Therapist Breaks Down Couples Fighting in Movies & TV, Part 2 | GQ

[@reinaashley2593]

can we please get a "therapist breaks down parent/child fights or sibling fights"?

[@farahiccol3424]

yes or a child psychologist that reacts to negligent or abusive parents and child trauma in movies

[@sqoishicasette]

Even best friend relationships ✨

[@Nunofyabizzzzz]

Psychology in Seattle!!

[@blob-r6w]

yes!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

YES!

[@tionak]

“Learning how to trust again is YOUR responsibility” well let me sit down and shut up then 😖😅

[@isitoveryet9525]

That part hit me in my soul 😭

[@sarahnoonchester6599]

Me: I come here to watch these messy couples. 😊 Also me: Actually comes here to get read to filth and learn a little about myself.

[@enima8055]

ikrrrr

[@rossdiamondthief6627]

I’m still taking responsibility for that and I STILL can’t trust again🥺😭

[@zerocool6257]

hearing the truth hurts a lot of the times

[@tshephangmotlogelwa384]

As someone who is studying psychology, watching people break down any sort of erratic behavior, especially fictional, is my guilty pleasure.

[@thatkidkgosi]

Wow

[@epichourtime]

Ok weirdo!

[@sonicandroxas]

Thx for sharing with the class... Any 1 else.

[@cicelyinamerica]

Sameeeee

[@deeqa.a5026]

Kinda sound Sociopath to me 👀

[@cicicerreta]

I love that you said, “I would never say… but would you blame her?” Because I know how you feel. Your opinion vs what you are taught on the job don’t always match up 😂

[@Hello_Gorgeous]

Exactly. I've had clients where on the outside I had to say how that behavior wasn't the right thing to do but on the inside I'd be laughing and saying they deserved it.

[@foolslayer9416]

I hate people that enjoy making people upset. And I have a tendency to want to harm people who have a hoot out of upsetting people.

[@Julia-lk8jn]

I would think that if one partner enjoys taunting and upsetting the other, and is utterly remorseless about cheating on her ... get out of there. There can't possibly be anything left to salvage in that relationship. I suspect women are often in a situation where they feel that "at my age, whom else am I going to find?" Hopefully: yourself. Because if you stay with somebody who treats you like that, he'll know that you will stay on no matter what he does, probably tread you worse and worse and finally leave you after all.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@foolslayer9416 Yeah, that scene definitely made me want to punch dude….I guess that’s job well done on his part lol

[@loveisanopendoor3532]

Yesss thank you for bringing her back! She’s so incredibly insightful and well spoken, bring her back for part 3 too

[@enneirda07]

Being well spoken is part of a therapist job so that should be no surprise 🙄

[@loveisanopendoor3532]

@@enneirda07 okay??? She's still really good at articulating her thoughts very consciously and peecisely which takes great skill and intelligence which she's clearly abundent in. It was a compliment so why the tone???

[@shakirajarvis7147]

@@enneirda07 commenting about being well spoken is doing the thing, 🤨🙄. Issa big no, every single time, lol.

[@famd4962]

@BlackJack this was not the topic of discussion. I’m not sure what your playing at but nobody asked for your thought on what you commented.

[@famd4962]

@BlackJack not only did nobody care about what you had to say, but you seem to be in conflict with yourself right now. Not a single soul cared about your opinion on that topic. In other words keep your thoughts to yourself if it adds nothing to the current topic of discussion

[@Arzeddirgnirama]

Can a therapist break down toxic family relationships on movies?

[@kimberlywilson7929]

August Osage County

[@matxalenc8410]

@BlackJack I thought in other comments you said she was using feminist theory, not patriarchal theory. Make up your mind.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@matxalenc8410 I guess BlackJack’s account was terminated, so sad lol but they seem to have been arguing with everyone, just for the helluva it. I see replies to them, under almost every comment calling out their hypocrisy 😂

[@strxwberrymvlk]

Hereditary diner scene!!

[@matxalenc8410]

@@isitoveryet9525 He told me they were the same thing. I'm still not so sure about that. Oh well. He's gone now.

[@ladywalda5838]

My father always said my grandfather would tell my grandmother "We'll talk about it in the morning" because by the time morning came she "would forget what she was angry about" I guess that's precisely why they slept in different rooms, didn't speak to eachother and she loathed him till she died.

[@motakuw_2906]

Wow that's not how I thoght that's gonna end

[@Aurora1122]

Wow - she is amazing! Her tone, the choice of words, her whole demeanor just pulls you in, makes you want to listen to what she has to say. I don't know about family and marriage therapy, but I want her as a life coach! And on a different note - she is gorgeous!!!

[@AZ-ti8jt]

Wow! Everything you said is what I was thinking! I want her as a friend.

[@jenm1]

Please stop doing the ‘black women will save us all’ trope

[@duhmzdaih]

@@jenm1 You're just jealous of her amazing hair.

[@jenm1]

@@duhmzdaih My comment is in support of black women

[@Aurora1122]

@@jenm1 I don't exactly know how to respond to your comment as it has nothing to do with any sentiment reflected in my comment, sooo...have a great day :)

[@lydiak.1254]

I like her and the party planner the most. Happy to see her back.

[@elisa.r.g]

Party planner was awesome!!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

I could not agree MORE! By far they have been my favorites.

[@arturoclavero9774]

Oh oh I hope they bring the part planner back that video was so fun

[@solegonz762]

They are both amazing talents for sure!

[@blossomnessstudios4446]

I bet my parents would've fared a lot better if Dad agreed to couple's therapy. But he was raised and now believes that therapy is ONLY for "crazy" people. It's so ridiculous.

[@WHATAREYOUDOINGINMASWAMP]

As someone whose parents went to therapy for their relationship, I HIGHLY recommend it and I think they would too. My dad was also untrustworthy of therapy but my mom said she would have to end their marriage if he didn't go and they went and are so much better now. I think it took him realizing that if he wanted to keep my mom in his life he would have to compromise and it also ended up changing him so much for the better.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@WHATAREYOUDOINGINMASWAMP That’s amazing, happy it worked out for your parents ❤️

[@wraithsoldier4920]

Its for rich people

[@francookie9353]

@@wraithsoldier4920 In the US maybe. In Germany at least it's for people who need help.

[@magnarcreed3801]

I think relationship therapy works better than personal therapy.

[@jessle1133]

Please bring her back for parent/child relationship!

[@kimberlywilson7929]

I would LOVE to see that.

[@GorillaTactix]

This was really on point! If you don’t know she does have her own KZbin channel. It is in description.

[@soyyo4154]

Her ‘page’ is unavailable🥺

[@xiolinorchdork]

Look up Steph Anya!

[@GorillaTactix]

@@soyyo4154 you can also just search Steph Anya on KZbin and she should pop up

[@maybolh]

I just subscribed!

[@SamMKKK]

Wow, thanks! I didn’t catch this till you mentioned it.

[@kingananas]

It's so impressive how neutral she is in almost everything. im watching these scenes completely on someones side but she has criticisms and praise on both sides - way more than I can ever imagine.

[@prettyprincess8187]

Me watching these when I'm single as a Pringle: WRITE THAT DOWN, WRITE THAT DOWN!

[@jm3267]

Jokes aside, it's not a bad thing to do! I feel like when you're in a relationship and there's dynamics that have already become habitual, it's very hard to do an intentional change with how you interact with your partner.

[@silvervixen007]

😂😂

[@nomadine85]

Aren’t Pringles never single? Or is that the point? 😅

[@oceaneo4603]

It's a bit of a big strech for the mind, but I think this video could be helpfull for any kind of relationship or even interaction. I am also single and have no problem with that. But sometimes I feel like I've been drag in the middle of a weird couple relationship. Just like in the 1st part, in the office when a married couple argued in front of their guest. It just made want to take a shower. I wish this was mention in part 1 or 2 on those videos. It's a very important issue, in my opinion.

[@jessi330]

I love the emphasis on sleep/hunger having a big effect on reacting and arguments. I wish she mentioned how it was very dismissive when one partner would bring up one issue and the other person would redirect, counter and completely disregard it. It's dismissive and avoids acknowledging the other person.

[@NoOneReallySpecial]

Physical aspects affecting arguments and reactions, too. I am physically disabled- joint deformities, arthritis, chronic pain, fibromyalgia, migraines, nerve damage, etc. This already takes a toll on me. Add in my ADD/PTSD/Disassociation and my eating disorder (sometimes I eat and sometimes I forget to eat. I overcame Anorexia but don't really feel hunger and sometimes forget to eat despite having impounded it into my brain and having people reminding me to eat,.) and sometimes it just makes me say way worse things than I mean to. Making jokes about me getting into crashes and dying or being accident prone and dying was a big problem my husband said made him cry so now I am working on trying to ensure I never say that because I don't mean it but disabilities can really drive you nuts.

[@ririschannelx]

500 days of summer was truly ahead of its time exactly

[@kimberlywilson7929]

That movie is so infuriating. Ugh. People really play with people's emotions.

[@marinadeburgos8666]

I like the whole point of the movie of deconstructing the everending happy ever after of the 90's romcoms

[@kimberlywilson7929]

@@marinadeburgos8666 That's actually a good point.

[@pouchl6574]

I watched some months ago and I felt like I was the one in the relationship with Summer.. I was so hurt by what she did.. I mean why wouldn’t she just tell me she was just in a awkward period with her man or something.. I was sooo hurt

[@jjosephine]

@@pouchl6574 when i was younger, i hated summer, but the older i got and the more experience i gained, i now understand both of them. yes, i understand how he feels and his feelings are valid, but she really did express her thoughts on commitment, and that she couldn’t give him what he wanted. She was honest about her feelings about it, he just didn’t want to listen.

[@xtuffcookiex]

I’m really hoping she gets a part 3. I enjoy the insight she brings and her point of view is so uplifting .

[@gabriella-emmanuellesaro2970]

The "can you blame her" made this whole video. Pleeaaase bring her back!

[@feminist6715]

She’s so intelligent and well spoken.

[@cuddlypop23]

is it insane to say that i love these breakdowns so much because i’m emotionally inept and need emotions explained to me?

[@whitneynelson9124]

My personal answer: No.

[@ashleyconnor8891]

Same here, social and relationship cues are things I never get

[@ashleyd8885]

I could watch her analyze couples for days… so knowledgeable and easy to listen to! Thanks for bringing her back for part two!

[@AceHBK972]

Counseling Psych PhD student here. LOVE her videos! Bring her back! Really great job in both her vids. This is why I refuse to do any counseling. The stress!! I focus on forensics and assessments. Would love to see her breakdown 'In Treatment'. Vanity Fair's relationship breakdowns are great as well.

[@mcgil8891]

Omg yesssss, love that show!

[@solitarelee6200]

Honestly it wasn't until I watched these videos that I realized HOW MUCH "good argument" techniques my best friend and I use, and how much that's why they're my best friend and my favorite person. I feel safe around them even when we fight because I know that even if it's scary and frustrating and upsetting in the moment, we're going to figure it out, and all of these techniques are things we were doing but didn't have names for! Knowing now that it's something people go to therapy to learn, I feel really proud of them for being able to do this stuff in the middle of a fight even tho we're both just still in our 20s.

[@anonomous8649]

Love what she says about money. Money doesn't buy love but it definitely makes or breaks marriages. My partner and I struggled at first because he's an impulse-buyer and I'm very frugal. Compromise is everything in these situations, and I'm so glad my partner has been willing to compromise and change as we gear up to get married.

[@jennawatson6571]

I love listening to her. She’s so impressive with her explanations/assessments.

[@Gleenet29]

I JUST found part 1 so this is a BLESSING to get a sequel RIGHT AFTER

[@loiracitr]

For people in a situationship I would just give one suggestion: set your boundaries and ensure that they are respected. If you are ok with sleeping [going on holidays together/meeting the family... Whatever it is] with someone that doesn't want to define your relationship this is fine, but if you don't just aknowledge it yourself and express to the other person. I think everyone has its own specific boundaries and they are all valid and legitimate

[@BetterLifeAhead35]

She has the demeanor of my favorite therapist. Very calming, rational, insightful person

[@justthinkingoutloud2538]

This whole series is must-watch material for... well, pretty much everyone.

[@bludelight]

I was hoping she would show the difference between the Sopranos and A Marriage Story and look at that. This is great!

[@packnetadaija]

I was so excited when I saw that you brought her back, I could watch her talking about various relationship scenes for hours. She is amazing

[@samiasunshinee]

I WATCHED HER THE FIRST TIME I MISSED HER SO MUCH

[@paolasejasayala6472]

Me too! I even subscribe to her yt channel!

[@TheKeeroop]

I’m just gonna say I want her in my life guiding me. she’s not only a professional but puts every issue in a simple and understandable way. Truly a free therapy session watching these Obs: it would be interesting to see parents - children arguments too

[@ajajohnston572]

Please please please please please please please bring this woman back again and I would love to see a parent and child relationship episode but I would like a focused on specifics such as mother and daughter, father and daughter, son and mother, and son and father focused relationships explanations. For example why is it that some mothers in a way hate/become jealous of their daughters looks or achieving or whatever. What is the psychology behind that? And I would love that for all four of the categories listed above. That would be fantastic!

[@hanan54]

She has a yt channel !

[@JinxedG]

I love this woman! She focuses on the things I easily miss and I appreciate it greatly

[@88marome]

00:52 Schitt's Creek 04:27 Big Little Lies 08:48 Ozark 13:08 My Cousin Vinny 19:09 500 Days of Summer 23:30 The Sopranos

[@mads6412]

BRING HER BACKKKK!!!! This information is so vital for everyone, not just couples!

[@septsky98]

15:08 "he doesn't acknowledge her complaints he just matches them with his own" welcome to every new jersey couple lmao

[@tiffanyreene7955]

Ooh I love the information she’s sharing. I would love her take on other relationships like parent and child and friendships, even though some of these, if not all, can be applied to both. Love her take on the situationships because this generation has a problem with that. Also, love her hair!😍 need that hair routine sis👏🏾👏🏾

[@annaeverette8960]

Not just this generation, tbh.

[@NotAlwaysBilly]

So glad she's back

[@kimberlywilson7929]

Easily one of my favorite of the "breakdowns." You are so clear in your explanations.

[@Ilovechickpeas24]

I’d love to see her breakdown the dinner scene in Hereditary

[@ronbuil6923]

I think she did in part 1

[@rodeorip]

@@ronbuil6923 she has not broken down that scene yet, in part one she did the dinner scene in Malcolm and Marie

[@Jane2856]

Jason Bateman and Laura Linney could use some lamps. I don’t know if it would fix the marriage, but at least they won’t be stubbing their toes while they argue in the dark. Could’ve used the bribe money for light bulbs.

[@lindseywagner641]

Hahhahhhhhhhahhahahahahhagaggahahhahagagagagaghhahahahhahhahahahhaha

[@anitaandneedle7545]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Savage!

[@viv771]

I wish this was more clearly labelled a part 2 because the title was cut off and I didn't even realize it had come out! She's so great I hope she comes back to discuss more couple and/or family dynamics

[@phae1574]

They brought her back and we thank them. Now do it again!! 😩👏🏾👏🏾 Steph Anya, MFT is her KZbin channel 🙌🏾

[@symonew33]

I’m so glad she’s back!

[@vinnyninja3552]

Already need a part 3 and I'm just starting part 2 🙌

[@christinemullaly2581]

Oh my goodness I LOVE HER. gorgeous, wise and intelligent woman! My therapist is amaaaazing ( I think most therapists are) and this woman absolutely knows what she's talking about. Wonderful video!!

[@nagygreta5295]

This Lady has taught me more, than my school in the last 8 years

[@esteehanvey5647]

I love her thoughts on My Cousin Vinny, very validating of both people and their unique positions and perspectives. She’s so balanced and I wanna be like her

[@kirahoffman5167]

Please make more parts!!! Stephanie is amazing! I'm interested in psychology, and she is fascinating to listen to

[@KarelinaCA]

I love her, she is so calm. I hope she is back soon

[@cammymc1982]

She really needs to react to episodes of Dr. Phil, I will like her take on his ''therapy sessions''.

[@morganqorishchi8181]

I was really glad when she pointed out how not sleeping drastically impacts who you are in a fight. My dad used to be a commercial pilot and one time, when he'd been up for 56 hours without any rest, he started snapping at my mom and trying to start an argument... but my mom is a psychologist and she just went, "You haven't slept, have you?" and gently coaxed him into sitting down, eating dinner and then reached over, wrapped an arm around him and said, "Go to sleep. We can talk about everything later. I'm not going anywhere." and that was enough to complete diffuse all the tension of the would-be argument and end it. Sometimes people just want to hear that they're valued.

[@brazilremani1284]

Glad she’s back! Now for part three, can she look at romantic relationships on reality shows? That would be great 😀

[@empresssk]

She’s already done one with the Married at First Sight show on her KZbin channel. But yes, more would be great

[@Qveenshxt]

This is the video I’ve been waiting for! Ive been hoping and praying for part two since I saw part one! I love her!!

[@tylerhackner9731]

I love psychology so this is my guilty pleasure

[@emmyashbaugh]

Heck yes! Thanks for bringing Stephanie back, she's the bees knees 💕🌻

[@skinsciencebymira]

I would love a full series with this therapist! Love her

[@nevaehjackson5948]

Bring her back for child/parent arguments !!!

[@genadavis7493]

Never in the history of "calm down" has anyone ever calm down 😣

[@o0Avalon0o]

What an amazing speaker. It's so much easier to see & own your problems when you're not terrified of conflict.

[@inasbelhag6361]

‘Everything I do is for this family’ Classic Michael

[@springmaiden123]

Thank you for linking her KZbin channel!!!!!

[@elishaschwartz1697]

This lady is very articulate and great at explaining things. I enjoy listening to her analyses 👏🏼

[@victoriaselwyn8781]

Loved this two parter. What a great therapist!

[@Reggie_la]

I remember a concept I learn in marketing class in high school that shaped mu brain: Value. Why do some shoes cost thousands of dollars if they are suoer ugly and uncomfortable? Because there is people who regard them as important, and place and accept a value for them (monetary in that case). I concluded that it's the same with people: people regard some aspects of a relationship as important, and therefore, give it a proper value to abide to. It might alone time, or talking about movies, or seeing extended family, or being the one who drives. Those things might not be as important to you and therefore dont hold much value for you, but it still does to the other person. So you have to treat it with the value the other person gives it, or you are at risk of really hurting them (and to you, it would look like it was nothing, while their world collapses). And that's not only for romantic relationships, but friendships and familiar and job and school relationships.

[@radrose4864]

This woman is amazing. Please do a part 3!!!!

[@user-dq1ri4bd5z]

Great video!! Thank you for sharing your insights and teaching people about conflict resolution, communication skills, etc. Love part 1 and 2!! 👍

[@LisTheNinja]

I could literally listen to her speak all day and just absorb all this information like a sponge omg ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 the brains on this woman!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@robbinb6659]

She is wonderful at explaining and breaking things down. If I had to have a therapist I would want one like her.

[@treacheroustea926]

Our queen has returned to us

[@welikelethabo]

I’m happy she’s back

[@iralabeouf7646]

Telling people to calm down when they are already perfectly calm is one of my favorite things to do

[@efnfen]

I would like to see more of this woman. These two videos were amazing.

[@hairindiamonds]

Stephanie is amazing, I love her analysis!

[@AliciaQuality]

I love the comment about the stress of trying to replicate another couples marriage. I've had to do a lot of re-evaluating the ideals I hold as a wife. I was basing them off my mums but that isn't necessarily right for me. It's ok to be your own person and your own marriage

[@oceaneo4603]

Definitely ! It's frustrating and delusionnal. I also feel, as children you can't have the right perspective on your parents marriage. I believe we need to be smart and do the best with what we have in our lives. It took me a decade and an half to realize that.

[@KarinaPerez-yl5sp]

Her statement on fear of commitment was A PERSONAL ATTACK

[@Josy5527167]

For real! I’ve been with my bf for two years and before him, I never stayed with a guy for more than a few months bcuz I would get afraid to commit to someone. Now, that we are talking about marriage, I get scared. I love him so much and want to marry him, yet there is a little voice in me telling me to mess it up and cheat on him. I wouldn’t though, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if did.

[@claudiagallant6130]

Her skin is literally flawless! She is so pretty! and everything she is saying is amazing!

[@TheMoises1213]

Everything she said was soo true dam it’s soo good. Keep getting her back!!!😩❤️

[@soyyo4154]

Very Educational, ThankYou.

[@dabswithtabs4258]

pls bring her back with family arguments!

[@carenann918]

I love this analysis. I especially love the My Cousin Vinny clip. While Marisa Tomei is saying I'm in the dark, I don't know where this is going, I can't help thinking, "You're headed straight to an Oscar!" And, Wow, and I learned I was in a situationship for a year!

[@Spanek88]

YESSS I've been waiting for this

[@aliyahmg]

My favorite! I love when you guys have her. She’s so good

[@joshuacampossandi5007]

Yaaaaaaaaaassss queen, happy to see her on this channel being featured again 👐🏻❤

[@anacardenas8827]

Love this segment ❣️ keep them coming! If I may suggest Outlander 1x09 would be great to see her break down a particular scene in that episode

[@harryp4981]

Stephanie should review the series Couples Therapy

[@fatimah1]

I love this lady! She's so smart!

[@spammusubi1607]

I really enjoy her insight and these videos! Keep bringing her back, I’m also definitely gonna subscribe to her KZbin

[@denisenoles3159]

She is fantastic! Part 3 please.

[@theminidino]

I missed Stephanie so much!

[@bastilohh]

This Sopranos episode was downright incredible

[@clare8146]

Yay I’m so glad she’s back for another video!

[@Petroglyph1]

This therapist is so brilliant 👏....😍🤩☺....and charismatic.

[@monchiquita25]

I've been waiting for this!! Thank you GQ

[@emmawward]

She's my FAVORITE...part 3 for sure!!

[@masonrock]

This is such a great series. I would love for you guys to bring her back and do more.

[@thibaultstroobandt9606]

She’s amazing It’s like a trip down memory lane but with a guiding voice right next to you

[@nettabeatty950]

I'm so happy she is back....is she getting a weekly spot..I need her. She speaking knowledge!!!!!