy (and vice versa-a female Soldier, whose husband is the dependent).
@brianaloves12424 жыл бұрын
Under 38 CFR 3.50, in order to qualify as a surviving spouse for Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) purposes, a person must be unmarried. Therefore, a surviving spouse who remarries is no longer eligible to receive VA benefits.
@TeKnoVKNG235 жыл бұрын
Not sure I understand, is it that he "can't" marry her because he's worried about the kids losing benefits, or she "won't" marry him because she'll lose the benefits? Honestly she has no reason to get married with those type of benefits, so it's possible she's just stringing him along as her younger "arm candy."
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Or she's trying to let him down easy.
@jimroscovius5 жыл бұрын
He's 28, she's 39. Run away FAST!!
@sghoughton5 жыл бұрын
DON'T GET MARRIED. just solved all your problems for the next 40 years.
@j.rothchild1734 жыл бұрын
Hahahahaha!!!
@arnphawk3 жыл бұрын
step children? you are not married....
@bargainmartin5 жыл бұрын
My mother in law would have lost his pension and medical benefits if she remarried. At 70, working on another income source was not option. And Tricare paid for every penny when she had cancer later on.
@cynthiaholland1325 күн бұрын
That's awful. So that she ended up spending the rest of her years alone?
@ronwhiteleo33525 жыл бұрын
i DONT blame her for not wanting to lose her social security check, her spouse gave the ultimate sacrifice for her and the kids, so she should not lose those to a marriage that will probably end in divorce. ...looks like your going to be boyfriend/girlfriend for LIFE... and nothing is wrong with that..
@smlorrin5 жыл бұрын
This ^
@littleripper3123 жыл бұрын
Ya I just wish she would let him know the truth. He's never going to be her husband, her husband died a hero and this guy is a little boy who doesn't even make 35k. He's just a boy toy.
@JuniFFXIVChannel4 жыл бұрын
Considering he probably makes less than what she's receiving in benefits, it doesn't make sense for them to marry. She is putting her children first. He has two options: increase your income so she feels comfortable giving up what she would lose in benefits, or wait until the kids are out of the house to marry (but you gotta discuss that in great detail and clarity).
@mohammadwasilliterate80375 жыл бұрын
With a single mother of 3. She is 9yrs older,,, RUN dude you fool.
@hugojuicevalladares87135 жыл бұрын
11 years older
@nadia49994 жыл бұрын
She must be rocking him real good to sleep. He sound too desperate for her. She was already married once. She could care less about marriage. She might enjoy your company but not enough to get her deceased husband’s benefits taken from herself.
@dr.bradshaw5 жыл бұрын
Hahaha dude I’ve been In this similar situation. Run for the hills bro. Run for the hills
@love_reka_88775 жыл бұрын
😂😭
@NA-vt6mz5 жыл бұрын
Rikki Granger what’s ur story
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Ever occur to you that it may be her (his GF) who's running for the hills? She's letting him down easy.
@kingkong-ni4ho5 жыл бұрын
Let me play Devil's Advocate here. What if she does marry him but it didnt work out 2 years later. She lost the benefits by then and now has to scramble to find money to pay for the younger kid's college. Not worth it. Hate me all u want, but I am looking out for the kid's future. I doubt this guy's 35K a year income will cover their college.
@icesk8ergal11235 жыл бұрын
king kong but they don’t lose their college benefits. She just loses her social security...
@RMMomma4Eva2 ай бұрын
This thinking is probably what the woman has engaged in except for the college money not being lost so not factoring in to her reasoning. Because why indeed should she give up guaranteed benefits to get married. Especially military widows' benefits after all she's been through with her family being in the military. And since she's been married before and knows that most marriages either end in divorce or don't work out and the spouses are miserable. To marry a guy who's 10 years younger, with all of her obligations, who also currently makes a lower than average salary. No, she just lied to dude to spare his feelings and keep him around. She might respect and enjoy him immensely. But for financial reasons has no intention of marrying him right now. Because it wouldn't make sense. Maybe she will reconsider if his earning capacity significantly increases. But why would he want to put his life on hold. Why would he shack up for years and also not have kids since this lady is almost too old now to have any more. No, if he can't quickly secure a much higher salary somehow, he's too young to get saddled with this situation and needs to move on. They're incompatible.
@b.bernal61515 ай бұрын
Why would a 28yr old young man want to marry a much older woman with all those kids!? You probably want kids of your own and she’s probably done with having kids, plus she doesn’t want to lose her benefits. Walk away! I’d be devastated if that was my son.
@0my4 жыл бұрын
He doesn't know what the word legally means.
@julieludwig89275 ай бұрын
It’s cuz he’s still a kid too…..with 3 “step-kids” as he says.
@soy.ingrid4 жыл бұрын
Can we please get an update on this caller?
@SuperDobieGirl3 жыл бұрын
She has more baggage than Samsonite
@stephenr41855 жыл бұрын
Nice job with the video editing. Appreciate the follow up at the end.
@erichenschel34613 жыл бұрын
dude run. dont marry single moms. Dave’s still living in the 50s. Tradition doesn’t work anymore, ESPECIALLY in this situation
@thomasnk94893 жыл бұрын
This is really egoistic and bad advise, to destroy the future of two children just so two boomers can have a document they belong to each other.....
@angryox31023 жыл бұрын
28 isn’t a boomer.
@foreverblessed64433 жыл бұрын
Dave gave him terrible advice.. because he's Christian he's not encouraging slacking up.. this is why you don't ask everyone for advice..
@Colyers5 жыл бұрын
Pray for this man.
@Jeff-xy7fv5 жыл бұрын
A 28-year old single man wants to marry a 39-year old widow with kids?? Seriously???
@MrEmmanuelacquaah5 жыл бұрын
Yes oooooo
@prepordietryin91195 жыл бұрын
Beta behavior is what it is
@osmanrayyan5 жыл бұрын
Yea its not practical.. he needs a young stable woman with no kids...
@jet44155 жыл бұрын
@@Austenfan177 Egzzzzactly. What a bunch of thugs.
@bigd37215 жыл бұрын
I’m 28 too. I’d prefer to be with someone that I could have my own kids
@Jeff-xy7fv5 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I would never be interested in a woman who already has kids with another man -- deceased or not.
@P4fashion5 жыл бұрын
Right, totally agree with that but some guys don’t care I guess.
@TheRibofJESUS5 жыл бұрын
Quick question: If you died, do you expect another man to step up and care for your kids or what??
@bigd37215 жыл бұрын
It's Ya Girl, Jesus' Wife no i don’t expect. I’m only have kids with whomever I get married with. I’m only marrying someone that is responsible with money, comes from a good family ,and either has or working towards what she believes is created to do. So she will have her own money. I will have a house and car paid off for her when we get married. She will not need another man. If she does need help she will get if from her church or her family.
@TheRibofJESUS5 жыл бұрын
@@bigd3721 To each their own... Children still need male leadership in their lives, not just money... And mothers need to be available to actually raise their kids, not busy working...
@karenhardie11325 жыл бұрын
She's not going to give up all the free money. Sit home and collect lots of free money.
@c103110a5 жыл бұрын
He can legally marry here; he just doesn't want to give up the benefits.
@MrHaypro5 жыл бұрын
I took it as they can get married in something like their church but they can't get a "legal" marriage that's recognized by the government.
@mikekeenanphd5 жыл бұрын
She doesn't want to give up the benefits.
@sitcomchristian68864 жыл бұрын
Also, props to DR for admitting to not knowing, getting the proper information, then sharing it. 👍
@biskit75 жыл бұрын
You gotta love my boy Dave.... dripping integrity!!!! If you listen to this man, you will be RICH!!!!
@vickimerritt28326 ай бұрын
unless you are a military widow.
@Slevin-Kelevra5 жыл бұрын
Is this the Jerry Springer Show?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@dr.bassmab5525 жыл бұрын
I think she doesn’t want to marry him that is why she keeps saying military benefits. She makes more money than him She is already well established ( age,kids, money, etc) She is not sure if she wants to marry 29yrs old man with 35k and she will lose her spousal benefits
@kimjong-un55625 жыл бұрын
Alot of people don't reach high income still middle thirties and high incomes intbe 40s
@michelestellar1533 жыл бұрын
Except if it doesn't work out and divorce follows the woman has given up security. So perhaps she does not want to marry.. She needs security for her kids and her spousal benefit provides that.
@LexCinnabon4 жыл бұрын
This young man needs to run away from that woman, and that situation. Run away!
@computernerd81573 жыл бұрын
My advice is not to marry her. To me it makes no sense economically.
@Gheuns32515 жыл бұрын
Run son !! 🏃
@adrianplayer-propertyinvest2 жыл бұрын
28 and 39 this kid needs to run in the opposite direction. Why is he even talking about having kids with this woman if she is 39 and past child bearing age. These young men dont think at all.
@catherinewilke558325 күн бұрын
She could probably still have kids but she doesn’t want to 😅
@shawnerickstad79274 жыл бұрын
She would still receive those benefits for her kids if remarried and not being honest with him and sounds like doesn't want to marry him
@DinnerTimeFan5 ай бұрын
She would not. The kids keep their college benefit. She would lose her Social Security, her IDE, and her health care. It's a losing proposition for her, as a widow, to remarry with those benefits. Tricare is a REALLY nice benefit for a widow.
@Jay-pf2cn5 жыл бұрын
This man is INSANE. A red pill man needs to get to him before it's too late!!!!
@facelessman53625 жыл бұрын
I really wonder where the crossover of FIRE and RP folks are
@b.boheme4455 жыл бұрын
@@facelessman5362 hahahahaha
@amyeastman87644 жыл бұрын
I think even the most man hating feminist would think this guy is making a bad decision. It’s THAT BAD.
@omegamalerevelations75434 жыл бұрын
Its too late
@blackonblack...92445 жыл бұрын
The situation sounds very cringy......
@paulalewis33894 жыл бұрын
50% of marriages end in divorce. Don't listen to Dave Ramsey. Wait until the 7 yr old is 18, then marry. It would be a shame for her to lose widow benefits for someone who doesnt make enough money to cover the amount she would be losing. Just my 2 cents
@brunomilei78065 жыл бұрын
This guy *says* he makes 35 "in a good year", she makes 45, he's 30 in the hole. I'm a dude but she'd be crazy to marry him. Get a second job, find some way to bring that 35 closer to 70 or more and then maybe. Dave went too easy on him.
@sophiasmith59493 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a sense of security issue with her as it should be.
@conniearmstrong58665 жыл бұрын
I am just going to say it....I would stay unmarried. I think she is smart.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@bettywith2girls3 жыл бұрын
I agree too.
@QueenBeeBeautyXO5 жыл бұрын
It's the same if you're on disability. I disagree with Dave on this one. Life is expensive. College is expensive. That's just the way it is. I would like to get married,but to lose money and suffer even more,is ridiculous to me.
@rolendrickisidora38555 жыл бұрын
I honestly feels like a would be a stupid step for the girlfriend of this man to actually get married,her husband literally died for her to recieve those benefits and trough those benefits she has some kind of sucirety to make sure shes in a better financiel position to keep taking care of her kids, why risk all that just to marry someone who has no kids and no benefits to lose. 50 % of mariages end up in divorce anways . Is just not worth the risk for her.
@lindsey97285 жыл бұрын
They won't lose the college benifits, speak from experience as a child of a military widow. Can't remember about the medical, we were switched over to her husband's. And the children will still get commisarry benifits and such. My military ID was valid until I was 18, but my mom lost hers.
@vickimerritt28326 ай бұрын
It is a complicated system, benefits for children stay if widowed , widows remarry most of spouses are lost.
@Operator-om8ih5 жыл бұрын
Dave is saying don’t call me! Call a lawyer! I’m saying; 28 wanting to marry a 40. Don’t do it! Your looking for a mom. She’s not willing to lose a paycheck for you.
@yiliu59095 жыл бұрын
By listening to Dave, I noticed so many Guys are having self esteems issues.
@love_reka_88775 жыл бұрын
Oh yes
@dodgeplow3 жыл бұрын
It goes hand-in-hand with financial issues
@littleripper3123 жыл бұрын
Probably because they are not real men yet. This caller is still a boy.
@jonathanm96374 жыл бұрын
She would be wise to not marry. I'm a disabled veteran. I will date but no one will legally take my money. I'm taking it slow. Few dinners, give her attention and just enjoy her company. We live in our own places. Keeping it that way too. When you break up you gonna loose it all. Easier to be on your own schedule when you not messing up their sleep or your sleep is impacted because they got people in the house. It's too much. Date, live apart and this will ensure you got a woman that can take care of herself.
@billybat57904 жыл бұрын
only making 35k, 30k debt, 39 gf while being 28 that has a 21 year old. you even call them your step children who is this guy?
@firerose79363 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't throw away my benefits for a gamble on a younger man. And this is the 1st time I've disagreed with Dave's advice.
@xdeathknight72x5 жыл бұрын
Or you can just not sign a paper and keep receiving great benefits for your family. A signed paper and a ring doesn't mean you love each other any more than before.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
You are new to DR, right?
@juliamarlin56124 жыл бұрын
Completely agree. If getting married is just going to hurt your family and add increased stress I don't see the need. Especially if it is going to make it harder to provide for the kids and get them an education.
@bassman92619953 жыл бұрын
I disagree with Dave here. If deferring legal marriage puts the kids through college, make sure the kids are well off. Get rid of your debt and have the money to replace the lost college help before marrying. That’s the responsible thing. There’s nothing wrong with shacking up.
@bluegoka3 жыл бұрын
Marry someone else. Closer to your age and with no kids.
@arleneaugustahair83935 жыл бұрын
Basically, she doesn’t want to get remarried because if they break up, he would go after whatever money she has. I wouldn’t marry him neither. Plus she’s his sugar mama, not his “girlfriend” so um NO! She needs to find someone on her level. We don’t know if it’s an emotional thing neither. If my husband passed away, I definitely wouldn’t get remarried. I wouldn’t even want to talk to anyone.
@ceecee87575 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@purplepineapple1175 жыл бұрын
If you adopt the kids they lose. But marrying her just makes her lose her benefits
@Shinerdeciple4 жыл бұрын
Ok so I am military. I don't know the answer to the question, are they gonna lose the benifits but I can tell you the entire military is based around reshaping your life to the stupid rules. Thats why so many leave. They get tired of checking boxes to get little carrots but that is our life.
@InvestingHustler5 жыл бұрын
If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son, I have 99 problems but a .... ain’t one lol
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LOL
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@jaya.00695 жыл бұрын
Words of wisdom Hustler!
@IamtheGL5 жыл бұрын
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@magicworld32424 жыл бұрын
He's 28 and has the nerve to call a 21 year old his step-kid ? No their not.