Therapist Debunks Red Pill Sex Tips | "Alpha Males" Are Liars

[@HannahTheHorrible]

The way the second guy says “females” but says “men” instead of “males” makes it even worse. He needs actual help.

[@neurodivergentnetizen4535]

Right? Like, "female" onto itself *could* simply be just a habit, but "females" and "men" is on purpose. People are trained to write down "female" and "male" on medical reports. And also, "AMAB/AFAB" is also binary language, but Mickey uses it as a shortcut. Honestly, so do I, for want of a better way to do it. Impact is more important than intent, but intent still matters.

[@azureparker3982]

This reminds me of when the king in Cinderella tells his wife that Cinderella was a lovely creature

[@presentfuture7563]

Every manosphere bro who does that immediately turns into Quark from DS9 in my brain.

[@InfomercialAngel]

omg hannah :D

[@kimbooley90]

​@presentfuture7563 not Quark! 😂

[@Ventuswill]

Not surprising that there's a male loneliness epidemic when men actively discourage other men from seeing potential partners as anything but holes.

[@JS-dv9ji]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@uniquenewyork3325]

Unfortunately a lot of male influencers have bad attachment styles and teach other guys who have hardly even gone out there and started dating that that's just how it's supposed to be

[@ww3196]

They also struggle to have genuine, organic male friendships because that's "gay."

[@saltydinonuggies1841]

It’s also not just men. Everyone has been struggling to make friends and keep relationships lately, especially after the p4ndemic. Manosphere dudes just wanted to feel like it was something they specifically were dealing with and make it everyone else’s problem. But everyone’s been struggling. It’s definitely not going to improve if these guys don’t fix their issues though.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

It's an entitlement epidemic

[@Mani_Manic]

These people are the ones actively peeing in the dating pool

[@ghihbgyu]

This is an underrated comment.

[@LauraMK1]

💯 true!

[@ricku9487]

1000% Spot on. These are the reason women will choose the bear and as a man I get it.

[@susannehuber3996]

I will steal that expression 😂😂

[@junjiscomb7909]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@meggert2360]

Listening to these posts is like eavesdropping on a locker room of 12 year old boys who have never had a sex ed class.

[@KatarinaNolte]

It's what they learn from society and women.

[@gaia7240]

@@KatarinaNolte they learn it from porn dude

[@matheussanthiago9685]

​@@KatarinaNolte they need to learn how not to learn stupid shit

[@tdelioncourt1268]

​@@KatarinaNolteyou misspelled p0rn 😂

[@Louise-u3w]

​@@KatarinaNolteThey most definitely do not learn this from women, but from the corn movies they watch.

[@honeycatacomb1191]

Abslute Sexiest things my partner says to me: Are you ok? Is that ok? Am I hurting you? Do you want me to keep going? Can I ______? Etc. It kinda freaks me out that he's the first person I've been with to really make sure I'm comfortable. Trust me it's sexy.

[@PrincessNinja007]

"Do you like that" is either the grossest or hottest thing I've heard, depending on whether or not I feel like I'm allowed to say no

[@ohthatdickens69]

100% I won't enjoy myself if I didn't feel safe with the guy. As in, he treats me like a human being.

[@Pheelleep]

THIS! ALL OF THIS!💯💯💯 If I had a dollar for how many men claim that asking those questions inherently creeps women out when really, it doesn’t, those guys were prolly asking inappropriate sexual questions to people who dont have any sort of relationship going on with them

[@SingingSealRiana]

I can not even imagine how one could preform sex with someone without being absolutely sure the other is comfortable enjoys is and wants me to.... Like the least bit of unsurness should be an instant mood killer... I can not get how anything less then enthusiastic consent could make you feel like wanting the other that way... How is ensuring consent so controvetsial?!

[@triinpokk9198]

Ironically he sounds very dominant. Because he is taking charge to make you feel good, how ever it lookes like. Thats what i imagine masculinity to be.

[@TheStitchess]

8:05 if a woman is less attracted to you the more you spend time with her… maybe she just doesn’t like you?

[@acebase555]

I feel like a lot of men just don’t understand this. Women often aren’t playing any kind of game, they just aren’t into those men, often because those men haven’t learned how to have an actual conversation.

[@justvibinginouterdarkness]

He really did tell on himself there, didn’t he 😂

[@claratalbot7613]

Couldn't agree more. I get there may be some people that do like to play these kind of mind games, but not everyone regardless of their sex or gender does. Most people, if they like someone they will verbal say it &/or their body language will. This belief that all women are just trying to play hard to get is absolutely nonsense & is often used as a way to excuse shitty behavior from people like these men

[@bottomofastairwell]

or maybe there's something DEEPLY unattractive about you that she's seeing more and more, the more time she spends with you? like i dunno, a dog shit personality

[@Jellyfishfan24]

Exactly! Like, assuming these men are practicing what they're preaching...they're spending so much mental energy on playing games instead of becoming a cool, interesting person. So you date a girl, she gets to know you and she realizes that there's not much to you. And you're just not worth all the hassle and mind games 🤷

[@julieblair7472]

Notice none of this advice is like "I am friends with lots of women and this is what I hear from them..." it's them explaining how they play some adversarial game where women are the opposition. Guess what, if you see women as peers and they are in your social life dating and sex is WAY easier.

[@lsmmoore1]

Yep. But you have people trying to actively discourage that - like when guys and girls are friends in a story, but to hear people tell it, you'd think it was like a harem or something. Really. Just because being friends with the opposite sex can make dating easier, doesn't mean that those friend circles are a harem, not even when those circles are disproportionately one gender, be it mostly guys, or mostly girls - and not even if one or more friends once had a crush on another friend who either has no interest in dating or is dating someone else, but those friends are willing to just be friends.

[@Momma766]

TBH this man knows hes full of shit and hes speaking to an audience of losers who are trying to manage weak/broken women because they can't attract any of them. Notice how every alpha is 4 at best. It's really a pathetic time for the TEMU men.

[@Tecno-Dark]

For some reason they have the logic of "you wouldnt ask a fish how to catch other fish" because of course women are prey

[@lsmmoore1]

@@Tecno-Dark Right. As if dating isn't a two-way street.

[@Tecno-Dark]

@@lsmmoore1 and following that logic, then women are warning other women away from them. Amazing

[@theluminarysoul]

I have actually gotten off the bed and left during sex with men who do dumb shit like this. They look so shocked that I go “No. this isn’t a vibe. I’m out” I get it’s potentially dangerous but they’re so caught off guard and I can tell no one has ever just deadpan stopped and gotten up to leave.

[@RainingPouringSnoring]

Be careful 😢 but also, this is hilarious 😂

[@joshuajohnson5337]

That sounds like the most ego and self esteem destroying act I've ever heard. Those men are not ever going to recover from that.

[@LaLaLonna]

Please carry pepper spray!

[@Samson16436]

I did that too, the guy was chocked but actually apologized. I still kicked him out and he left hopefully feeling like an idiot. He then blocked my number lol, found that out cus I got an std and had to contact partners (it's by law in my country).

[@Samson16436]

​@@joshuajohnson5337hopefully they learn something!

[@kezia8027]

I think one big issue, is that these guys aren't looking for a long term relationship. They don't want a relationship at all, they just want a fuck-buddy that never says no or asks for anything (sex doll) which is why the moment these women ask for ANYTHING they get dropped. They want a toy.

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

Exactly!

[@ladybug3380]

A toy with a pulse. Someone should invent that for them.

[@ChristopherSadlowski]

​@ladybug3380 I'm pretty sure something like that already exists. I mean, those kinds of dolls are thousands of dollars because they're built to specification. But still, if they don't want to deal with the complexities that come with dealing with people they do have options.

[@EsotericThoughts93]

@@ChristopherSadlowski their hand is cheaper

[@ladybug3380]

@@ChristopherSadlowski that’s good to hear. Having options is a good thing 👍🏾

[@jnl3564]

The fact that they go to other men to get advice about women instead of just asking women is gross

[@joshuajohnson5337]

If women gave honest advice that actually works, these men wouldn't exist.

[@jnl3564]

@@joshuajohnson5337 define "works"

[@joshuajohnson5337]

@@jnl3564 A man receives dating advice from a woman, they apply that advice. If the advice works, that would mean the man succeeds in dating. They get dates consistently. They succeed in maintaining a long term relationship, this can include marriage that does not end in separation or divorce. If the advice applies to sex, they get sex, consistently without tricks or corrosion. They get enthusiastic consent. Stuff like that.

[@fawnieee]

​​​@@joshuajohnson5337 nah, these men exist because society likes to pretend women don't know what they want but we actually do; men just can't accept rejection. So they come up with all these BS points to justify why they're not wanted instead of self reflecting. Pointing the finger is easier than taking accountability for ones self for the men that follow these content creators. Their points have been debunked repeatedly, but they remain popular because a comforting lie is better than harsh truth. For dudes like this and the ones that follow them, being told that 50% of the population is the problem is better than accepting that something might be wrong as to why they can't get a partner. Which their massive scapegoating and generalisations is exactly why they scare women off, but they dig deeper into the rabbit hole than doing introspection and taking accountability for themselves and their behaviour.

[@fawnieee]

​@@jnl3564 if by works he means the epidemic of male loneliness and the fact most women prefer and statistically are happier to be single, then sure, it works.

[@clairel3833]

there's a great line in an olivia gatwood poem: "the boy doesn't ask if he can choke me, so i pretend to die while he's doing it." it really speaks to how common it is - and how normalized it's become - to commit violence against women during sex

[@powderandpaint14]

It's so scary that younger people are having to deal with this total lack of knowledge of consent for these potentially dangerous acts especially! It wasn't something that was routine was when I was younger (to be clear I'm only in my 30s now)

[@r.javanainen8947]

choking becoming a "thing" among people who don't know how to do it safely is a travesty. it is literally edgeplay (a type of kink that can be dangerous or even life-threatening if done incorrectly). if someone wants to try it out, they should do ample research and COMMUNICATE with their partner, respecting their boundaries.

[@gaia7240]

When I was like 16 a guy took me by the neck and we weren't even having sex, I punched him and walked away, they think it's normal, never touched a guy after that

[@beelzebub6414]

​@@r.javanainen8947 theres no way to do it correctly, u get brain damage either way

[@Raven.Madness]

@@r.javanainen8947why are you shocked that mostly males are attracted to this type of sexual behavior? Most of them watch and are addicted to porn, ofc they get off to hurting and disrespecting women’s bodily autonomy. Safe to choke someone if done properly? That’s strangulation, there’s nothing inherently safe about that kink.

[@JasmineTea127]

Sex is not just horrible, it's traumatizing when you don't feel safe.

[@Dll5749]

It’s painful, its uncomfortable, it’s scary. Very traumatizing indeed

[@lelz0394]

Same I can't imagine how women can treat it as a chore or fake it.

[@Anubis30224]

As someone who was sexually assaulted and groomed for years a child, I ended up dating two separate men who would be too aggressive or even abusive and threatening in the bedroom, the second one even sexually assaulted me a few times before I left him Thankfully, my third boyfriend was as an actually good person and a wonderfully wholesome partner. Just ended things with him last weekend, but we're still on good terms and spend time together as friends, now. Physical and emotional safety during sex is so damn important

[@sugoish9461]

I was SAed by a classmate when we were both 12. She had been s€×trafficked and it was so normalized for her. Even though it wasn't physically painful - it was "gentle" and "kind" - it was absolutely fucking horrifying. The sort where you experience an _existential_ fear because you can't _comprehend_ what is happening. Why are they doing this? What is this? What is this? What _is this???_ I know in my case I was, well, a child, so I was pretty incapable of understanding it either way, and just felt absolutely terrified (even though there was no pain)... but I still can empathize so much with how it can be awfully traumatizing when done without your consent, when you don't feel safe, even if it's "gentle". A big, big hug to anyone else relating to this 🫂

[@Anubis30224]

@@sugoish9461 I was a trafficked child. I was made to SA other children my age for my trafficker's entertainment. I am so sorry. On behalf of all people who have done such horrible things to people like you simply because we didn't know any better, I am so fucking sorry. There's not a day that goes by that I don't regret the things I did, because even though I was also never intending to hurt or cause pain I know that I traumatized the people I was forced to do those things with. I am so sorry. So irrevocably sorry. I hope that you may heal, that the wounds hurt less and less. You didn't deserve to suffer, to still suffer simply because you were targeted by someone like me. I'm so incredibly sorry

[@jakeking3859]

I don't remember where it was, but I remember someone saying something about "she doesn't stop having an orgasm until I tell her to stop, even if I leave her having an orgasm for TWO HOURS". It was absolutely ridiculous. Like, you're lucky if an orgasms lasts more than a couple of SECONDS, dude, there is no way anyone was in an orgasmic state for two HOURS.

[@raed3240]

Yeah I'm pretty sure the longest orgasm recorded in a afab person was like 12 seconds. 😆

[@wolvie1618]

Plus with how tiring an orgasm can be, having one for TWO HOURS sounds beyond exhausting. You could probably kill someone with cardiac issues like that.

[@lexicon--526]

It's also terribly bold of him to assume he even got her that far...

[@berrymint6384]

There are illnesses that can make you THINK you are in one thou.

[@matheussanthiago9685]

Lil bro thinks he can put women in and out of orgasm at will like a jedi mind trick 💀💀💀

[@marlyd]

It's wild they try to find women by holding them emotionally hostage to then expect them to raise their kids healthily? How?

[@ladybug3380]

They don’t care about women and kids 😂😂😂 are you new here?!!

[@elleofhearts8471]

i think it's overly optimistic to think these Neanderthals expect their female partners to raise healthy children. They will 100% expect their female partner to raise their kids with rigid traditional gender rolls and to be straight and straight presenting. They don't want kids who are well adjusted, emotionally regulating, critical thinking, open minded and secure in themselves. They want kids to be carbon copies of themsleves and to be obedient robots void of any conflicting opinions or controversy. I think it's healthy for kids to question tradition but red pills balk at the notion of younger generations questioning tradition and older generation's adherence to tradition. I think its healthy for kids to be unsure about their gender identity and fluid sexual identity. Red pillers are notoriously Anti lgbt. I think its healthy for kids to be friends with and be influenced by people from dofferent different cultures and races. Red pillers are famously xenophobic and racist among holding other hostilities towards minorities. And inevitably if Red pilled men don't get the kids they wanted they're going to blame the mother for that. they're 100% going to blame the mom for their kids being gay, or "woke" (whatever that means), or trans etc.

[@berrymint6384]

or to have a heaéthy relationship with Also i think they expect that because they also(these men) see kids as objects as well/property and not actual LIVING BEINGS WITH THEIR OWN BRAIN. God complex.

[@lingodelfo5415]

​@@berrymint6384 I thought kids are just to spead your dna and to have proof that you had sex with her? /s

[@vocexseta]

Because they don't think that far. Men like that think of their children as tools for their own ego fulfillment and little more than that.

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

YAY! You should talk about being "a high value woman/high tier woman". And "being in masculine/feminine energy"

[@abbigailcarr2725]

Seconded. That stuff drives me CRAZY as a queer person

[@jessicaanne3490]

I worked with a coach once who used that “masculine/feminine energy” term and it was then that I realized we were not on the same page.

[@mutantanemone]

Oh yes please, I'd love to see this. So much misogyny and wtf is masculine/feminine energy except a bunch of assumptions about how you ""should"" behave in het relationships? They just throw up their hands and stomp their feet when you remind them queer people exist

[@sojabursche]

Masculine/feminine energy is the twin flames bullshit right?

[@amberinthemist7912]

Yeah femine enegery is all passive and lazy, small and meek. Like literally the opposite of how a human woman should be to ensure her and her children's survival. Women are active, assertive and energetic. It's such an obvious grift to keep women playing small so mediocre men can ignore their bad self esteem instead of listening to it and improving themselves.

[@bettyanzy77]

A catechism (Sunday school (for catholics) teacher and my mother told me the same thing,"Before you are married don't have sex even if you want to...and after you are married have sex even if you don't want to..".. And they wonder why more and more women are fleeing church and religion in general...I am now a happy atheist crone with two grown sons and a granddaughter..and you guessed it..I never married...

[@miniaturecreature]

As an young atheist in her late twenties, your comment gave me hope ❤

[@bettyanzy77]

@@miniaturecreature That made my day, thank you... Glad you took the time to let me know...💜

[@sunny_tree5050]

That's such a disturbing thing to tell children I'm glad you made it out safely ❤

[@ev6564]

Truly sad. Sex is meant for marriage, and both husband and wife are meant to desire it and enjoy it. It shouldn't be out of duty. People twisting the Bible is harming so many people😓 Why would they tell you to have sex in marriage when you don't want to? The Bible doesn't command that. It is a false teaching. I'm glad God saves me from believing the toxic lies about sex that so many sadly fall victim to Edit, typo

[@bettyanzy77]

@@ev6564 They told me that for two reasons..My mother's large family (5 girls and 3 boys) was taught that if you didn't have sex whenever your husband wanted, that he would go outside of the marriage to have that need met .And that because a woman was commanded to 'obey' and therefore she didn't have the right to say 'no'..Your thoughts on marriage obviously come from your religion and you are entitled to believe, for yourself, anything you want to.. However you don't get to tell others that they must make the same decisions as you have..I am an old crone now..I raised two sons and now have a wonderful granddaughter..I nevrt felt the need to marry, so I didn't..And I removed all religion from my life a long time ago..raised my sons without any (answered their questions ad they came up) and have no regrets...

[@MaevePeters-mg8un]

“Women like what they don’t like” sound like he’s describing his own hypocrisy…you like women serving you and your needs, but hate them all the same.

[@JocelynR2007]

A lot of women do say stuff thats backwards to what they actually want. But it is VERY circumstantial and is not applicable to anything intimate

[@lolno4384]

pretty sure the only pattern the "all women are the same in there" guy was noticing was just the every single woman he's been with has gotten bored halfway through and faked it of it all lmao

[@user-yup-you-are-human2]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@faithlou4312]

Had the exact same thought 😂

[@emmaevans4919]

I think k it’s so much easier to let the guy take control of everything and just jump to his demands to help him. I would do anything a man tells me to do. Also when a man shouts at you it makes you do things correctly. I’ve realised it’s easier than trying to cope on my own. When I was on my own I had a breakdown

[@blaiddenjoyer3206]

​@@emmaevans4919Girl, I hate to break it to you, but this is not healthy and please get therapy. Having a man, anyone, scream at you for what you should do is not a good mindset. Helping people can be good, people giving direction can be good, but if you are having a breakdown on your own and feel like needing a man to help you do anything is not. I wish you so much luck in life, because that mindset will get you into dangerous situations.

[@samaraisnt]

@emmaevans4919 This is a trauma coping mechanism and please get help to address it. most women don’t feel that way about being controlled that’s a manosphere lie they use to attract people who’s trauma hasn’t healed. These men are taking advantage of that trauma, you need to be alone to heal first. Ik it’s hard but a therapist will be there with you ♥️

[@youvilleatzebugs6095]

On one hand men are constantly complaining that women constantly lie about being graped, you can't even look at a woman these days, she's gonna scream 'grape!' and you'll be locked up, omg you should be extra cautious these days. But on the other hand they advise men to do stuff without even asking a woman first. So which is it? Should men be scared of false allegations or not? We obviously know the answer. Men debunk their talking points for us all the time.

[@JS-dv9ji]

Excellent point

[@elleofhearts8471]

excellent point. You would think these types would advocate for healthy celibacy (inceldom is not healthy celibacy), no premarital sex (not religiously motivated), or a reduction in casual sex/hookup culture (all for their own benefit. But they wont because they dont actually believe less sex even if it theoretically means less chances of a false grape accusation is actually beneficial to them), emphasize clear and thorough communication, or stress the importance of building genuine trust and connection. They would never do any of those things because it requires changing their own behavior. It's the same energy as the skinner meme "am I out of touch? no it's the children who are wrong". These types want social norms to bend around their goals and alleged fears, they're not changing themselves because they fake believe that false grape accusations happen in all circumstances, for the same reasons and to the same degrees. The bad faith to entitlement pipeline is crazy.

[@croneyr]

Where did they ever say he’s going to do these things without consent? Why do women automatically assume that? All of these acts can and should be done with consent.

[@awkwardukulele6077]

@@croneyrthey “assume” it’s without consent because the men make it clear you do not need to “accept” rejection or any “no” from women. It’s not an “assumption” that there’s no consent there, they’re just _listening_ when those men say they don’t respect consent.

[@showcase0525]

This points just shows your lacking in the male experience. It's very clearly both. What's expected is to move with the confidence of knowledge without asking, yet when you get that wrong, the claims of grape are the result. The quip about men telling on themselves actually told me something.

[@thekameru6058]

My favourite trope is when women go 'Well we were good till you started THIS shit. Blocked.' And then they are all shocked pikachu face. Especially if they actually started off well, started to catch feelings, and THEN decided instead of being vulnerable, started this crap and got CALLED.

[@DrewLSsix]

There's the growing trope of the boys/men in otherwise good relationships, who then fall down the incel hole online and invariably destroy everything good in their lives.

[@Mercury-ok8ie]

I saw a greentexts of a guy that lied to his girlfriend that he cheated and then got surprised she left

[@korpzmarcelfranca6825]

@@Mercury-ok8ie kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk (that is a brazilian laugh)

[@Mercury-ok8ie]

@@korpzmarcelfranca6825 o homem nasce bom mas o vasco o corrompe

[@korpzmarcelfranca6825]

@@Mercury-ok8ie um BR? Que surpresa agradável

[@claratalbot7613]

As someone who is into BDSM I have never ever known a person to enjoy being ordered around like a dog before, during, and after play. I find it disturbing that the advice that guys like these "alpha males" is all about purely dominating their partners but without respecting them as a person. We as a society should normalize people being themselves & that being awkward or nervous is okay especially the first few times regardless of if the intimacy involves sex or not

[@claratalbot7613]

​@cheshiresmith1600 Absolutely. Some people like to be bottoms or tops, while others like to switch it up. It depends on a person's preferences not their sex, gender identity, or perceived gender

[@LindseyDean-hp7qg]

Glad you speak out on this cause there is one a$$hole who like to promote that women like being str@ngled.....like really? How is YT allowing these sickos to promote this crap in met00 era?

[@bottomofastairwell]

right? like sure, tell me what to do, that's great, but that's during the play session. not before. playing is one thing, but treating me like i'm not a person? uh, no. bet these type of dudes have never even HEARD of aftercare either

[@claratalbot7613]

@bottomofastairwell Probably not. I get the impression they like the aesthetic of the dom/sub play, but they don't actually understand that it's between consenting parties that respect & care for each other as people. Plus, even during play, when commanding others, it is still often done in a respectful way. Sure, manners such as please & thank you may not be in play, but it's often done in a playful or fun way not in this kind of dehumanizing manner. And, even if the commanding is done in a semi dehumanizing manner, it is being done in a safe environment where a single word or phrase ends it & aftercare is immediately done after any kind of play to ensure that everyone involved is physically, mentally, & emotionally okay

[@bottomofastairwell]

@@claratalbot7613 yeah, i think they really like the domination aspect of it, but don't give a single fuck about consent, boundaries, the nuances of CONSENSUAL power exchange or how that's FAR more involved than just ordering a woman to get on her knees, etc. they don't care to do the work to make sure that play or scenes are done correctly so that they're fun for all parties involved and not dehumanizing or traumatizing, and they damn sure don't care about aftercare or the constant checking in with your partner to make sure that they're actually comfortable within the bounds of the play/scene. in reality, these dudes just want an excuse to dominate and subjugate women, and they think they can use kink as an excuse to do that and get away with it scott free. same energy as people who say the most vile shit and then go: "damn, it was just a joke"

[@ronwisegamgee]

If someone who has "lots of sexual experience" presents overgeneralizations like "all women are basically the same," they are liars and/or haven't been paying attention during their sexual encounters (much to the chagrin of the women involved). Each woman is a different person; you can't peg a woman down based on some census data point or astrological mumbo-jumbo. Also, as Mickey pointed out, each encounter is unique, so what she may like today may not be what she likes the next day. Just talk things out like adults.

[@bottomofastairwell]

i have LOTS of sexual experience. and yeah, the fact is, that everyone likes and needs different things. there's some common through lines sure, but each individual person will have their own specific ways of enjoying themselves. and any decent partner will recognize that and make an effort to learn what works for YOU.

[@jnl3564]

The men in this video aren't having sex. And if they are it's quick and she's not getting pleasure out of it.

[@QUEERVEEART]

ive sucked many a d and everyone likes something different. i have been with people of all genders, every experience is unique

[@berrymint6384]

Fun fact that IS the same in ALL OF US. We do NOT like pain, we do not want to die, we need respect, we need love. If you lack respect towards others then do not expect mutual attraction.

[@material-cheshirekhatter2413]

Astrology isn't mumbo jumbo, pop astrology is.

[@mariearteaga3056]

Calling a woman a "female" is the biggest red flag. Regardless if the one saying it is male or female presenting, women say it too. It's gross. RUN FROM THESE PEOPLE! WE ALL DESERVE BETTER!

[@darklion2]

No, there are people who use it right. But like 90% of people who say that are in the manosphere or smt. The 10% has just heard females and males more than woman and man which is why they use female or male more.

[@emmafischell622]

​@@darklion2I have also (anecdotally) found that neurodivergent people are more likely to use "females" innocently

[@Blamcomacncheese]

I'm a woman and very often say "male" or "female" but I attribute that to my time in the military; it's just ingrained at this point and is no different than me talking about the weather. I see no red flag when the words are not spoken out of malice.

[@thomasakagi7545]

@@Blamcomacncheese "...when the words are not spoken out of malice" So, none of the men in the video, then.

[@adir6094]

@@Blamcomacncheese within the context of military it isn’t too bad because the military isn’t a place where the individual as a character and a person is emphasized. Not saying character and individuality isn’t important in the military, but it’s not as focused upon as it is in the dating scene. When u date someone u pay attention to the person as an amalgamation of their life experiences and a character as a whole and not their biological sex. That’s why it’s way creepier when men like those in the video say ‘females’ when talking about regular life things.

[@ileezamotherofrain4537]

I am annoyed by people who think all fem-presenting people who like men are interested in being submissive.

[@raed3240]

And conversely the attitude that any kind of sexually submissive man is gay or effeminate or not a real man

[@astrohitter1791]

"Fem -presenting people" and "men". Okay i found something worse than "females" and "men"

[@nanomia]

@@astrohitter1791why you say "fem-presenting" to mean women but then refer to men as ....men? it's even worse than female get it together

[@LoL-mn6dw]

Literally… These people never see the irony of it. Men always get to just be men

[@kermitthefrog5446]

@@astrohitter1791 what are you talking about

[@smp6565]

Never got the "negging" (?) thing. As a woman, the number 1 turnoff that will make me and any woman I know instantly lose attraction is meanness. Backhanded compliments, mean "teasing" etc, machismo.. It's soooo icky and just reeks of insecure little boy 😬

[@FireSilver25]

THIS!!!! Deal breaker right there.

[@audhumbla6927]

It only works on traumatized women who have never really known a safe connection or been protected or respected. Thats whats so dark.

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

I instantly loose attraction if someone treats me like that lmao I'm out the door like bye

[@ErisIsAnAbomination]

This exactly. Why the hell would I want to get intimate with someone who makes me feel unwanted and bad about myself???

[@Anna-bo5dk]

gets me very aggressive in a very short amount of time actually, and normally I am never aggressive

[@karinwahlrab3377]

also I hate how many men think of it as “women letting them have sex” NOT a mutually pleasurable experience that people are enjoying together. not all women want to have sex but plenty do want and enjoy it as well.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

I would never touch any of these men

[@elleofhearts8471]

right? it's language that colors afabs as THE gatekeepers of sex who may or may not be using access to their own bodies in cunning and machavalian ways to achieve some material end. Like they make it seems like sex is a prize you get for winning some sort of psychological game. Aka gamifying sex or tricking women into having sex with you.

[@Nitra813]

Yes they think of sex as something done TO women as opposed to an activity enjoyed WITH women. Quite sad.

[@stampandscrap7494]

Because they want women who are virgins. So they think women are wrong for having sex, so they shouldn't want sex, so you need to take it, because they are worthless after they have given it to someone.

[@swanam_1]

THIS!

[@HermitDragon]

One of the most annoying thing about these men is if situations were reversed, they'd call the woman using these "tips and tricks" abusive, crazy, and probably some slurs. But when you point that out they go "well no, we don't like it because we're men! Only women like that stuff!" Like... No, honey, sweety, baby, it's not because of your gender difference, it's because that advise is crap and toxic and anyone on the receiving end of it would feel hurt. It does not take a genius to figure that out.

[@rosethorne9155]

It also doesn't take a genius to have empathy. These toxic men don't have any at all, though, which is why the thought never occurs to them. They somehow escaped kindergarten without learning the Golden Rule: Treat others how you want them to treat you.

[@acebase555]

As someone who had a lot of attachment wounds (I’m much better now), when men would try to play these games with me where they would seem unavailable (whether it was pretend or not) or try to make me feel insecure, I would just end things, because I couldn’t *stand* feeling insecure. I guess my point is these manosphere-manipulative behaviors don’t “work” on emotionally unhealthy people either.

[@jeromehenry4484]

It's specifically called "The Dread Game" and an indepth explanation can be found on The Rational Male Clips (Rollo Tomassi).

[@wolfrahmphosphoros5808]

no, You may well be psychologically damaged by whatever childhood-trauma, but in this case that You are describing your reaction was actually very healthy. -that's exactly what a healthy Person would do. if somebody is playing mind-games with You or deliberately making You feel insecure, it's a good indicator that You're dealing with a toxic person and what You SHOULD do is run fast and far. if Somebody is not playing mind-games but genuinely is emotionally unavailable, that is of course not his/her fault because it's due to childhood-trauma but such People are also not a good romantic-relationship-material and in this case You also SHOULD just bail out, otherwise You'd be setting Yourself up for a relationship full of [YOUR] suffering. regards.

[@amikkomoon5273]

I’m on the spectrum and struggle with object permanence so when guys pretend to be unavailable and don’t keep consistent communication I would actually forget they exist. The guy I’m with is confident enough to be straight forward and honest. I love him.

[@jeromehenry4484]

@@wolfrahmphosphoros5808 Excellent insights & advice.

[@acebase555]

@@wolfrahmphosphoros5808 I feel like you missed a large part of this - I would end any relationships when I felt insecure in them, which is not a healthy behavior, it just resulted in the best response to manipulative people. A lot of people think the avoidant attachment style is somehow better or healthier than the insecure one, but it isn’t, it’s just as dysfunctional and harmful in its own way. I’ve had to do a lot of work to have a healthy relationship, and I’m still working through it in a lot of ways. Also it does suck to have to go into detail about my psychological pain to have people take me seriously about my own experience. I know your intentions may have been good, but please reconsider that behavior in the future.

[@racheld6338]

As someone who's been married for 12 years, sex is 80% emotional connection and only 20% physical! Its a bridge to eachother.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

As someone who is single but has found an amazing lover, I second that ! The chemistry is what makes the whole difference

[@CrankyB1tsch]

That's just your experience tho it's not the same for everyone

[@idlikemoreprivacy9716]

True, and it's the emotional connection what feels great and is so unique.

[@marlyd]

Fingering people's open emotional wounds really sounds absolutely as gross as it is 😅

[@JemRochelle]

The silly, knowing-smile moments of sex are honestly my favorite. Sex is about intimacy (at least for me), and silliness just feels very intimate to me! My partner and I have a lot of silly sex moments that involve pushing the cat off the bed when she starts trying to get involved 😹

[@elleofhearts8471]

right? like if you cant laugh with your bedfellow, what are you even doing?

[@JemRochelle]

@@elleofhearts8471 yes! Also "bedfellow" is a great word

[@bottomofastairwell]

maybe TMI here, but i remember the first time i hooked up with this guy, who had been a long time friend and flirt buddy, all long distance. we FINALLY got to see each other (and were both free to do wahtever) and were driving a long way back to his place, and didn't wanna wait. so naturally, we pull into a rest stop to get it on. but the backseat is too cramped, so we decide, hell with it, it's 3 am, might as well take this outside, it's nice summer weather anyway. so i toss my flip flops on, and he's stretching, no clothes, flag pole out, when a car pulls into the rest stop, headlights shines RIGHT on us. car whips around, like as fast as they safely could and peel out of the rest stop. and like, yeah, i feel kinda bad for potentially traumatizing whoever was in that car with the sight of us. but it's still the FUNNIEST shit in the world to me. couldn't even finish after that cuz we were both laughing so hard for ages. and even though it was all kinds of messy and rushed and weird and stupid, it's still my favorite first time with anyone, simply because of the hilarity and foolishness. everything went wrong, but that was somehow MORE special than if it hadn't. i guess my point is that, yeah, the silly moments and the foolishness and fun of it all are some of the best parts. yeah, it feels good, but so does genuinely laughing with your partner, and not having to constantly worry about how you look/sound/move, etc, because you know that you'll both just laugh it off and enjoy the moment

[@RainingRedPandas]

​@@bottomofastairwell i adore that story 😂

[@kattodoggo3868]

​@@bottomofastairwellcmon we were stopped by airport security . Someone call them that a car is driving in the bushes OUTSIDER gate. 😂 Gosh that was so embarrassing when they knocked on the foggy Windows 😂 hahaha

[@brimbobaggins]

I’ve had my urethra injured several separate times, by different people, via the “jam your hand in and wave it around” technique. Definitely do not recommend going in un(b)educated on that one.

[@yoachim91]

Wtf are you people doing..... Several....You are not suppose to do the bs you see online...Was that what you wanted?... that's crazy that they damaged your organs... I get to play a lot and i never damaged anything... Say no, put up reasonable bounderies. Can't believe i have to say this on youtube...

[@wolvie1618]

Ow! I've had to tell my partner to be careful because it can hurt, but he actually listens and I've never had it get worse than that, that must be rough and really frustrating

[@Milkythefawn]

I know what you mean. It’s the knuckles 😭

[@berrymint6384]

That needs more coution. Women are NOT sex dolls(nobody is)

[@berrymint6384]

@@wolvie1618 Same here. This is the horrible effect of porn and lack of education about the sex topic.

[@sojabursche]

My baby niece says “helloooo?” In the same offended way you do when she comes across something she doesn’t like 😂 we don’t know where she picked it up she’s been doing it since she was like 2, she is now 9.

[@Rosierose902]

That’s so cute 😂😂😂. I need to try this instead of cursing lol

[@d.e.a.r.everyone]

TW: SA, coercion, mental health trauma, I went a long time not knowing I was autistic and it took a long time to get diagnosed. Due to social anxiety, struggles with communication and my general upbringing, verbally advocating and articulating was already difficult. And even if when I did…I have been ignored. I know a lot of women can relate with this but I’ve read that autistic women are especially vulnerable to this kind of predatory behavior from men. Education is our friend! I don’t fall for this abusive bullshit anymore and easily rip apart any argument based on misogynistic, pseudoscience, twisted “logic” , male entitlement nonsense.

[@Asenueh]

Speaking as an autistic woman, THIS. all. day.

[@thesingerintheshower]

I relate!

[@luciskies]

I’m a late diagnosed autistic femme and I unfortunately went through the same shit. I am shocked at how no one mentioned anything about consent and coercion growing up. I was also so scared of hurting ppl’s feelings or “causing a scene”, which means that I ended up being the one getting hurt. I believe the statistic is like 9/10 autistic women experience some form of SA.

[@JS-dv9ji]

This right here. I said NO, multiple times. I told him what I wanted to do and what I did NOT want to do. It didn't matter. He knew that in the moment, I would freeze and he would get what he wanted. He knew I was freshly out of purity culture too, and completely took advantage of that.

[@thesingerintheshower]

@@JS-dv9ji 💙

[@SakuraSamael]

My boyfriend came from an abusive relationship before he met me, and I definitely had to "re-educate" him on some of his learned behaviors. I had very little sexual experience prior to him (and never had a boyfriend/date), so I was giggly and smiling the first few times we were together. He found that off-putting and thought I was laughing at him specifically rather than just being amused at the awkwardness, accepting my insecurity, and just trying to have a good time. In his eyes, sex was supposed to be a deep, intimate act, and while I enjoy those times, too, sometimes I just want to have a fun romp with the guy I love. Thankfully, he's taken so many steps beyond that and has grown a lot as a person, and now he laughs along with me and doesn't take it so seriously all the time.

[@May-qb3vx]

I feel this. I would laugh or chuckle during making out or sex because I felt so full of happiness that it came out as a laugh. But he thought I was laughing at him or not taking the moment seriously but really it was the complete opposite.

[@herahagstoz6934]

You are so lucky he was open to change

[@jojov5344]

See I genuinely think a lot of these men get burned once and don’t properly unpack that experience and it just festers. Like a lot of the “dating advice” is either a flat out grift or they got burned and are now bitter

[@joshuajohnson5337]

@@jojov5344 Makes it worse when after getting burned, they get blamed for it and have no way of venting or externalizing without the risk of being labeled a misogynist or incel

[@astrohitter1791]

​@@joshuajohnson5337They get burned by one woman (maybe we havent heard her side) and take it out on all women and even little girls. Its sick

[@min_tea_]

Squirting is not an orgasm. They are totally different sensations.

[@lilycollegemythbusters5532]

Squirting could also leave someone feeling very unsatisfied!

[@karlagonzalvez4703]

I know I'm embarrassing myself by saying this but I've squirted at the same time I felt an orgasm so that was really confusing for me loll I thought it was like this top tier orgasm I feel so dumb right now not knowing wtf

[@lilycollegemythbusters5532]

@@karlagonzalvez4703 We are all different when it comes to our anatomy, just look at people's feet! We all have different length toes and the shape size and form are all different. I just know that for some men, getting a squirt is all they seek and that is not always the most satisfying for some.

[@min_tea_]

@@karlagonzalvez4703 some people can experience an orgasm while they squirt, but I have only ever experienced squirting and orgasm separately. Usually it takes a bit of work for me to squirt so I will experience an orgasm in the work up to squirting. My anatomy is also such that I only experience orgasm with direct outer stimulation.

[@xejelah]

@@karlagonzalvez4703 maybe it was. Just because not every woman experiences that doesn't mean that it wasn't what you experienced. I didn't even know what a clit was until AFTER I was divorced. The act of sex was taught in school, but not pleasure.

[@hernameisch3rry]

I was assaulted as a result of these videos. I had been seeing a ‘sweet’ guy. The topic of body count came up and at the time I had been with more people than him. It upset him a lot. The next time he saw me he was very forceful, ignoring me telling him no and saying ‘who said you could close your legs?’ After I kicked him out and he texted me profusely apologizing for feeling ‘rapey’. He said that because I was more ‘experienced’ he had been looking at sex tips. I didn’t want or need any of the forcefulness. And police said that it was just a misunderstanding bc he apologized.

[@D3niz05]

I am so sorry :( Hope you are better now. Just because he apologized doesnt mean trauma goes away. Some people may like this "treatment" but its %10000 better to talk about what you want before you actually do it.

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

If a guy asked me that question he would be getting kicked in the balls

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

The police said that to you? And they wonder why people are losing faith in them.

[@tracy-eire]

Why not just have the guts to be nervous? I could respect that. It's slow burn stuff. No, instead, he decides being assaultive is hot?

[@hernameisch3rry]

@@UnashamedCaliforniagirl yep - said it would ruin my life - and his - and that I would just retraumatize myself by pressing charges. I was too upset in the moment to think clearly. Now I have a lot of guilt wondering if he’s done the same to anyone else - at least there’s a report on file.

[@AetherNightmare]

For anyone who needs to reset their algorithm, you can delete your view history and search history, and it'll reset the algorithm to read off your existing Likes instead. You can also hit the little three dots next to a video icon and tell it "Don't Recommend Channel" (basically soft-bans the channel from your personal home page), or "Not Interested" to reduce certain types of content (not as affective, but still an option).

[@Fingerscrossedout]

Could I please do this with Instagram. I only get relationship shit and narcissist shit I just want to see cute animals 😅

[@clownRatcity]

@@Fingerscrossedoutat least on reels there’s a little button (forgot what it looks like but it’s somewhere on the side where the like button is) and you can choose from a variety of go away reasons

[@ST-yc7uj]

That's what I do when Tate pops up and I accidentally click on it. Videos of him are like literal virus infection.

[@jdprettynails]

That’s the thing, for these guys it isn’t about establishing a relationship it’s “Smash, onto the next” It’s all about fluffing the ego of fragile guys who think having a high body count equates to self worth. It’s honestly really sad.

[@DanceChickaDee]

And they the same ones crying later on in life when they can’t find a good women they want to settle down with.

[@Messy320]

And they are also the same men that don’t want a woman with a high body count. If all women decided to not have sex with these guys they would get upset. Like pick and choose your battle 😂

[@07Flash11MRC]

Well, those guys should go find a man then, since they don't care or even like women..

[@Roman_Adrian]

These losers are ALWAYS in a car 😂😂😂😂 Hiding to where a woman can't hear it live 🤣

[@zpurplex]

Love the zero fucks energy you brought to this video! Also I find it funny when men are scared women will be gold diggers because it's usually the same men who will happily let her do all the mental, emotional and household labour in the relationship.

[@marlyd]

Also show up with zero personality on a date and lead with nothing but what they own and can afford. Instantly over it.

[@zpurplex]

@@marlyd the confidence of a mediocre man 💀

[@xejelah]

THe men who are afraid of goldiggers are the same ones advertising themselves as a human atm machine.

[@zpurplex]

​@@xejelah such a paradox 😂

[@erviatangerine5108]

​@@xejelah Or those who have literally no gold to dig 😂

[@claratalbot7613]

7:57 These are not "dating tips." If anything, they are tips on how to manipulate & treat someone like garbage. They are not tips you want to follow if you want to have any kind of healthy relationship with other people regardless if that relationship is familial, platonic, romantic, sexual, etc. Also, slight side note: Anyone who ever says things like "woman don't like nice guys" or "nice guys finish last" are not nice people. They tend to think being nice equals them being owed a reward (usually a date or sex) when being nice is doing something for others regardless of if you're rewarded or not. Actual nice people do things for others because they want to help them not become they might get a reward for it or to look good to others

[@angelacrabtree2847]

A lot of these creeps think that you should be obligated to go on a date if they talk to you and you should be obligated to have sex with them if they take you on a date.

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

Video 2. As Hannah Alonzo says: "No" is a full sentence.

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

I love her channel!

[@TeagueisTrash]

“Daddy’s little girl” yeah you gotta be locked up for that

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

It's creepy as hell when this turns people on like eww

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

It's creepy as hell when men get turned on by this crap

[@KenotheWolf]

Yeah i feel like the other party should be asked if they want to hear stuff like that 😂

[@The_Leftysaurus]

Gotto love this second dude telling on himself SO BAD Oh women never mean what they say, oh they don't really love you... coupled with : ignore them, be careless around them, don't commit blablabla... Geeh I wonder why he has experiences where communication confuses him and he doesn't get genuine emotion from his partners.... It's a real mystery.

[@rosethorne9155]

It would almost be funny. But those types of toxic dudes are never self-aware enough to realize that not everybody thinks, feels, and acts the way they do.

[@goblin3359]

There's something to be said about nervousness and role-playing withing D/S relationships and kink encounters, being dominant in a consensual encounter is often difficult - you're taking on a lot of responsibility for someone else's sexual safety and boundaries. But he's not talking about that. He's not talking about a negotiation process where boundaries and pleasure are communicated - he's talking about how to put on a mask of toxic domination in order to obfuscate your own feelings of vulnerability.

[@sojabursche]

“I want to go home” I say 2,5 minutes into this video while I am already home. 😂

[@luluzin5022]

It is very important to pay attention to how people word their sentences. "She's going to *let* you have sex with her" (29:21) is very different from "she's going to *want* to have sex with you". One understands that women are human beings with their own desires and sexual interests, while the other implies women view sex as something to be exchanged for things that they want.

[@Foxesheart]

The way they talk about women like we’re animals 🧍‍♀

[@BlackRaven000]

Worse. Appliances.

[@potatosmileyfries]

fr

[@MisoMow]

I mean we are? like I get what you mean but I'm an animal bio nerd so.... technically, I think Black Raven put it well.

[@Foxesheart]

@@MisoMow Definitely agree, I just meant it in the way where they seem to refer to us as if we’re a completely foreign species. Like, unfeeling.

[@MisoMow]

@@Foxesheart ik right? like we aint dolls. They do treat us like a foreign lesser species

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

Sex is not a math equation or a science experiment. I went to college for chemistry and chemical engineering where it's popular to view it as one.

[@MegaeffinGarchomp17]

Hi Mickey. Cis het man here. I love your videos and have learned so much since finding your channel. Having to unlearn so much toxic masculinity is challenging, and sadly, many men (and women) cling to the same old norms that cause us harm. Thank you for sharing a more positive perspective. It definitely helps sp many of us who grew up learning toxic manosphere garbage ❤

[@rutasudmantaite9751]

I just feel bad for that second guy. Like he genuinely believes that a woman can’t love him… dang.

[@davidlopez-ji4ki]

His mom probably didn't love him growing up

[@07Flash11MRC]

@david : Lol, always trying to blame women when men do bad things.

[@BlackRaven000]

It's because he's projecting. All he knows to do is manipulate women who sees as objects, so in his head, why would a woman love him?

[@KarmaCifer]

Even if we see their advice not aimed to normal relationships but to BDSM dominant-submissive dynamics, they would be awful doms. Insecurity is the worst base for acting dominant, because you take everything personal and are more likely to ignore signs and safety. Domination dynamics require security, confidence, communication, boundaries, consent, flexibility and empathy.

[@SethClemons-o7z]

I'm a middle-aged man and very confident in myself, but would never use terms like "alpha male". In my experience, dominant sexual play never felt demeaning. There is something very freeing about letting someone you trust take complete control of the sexual experience. This has been my experience: 1. Establish connection: If she doesn't believe you're a decent person with a solid understanding of boundaries and consequences, she will be rightfully hesitant to "hand over control". 2. Always ask permission before taking control of the experience. It let's them know your intention and gives them an opportunity to decide if this is the mood they want. Never emotionally punish someone for saying no. 3. Really focus on the experience of the other person. Watch their rate of breathing... facial expressions... moans... Change pacing to see how they respond. Change the intensity of touch. Try using different words or roleplay to see if there is imagery that particularly stimulates their mind. 4. Look for and avoid sexual land mines. I've had some women who absolutely love the use of certain terms. One loved it if I said I enjoyed her body like a toy. She wanted me to say it over and over. Another woman didn't like it. We each have our own experiences and triggers. I never argue. As soon as I know something works or should be avoided, I incorporate immediately and move on. 5. After the experience, it is enjoyable to reflect on what parts were best received and if there was anything that distracted from the enjoyment. 6. Take turns. I enjoy being dominant, but about 10% of the time it is fun to let her be the one to dictate and control the experience. If she always wanted to be the dominant one, that would mean we are probably not the best match, but there is nothing wrong with wanting that. Anyway... thats my experience! :D

[@joshuajohnson5337]

Step one : Establish of Connection That is already a hard reach buddy

[@SethClemons-o7z]

@@joshuajohnson5337 haha... in America... yes it is

[@Laceration_Gravityyy]

@@joshuajohnson5337It’s part of every relationship, sorry dude

[@ldalexandrite]

I’m a woman in my 20s. In my day to day life I tend to be bossy and agressive, as if aggression is the default setting for me. Despite that, I personally adore the idea of a man who is not afraid of me and would take complete control, but I am super inexperienced to pinpoint exactly what I want. Reading your experiences, your way of sensual dominance and being rough n tough while having delicate consideration were actually eye opening for me. It made me think about what I enjoy and what I expect from my partner. Because respectfully, sir, all of this sounds like a sweeeeet time. Thank you for sharing it

[@schmidt188]

​​@@ldalexandrite Your paragraph made me cringe. You're like the epitome of what "alpha males" describe as women.

[@raeannewebb2499]

My husband used to follow similar advice to the second guy and he almost lost our relationship until I found out where he was getting advice from and helped him realize that communication is more important then following other people's advice. This stuff could have hurt a really solid relationship if we didn't figure it out.

[@andreaslind6338]

What you say is true, but it confuses the long term phase of a relationship with the initial attraction phase. The red pill stuff is meant for the initial phase only. What many women ignore when giving men dating advice is that every ltr had to start as an initial attraction, and that initial attraction is quite easy for women, but very difficult for most men. I lived it, being nice, respectful and genuine did not work fir me until i had built a good amount of muscle and gotten a "beach body", THEN women saw my personality, then i had multiple options to chose from and could find one good one to connect with. Unfortunately women are shallower than they realise, or want to accept. We all want to be loved, but guys need a certain amount of game/looks to be given a chance at love. That's what red pill videos are.

[@moonshadow1795]

​@andreaslind6338 i mean- my man- this is true for EVERYONE. Even women have to have a certain amount of "looks".

[@andreaslind6338]

@@moonshadow1795 as i said, women cannot acknowledge how shallow they are. My woman - why does the narrative always have to focus back on women? Can't the left accept that men have it hard too without trivialising or ridiculing us? Everyone has it hard, understanding and alleviating the struggles of just one gender will never bring about equality.

[@andreaslind6338]

@@moonshadow1795 Sure, but the rhetoric is very different for us, with women it's "you're a 10, body positivity" for guys it's "do better, nobody owes you anything"

[@EGarza-mk2mk]

​@@andreaslind6338 redpill is for never bro. All it does it makes you feel entitled and awkward around women because it creates this us vs them dynamic

[@jellosapiens7261]

So much of this bad sex advice is just dudes BADLY misunderstanding kink dynamics... A lot of the horrible stuff that these guys tell men to say/do in bed is stuff that would be quite commonplace as part of a pre-negotiated, mutually consensual kink dynamic, but the consent and negotiation is the KEY difference.

[@aubreylundgren]

The second tiktok was honestly so difficult to hear. A guy I was stuck with for 4 years starting at the age of 15 thought exactly like this and would consume this type of content, and him and his friends all thought treating women this way was acceptable, and even funny watching women being hurt after facing the emotional ab*se they'd put them through. It was sick. It honestly ruined my dating experience as a teen and traumatized me. It took a long time to understand I was being emotionally ab*sed and to get the help I needed to leave. I'm heartbroken that me and so many women+girls suffer at the hands of men like this. As always thank you for your commentary Mickey!!

[@claregallacher2684]

'Keep your options open bro!' Same men: 'wOmeN aRen'T lOyaL anYmOre!' 🤦‍♀️

[@jøy_what_riley_loves_the_most]

men being dicks doesn't justify women cheating. ideally, they would just break up

[@Show_me_your_teeth]

Exactly lol they expect loyalty but they don’t give it back

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

Men were never loyal in the first place

[@puppydogtails87]

I sometimes use the word "female" as a woman because of the military (just to note men were males as well). I read a comment though that said something like "if you're using the word female like a ferengi, you're using it wrong" and I thought that was a great distinction.

[@jeremiekervella8860]

they're always talking about sex like they are taking something from the woman that she doesn't want to give, like they are the one having fun and she's letting them and giving up something

[@hurtingfeelingsdaily]

Thank you for talking about squirting. I'm old enough to remember when men found it absolutely disgusting and would talk trash on women who did it. Now that it's all in pron...now every man wants you to squirt 🙄🙄 I'm so over them trying to use these shortcuts. Listen to your partner, not social media

[@Raddiebaddie]

You have to make a fake account for viewing of horrendous content so you dont mess up ur FYP 😂

[@justvibinginouterdarkness]

They need a NotMickeyAtkins account for the research they do on these RANCID topics

[@insertwittyprofilenamehere]

I absolutely love what u said about normalizing silliness and awkwardness during sex. Some of my fav memories of intimacy with my husband are times that something happened that made us both burst out laughing mid act. It relieved any awkwardness because we were both able to literally laugh it off, and I feel like it strengthens our bond by reminding both of us that we're just humans and we don't have to always be perfect.

[@VampiraVonGhoulscout]

The second guy 's "advice" about women saying one thing and want the opposite is so fucking dangerous in a certain context because some scumbag is gonna take that and turn her "I don't want to" into a fucking crime scene. This is terrifying.

[@rifflinthemind.5793]

I'll say from my personal exp is that it's possible to have a kinky bdsm relationship with longevity - and not have to begin doing this kind of serious humiliation dominance play immediately. Even kinky people who enjoy power play can do so gradually, with mutual safety, silliness, affection etc. The intensity of transgressive play doesn't always correspond with the attraction people feel toward each other, going in like the One Twue Dom isn't giving anyone the advantage. A kink relationship can be built over time, it doesn't have to be rushed.

[@FrizzKid05]

That 2nd guy is definitely one of the 'no means yes' types. He also had 'lead with your intentions' and 'always be talking to women on the side' in the same list. Those don't fit together.

[@rosethorne9155]

Right?! Toxic men operate on levels of cognitive dissonance that would absolutely fry anybody else's brain. 🤯

[@dorolicious]

Second guy like: "Treat her like shit!" and "women can't love you!" .... Well, if you treat them like shit, it's no surprise bro! 👀😅

[@mommar4858]

Several people I dated, when I was young talked about how their side gig was about to hit big. My young husband started talking like that after we were married. I realized this pattern and wondered if they felt like they weren't already good enough. Felt like they needed to put a carrot in front of their partners to keep their interest. This is also anxiety in relationships, attachment.

[@joshuajohnson5337]

Yes, those men probably do feel like they were not good enough, because they had those insecurities in their heads, and women in their life validated those insecuirties. If you meet a man who is insecure about money and women, A woman caused that to happen.

[@mommar4858]

@joshuajohnson5337 @joshuajohnson5337 Society puts an unfair expectation on men to take care of everything financially. And yes indeed that societal, patriarchal belief does not help anyone. Neither does blame ✌️

[@joshuajohnson5337]

@@mommar4858 If women are the ones telling men to not try to date them if they deem these men "broke", then they are the ones to blame. Since women can make their own money and support themselves, they have less of a justifiable reason to put a price tag on the kind and respectable men they claim to want to date. I know that holding women accountable doesn't feel good and may come off as hateful, but women being unwilling to change with men will not solve the problem.

[@mommar4858]

@@joshuajohnson5337 How's that though serving you?

[@joshuajohnson5337]

@@mommar4858 It is serving me well. I have enough self respect to advocate for myself when I am being threatened or disrespected. I know not to tolerate being mistreated by someone with a sense of entitlement that could be be dangerous to me. It can help you to if you use it well.

[@ericapierson-way213]

Lmfao, im so sick of redpillers. I have never once chosen a man over potential money.

[@katrinam6795]

This. Half of the couples I know well has the woman earning more than the Man. I wonder what kind of Supernatural game the cismen in these relationships have. /s

[@TheDriftingsmoke]

Isn't that exactly what redpillers say modern women do? Choose money over love? 😬

[@gunshitknife]

​@@TheDriftingsmokeAre you confused?

[@Reddazrael]

@@TheDriftingsmoke No. They're saying that women would choose MEN WITH MONEY over love, not that women would choose personal financial success over a relationship, because in their world, the only thing women care about is a meal ticket and would never DREAM of having a career if they could leech off a man instead.

[@HEXCD4D04]

​@@TheDriftingsmokeThey say women choose money over relationships, while also claiming that women are golddiggers who only want men who make 6 figures. It's a lose/lose

[@alessandrastachowiak5294]

There is this attitude of leaving them wanting more because if you don't, the woman will leave. So instead of leaving someone satisfied and secure, they use deprivation, thinking it will leave them desperate for more attention. It creates a self-fulfilling prophecy because no one wants a partner they can't count on. And if these men were secure in themselves, they wouldn't be a bottomless pit for endless women in order to feed their ego.

[@sanchisan6997]

It makes me sad that he says love is not real. All that tells me is that he feels like no one loves him. That's sad. He needs to see a therapist.

[@willowmoon5063]

I seriously don't get men like this who think that abusing women especially their partner sexually is ok. Wtf! STOP!

[@SableRain]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for making such a supportive and safe space for people with attachment wounds.

[@TrthBHld]

They're teaching abuse, yes! Domestic violent people get arrested, but what about those who teach it and abuse???

[@angiep2229]

It absolutely enrages me when people act like I mean something other than what I'm saying. Okay, the guy with the squirting advice. I have a theory, and it's not great. Since not everybody squirts (and there's also still debate as to whether or not that's actually urine?). I wonder if this guy wiggling his hand around is actually putting pressure against a woman's bladder, forcing her to pee, and he thinks it's an orgasm.

[@xoPotatoTreexo]

Honestly, I'd probably pee on him just to get him to stop smashing my buttons like that 😂

[@powderandpaint14]

Women who have talked about it happening say that it's not urine (and it's pretty easy to tell apparently by the smell, but I can't say I have any experience of that!)

[@angiep2229]

@@powderandpaint14 Same here. I've seen so much argument in both directions. This just seems like something I can imagine some "alpha male" causing and not realizing it.

[@wolvie1618]

It is different, but we don't know (and frankly I doubt) that those are true squirters and not just women trying to force it to get an uncomfortable or even painful experience to stop.

[@HEXCD4D04]

Squirting happens because liquid created by the Skenes Gland builds up in the urethra during stimulation. Women who don't squirt probably just pee this liquid out afterwards or don't create enough of it to be noticable. This liquid can contain trace amounts of urine when analyzed due to it coming out of the urethra which previously contained urine (just like a mans semen can contain trace amounts of urine from his urethra). In porn, especially when it's done repeatedly or with huge amounts of liquid, it usually is just the woman pretending to squirt by peeing, because unlike what some of these males believe it's actually not possible to just squirt on command (or at all, for probably the majority of women). Also, not every woman is actually having an orgasm just because they squirt. Orgasming and squirting are 2 different things which can happen at the same time but also separately.

[@Liz-wz8dh]

It's a shame that all this bad advice from social media is going to create a generation of single men who don't want to be single. Lots of women are going to be single as well but will be fine with it because at least they don't have to be with these men.

[@natyc19]

So my one professor is like an actual sexologist in my sexuality I had and let me tell you, guys LOVE to apply one piece of advice to all AFAB people. She was like WHO IS TELLING YOU THIS? I NEED A SOURCE PLS

[@suspiciousplatypusmoth]

I’m assuming you meant class?💀 /j

[@natyc19]

@@suspiciousplatypusmoth i did. I just have bad typing skills

[@Alex_Is_Not_Here]

So ur teacher is a woman, and the bois were like just saying that one piece of advise, and ur teacher was like "tf? Sources?" Or how its that going, im a lil confused😹

[@natyc19]

@Alex_Is_Not_Here yes but no. She is a woman and she said guys love to apply one piece of advice to people with vaginas specifically when it comes to sex.

[@elizaandreadaki9942]

What is AFAB?

[@trashketchum9782]

8:54 I feel like when women say they don’t like “nice guys”, as in guys who say they’re nice but are actually entitled and awful, men assume that women don’t like men who are kind. or they assume that women actively like men who aren’t kind to them, when typically those men present themselves as nice in the beginning before they start acting mean or abusive. women do like genuinely nice guys. being nice or kind is not exactly enough to be appealing as a romantic partner, but it is certainly a quality that I think all people look for in a partner. if an unkind person finds a partner then it’s usually because of their other qualities, not the fact that they aren’t nice.

[@DanceChickaDee]

Good observation

[@nestorsifuentesaguirre2722]

@@DanceChickaDee In hindsight if one type of person deserves to be called a nice guy it would be a heavy metal musican

[@tdelioncourt1268]

Also to me it's men who go really out of their way to please you, almost love bombing. Like I want to be treated as an equal, not your princess, queen, godess (if a man calls me this, usually in the first date, automatic red flag). It's a dynamic I truly hate. My 😺 is not the holy graal, calm down! It feels very not genuine and a terrible base to build things on.

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

My partner is a genuine nice guy, my brother is one too and my male best friend. They are worth their weight in gold and there's a reason I have and love to surround myself with them instead of abusers lol. Healthy human beings want to feel happy, it's common sense I don't want to be together with an emotional abuser. And from time to time when there's trouble in my relationship and I feel myself treated unfairly, I don't fall at his feet and ask him to please continue do that, wtf! 😂 I distance myself and wait until we talk it out. Anyone who is healthy wouldn't deliberately want to be treated bad because it worsens your day lol

[@mackenziek1776]

I know you mean “assigned male/female at birth” when you said AM(F)AB but for some reason my brain always immediately thinks, “all males/females are bad” 😂

[@QUEERVEEART]

loooool thats hilarious. ACAB

[@lelduck6388]

ACAB (Assigned cop at birth)

[@oksanarose6879]

this made me laugh so damn loud

[@lelduck6388]

Assigned cop at birth

[@marieonishenko]

That dude saying your girls should want more time with you. You shouldn’t give her as much time as she wants. I would leave my partner if I didn’t have my emotional and social needs with my partner met. Like if this relationship is me asking constantly and things not changing I’m not sticking around.

[@Abcd-dz2bn]

Can we all agree that Micky has the best facial and body language reactions to things?? Like sometimes I’m looking back at my phone being like “Did you hear that girl”!

[@gnshuicho]

I got to 1:17 before my disgust overcame me and I can't watch this yet. My stomach is literally churning... (at the men, not you, Mickey).

[@cylyte2436]

For the Tiktok 37:12 is talking about, the advice doesn’t even make sense. The guy’s talking about how “oh women will say they want all these sweet things in a relationship and then when you do them they’ll want a break.” then his advice goes to “Im the one smashing behind the scenes with these tips.” Having sex alone isn’t a meaningful relationship. MAYBE this will work on some women looking for hookups but this is in no way viable for an actual partnership, which was talked about at the beginning of the TikTok.

[@a_gal2002]

I think it’s concerning that these men are more comfortable thinking that all women hate sex and it’s something you do to them instead of being happy, willing participants doing it with you.

[@lilycollegemythbusters5532]

27:07 so true! "Slapping the ass" is one where guys are so surprised that I say that is a big ":No". Uh, consent anyone????

[@willowmoon5063]

We need a serious sex Ed class for boys and men. This is sad.

[@junelaananke7138]

That first part of what you were saying about how sex is normalized made me think about something I've encountered a lot more as I've gotten older, that a lot of AMABs aren't actually dominant, but they think they have to be because they're tops. So many of them try to embody that role and just end up being bad at it because it's not what they're actually inclined towards. Not inhabiting your actual role and preference in a sexual setting can just make you worse, and other guys telling them "yeah, put on a show" and women just- expecting them to naturally BE dominant can prevent that growth.

[@deat3456w]

Hey cis man here, love all your videos and you're a big reason why I've been growing my plutonic relationships with others. Keep up the good work, some of us are listening 😂

[@TheDriftingsmoke]

Good luck, just know youre worth more than what you can provide, you have needs just like everyone else and there's nothing wrong with that

[@the_markoman]

So many of these guys immediately remind me of how people with anger issues will hurt others to avoid being hurt first. Finding a way to overcome heartbreak would help these men more than anything.

[@sojabursche]

29:14 my sisters ex boyfriend used to say those things.. he got involved in an mlm and is facing prison time. 😵‍💫

[@makssonsse]

As a man, you’re 100% right, I hope more men will see this video and realise how dangerous these guys can be to our social life !!!

[@VenusManTrap-777]

I think you mean "person with a penis" because that what she calls you...

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

19:14 if ego and bragging rights is why you want to make people come then like…. Why do you even want it? I thought the pleasure in making someone else come was THEIR pleasure and THEIR feelings??

[@UseYourVoices]

Did he say, “Who’s daddy’s little girl?”? WTF??? 🤮🤢

[@Crowcryptic]

That grossed me out sooo much 🤢

[@tj-s6328]

8:58 the second neg happens, I'm out. It leaves the guys flabbergasted every time 😂 I've been showing you nothing but love. That's my vibe. Then you going to turn around and neg ME?! I don't think so 😂😂😂😂

[@kendan06]

Trans guy here, trying my best to embody positive masculinity as a man now that im transitioning, but I often feel completely clueless when the kinds of people society wants me to learn from are... THESE men. This video inspired me to be more open with my partner about my sexual boundaries, so thanks.

[@oof2073]

as a trans guy you'll be able to understand women so well! slay

[@TuxedoMasc]

The last dude completely misunderstanding that she's not enjoying you talking about your business/hustle and it going well because she seeing a giant dollar sign everytime you talk - she's enjoying that you (seemingly) have a passion. The amount of times I've heard women talk about how attractive it is for someone to have something they are truly passionate about, literally innumerable. (I think the psychology around it is you are showing vulnerablility because you are showing you truly *care* about whatever thing it is and it helps to develop trust and intimacy.) One of the most attractive attributes by far. Dude is soo genuinely lost he's being blinded by insecurity.

[@user-wi3yx3gy2o]

The whole “females” thing , I think, because of where I heard it first, comes from the military, where “male soldiers” “female soldiers” etc were used commonly (this is about 20 years ago) to refer to service members when you wanted to specify sex (gender). I seemed to somehow seep into popular discourse as “females” and “males” after that, and then more exclusively to describe women dismissively (in a manner not to far from (“bitches”).

[@muscleandhate]

I am not sure it is about that as they generally seem to say 'female' and 'man'. As 'female' is an adjective rather than a noun i think it is more of a subconscious way to devalue/dehumanise women and make them seem lesser than men. Like how you can describe members of non-human species as 'female'. But you can't describe a male non-human as a 'man'.

[@eccentric_creampuff4983]

@@muscleandhatethis is a good point!

[@vtop1c]

...and that's why I made the conscious decision to stay away from dating, and stay celibate. Too many men with this sort of twisted outlook. I'd rather protect my peace and my personal space, than chase some emotionally undeveloped man-child who can't figure out that you should treat partners as PEOPLE.

[@SamuelMiller-lg1bh]

I have a theory pickup artists and dating roaches loved playing mind games in middle school and never grew up.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

They did weird shit as teens adults around them went "welp. Boys will be boys" and never took the opportunities to teach them better

[@SamuelMiller-lg1bh]

@@tdelioncourt1268 amen

[@SamuelMiller-lg1bh]

@@tdelioncourt1268 yes.

[@sojabursche]

There’s a German gynaecologist who was interviewed for a KZbin video that says the g spot doesn’t exist because she was never able to find it. Why is she telling on herself and her uneducatedness so confidently?? She is a doctor and spreads misinformation 😖😭

[@christafox13]

“However, it’s important to clarify that the G spot isn’t a distinct part of your anatomy. In a 2017 study, researchers attempted to find the G spot only to come up empty-handed. Instead of being a separate spot in your vagina, the G spot is part of your clitoral network.” Maybe that clears it up. How easy it is to find depends on each women, some women may find it incredibly difficult to locate or be unable to at all.

[@sojabursche]

@@christafox13 that it is part of the clitoris doesn’t change that it is there. She said specifically that there is nothing like a g spot. That it is a term so you don’t have to say “a spot where nerve endings of the clitoris are very close to the front wall of the vagina” doesn’t change it. Also not only women have that anatomy. Research on just how many nerve endings are in the topical part of the clitoris was only possible because of trans men who agreed to donating live tissue during gender affirming surgery.

[@bottomofastairwell]

i was under the impression that some women have a g-spot (ie, a spot where nerve endings cluster that can be stimulated internally) and some don't. not every woman can be stimulated that way. some can and some can't. but that's okay. we're all different, and it's about finding what works for each individual person

[@xejelah]

@@sojabursche Bummer for them - they gave away the best parts

[@xejelah]

@@bottomofastairwell Anatomy is anatomy. Women are born with a clitoris. I'd guess more so that it depends on how dense the skin/wall is over those nerve endings from that side.