Therapist Reacts RAW to Couples Sharing Their Side of Their Love Story

[@yourlocalsussinicle9932]

“I love you because you’re everything i prayed for.” Nah get married already

[@TRINITR0N]

Lmao that’s exactly what my boyfriend said to me

[@rivalmoonlight]

My second date with my wife was grocery shopping, then a blanket fort and movie. During the movie, she looked over and asked "Can we cuddle?" At the end of the night, I walked her out the door and it was lightly raining. And she asked me "Can I kiss you?" Four years and plenty of love and fights later, and I'm currently watching this in bed with our 2 month old cuddled against my chest. Postpartum depression has hit her hard, and our finances are rocky, and we've been stressed and fighting a lot lately, but I still look at her and see the girl I met at a Sonic on a Sunday afternoon, then spent the next three hours walking around the park and talking without a care in the world. Being married and being a parent is hard, I'll admit. But I'm glad she's the person I'm doing it with. ❤️

[@deadroomeyes8965]

show her this comment and say someone on youtube forced you to

[@worldpeace6322]

You just made me tear up on reading this 🥺❤ that's so wholesome

[@lysannk3524]

As a mother with two slightly older kids: It will get better. There will be more time for the relationship a little more down the road. Hold on tight, you got this!

[@JaslineXD]

Please tell her everything you wrote on this comment 💕 postpartum depression is so horrible, you feel worthless and don’t know exactly why, too many emotions happening at once.

[@sushih3302]

please tell her everything you wrote here, or just an I appreciate you and love you. It always helps to know someone's here for you during vulnerable moments

[@lororie]

I love the coregulation in that final question. She saw him getting emotional, and even without hearing anything she reached out to touch his knee and reassure him that the vulnerability was ok. Even after taking off the headphones, she never shamed his emotions or vulnerability. That's such a huge deal with how society and pop media often addresses male vulnerability, and it was really beautiful to see.

[@Lalatin]

Oh look, it's Jake from State Farm. Those two are SO cute. I hope they're still together and happy. 😍

[@Shahrezad1]

I KNEW he looked familiar!

[@kelliehorn1082]

I just saw an ad from State Farm and jumped on here to see if it was him!

[@step30dub]

I think they broke up unfortunately

[@fathiyyah3198]

@@step30dub wait WHAT?? 😭😭😭

[@ashleyrenee3906]

I was just about to ask this! Thanks for confirming!

[@rebone6550]

Asking for consent is sexy and respecting boundaries is hot!

[@swatisaini6447]

💯💯

[@justyce_yt]

Amen! 🙏

[@111111444444444]

When the guy that I was dating put one boundary with me, I was so happy. I felt like he needed to learn that but also knowing he knew his self worth and where he wanted to be at, it felt really good. Unfortunately, there were so many other boundaries he had to work on and not particularly with me, that totally ruined the relationship

[@rebone6550]

@@111111444444444 so in your experience boundaries where kind of the make or break of the relationship?

[@C-SD]

@@111111444444444 yep. And no guessing games on what unspoken "boundaries" you need to follow. I put boundaries in quotes because is it really a boundary if you never tell anyone?

[@mamaof2528]

As a woman who hasn’t always been in healthy relationships, I’d prefer “can I kiss you” to “I want to kiss you” as the second one could be more difficult to turn down without feeling triggered.

[@anastasiagraboviuk6079]

Totally agree! It's harder if you have troubles with saying "no". For me "Can i kiss you?" would not seem as a sign of a lesser confidence, but as a sign that he is concerned with what I want. Also I'm really sad to admit that so many guys I've met don't bother asking at all - I think they probably see it as a vulnerability or something

[@itzmeeazriel2712]

Same. Absolutely, I would rather be asked then "I want to kiss you."

[@Narra0002]

I vet that and kinda agree

[@LanHua711]

Anyone else spend the entire time going ‘why does this guy look familiar?’ And then you saw a State Farm ad and went ‘holy shit it’s Jake from State Farm!’ I knew I saw his wholesome ass before.

[@Jana-ho9mu]

I thought I was going crazy I literally shouted out loud “that’s Jake from State Farm!!”

[@castelcatjerome]

Oh boy, 6:26 is what happened to me. My ex dumped me after we had been dating for about two years, and one of the things he told me while he was breaking up with me was that I was the best girlfriend he had ever had but he couldn't bring down the walls he'd built around his heart. He also said quite a few times during the course of the relationship that he thought he didn't deserve me, and that I was a better person than he was. When he dumped me I was more in love with him every day and had no intention of breaking up with him.

[@evelyneverdeen7971]

This was so beautiful! I love how you pointed out all the good things and that the editors chose this video because it was so heartwarming to watch

[@mikasablackerman6776]

“ I love you because you’re everything I’ve prayed for” Well damn now I’m crying 😭

[@dots_com1386]

I love this. I’m tearing up at how sweet they are. I love “love” and it’s wonderful to see such a healthy love. My fiance is probably the healthiest person I’ve ever met and this video makes me appreciate him even more for it. ❤

[@tink6225]

ooga booga subscriber omg taste

[@dots_com1386]

Hahaha how'd you know? 😂

[@minminnnn]

​@@tink6225 awawwwawà

[@Amor_y_Alma]

Please do more reactions to healthy relationships ❤ Just as important as it is to see and learn from bad examples, it's so important to learn from good examples too ❤

[@girlwtuba]

My partner and I have also been together for five years. He explicitly asked to kiss me at the end of our first date and I still think it was the prefect way it could have went EDIT: now we're broken up! 🎉🎉🎉

[@billygabrielz]

I kissed my boyfriend on the first date and he wasn't comfortable. So I felt insanely guilty and apologized for the remainder of the date. He kissed me back on the second date, so luckily things went well 😂

[@C-SD]

Her reaching over to pat his leg because he was crying, without really caring why. Support first, ask questions later kinda thing. Wish I'd had the words for "you supplement me". Might have nipped a whole issue in the bud. I had an ex that got furious with me because I wouldn't say I "needed" him. Dude, I don't *need* any one other specific person to survive. I'd miss you, but I'll live. I could not figure out why at 16 I understood this, and at almost 20 he didn't. We weren't together incredibly long. We did manage a tenuous, mostly healthy friendship until he passed.

[@JenniferMenendez522]

This was adorable! Thank you for highlighting this episode, Jonathan!

[@puppypoet]

Me and my husband need a ton of work to get our marriage above a 5. But at the same time, who he is, I don't wanna ever live without him. He's not perfect and he can be so aggravating but he is truly my soul mate.

[@kaylak169]

Just a quick second to acknowledge and appreciate that Jono said “this guy is my spirit-“ and because of an awareness of the changing tides of life and modern day sensibilities, chose to correct himself to be mindful of that common saying thats used so often and with no regard to the deep cultural and personal indigenous/native meaning. What a good guy. You are so beloved, you wonderful human, you.

[@tattoowithlea]

Now I want a therapist reacting to Jonathan and Alan's friendship please.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Healthy and wonderful, very comfortable with each other and they encourage each other to be comfortable with themselfs

[@lojanta]

YES

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Awwww they're giving me all the warm fuzzy feelings!!! So cute ♥♥♥♥ I wish them all the success in their future, hopefully there's a wedding and babies in their future!!!

[@rafaelnahafahik7781]

I just wanna say that I’m so thankful for the positivity Jonathan brings to the world. The way he can appreciate the love these couple’s have for each other is so nice, especially since i’m going through a rough patch with my girlfriend. I appreciate you Jonathan❤

[@BelgorathTheSorcerer]

Angrier. That's definitely how I feel since my marriage ended. Little things that I would be annoyed by one moment and forget the next, simmer for days. Then the next thing happens and the last twenty come up with it, and they're all simmering together. I am scared of what might happen if it boils over. I know what started the fire heating everything up, but I have no idea how to put it out, so things can be like they were before. All I need in a partner is someone patient and kind that can see the good in me and my son and love us for that, and at least tolerate my cats and my dog.

[@Bubba.mitchell4603]

Go to therapy

[@BelgorathTheSorcerer]

@@Bubba.mitchell4603 I already am. I wish they would let me go more often. I got a dog too. They both help, but so far they are like a lid on the pot, but don't turn the heat off.

[@innere_raeume]

What helps me with anger is letting the energy flow through my body. I take a brisk walk or even a run, maybe a challenging yoga flow. Everyone has their own kind of movement and workout they like, so you should do yours. But all emotions are so much better processed when you get in motion too. And everything that might trigger stress hormones especially, coz the body just works that way - fight or flight. It gets ready to move you, so the hormones will drop if you do, and it's less likely the emotions get stored in your body as tension. Not a doctor, just speaking from experience.

[@robertofernandezmorales4152]

hey mate, not sure if you have a hobby, but a hobby in which you make things allows me to feel better and let go of the anger

[@chloe2264]

Menial repetitive motions can be really soothing to me. Sewing, dishes, needlepoint, colouring with the kids, doing a puzzle, etc. as well as what others commented. Good luck

[@LittleKimmy1965]

❤❤❤when u said " this is what a healthy relationship looks like" u were SO right. I just watched my first video of you and I am quite impressed. I don't know exactly why but I am really enjoying your positive perspective on all these situations. You are refreshing sir!!

[@Wittyx]

"No one stays together 5 years without working through some stuff." I was in a 4 year relationship, and we didn't work on *anything.* We never talked about our issues. Given, it was my first relationship, and his second; but yes, this can exist lol.

[@FoxenASMR]

But did ya make it to 5 years

[@Wittyx]

@@FoxenASMR 1 more year would not have made much difference. It's still 4 out of 5.

[@katherinedobias7499]

6 years here and no result still. I would say 4 of the 6 we did nothing, last 2 have been a cycle of doing something then nothing, maybe next year we'll get to the good results finally. It's my second relationship. I sometimes find couples with a lot of relationship experience to be good at choosing their partners. You just become a better judge of character especially after a break up with an ex that cheat on you like in this couple here.

[@katherinedobias7499]

@Day i know people who've been married for 30+ years and have only just started working on things and growing. What's available today to help relationships grow wasn't available years ago. Who's to say any amount of years is enough to judge when a relationship is a dead end or not? This one couple I know celebrated their 20 something year anniversary and the husband said we've been married for 5 because 12 years were bad, 2 years they weren't together, and the rest was spent on kids.

[@katherinedobias7499]

@Day you probably think I'm unhappy or underwhelmed or sad. I actually can still find happiness and be okay with the way things are because that's the reality of relationships it's not always at its best or optimal state it's not always growing or developing. It happens in stages and at different paces. For some it happens within a few years others within a decade. These things take time and I don't mind putting a bit more time into it because starting all over with someone else takes a lot more effort and it might be a waste of time on top of another 6 years wasted. But i would say out of those 6 years four have been a waste, and 2 of the years have been productive. There is a plan in place and now we're waiting on result hopefully by next year. I don't have any regrets though. It used to be a lot worse in those 4 wasted years, but as we both grow we have somehow found our neutral state and now working towards a better one. Although sometimes there are setbacks.

[@LovedayJourno]

4:14 I honestly love how the “good game” joke progresses 😂

[@vondervent]

My heart exists and this video taught me that. This is too wholesome, wherever they are now, I hope they're happy ❤

[@laynemartin7914]

You're not going to comment on her seeing that he was getting emotional and her giving him that little knee touch of reassurance and support

[@malachitestorm]

I cried when Kevin started crying 😢💖💖 They're so precious...

[@justyce_yt]

Wait a minute, Jake from Statefarm?!?! This is awesome! And adorbs.

[@BubaNom]

'nobody stays together for 5 years and don't work through stuffs' literally me who was in a 5 year relationship and never worked through anything which was the reason for the breakup

[@alexismakeuptherapy]

It's so refreshing to see a healthy and happy relationship! This is what everyone deserves in a life partner

[@SparkleDramaQueen93]

I'm finally in a healthy relationship ❤ and it's been so strange to be respected & cherished by someone that genuinely loves me in a romantic way. I've been in 2 very toxic relationships before my current one & I'm starting to realize just how toxic & manipulative my exs were towards me. I'm so grateful to have found my girlfriend. She makes me so happy 😊❤ As we work through our internal struggles together, I hope it brings us closer & strengthens our personhood as we grow as individuals & a couple.

[@The482075]

I like these, two already. I want to give them both hugs.

[@madeleineskinner3866]

I feel like a lot of us really needed to see this ❤️ Thank you!

[@12CANTMATTER]

I’ve been following this couple who answered a similar question about where they would be if they hadn’t met. One said they would still be happy just separate. The other said it’s hard to imagine but he thinks they would still have met because they have very similar interest and beliefs. I’m inclined to believe him because they have actually met multiple times over the years until they got together

[@CMB0299]

Wow, this is so beautiful and I am already tearing up.

[@111111444444444]

Ugh! My trauma tells me this doesn't exist and they are just faking. Thank goodness I'm going to therapy today

[@TrainerNomed]

That was THE best pallet cleanser to start off my morning. I feel so hopeful now. ☺

[@zaraandrews600]

I have quite a bit of insecurities, and I have started a long distance relationship just recently. I have times where I need some space due to my mental health being quite bad, but I try to be very open about my problems with the guy. It is nice as I feel seen by him. Sometimes I might doubt the relationship, but that is mostly because I have never had someone this supportive before. I also get nervous about the distance, as I just really want to be able to hug him, but actually the distance can sometimes be really useful.

[@Natural2bmii]

Now I'm wondering if this is a real match because that's "Jake" from State Farm 🤣🤣. Is his confidence real or is he acting??? I don't knoooooooow😱

[@maceystewart2263]

Oh my goodness it's Jake from State Farm!!! I kept thinking where have I seen this guy and then someone in the comments just said it. I don't think I'll ever watch another state Farm commercial without just being so happy that he's in such a great relationship.

[@logan2113]

I think without my partner becoming who I am today would've taken twice as long. Changing things that I've always wanted to be different about myself because I saw that it was hurting not just me but this person I love was massive. Having a partner who celebrated the things that I was insecure about Help me to develop the ability to embrace me for being me. Having somebody that inspired me to change to fit them better, but with no expectation to change in ways that didn't feel good or authentic, and to receive that kind of effort back… I've learned so much about the life I want, and who I want to be through my partner. Growing and changing together is one of the biggest honours and privileges, and one of the biggest joys I've ever experienced. Are used to remind myself I'd be okay if we have a broke up because everything felt so good I was terrified to lose it. I know I will be OK if we became people who weren't good for each other. But I have the confidence that isn't going to happen. Time is help me learn the kind of effort a healthy relationship takes, what feeding a relationship feels like, and has proven to me that we can be grounded with each other and then that's not scary when you can trust the other person to be honest with you, to communicate what they need, to be persistent and understanding each other. Oops, now I'm crying at the end of KZbin comment haha. I hope everybody meets somebody who brings out the best in them, with whom they can address problems as a team and never treat each other like a problem, and who they can trust and lean on and and celebrate and be celebrated by and love and grow with authentically.

[@logan2113]

I see all my mistakes in this message but I was crying and using voice to text and the mobile web version doesn't let you edit things so… If anyone did read it, thanks for bearing with me 😉

[@wunsekhobbies4765]

Someone asking me if they can kiss me, if I'm attracted to them, is like Hmmm Yes!!! There's something about the respect shown, and being told that they Want to have that kind of intimacy, that just makes it so much sweeter.

[@Mykasan]

oh that may be why i never date, i sabotage my own love life because of my insecurities. i have found people that i was attracted to and never found the courage to ask them since i told myself they could be with someone better than myself. "why be with such a loser, when they could have someone better" i ghosted people and ignored anyone that were remotely trying to have a relationship with me.

[@italosblogtalkradio4279]

Wait, isn’t that the guy from the Statefarm commercials?

[@thewhyofthings8450]

This video really calmed me down for some reason, thanks😊

[@Asset80]

Lmao laughed so hard at the bottom lip bite!!!

[@hannah_mariah]

In case anyone else was also curious, yes, the man in the video is Jake from State Farm.

[@mrs.dunlap8003]

So sweet! Love is so great! 🥰

[@malon-]

Aww this was sweet. I am also curious about two sides of the story when a relationship ended. I think that would be very interesting too!

[@bluej1n333]

like a good neighbor

[@mkgirl1995]

It’s Jake from State Farm!!

[@Narra0002]

Love the series Both Sides. Please do more reactions to them

[@clorofemully]

"slap him on the butt... but only if he said that I could" hahahahha

[@yosoyroman875]

Taking notes 📝 because this was beautiful

[@LittleSweettt]

They are sooooo cute ❤ If I never met my husband I wouldn’t laugh as much as I do, and like the guy from the video, I would be angrier and least patient 😊

[@nickeliacin9075]

“It’s Jake from State Farm….” “what are you wearing Jake from State Farm” Narrator: and that kids is how I met your mother 😅😅😅

[@voyance4elle]

soooo beautiful!!! I would love to see more healthy examples

[@PuppyOrion]

8:30 and something I've learned since ending things with my toxic, narcissistic ex: "there was a me before you"

[@NickyD-fd5xk]

They are so sweet together 💗

[@aarushitewari2384]

First here! Wow, this rarely happens... Thanks for being YOU, Jonathan!

[@beelzebubbbx]

I never believed in love at first sight, but when i met my current boyfriend that'a what it felt like. I had a friends with benefits situation with my todic ex who I was not over yet, and one night after he stood me up i decided to go to this rave in another city with an old schoolmate i barely know, and he was there. We spent the whole night talking and got closer and closer together, holding hands after just a few hours, we kissed and spent the night making out. I wasn't completely over my ex yet, but that changed in a couple of days, and we've been dating ever since. He's the greatest guy, he's fun and cheerful and so so loving, and in six months we've never really fought. I neger knew i could be this happy

[@MoiraMcGill]

It is not 90-10. It's 60-40. You go 60% of the way and let them move in the other 40% to accept the kiss. If they don't move yet don't back away, then you can always try saving the moment by then asking for consent if they didn't get what you were previously going for. 90-10 does not give enough room for a confortable rejection.

[@zoraarnold8482]

I had to rewind the last few seconds of the video...yep, he said, "I'm thirsty." Bahaha, love it!

[@juliagans4067]

I loved watching this I hope he reacts to the other videos in this series!

[@thelucywho3983]

I'm not crying you're crying 😭

[@merle309]

You really wanted to make me cry with this video, huh? Hope to find that too... one day

[@paulinacastro00]

This was so sweet!!!!!!!

[@desphin4887]

Is that Jake from State Farm?

[@CoriBeth01]

He has to be

[@LaMariposaAzul94]

Yes I believe it is! I just googled him to see and I am pretty positive thats him lol

[@LaMariposaAzul94]

I even found one picture with him and the girl so I'm pretty sure thats Jake from State Farm(Kevin Miles/Mimms)

[@Tommy-wy5nu]

This is a healthy relationship. It's also the only kind of relationship I will accept which is why I'm single...but I think it's close🤞🏾❤

[@Gen-on2gv]

please do more of these!!

[@Kaitlyn.Danosaur]

It was super weird when they first swapped Jake from State Farm with this dude... But now that I've seen this, I'm so glad they did: love this guy! His girlfriend seems lovely as well!

[@KZesty]

If I hadn't met my now husband, I would probably still be a lot more in my shell and not have grown as much emotionally as I have! And I wouldn't have traveled and seen some beautiful places like Seattle.

[@emmacordova866]

This was so damn sweet

[@vicarious_poet]

I swear the first guy is Jake from Statefarm

[@KxNOxUTA]

Yay what a lovely reacts video! More of da wholesome, please! Everyone can drama. But sweet AND real, that's the real treasures in life! I'm looking for a partner who is a feminist (or open to learning) and is able to communicate and self-regulate when things get difficult. I also suppose they'd have to be introvert, too, or introvert friendly extrovert. Oh right, most importantly: Someone who can enjoy alone time, too. Without alone time, I no function and process well enough. And from there it just goes uphill in all areas. Not having this with a person I actively choose to invite into a life of our own.

[@purelightapologetics4930]

Ew! Why would you want to date a feminist? Feminism is poison.

[@kenna_king100]

He said the olive juice because i love you looks the same when lip reading (many jokes were played in elementary school with that knowledge)

[@nguissalythiaw9460]

Is that Jake from Statefarm?! 🤔😅

[@Stop_It_Just_Stop]

Omg this guy (creator) is great

[@The_Little_Leaf]

it's the state farm guy!

[@D.M.S.]

Those guys. I have to save this video to get half as cool as this guy!

[@zqs3871]

Is that jake from state farm himself??!

[@itsame9780]

Wow 🤦 I thought it said "The Rapist Reacts" and it was victims confronting their abusers. Not until now that I realized therapist is spelled that way.

[@EmpressofFlame16]

OMG, that's Jake from State Farm

[@acoolducksloveryeahweexist]

I WANT MORE

[@annabrown3337]

Aww they're adorable

[@joshgtm3266]

That "jake" from state farm?????

[@freefratellis]

My partner of 4 (5? 😅) years, on our first date which ended up being the whole day by accident I told him he could kiss me if he wanted to. And he did. 🥰

[@Alyyse564]

I’m subscribing solely for the lip bite 😂😂😂

[@ayagodes5618]

When I started to date one of my ex-boyfriends, he asked me: "Will that be okay if I'll kiss you right now? And I was like... "You didn't even notice that just threw my bubble gum to the garbage can in the mall, did you?" Coz I was totally going for it even before he asked 😅 So yeah.. it's kind of reminded me of that. It was a sweet moment.

[@TheMelinajordan]

“speaking of hot men of color” LMAO😭

[@chocolatekiss8731]

It's Jake from State Farm!!!

[@okoala62]

I can’t believe this video made me cry as much as it did: just beautiful 🥹

[@ebbidibebbidiboo2640]

Why do I feel like the reason life would be cheaper without her is cause he's either saving for or already bought a ring 🤔🧐💍

[@benscheffer9681]

That's Jake from State Farm

[@rajeswaribhaibt8955]

I like your show also I really like the way you present, explain and analyze things... But in this video, you mentioned that people can separate when they feel insecure. I would say, people can separate when they realize they feel like their personality is not matching... insecurity and personality match (it does not mean one person is dominating or not. It's just understanding the fact that each personality is different so the compatibility.) have differences...

[@swatisaini6447]

More jubilee reactions please 😀

[@scaleonkhan183]

"Speaking of hot men of color..." LOL 13:33

[@sc00biedoo]

The new Jake from StateFarm??

[@julieringering3095]

those two are adorable!

[@vanessam157]

I just fell tk my knees because jake from State Farm isn’t single 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔