Therapist has a Lonely Day by System of Down

Therapist analyes the lyrics of Lonely Day by System of a Down to discuss the epidemic of loneliness and the way the song describes overcoming it which is by naming it. When you don't name the emotion it can overcome you but when you state it you get the power to overcome it.
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[@blackerthanafrica445]

Daron really shows his vocal ability on the albums Mezmerize and Hypnotize

[@kernoleary1394]

the harmonies are so nuts on these albums

[@rjhorne1993]

I believe Darren wrote this song shortly after his brother died. You can really feel the desperation of trying to accept that in it.

[@Sarahlouisseize]

Loneliness is something I've always struggled with incredibly deeply. From being not understood to physically not being around people this song is such a raw interpretation of what it felt like to be lonely. The power of this song is the last line though. I'm so happy I'm here today cuz when I was thinking I was absolutely alone I didn't want to be around for myself but I stuck around for the others and it makes me better every day by owning who I am and confronting those issues rather than burying myself in my head to not deal with any form of stress good or bad.

[@flipclone]

Bob Seger - Turn the Page, if you really want a song about the loneliness of touring.

[@Mr12161969]

Love this song so much. SOAD is completely awesome. 😎🤘🏻🤘🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

[@tribblefluffer]

One of my favorite SOAD songs. Love when Daron sings, his voice is so unique and just pleasing to the ears. I could listen to him all day.

[@TheDarkNite08]

0:15 I was not expecting that lol 😂

[@CBananaW]

In a catalogue of songs with such complex and over the top lyrics the simplicity of this track really hits different, the vocal performance really gets a chance to shine. Such an effective song.

[@jaymose1146]

I used to feel this way a lot. But now I've found an overwhelming sense of relief and peace by being lonely. I now enjoy my own company and see this time to reflect and discover who I am and who I can choose to be. I worked inward to find this feeling but it's one that I will forever be grateful for.

[@aaronkubat1243]

I would suggest perhaps being alone is not always the same as lonliness

[@deletado12]

Thanks for the video. Queens of the stone age - the lost art of keeping a secret.

[@user-pp2un1cb4h]

You are so amazing. I love watching your channel. Love the face expression. That makes me laugh . Please keep doing what you do. You are helping a lot of us. Thank you for what you do and who you are. Shawn S

[@chrisoconnor7110]

System of a Down is a unique band in regards to mental health or healing, just something about them brings a unity, hope or a meaning on a deep level, thank you for exploring this music, I can say this has literally kept me alive multiple times

[@Trinity1976]

This is one of my favorites by them!

[@bob20011]

Yup big reason I watch reaction videos is because I do feel lonley or more so crave some social interaction. Im awarkward and have social anxiety so never talk to people outside of my coworkers and family. So watch a video like this I can at least have nostalgia from listening to SOAD and feel like youre a friend talking to me for 8 mins.

[@shawncocker9699]

Love this one 👍🏼👍🏼 I don’t recall, have you done Blue October Hate me? There is the original from 14 years ago-ish and a live one from a 10th anniversary show in Texas, both are pretty good.

[@flipclone]

great suggestion, I forget about this song and absolutely love when im reminded of it or randomly come across it.

[@stevengiannetti87]

@heartsupport I cannot explain in words how grateful I am for the content you provide and the perspective you give to the lyrics in all of your videos. I've been in a really rough spot emotionally due to relationship hardships for several months and your videos have made me feel understood and validated. Thank you for everything you do. Im still not 100%, but I know I'll get there.... some day

[@MrMattf727]

i've had many of these lonely days. i'm a veteran with TBI and PTSD and some physical disabilities. been medically retired since 2009. my marriage fell apart in 2019. been on my own since then. there are a lot of lonely days and really i am glad ive survived but some of my friends haven't. i just keep going day by day though

[@StevenPD]

Thanks for the analysis. I've been single for almost 20yrs. It wasn't until I faced my loneliness that I saw that I am not alone. Now I can sit with my loneliness and it doesn't faze me. The challenge now I find is to not forsaking what could be for that which is - lonely. Complacency calls. Resistance rises. Cheers from Canada!

[@crainseye8499]

I love this song so much…it really goes to show that you don’t always have to have a lot of lyrical depth in order to express immense emotions. Daron really pours his heart into every word he sings and it shows. and that guitar solo 🥹 (admittedly i’m not the most knowledgeable SOAD fan…can yall recommend any other songs of theirs that are similar in style to this?)

[@messinalyle4030]

A year ago I was feeling especially lonely. I'm grateful that my life circumstances allowed for a way that I was able to do something about it, to bring more connection into my life so that I didn't feel so lonely anymore. That isn't an option for everyone. I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm no longer where I've been, and I'm not giving up.

[@alvaro6522]

💪💪💪💪

[@jimbim9858]

Be strong, - you're not alone)

[@messinalyle4030]

@@jimbim9858 Thank you.

[@henrykosky3919]

I loved your reaction. Great interpretation. ❤

[@cactusjuice8277]

This song hits so hard. I've felt this way for a long time. I know it's majorly my own fault and I'm working on it. When you're in the void, you learn so much about everybody and most importantly yourself. Wanting to connect and at the same time wanting to stay away from most people.

[@ProkcaHavran]

Been a while since i heard this song but i still knew every word

[@xMtysx02]

Thank you, this song is helping me right now, hope you could check more Tool as well, like The Grudge or The Patient

[@MetalPagan]

I know the feeling of being in a crowded room full of friends and acquaintances and feeling completely alone. I spent decades feeling like that. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to overcome

[@mrstreetlife]

That is Los Angeles

[@glendaly3344]

Old school Hollywood I think.

[@betamax8629]

Downtown LA

[@gnarls5065]

​@@glendaly3344nope. Downtown LA 6th and Broadway

[@Qliphirot]

San Fernando Valley

[@lassemaja8382]

And it sure is on fire these days.

[@niteshade8546]

A window into the professional thought of “why” I enjoy is really fun.

[@felixmertens1083]

Now that there is a music video for it, I think you should check out surfacing. I am just a big fan of Slipknot and maybe this song has a strong and important meaning too. Great videos ❤

[@fluffpuckot]

Very very interesting. It sort of perfectly describes my feelings after the Tool show I went to. Lots of people, everyone there with friends, and me alone. Being home I don’t usually feel that alone, but oh my, after the concert I felt so lonely. It was a weird dichotomy between the ecstasy of the concert and the acute loneliness.

[@shellbell40]

I completely agree.i think that is why i gravitate to metal because it gives me an outlet to feel what is going on inside my head and release it. Please check out I Prevail, their lyrics are incredible. I feel like you will like them. They have really helped me through some things.

[@seasickviking]

Its all about embracing EVERY part of us, regardless of whether we like the feeling or not.

[@jacobsternig3580]

Definitely been in that stage of loneliness before many times. It can be rough and draining, or rewarding oand overcoming. It just depends on how your perspective of the moment is at that time.

[@kendogg1337]

The song is about loneliness obviously (and good catch noting that the band in the video are sitting near each other but not interacting and still lonely), but the backstory of the song is that Daron (the guitarist and 2nd vocals, though he sang lead on this song) wrote it about his brother who died and that was the loneliest day of his life. So I think above the general theme of loneliness is the theme of getting over a loved ones passing (which also helps to explain the fire in the video). And yes the harmonies between Daron and Serj are good on this song as is the harmony between Daron's guitar and Serj's keyboards in the bridge.

[@trecemundos]

They put a reference in their video to Wish you were here - Pink Floyd single cover image 1:12

[@ryantherudeone4214]

yup, being lonely is pure pain...and its the late nights that gets more painful

[@adamtarasievich1221]

Sometimes u can’t say you’re lonely because people will just say get over it or you’re around people all the time

[@ezzreacts9791]

Adema Giving In!! Pleaseee!!!

[@aaronkubat1243]

What you are saying about loneliness breaks my heart. My mother must have felt this for a long time before she died...i believe loneliness killed her and i feel like shit for it becasue i was only 3 hours away.

[@Z_TPI]

I may have the perfect song that plays into what heartsupport is all about. This song takes a not so "overt" jab at the mental health support phone lines, and therapists(not the good ones haha) in general. Specifically the ones who don't care, in it for the money, don't off proper help etc. Without spoiling too much, this song is a commentary on the inadequacy of various psychiatric help lines, and even therapists. Specifically, it is the story of a man that calls one of these lines hoping to get some advice on all his problems, mental and otherwise. He is spouting all the problems he has, making references to the various phrases and coping skills he has learned throughout therapy, all while the other end of the phone remains silent. There is even direct criticism towards psychiatrists made throughout the song, seen in lines such as “you were never one for confrontation, but now it lies all in your hands”. Dallas is saying that these people shouldn’t be trusted with a persons entire life when they can’t keep up with their own problems, much less deal with someone else’s. The man on the line becomes more and more frantic before the song ends with the click of an old phone being put back into the receiver. It is unclear what happens to the man, but we can assume it isn’t good based on how the monologue ends and the general message of the song. There is no video, but just pull up the lyrics as there are some screams. I know this track will hit differently as it taking a jab at the bad outliers in your profession.. Alexisonfire(pronounced Alexis on fire, not Alex is on fire hahaha) - Sharks and Danger

[@Zabiru-]

The loneliness epidemic is real and global, but more severe in industrialized 1st world countries. I've run into multiple people online who were either severely depressed (as in spoken or written directly to them) and one of them was even a veteran that just randomly began chatting with me out of nowhere when we ran by each-other in a game. I felt like absolute shit that I couldn't stay in touch with the guy (I have my own struggles which sometimes cause me to be unreliable), but he was severely lonely with his trauma. He had a family even, but no one to talk to. I should mention that this gentleman was from a European country with little to nothing resembling the VA in the US or elsewhere.

[@lnvasionProject]

You can check out for next video: *Filter - Where Do We Go From Here* I think you would love it 💯

[@Lostinterminals]

Your explanation of loneliness is exactly like truck driving minus the fans..the crew.. the band mates.. all you’ve got is your mind and whatever you have to entertain yourself in your down time.. it takes a certain kind of person to be able to do this for weeks at a time to go home for a couple days and back out again

[@kevinjones4521]

That wasn't New York, but I still enjoy your stuff.

[@backyardrailroader]

I've been there. Experienced that. An all too common feeling of loneliness that seems natural to me.

[@clonox676]

SOAD always ❤️‍🔥

[@mikestubblefield4978]

Great reaction and analysis as always!Please react to Love Falls or Hush by Hellyeah. Amazing songs dealing with mental health issues.

[@anygirlbr]

Please, "forget to remember - mudvayne", I love this music. Very good your video.

[@Vonderbraffle]

As someone who is taking his life in about an hour, thanks for this video series. I truly hope it helps some people. Ive struggled with major chronic depression since I was about 8 years old. I had stress ulcers in 6th grade. Id be 40 years old next April. Music has helped for a very very long time but like this song is related to Ive been alone my entire life. Both literally and theoretically. Like she describes its taken a toll on me physically and mentally. I had the knees of a 60 year old man by the time I was 25. To anyone reading this or watching the videos. Talk to SOMEONE. I internalized my entire life and by the time I tried to talk to someone it was too late. Ive had to start my life over too many times and Im just tired. But get help NOW, not later. I recently lost my job and unemployment has dropped the ball so many times now Im about to be homeless and I just cant anymore. But for those that are struggling now reach out to someone.

[@HeartSupport]

From I-Am-Reclaimer: @Vonderbraffle Hey Friend, I want to let you know that the family here at Heartsupport hears you... I've had to start my life over again many times as well, been through several traumatic health issues, and had lost my job with no where to go. I was extremely close to taking my life when I hit the lowest point in my life... I want you to know that it is possible... that you CAN do it. That I know where you're coming from and know where you can go. Please tell me you will share your story with us? www.heartsupport.com/crisis-resources Hold Fast my friend...

[@HeartSupport]

From djstarion: @Vonderbraffle When I attempted to take my own life I was the same age as you. I had gone through so much stuff, ranging from family abuse, losing my mom and my job in the span of an hour, and needing to find a new place to live within 2 weeks. I was at my breaking point and I just wanted to end it all right then and there. Luckily I didn't. I learned a lot in that span too. How it's NEVER too late to get help. You took a huge step in posting here, that's not internalizing. That's you showing courage. No matter what life throws at us, there's gonna be that sliver of hope that will always shine through. We may not see it now, we may not see it tomorrow, but trust me....it IS there. Please try and take advantage of the resources that @I-Am-Reclaimer posted, and more importantly, please just let us know you're here. We've been through this battle before, and we want to get through it together with you. Stay strong, amigo <3

[@HeartSupport]

From leapyeargirl: @Vonderbraffle First of all thanks for sharing. I think it is never too late, and I am glad you reached out to us. I hope you will reconsider, because in spite of what you might believe or feel: you are valuable and YOU MATTER Hold fast I hope you will reach out to one of the resources @I-Am-Reclaimer has mentioned

[@SOAD4ever295]

YAYYY MORE SOAD!! YOU SHOULD DO DARTS!!

[@GoForthNDie666]

Would love to hear your thoughts on these ones! Gary Jules - Mad World Nine in nails - Everyday is exactly the same Neil Young - the needle and the damage done (If you want to do somthing alittle Heavier) Children of Bodom - Needled 24/7

[@ramiroj.2381]

"This too, shall pass."

[@wiltonvivas1009]

You gotta do "Symbolic" by Death! Plz 🙏

[@lawrencefine5020]

I been lonely for the past 6 years. It grinds you down little by little till you learn to accept it. Some tell me it's your own doing. Maybe. SOAD is the most original Metal band to come out since......I don't remember, man can they hit on every emotion I have and make it real. Hurts. But such a great band. Too bad they can't bury the hatchet and make some new music.

[@yosshy4774]

Alone is not the same as Lonely... Music really helps overcome loneliness. Keep up man! Serj said he will be doing some concerts, but he really do not want to make new music with them anymore. At least we have 5 albums to listen.

[@danny-d0rito]

I'm happy that they gave us what they did. Serj did tell them to leave him, to get someone else, but they refused. it may make us sad, but it is in part because we would miss Serj, in part because nothing would ever sound the same, and in part it is a brotherhood they will never end.

[@zmadhatter2340]

I would like to see you analyse the song "Bullet" by "Hollywood Undead" it's my favourite song to listen to when I'm down, and I think as a therapist you'd have a field-day with the lyrics

[@tatornator]

Really want to hear your thoughts on Lead me out of the dark - Crown The Empire All fucked up - The Amity Affliction Set me free - The Amity Affliction.

[@gegart01]

More soad please!

[@alexanderredmond3990]

Love what you do wish you would do wish you would do Slipknot dead memories.

[@Syzygy77]

Hey, I think it’d be really neat if you reacted to Leprous. You can start with the song, Castaway Angels or Slave. Or you could react to Caligula’s Horse’ songs like Bloom & Marigold, Salt, Oceanrise.

[@sethEtheshark82]

You need to check out the song Did He Jump by The Zounds. It's a song about a kid who wrote a suicide note because he was bullied to death and part of the note said "Never turned my back on society, society turned its back on me, never tried to drop out.. I just couldn't get in from the very start. All the world cant be wrong it must be me I dont belong". I felt that my entire life as someone who was bullied in school because of my ADHD and learning disibilities. I still struggle with ptsd, anxiety, depression... Punk kept me going. Oh and Broken from the band Pennywise!!

[@stephanieluna9860]

Dude this Zounds song is so good

[@nickolassutton2927]

You should do A7X So Far Away!

[@MrHDfreak]

my favorite SOAD. I repeat: The Black Dahlia Murder - Asylum // there is a lyric video on yt. Dunno how to spend money. RIP Trevor Strnad

[@danhammybazam2112]

You definitely should react to Eyes Set to Kill

[@user-ue8wo9tx7b]

That intro had me so stoked for making bacon pancakes, i disnt care about the song anymore...😂🎉

[@tankerboysabot]

You should do Marylin Mansons The Beautiful People.

[@Reiddiculous]

Sadly my loneliness is self afflicted. Because I'm fully aware I can be too much at once or to put up with for a long time. So I live in myself around people as much as I can so I don't have to burden them with me.

[@HeartSupport]

From DyllonKG: @Reiddiculous Hey my friend. Thank you for posting Im sorry that you feel this way towards yourself. That you're too much or that perhaps you're a burden. Lonely Day is such a powerful and nostalgic song for me. I remember singing this as a teenager on the bus home from school. In longer drives as I got older. I always identified with this song because, much like you, I felt like i didn't have anyone who got me. I felt that nobody stuck around for long because I was a burden or because i had too many problems. I didn't really make friends, close friends, until this year, 16 years later. I think that, back then, i felt my feelings a lot bigger than other people did. And I didn't know how to handle it. So of course the other boys in school didn't really want to hangout with me. But life has changed a lot. Ive done a lot of the work and unpackaged a lot of that. The way people treated me back then didn't have much to do with me, and more to do with them. While some may see me as a burden, they don't get to define me as one. I hope you know that you arent a burden. That you're a person deserving of love. I appreciate your post. I appreciate you. Hold fast and be safe, ok?

[@robbiecunha6936]

Do Alone I break by Korn next

[@sd825]

Check out “Lost In Hollywood” by System Of a Down

[@remor__]

I want to give a quick shoutout to whoever edits these videos, you’ve been doing a phenomenal job and deserve some bacon pancakes

[@elvishuremovic7640]

I recomand you to react to Serj song Harakiri. It is so good song. You won't regret.

[@user-fq3ce7eo5q]

Check out Stone Sour/ Absolute Zero

[@dkid21tt]

Please react to No Hard Feelings by The Avett Brothers. It changed my life ❤

[@loremtroglodytarum1777]

you are beautiful, don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

[@ghostofprivateradley4999]

Should do wasted love by Iron Maiden next

[@BitFame34]

00:57 her face!!😂😂

[@tylercourtney3060]

Heeey love your videos! Could you please do a reaction for "To The Flowers" by While She Sleeps!! Please please please!!! 🙏

[@davidtaylor6681]

Should do Zakk Wylde- Lost Prayer

[@Orlando2914]

Or "Pisces" by Jinjer.

[@Orlando2914]

I think the fire is suppose to represent and internal tormoil, one no one else seems to notice. It's in the for front, but no one seems to see it.

[@trooper_688]

hey 👋 you should cover What I’ve done- by Linkin Park, I feel like it’d be a really good video to try and just find out what the meaning the song is👍

[@generalribeiro887]

React to crawling by linkin park,this song talk about painfull things that Chester feel when was just a kid. A hug from Brazil🫂🇧🇷

[@Exhumed.Consumed]

If we’re all shouting requests: Blackshape - itiiitiatiihylihyl. Go in blind and it’s worth it. I’d also be sardonically amused watching a reaction to Solitude by Candlemass or Tell the World I’m Sorry by Gardenian.

[@zackaryhaselius2226]

Just to let you know, Nothing More dropped their full album.

[@thearrival5713]

Linda

[@frankspeciale5071]

I am alone i dont want any friends but my brain is telling me i need friends

[@joshuavanderhei4213]

I think Nutshell by Alice in Chains is a good song to check out. It touches on loneliness and judgement.

[@Justin7Wooden]

Staind “Here and Now” Five Finger Death Punch “Wrong Side Of Heaven”

[@mtgdoom7818]

please do more skillet a good from them is called "Psycho in my head"

[@joshuapluth4930]

This song always reminds me of the day my children were killed. 😢

[@LowriTackett]

I'm sorry for your losses

[@mateoluna3223]

Blue October please

[@mpolster24]

I hope you can view Straight Out the Gate by Tech N9NE featuring System of a Down

[@darrendarren2661]

Chevelle or billy talent reaction next pls

[@moshpit0survivor]

Check out stealing society by SOAD.

[@vonVile]

Please, react to these songs: "Dead Memories" by Slipknot "Dancing With The Devil" by Demi Lovato "Every Day Is Exactly The Same" by Nine Inch Nails "Scar Tissue" by Red Hot Chili Peppers

[@annajobbagy8027]

Could you react go Roulette by SOAD? It’s probably their most emotional song, it’s not about politics either. You could really enjoy it I reckon

[@pedrooliveira-pj6dh]

System of a down "Question "❤

[@gigidygigidy6078]

Surprised you haven't done Alice in Chains - Love Hate Love (live at the more) yet.

[@Orlando2914]

Can you do "Numb" by Linkin Park?

[@niteshade8546]

Go folk punk and do a deep dive on “Days n Daze”. A lot to analyze in that genre.

[@tomfoolery342]

You're a therapist, explain to me why I've never felt lonely? I don't have friends (don't want any). Most of my family think I'm a sociopath.

[@Ohwowamazing]

It probably took you some time to achieve this level of peace, it’s usually hard at first to be “lonely”

[@betogarcia2583]

Saying the word please wouldn’t hurt you bud

[@vonVile]

You have a loner mentality. I'm like this. Friends don't concern you and you are very selective when picking them. Check to see if you have signs if you are a Sigma Male.

[@tomfoolery342]

@@betogarcia2583 ....and I have no social skills as demonstrated by my poor irl interactions.🤣

[@Dwiibus74591]

Please react to “Question!”

[@haywardflowers7537]

Could you react to zero 7 destiny Also Seether fine again