Therapist reacts to BYOB by System of a Down

Therapist uses B.Y.O.B to discuss how many of us live in a state of blissful ignorance until we suddenly realize something isn't right, maybe it's politically, maybe it's in your personal life. And once you realize that something isn't right. You have the opportunity to courageously confront that thing to try to enact change.
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[@wheatthicks]

The party in the desert is also a metaphor for the war itself (in this case the Iraq War circa ‘03). How its affects are undersold and also how warmongers and arms dealers rush to the party.

[@BuzzaB77]

I also took it represent the media propaganda machine around justifying it or distracting us away from it.

[@jip5889]

She totally missed the point.

[@1danwynn]

​@jip5889 I know what you mean, though, to be fair she does say that it's a political song. She adds that the meaning can be broader. She's analysing it from a psychology perspective. And, there's something in her analysis; the political point of the song is to shake us out of ignorance and make us confront .... Well, power. The personal is the political and vice-versa as they say 😉

[@wheatthicks]

@@mydyingsoul01 I wish that non-Americans who disagree with the country’s foreign policy could know what it feels like to live their life as an American with those same opinions. To know the unending feeling of anger and helplessness without having someone else to point the finger at. If you think you’d be able to affect the course of this awful empire from the inside, you’d be very quickly disappointed.

[@wheatthicks]

@@eskilolsen3783 You’re silly.

[@maxoni9370]

It was an antiwar protest song. "Why don't presidents fight the war? Why do we always send the poor?"

[@Io-Io-Io]

...is...

[@melomanodemente]

@@Io-Io-Io unfortunately...

[@DuckYou69]

SOAD has always been a political band

[@jackpayne9013]

It's more anti-government or anti-unjust than anything really

[@joshuak6968]

@@jackpayne9013 It is very explicitly anti-war. The band themselves even stated it.

[@VictorSilva-im9ug]

“Vibe switch” is one of the resons i fell in love with system of a downs music

[@jyanixbach1975]

This is the song we need in 2024 with these endless wars

[@letsrockgold407]

Yes along with War Pigs by Black Sabbath and Civil War by Guns and Roses!!! All these songs are soooooo relevant today and it is very sad!!!

[@MurrayGresswell]

This song is about the lies told from peaple in power

[@michaelvanderlaan5629]

​@MurrayGresswell it's more specifically about the lies told to justify the iraq invasion.

[@Warchild0311]

My daughter is going to college to be a psychiatrist. I send her your analysis of the videos all the time so that she can better understand me. Keep it up TY

[@metalheadstarot]

funny i have always said understand my music understand me just as well. but people run away from deathcore so i am alone which to be fair im so used to anyway

[@mikek9297]

@@metalheadstarot Dude that's so unfortunate

[@t.c252]

@@mikek9297 YEAH UNFORTUNATELY PSYCHIATRISTS ONLY HAND OUT MEDS, THEY DON'T DO THE THERAPY STUFF.

[@LexyThomas134]

Hope she comes back the same, most come back with blue hair and start destroying everything

[@jeffreywilliams1674]

The more I listen to this song and see reactions the more I realize how incredibly genius and ahead of their time they were.

[@Osmort79]

Serj Tankian (the lead singer) was writing about the war in the Middle East and how the general American was fine to be lied to about it. Lies from the tablecloth, soldiers there to defend freedom, everything’s fine over there…..reality, we were there for oil and the war was more devastating for both sides than any wish to discuss. He than brings up the contention of the poor being meat shield with the wealthy having options to either stay in safe locations while serving or not serving at all.

[@SteveCoronado2]

Amazing how you said “use metal music to shift your mindset” because I grew up a classically trained violist, played in an orchestra and could play all the string instruments very well. At the same time I was listening to KISS, Motley Crue, Deep Purple, Led Zeppelin and so on. This was when I was around 9/10 years old and I had a crush on Stevie Nicks. A couple years later I discovered bands like Metallica, Megadeth, Anthrax, Slayer and the various metal bands of the 80s. I remember that the darker the music the more I was willing to listen to and deal with things thus making me “happy”. Doesn’t work anymore but I still use music of all types/genres to alleviate my pains/ negative things in my life

[@sipenarekbecha7193]

dang, you are freaking talented musician 😮

[@richietraverse5239]

Definitely very talented I can only play guitar bass and drums well not that good anymore out of practice

[@SteveCoronado2]

Thank you. I also learned percussion in the orchestra and thus had to play a kit and sadly I as well am not very good anymore as those days are waaaay behind me and years out of practice

[@whatfreedom7]

On one of the cruises I went on they had a 3 man band on the ship. They played numerous cover songs with string instruments like the violin. It was surprisingly good I thought. My wife was just going to keep walking but I was thinking no I want to just chill and listen to them for a while. It’s interesting hearing cover songs played with completely different instruments.

[@iamjustaman444]

It's adorable how you get startled. And I'm diggin the dance moves lol Great analysis; subbed for more

[@sipenarekbecha7193]

Great interpretations ☑️ Jumpscares ☑️ Fangirling ☑️ Pure Chaotic Enjoyment ☑️ More S.o.A.D ☑️☑️☑️☑️☑️

[@Sigma1_969]

Well Well Well... I am thoroughly impressed with this analysis, not only do you understand the lyrics.. you actually enjoyed the song. I suffered a heart attack 4 years ago and underwent quadruple bypass graft surgery, I shouldn't be listening to this music anymore, even though metal has always been my genre, as it really gets my heart racing and my blood flowing faster than the water over Niagara Falls, but what a way it would be to go to my resting place.. You just got yourself a new subscriber... Keep up the fantastic work.

[@businesscatt]

wow!!! great story

[@Sigma1_969]

@@businesscatt wow...thank you so much.. You should hear my story about how someone tried to murder me by strangulation when I was 12.. Not a joke. Some other time maybe.

[@toddwilson4105]

This woman has go it going on!Great job,I appreciate you!🙏🏽

[@hawkin216]

It's about Iraq war in the early 2000s.

[@JMulvy]

Yeah, you got it right away. Every time I watch this music video I get instant goosebumps when the foot soldiers burst through the wall. It is like that sudden moment when reality comes crashing through your ignorance. The title is a play on the party mentality of "bring your own beer" but it really stand for "bring your own bombs" and it calls out the politicians who start wars but don't put their lives on the line to fight them.

[@chuy5152]

Dude thanks, your explanation mades the most sense, i also always taught is was byo beer not bombs😅. Thanks

[@JMulvy]

@@chuy5152 sorry didn't see your reply till now. Technically it is both beer and bombs, because while the song points to politicians directly, it is also indirectly calling out the people who choose to ignore the hypocrisy by getting drunk and partying their cares away. I have met people who "love SOAD" and talk about this song like their favorite party song, who have no idea the political connotations the band put into it, and in my head I am just like "You. You are the problem the band is talking about."

[@thelaid-backlad-kj8ey]

@@JMulvy Wow dude. That's a valuable insight. Thanks for sharing it.

[@mikesanders8621]

It's very specifically calling out America. They've said so themselves. It was a warning that America is going to end up recreating the filthy Nazzys.

[@lucaswasieleski6454]

You should watch the charismatic voice reaction to BYOB . She nailed her review in a way that explained the song in a way thats unmatched .And you should check it out . Might help you with the way you should be describing emotions to the actual song

[@stephenbenson3388]

Agreed, was a great breakdown

[@jelledejong7298]

Knoxhill did a good breakdown as well

[@ricardosaenz569]

I watch both of those and they are both great at musical breakdown. It is really cool getting therapist input, but those to are amazing at what they do too. I would love to see this woman take a look at Ren, from a social/psychological or purely analytical point i think it would be very interesting. I like her energy and see seems to completely enjoy herself openly. I agree though, those channels are amazing, i just don't want to take away from how much I appreciate this channel as well 🙂

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

She's so good at analyzing songs.

[@DPRyan-vd5pp]

The charismatic voice chick is cool but she pauses and starts the song over wayyyy to much! Lol

[@Chris-jv1zo]

You were born a true metalhead \m/

[@Omar-c7v6i]

It's also about the transfer of wealth from the tax payer to the military industrial complex and haliburton.

[@deathbymidnight13]

It's about the war in Iraq... Your welcome

[@bravestarr2001]

"Everybody's going to the party, have a real good time Dancing in the desert, blowing up the sunshine.".

[@johnwilliams2385]

I haven't really listened to this song since enlisting a lifetime ago. I'm glad they spent their energy talking about what they chose to. I remember being annoyed by their political messaging when I was young and was still trying to believe I could stay a child and ignore the gravity of what was happening beyond myself. Having served, I got to see so many young people from so many walks offered the only real opportunity they had given their circumstances. I had to watch it eat them alive. I had to agree with and participate in the inhuman mindset of a warfighter. I had to think of how best to kill, how to prevent effective defense against the killing, I had to crave it. I had a series of breakdowns a few years back that put me out of service and I've been here picking up the pieces since. War is nature. We are nature. But we are also special in nature. Our minds have literally transformed the world. It's like some sort of fever dream to think of the marvels the human mind has created. Why hasn't it found a way to do without war. We've shed so much nature already. Is feeding the living into a blender to solve difference the really an acceptable solution? I recognize the reality all too sharply. Even if it can, it hasn't yet. If their is a better way, we seem spell bound by how effectively violence solves every problem. It is spellbinding. The cost, the weight, the nightmare of knowing that everyone knows the cost and feed us forward just as hastily, to some minor end that serves the good of few. Not to protect our home, but to destroy others. To shape a world of peace with oceans of blood and the promise of more to come. In my mind, America isn't Christian. They serve Yahweh. Not the one from the Bible. The ancient War God of Storms, who washed away settlements for offending him. That sounds about right to me. Whatever the goal, paying with lives should be too steep a cost.

[@Io-Io-Io]

Far beyond that Single event. They lie constantly

[@micahrosen6314]

While in most cases, I imagine you might be correct in your interpretation of the song and it's message. But in this case you are a little mistaken. This song was written to address a very specific situation. The invasion of Iraq in 2003. This is a specific call to wake up and realize that the Iraq war is founded on lies. The intended audience was those in the military and civilians to stand up and recognize that the whole invasion of Iraq was based on lies and that we all had a duty to try and stop it. As a veteran, this song really does speak to me and for me. I was and still am seriously pissed about the criminal waste of human lives that was the war in Iraq. Not only was it a war premised on a lie, but to help pay the bill for that war, the powers that be decided it was going to be a great idea to take $32 BILLION from the only government organization dedicated to taking care of disabled veterans. So to sum it up. They thought it would be a good idea to take money away from the care of disabled veterans to pay for a war that was guaranteed to make a lot more disabled veterans. Considering that the Veterans Administration was way underfunded to begin with, losing $32 billion in funding has caused chaos that is still felt today it the VA system. And as a side note. Those cuts to the VA budget to pay for the war in Iraq were permanent. Despite both Iraq and Afghanistan being over for years now, the VA budget keeps getting attacked and shrunk. There is a saying in the veteran community. The unofficial motto of the Veterans Administration is "Giving veterans a second chance to die for their country since 1930". In the military there are a few simple rules for keeping your sanity. Embrace the suck. Three simple words that can and will allow you to survive anything that does not kill you outright. BOHICA. Bend Over Here It Comes Again. What that says about our sanity to begin with, I will leave it up to you.

[@trentlomelino]

This was the perfect explanation of the song without going too deep into the lyrics. It took me a while to understand what the aggressive tone change was for. Even after knowing what the song was about. Such a great song.

[@maximillianmendes6038]

Bring your own bombs. The option of have a opinion, action or not for exemple is political choice because we live in a community big or small, and this choices make difference with that said I believe that this music is a calling to us who are able to speak be actives about things that matters in this society, because our mental health is also connect with the way and place we live in.

[@Grizzlox]

I like that "anti war" doesn't mean left or right anymore. Me and all my friends are all anti-war and we range the whole political spread

[@ferrebelo]

Love when you get scare with the changing of rhythms 😅😅😅❤❤❤

[@25thcenturyman]

I survived the war. I lived on front line for 4 year when there was "cease of fire" but here and there bombs would fall. From my 5th birthday to age of 10 in constant fear. Going to school that looks like concrete fortress. Its funny after war all war veterans got help for PTSD but nobody asked then kids how we feel. Almost all of my generation has some mental related problems or other. Our country is not functioning as it should and i see loot of lives ruined. But do you know who lives "good and healthy" lives? Children of those politicians that started that war. Corruption everywhere.

[@Sedistic71]

One of my favorite bands that always helps me through dark times is Mushroomhead i would love to hear your interpretation of some of thier music. I think you will really enjoy them

[@wastrel7207]

qwerty one of my favorite songs

[@rockemsockemrusbot684]

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

[@micah4973]

No. It's a CIGARO CIGARO CIGAR.

[@Maltechr]

BYOB, usually used at party invitation for "Bring you own beer/booze" .. Here, its "Bring you own bombs".. Dancing in the desert, blowing up the sunshine

[@sugibear123]

they were great in concert

[@edwardlinke4741]

I got out 1 yr prior to my units deployment I knee exactly what the song was about

[@annonnimis4000]

❤

[@iqbalmuhammad2920]

SOAD is one of a number of heavy rock / metal bands that frequently convey their political messages thru their songs, which aligned (most often than not) with my personal political views. And they have a lot of catchy and creative songs. Prison, Deer Dance, BOOM etc.

[@elbruces]

This song was about the Iraq war specifically.

[@denialmen4248]

I love your reations. For the topic of the channel I recommend "inside the fire" (song about suicide) and "A reason to fight" (son about alcoholism) from Disturbed. Really powerfull songs.

[@ChuckRusty]

That squeak you made at the end and said it's so good ❤ I remember the first time I heard it not long after it came out. I was like wtf I love this!

[@CesarSalinas-m7g]

BYOB, used to mean Bring your own Beer, in this case, SOAD changed Beer to Bomb.... and it mock about fighting others war, ...the dancing chrorus is a sarcastic thing about the soilders thinking... "Yeah, we are dancing in the desert waiting for the sunchine!!" Why the presidents dont fight a war???

[@bhuntin08]

I really feel like the switching back and forth from the groovy/happy tunes to the frantic, fast paced, screaming is absolutely a call to attention to see what's happening in our world, country, state, etc... Which, like you said, the song is definitely political, but I agree that people can also take from it what they will, whatever that may be. I personally find it very poignant and on the nose. This is not their most subtle work, but I'm very glad to have your reaction on SOAD's music! Thank you for being you!

[@Bettencourt_]

"Everyone is at a party and you're not really seeing what's going on" Everyone in the military at that time:......yeah, something like that.

[@TheSteinless]

another great song of sistem of a down you should analyze is "question!"

[@eppielicious]

The vibe switch groove is so relatable

[@rkarrejr]

The songs speaking to the fact that 95% of "us" have no idea how awful and evil this world is, and we're all caught in this BS illusion. Some of us realize it. But are helpless to resist the longing for happiness. "We" don't want to see the truth. Blissfully ignorant.

[@bluesfor]

I've listened to thousands of reactions of songs on here. You're the one who seems to actually get what message a song is trying to portray. If you have the time, I'd be interested on your take of a song called Heroin, by The Velvet Underground. And how the song ties together both lyrically and musically. You're awesome. Thanks.

[@MikeLeonard]

awesome take. one of my favorite songs.

[@danramos1590]

You should check out Blue October. They have a lot of music that is related to mental illness and hope. I suggest "fear" "black orchid" and " hate me. Thanks for all your videos.

[@metalheadstarot]

hate me is a great one

[@richietraverse5239]

Love this song

[@DPRyan-vd5pp]

I love how you get into the song with no 5 minute bs intro, and you don’t pause the song every 10 seconds!! That’s cool!!!

[@saarangkumar]

this video gives me a new perspective towards the song and the band as a whole.

[@jizburg]

About seeing the problems and confronting them head in makes it also frustrating that nobody else seem to see it "were the fuck are you!!!"

[@bernardoramos6051]

Yes they are unique!!!

[@Echo3_]

The magic of System of a Down is they won’t tell you what the songs are written about. They want you to have a genuine experience and take away what you feel. They don’t want to tell you how to feel.

[@ThomasValdez-xe9ls]

Dancing is a metaphor for fighting.

[@backyardrailroader]

The song could relate to so many things. One could be learning something. It does not feel right, and you could be struggling at it. All around you could encourage you that everything is fine. Just keep on going. So you keep on marching to the instructions even though one constantly struggles at it "But you must have patience and faith..." they all keep saying to you. And so it continues until one questions the countinous cycle one is on....

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

I always laugh at her dance moves while the video is playing.

[@jppinckley4873]

The thing to remember about SOAD is a lot of their material is political.

[@tamarockstar09]

I want to see you dance to these songs live in a concert lol

[@katchmarik7393]

Shout out to whoever is handwashing dishes off camera toward the end of the video! #dishpanhands

[@Hitemmuppp]

If you watch TV today you will see that they feed us lies while we sit at the table and watch

[@TheFleahost]

SOAD are masters of transition. I would argue it’s a major part of their signature sound.

[@vovindequasahi]

System of a Down always has a deep special part in my heart for keeping up the Thrash Metal flame in that sad era of metal when all there was was nu-metal and metalcore.

[@danielcadena682]

This song is about the business behind war, and how privileged politicians start them, but expect the poor to fight them. I know this because I personally know Serg and was there when he wrote the song.

[@shitfuck3993]

Well I think it's a good time for a Tool reaction! Sober, or Schism are really good choises.

[@ADHDsquirrels]

They all ate, but I would ad The Grudge and Right In Two as good choices for dissection And then do Wings for Marie I&II

[@georgiliskostas9897]

Millennials don't need therapy! We got metal!

[@arminguillen1795]

Jesus! Been listening to SOAD for the better part of 20 years and I am getting therapy for free 😮(send me the bill please) by the way your reaction to Daddy is the bests ever

[@no-0n358]

BYOB - Bring your own bombs. This was an anti-war protest song against the Iraq War '03.

[@pleaseshutup7053]

Ineffective message unclear all it told me was war is a good time like a party

[@andreasekman2176]

Love that you love it... Nice with the transissions,right? This song is HEAVY AS f..k......

[@caleblayne8792]

I would love to see your take on The Feel Again by Blue October!

[@Shawn-l1j]

I would really like to see your reaction to Ministry -Theives.

[@WinstonSmithXxX]

There was nothing suddenly in here,seorius

[@DannySykess]

B.Y.O.B - Bring you're own bomb

[@comicrelieflastlaugh3416]

Great content, loving your reactions. I would really like to hear your thoughts on Tool's song The Grudge. Also, was i imagining this or did I hear someone trying to quietly wash dishes in the background. Lol

[@SystemOfMyLife_angel432]

Soad is often described as a "bipolar" band

[@crayzeewhorse]

5:09 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lorinleatham7527]

Please do I-E-A-I-O-U by SOAD. You might not find a lot of meaning in it, but it is so much fun when you need a mind shift. I found your station on a day when I really need a mind shift. Thank you.

[@Jerry-sb7zf]

We all have been fed lies from the table cloth

[@fhermeneses7999]

Great reaction thanks ❤❤❤

[@Darth_Stewie_]

Just my personal opinion, this song is very good at describing bipolar illness and anxiety. So like you said, I confronted it.

[@MrG_wasTaken]

BYOB*

[@HeartSupport]

thank you

[@userxl41drn301]

I don't know if reactor had lyrics in front of her, but for a therapist, I've seen actual deeper analyses from people that aren't professional therapists. The song is overtly political with concrete political references and doesn't dance around the issue of wars in the Middle East. It's not a simplistic metaphor for "burying your head in the sand". Expected a little more.

[@SanitisedAnarchy]

"Why don't Presidents fight the wars!? Why do they always send the poor!?" 🤟

[@tonyjuarez3771]

I love SOAD bc it always brings me back to listening to Rage Against the Machine as a kid and feeling strongly attached to songs like B*ll*t in the Head and Fistful of steel 🖤🖤 not metal, but still awesome songs that remind me of a time when defiance was the only thing that kept me going as a kid in a terrible environment ✊🏽🤘🏽

[@JonKorpi-o9w]

This is anti war song😊😊😊😊😊

[@everywhereattheendofemilyp7488]

I'd love to see your thoughts on their song Holy Mountain. It's in my opinion their most powerful song and it's about the Armenian Genocide.

[@TheGranhammer]

Nice you like metal / hard rock . Des is nok hard metal ven des is metal

[@sully3acr]

Imagin the good grove of that song, in battel..... Then, you get wounded on the battlefield. I was in a different state of mine.... Then, I was home... It really FUCKED ME UP. I just wanted to be back with my brothers, in.. the.. shit...

[@eriuz]

React to if I'm there by bad omens

[@Gabriel_Moline]

1:40. Excellent!🌿🌸

[@codydrummer]

New Subscriber here. If you haven't already, You need to hear the song "I am broken too" by Killswitch Engage. It is definitely a "its ok to not be ok" message

[@josecarbajal5710]

How many cameras you got?

[@ricardosaenz569]

I would love to see you review Hi Ren by Ren. it isnt metal and I know its probably been over done by now; however as someone who has both studied masters level psych and has struggled with myriad mental health issues [(depression, anxiety, PTSD, disassociations, and at my worse; episodes of psychotic depression, and OCD and even schizoaffective)], I believe it to be very valuable for people. I know when I saw it the first time the profound emotional response I had was hard to describe. It felt like it perfectly illustrated my struggles with mental health to my eventual success at learning the "tools" that have helped me lead a much happier life. I wish it was the kind of thing someone showed me during my early 20's (tumultuous twenties)

[@RxLush]

It’s funny how you’re doing the same thing the song is talking about avoiding the subject of war.

[@seymourclarity8702]

INSTANT SUBCRIBE! hi, i'm Simon, sup from New Zealand 🇳🇿🥝🙃, hope you're having a wonderful day 💛🌏💛

[@Moondirts]

Best band of the 2000's easy.

[@JuarezJaques]

So marvellous dance U ^_~ , appreciate you share.

[@healzen4597]

Cypher wasn't the villain

[@jasonbosshardt7022]

A good band that you may like would be: Jinjer "Pisces "

[@lonestar3433]

Therapist.... you're a dream!

[@J0kerzach2008]

Love your content

[@CarrieRexWheeleroney]

Wheat is correct. Why do they send the poor? The video explains a lot. She applied this song to a different line of thinking. But the power of metal music moved her. I applaud her for taking on this song. Kudos.

[@JohnChilders-x9t]

Look at the lyrics to this song

[@fadash3323]

Next , Scars on Broadway.

[@raaab1212]

Lonely day

[@peteonster]

Thr party vibe is when thr government is hoodwinking the 20 year old soldier. Thr screaming is the stark realization that they dont give a fuck about you.