Therapist Reacts: The Effect of Feminism on Men

[@fear6380]

11:52 I disagree when he says the reason men aren’t seeking out success is sedation. He’s not taking into account the reward system behind men striving for success; unconquered women and a family. Men now don’t have the same motivation as they did back then because most women now have already has several sexual partners or have another man’s child. There’s no reason to get the successful job because there is a lack of viable females willing to form a family and the women that do want a family likely already have a child.

[@jonagreen7323]

That is definitely the case for me. Before my late wife past I was working hard to provide but now that she isn't here what am I working hard for when I can do average and have easily enough to buy whatever I want for myself.

[@danielchu]

I think that's a great point. A lot of the motivation has evaporated and the danger has increased (i.e. you can get me too'd for just asking out a girl). It's tough out there. Thanks for watching and for the thoughtful comment!

[@thisisphilchan]

Great insights!

[@danielchu]

Many thanks good sir!

[@colinh9294]

Finances are held in high regard in every big city. I currently live in DC, and lived in NYC for three years in the past. If you don't make above average money, you're up against it. Even if you go out and interact with women.

[@danielchu]

I agree. And it's not easy to become a high income earner. But there are those who want to have a good relationship and know that money is not the foundation of a good marriage right? I mean...they are out there...aren't they? Thanks for watching!

[@sifumode9460]

No, Sartain's numbers are for the ENTIRE US. Yes, it is exaggerated in places like Miami, which means it's even worse there. Also, self-improvement is never bad for you, BUT, women are judging men RELATIVE to other men, and only 10% will ever be the top 10%. So for 90% of men, it's a fruitless effort if women are your goal.

[@Kyle-fp5lm]

Very nicely said. Especially that last part

[@danielchu]

Thanks for the insight on the numbers. But I would disagree with your last statement. If you're in the bottom 90% you can still find a good woman and have a successful marriage. I see it all the time. Thanks for watching and commenting!

[@sifumode9460]

@@danielchu "Can" is doing a lot of work there. Yes, about 50% of men are married. Sadly, a LOT of those are women who finally gave up on those top 10% ever committing, and they think they "settled" for their husbands. These are often lonely, loveless marriages. The only study I've seen so far on WHO is paying for OnlyFans subscriptions found 90% of them are married men. We need more confirmation. This study was kind of small and it was self-reported, both of which call into question how good the numbers may really be. BUT, it may point out how TODAY, marriage isn't necessarily the "happily ever after" it used to be. So, how can you tell the "good" ones from the bad ones today? Steven Crowder certainly THOUGHT he picked a good one, right? And therein lies the problem. Is it worth the risk TODAY given how divorce laws DESTROY men? That kind of risk vs what percentage CHANCE she might be a "good one"? 50% end in divorce Women file 70-80% of the time. Men sometimes file KNOWING they will lose their kids and likely a ton of money. And how many men stay in loveless marriages just so they don't get ruined in court and lose their kids? Absolutely a good marriage is the most fulfilling thing possible in life for a man...but at what risk?

[@danielchu]

@@sifumode9460 Excellent points sifu and you are not wrong! Marriage today is more a failed institution than it has ever been and the numbers you presented prove that. We are in agreement. But I look at the selection process of how who you marry and if that process is done well you can be pretty confident that you will have a wonderful marriage. I would say it is worth it because the alternative dying alone! LOL! I appreciate your input sifu!

[@sifumode9460]

@@danielchu "But I look at the selection process of how who you marry and if that process is done well you can be pretty confident that you will have a wonderful marriage." Well, here's where we will never agree. I see too many examples of marrying women from church, from your small town, etc, etc, that still have this happen. I feel the good ones are just as much luck as "process". If you asked Steven Crowder 3 years ago, he would have agreed with you. I'd bet if you ask him today, he'd agree with me.

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

I agree. It is in my hands. Leave the West behind and to go greener pastures where women are more traditional and don't have ridiculous standards. Stop being trapped in the belly of this horrible machine, a machine that is bleeding to death.

[@danielchu]

Don't go unknown universe! We need good men! Thanks for watching!

[@TheUnknownUniverse]

@@danielchu I don't see staying as a realistic option. Between the economic turmoil (due to increasingly higher taxes and government money printing, regulations preventing houses from being built, regulations preventing cheaper energy sources), the destruction of family values (incentivized divorce for government and corporate profits, destruction of a man's place as head of household), woke culture (telling boys they can be girls and girls they can by boys and telling women that they are strong and independent and don't need no man), I just don't see things getting turned around anytime soon. I think too much damage has been done and I am going to seek out places and cultures where this isn't a thing. The U.S. will always be my home and where I came from, but I no longer see it as my future. I would love for things to change, but I only get one life and I can't waste it chasing progress that may never come when I can simply go where I'm treated best (Andrew Henderson TM). P.S. I am a U.S. citizen and will vote absentee for politicians that I think will move our country in the right direction. I just don't think this will have any real effect for quite some time; time that I simply don't have.

[@shortcutDJ]

michael sartain is really good at evolutionary psychology

[@danielchu]

He is! Thanks for watching DJ!

[@l3xmal265]

Funny. I work at cvs and I Don't want any of this 304s😂

[@noo343]

Yeah these are like the top like 10% earners in the movers and shakers and the hoes that come along with them not us average nameless folk

[@danielchu]

Good for you, brother! Lol! Thanks for watching!

[@BusterBossJR]

You mentioned that parenting is the biggest factor when it comes to the outcome of an individual person. Which makes me wonder what you think about the 50-0-50 rule in psychology stating that roughly 50% of who a person becomes is genetic, 0% is shared environment aka by parents and 50% is non-shared environment aka society and what happens outside the family. Is this a myth or do you just happen to disagree with it?

[@danielchu]

Great question buster! To be honest I had never heard of the 50-0-50 rule and I had to look it up. Honestly it is not something that is taught in school. The greater, more establish/accepted theories like attachment are taught they certainly put a huge emphasis on parenting. And if you think of your own life can you honestly say your parents and upbringing had 0% affect on how you turned out. But like I said I am ignorant of the rule so I could be wrong. Thanks for the comment and for watching!

[@BusterBossJR]

@@danielchu That makes sense, thanks! I had heard about it on other psychology channels so I assumed it was legit but now that you said it, there are other more popular theories contradicting it.

[@ryan2clw]

The older I get, the more I think the Arabs have the right idea.

[@Cricis11700]

They did!

[@triggerticker]

is not just the Arabs. Our ancestors knew what they were doing. If the western world truly respected the bible as arabs do the koran, we wouldn't be here.

[@nak.lanang]

Muslims

[@helgar791]

But only when it comes to intersexual dynamics.

[@courtneyharris1006]

stayin that for a while now. Don't let eve bite the apple...

[@jordanbrauer5719]

He mentions Evolution Psychology, but thanks to birth control women's brain chemistry have been restructured to date across and down, not up. Women are less attracted to the men they're with when they get off of it. Men also don't need a 6-7 figure salary to have and keep and family. It all comes down to choices and consequences.

[@danielchu]

Didn't know that about birth control! Thanks for watching Jordan!

[@drewmantia]

You should have an English major react to your title

[@danielchu]

Lol! Just changed it!

[@jaycarter8687]

U ain't say shit🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@danielchu]

Lol! Yeah someone else said that too. I'll say more in the future! Thanks for watching!

[@ColonialT7]

Your title should be effect not affect

[@danielchu]

You are right! Thanks! English was my second language. Blessings!

[@pete30simon]

Honestly, I didnt find this very helpful. There wasn't a lot of comments from you, nor in sight. Meaning, that this content, was pretty much all someone else's. Reaction videos can be misused, and its easy to leech off someone else's content. Make sure you provide enough content of your own. But I'll comment on the entire video: we shape our tools and our tools shape us. When you have a person enabled and even encouraged to make themselves/their own feelings top priority, then given the tools to do so with ease, given in mass... the old society model is fucked. Welcome to end of the old, and welcome to the beginning of the new.

[@danielchu]

I appreciate the feedback Pete! 🙏 I'll try and provide more thoughts and insight in future videos. Blessings!