Should He Charge His GF Rent? - Part 2

Do you think if a woman moves in with a guy she's dating, she should pay rent?

[@gracehun9773]

Tamara willing to pay for the whole wedding herself but couples splitting the bills is crazy

[@DeeL3]

Grace Hun I was looking for this comment. I guess she wasn't being "old school" when she decided to do that. Or maybe she was being old school because if you remember, in a different clip she stated "we all chipped in together to help pay for my wedding?"

[@writerspen010]

I think that had to do with the traditional idea that the father of the bride pays for the wedding, but since Tam had the means to pay for her own dream wedding, she took on the father-of-the-bride monetary role herself to cover the main costs, and let people who wanted to chip in do so

[@jessicaxbeauty9240]

😂😂

[@MiriLOVESmakeup1]

Grace Hun I have to speak on this, ok Tamera was willing to pay for her own wedding because she is the one who wanted the big wedding celebration, and the people that were going were mostly her guests, so I understand that. Now, she mentioned she was “ old school” back in the days, a man who wanted you as his partener, would never ask his lady to contribute, a man is considered the protector, the bread winner, that’s where Tamera is coming from when she asks. Let’s be fair, some people are tradicional and some are liberal, in my opinion, a real man pays for his lady’s needs 😉

[@RandySoWavvy]

Miriam Belle actually most of the guests were Adams she said in another clip there was 400 ppl at her wedding only 100 people out of that were her guests all the rest was Adam’s

[@chillin1111]

Tamera making this conversation harder than it needs to be

[@sandyboo2]

I don't understand what she was complaining about in the beginning...lol she annoyed me

[@1993ashley1212]

Ariana F She caught herself, but she was talking down on people living together before getting married.

[@DearKeith]

She really did.

[@yungactivist]

Bc she has never experience stuff like this. U don't got to experience thing to understand

[@patriceminto5428]

She wasn’t making the conversation harder than it needs to be tbh, she just thought it meant literally having to pay rent if you staying there like a tenant, the wording used to describe the scenario doesn’t make it hard to see it that way. So from her perspective she was trying to reasoning it out that way, then she just sought clarification after hearing what the other girls were trying to say, no big deal.

[@ohhthatemma]

He should not have used the word 'rent' but a contribution to bills and utilities is etiquette.

[@jonnydavis6066]

Emma Mufundi yes he should

[@veronicaivanova]

Yes, bills and utilities are different from rent.

[@peanutjelly727]

Emma Mufundi But what if he did literally mean the rent? It sounded like that was the original reddit topic. I think the ladies switched it around and made it about bills in general.

[@ohhthatemma]

peanutjelly see personally if you want to charge me rent, then I’m going to be your tenant not your partner in this household. As a couple we should one hundred percent share the costs of living together. But I will not be renting the space in the bed beside you. If you want to be a landlord put out a listing for tenants. If you want a partnership I’ll definitely pay my part. But it’s just too messy for me to view my boyfriend as my landlord.

[@ariadnebene8413]

And I think that's what confused Tamera the most was the whole "Charge her rent" part of the sentence because that SOUNDS very much like a tenant/owner situation. It certainly sounded like it when just looking at the title and hearing the very beginning of the first part of the video. I mean, I got it after a moment, but they really shouldn't have said the phrase, "Charge his girlfriend rent".

[@RicoLamar987]

Tamera talking like owning 2 homes is a normal thing 😂😂

[@neonpandas]

RicoLamar987 Crazy thing is that Tia acts completely different. Never would she act as clueless as Tam about this. Fame seems to have gone to Tamera’s head as well as her marriage and success that those who don’t have it like her are not “normal”.

[@SSOJ4eva]

All the couples have two houses lol. Acting like they are just ordinary people...the worst lol

[@kinndah2519]

It is normal. Many ppl have 2 homes. Either someone inherited a home, purchased a home before they got married then moved into their spouses home, and there are millions of couples who went to college for an actual education like engineering (like myself) or a doctorate of some sort, architecture, etc that gives you a good income to purchase a 2nd residence. It's not difficult.

[@kikialeaki1850]

“It’s not that difficult to become an engineer and/or obtain a reasonable salary midlife and buy 2 houses in a market where the cost of living is constantly increasing”

[@rtmusicvideos431]

@@neonpandasI think Tia is more knowledgeable about the world because she dated and slept with her boyfriend even before marriage, so possibly lived together with him too. Tamera is very removed from the modern world and the average person because she did the old fashioned thing and waited for marriage to have sex and live with her man. So she is old fashioned and doesn't know a lot of basic things, particularly when it comes to the topic of living together before marriage.

[@JammyG360]

I'm struggling with the idea of moving in with someone without both of our names being on the lease or co-ownership agreement. Sorry not doing it. So many people do this then end up battling in court. Not for me.

[@amaragrace94]

Jameela Rosaé Exactly. I think this is what Tamera was confused about.

[@jonathanxavier2026]

So you rent a place more expensive than paying the half mortgage and still not having your name on the place you end up renting?

[@arron2lucas]

You do realize that's what you're doing everytime you rent an apartment....

[@nessazion1062]

Exactly

[@aicha514]

Tam so clueless for no reason 😭

[@travelersguide4179]

Aïcha she’s always confused 😩 I hate when she does that.

[@yungactivist]

Fr it not even that hard to understand lol

[@2phoness]

Dead ass

[@kamirahmirah5595]

Aïcha exactly why she act like being married prevents her from understanding

[@margielabatman]

She getting me tight. but she got a serious face on too.

[@1993ashley1212]

I don’t understand why Tamera’s so confused if she pays for stuff in her relationship.

[@Sach6693]

Tamera is married not someone's girlfriend. That's the difference.

[@1993ashley1212]

Sach6693 It doesn’t matter if she’s a wife. It doesn’t make the situation any different when you’re in a committed relationship.

[@loisrattler8448]

laughingbrwnie Believe me, there is a vast difference between a girlfriend and a wife.

[@1993ashley1212]

Lois Rattler How is it any different when it’s about splitting up financial responsibilities?

[@Sach6693]

+laughingbrwnie it's essentially the difference between owning and renting a home. A temporary commitment vs taking full responsibility at all times

[@xannecorinnex]

If you’re living together, she should atleast contribute. This isn’t back in the old days where men were the ones earning money and women were staying at home. If you have a job, you should atleast help out with something.

[@j0j0_369]

If I am honest and if it were ME, as a mother and wife... ~Tamara (2018)

[@miapoteat7996]

NATALIE JENKINS Yes!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@faithfaithe4171]

hAHAHAHHAHAHA

[@Sonic_and_DuckyYT]

Lmaoo i love it

[@floridagirl7093]

Huh

[@iheartunibrows]

with TWO kids hahah

[@Angela.Empressive]

Interesting topic. If I have to pay bills at my man’s place, I’ll continue to live by myself. Thank you.

[@g.h.standifur1624]

Honey Love so saving half of what u normally spend plus being able to live with the person u love is just not good enough? the good thing is u prob will just live by yourself and will never have the problem of saving money at a higher rate.

[@vj221]

Tamera acting more clueless than an Amish person at Best Buy 😒🤦🏾‍♀️

[@keialove-black3950]

ValJay 🤣🤣🤣 Put yourself in all types of time out for this!

[@trinigrl09]

Y'all act like she was criticizing people and some seem low-key offended for no reason…..You all have never not understood how something works before??? You all are being hell condescending /patronizing……There is no need to belittle her or make her out to be dumb or slow…... It can get complicated because if you are unmarried and your name is NOT on the deed to the house and you pay part of HIS MORTGAGE but then you two split up after some years, you are like SCREWED because you contributed thousands to his mortgage that you are NOT LEGALLY entitled to recoup because you did not own the home and you were not married…….which would suck…….In that scenario the owner of the house, in this case the boyfriend walks away in better shape than you………...

[@MissNancyLondon]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@nellywellyful]

😂😂

[@sharla83]

I have to use that one 😂😂

[@Thaleya1]

If you live there, do something at the least to pitch in or go half.

[@joyfullifestyle2665]

Thaleya1 i agree but you know guys want you to take care of kids, cook, clean AND HALF OF THE BILLS while they only pay their half and call it fair!! Do you think that is fair.?

[@alyssac5014]

Queen Kash Yeah thats some bullshit but also i would never put up with that but know a lot of women do,which is unfortunate.

[@joyfullifestyle2665]

alyssa c true they’ll have a hard wake up call

[@joyfullifestyle2665]

L O okay one that's not true because i know my black boyfriend goes to hell and back to provide for me because he loves me and respects me but i decided to still work for extra income so i wouldn't feel all only in a home bored and I know plenty of guys like that from both race so don't make it a race thing.....

[@plainJane13]

My opinion is, if a woman takes care of the household like chores, vacuuming, cleaning, cooking and doing laundry, she shouldn't have to pay rent. She does just as enough as the man.

[@2phoness]

I needa be making money like Tamara . I wanna be this clueless lol

[@joshelsantos9215]

#DEAD lol

[@trinigrl09]

Y'all act like she was criticizing people and some seem low-key offended for no reason…..You all have never not understood how something works before??? You all are being very condescending /patronizing……There is no need to belittle her or make her out to be dumb or slow…... It can get complicated because if you are unmarried and your name is NOT on the deed to the house and you pay part of HIS MORTGAGE but then you two split up after some years, you are SCREWED because you contributed thousands to his mortgage that you are NOT LEGALLY entitled to recoup because you did not own the home and you were not married…….which would suck…….In that scenario the owner of the house, in this case the boyfriend walks away in better shape than you………...

[@adgg8250]

2 Phones 😂 😂😂!

[@kindarliejennipherpaul3584]

trinigrl09, I totally agree with you. For you to pay mortgage, there should be some kind of legal entitlement.

[@AmbassadorOfChristSpeakTRUTH]

The one who exemplifies godly morals, and speak from an understanding of godly wisdom & godly knowledge IS NOT A "CLUELESS" PERSON. Tamara is a virtuous woman who fears the only True God and she is loved for being unashamed for the godliness she represents. Those who are offended by her hates the truth that radiates in love from within her.

[@yepitsthatguy5278]

People calm tf down, we all know Tamera is not some sheltered 1950's housewife. Of course she knows that couples split bills and costs, she paid for her own wedding for god's sake, she's said in the past that she and her husband would pay rent together depending on how much each was earning every month. I think her confusion literally all came down to the word 'rent,' the idea being that a couple has an agreement where one pays a monthly rent to the other who owns the house - that is a completely different situation which is weird irrespective of whether the two are in a relationship imo.

[@patriceminto5428]

YepItsThatGuy thissss! Idk y people are finding it so hard to understand what she meant

[@JammyG360]

Agreed!

[@bbloodyangel1]

except she LITERALLY said in the intro of the segment "ladies do you think she should help pay the bills" before turning it over to the girls...shes acting confused for no reason and its annoying.

[@Wremlex101]

She paid for her own wedding? Lol. I don’t know what to believe about that. The same Tamera that said in one clip that she paid solely for her own wedding, is the same one that said everyone chipped in for the wedding in another clip. Since then I have doubted everything coming from her.

[@kayandjay1912]

YepItsThatGuy exactly, "charge her rent" Like a tenant. That's what the guy is asking.

[@zsazsaa154]

i have so much RESPECT for marriage ! i really do BUT Tamera makes it seem like just because shes married everything everyone else is doing wrong or she just doesnt get it.. Married ppl pay bills, you paid for your wedding but your oh so "old school"

[@somaliqueen817]

zsazsaa but then on another episode she said that Adam paid for the wedding, I feel like Tamera is trying really hard to come across as perfect. When in reality her life is far from it!

[@philiswaboqwana]

Thats what you think not her

[@1993ashley1212]

Somali Queen Her story about who paid for their wedding changes every time. One time she said that everyone from both families helped chip in to pay for the wedding.

[@tiffanyjones2710]

Shacking up, fornicating IS wrong! It's sin.

[@Username-eu9yv]

Tamera always acts like she doesn't understand or never experienced something while simultaneously trying to toot her own horn. Just like when they talk about dating young and she says guys didn't want her because she was "wifey material" lol

[@Isika123]

T. J yep yep. Spot on with that. Lol

[@philiswaboqwana]

But she never experience living with a boyfriend, must she act like she knw

[@Mh-xe1zh]

philiswa boqwana it’s the way she’s saying it it comes across as putting others down with her sake confusion.

[@Username-eu9yv]

philiswa boqwana I've never experienced it either and I actually have similar views to Tamera as far as dating and cohabitation for before marriage but I'm not going to act clueless in a conversation about it while also being kinda condescending

[@tashaharris6960]

She wasn't putting other people if you listen closely Tamera said people can do whatever they and was trying to understand the situation better

[@fashionableonabudget5160]

I agree with Tamera, I don’t believe in living with a man you are not married to..

[@shecops985]

Tamera getting on my damn nerves in this segment...like girl ITS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE 🙄 And no gives af if you’re “old school.”

[@DeniseF]

It's not a hard question Tamara lol. .

[@sethm3856]

but the rest of them changed the question from rent to contribute to bills. two very different things they are all talking about here.

[@lianet777]

Denise F she didn’t get it because she didn’t do it the 2018 way. She went by the Bible’s standards. And that’s good on her

[@FuturePsychNurse]

Lianet Leyva I can totally understand why Tamara got confused, I would never live with a man that wasn’t my husband.

[@lianet777]

Karen Cole same. That’s a huge deal for me

[@annieg2149]

She does the most tbh like its not that complicated

[@Ravenex2]

Loni is hilarious! I love her smirk when she says "you gonna pay me one way or another." LOL!

[@mollyshaj.3888]

They made the conversation so complicated. It's not that deep, if you live with somebody contribute to something.

[@kendrarene6756]

they didnt make it complicated. tamera did. acting dumb like all of a sudden she dont understand english

[@tashaharris6960]

No because if think about it. If you contribute to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's mortgage or rent that's money you won't be able to get back cause your name was not on the lease and you two weren't married

[@mollyshaj.3888]

+Tasha Harris either way why would you move in and not pull your own weight?

[@mollyshaj.3888]

+Seth M okay

[@laneys2030]

You have to becareful who you move in with , once things go left it gets complicated.

[@kiwi9921]

YAAAAZ! Nailed it!

[@melaiav4715]

Oh lord Tamera is confused again

[@Mh-xe1zh]

Mino Veamatahau fake confused

[@bbloodyangel1]

tamera acting like she was just born girl wtf its common sense nothing to do with you being a virgin before marriage. She LITERALLY said in the intro of the segment "ladies do you think she should help pay the bills" before turning it over to the girls...shes acting confused for no reason and its annoying when she knows the conversation topic already.

[@ceeceedior21]

ilikemonkeys she wasn’t a Virgin tho but okay

[@sx3todd]

“Nothing to do with you being a virgin before marriage” I howled

[@kianah544]

Right. I really don't get why Tamera was having such a hard time with this. Even if you don't live that life, why is it so hard to grasp? *Gasp* People split bills with their bf/gf. "Help me understand". Like, what? I've never lived with a boyfriend either and I still know it happens and have an opinion on it. And then she said, "I guess this is how people are doing things now". People have been doing that forever. Does Tamera have to personally be in every situation to understand it? I really hope she's just playing dumb. Either that or she just likes to take every opportunity to tell us about herself.

[@dom7207]

I think she was just trying to understand the context of the situation. Like for instance, a guy owns a home, he moves the girl in, and then tells the girl ok you owe me 1500 the 1st of each month. When you say it like that..its kinda weird. Are you moving me in because you love me or because you need money? WHEREAS, if they had gotten a place together its a no brainer they'd share costs. Depending on the context of the situation it can seem very normal or a little weird.

[@lilyzemengist8091]

Dom I concur. The senario the show put out was too vague and ambiguitous. That's why Tamera was asking questions--to clarify. Some people in this comment section are acting like she's stupid or judging others for living together before marriage. No need to be insecure, she was just trying to get clarification on the senario. It kind of didn't make complete sense to me either. For instance, if I bought a home and I had a man, I'm not moving him in until I know for sure he is the one I want to commit to forever. I would rather just own the house and have tentants pay me to share a room. I don't like mixing business with pleasure. I need clear cut lines drawn.

[@JennyG1605]

I get Tam in this topic, cause the question wasn’t if the girl should pay, the question was if the guy should ask her to pay... to this I’ll say that he shouldn’t tell her specifically to pay the rent, but I would advise him to have a finance talk with his girlfriend, where they both can agree on spliting the house bills...

[@4bfam]

Afrolatina PTY EXACTLY!!! Why was that so difficult for everyone to understand? She's the only one addressing the actual question.

[@24pixiegirl]

Yes AND its rent on a house hes buying!! why would you help pay for his mortgage and your name aint on the papers. dumbest ish ever.

[@AmbassadorOfChristSpeakTRUTH]

Tamera thank you for being a voice of godly wisdom on this panel. You share with the world good knowledge and from what you selflessly share we do get understanding that propels us unto examining our lives and thrive for goodness. Many seems to get offended by the godly standards you stand for and is not ashamed of but please do not let the naysayers upset you. You share with a genuine motive to encourage others unto the Peace and the success you yourself have reap in life. You are proud of the joy you have and so you should be. In sharing you are showing your gratitude and for that we love you and are glad for your refreshing contributions. Let me take this opportunity to say, when the other ladies on the panel responded "it's the same thing". It is Important to note that a natural husband and his wife distributing their family responsibilities by carefully considering and balancing the cost according to what the family is bringing in or in a position to contribute IS NOT "THE SAME THING" as two people who are not in a natural marriage but are nonetheless intimate with one another and have the privilege of not being obligated to commit to the relationship, therefore they are free to walk away at anytime without having to bear the responsibility that a natural husband or a natural wife will naturally have to bear. Tamera, you keep being proud of the truth you know and stand successful and confident in, keep radiating the glow of integrity and godly morals you know and believe in. Keep lifting up what works in your life and keep being a representative of the love that gives you perfect contentment. Many will be offended by your godly morals and in so being many will look to condemn the values you share by calling you all manner of names, many will say all manner of evil things about your character but don't ever let them weary you out, don't ever let them provoke you to be ashamed of the truth that strengthens you. Sure, your feeling/emotions will become affected by the unjust condemnations at times but keep strong in your faith and you will always find strength from Jesus the Saviour of your soul. Your Lord and your friend will renew your mind and you will find new inner strength to rise above the naysayers. Praying for you Tamera, never forget this "Most important of all, you must sincerely love each other, because love wipes away many sins." You know that it is Christ who gives you perfect Peace following the fans effort to try and break you down, so keep holding on to the values of the only one who has power to renew your strength and uplift you after you have been trampled on by the naysayers. Keep being unashamed to love your husband and your children which Abba Father have blessed you with. Keep being thankful for the rewards your heavenly Father showers you with. Stay humble Tamera and never be too ashamed to come back on the panel and apologise to your co-host whenever you have responded to them from a personal place and not from the loving, kind, compassionate, truthful godly place that you ought to. Don't ever become familiar/friends with puffed up pride, let go of pride do not hold hands with pride. Pride is vain and self-conceited and it will never let you be free to do what is right. Never let pride hold you back from admitting that you have been wrong, always put right your wrongs so that others will always see the light brightly shining in you, never let the light go dim. "For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth." Never be provoked by the masses to become the standard of the women they are familiar with. You do not need the kind of self-indulgent fame of the Kardashians or the self-idolising goddesses of the fame of Beyonce and many others who do not fear The Most High God to be loved and to be appreciated. And please do not join in with others who feel that they are obligated to glorify Beyonce or Kim, or Oprah or anyone else that is treated like gods. Do not live your life in fear of fallible flesh and blood instead only fear The Most High God. Tamera, you are loved by some of us for the virtuous beauty you radiate, you are a breath of fresh air that is safe to be in the same environment in and breathe in, your morals will not harm anyone but will help all to be better human beings in our community and world. God have blessed you Tamera and no man can ever accomplish anything when they enviously attempt to curse you-their curse shall prosper nothing.. Tamera, stay faithful to your heavenly Father who Created you and is the One who is working all things out for your good, and your light shall never ever be put out, you shall keep brightly shining in Jesus name.

[@kamirahmirah5595]

I love tamera but everything they talk about she has to say “I’m married” or “I’m a mom” what does that gotta do with it

[@daniaa1602]

Alot actually

[@sheilanankunda9866]

Was about to say the same exact thing!!

[@sheilanankunda9866]

DaynzzAbraham i was about to say the same exact thing!!!

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

well she is married and she is a mom

[@philiswaboqwana]

But she is those things, she is talking about her experience

[@belledafrique861]

Sometimes when Tamera says "old school" she sounds condescending

[@joshelsantos9215]

I agree!

She may sound condescending, but I don't see her that way. She's just expressing how different she is from others in various aspects. Not everything has to be taken with hard feelings.

[@PatriciaLyn23]

I thought it was just me, I agree

[@trinigrl09]

Well it is old school or traditional……what was she supposed to say??? How else should it be said…... I feel like people on this board were touchy for no reason…...

[@rockymaria5390]

Thank you!!

[@chuckie102883]

This happened to me, had someone i loved live with me, unfortunately his drug use made it all go south but because he was with me longer than 30days legally it was his home too and i would have to go to court to evict him. Thankfully he left on his own but it got messy so listen to Auntie Loni.

[@hellelima6458]

For me personally, this isn't an issue with my husband because we don't see our income as something seperate but ours as a family. What we make, we use to pay rent/bills etc.. we just don't see it as "he pays rent with salary and I pay groceries with mine"... it's ours.

[@shakiramendoza829]

Exactly!!!!

[@Rooted_Locs]

We would NOT be having this conversation if a woman bought a house and her boyfriend was living there rent free/not contributing to the mortgage. Everyone would be all up in arms! I understand being old school but having a vagina does not warrant you taking advantage of somebody else's hard earned coin. I feel the same way about paying for dates etc

[@planitnae]

miniimufin No, it’s the same in both scenarios. Everybody should contribute financially, but it’s weird to to me to charge them rent. It’s one thing if the situation just has y’all moving in as roommates, it’s something else entirely if you’re talking moving the situation forward and being together. To me it sounds the same as a husband/wife charging their spouse rent just because the house they bought only is in one person’s name. That’s not his tenant...

[@Rooted_Locs]

Djenne J I personally would not be shacking up with a significant other if I didn't see the relationship going somewhere, I.e that would later be OUR house. To each their own I guess, but I would definitely be contributing to a monthly Mortgage payment. It would be a different story if the house was paid off and the bf/gf was charging the other rent (as in extra income).

[@planitnae]

miniimufin That’s what I was trying to say. I interpreted it as he’s just charging her to stay there. I absolutely agree that if she lives there then she needs to be putting up some for expenses that are already coming in

[@anitasackey6776]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 preach

[@97indianuk]

Being old school is just an argument for being a freeloader. Both partners work then they both should contribute equally to the bills.

[@heyheyhey40]

Tamara has never been broke before so she doesn’t understand the necessity for an adult to not live for free!

[@tiffanyjones2710]

Or maybe she understands the necessity of a man being a man and not acting like a female. Men provide and they don't make excuses not to.

[@sarahhamdan5470]

I think he shouldn't charge her, if she wnats to contribute (which would be great) then it is up to her.... But at the end of the day (I don't care if it is considered old school) but I would want a man that wants to care for me and provide for me, kind of like Steve Harvey's perspective, sometimes old school is better! And I think it could be a little different with boyfriend-girlfriend relashionships, but with MARRIGE the man shouldn't expect for his wife to pay for anything unless she offers to...I think it is much better to chip in to help your man and to have some ownership over the house, ESPECIALLY that they are not married, you don't know what could happen ,at the same time he should be willing to spend on her and her "rent"... That is just my opinion tho!🤷🏻‍♀️💛

[@vanezaperez6772]

OMG Tamera! You make something out of NOTHING-_-

[@craymay4766]

So I pay towards his house? My names not on the home? We’re not married? Why am I there? Sounds complicated.

[@nataliewalters2759]

Statically more marriages fail in divorce because of living together before hand . It's a fact it's because of the expectations and more women before hand are giving away everything for free . The man not all get the perks of having a wife before she is actually his wife. He doesn't earn it or show that she is worth it to wait . Gods way is fir s reason and when we don't it is often a lot harder.

[@SwaggerChiick1]

I'm sorry....I'm with Tamera....I feel like either I'm missing the point or everyone is making a different point from the original topic. This man BOUGHT a house and he wants to know if the girlfriend should PAY RENT (not split the rent) in order to live with him. That is not your girlfriend...that is your tenant....I don't get it....what does bills have to do with it? That's not the point. He already bought the house...it's his....he owns it. It's not a lease....he isn't paying rent. It is HIS HOUSE. Making her pay to live there is just not acceptable! I'm so sorry. Splitting bills or contributing to the home IS NOT the same as paying rent. I'm so confused by the points everyone is making......The issue wasn't whether or not she should contribute....it's whether she should pay rent in order to live there....and hell no she shouldn't!

[@ariadnebene8413]

That's the exactly the point Tamera was saying and I understood because I was confused AF by the wording myself.

[@elizabethcruz8547]

SwaggerChiick1 thank you!

[@2phoness]

Remember Tamara is a celebrity she making $$$$$$ a year and her husband of course they don't think like regular people. Lmaoo

[@misseydj123]

2 Phones Except “regular people” do what her and her husband do too... You don’t need to be a celebrity to be traditional and follow the typical gender roles.

[@SXNIAREYNOSO]

Tamera said “i pay for one home, he pays for the other” LMAOOOO girl....... jesus christ

[@precious4463]

This i just ridiculous. Don't live with a boyfriend and play house. Only do if need quick place to crash for awhile due to changes in ya life, and move the hell out once the help is over. Don't live with boyfriends. Get married and do that. Things get complicated for no reason living with 'boyfriends.' Playing house for no reason. It's stupid.

[@joshelsantos9215]

I don't know what its been lately, but for some reason Tamera has been getting on my last nerve. I really do love her but her cluelessness hasn't been sitting well with me for a minute now. Always reminiscing about her single life like it was from the 1950s or before. You are not that old boo! She really gotta keep up with the times!! Anyone else agree?!

[@tashaharris6960]

You obviously don't understand what she trying to say

[@nakisanijacobs7647]

girl im with you

[@tiffanyjones2710]

I actually totally disagree, but anyway.

[@faithgreenleaf9424]

I’m old school too. If the man want you . He would marry you . Then move into the home. The husband will make sure everything running right in the home. Y’all bishes don’t make the man work . Y’all give the man everything free.🤦🏽‍♀️

[@faithgreenleaf9424]

Akbbba 1 😂😂

[@jonathanxavier2026]

Better do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry if you're that old school.

[@tiffanyjones2710]

Tamera, if you ever read this, please ignore these heathens whose darkness gets exposed by your light. They will judge you. They will come for you. But you stand strong on the word of God and His righteousness. Don't back down. Don't apologize. Don't diminish. Let your light shine, girl!!!

[@karinajas]

It should be common sense to help out in some way.

[@HamdaOmarr]

Does Tamera want us to believe that only Adam pays for all their bills ALONE?? Girl bye 👋🏾

[@sisid2289]

Hamda Omar right she lyin

[@18ormorexox]

Hamda Omar that's not what she said at. All. She went off the question: charging rent. She clearly said they have two homes she pays one and he pays one. You clearly heard what you wanted to hear.

[@WiCkEDLADYCRYBABY]

Some men do, mine does. But I contribute at home.

[@hx6612]

So you heard what you wanted to hear even tho she said we have two homes and she pays one and her husband pays the other :/

[@SammySam316]

M-Hx... in a previous episode (last year I think) Tamera said that she makes more now and is responsible for buying clothes for the children etc.. She said that Adam used to do that when he made more money. I guess she is making more since the show started.

[@raida4103]

I love Tamera but she was annoying during this segment D:

[@herogebrial]

On my raida

[@Shaviva18]

I don't know if it's that I'm latina or old school, call it whatever. I will never go 50/50 with a man, if your man makes more money than you, are you still going to pay half? I don't think so! If it was the other way around where he is moving into MY place, he still needs to pay his part. I agree with joint accounts for certain things but people should still be able to have their own accounts and never lose their independence. Just my thought.

[@marylinehappy8504]

I'm all with Tamera, make it simple live together after you're married and save yourself some unnecessary issues

[@sisid2289]

A life of testimony HKMI not everybody want to be married

[@kiwi9921]

YAAAAAAZ! SIMPLE!

[@minidocstv3339]

yes, the unbelievers

[@Robin-lf1gt]

A life of testimony HKMI but it's not like that for everyone. I have a cousin who waited to live with her boyfriend until they got married and it was not easy. It almost ruined their relationship, because they didn't know how to live with each other so it's not always simple to wait

[@marylinehappy8504]

No matter what you will still have issues when you start living together because there needs to be a time to adapt to each other... It's all about choosing when you want to start dealing with that, I prefer after marriage and save myself some time......

[@AmbassadorOfChristSpeakTRUTH]

Belle d'Afrique Tamera DOES NOT sound condescending but it is rather that some folks (you being one of them) who listens to her moral values become offended by her choice to uphold godly ways, as such they interpret her speech as "being condescending" and they reconcile her words according to their own standards which then provokes them unto perceiving her motive as being of a condescending intent. She have no reason to be ashamed of the godly wisdom and knowledge she was trained up to value and uphold. She have no reason to feel ashamed for having chosen to fear, respect and yield to her godly upbringing. And she should certainly not be afraid to testify in the spirit of liberty of the godly morals she yielded to and still proudly hold onto. Howbeit that the others are not being labelled as being judgemental for sharing their opinion?? Examine yourself and recognise that your judgement which concluded Tamera as having a "condescending" character is judging her through your own tainted visual sight, as such you end up seeing what is not there and fail to recognise that your accusation is coming from a place of self-condemnation. Tamera should not be hated nor despised for having chosen to yield to and live the godly life her parents imparted to her. She ought to be appreciated for her godly morals, the light she represents and the godly examples she humbly (in most instances) contribute on the panel. The truth is, even many who are living immoral lives do not wish to keep feeding their minds on the harmful and destructive immoral values and knowledge shared by those who indulges in immorality lifestyle. Many inwardly desire to see and hear of examples of good morals so that they to could be encouraged unto good works and not to be encouraged unto bad works/more immorality.

[@amethystwolf24572]

If you're cohabiting with someone, the cleanest route is both being on the lease for a rental. But when one person *owns* something, like the home or the car, it gets a bit more complicated. For us, when my bf bought a car, that I can use freely, we agreed I'd help with maintenance, insurance, etc, but not the payment (since he was building equity, and I was not). A house is more complicated and a lot more expensive. She should pay rent. This also protects her, as she as certain rights under the law.

[@RestRenewRebuild]

Dang Jeannie putting her brother’s business all out in the street! 🙄😂

[@meriah10]

Tamera acts like if it’s not the old school way she has no way of comprehending anything 🙄

[@tacomistress]

Jeanie’s hair is giving me life! She looks so stunning with that chocolate hair 😍

[@IfyouBelleve]

The movie the "breakup" was a waste of time -__- could have been a small KZbin clip but a huge movie

[@shurukyz3222]

Tamera: “ help me understand“, “ define this”, “ define that”

[@18ormorexox]

Tamera understands how it's supposed to be. Women get with the program!

[@freakingtv2343]

Im with Tam. Don't ask me to move in with you so that we can play house then expect me to pay rent. No. But if we have a conversation ahead of time and I agree to it , then yes we go fifty fifty. But don't trick me into the house to play house and then ask me to pay rent.

[@moimeself1088]

The way this conversation is being framed is not helpful. Dude is making an investment which happens to double as his home. She is moving from having her own place to living with him without a legal agreement. Even if they stay together long term (married or otherwise) as things stand, that is his asset, not theirs. When things turn, unless she has a legal agreement, she may as well have been pissing in the wind. Sister needs a proper contract on what she's contributing to. I would have a tenancy agreement so he can't just turf her when the going gets rough. Sharing bills is not the same as paying towards someone else's mortgage.

[@dardarbinx07]

She should contribute to the bills. She should not be paying rent. That is different. Utilities vary monthly, that is a conversation you should have with your significant other beforehand, and she is going to make those bills higher by living there, so clearly she should be helping pay for those, but if he invites her to move in - he shoudlnt expect rent. I would never move in with a man who said to me "if you move in your rent is ____"

[@jonnydavis6066]

Darlene she should be paying rent.

[@orangesunset9901]

If she paying half the RENT then yall roommates with benefits lol

[@dardarbinx07]

keiwana danyell Exactly, plus it wouldn't be his rent it would be his mortgage. He's paying for something he'll own for the rest of his life, she's not. Rent is an apartment, buying a house is different. People can move into apartments together and split rent and be a normal couple, but if someone loses their job and can't pay the other half are you gonna kick them out? No cause then that's not a relationship the other person either picks up that half of the rent, or youre evicted together as a couple. If you buy a house and offer someone else to move in they are not obligated to pay towards your ownership of it - even if they live there. They should be contributing and covering at least what they create in bills but that's it.

[@yungactivist]

It depends how much he's making and how much the monthly rent is. She shouldn't be surprised if he's broke every week

[@dardarbinx07]

Yung activist 100%. He's out there making a life for himself, he just bought a house- that's unfortunately more than a lot of people can say these days - but it's his house, he wouldn't have purchased it if he couldn't have paid the bills. Most people aren't with their significant other for their money, so no money for extras shouldnt bother you if hes out there working and paying his bills. If both their names were on the house then yes, she should contribute to the cost of the mortgage, but it's not. It's his, so she should only be helping with bills and not his purchasing of the home. No one is forcing him to let her live there either, so if his only condition for her moving in is to pay rent she shouldn't move in in the first place.

[@Thetoofacedlover]

I kinda wish some people could be rotated on this show. I'm getting sick of the same old thing. I can almost tell their answers to a topic before they even speak. It can be a little too predictable sometimes.

[@4daluvofnikki]

Tamera is not clueless or dumb. This question needed a bit more clarity. He is in an romantic relationship with a woman and asks someone else if he should charge her rent? He should be having this conversation with her and only her, not asking some someone else for advice. If you are buying a house and you have asked her to move in with you the conversation shouldn't be about rent but how will we split some of the household bills? If she is a woman of integrity and pride she would have it no other way. She would want to contribute to the bills. But how is he going to ask her if he can charge her rent if he is her boyfriend? Those were his words not anyone else's. That thought should not have entered his mind. Keep in mind in some Landlords charge Rent but they do not include other household expenses like, Water, Heat and Electricity, you will have to pay for that separately. However, it is a slippery slope when you are not married to the person and living with them, you lose a lot of rights you would otherwise have if you were married.

[@lolaolayiwola7664]

Tamera is definitely condescending and judging when she says old school and I understand. Girl please 🙄🙄

[@philiswaboqwana]

Lola Olayiwola you also judging her

[@tiffanyjones2710]

You will find any excuse to feel offended by her. The truth is her light exposes your darkness, and you are simply self-condemned.

[@queeniethu]

My gf and I share the expenses. We don't nickel and dime each other. She pays for the full rent (which also covers the rent of MY two dogs lol) and I cover all utilities , cell phone bill, all groceries, and I cover about 75% of the credit card bill that we use to go out to eat and shop. We go back and forth on things like the dining tab but its no big deal.

[@jonnydavis6066]

Imagine if the roles were reversed. Ppl would be calling that guy to step up and be man etc #hypocrisy

[@christenbailey4390]

Tamera... sis... 🙄 & Adrienne, you too girl 😒

[@vj221]

Ugh! This is what I meant by Tam being annoying and clueless like girl ain’t you 40?? You ain’t learnt nothing by now it’s common sense

[@echakamonjok]

ValJay ??? She's almost 40 and old-school with things. She can't understand the concept of living with a bf/gf before marriage so if she needs help understanding, there's nothing wrong with that. No need to be mean and say she's clueless and annoying.

[@kaciwilliams2011]

Loni makes me laugh so hard🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@saraht8495]

I love TAMERA :) you go girl! stick up for your morals and values. These girls just dont know where you are coming from girl!!!!! RESPECT :) x

[@missk377]

If you own a house, and you asked me to move in, why am I paying you like a tenan?. Bills/utilities are suffice. Rent should be something that should be suggested by the GF not imposed on by the BF

[@missk377]

Tenant*

[@veronicaivanova]

I agree, but also if you have no legal interest in the property, why would you pay rent/mortgage? Bills and groceries are fine, but paying for rent when your name is not on the Tenancy Agreement or mortgage when you are not on the title deeds is like throwing your money away as if you break up, you cannot claim any interest in the property and you are on the street.

[@teesceeo]

Veronica Ivanova EXACTLY I am surprised of many women are just saying "yes 50/50"... Why would you pay for his house and then break up and you are the one who will have to leave? Now if it's OUR house then okay...

[@jonnydavis6066]

Women need to pay rent #genderEquality

[@veronicaivanova]

jonny davis, I feel you don't understand what gender equality is. If the woman's name is not on the mortgage agreement and the title deeds or on the tenancy agreement in case of renting, it is exactly the opposite of gender equality for her to pay mortgage or rent as in case of a break up, she will be on the street with nothing and he will remain in the property as his name is on all legal documents. She won't be able to claim what she put in. It is gender equality to have both names on the legal documents, so both parties have proof of their legal entitlement. If someone's name is not on the paperwork, it is not fair for them to pay towards something that is not theirs. They can instead pay for bills and groceries. If you cannot understand the concept of this, you won't be able to understand what equality means either.

[@Wealthybaby]

This is why I date up, I don’t have time for “times are hard shenanigans” . I’ll be like rent? 😂 Rent? Tf is that🤔

[@TheSithLord]

Eventually someone will wonder what you are bringing to the table. If it is just ass, that gets old and then it’s time to go.

[@lictanyaale]

Why are they making fun of Tamera? She has had a successful marriage for years, so for her it works.

[@Mh-xe1zh]

Tanya Mota that’s not what people were mad at....

[@philiswaboqwana]

Tanya Mota say that again, they just jealous they want her to have the same experience as them

[@vichgold384]

@@philiswaboqwana yh. Everybody hates me cause I'm a virgin. But I don't see problem cause I'm a God's daughter.

[@obessbeauty]

They word the question weird.... when I think of rent, I’m thinking a stranger paying a higher price to live there. If it a couple, helping to pay the bills makes sense.

[@greenpaint2266]

I live with my man, i dun birthed our son. He makes ten times more then i do. He pays the rent. Men today dont know how to step up and provide.

[@g.h.standifur1624]

Green Paint men today are told they are sexist and misogynist if they say they want to provide while the woman is a housewife. sorry, but your feminist friends have ruined life for women like u and lay the blame off on the men any way they can.

[@nicoleavery7238]

Its stupid not to live with someone before marriage..how can you give your life and commitment to someone forever not even knowing if living with them would work?

[@trinigrl09]

Put the girlfriend's name on the deed to the home if you expect her to pay part of your mortgage…….If she's paying part of the mortgage especially if she's paying half she should have stake/ownership in the home…..If he's not willing to make her joint owner of the home he should cover the mortgage HIMSELF ……Having said that she could pay certain utility bills to alleviate the monthly expenses…..Ex. If she uses more water by taking longer showers she could pay the water bill each month……..

[@created2inspire459]

Jeannie comimg through with the wisdom. I don't know why some people think Tamera is soo wise 😧 just because she did things the "old school way"

[@floridagirl7093]

2:24 Jeannie is like I don’t believe you.

[@lexiearnold529]

I’m married and I still feel bad staying home with the kids and cooking and cleaning! Is it weird that I feel like I should be doing more to help out financially or is that normal?

[@kaykaylo5828]

‘My husband and I have 2 homes, its the same thing’ looooolll

[@valeriebazile5572]

Hmm I think Tamera was a little naive and critical here. It’s okay not to agree but even married folk have an arrangement to split or pay for things as a team.

[@palesamohale8640]

LOL!! I just love Tamera. " Do you boo"...

[@aesthete7227]

*THE COMMENTS THOOOO 😊😂😂😂💕*

[@Melathegreat]

The word rent is the issue. That’s the term you use like roommates but your bf/gf I think you both naturally should ask each other how to pitch in. Because realistically it also depends how much each person makes. If the place really expensive and she can’t give a certain amount. She can pay in many ways like gas, groceries, and more. Living together is different for each couple , plain and simple.

[@Jordishness]

The way Jeannie spoke on this was dead-on. Why was Tamera was so ignorant? I mean I know she explained more so at the end but still. Odd.

[@softwaresurfers]

Damnn Tamera is sooo Beautiful. I'm jealous of Adam

[@MARIARODRIGUEZ-xb5cb]

I JUST LOVE GIRL CHAT SO MUCH! LOL DIFERENT OPINIONS AND LONI IS THE BEST I SWEAR SHE MAKES EVERYTHING FUNNY AT THE END AND ITS NICE TO WATCH GIRLS TALK ABOUT REAL LIFE THINGS AND GIVE OTHERS TIPS AND THEIR OPINION, IM SUCH A REAL FAN! LOVE U LADIES ALL OF YOU!!!!!

[@caliq5023]

I think it’s quite simple, for me at least, she should contribute just have in mind the consequences after a breakup, and if she is not ok with the fact that he would most likely stay with the house then it is on her to just say no..that’s just how I see..

[@PatriciaLyn23]

Tams conclusion was exactly what they were all trying to say 😂 got to love her though

[@nev2943]

Geesh! Peeps are coming for Tamara in the comments. I just wanna say Loni, your joke at the end was a perfect way to end the segment 😂

[@MajesticMyronn]

I honestly think that its fair becausw if you're gonna be living here you have to pay up just like i do... Its like be a tenant basically he gets paid to help with the overall costs of the home

[@JackGeezy85]

Why is Adrienne using movies for life experiences smh

[@victoriagalexis8106]

Cuz she’s an actor and some people relate to that

[@JackGeezy85]

@@victoriagalexis8106 No because she actually believes it's real

[@asmaal9972]

It’s 2018 people ,it’s not 1750 of-course you have to pay , even if you don’t have lots of money , pay for food ,pay for water ,like What Jennee said

[@ibelieve6291]

Adrienne always came out with a moove i love her😍😍😍😍😍

[@krambo86]

Tamera is GORGEOUS! 😍

[@niyahclark9918]

But it shouldn't matter if you married or not u still gotta pay bills

[@catherineziebarth4980]

This is actually pretty common for people in there 20s. It’s cheaper to buy a house certain places and sometimes the relationship is ready to move in together but not really ready to commit to a house together. I have many friends, boys and girls, who’ve been able to afford a house but their significant other pays “rent”.

[@crissys3375]

Everyone always talking down on Tamera but I was raised the same way as Tamera and when you were RAISED like that its not that you mean to speak down on other people's life choices but it's just a concept you can't wrap your head around because you weren't raised to think like that. So when I have discussions with other people I sometimes need them to help me understand something. People are always trying to find something wrong with someone that woman does not mean no harm stop being so damn sensitive.

[@my-avajourney4711]

Crissy S She had class and standards. People are jealous of her because they know they are low lives. Sad but true.

[@my-avajourney4711]

*has

[@jodiii122]

We understand & respect the way you and Tamera were raised.. All some people are saying is that why is it so hard for Tamera to grasp the fact that if a couple (married or NOT) moves in together, then BOTH should contribute to the bills... 😩... She can't have a simple discussion hypothetically without throwing marriage in there!

[@joyfullifestyle2665]

jodiii122 i think it's because she does the house woman thing in the house like clean, cook and make sure the kids are taken care of and he deals with the bills. But she also said she pays for the other house which confused me. I remember when i wasn't working and my boyfriend was i took care of the house while he paid bills but i got bored after a few months and i just save our money for us and get grocery, phone bill and gas the rest goes to saving but he always says i dont got to

[@my-avajourney4711]

Annelise Olivares Where did she say she thinks she's better? She gave her opinion and was respectful about it. Because you need your tears wiped and you're sensitive because you feel insecure about YOUR past descions, you are attacking Tamera like she's done something wrong when she hasn't. A lot of her co workers have said very stupid judgemental things yet nobody attacks them. Tamera is a very classy girl with her head on right. She knows that she made a mistake by sleeping with her husband before marriage, that's why she shared that info with the world. If she was "fake" she would have never shared that and even if she didn't share it still wouldn't make her fake. She was raised a certain way and there's nothing wrong with it. She has only been with one man and kept standards. Stop being insecure.

[@paleface8060]

Joint bills (electric, phone, cable, water, gym, and whatever) divided evenly or at a percentage according to each person's income. Pay for your own stuff, car, insurance etc. Married 13 years in December and me and my wife rarely ever fought about money. Never had a joint account

[@beck1372]

Tam literally had no idea what this topic was about 😂 Two grown ass adults living together should share the cost of living together. Boom, done. There’s no “I’m old school” or “they’re not even married”. It doesn’t matter if its 2 best friends or a couple or 2 siblings. Nobody gets a free ride; you gotta pitch in. Period.

[@salmaelaoudati6825]

Tamera brought a good point. Both pay, and then he owns the house. What a relationship. Girl, invest in your own home.