There's A Hole In My Heart (Disorganized Attachment Style)

What is disorganized attachment style? We discuss that and adoption in this video
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Coach Craig and Margaret discuss severe attachment trauma and Disorganized attachment style.

[@SingingCrowie]

I'm so happy Margaret keeps doing these with you. Love her so much, she's so great at explaining.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Hey everyone, there have been some new changes to KZbin. Make sure you subscribe to my channel :)

[@loritoler6289]

My parents kept foster kids all my life and it’s amazing how much sense this makes

[@GenxJ1983]

Margaret and Craig, thank you for this. I just ended an 18 month “push pull” relationship with a man who spent the first 6 months of his life in an orphanage. Then he was adopted into a family stricken with poverty and not much affection. He started working at age 9. It never sounded like he had much of a childhood. He never complained to me about that. However in the last 5 years he lost his adopted parents, a brother and a wife (she left him for another man) in the span of 6 months. Two years later I met him going through a financial crisis. His “come here, go away” behavior, his swings between stoically British to absolutely livid and bitter confused and frightened me. He was the love of my life and I tried so hard. Unfortunately, I have history of anxious attachment and his behavior would push my panic buttons. Every time he allowed himself to get close to me, he would then shut me out or sabotage the relationship. I felt I had to walk away if I ever wanted to reach any type of secure attachment style myself. Breaking up with him was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It been 2 months and I am still sad but I know it was the right thing to do. I just feel terrible guilt because he told me that he was very close to me. (Yet he continued to sneak around and see other women because they “had no long term potential “ like I did.) Now I wonder if he felt like I abandoned him like his wife and his birth mother.

[@kendybrock8351]

I wonder the same thing.

[@RAJOHN-ke7mc]

Gurl fuck him. Find people that wont play

[@WatchingPlanesnbirds]

I am adopted. Could never attach to others. I'm miserable so lonely. I am in therapy now to work this out. Finally did DNA test.

[@kellyslow5506]

Hang in there! I have a family member that just got her birth certificate. Her adoptive parents did their best prevent her from finding out. She was able to do it anyway! 😁

[@shredville111]

I love you for working so hard on yourself in what must be such a difficult situation! My heart goes out to you sincerely . God made you an angel 😇

[@northernstar1869]

I was adopted, abused, removed from those people and readopted. yeah very disorganized attachment

[@northernstar1869]

so now, complex PTSD.

[@peterkennerley5705]

My mother was sent to live with her Aunt and Uncle at three years old. They were very kind but my mother feared doing anything wrong in case she would become abandoned by her Aunt and Uncle. Eventually when she was Eighteen her father insisted they moved and took my mum back. Her elder brother used to persecute her and was spoilt by their mother. Their mother lost her father at a very early age. My mother lost her father on her twenty first birthday which was very traumatic. Later on mum lost her first baby after a traumatic birth then 2 years later I was born after another traumatic birth and we were separated for four weeks. My father had a nervous breakdown at this point. Your videos help to understand how these traumas affect my life and are invaluable. My mother is still alive and has had a life supporting other people as a spiritualist. I think not all is lost when we go through hard times it can be the source of strength and understanding. Previous generations went through wars and high infant mortality and had to get on with it.

[@Jason_wears_stuff]

My ex was adopted, this explain so much ! you did it again coach(s) !

[@Vanessa-qv6kt]

My dad was abandoned as a baby at the start of the war. He was brought up by two ladies because his parents rejected him. He felt very rejected by his family throughout his life but he and mum had a great marriage. I remain in awe of him.

[@pinkcashmere573]

Thank you for having Coach Margaret on so often. She is Mommy & Auntie in my head.

[@fifasf3379]

This was a great video. Long story short . I was in a 3 1/2 month relationship. She ended it about two weeks ago. Before that as many have said in their own relationship everything was going back on the exterior at least. We started off hot and heavy both have great personalities Communication was great, major physical traction as well but we just connected on all levels for the entire 3 1/2 months we were together. I met all of her closest friends and family and she met my family and friends we even went to my sisters wedding together. After watching your videos they’ve made me realize that I have an anxious attachment and I’ve known I have so when I approach this relationship knowing that it was a great connection I tried to make sure that I wasn’t doing things To come off needy or pushy or smothering etc. we saw each other once a week or text here and there during the workday but she would always call me every morning before on her way to work and on her way home from work. I am 40 years old she is 42 she was married for 10 years to her high school sweetheart still has a good relationship with him and has two kids. She did give me some signs that her last nine month relationship she knew was over a few months before hand and it ended up ugly he was overwhelming during the break up showed up to her house etc. when she called it off with me I was stunned number etc. however the last text I sent to her was that I care about her she knows that I will miss her but I respect her decision and have been on no contact for the last two weeks to try and give this a shot because I know she has To be thinking of me and missing me somewhat since everything was going so great but obviously there was some things that she wasn’t able to communicate to me that she was going through that made her feel anxious. I will add that we had a small weekend away in Florida planned this week that she explained made her feel even more anxious. I believe that I was unknowingly smothering her by doing little things nonverbal like getting her flowers getting her gifts etc. because I thought I was being a nice guy and showing her my affection to her but nonverbally so in my mindI was unknowingly being pushy or smothering her yet she wasn’t saying it. At my sisters wedding I did hint to a few things how I was feeling about her. I should’ve known to take my time more and not say those things too soon by the way I did not say I love you but I think she’ll could tell that that’s what I was alluding to that I was starting to have strong feelings for her which I think was the straw that broke the camels back and then on top of that her anxiety knowing that we were going to wait for Florida was the tipping point.She did mention her last relationship she realized that he liked her more than she liked him and she ran away from it. I will also add that she did tell me about her family history she currently is helping her live in Mom who is sickly while balancing a successful career and her kids when she has them who by the way are teenagers. She wasn’t adopted but her parents weren’t really around for her growing and her aunt and uncle were the ones that she said were more like her parents growing up and I also met them as well. That’s why this is so hard for me because on all aspects I was living with blinders on thinking that everything was going great but in actuality her inside it wasn’t. It’s hard for me because of my personality trait for me not to reach out and let her know that I understand myself and understand her more now but I’m really trying to do no contact right now and see how it works . I’m working on myself to know my attachment style and how I can better myself so that when I meet somebody again and have the type of connection and see the type of future that we could have that I recognize their attachment style and appropriately change my game plan so that this doesn’t happen again. I feel like she won’t reach out to me and we probably won’t get back together but I’m learningHow to better myself and understand different peoples personality traits. I know you have one video on short term relationships however I would like to see if you guys could do a video more on short term relationships and all these different attachment styles especially the disorganized and avoid it when it comes to short term relationships since the majority of us now in our 30s and like myself In my 40s meet people on dating apps now yet constantly go through the same cycle of everything goes great and then all of a sudden they drop off the face of the earth or I myself do the same. All of your videos have gotten me through this time and really have been an educational experience for me to learn about my most recent ex and more so myself. So I appreciate everything you do with your videos and helping us all through this. I hope to see more content dealing with short term Relationships In the world of online dating.

[@erikajegl2762]

Being broken up with your partner is depressing enough, to listen to this video is even more depressing!But I watch your channel every day and I do enjoy it!

[@shorfan]

Studying social psychiatry and your videos really help! Right now having a course in psychopathology, and thinking about doing a paper about what Craig & Margaret has discussed, how attachment since childhood affects future relationships and how you cope with life etc. Thanks for another great video!

[@sterneprinzessin]

Would be great if you could do more videos on the fearful avoidant. Without the context of adoption because it is not that uncommon. Thanks much for your work!

[@aaliyahkay9_]

I was never adopted or abused and I have this attachment style

[@rasmuslassen6273]

Me too

[@SF-pm1ov]

Me too. Diagnosed. But my dad was in an orphanage from 4-12 years after his father died and my mom was sent to be raised by relatives at around 4 for a number of years when her mom had a breakdown.

[@rasmuslassen6273]

@@SF-pm1ov, my dad was at an orphanage on 3 occasions as well. I realize now that I've been abused emotionally although it was not really bad. There were major conflicts in my home, which might have affected my disorganization as well. Emotional neglect was kinda intense though.

[@unhealingwithsandy]

Me too! One of the hardest things is having this and having no obvious cause. It becomes even more confusing. Both my parents have secure attachment style and treated me very well growing up.

[@rayf5360]

Without a doubt one of your most valuable videos. I was wondering though, the general concensus is that there are 4 attachment styles: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant and "a fourth". The fourth seems to have a number of different names and criteria: some call it the anxious-avoidant attachment style, fearful-avoidant attachment style, ambivalent attachment style or in this case disorganised attachment style. However, purely based on characteristics there seem to be 5 styles instead of 4, seeing how the anxious-avoidant style appears to differ from the disorganised one. An anxious-avoidant/ambivalent often shows a "bipolar" pattern that alternates between anxious and avoidant based on mood and context (I actually know 3 people with this pattern), whereas disorganised hardly has any pattern at all. Do you think the ambivalent style is just another shade of the disorganised one, or could it actually be a distinct pattern/style? Could you do a video on this subject sometimes?

[@hankhisperson2248]

I've never had anyone understand the issues with being adopted like Margaret. It's never a non issue.

[@android1012]

Great video. Thank you very much. My ex was disorganized due to being shipped off to grandmas house at age 3 (whilst the other kids were able to stay at home) , for a period of 1-2 years. This made it so that she had major issues, I believe. Her and I could never find the proper balance of attachment with each other. She was either abandoning me or so clingy that I felt suffocated myself. I believe BPD was in play as well, As all the symptoms are there. Thank you very much for this content which was so useful on the disorganized attachment style.

[@kendybrock8351]

What is the best way to help a disorganized ex that you love, but not smother them? No contact doesn’t seem right, but reaching out seems pushy and like I’m not respecting his boundaries.

[@sterneprinzessin]

Thinking about that as well... nothing seems the right thing...

[@pjnix5618]

Margaret was an amazing person ! Joe did you find her !? You were so lucky to have been able to partner up with such an excellent person.

[@bobbykay7334]

I know I'm six months late to this party, but I just saw this video. My best friend growing up was adopted and always had problems with relationships. He treated women terribly. In retrospect, he didn't always treat his male friends so great either. He ended up committing suicide about 10 years ago in his early-40's.

[@hannah6551]

thank you so much for this. thank you for caring. ❤️

[@gwortman3515]

Wow!!! Thank you for this awesome presentation that really penetrated deeply.

[@TheAshMcG]

Thank you so much. This is one of the only videos I have found on KZbin on this topic. Has Margaret written any books or is she still practicing or lecturing? This subject is very near and dear to me as an adult adoptee, it has caused tremendous suffering in my life, and I really need more information if at all possible. Thank you.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Keep your eye on the website. Sooner than later :)

[@tiffanyjames594]

Check out the Adoptees On podcast

[@innovativeentertainment4412]

I'm adopted!! I went through several placements before getting into an abusive adoptive family. But I never could just walk away from any relationship. Actually, quite the opposite. I was desperate to keep them, and filled with so much anxiety. I don't know if this description is conclusive or definite of adopted kids.

[@jamesnations8154]

Coach is there a possibility to have more than one attachment style at the same time? I initially thought I had the anxious attachment style but listening to this it seems I have this too being adopted at two days old, and the reason why I am so anxious and heartbroken by my girlfriend breaking up with me last week, your videos are the only thing that’s keeping me going at this moment thank you .

[@wickedwitch4416]

When you love someone disorganised who suddenly vanished, when the relationship became closer, is no contact still the best option?

[@PoliticalThrowback]

No, they pick up and move on. Don't expect a response though.

[@jamesnations8154]

I long for contact so this isn’t necessarily true, I probably need it more than the average person, I was adopted at two days old

[@anasegula2086]

Dear coach Craig and Margaret, thank you for sharing all this wonderful content. I was wondering if you could maybe do a video how a death of a mother affects a child in his early childhood, please? In my case I am talking about a loss at 6 years old (cancer) and the biggest problem was, that any talk about it has been tabood ever since by the father (even now when it is 25 years since this). Also the father was emotionally very detached since the death, made it a priority to provide for the kids as he has promised his deceased wife and has never remarried after her death, just multiple partners not lasting more than 2 years.

[@rickhenneberry6869]

Great information. My ex and I have been apart for over a year and a half. From time to time a text passes. One way or the other. I was the last attempt at a real " relationship" she had. I don't ask and when a conversation does happen ever so often she still makes sure she lets me know she's not attached to someone else. I can't be certain though. She tryed therapy for a short time but I think after she was told she was avoidant, she accepted she'd be alone forever and focus on her kids and got a pet. The point I wanted to ask in relation to this video is, her mother had a breakdown and was put in a mental ward for a year. I don't have more information about why. Her father admitted her mother to a mental ward then passed my ex along to his parents for 4 years. She always said her grandmother taught her to be a lady but as she discribed parts it sounded more like how to be controlled and not a child. To add insult to it all, when the mother got out after a year, she moved away with my exes half sister who was just 2 years older.. at 4 my ex's father remarried and moved in with the new family. The unfortunate part of this was she was the Cinderella. The mother in law's kids got the attention. Sooooo... ( I'm long winded I know) .. this may have a similar affect as adoption? The mother came looking for her when my ex was 19 .. she is now 43.. and it seems my ex still feels to this day like her mother cares more about everyone else... And I must say from what I've seen , that is the truth.. like she was a mistake. I can't imagine her pain. I tryed being friends.. and couldn't. When I told her I couldn't she really got cold for a long number of months, especially after I dated someone a short while.. my guess.. her instinct was I bailed on her too.. but what are you supposed to do.. I agree with Craig.. you can't settle for crumbs, you have to be kind to yourself first, but when you care and you hate the thought that although they pushed could your actions of moving on be seen as a form of abandonment too. I know it's not my battle.. I'm past trying to reconcile. I just know so often she told me I was the only person who made her want to try to figure it out.. but then she retreated when I tryed to live. These poor people must live with such pain. It's sad.

[@GenxJ1983]

Rick Henneberry: I am in a similar situation. Your heart breaks for them and for the lost potential between the two of you.. all because of things done to them as children. I once told my ex that I would like to punch in the face, whoever made him feel like he had to earn his right to exist in the world... that himself was not enough

[@paligcholakian6026]

I absoulty loved this video! And all your videos. Can you talk about a depersonalization/deralization disorder and how to recover from it please?

[@rhobot75]

Hello! I just shared your video with Dr. Grande in a comment. Hey, do you think you could put a note in the Introduction section that this video also discusses "adoption". This will make it much easier to find. This video is GOLD. Thank you thank you. I think I cried for two hours the first time I watched this a year ago. And I did also share it on my Facebook page and one person got a lot out of it : )

[@arcadianwings2662]

Thank you for this very informative video! Are there any data about attachment styles in incubator babies? Because I recognize some of these elements in my own behaviour.

[@michyortiz3077]

I believe they may have it already as I know some therapist are doing mental health with babies, wow. I would love to see what they are going with then. I am not sure where to look sorry, thought I would mention that I heard this maybe want to do some research. I'll check into it later as still working on me.

[@lightnbubbly]

Love your videos and really enjoy Margaret as well.

[@stephenciotti2127]

Good morning coach!

[@tiffanypr.9448]

Could you PLEASE make a video between the link of disorganized attachment and ADHD?

[@thaislinhares5591]

I can stress enough how important to me was to saw that vídeo.

[@HugDealer]

I have read on several sources that fearful avoidant is the same as disorganized. But it seems from what you present here that they are not. All the attachment tests I took gave me as a result fearful avoidant, which I really believe I am. I was not adopted but my parents were very cold, distant, hypercritical and bursting in anger (emotional and physical) all the time. But I am nowhere near the extremes you present here (I am very capable of empathy, not violent...). Maybe a disorganized person is a fearful avoidant to the extreme?

[@global2765]

Rossana Motta nobody is 100% secure/anxiuos/avoidant/disorganised. Whatever attachment style the person has it's never full on, it can be extreme or somewhere in between am sure you know yourself, I also did a few online tests and all of them showed I am secure but one test gave me a % and the result was 60% secure and 40% avoidant which it said it was very good.

[@global2765]

Very interesting subject, yes I did mention that the woman I have spoken about in some posts could be disorganised but it's only my humble opinion as I am not a clinician afterall. When I made some research it said that disorganised it's also called 'come and go' and since she left and then started reaching out and kept chasing thought it was quite strange as usually in my past relationships when they ended and maybe we got back in touch and it never happened it always died off pretty quickly from both sides. She wad fostered but only at her late teens as her mum died when she was 13 and stayed with her grandparents till 15 but she lost contact with her dad at 6 so I don't know if it affects.

[@LizKcer]

I have been watching this channel for a while, but I still can't figure out if I have an anxious or avoidant attachment style...I am definitely anxious, but I can also be smothered really easily in a relationship and I feel great in long distance relationships or ones where I don't see my partner every day. I also have a lot of trouble sleeping in the same bed with a guy if he holds me in his arms. Could I have a disorganized attachment style? I am not adopted, but I was terrified of my father's anger all my life, and did not get any affection from him.

[@RussMalina]

Hey Liz, it sounds like you have disorganized attachment, just like me. :) It is possible to heal from it with a partner that will stay with you and at the same time not interfere with yourpetsonal boundaries.

[@chriscordsen2643]

What about extreme trauma that happens after birth like at age of 2, or is it possible to have tendencies of both insecure and avoidant attachment styles?

[@sheenalynne]

I was adopted and sexually , emotionally , and physically abused. I joined the army at 18...

[@DR-kw7qu]

My mother had bad postpartum depression after my birth and according to her, had very little to do with me for the first few weeks of my life. As well, my father had very explosive anger and was hurt fully critical during my childhood. I do believe I am disorganized attachment style and I hate it😕😕

[@prankstergirls7159]

I've just separated from my girlfriend who has this disorder. I've been doing research for over a year on general anxiety, narcissism anything I could find it was common to her traits that she was projecting. When did the last few days is when I found this disorder which fits her perfectly from her background till now. How do I help her? Will no contact help her come back so I can help her with this disorder? What do I do?

[@shashichaudhary9308]

Does no contact work on disorganised attachment?

[@lilithis544]

Is it possible to have mixed attachment style - for example disorganized and avoidant or avoidant mixed with anxious? Is it possible to have disorganized attachment style even though you were not adopted, you were raised by your birthmother but your biological was never present?

[@global2765]

lilith is attachment styles are never 100%. Usually disorganised is both anxious and avoidant all together. I had a few online tests and the results always came up as secure but one test result was more in depth and showed I am 60% secure and 40% avoidant. But I stand to be corrected about what I wrote as I am no expert.

[@nolankylie]

Awesome video! What about children born by a surrogate mother who are then given to the genetic parents? Keep up the great work!

[@anthonyaaron4332]

So is no contact the best approach for disorganized? My ex was speed and had another thing happen to her at age 3.

[@BeccaL2016]

When you adopt a dog that has an abused history, the dog always act aggressive, now out that into a human, it’s not supersized at all…

[@SarahMilton64]

If somebody's mother died when they were a baby (or at birth), and they were adopted, they cannot think of this as rejection. Does this make a difference.

[@susanc.2207]

Yes, I'm adopted too! Can you explain the basics of this? Is there anxiety and avoidant behavior. I know I'm weird, so this helps!! INFJ on Meyers Briggs and AB blood. I know I'm rare.

[@dalemareemaclachlan8336]

What about being given to an aunty for a long period of time .. And the my mother was angry at me upon being given back to my mother.. mother didn't want me back.. What attachment style does that give you anxiou or disorganised

[@cherylsells7396]

If your mother left you as an infant and never came back and your father placed you with other family till he remarried would this be like an adoption trama?

[@thtboirich_]

My favorite coach

[@danielhackett1581]

Richard Hill agree this is much more in depth than anything else on youtube. Actually gets to the root of why and what is happening rather than a lot of the 'game playing' that is suggested by other coaches

[@Belbibitt7]

Where can reach Margaret?

[@SF-pm1ov]

Thank you

[@rhobot75]

Brilliant! Bravo...

[@green_re4per_942]

Coach Kenneth hows it going im currently going through a break up and im the one who ended it but im still hurting alot.. she had many narcissistic characteristics and i dont feel like she was a full blown narc but pretty close.. idk what to do bro i feel drained my motivation ,happiness , interests are gone idk who the fuck i am anymore and idk what to focus on. Also i feel like ive become addicted to many things and it feels like i dont enjoy any of it example over eating, masterbating, internet, and being lazy.. i feel anxiety a whole lot and i just really really want to get this problem handled i know im not ready for another relationship and i dont want one i just want help getting my shit together you know relearning how to enjoy myself without needing someone else to be fulfilled.. Im new to your work but i can tell that you know your shit when it comes to relationships

[@lisahammond9764]

I just adore Margaret so much. I am going through a situation right now with a student that has this attachment trauma. She tried twice to kill herself. Or at least made threats. I am pretty sure she is borderline but has an ADHD diagnosis at the moment. I feel like this video helps me not in a sense of a relationship in the way the video is intended but a teacher/student relationship. Thank you Margaret and Craig.

[@lisahammond9764]

I should also add that she is adopted to two parents who are trying everything they can. But I do feel she is grieving in someway and doesn’t know why it’s happening

[@mitchellgeringer]

Is a disorganized attachment style reasonabely common in people that come from single parent families?

[@aspire2inspire252]

Thank you for this helpful information. I understand the constant void…the pain… of a hole within my heart ❤️‍🩹. This makes me feel better about hurtful opinions & statements made about me as a child. Everything you said Margaret, (also my birth mother’s name) was all I ever truly wanted…to be heard, seen, & accepted, as a child trying to communicate, though not very well at times. It’s hard to be what others expect…when you barely know yourself. I now know what genuine, pure,love is supposed to feel like, due to his☝🏼📖👑 mercy & direction in my life. Without him I’d not only be alone…but forever lost. 💞🙏🏼 It’s a lonely world at times, but I’m forcing myself to accept, & focus, on things I’m able to improve. Thank you again for expressing compassion & support for adoptees who weren’t heard. ❤️‍🩹

[@ultimatefantasy1]

I want to have a email coaching, but you only accept creditcard to badly..i got that really difficult situation

[@barbarakelly3189]

Can a person who has not been adopted be Disorganized attachment disorder?

[@-axi-5499]

Is that also called fearful avoidant attachment?

[@thepathwechoose]

Thank you for this

[@mrmarcusdmorgan]

Wow I needed to hear this !!!

[@ginag7844]

Although I broke up with my ex to prevent abuse, I am going through depression. I have always suffered from depression. Do you recommend medication? I was prescribed Zoloft. I am 44 and have never taken meds. I am afraid of the WARNING LABELS. Can someone share their experience with meds?

[@s.w_8876]

Hi there, Antidepressants would not be the best to cure to your depression as it is a short term solution to a long term problem and will have side effects. I would suggest natural herbs which have natural serotonin in them. At the end of the day, there is no point swallowing tablets that give you more or less artificial ingredients to give you artificial happiness which over time your body will depend on them and especially your dose will be increased because your body will get used to the original dose that it doesn't react with anymore. I would suggest to try nettle tea to increase serotonin. Take a cup three to four times a day. Also, try lobelia to help you relax as it has natural remedies to act like a sedative. And since depression is neurologically studied upon, a healthy brain and has to have a good blood flow. I would use gingko biloba for that. Hope this helped!

[@guadalupehinkle368]

I have always felt an emptiness in my heart since I was a little girl and felt very lonely. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that my mom told me that I have a twin that got kidnapped and was never found. And I was tormented with a particular dream about a dark room with a crib and a baby (about 5months). But there was a man standing close to the crib. I didn't know who that man was. It wasn't till I was 13yrs old, when walking to the school bus stop that I saw that man in my dreams. I noticed that he was impacted by seeing me also. He followed the school bus but he didn't try to approach me to talk to me But for many years before I saw him it was a constant dream. After I saw him I never had that dream again. I'm still puzzled and wonder who that man was and why I was dreaming about him. I don't know if that baby in the crib was me or my twin. I asked my mom and I never got a response. This video really brought me back to remember that dream. Thank you Coaches. Keep up the good work. It has really helped me alot in my break up and have me analyst my life. And acknowledge the things I need to work on to have a better relationship. From the bottom of my heart thank you very much.

[@ronishastroud8891]

I wish they would have talk about the rare amount of people that are not adopted. But still dont have that connection with the mom. Like there being the physically but not emotionally and the rare time they are u try to grab on to it as long as u can. Then to be neglected to the next minute and not forget the abuse. So you want to connection with them but u fear them hurting but u need them. So you are just confused at what to bc they can both be bad.

[@veronicafaulkner683]

I was adopted and it's hard to atach

[@dystopiancosmos7238]

Where does a Bipolar person, or a person that takes meds goes? What kind of attachement style a person like that has?

[@Jonny_Noname]

My ex is not adopted but she has a disorganized attachment style - so not just adopted folks

[@tybennion1]

Is disorganized only reserved for adopted people? What about sexual abuse?

[@priya_jha]

Good content 👏

[@judyjb2305]

Unfortunately, sometimes Child Services supports back door adoptions.

[@marrytissina1967]

I wanna hear successful and also unsuccessful stories :( if you've got any emails

[@showtimechrist1036]

Keep up the good work

[@andalov]

Love margarets hair style

[@karlmeaner2624]

Hey Craig, I have an idea for a topic for you. How about a video about changing your mind about wanting to get back with your ex while doing NC? Is it common? take care man.

[@ThePantha5]

I'm gonna hangout with this other girl on Friday night that my ex knows and that I lost my virginity too and I'm sure my ex will find out. My ex hates her and is the very jealous type. You think this is a good idea or can it backfire?

[@mikekimveteran]

The show is about adoption???

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

It’s about Disorganized attachment style. Many people have been begging for a video about it. Most people who have it were adopted or abused. If your ex was adopted (and believe it or not I hear it often) it’s a great video