I Have Debt, I Drink Too Much, and I Hate My Job!

[@lombardo141]

He is just a typical man that has kept it all in for decades. He is reaching out for help which most men don't do. Work on yourself guys before you take on the responsibility to take care other people.

[@IHateNicolasCage]

Sometimes when the caring for others starts you can be in a good place, but over time you slip gradually, and then 5-10 years later you step back and only then realize it has all gone sideways on you.

[@ugabuga1361]

Wes Watson will help

[@genxx2724]

Establish a career before marrying and having kids.

[@Purpleeyes92]

@@genxx2724 amen

[@rory644]

@donald johnson people get married way too young in america, people need to grow up and live a bit and stop getting married having kids getting a mortgage before they're even 30.

[@Bestfriend-650]

Let me say this Kyle, it takes a lot of stones to call on national radio and talk about the issues. It means you are on the right track and you need good support and direction to move forward. You can do it.

[@nathancook8325]

I retired at 50 and have saved millions over the years of my investment. Don't need anyone to pay me anymore I need to be paying people now. I knew I'm gonna do it

[@jonesmariah4292]

I need a nice and a profitable investment scheme to venture into. Maybe stock isn't bad

[@jasminecontreras7341]

@@nathancook8325 you’re so cool Nathan

[@pauli6043]

The fact that he realized he has a problem and made the phone call is huge. We are all human and go though dark times

[@smileychess]

"Kyle, in 6 weeks, if you're not on your way to becoming a video game developer, you will be dead."

[@lkj0822g]

This guy desperately needs someone in his corner. He made a huge first step by reaching out to someone, in this case, it was the Ramsey Show.

[@5trace]

@@cstuartdc I agree this is not even an easy venture at all even with a college degree. He has responsibilities grow up and look after your family.. moping around drinking feeling sorry for himself. Dreaming about making video games. It doesn't pay well when you start out after school either that's if you can even get a position as it's a very competitive field. He's 36 set the dream down and if you really hate your job find something else that's attainable. He is in debt he doesn't have the money for school and who is going to look after his kids. The drinking needs to stop as well. The 20 somethings are all taking those programs and they are already ahead of him before he starts.

[@larrybud]

Too bad his wife doesn't sound like the support he needs.

[@Brian-zf8jl]

This guy is me, and I got therapy a little ways back and it changes the way I see the world every day. I think there are millions of men feeling this exact way.

[@Bachelbasquez]

Saw this title and broke my heart. This is exactly how my dad is. But he’s old school and doesn’t understand the importance of finding help for mental health.

[@peterwoods8880]

I feel ya

[@shannon2748]

Boomers thought seeing a therapist means you're crazy. I've heard them say this. Sad.

[@lisaluangrath]

Those become those most dangerous type of people, watch closely.

[@mrrogers4591]

The help your dad needs is probably some good guy friends. He probably needs someone to tell his dreams to who won't tell him he can't achieve them. He already knows most of his dreams will never come true, but it is nice to believe some can.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Can relate in my family situation, which led to serious health problems. Another motivation for me to make more income and get out of debt.

[@raynarayskye]

Silent folded arms Dave is a whole vibe

[@Picca65]

Thabks for pointing this out😁

[@flippatheshippa]

🤣🤣🤣

[@1m2a3t4t5]

“and your a gamer” did it for me

[@jordywanssi887]

I swear dude

[@princealmighty5391]

Betheltech doesn't teach game design

[@JM.TheComposer]

Dave's ability to change the way he talks in order to really communicate and connect with a variety of people is underrated.

[@margie909]

You are exactly right!

[@ThisisDaniel]

My heart goes out to this guy, you can hear the despair in his voice. Hopefully he manages to take control of things and we get a call in a year saying how he's thriving in his new path 😎🙏🏾❤

[@JS-hz6dv]

"You gotta set down the stuff that's killing ya, and pick up the stuff that gives you energy", Dave Ramsey Powerful truth, I felt that

[@jusplay7309]

What, like a red bull?

[@garyv2498]

I saw the title and was like "I don't remember calling The Ramsey Show?"

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Ha ha!

[@djwestbrook36]

:)

[@SebastianGomez-tq2ip]

😂

[@DEE-o4v]

I was like...well, it couldn't have been me....I don't have debt.

[@Mr.Rogers91]

I know exactly how this guy feels. I was in the deepest darkest part of my alcoholism working a job I absolutely loathe couldn't save any money and the debt just kept piling up. I started going to AA meetings eventually got sober then got a career I was proud of. Suddenly I absolutely LOVED going to work the paycheck was an added bonus almost. I felt I had no purpose when I first got sober until I read Purpose Driven Life by Pastor Rick Warren.

[@ElainesDomain]

Congratulations and an excellent post. Very similar to what happened with me 30 plus years ago.

[@prateekbohra7610]

I will take a look at that book I might need it thanks for the idea

[@Mr.Rogers91]

@@prateekbohra7610 if you're struggling with staying sober I would recommend a 12 step program first. If you're just lost and don't feel a sense of purpose then Purpose Drive Life was a total game changer for me. It suggests doing it in a group so you can all hold each other accountable as there are tasks to complete for each chapter over 40 days. Don't let that discourage you just make sure you do the exercises they have a purpose 🙃

[@Casinogirl56]

I'm really proud of you. Glad you're fighting the good fight.

[@juliareadscottishpiperandh4861]

thanks for the book recommendation. Looks good. Well done on turning your life around.

[@mmc9828]

"I Have Debt, I Drink Too Much, and I Hate My Job". All he needs to add is a dog and he's got himself a country-western song. Good for him for reaching out for help.

[@mrsh2167]

when the truck gets repo'd

[@sauravkushwah6783]

I saw the title and came running ...to know who else is suffering like me ... he looks like my future

[@djmo9528]

Stay strong

[@mochopz]

Jordan Peterson

[@sauravkushwah6783]

@@mochopz i love that guy

[@richthepup]

@@mochopz I second this. Peterson excels at speaking to men who desire to put themselves together in a way that benefits themselves and the greater society

[@richthepup]

@Johnny Five 😂 Don’t expect even a wise man to be perfect

[@peppe44]

This is the best episode on the Ramsey Show.

[@gmarie3053]

I love Ken on the team

[@angmaugeri]

this was a good one

[@20SomethingTakes]

YES

[@bytesizedwisdomcs]

@Johnny Five tf is try hard? You rather come on here and have him not try to help people?

[@Cumeni-Ha]

MOST MEN LIVE LIVES OF QUIET DESPERATION.

[@jimroscovius]

No, most men do not.

[@sXePunkV2]

Good for him for reaching out for help. Especially to other men. I hope he has a brighter future

[@eduardoescudero3495]

❤

[@clayhealey8428]

This describes so many of us guys. Very awesome he called in.

[@PrairieTownHouse]

It’s sad, but this is where a lot of guys are right now. I love how he immediately got excited when started talking about church and finding a community of loving friends.

[@FJDGBFDBGify]

Kyle if you ever read this I prayed for you 🙏 God bless

[@Equatis]

Finally a real life call

[@ronpanaligan9862]

I'm in game development, I know a few colleagues that drinks during work. It's a great field to work in, but can be stressful for some. I'm not sure changing careers will help with his drinking problem. Therapy will probably be more useful.

[@ronpanaligan9862]

I miss playing with CAD software, most of our assets are made in Maya/3DMax/Blender... Just to add, I know some colleagues works 12-18hr days during deadlines. Also, it has one of the higher divorce rates because of this. It's not your typical 9-5 job. But, if you're passionate and you have a very understanding partner, its great field to be in.

[@sanafarooq9828]

@@ronpanaligan9862 this! It doesn't matter if something is hard as long as you enjoy it. Ppl don't get this a lot. That what's a chore for some is the dream for others.

[@saurontrollbrawl]

I used to be in game dev for the love of it. But it was just to hard, lower pay than frontend developers and crunches. I switched to web dev and doing much better. People told me i was crazy to quit my game dev job but im doing much much better now.

[@ksc5522]

There are two types of drinkers, Those who drink because they don't care, and those who drink because they care and they feel trapped. The first type is hard to ever fix. For the second type, drinking is the symptom of feeling stuck and its not an uncontrollable problem, finding inspiration and purpose fixes that.

[@nikan7704]

Ken was spot on with his questions, advice, and encouragement for this guy. Well done

[@zipperfly8065]

This is so deep. I hope everything turns out good for Kyle. Thank you Dave Ramsey.

[@AimeePoppinBabies]

Him and his wife should have waited until he felt happy & ready in those stages of life before having kids because now he is stuck. 🥺It's harder to switch jobs when you have more people counting on you. This is something that doesn't get talked about enough. I feel people really rush into kids.

[@Leah1run]

Men: it is NOT a weakness to admit to this - I respect the heck out of people who have the courage and honesty to admit to this stuff!!!

[@karinhansen4281]

Heart goes out to this guy. Glad he reached out.

[@mariesmith2302]

Will be praying for you Kyle.

[@MrRich6505]

Dear God, make me a bird so I can fly far, far away.

[@joshuagutierrez3711]

Dave:” and your a gamer” 😂😂

[@Steve-lk1eb]

Aka I look down on you

[@kindasoupie]

Me: I have no kids, i don't drink, and my job is just okay. Dave: Sell the job

[@jack-ei6vb]

Sell the kids

[@TDubya811]

And the only way you will see the inside of a restaurant is if you are working there.

[@TheAshley9697]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@susiem.2068]

Sell the car, the wife, the house and refinance your kids buddy

[@gnes04]

Thank you to the men that speak out about how they're unhappy even after following the "ideal path" and getting a wife and kids and stable job. As a man in my young 20s this helps me solidify my opinions on wanting to stay childless and aim for financial freedom

[@melinachanele9421]

God bless Kyle! We’re all here trying to figure out our debt and make healthy choices too! Good luck & take care! 🙊🙉🙈🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@nixi8162]

It takes alot to be this open. I pray for you Kyle

[@maggienewman9991]

My heart absolutely breaks for this man! I pray he finds the guidance, love, and acceptance he needs and deserves to make some changes. I've been right where he is and this was hard to listen to. Fear will cripple you. And it's my humble belief that we as a culture have done men a GRAVE DISSERVICE by not providing an environment where they feel safe seeking help when they need it. I hope he calls back in a year and updates us when he's made a career change and gotten some good help. We're pulling for you Kyle! YOU CAN DO IT!

[@jamesloveday7425]

We’re all in this mess together man, remember this... without suffering you will never find comfort, sounds crazy but it’s true. Years from now those kids and wife will know it all because of you! Put that bottle away we all love you brother!

[@howlbeast]

6:52 “you’re stuck and the only way to get unstuck is.. New information, new inspiration

[@cathyosullivan718]

It’s so hard having a stressful job and having kids.

[@grantguy8933]

God bless this gentleman and family.

[@josephbrown9685]

Replacing drinking alcohol with exercise is a start.

[@johncoll4456]

Good comment.

[@crashingsally8152]

This advice is the ultimate life hack.

[@DEE-o4v]

Not as much fun.

[@tyv6se]

Thats what i thought but now i do both 😂😂

[@bryandelcid4065]

Good that he’s realizing there’s a problem and is attempting to seek out some help before it’s too late or ends up losing everything due to alcoholism

[@jenna___6443]

Game development is notoriously underpaid and highly competitive though...I'm a developer and know people in the industry

[@userasdf1546]

Welcome to the club!

[@natashanolly9489]

Lol basically

[@jonathansledziewski4827]

LOL!!!

[@rudypena74]

This is why so many people follow Dave Ramsey, the advice is on point no matter what. Great stuff. Thank you DR and crew for all the years of knowledge you have given me.

[@PlannerMemaw]

My son is an alcoholic and wasn't able to get it together until he went through a court mandated treatment program after his fourth DUI. I pray that this man gets the help he needs. My son has not had a drink since and now knows what he wants to do with his life.

[@golfshapedjoelskull9492]

Great advice from Ken!! My heart goes to him! I know what it is to be the sole provider and working a job I don’t like. I hope he can rise up and be successful!

[@KittyM-]

This is so nice. You're a good man to honor and advise this caller so well.

[@veramae4098]

A.A. I've been very successful quitting booze. So far I've quit 13 times. (Sober 4 months now.) Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

[@muccia7328]

Kudos to the caller for calling in and asking for direction 👏

[@DEBTFREEMIKE769]

The first track off of Dave’s new album. “I have debt, I drink to much and I hate my job”

[@genxx2724]

Refrain: “Rice and beans, beans and rice, not gonna see the inside of a restaurant unless you’re WORK-ING-THEEEERE.”

[@genxx2724]

@Johnny Five Nah, country. 😀

[@joesillamanrs7189]

Sounds like a legit country song lol

[@rusjun5]

Haven't watched this show in so long! Happy this man called in I believe that he has greatness in his future

[@joeplem5329]

Great call hope he get's the help he needs.

[@taaronjones]

Quiet desperation

[@kennylau9677]

Actually working in game development is going to give him depression and make him start drinking again. Crunch culture is insane.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Interesting. Yet so many were on another Dave Ramsey video insisting that video games are virtually harmless.

[@blacklyfe5543]

Facts

[@BeyondTigerMilk]

There's zero chance this guy ever gets employed as a game dev

[@susanmarie2231]

Kyle- Thank you for your honesty in reaching out. Best wishes in your future and getting the help and support you need. You can do this and you deserve it. Take care of yourself and lots of love to your precious wife & children. Find a loving and supportive church community of good people.

[@WonderWomanInMichigan]

Im in grand rapids Michigan too!!! I love this caller. I love he reached out and was vulnerable. I pray for his life to change and get inspired.

[@jack0451]

Sounds like a lot of people these days. Have debt and hate my job and as a result, drinking happens.

[@csensale]

You know it is sad really

[@SharlenesJourney]

Yep I’m in that boat just struggling with this nightmare I’m living

[@allanhood8402]

Go to a 28day rehab. Bro

[@alwaysevolving281]

Dang, this conversation is a good one and one that needs to happen more often.

[@JorgeRamirezFinance]

I have a feeling that this call is what he needed to get him on the right track. Sometimes all it takes is another guy that’s going through similar things to help you get through them. Hope he finds some good dudes.

[@varjunind1]

Game development is way tougher than a regular coding job

[@ChrisMFlorida]

exactly.. you're more of a programmer who just happens to do game development.

[@KindredGh0st]

I love the positivity in this video and the way that this issue was handled. Love it.

[@wailali5646]

Love you man, gamer here we'd love you in our industry. Get what you want!

[@RespekfulFungus]

“Most men live lives of quiet desperation.”

[@Joshmarmolejo_]

Daves face while Ken is talking to him 😂😂

[@MrBComish]

Being a parent of young kids is incredibly stressful. I feel for this guy. Our kids are going into preschool and kindergarten so feel like we’re heading toward the other side of early parenthood. It does get better but man is it hard.

[@Brian-zf8jl]

I started therapy a bit ago for almost the exact same situation. Own it, do the work, and empowerment is right around the bend.

[@roberteskew7320]

That's life in Michigan. I was in the same boat and moved to Texas. Life got way better after.

[@roberteskew7320]

@@kingkatradio yeah that's 100% dead on. My family keeps asking me when will I move back. And every time I say never. Just like this guy I was 34. Divorced living away from my two kids laid off and back in my mother's basement. Now I'm 43 years old own home have a steady job and I'm nearly debt-free. Why would I go back?😅

[@Questioneverythingx]

That’s a personal issue, not a state issue.

[@roberteskew7320]

@@Questioneverythingxyeah. My personal issue was i lived in Michigan.🤣

[@Questioneverythingx]

@@roberteskew7320 Lol

[@barvdw]

Moving can be a good step, but you cannot outrun yourself, you still need to work on yourself, still need to address your personal issues you have. Moving can help you with making a clear start, but can't replace that new start, that facing and dealing with the issues you have. If you don't deal with them, they will catch up with you, wherever you move to. But it seems you did, so good on you.

[@obebadmus4638]

I needed this video!!!!! Both Advice was ON POINT!! 🥺🥺. Best decision ever was subscribing to this channel.

[@angryox3102]

I related with him on his self destructive cycle so much except I don’t have a family to be accountable for. Early 30s no education, tons of debt, stuck at a job that I hate, and whenever I get a game plan something sets me off emotionally and I wind up diving back into my gambling addiction and drinking and then I’m worse than I already was. I’m stuck in a cycle of stupid and hate myself more and more with every passing day.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Sorry to hear this. I hope the video helped you. I can relate on having a plan, then spiralling back into the problem. In my case, failure to raise my income, because I was too proud to put my dreams on hold caused so many emotional problems.

[@margie909]

This was a wonderful combination of career advice from Ken, and life advice from Dave.

[@yankeefrugal]

He doesn’t want to develop games, he wants to play the games. He wants to play video games for a living. Ken pours on so much sugar coating.

[@chassiddywilliams3309]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Buggu3]

🤣🤣

[@bowtieboy805]

This was awesome!! You guys are so much more than financial advice! Thank you Dave and company for all you do!

[@nihilistoner]

Good for him for calling

[@barrykelly2722]

First honest caller ever.

[@jeffhood9510]

I completely feel this guy. Over 50. Hate the career I am in. 2 kids and a wife I love but just can't provide for a family on my own. I spent about a year and a half working at a job I loved, but could not make the money I needed to. I so badly want to get out of the recreational vehicle industry and get back into the service end of a car dealership. I have experience in parts, love doing car things, 15 years of customer service, and just need someone to give me a chance. I am lucky to have a strong group of church buddies to keep me from doing something stupid when the depression gets overwhelming.

[@bongoboy11]

Exceptional episode!! May we all, especially I, learn to be encouraging to those most in need of mercy and grace. This broken caller has a lot of potential for success. My prayers go with him as he learns to shed the doubt in his life.

[@Lexylulee]

Being a parent is hard..PERIOD!!

[@Native722]

I feel the same way

[@chatbass2468]

Kyle, you can do it! Yes it will take time, it will take effort, it will definitely take discipline, and makes no sense sugar coating it, there will be setbacks along the way. I know you have lots of responsibilities to deal with. But if you want this, and you put in the work, no matter how long it takes, you can reach it. Please know that. Good luck man, I'm rooting for you.

[@Dabearscubsfan]

This is probably half of America if not more

[@October32nd]

I live in the same city, I hope he's ok, if you see this, Kyle, I'm fighting the same battle and I'm always willing to talk. Alcoholism is hard

[@m0o0n0i0r]

if anyone gets in to similar problems here is what has helped me. I am a computer programmer my job, I find very easy to do, the boredom is excruciating, but the money is good. So I went around to look for courses to do - mainly in construction, I tell the tutors that im not interested in getting qualifications, i just want to do the practical work. It really has been a massive help. BTW I know for some this might not be possible.

[@madouble]

man this one was hitting home for me

[@stewbugz5213]

Join a Church! Try several until you find a church that feels like you are home! Church family will walk with you through these difficult times. I loved this call! I’m Praying for Kyle and his precious family! ❤️

[@Tonyswoodshop]

Hey Kyle, If you ever read this message, try a church called DayBreak. Its a great church family right there in Hudsonville. Whenever I am in town visiting family, that is where I go. You are on the right path asking and seeing help. Those are traits of a winner. You got this.

[@NastheGhost]

Thank you so much for this ive been applying what was said today and i can vouch continue to ask for information from others, stay on track dont derail or think itll never happen and ask the big guy upstairs for alittle inspiration once in awhile

[@edkennedy7952]

Bad habits have to be replaced with good ones.

[@ryangallagher3371]

I honestly think that of all the people with these issue the hardest part is for them to acknowledge it and decide to truly go make the changes to turn their lives around

[@itsumademoheiwa]

One of the best highlights I have seen from Ramsey Show. Great advice that went way past financial!

[@genecoppedge5972]

Wow I really feel this guy, I can hear the stress in his voice. At least he’s seen the bottom and he wants to do something about.

[@roosteroriginal6458]

I feel you with the self-doubt brother...

[@fog137]

I was always happy in whatever job I've had because it allowed me to have the family life I desired. I never expected my job to make me happy, but it was my job to bring joy to my coworkers andthe job.

[@ret4kind]

Game development. Seems to me he just likes to play games and it was his getting married and having kids is what is depressing him. "And you're a gamer." Dave Ramsey knew...

[@MMA-mh9uv]

Game development is a great career to get a divorce and start drinking heavily

[@paradigmshift2223]

lol, this is probably true. However something like web development would probably be good.

[@Theavantamistique]

@@paradigmshift2223 not really, it's the same. I'm in web development and I can tell you, it's becoming more undepaid each day and outsourced

[@BeyondTigerMilk]

@@Theavantamistique because it's getting easier and easier to do the job

[@miguelfortinbras758]

I saw the title and said “I don’t remember calling...”

[@misutasutanto6312]

😂

[@grinchh4035]

I believe in all of you who are doing good and who are doing not as good as u want too. Keep your head up and keep on striving! Don't ever give up and know that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. I had depression, and suffer from anxiety, but I keep on going and keep remembering that things will get better. Always remember that we are all one and we all should believe in each other! If your reading this I hope your having a great day and your amazing in some way!

[@btetschner]

Excellent answer by Dave Ramsey. Thank you for the video.

[@ChristopherAOwens]

Dave is a natural, I know he is trying to develop his staff but they are still missing the mark. Dave seeks to connect with the callers first then provides advice and peace. Ken, Jon, and the others seem to be always looking for the teachers approval by giving the best practical Ramsey solutions answer. These other Ramsey personalities are certified in their fields and yet Dave still provides more quality solutions. I hope Kyle takes Dave’s advice and gets in a good bible baaed church.

[@Buggu3]

They not speaking their truth …they’re say n wat they think Dave wud want them to say… u can feel the energy..

[@Jason-ji5xl]

I am also in michigan and was in your shoes about a decade ago. Nice work calling and saying whats on your mind. If you read this please respond with a throwaway email and ill call you anonymously about Church, mens groups, counseling, friends, working out and other steps that helped me and many others. The most important step is to talk about how you feel and recognize many others are in the same boat; you can take what works for you and leave the rest. Take care man!

[@blubbness]

I feel this guy so much. Once you are struggeling that hard you will have difficulties to reach other jobs because you don´t have the confidence to tell potential employers you are great.

[@AStanton1966]

A radio talk show host said many years ago, "If you make $1 million a year and hate your job, you're underpaid."