Therapists, what is the worst patient you've had because of how messed up their childhood was?

[@williamparker7025]

The worst thing about this video is you know most of the people who did these things to these kids were not punished at all or hardly at all. We as a society need to stop this NOW.

[@dragonstooth4223]

100% this

[@HelloHello-y4w]

The only way to certainly stop it, is to stop breeding.

[@basnaspe4578]

I am sorry to hear all of this. Always remember, you are valuable. I wish you all the best. @@nharber9837

[@lilyklein9218]

@@nharber9837 I am so, so sorry to hear that It’s tough when they don’t take you seriously

[@jaimealbertoestradaparra6574]

A lot of these people were raised that way too

[@hollowinside9511]

28:30 as a victim of childhood sexual abuse, I appreciate that you are advocating against the censorship we face when talking about our struggles. SA and victim blaming are systemic issues, we cannot fight them if we cannot talk about them.

[@deepwaters7242]

❤ You share. Share warning signs, share things that help. Share ways that help you. When I found out as a worker how common it is, it made my stomach turn and cry for days. Best of luck, strength and patience for yourself and your healing. ❤

[@luckluca8982]

I think they are more like taboo issues than systemic. They aren't talked about because people don't like to acknowledge it

[@hollowinside9511]

@@luckluca8982 refusing to acknowledge the reality of what's happening is how you allow it to KEEP happening.

[@Natasha-A-Omega]

The censorship protects the monsters 😢

[@rebecca8866]

I'm a victim of childhood s.a. as well and I agree with you.

[@althealee9375]

My mom and dad volunteered at a mental health facility long before I was born. My dad once tried to encourage a 6 year old boy that it was time take a shower and the kid FREAKED. Tried to attack my 6’3” dad and didn’t calm down until someone suggested a bath instead. What NO ONE told my dad was that the kid’s dad would put him in the shower (it had a door), make the water scalding hot, and trap the kid in there

[@lilyklein9218]

Oh God, that is…well, awful is an understatement

[@EarthenCavy]

Oh, my heart…💔 WHY ARE PEOPLE SO FUCKING EVIL

[@deepwaters7242]

A lot of abuse happens in showers, basements and the bedroom at night. If those locations are regular triggers is something that mandated reporters watch out for.

[@Peppermintgrl4life]

I’m so mad at them!!!😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

[@TheEmerald524]

Mine was the opposite. I had a foster home that would grease the tub, fill it with scalding water and throw me in. When I got to the “family” that adopted/bought me, I would freak tf out over the steam. I climbed the “mother”, and refused to let go until she stood in the water to prove it wasn’t too hot.

[@terpsichorean26]

ScoobyDoo taught us: In the end, the real monsters are always humans.

[@tracywest2065]

So true!

[@Turttlekiller]

...broooo never thought of that.

[@Marilynn_1275]

Very true.

[@FAD4LIFE94]

Except that time it was zombies...

[@ThugOG30VIPs3rd-T]

Attack on Tit 😂

[@taropearl80]

not me clicking this to make sure my therapist didn't spill the tea

[@datjasminecat]

😭

[@mrrp_mrowp]

istg why is this relatable

[@fiftynineee]

No same lmao

[@softie_preppy5625]

same

[@q.U.i.T84726]

Did they 😂

[@NaniTaysha06]

In college I had a professor who was a social worker. He told us a story about a man who had a really sh*tty father growing up. One day the dad took the kid and their dog to the woods and purposefully stomped on the dog's back, breaking it. As the dog was writhing around in agony, the dad handed the kid a plastic bag and said "you're not going to let him suffer, are you?" And walked off. The kid had to suffocate his own dog to put him out of his misery. Just hearing that story traumatized me a bit. I can't imagine what it did to the kid.

[@BingQilin]

Reminds me of this ep of hoarders I watched where the hoarder was raised by a neo-nazi POS father who turned his pet bunny into a stew, *served it to him* , and then *laughed* at the kid's reaction like it was some like of twisted joke

[@PumpyGT]

That shitty father really just played it off like some sort of scripted moment in a drama show, which I think is absolutely deranged

[@lilyklein9218]

The poor kid He must feel so bad I just hope he doesn’t blame himself for his dog’s death.

[@charliebrown4799]

I really wish I hadn't read this

[@deepwaters7242]

​@BingQilin my best friend was fed her pet goat in a similar way.

[@redjoker365]

That detransition case is similar to one in the US where a quack doctor used a case where a one boy out of a set of twins had a botched circumcision and pushed to forcibly transition him into a girl. That doctor was trying to push research claiming that it was nurture over nature that determined gender, but he was also falsifying data like how the forcibly-transitioned child generally refused typical girl roles and toys and was more interested in things which generally drew boys' interests. He eventually found out, detransitioned, but unfortunately the mental toll of it all would lead him to take his own life

[@liamevans7661]

Yeah that case broke my heart. I never understood how people can see what happened to him, and still think people somehow can’t know their own gender identity.

[@Just_Joeee]

the bruce reimer case?

[@Saethyr]

​@liamevans1508 His transition was forced upon him, it wasn't his choice or decision.

[@redjoker365]

@@SaethyrI did say he was forcibly transitioned

[@redjoker365]

@@lindyt3942Yes, I had (un)fortunately forgotten that in the moment, but it compounded the abuse he inflicted on those boys

[@AutumnPearly01]

Trauma has the ability the heighten empathy or remove empathy altogether due to desensitization.

[@farahfawzy5413]

Underrated comment

[@jimbothegymbro7086]

for me it's strange, I flip flop between being too empathetic, and being heartless, I hate it

[@killuanatsume]

Can constent verbal bullying in elementary school and high school count as trauma? Because even though I am now 32 and it happened a long time ago I still think about that constantly and I have sequels from that. Like: Trust issues, abandonment issues, insecurities, problems making friends and many other things. One of the things that stuck the most was that when I was 9 an other kid that was 8 at the time told me: ''How do you know your parents love you, you can't read their mind. Why would they love you'' Even to this day I think about that sometimes. An other time I brought a figurine in elementary school I found it completely in pieces after recess I was crying and an adult told me it was my fault for bringing it to school. In my last year of high school this girl spend every single day telling me I was ugly. This other girl told me, in the same year, ''And you why didn't you just end your life already'' Of course it's not as bad as the people of this list but it still stuck with you. So I was wondering if it can count as trauma?

[@DownBadAutistic]

​@@killuanatsume seems like you have PTSD, yeah. Wish you the best 👍

[@pennysimpson8942]

​@@killuanatsumeIt could be trauma, but that doesn't mean you're a slave to the effects of it. I wonder if you might be able to start letting go of the bullying if you start considering whether or not you actually felt loved by one or both of your parents. Too young, you were threatened by the idea that YOU might be unlovable. Now it's time to grapple with the idea that different people can feel different things about you. Now it's time to start considering WHO you feel loved by, and grow out of the idea that all humans have to feel the same about you. 🧡

[@rachaelvanronzelen943]

As someone who was severely abused as a child I would like to thank you for bringing awareness even if it is uncomfortable.

[@existentialchaos8]

I hope you’re in a better place now ❤️

[@jdmweeb8663]

Same here

[@cloudyfish1es]

hope u are doing well and hope u stay safe,,, wishing u the best!

[@forceofliving1504]

Same

[@myrealnameisharry49]

BAHAHAHAHAHHHHHHHHHHHHH SHUSSSSSHHHHH I HAD A ROUGH CHILDHOOD I WAS NOT ALLOWED TO SEE FRIENDS AND AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS

[@QuiranPup]

The undertone in this video is the saddest. Often the most fucked up cases have situations that it's almost impossible for victims to grow out of it, and there is pretty much nothing to lighten the burden for them. Let alone for them to start healing.

[@bottomofastairwell]

the worst part is how people will them basically blame you for being screwed up as an adult, because society has this idea that you're supposed to just get over it and "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" and all that shit. but like, HOW? how are people supposed to be successful and live normal lives when they're set up to fail from the start?

[@reneelibby4885]

and they are judged for being unlikable or not trying hard enough. ugh. the wrong therapist makes you worse.

[@GR1NDMOD22]

@@bottomofastairwellI had the same problem with my grandma since my mom left me when I was 5, she basically said that I should I be over it by now. She also doesn’t believe I have borderline personality disorder

[@IPromiseTomorrow]

@@reneelibby4885 honestly

[@IPromiseTomorrow]

@@bottomofastairwell People just don't understand trauma and victims. I was 23 and talking to someone younger than me, after i talked about my trauma which has honestly stopped me from interacting with people, he just said "But you're an adult, you are independent." "Huh?" It's confusing to me, implying that past experience and family troubles don't exist after turning "18". I didn't talk much after that, and didn't mention anything around that anymore, turns out the kid is an adult now and is having trouble himself, a natural occurrence. His parent's must've taught him otherwise, im rambling here. But his family is Jewish, and they disowned his jewish title. Because he was dating a non-jewish girl for a time. I can't imagine how toxic his family is, not all jews are bad but his family is holding him back.

[@vampyrelilith]

The first video... I had to watch as my moms drug dealer boyfriend grabbed my kitten i found, break his neck, and throw his little body to dogs who then mauled the kitten until his organs fell out. I was 7 or 8 years old. I can remember screaming holding him until he took his last breath. Im 30 and it still destroys me. I've had many other horrible things happen to me, including CSA just before this incident, and I'd rather deal with that over watching my only friend get murdered in front of me. It broke me and to this day I have issues with people and lacking empathy for a majority of humans. Now animals.... I'll lay my life on the line for them. Humans.... Naaaaaaaaah!

[@christianpalmer]

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

I am so sorry and I agree. More compassion for animals instead of people.

[@williamparker7025]

That guy should have been locked up for many years. Sadly its more likely someone who used a crop on a horse would be charged and punished before he would with how messed up our legal system is

[@unionunicorn6776]

This brought me to tears. I’m so so so sorry. I saw a post about someone killing a kitten once (it was uploaded to MySpace before censoring things like that was standard) and I was so disturbed by it I cried for a whole week about the poor abused kitten. I can only imagine what that was like for you to witness firsthand. I hope you will one day reunited with your kitten friend in heaven. I believe spirits (even animal spirits) are never gone for good. I hope your Kitty friend comes and visits you in a dream and lets you know they still exist on another plane of existence, they don’t blame you at all for their death, and that they love you and miss you. ❤

[@karinadelgadillo8798]

I’m so sorry that happened to you ☹️ and you had to witness that. That’s terrible. I send you so much loveZ

[@leaflet1686]

I am very glad my parents "just" ignored me and my issues as soon as I became a weird teenager. Teachers also ignored my issues and schoolmates bullied me into oblivion. I am now 25 and have the self confidence of a queen. I will never be like before. I will always need medication to keep me stable. But it is ok. I am autistic, it turns out, and I deserved nothing of this. I am a good kid and I will do great one day. I have no emotional bonds to my family, but my friends mean everything to me.

[@Shripadarajamsharanamprapadye]

Omg I'm dealing with the same situation I'm 17, can you give me some tips for becoming confident too?

[@leaflet1686]

@@ShripadarajamsharanamprapadyeSure! Ok first of all you need to understand the basics. You are a human! Just like everyone else! Being different doesn't make you bad! It makes you you! For example: I LOOOVVVEEEE Pokémon. So I own it. Oh it's just for kids? Well a bunch of adults created it! Same with all the other things deemed for kids only: A bunch of adults got together, liked the idea and boom! New things for me to enjoy. Next you need to realise, that you are full of faults, mistakes and stupid decisions. Because you are a human. But guess what? You can learn and improve. BECAUSE YOU ARE A HUMAN HURRAY! And lastly: You own the world! You can do whatever the f*ck you want and who is telling you who can't? Wanna learn a new language? Do it, nothing is stoping you! Learning how to build fireworks? YT has videos for that! You can do whatever you want :3 Your live is in your hands and your hands only. Once you saved those 3 things in your heart, the confidence will come from alone. Because by then you know exactly, who you are and what you want!

[@Shripadarajamsharanamprapadye]

@@leaflet1686omgg thanks for replying and those 3 tips make me a bit optimistic about my future 😭😭 also have a nice day!! I'm sure you're the type to make a bad say better from how you sound so keep going with it!!

[@leaflet1686]

@@ShripadarajamsharanamprapadyeYour future will be going great, so don't worry to much about it. Just work hard and take plenty of self care hours. You're going to be just fine!

[@Masatisan]

This sounds so much like me. I'm only getting worse though because my response to my situation was to dissociate from my emotions. I have yet to process any of it or learn how to just be in the moment, I'm trying but nothing is working and no one believes how much I'm struggling because I'm almost never visibly distressed.

[@_frggie_1021]

My therapist told me my own story was one of the worst ones she heard. This is because my mothers form of punishment instead of making me or my siblings sit in timeout or something was to put us in solitary confinement. For weeks at a time. She would take everything out of our rooms and then lock us in. The other siblings weren’t allowed to acknowledge the one in solitary. This started when we were toddlers and lasted until our teens. The longest any of us spent in solitary was 2 months.

[@Epikatlover]

I'm sorry to hear that hope your doing better now.

[@echowolf22]

That's horrific. It's so well documented that solitary confinement is harmful for adults, for a kid in that age span I can't word how much more harmful it would be. I'm so sorry that you and your siblings went through that.

[@test_subject_usa5017]

I am sorry you & your siblings experienced this. I have a question based on genuine curiosity and mean no offense or insensitivity. Do you feel experiencing this particular situation (considering it being punishment or not) resulted in any positives for you long term? (Basically did it make you stronger or better able to handle some things that most others seem to really struggle with or give you a more mature outlook on some things most others seem to have less developed understandings of?)

[@МистерТвистер-л6ф]

I envy every single kid in this video and in the comments since they can do whatever they want and will be excused because of how bad their childhood was. I'm a teen and my parents are some golden people. How do i punish myself enough to be as good of a person as you all are?

[@MisatoBestWoman]

...This video left me seething angry, at the ..'parents' who treated their children in the worst way possible, but also breaks my heart, at the children who were ruined by their PARENTS. I genuinely hope the 'parents' receive their judgement. Story 16 reminds me of the Canadian case of David Reimer he was born a male but due to a botched circumcision he was then 'raised' as a female, I'm not doing the case justice in this comment. The whole story was an absolute mess and sadly iirc David is gone. It was used as inspiration for a Law & Order SVU Episode. The true case is a horrifying disgrace on so many levels. David deserved so much more.

[@zombinosh]

Both brothers have now passed.

[@MisatoBestWoman]

@@zombinosh I had read that it’s tragic

[@charlotteice5704]

About bringing awareness to these stories: I had a fairly suboptimal and traumatizing childhood (not nearly as bad as the stories in this thread though), so violence amd abuse are natural parts of life to me. One time at work, we were joking about being violent in conflicts and I said "nonviolent conflict resolution?that's not how I learnt it at home!" and my boss was shocked and asked me in a very serious tone "really?" - "yep" - "wow, I thought those times were long gone." he answered (I'm 20 and he is 50). I was surprised that violence is a topic so far from reality for him, but honestly, I'm just happy for him that he did not have to endure violence, and it shows. He is one of the nicest, most psychologically resolved and resilient people I know. To all the people saying they turmed out fine in spite of the violence and that we shouldn't complain: you did not turn out fine. Instead of being aware of your problems, you pass them on.

[@uzmaahmed.catmoon]

I agree entirely!!!

[@Highlighter362]

If it helps anyone, as someone who was abused as a child and has been suicidal, the kindness from people does help. Whether it's during the trauma or after. I still remember the teacher who was kind to me during an anxiety attack, the friends parents who gave me the ability to go out and do stuff, the nurses who tried to help. The little people who did those little things matter and are remembered. Whether they end up dead or not, it mattered to just make the day a tiny bit better, more safe, more comfortable, less alone.

[@justanothercomment]

That's what being on this planet is all about, the kindness we share with one another. Maybe in the grand scheme, a small act of love means nothing. But to another person, it could mean _everything._ So love and care for your fellow humans! We're all in this crazy, crule, wonderful, turbulent existance together. I'm glad (from what it sounds like) your worst times are behind you btw. Sending love, hugs, and strength to you, fellow human 🫂

[@thatvaultgirl1018]

Sometimes, I wish there was a way to volunteer at places like the orphanage for abused children and just be with them. Not get them to talk about anything, not to try and diagnose them or anything. But to just be a regular adult who comes by and plays with toys with them, colors with them, asks about their favorite color, or even just sits in the room quietly while they stare at the wall just so they have a bit of company. They know why the therapists and doctors want to talk to them. It would probably be nice to have someone who is there to just be with them. It would probably be a good way to foster good relationships with adults and caretakers, but the possibilities for abuse or to accidentally mess with their ability to form attachments/give them abandonment issues is so strong.

[@Fvntime]

Probably should need a test to see if the volunteer would be bad or good

[@LamanKnight]

I don't know about what resources are available wherever you live, but off the top of my head, Big Brothers Big Sisters is supposed to be something a little like that --- an organization that screens volunteers, and pairs them up with children who just need a good mentor to love them. I also know that when I worked as a respite care worker for children with special needs, that was kind of my role:just be a regular adult who cares about those kids and lets them know they can be safe and be loved with you. For that matter, working as a camp counsellor was largely the same thing. (I still think about a lot of those kids, and the families they were cursed with. I hope they're ok now.) So, organizations for these caring roles do exist --- they're just not always easy to find. Even worse, sometimes the tragedies are happening just beyond your reach, or just beyond your sight. Usually, the best you can do is find what needs exist near you, and try to help as you can. It's something, at least.

[@rheannagold6620]

I’d like this job where do I sign up 😢

[@izzywox8246]

@@rheannagold6620it’s not a job you’d get paid for

[@batmansmith7422]

You’d have to screen out predators

[@naomisennett4081]

This... unfortunately reminds me a lot about my own childhood. I had a bad childhood, and still suffer from problems today, but the things these kids went through... it sounds so much worse for them. From one broken kid to another, my heart goes out to anyone who has been affected by childhood abuse in any way.

[@unionunicorn6776]

❤❤❤

[@geoisacat]

Stories like these are one of the reasons I strive to work in the mental health field. I want to help people and make a difference, even a small one. I'm currently studying to go into art therapy, and hope that I can do a lot of good for a lot of people. Mental health is important y'all. Make sure to check up on your friends and loved ones, one small gesture to show you care can make a huge difference in someone's life

[@dyalisix]

same

[@prittyflutterbystar]

Sounds like you're going in the right field! We need compassionate people like you working with the vulnerable people. ❤

[@fakebobbyhill296]

Stories like this make me not want to go to get treatment because these “professionals” have big mouths and can’t keep a secret from literally any random person asking them questions. I don’t care if you didn’t use my name. The last thing I want, is to click on a random youtube video and hear the worst details of my life out there for everyone to hear, forever.

[@ombrenightcores]

Please, please, please go through with Art Therapy. I don’t think many people realize how much of a difference art and music therapy make

[@goldenagenut]

Thanks for including the story about being traumatized by nature. That's something I believe is mostly not thought about in general but absolutely, experiencing a natural disaster could be incredibly traumatizing.

[@mediocrebankai]

As a Louisiana native it reminded me of what happened with Katrina down here. Horrific.

[@Thicknesswithaquickness]

Sonoma County California… made me think of the fires out here a while back.

[@melodymastache3401]

I relate and understand so many of these stories but also feel comforted that my abuse didn't ever get this bad. The way this kind of abuse destroys you is horrifying. I find this video strangely healing.

[@the_monolith5]

Ended up abused as a toddler locked in a restroom with the lights off, starved, and beaten. Later throughout my childhood I broke my left collarbone multiple times. Ended up training in martial arts, and learned self control. Barely saw my dad. Mom was homeless. I lived with my grandparents.

[@G.S.87]

I'm glad that despite the horrific abuse that you endured as a defenseless child. That you were able to not only survive but thrive in spite of it. Props to you for everything that you've been able to accomplish. And hopefully you continue to succeed in every dream that you have.

[@the_monolith5]

@@G.S.87 thank you it’s been a long road, and I still continue to train even though I have no intention in joining the ufc, army, or any other thing that involves combat. I have been able to hold a job, and function as an adult. I have moved out of my family’s place in 2021. Paid off 2 camper, and maintain rent/ bills. I adopted a pit bull lab dog, and find it difficult to maintain romantic relationships due to night terrors. I want to write a book, but I am not sure where to start.

[@the_monolith5]

@@G.S.87 also thank you for taking the time to read this comment. My name translates to victorious warrior, so maybe it was pre destined.

[@cedarfleeger5924]

Story 16 is actually the lived experience for many intersex people, but the fact that this baby just didn't have a penis the doctors thought was big enough is next level. I think the medical system does changes like these on babies less often now, but I'm sure it still does happen all too often. While trans folks can struggle to get the care we need, intersex children have it decided for them. Different sides of the same coin, but both ruin lives. Don't decide people's genders and sexes for them.

[@pyrodoll7137]

thank you for this comment, I was going to say it and I saw that you put it far more succinctly than I could have. Unfortunately in present day at least in my country this still happens all the time. I know that the parents and doctors probably believe they're making the "right decision" and maybe that they are "eliminating confusion later in life" but all too often it does more harm than good to make that decision for a child before they've grown into who they will be. Intersex kids are just as normal as everyone else and they should be allowed to grow and understand themselves before any surgical decisions are made

[@BunnyJosuke]

Literally this. People who need this care to save their lives have no access to it, yet someone naturally is born with a unique sex trait and they *have* to CHOOSE one for them, and force reassignment surgery on a CHILD. Does this not ring a bell? 🛎️

[@DanaTheInsane]

My mom thought I was effeminate so she put testosterone in my food when I was growing up she was a medication nurse and it wasn’t a controlled substance yet I still transitioned. But thanks to her I have to undergo some very difficult things in society that I might not have had to.

[@DanaTheInsane]

@@BunnyJosuke nobody forces reassignment on trans kids they don’t do reassignment on trans kids but somehow they do it on intersex kids and that’s perfectly all right for some reason they won’t explain.

[@BunnyJosuke]

@@DanaTheInsane I'm not talking about trans kids getting surgery I'm talking about a grown adult being able to just have the choice to get that surgery. And yet there are intersex babies born that doctors or parents choose the gender of, thus giving them a sex reassignment procedure. But yes I agree it's fucked, and I understand no access to hrt to children but I don't see an issue with something like t blockers, can always stop taking those, wearing appropriately sized binders and changing clothing and other appearance aesthetics. All of these things too depend on the age/maturity of the child, readiness to take on responsibility and whether it's really right for them! Coming from a NB afab person with top surgery and took t for a while, I seriously wish there was more education on this in school so I wasn't so confused for so long.

[@bottomofastairwell]

regarding children and their "ability to love," it's actually really sad. at one point in my life i wanted to be a teacher, so i went to college for that, which means i've taken a fair amount of childhood psychology and development classes. and the thing about how abused children will STILL love their parents, despite what can be horrific abuse, it's not so much an ability to love, as is it that children are biologically hardwired to form an attachment to their primary caregivers. it's not like how baby birds imprint, but for all intents and purposes, it might as well be. because as babies, and then young children, we're wholly dependent upon our caregivers to meet our needs, both physically and emotionally. and our caregivers as young children are the ones who give us all of our information about the world. i mean think about it, you could easily teach a 2 year old that the sky is green, and they would grow up believing that, because where else are they going to get their information from? and because of what the brain of a child is doing developmentally during those early years, whatever they learn as young children pretty much becomes hardwired into them, like it becomes the basis for all the rest of their programming, if you will. so when it comes to abusive parents, children are pretty much programmed by their own neuro development to attach themselves to their caregivers, to "love" them, to seek those people out for all their needs, both physical and emotional. so when a child has normal emotional needs like love and a sense of safety, the people they're going to seek out to get those needs met are their parents. and when those parents DON'T meet those needs, a child will learn from that. They'll learn that the world is an unsafe place, that they are unsafe, that their needs will go unmet, and that there's nothing they can do about it (because there isn't anything they can do as young children). and yet they will STILL continually seek those people out to have their emotional needs met. but the constant neglect and not getting their needs met ends up interfering with normal, healthy emotional development, and that's where you get trauma. You get kids who don't know what's normal or appropriate and what's not, so they act out the same behaviors they learned at home, because that's what they've been taught. you get children who don't feel safe or secure even into adulthood, who have learned that they weren't ever "worthy" of being loved properly, so they sabotage even healthy relationships because they don't think they deserve healthy relationships. you get people who continually re-enact the same patterns of behavior that they grew up with, who seek out the same types of abusive people as partners, because their brains are subconsciously trying to "fix" what was broken by re-enacting it and getting it right this time (except it doesn't work that way). you get kids who grow up into adults but still hold all the same screwed up and tragic core beliefs about themselves, like how they aren't good enough. and you get people so screwed up because of their unhealthy development that it takes YEARS and years to work through all that trauma and re-wire their brains and heal. and unfortunately, some kids grow up so badly damaged, with no intervention when it's critically necessary, and no resources to deal with their trauma in their adulthood, that they never get the chance to recover or embark on their healing journeys. the sad truth is, that because kids are wired to love their primary caregivers no matter what, that very facet of their attachment and development ends up being part of what traumatizes them so much.

[@andreacarolina221]

just wanted to say you are absolutely right, this is why it is so important to teach children that they should love themselves above anyone else

[@witchywoman4139]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful, insightful response, and you are so right. What we know as "love" isn't always actually love in its true sense, because its expression has been so distorted by our care-givers, by the people who supposedly love us the most. I've heard reference a few times to "love language," ie, learning how to recognize the love present behind someone's actions and words. I'm learning to apply that to my controlling mother, seeing how much of what I consider to be her abusive behavior is really a distorted form of love. That's not to say that all abuse has love at its core, because that's certainly not the case. It's only to point out how even expressions of love can be distorted into a form of abuse, and how important it is for people to recognize this and learn (and hopefully experience) what REAL love and caring truly is. Thanks so much for sharing!

[@liciewhiteley7376]

If you tried to be a friend the child will remember the good you gave them. Sometimes there is too much hurt to overcome

[@fuinn9876]

As a parent I could never imagine doing any of this to my kids I love my kids and I would die to protect them from anyone who wants to harm them

[@bodaciousbroski8150]

Man, relate to a lot of this stuff. Sometimes I get into this mindset that I'm alone and nobody else can fathom what ive been through. Videos like these are important and remind severe child abuse victims like myself that were not alone.

[@BoxOKittens]

I used to have incidents when I casually talked about my horrible father or messed up family, and quickly learned that it's best to just not bring those things up in normal company.

[@frostfamily5321]

There should be a law against helping that stay a societal norm, amirite?

[@AdrieneTheDarkestHorse]

@@frostfamily5321 YESSSSSSSSSSS PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@unionunicorn6776]

I unfortunately had to learn the same thing, that people who have just heard about what I’ve been through get negatively affected by it, and every time I can’t help but think, “if you’re this upset about just hearing it, try living it” 💔

[@ritaerror7829]

@@unionunicorn6776General question, how should someone react when you tell them those things? is there some "right way" to act? And if yes, can you please give an specific example?

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

@@ritaerror7829I would say the right way to act is just not make it a big deal. Say “man that sucked” and move on. I don’t get why people have to make everything so weird.

[@TP-nx7uf]

This is why I feel bad for such a stigma surrounding mental illness, you often hear so much negativity about cluster B disorders, especially narcissistic and borderline, like the people were actually born like this and chose to be this way. 98% of the time they are caused by severe trauma and the disorder is a coping mechanism that the nature created to protect these kids sanity. It´s easy to look at someone with NPD and say they are evil, but to be ablo to see them as humans with mental illness is something most people can´t do. It´s hard because they inflict pain on others, but at the same time this is because someone else inflicted the same, maybe even worse pain on them. It´s a tragedy of a human life, not evil.

[@DownBadAutistic]

You're right, BPD and NPD as well as the other cluster B disorders are caused by severe trauma. I have BPD, glad to see somebody who doesn't think we're evil 😅

[@parvathi2525]

Not everyone. There are many cluster b that acts evil without any trauma. That's straight up evil and causing trauma for others. I know from my immediate family Only a small portion of it is actually trauma induced. If it's so, you can correct it to an extent. In the other way, it's impossible. They won't stop being evil. Again I don't think that everyone that shows symptoms are actually evil. They are victims that need alot of healing...

[@sarahmaxima]

"their reality was too much for me." That hit way too close to home. I have been throug some horrible shit (CSA, physical and mental abuse, i remember i was forced to eat my own puke one time) and often notice that while i can talk about it now other people cant. Sometimes I say something i think is normal and have people look at me with so much pitty in their eyes and i yet again realize another thing i think was normal is clearly messed up. Edit: story 16: this is horrible. I am trans myself. What happend to that man is absolutly disgusting.

[@StormTheSquid]

Nobody should ever have to live as a gender they don't identify with. I want to clip that entire story and use it to explain how I feel and why I feel a *need* to be treated as a girl, but I also realize that anyone who I'd need to explain that to would also probably just use it as "AH LOOK THEY'RE FORCING KIDS TO BE TRANS" completely ignoring the freaking point. It's so... Frustrating.

[@sarahmaxima]

@@StormTheSquid exactly. What that man went through is horrible and it is clear as day. For us it can be just as horrible.

[@Polopony20.]

if anything that story just PROVES that being trans is a thing and that you cant force someone to identify as another sex because your brain KNOWS what chemistry it has, even if your genitalia doesnt match!

[@WilliamBrowning]

🏳️‍⚧SOLIDARITY!🏳️‍⚧and LOVE!🏳️‍🌈from Texas!

[@solgaleo3533]

@@StormTheSquidExactly. Forcing someone to be something they’re not is traumatic, but they can’t possibly see that.

[@beccas.7762]

It's stories like these that reinforces my knowledge that I am not mother material. Not that I would be abusive or neglectful, but I firmly believe that I don't have the lifestyle that is compatible with being the best parent possible. I do not want to make those sacrifices.

[@shadowmomma]

I desperately wanted children, but my lifestyle was such that I decided I would not be a good parent, so I avoided pregnancy. Now I am too old for kids, and I am a great dog parent. I’m so grateful I knew not to have kids.

[@miaomiaochan]

I'm the same way. I just wish society didn't view us as selfish for choosing not to become parents.

[@silentshadow2957]

The story 5 minutes in is a lot like my older sister's experience... My dad (her stepdad) was abusing her. She would go days without pooping and started having accidents in school. Yep. It's awful that this happens and being younger than her, I never understood it. I'm so sorry that I didn't know sooner. Awful.

[@MissTikka]

My aunt and uncle fostered severely disabled children when I was younger. (Both amazing humans who had masses of excess love to give) they got this adorable little boy about 7-8 who was mostly none verbal. His birth parents were both addicted to heroin and had been locking him in a rabbit hutch when he wasn’t being sold to the local child molester for drug money. He was removed because the molester was caught for another child related crime and confessed to his visits with this poor little boy. When my aunt and uncle got him he had never seen a tomato or banana and quickly fell in love with both fruits. Mum and dad were jailed for (I believe) less than 5 years and both went on to have more children (my uncle keeps tabs on them) the little boy is now a very happy young man who adores his adopted mum and dad more than life! He gets the BEST of everything and is thriving! -they adopted him when he was about 9-10. And I’m happy to say he’s a very loved and valued member of our family. Being none verbal it’s hard to know exactly how much he remembers but his reaction to seeing a rabbit hutch suggests he remembers a lot!

[@unicatsrdabest]

To anyone who needs to hear this today. Your loved I love you Im here for you Its okay Everything in the end will be ok Feel free to vent in the reply comments

[@existentialchaos8]

So I’m neurodivergent and when my brother does annoying things directed at me, I get easily bothered and distracted, and my mom knows this. Though, she acts like this is somehow my fault and that I should just not get distracted. Yesterday, while we were watching a movie and there was this fight scene. And, my mom was explaining to me how this is a situation where I would need focus to win, and that if I don’t I would be put at a disadvantage. (basically explaining to me why I need to focus). Like, I live through this everyday and I know better than anyone what problems can come out of this. What are you trying to achieve out of telling me this? This still infuriates me.

[@unicatsrdabest]

@@existentialchaos8 I understand. I'm nerodivergent too.

[@existentialchaos8]

@@unicatsrdabest :D

[@shadowmomma]

Thank you. You made me cry. I feel seen.

[@TayWoode]

Vent in the comments and youtube cowardly deletes them like they do with every other comment

[@jaelmao2214]

the worst thing abt childhood trauma is realizing how much it really fucked u up. i’m 21 and just now realizing how many things stem from my parents’ neglect

[@calrey]

Story 11. There's really no guarantee that adoption would go well, unfortunately. I was adopted as a baby to a couple that looked amazing on paper and appeared loving the first few years. Once I was in 1st grade though it all went down hill. I was abused on multiple levels by my adoptive "parents." I barely survived my early 20s. I know many other adoptees who have had similar experiences. Adoption agencies don't properly screen people. They just follow the money because, to adoption agencies, money=love.

[@test_subject_usa5017]

Story 16 made me spontaneously burst into tears because it made me so happy. The pastor the individual consulted truly did have a gift and was doing Light Work or God’s Work. It is RARE you hear of religious affiliations being unbiased & playing a positive role in cases involving gender or sexual preference. The man then becoming a pastor himself who will most likely try to be of similar impact as the pastor who helped him moved me even more. It is so awesome to learn of wonderful happenings like this when for me it honestly feels like the world is losing hope and genuinely kind, good people and intentions seem almost nonexistent. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@SuperBluejewels]

It's truly heartbreaking to hear stories like these, especially the one involving her father who gave her drugs as a child . This shows the importance of understanding and compassion towards those who are homeless or struggling with addiction. We never know the deep-seated trauma they may have faced in their lives.

[@МистерТвистер-л6ф]

But that's so unfair! I envy every one of these people since they can do whatever they want and will be excused because of their childhood. My parents are perfect, they won't punish me even when i ask. How do i punish myself enough to become like the kids from these stories?

[@nath-ure]

In my country, France, 1 in every 10 kids is victim from incest. That's huge. And the government is clearly not doing enough to stop that, and help the kids. We got a green line for pedocriminals before we got one for women suffering from domestic violence! I was abused as a kid, and even though I don't remember it (traumatic amnesia, and third-degree dissociative disorder, my brain's way of saving itself) I still suffer the consequences. I know so many around me who suffered from abusive adults and/or from kids their age and often older, but I've never heard of one actually getting justice. Also according to France's laws, you're supposed to forgive your abuser after xx years, as in "it's been too much time since it happened, so now you can't legally put in a complaint". Thank you for talking about this, for sharing our experiences (big thanks for talking about intersex kids too!)

[@ThingInTheHall]

That's horrrible. I would make a "Explains a lot about French Royalty" joke, but it really isn't a good place. I don't actually know if it's actually true, and it's also really not appropriate.

[@UniqueUnova]

Yeah the data is true, is from a french activists institution against the banalization of incest in that society

[@draculinalilith396]

think about how these therapists are effected just HEARING the situations. Now think about going through it, truly unimaginable.

[@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness]

Not a therapist, but the worst story i've heard is that of Genie. She's what's referred to as a "Wild Child," though she has more commonly been nicknamed "The Forbidden Experiment." Why? Because when the authorities found her, she would barely walk, couldn't eat solid food, drooled everywhere, was incontinent, and could not speak. She was so malnourished they thought she was 8 years old. She was actually 14. None of this behavior was due to any birth defects or physical developmental delays - she didn't have Down's or cerebral palsy or anything like that. She was born perfectly healthy and normal. All of her behavior, her lack of development, was a result of the most severe abuse anyone had ever seen. I'm not describing it here because it was just that bad. Look it up if you wish, but don't say I didn't warn you. Finding her was akin to finding a child who had been raised by wolves. Hence, "wild child." Genie was of interest to scientists because her situation posed one of science's unanswerable questions: at what age is a child no longer able to acquire language? We still don't know the answer to that question, but we do know that whatever age it actually is, Genie was past it. She did learn to speak under the scientists' care, but not to the degree of you and i. She hit a roadblock. Sadly, the story of Genie does not have a happy ending. Once the research money dried up, she was given to the foster system. One of the families beat her for vomiting, and after that she never spoke again. Her development once again stagnated. If she is still alive today, she is being held in a special care facility.

[@GiordanDiodato]

omg. the system failed her so many times.

[@liamevans7661]

@@GiordanDiodatoAbused kids learn young that adults only ever care when they have something to gain for doing so 😢

[@xragdoll5662]

I’d like to correct you when it comes to the “what age is a child no longer able to acquire language”, it’s called the critical learning period which they were trying to prove/disprove. I feel like genie could’ve gotten so much better if her mother legally had no say in her life given that she let the abuse go on and never took her away from Susan Curtiss who still to this day fights to get in contact. I know the story like the back of my hand, she was done dirty

[@axehead45]

Well that was one of the worst things I’ve ever read. Thank you for enlightening me At least as far as we know she’s now doing fine as of 2016 (years ago I know but still)

[@sparklepugtea]

These are truly heart shattering. These are our children, our future. They are some of most innocent and precious souls on earth. We are supposed to protect them, and this is what happens

[@mora_007]

I think the value of this video is priceless. Be kind to the next person you meet...you dont know what they've been through.

[@sparrowhawk_lastname]

Thank you for choosing to cover the story about the man who was forcibly reassigned to female. (Despite what the OP said, it is likely that he was intersex, as having ambiguous/atypical parts only on the outside is a type of intersex.) The medical abuse of intersex children is a real and serious issue, and I appreciate you choosing to bring it up. It is not very well known, and it's often swept under the rug because it's seen as fixing a birth defect, rather than subjecting young children to surgeries and penetration to make their parts more normal. Medical abuse is still abuse, and people shouldn't be given medically unnecessary surgery without consent.

[@mrsnayarlhats4242]

It's so sad these parents would abuse they're children in horrendous ways it makes me hate this planet even more and it makes me have a distaste for humanity

[@williamparker7025]

people think they are doing good by allowing everyone the "right" to have children not matter what

[@awg7068]

I worked as a patient sitter for a very large metro hospital. My very first patient was a 7 year old girl who had been smekuly abused, and decided to unalive herself. She was found hanging by her neck, but was saved in barely the nick of time. The sitting job was to keep her from unaliving herself until there was a psyche bed, and to prevent the mother from coming to collect her. I sat with her for a couple of weeks, and she was a very dear little girl, all the hospital staff agreed. She still tried to unallive herself again, using an electrical cord, and despite the intermediary counseling she was getting. They finally got her a bed at a psychiatric facility. I occasionally wonder if she was ever ok.

[@R3y1sg4yl0l]

All kids deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids

[@Alrune18]

as a current psych student working toward becoming and adhd and autism therapist because I wasn't given the grace that I needed growing up for my mental health needs. this information is vital so that people understand how bad they treat people matters and have long reaching effects.

[@northernbelle7020]

I have one. I knew a family that abused their daughters in some of the most unimaginable ways. At 10 and 12 the girls were hooked on cocaine, and if they didn’t do as their mother demanded… namely selling themselves to the various men that came through.. they were denied their fix. CPS was called, cops were called, but in the interest of not separating families, (natives) the girls were left in place until they were 14 and 16. They were finally taken by the authorities. Made me so sick.

[@unionunicorn6776]

That’s absolutely horrendous to keep them in a “home” like that. Absolutely heartbreaking. 😢💔

[@northernbelle7020]

@@unionunicorn6776 it was unconscionable.

[@PumpyGT]

Horrid authorities

[@tashumbriamiller]

Got 7 minutes and and had to nope out. Starting reading the comments and had to stop. This proves how needed this topic is. And to all of you who had to suffer during your precious building years I am truly, truly sorry. I wish it had never happened to anyone including you, yes you, and I cry in my sould for every pain you had to endure. You made it. You are alive. You are strong.

[@throneisbed7833]

I will always have a deep empathy for "troubled" children. I myself wasn't horribly abused in my past or anything, but I was bullied constantly at school pretty much from the moment I stepped into kindergarten all the way until my bully left the school when I was in grade 6 or 7 (one of those private christian schools that does preschool all the way to yr 12), and my parents never did anything the times I tried to say something, which led to some pretty bad anger issues I took out on my little brother. That's when my parents took notice and didn't respond in the ways one would hope parents would react when a six-year-old is having a "temper tantrum", and let's just say I've grown to go on alert every time someone calls me by my full deadname because historically, it's never meant good things. I'm better with my anger issues now, but it took quite the journey to get there and even now, it's still a struggle, and I'm almost twenty. So when I see these stories and examples of these kids acting out like that, being violent or antisocial or shy or whatever, I always just wish the best for them.

[@doannad.1518]

Thank you for tackling a topic that is so often avoided

[@Vi_Vi_1]

I agree that these types is stories are important. As someone who survived abuse and domestic violence growing up, I find people without that kind of history often outright do not believe some of abuse people have survived, because they simply cannot fathom the depths of cruelty and evil some people are capable of. Stories like this help them realize that humans can be so, so evil, often to their own children. And it helps survivors when others understand the struggle, because it gives us more people we can talk to, plus it raises awareness about abuse so people can be more alert and report it/avoid falling into these situations themselves. It's so important to talk about, even though it hurts.

[@blue_moon6490]

I think these stories are important for people to understand how mental illness happens. Maybe it will help erase some of the stigma. Thank you. 💚

[@Campushadow]

I'm pausing the video at 12 minutes because it's hard. I'm going to continue the video because it's worth it.

[@Campushadow]

I finished the video and it was worthwhile. Today, my found family picked up one of our friends from the psychiatric hospital. He's one of the sweetest people I know, but he's afraid his abuser will hurt someone else if the abuser is allowed to live. It's not my story to share, but I don't blame my friend. I just don't want him to lose his freedom or his life because of the monster who raised him.

[@yellowishgreendragon.-.]

My current therapist told me I have the worst history out of all his clients in 30 years. It might sound unprofessional, but it really helped me to stop trying to tell myself that my experience "wasn't that bad".

[@Lampe2020]

Hearing about twisted stuff like this happening really makes me appreciate my own childhood, which was partially in poverty but always in the hands of caring family.

[@moonstar_draws6283]

Unfortunately some of my relatives who grew up on farms had pretty bad childhoods. A lot of them liked cats, but servers times they were forced to drown kitten when they were under 10 years old. It really messed them up and as a fellow cat and animal lover I can’t even imagine how traumatic that would be.

[@Redrubysapphire12]

As someone thats gone through SA and grooming as a young teen, it still tears my heart out to hear other peoples stories of abuse especially when its done from the parents that were supposed to love them but instead subjected them to such depravity and cruelty. Personally i could only stomach about two minutes of the video but its good to spread this awareness, so thank you. Its an devastating topic, to know both children and animals get abused in horrible ways just to satisfy those fucked up adults sick pleasures. I remember once, a situationship i had, and she had shared a video of her trauma revolving her uncle forcing the dog on her while he and his adult friends watched. It shocked me so much, i only saw about a three seconds but that was enough to send me into a panic attack. She wanted me to see it, but the fact she still had the video, although she was now 26 and not 15 like in the video still chokes me up. How severe her pain must be that she holds onto such a video and the fact she wanted someone else to see it, just so she could heal? It was absolutely fucked up and the details she had told me about the trauma was so much worse but i still cant ever bring myself to touch on those details, let alone say them even in written form. I do believe her trauma was severe, probably worse than my own despite being groomed, this one just...haunts me to this day. How she was punished, how she was subjected to more if she didnt do what they wanted...i know its stilk hust a part of the story of her trauma, how there must be worse horrors too and that just makes me so sick to my stomach. Same with these trauma stories, theyre all a piece of their horror in their life and i wonder how hard it was for them to grow up through such gruelling childhoods. No adult deserves that so why should a child have to?

[@wolfishmass]

Actually gonna sit this one out - Really appreciate that you're using content warnings :)

[@Frognymphthing]

It’s just heartbreaking that people had to actually go through this

[@peachesscales4782]

I was a victim of a step grandperv, I was only 12 at the time and I was too scared to tell my parents about what was happening and he paid us hush money. Fast forward after more traumas with abusive relationships, trying to end my own life 3 times, and giving my life to christ, I met the most amazing guy last year and as badly as I wish to be closer.. mentally I just can't handle it. Even tho he's assured me that he won't do anything to me without my consent, I still end up on edge-- I always wonder where I would be now if I hadn't been abused like that. Maybe I'd be happily married, and not a scared asexual woman in her 30s worried every man is only being nice to hurt me in some form. The scars in the mind are the least likely to heal fully, we're working on our relationship but it's been so hard that I go into PTSD attacks when even snuggled up close. Come to find out that side of the family is littered with similar incidents, family curses are real.

[@basnaspe4578]

It is important for you to remember that none of this your fault. You don't have to justify yourself.

[@peachesscales4782]

@@basnaspe4578 I know it wasn't my fault now, but back then. My teenage brain blamed me, and I lived every single day with the guilt of it that I'd somehow caused this to happen and I'd somehow deserved it. I know better now, but the permanent damage mentally is whole other can of worms.

[@basnaspe4578]

This is not your fault. @@peachesscales4782

[@Cassiopea525]

My therapist and psych nurse both said I was that to them. But they think I’m doing pretty well these days and I’m proud of that.

[@LeNoir2411]

I remember going to talk therapy once a week when i was in my early 20s after i opened up a bit about my childhood.. i was supposed to talk about it but my mouth just shut itself every time i wanted to speak, it went on like that for months, i just sat in front of that counselor for 2hours saying nothing much.. until i felt comfortable enough to start opening up a little.. the counselor seemed kinda disturbed but encouraged me kindly.. though after that my therapist told me they had to change counselor , they reassured me that it wasn't because i did something wrong, it's just 'the counselor also needs their own counselor' thing ,so i just get it.. when i walked out of my therapist room, i accidentally heard someone on the verge of crying and saying some stuff, both of us were surprised when we locked eyes, it was my counselor , they closed the door and my therapist who saw what happened came back to reassure me.. i didn't take it personally honestly, i just felt like out of place and felt like I'm burdening em with something that was in the past so i just quit without permission..

[@DrewskisBrews]

This was rough, but i can't think of a better narrator to balance it out. Thank you!

[@RyalnS.-ks2ln]

Why do I keep watching these all they do is make me 😭😭😭😭

[@Astral_Artz]

Story 10 resonates with me. My parents werent overprotective, but they were very distant. I also didnt feel like telling them anything about what i had went through would make any difference. Its messed me up pretty bad and im bipolar as well.

[@RavenStarMedia]

Every time I hear stories like this it convinces me more and more than parenting licenses should be required.

[@GiordanDiodato]

that first story... I don't care how "old school" you are with your punishments, you DO NOT shoot dogs in front of your kid. you will mess them up a lot.

[@AshendrisSilvermist]

Thank you for being strong and daring to share these stories. People need to know how common it is and people need to do more to protect children and stop these monsters.

[@breannahogeland-sg3kp]

Trauma is a terrible thing BUT it’s NOT an excuse to ruin someone else’s life EVER !!

[@Y__umeko]

My situation might not be as severe as some, but I wanted to share a reminder, especially for those with multiple children. When one child has specific needs or challenges, it’s easy to unintentionally overlook the other. That’s my story. I have a younger brother with severe autism and ADHD, so he naturally received most of my parents' attention because of how much support he needs. The impact? Trauma. Suppressing my feelings, struggles at school-the mental toll can be heavier than people realize. It’s surprising how deeply "basic" things can affect you. On top of it all, I’ve learned that I’m gifted, which has brought its own set of challenges. Life isn’t easy, and I just hope I can hold on. I guess I got the whole "mentally complicated" package in one.

[@Francesca-zv7oc]

Was crazy to me is when kids are abused by multiple different people and multiple different times of their life. It’s like the first abuser open the door and they’re marked for life to be abused and used the worst thing I can imagine them being abused is going from one abusive situation to another, must be hell on earth

[@BlizzyBeezz]

My story: TW I was abused in nearly every way possible (neglect, physical, mental, emotional, seggsual). I was eventually diagnosed at 10 with anxiety and at 16 I was diagnosed with PTSD, OCD, Depression, ADHD, a skin picking disorder because of the OCD, and anemia. My body is that of someone in their late thirties (I’m 19), random dizziness, chronic stomach and headache issues (basically presents like severe IBS and nausea), and my bones, joints and muscles are in constant pain. It started as just one thing hurting atleast every day, slowly got to now feeling like I went through a vigorous workout just from having a normal day and not sitting at home. My brain is so effed that I often feel like I’m about to snap, and question if life is worth it. I attempted 5 times including multiple birthdays.. I didn’t want to die and I still don’t I just want to stop the voices and pain in my brain every day. It’s like I’m constantly grieving, and based on what I say about myself you’d assume I was a deadbeat asshole when in reality I do everything I possibly can to make others happy (people pleaser attitude from my parents), have a full time job and overwork myself regarding that and personal chores because my “normal” is everyone else’s “I’m severely overworked and could collapse rn” I feel that way too but I just tend to tell myself I’m being dramatic and that this is just what it takes to exist. I’ve traumatized myself more through my life because of the people pleasing, mainly consenting to seggs without actually wanting it at all. Though I don’t blame anyone I did it with. I’m learning and my boyfriend helps me so much including holding me and reassuring me it’s okay while I sob because I didn’t want to engage in seggsual stuff and felt bad for saying no.. I was gonna do attempt number 6 on the day we ended up having our first date. It lead to a relationship and finally I had someone who could silence the voices and makes me feel like my presence is a gift not a burden. Later finding out his plan was his 18th birthday. He’s now 20 and I’m 19, 2 1/2 years after we saved eachother. For many reasons I won’t get into he has saved my life multiple times and I will forever be grateful.

[@labyrinthgirl17]

I'm 33 years old, I have been in weekly/bi-weekly therapy for around 6 or so years. With every visit, I'm still learning how much I experienced in my childhood wasn't normal, but different types of abuse. Domestic neglect is the current one I'm working through with my therapist, because it isn't normal to be denied medical needs or attention, food, clothing, etc., when you're a kid.

[@keziahchettleburgh4061]

i find it really refreshing how during the heavier topics you take a minute to address the OP. especially in reference to the case of the teacher hearing about their ex-student ending their life - i can just imagine OP hearing that and sobbing because they needed to hear it. probably projecting due to my own suicide-based loss, but if i was the writer of that post it would mean a lot to me to have that said instead of the story just being used for content without recognising their pain like a lot of other channels would do

[@SeriousSara1]

Had a therapist who had me for less then 2 months...she got mad saying "you aren't suicidal but also don't care to live. I can't help with that." And then when I asked for a new doctor, she asked me what I thought someone else could so that she hasn't tried....I told her "longer than 2 months at least." My very first meeting with her was her saying "you are going to be a tough cookie." ...I still can't understand it unless she just wanted easy work..

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

All therapists are just a key to more trauma. I suspect ppl who say they had a good therapist are getting paid Or they are a therapist Or they had an issue that was essentially not that hard

[@KxoxoG59]

I’m convinced people who have good therapists are people who can afford good therapists. I have seen a few different people. State run places, private practices, independents, the only good therapist I had I only saw twice before my dad couldn’t afford her anymore. Every sliding scale fee or “affordable” place was a joke. I saw a woman once, I told her some of my stories and the first thing I remember her saying was telling me that “girls like you end up dead or in jail” I was already at such a low point in my life with no self esteem and hearing that was like, yeah.. nobody’s on my f*cking side what’s the point. Happy to say despite being failed by the mental health industry, I have come a long long way, I beat benzo addiction & alcoholism and my mental demons on my own. Through hard work, a constant conscious effort, and hard determination, I did it myself. You can do it alone. I’m tired of hearing people say you can’t do it alone.

[@LaydiNite]

I have had a couple of genuinely good therapists/councillors, but far more were awful. Among the dozens of people I've dealt with in various psych health settings, maybe 3 were really good. About 10 or so made things worse to various degrees, and the rest were ineffectual.

[@hellionshark3197]

@@themoribundapathetic4530 I am not not paid, or a therapist (I wanted to be one but I'm glad I was too dumb to be accepted into university for that) The issue with finding a good therapist is the same as finding a good... anything that's in demand. They are idiotically busy. My psychiatrist is pretty good with trauma and whatnot. She works with cases way worse than my own. And she barely has time for more people. way too many get into the field for the money and the demand - good doctors in any field are hard to come by, super busy, and often expensive because they are super busy. I was incredibly lucky back when I started looking, to be successful on the first try. I did do a lot of research too tho.

[@insanelysane8296]

So sorry this happened to you! Therapists can bring a whole new set of trauma with them. You gotta choose carefully or try on your own

[@leeksoup1452]

It's amazing how many people don't realize that these things happen even when such information is available. It is disgusting and appalling that people do such things, but so is the determined ignorance of those that refuse to acknowledge that such things occur.

[@rockgirl6786]

3:35 I hope OP knows that they DID help. You were probably the final person he remembered fondly, and you helped him stay alive as long as he was

[@FaeTheFish]

This just made me remember a repressed memory... 😥 But please keep talking about these things, people need to understand that this happens all the time! 💔

[@Azulakayes]

5:36 I had to tap out. I am not mentally strong to hear more. I am so sorry for all these children 😢

[@Lilli_Loves_Bondi]

It's so hard to deal with kids after this amount of abuse. We do foster care, so we have to live and work with these kids, usually they have lots of fears and traumas that we have to work through, it causes strain on the family too, I've gone from mentally stable to I'm not sure I'm gunna make it so many times because of how helpless and innocent these kids are, and it's so awful to see.

[@songdrop_350]

I would like to say to anyone reading the comments No matter how bad or how negligible it seems, trauma is trauma It affects us long after it happens Just because your worst is not as bad as someone else's worst doesn't mean that you should feel like it doesn't matter. In the end its still your worse experience Ive been traumatized by my mom. Not to the extent of these people in the video or others in comments but its still something that gives me flashbacks and makes me cry at night years after the fact It does get better, finding patience and forgiveness and care for yourself may not be easy sometimes but its possible. Whether its coming from other people or coming from your self I hope we can get what we need and feel like we deserve the love and respect thats owed to us

[@VicenteMarinho]

Hey, so, for story 16… We don’t refer to people with characteristics from both sexes as hermaphroditism - that’s only in plants now. 40 years ago, yeah, I suppose we still did used that word for people too. But nowadays we use the term intersex. I reckon you are saying it because you’re reading it, I’m not trying to “correct”you, I’m just trying to inform. I know of A FEW of those (and I’m in Latin America, so hey, maybe I even know of that one) but the OP seem to have a VERY outdated notion of what intersex is, they also seem to completely rule out intersex in a situation were intersex IS a possibility (there are many degrees of intersexuality, genetics are a bit more complex than suggested here). It just sounds VERY dry and outdated in how the story is told. Feels like it’s being told by someone with little current knowledge. THAT SAID, the story is very likely true. As I said, I know of a few of those. Intersex people used to suffer A LOT in medicine. Also, for anyone who might be confused on where this falls on “gender issues”, know that the LGBTQ community includes fight for intersex rights - specifically against medical intervention in infancy- and I suspect trans people are far better allies to intersex people than cis people usually are…

[@Maderlololohio]

Sadly one of the most important videos on youtube. Advanced tech but mentally we have not all evolved as we should have. Parents teachers peers daily taking a massive toll on kids resilience. We need to be more of a community and be there for every one. I hope the future is bright

[@GrimCryptid]

TLDR: I met a 12 year old with a 2 year old. Story from the mental health care system of someone who fell through a crack: I was in a metal hospital in the 90's and met a 12 year old with a 2 year old. She had been a ward of the state since birth. Adoption is really expensive not many in an area like mine can afford it. She ended in one bad foster home after another a nd was groomed at a very early age to think s*x with others in the household no mater their age was normal(sadly got an STI as a result as well) . To the point no one had ever had to force anything. Just ask the kid who did not really know any better. People often take for granted being or shown from an early age that stuff like that is not alright. It was not untill after the social workers started paying attention did she get better information and knew that a lot of it was illegal and she probably shouldn't with kids closer to her age. They kinda had to pay more attention when she hit childbearing age at 9 while in another bad foster home. Next thing you know she was with child. Since she was a ward of the state and the state is not allowed to approve of termination of any sort , they had to let her carry it to term. When I met her she was only in the mental hospital as they located a new foster home. She had occasional visits with her daughter. The kid just was not allowed in the ward with her.

[@dancingghostgirl2291]

A young girl with a young girl thru sex, omygod

[@lenastojanovic2038]

0:32 God, those poor dogs😭😭😭

[@anlydaly5726]

I feel horrible for all of these poor kids but especially the guy in story 16, as a trans man I understand how confusing understanding yourself is and I couldn't imagine being a cis man who was forced by doctors and my parents to appear as a woman. I think that would actually break me.

[@pup.piston]

As an intersex transmasc who is only just in the process of finding out my proper diagnosis, and recognizing that my mother was genuinely lied to by an extremely fucked up hospital staff, I hurt so badly for my fellow intersex and trans people. I am lucky that my symptoms were not worse given circumstances surrounding my birth, and I wish more perisex folks were aware of all our struggles. So thank you for being compassionate, and I encourage you to do what you can to learn more and spread awareness within your means. 🫂🧡

[@thatonewitch]

Its absolutely disgusting they forced a child to have a different gender, and all just because they had small genitals? Its messed up

[@rdred8693]

LOL

[@lilyklein9218]

Once or twice, I have been touched inappropriately by boys around my age, and I was told that “didn’t count” whatever that means, since they were also minors. I still feel kind of sad and confused, and would appreciate any info you guys have to give.

[@kjanay9862]

It still counts as it appears it still affects you. Don't let anyone invalidate your experience. The term that would be used is molestation - signed a mental health professional

[@JAF1323]

It does count. I would suggest to seek help

[@mediocrebankai]

Love it still counts as it was non consensual, its not your fault and your feelings are valid. Similar happened to me when I was elementary. Hugs from the internet ❤

[@laithharrington4461]

As sad as it may be these stories help me keep going. They really make me count my blessings because as much as iv gone through I didn't have it this bad. While I went through some terrible things as a child I still had some people who cared to lean on and made sure I made it. To all those struggling out there I hope you also find the strength to keep going and make the best out of the shitty hand life threw you and I hope you have at least a few blessings to count.

[@deepwaters7242]

I worked with kids who suffered terribly from their families. Sadly I am not surprised by any of these stories, and people who work with abuse victims usually need our own therapy to process the second hand trauma. It's more common than we feel comfortable realizing and that's horrific. That sweet little old lady might be prostituting out her grandchild, that sweet, mousy looking mom might have munchhausens by proxy, and that favorite charismatic uncle might bring special treats for his special little girl who keeps his secrets. I've met a woman who got her child lobotamized and chained him to a tree for attention. I've met that sweet granny who's grandsons body paid for her opioid addiction. I've met the mom of one of the sweetest people I've ever met, even though she forced her kids to light her on fire and touch each other for her boyfriends dark web film trade. This is real. These victims are worthy, and the perpetrators mostly look pretty average with a rough exception here and there. Anyone who cares should learn the signs of abuse and become a mandated reporter. Right now, though, there are a ton of legal loopholes that terrible people take advantage of to keep their kids for financial support or image. Bad moms can be very pretty and very convincing.

[@Livingghost358]

One thing to that i learned from helping others for a long time is that sometimes theres no way you can save them. It would take a divine intervention and sadly we are no gods or goddesses. Help those you can, and give those you can't forgivness.

[@alise12300]

Completely agree with the end commentary, this stuff happens way too much and it's never talked about. My best friend who's 23 JUST told me and her family about a sexual assault she had happen at 8 years old because I opened up to her about a similar story. It happens more often than it's talked about and it truly needs more awareness.

[@Barerantts]

the fact that my childhood is a mix of almost all of these gets me thinking of how much of the fvcked up stuff i do is from my childhood-

[@witchywoman4139]

I'm sorry to hear about your terrible childhood. Please do yourself a favor, and begin the process of healing. You might want to seek out therapy, and if your first therapist isn't a good fit, keep trying until you find someone who can help. You'll not only be helping yourself, but your loved ones as well. Blaming your childhood isn't an excuse for continuing to do "fucked up" shit, to yourself or to others. You're a conscious adult now, it's up to you to begin the healing process...it's difficult, but not impossible, and it's the most rewarding thing you'll ever do. Sending lots of love and blessings your way.

[@Atom53185]

Your channel has single handedly made me want to adopt when I’m ready for it. I feel so bad for all these kids and hope they are in a better place, mentally and physically

[@SOCOM955555]

As a trans person the one about a person who was basically forced to transition hits me hard. No one should have to suffer through the pain and horrors of being in the wrong body, being forced to transition is even worse than not being able to transition when you know you need to. NO ONE has the right to say what our bodies should be besides ourselves, cis, trans, it doesn't matter, that bodily autonomy is so important and it should never be taken away. I feel horrid for that poor man, and I hope his life is going well now that he is in the body he feels most comfortable with.

[@kymberlyn420]

Thank you for sharing the story of the involuntary m to f transition. I'm glad they got a somewhat healthy end to such a tragic beginning ❤

[@chancia8990]

story 10 is like you sent your child to hell from which you tried to save her

[@alicedraken]

Man, sometimes listening to these brings back my own traumas. I catch myself fitting in the shoes of many of these people's stories.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

Even if I'm not a therapist, I think sharing my own experiences is a good idea. It certainly isn't as bad as many of these stories, but it takes a toll on anyone I tell about it. My "father" abused me all my life. He forced infant me to cry it out, which made me instinctively untrusting of others. When my mom died of cancer when I was 3, he forced my full sister to raise me when they were only 8. He would rarely cook, would rarely buy anything we needed, and would buy himself tons of food and shit that we weren't allowed to have. I was so underfed my entire life that even having decent meals now can make my stomach hurt extremely bad at 19. He'd beat me until I was around 10 or so, and he always apparently said it was because "you're a woman now" like a creepy pedo. He'd do horrible verbal sexual abuse to me (not to mention my sister, the abuse done to them was much worse, but still not physical), and make me feel so disgusting. I started to neglect my hygiene, as many people who are any type of sexually abused tend to do, in an attempt for him to just stop commenting on my body. He'd scream at me all the time, and tried to kill me and my sister once each, at different times. He wouldn't even let me clean the house, even when it was mold and bug infested, and still is. He thinks I'm worthless, but won't say it when anyone else is listening, and thinks my noona will kick me out for "being a horrible woman". My noona doesn't really know most of what I experienced, so she doesn't have any opinion on it. But I know she wouldn't kick me out if she knew it all. If I told her, though, my "father" would gaslight her and try to make her so stressed she'd die. He's a horrible man. Oh and I'd like to add; medical abuse. He still to this day refuses to see that I have major health issues, and even has told me I'm somehow faking a literal blood disorder, thalassemia, where my blood cells are actively not the right shape. Somehow he thinks I'm faking that, doesn't believe I have really bad pollen allergies to the point of needing medication to prevent anaphylaxis, and even doesn't get why I need an inhaler when HE tried to drown me, so my lungs can't handle normal capacity breathing even

[@thisuser1580]

Hopefully, you are in a better place now, mentally and environmentally, away from your father.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@thisuser1580 I'm living with my noona, but she thinks he's not a bad person when he is. And I need to be filed on his taxes just to get healthcare. So I'm not that far away from him, unfortunately

[@jax99888]

I hope your situation gets better. Reach out to people you trust

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

@@jax99888 Thank you, my sister is actually taking me for a weekend just to get away from this mess. If they had more money, they'd take me entirely away from it

[@jax99888]

@@lovelysakurapetalsyt good to hear that you at least get a break.

[@pandakicker1]

The one about a child being neglected by her parents with them throwing gifts at her instead of spending time with her really hit me hard. I grew up with an entire school full of kids who were going through that with me being one of them. I watched specially one of my classmate go through exactly that as his parents were both very successful attorneys who were divorced. He was constantly pushed to be as best as he can be and then some but they were so cold to him. He was extremely intelligent and they obviously realized his potential, but they treated him more like a commodity rather than their precious son. This classmate ended up taking his life after just a year of college. I miss him and wish I could have been there for him more than I was.