There's no going back...but YOU CAN move forward

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Sometimes you want to go back to life before the diagnosis, before the heartbreak, before the loss. We all wish that sometimes. Here's a different way to look at the hard times you've been through. Two words...USE IT.
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Scott speaks across North America about emotional wellbeing, mental health and our innate need for connection. His history with mental health challenges have allowed him to develop a strong sense of empathy and compassion with his audiences and those he works with personally. Music is his true obsession as he plays the guitar, drums and sings.

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@wendycopeland5147 4 ай бұрын

You're an amazing human being Scott. Your videos help me so much. Im in a very dark place at the moment but I'm doing my very best every day, that's all i can do to keep going. Thank you ❤

@Caesarona 4 ай бұрын

I don't think I'll ever get bored exploring your channel. The way you communicate complex topics with clarity and enthusiasm is truly special. It's clear you're an exceptional mindfulness coach who is making a meaningful difference... Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world in such a genuine and impactful way

@depressiontoexpression 4 ай бұрын

Making me cry at 9:00am over here! Thank you so so much!!

@JustaNobody-j8x 4 ай бұрын

There is no going back, just the relentless march forward into the void of existence. The past lives and simpler times are nothing but illusions in this ever changing chaos of life.

@hadjer3801 3 ай бұрын

I am going through a hard time and feel so lonely but thank God you exist thank you for being here and helping us regain our inner peace ❤

@mz3735 4 ай бұрын

This hits me very hard, Scott. I am 33, and have lived three lives in my life so far; the "normal life", the depression/identity crisis, and the road of honor violence and Christian martyrdom. The second life, I suffered so much, and lost my "respectful place" in this world. The third life, I suffered deeply but also had extreme highs, because I reached for truth, freedom, authenticity and goodness, no matter what it cost me. The price of the third life was high; I became anonymous in hiding, had to flee home, became estranged with all family, relatives, friends, hometown and belongings. A whole new self, ideas, beliefs and personality emerged, and with it some rare virtues. But the PTSD that came with that made me forget how to have carefree fun, self-indulge, be selfish and look after my appearance. To sum it up, in my third life, I became a real weirdo and fool to others. And that hurt so badly, the looks and whispers, the judgement. So I began "envying" those who "had it so easy", and I greatly missed the "normal" life of self-indulgences, easy-going conversations and social acceptance. At one point, I just lost my mind from the suffering, and kind of put my faith and my whole new self on the shelf, and began acting like I had in my first life. Ignorance is bliss, as they say. As of now, I am in some type of new crisis, a consequence of this previous decision of sacrificing my true self to regain the simple past. It makes me so sad, that I lost my integrity this way. When we become like everybody else, we are no longer ourselves. And that hurts too. But the new and true self, IS the best version and the happiest version of us. When we give THAT up, in the name of fitting into the world, we lose all that made the suffering worthwhile. The world needs us "wise folk", to share our new perspectives. To be that weird new person IS hard, in a world where realness isnt appreciated. But, I suppose, whomever we are, there will be suffering either way. The question is, which way of life is worth suffering for, and which isn't. I haven't decided that yet.

@SogKnight 3 ай бұрын

Man... I did not realize how much I needed to hear that "USE IT". I've been away from home for four years and got back last year. To be honest it's very difficult to feel at home, I'm like a lost stranger with no connection to this place and it's been eating me up for so long. The Lord of The Rings analogy you mentioned is absolutely true! I'm living through it right now. Thank you, Scott for being insightful.

@mark7698 3 ай бұрын

My mom passed away 2 years ago since back then I've been depressed and every day it's really hard to cope with it I started exercising and tried to divert myself but by the Eod it was not working so I decided to start my freelance journey I was feeling 50% better and then another strategy took place my grandfather passed away he was my mentor and everything I ever imagined all I felt was broken & alone. Now it's almost 3 years I have insomnia, fatigue, depression heaviness in my chest & my stomach gets upset whenever I think about this stuff & I'm losing interest in things that I used to enjoy like sports and my freelance thing I got thinking like what after I become successful no one is there to watch me then why I should struggle. since they passed I never stopped wondering what would I give to have them back for just one more day If that happened what I would say? I'd say your love made me who I am today and despite the darkness, I still carry your light inside me every single day so will I do father.

@delaneykeating3488 4 ай бұрын

I was just thinking of my life as art on a drive today… 🤯 now to shatter it and imagine it anew! A kaleidoscope of glass shards reflecting endless beauty and geometry - everchanging. Beautiful! 🙏🏼

@emilywilson5008 4 ай бұрын

Hey Scott, this is my first time commenting on one of your videos. I’ve been watching for a couple months now. I just want to express my heartfelt gratitude for putting these videos out here. They have really been helping me during a really hard time. Thank you thank you.🙏

@maximiliansirzen6340 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Scott for never stopping sharing new ideas with us. Since you've started posting weekly, I've been following all along and so do others. You're conveying such genuine messages including that one should seek more help than KZbin videos if possible. This year I've started one on one psychotherapy, reached out to my older brother about my struggles. Yet I still chime in time to time to your videos. Thanks for the effort, greetings from Switzerland

@Aika-l3p 3 ай бұрын

Your presence itself is a big encouragement for us Scott. You makes us feel so safe because you are always YOU❤You make this world so safe❤ “Since you are precious in My sight, Since you are honored and I love you, (Isaiah43:4)

@LurkingLinnet 3 ай бұрын

Scott, you seem like such a loving caring safe parent that I never had. When you talk about that sense of safety, it takes me back to those rare moments in childhood that I remember feeling alive and safe away from my household away from abuse..as I'm getting older life seems like its getting more rotten day by day. I know im not alone here and that i can heal heck ive improved as well yet when the feeling comes back the world gets blurry and the ground beneath my feet seems to move against my will as I stand there in the silence waiting to feel home again perhaps for the first time. Im grateful to people like you out there who remind me everyday even if its just on an objective level that there are people out there who get it, there are people out there who i can reach out to. Thank you ❤

@AllinePavanPedroso 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Scott ❤

@Oystermato 3 ай бұрын

After my trauma I’ve turned into someone who actively dislikes and avoids kids and old people, I have no more empathy, and am very quick to cut off friendships and not care whether or not they even exist, and I don’t really care about the world around me, and no longer care about environmentalism. And don’t care about therapy anymore, it doesn’t work for me so I give up ❤

@yesheramb 3 ай бұрын

this was a much needed lesson I should've pondered upon earlier.

@Abby-ix3gs 3 ай бұрын

"Chicken & beef cutlets." :) What has stopped me from getting help? Good question. The cost mainly.

@martea726 4 ай бұрын

Great insights man. Really loved working a part time job during summer school last year and picked up running again. Now I’m training for a half marathon and working that awesome part time job while in summer school. Going to be a great summer!

@mernafam353 3 ай бұрын

Amazing i love this so muck thank you ❤

@MarthaLuciaDiazAcosta 3 ай бұрын

I went to see Garfield I just wanted to laugh ;) Yes, I do believe we live several lives. Blessings :)

@janielalande 4 ай бұрын

Thanks Scott, exactly what I needed today 🙏

@depressiontoexpression 4 ай бұрын

Hi Janie! hope to see you soon :)

@janielalande 4 ай бұрын

You will 😊

@stephaniezuercher85 4 ай бұрын

I’m about to go to equine assisted psychotherapy soon as I feel this is my last resort. Animals have a strong impact on my mental health and I’m thinking about studying it once I feel a bit better. “use it” to help others who feel the same like me. That the animal connection is the last try to keep going..

@sherry3146 4 ай бұрын

And sometimes you need to let go of the past because it has nothing to do with the now. Getting stuck there isn’t beneficial but harmful

@JamilaJibril-e8h 3 ай бұрын

I hope people will let go of people too not everyone is in your lane it's fine Walk on your own line ....

@DivineMiracle-z2v 4 ай бұрын

Other people are... going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.🙏💪💪💪🪔❤️🕊️🌬️🌬️🫂everyone be strong 💪💪💪

@corinam9653 3 ай бұрын

Thanks 🙏🏻

@depressiontoexpression 4 ай бұрын

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@Opeth1991 3 ай бұрын

I'm not sure if I have a normal life in my past; the social anxiety and feeling defective were already there I think as far as I remember, and the depressed mood started at 11. This causes me a problem when I'm asked the question: what did you use to like before depression? There wasn't really a long time before depression... I did kinda enjoy some stuff during the beginnings of the depression; as I was more functional than now (still have energy to play sports, able to go to school everyday, have a waking up time and sleep time... etc), but I don't remember what no-depression felt like; sense they were only about 10 or 11 years, and with depression I only remember them as terrible times too, although I think that they were not that bad.